Metaphysical, Spiritual and Psychic Discussions > Keen.com
I'm single which keen advisor should I use
whit777:
--- Quote from: maroonlight on April 08, 2018, 02:54:30 PM ---
I'm trying Match now again instead. Not sure what to say about Eharmony at this point because first I thought it was amazing and now it's like bleh.
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I used match a few years ago and it was an utter nightmare. Since you don't have to pay, most of the men on there aren't interested in a relationship, in my personal experience. Anyone can make a profile, *say* they're looking for love so they get more women interested, then get a one night stand out of them or two, and move past it. If they're relatively attractive, it's easy for them. If they're not as attractive, I suppose they might try eharmony or one of the ones you pay for and do the same thing but it's probably a lot less common. They claim people get together on match but I've literally never known anyone who met on match and had a relationship longer than a month or two. I also found that a lot of the guys had baggage or weren't over their ex. It's again, easier to "try out" dating again if you don't have to pay for it. They typically wait until they know they want to date before paying money for it. So I found it worse than eharmony because there was still no one I really felt good about.. I just had to waste 6 months and 20 dates to figure it out first. Not to mention probably 20 calls to psychics as well lol. But since it's free, it won't hurt to try it out. Maybe that was just my experience. I might just have that kind of face that attracts that lol. I met someone a couple years ago just in regular life so thankfully, I don't have to deal with that stuff but good luck to everyone who is. Finding someone in regular life isn't always possible.
maroonlight:
--- Quote from: whit777 on April 09, 2018, 12:25:10 AM ---
--- Quote from: maroonlight on April 08, 2018, 02:54:30 PM ---
I'm trying Match now again instead. Not sure what to say about Eharmony at this point because first I thought it was amazing and now it's like bleh.
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I used match a few years ago and it was an utter nightmare. Since you don't have to pay, most of the men on there aren't interested in a relationship, in my personal experience. Anyone can make a profile, *say* they're looking for love so they get more women interested, then get a one night stand out of them or two, and move past it. If they're relatively attractive, it's easy for them. If they're not as attractive, I suppose they might try eharmony or one of the ones you pay for and do the same thing but it's probably a lot less common. They claim people get together on match but I've literally never known anyone who met on match and had a relationship longer than a month or two. I also found that a lot of the guys had baggage or weren't over their ex. It's again, easier to "try out" dating again if you don't have to pay for it. They typically wait until they know they want to date before paying money for it. So I found it worse than eharmony because there was still no one I really felt good about.. I just had to waste 6 months and 20 dates to figure it out first. Not to mention probably 20 calls to psychics as well lol. But since it's free, it won't hurt to try it out. Maybe that was just my experience. I might just have that kind of face that attracts that lol. I met someone a couple years ago just in regular life so thankfully, I don't have to deal with that stuff but good luck to everyone who is. Finding someone in regular life isn't always possible.
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My half sister actually met her now husband on match.com. They've been married for over 5 years and have 2 children, and they're very happy together.
I've been on there before so I know there's a lot of junk, so obviously it will take time to weed through it and actually a someone I click with who is of quality. I've gotten plenty of hook up emails as well as emails from people who live in different states which drives me insane. I know it took my half sister at least several months to meet her husband on there. Eharmony probably draws less attractive people because they're looking for someone who will be accepting of them as a person despite the fact that they are unappealing. Again, not to sound superficial, I don't expect to meet a male model, but I can't date someone if there is 0 physical attraction, which is what most of my Eharmony matches have been like this time around.
I think meeting someone in real life is just a lot harder because unless you go to a bar or night club that is obviously also going to attract a lot of one night seekers, you basically have to meet them by accident and you also don't know anything about them. At least online you can get an idea of what the person is like before you meet them, and weed out deal breakers like single parents and smokers. (those are at least deal breakers for me)
I know it's free to look, but I'm pretty sure you can't email people unless you pay.
HornetKick:
There is also POF, plenty of fish. The same applies to this site too since it's free. There is also Christian Singles (I haven't been on that one) and some Jewish Dating site, but all are meat markets where you really have to be discerning.
whit777:
--- Quote from: maroonlight on April 09, 2018, 12:36:10 AM ---
My half sister actually met her now husband on match.com. They've been married for over 5 years and have 2 children, and they're very happy together.
I've been on there before so I know there's a lot of junk, so obviously it will take time to weed through it and actually a someone I click with who is of quality. I've gotten plenty of hook up emails as well as emails from people who live in different states which drives me insane. I know it took my half sister at least several months to meet her husband on there. Eharmony probably draws less attractive people because they're looking for someone who will be accepting of them as a person despite the fact that they are unappealing. Again, not to sound superficial, I don't expect to meet a male model, but I can't date someone if there is 0 physical attraction, which is what most of my Eharmony matches have been like this time around.
I think meeting someone in real life is just a lot harder because unless you go to a bar or night club that is obviously also going to attract a lot of one night seekers, you basically have to meet them by accident and you also don't know anything about them. At least online you can get an idea of what the person is like before you meet them, and weed out deal breakers like single parents and smokers. (those are at least deal breakers for me)
I know it's free to look, but I'm pretty sure you can't email people unless you pay.
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Yeah, I probably just didn't give it enough time. I spent about 6 months on it but I just didn't have the time to be going on a date then going back to the drawing board. And I forgot that I did have to pay but it was much less than eharmony. Which I think is why I remembered it that way. But yeah, meeting someone in real life is harder, I agree. It's more of a luck thing when it does happen. I met my guy through a work project and I work with 95% males so that's the only way I was able to meet someone and actually connect with him. That's completely not the norm though. And I work with different people every few months or so. For most people, they work with the same people all the time so if they don't find anyone at work, that's what it's going to be.
But more on topic, I obviously second (or third?) everyone who said to not call psychics about this. I won't tell you to not call psychics when you're in a real relationship because I currently do that. But what I can say is that psychics will screw you up terribly at the place that you are now. You'll meet a new guy every week and have a heartbreak every week. Dating sites are a fast game until you find one that fits. But if you call a psychic about each one, a percentage of them will tell you that he's the one you'll marry. Or at the very least that there's potential. So a week later when he stops talking to you, now you'll call the psychics and ask why. But if you hadn't gotten that little nugget of a seed planted in your head that it would work out or that he liked you, you wouldn't give a damn about him because you'd be onto the next one also. And I'm not saying that to be condescending.. I'm saying that because that happened to me literally every time. And it happens to a lot of the people on this board, also. There's something about calling them that causes people to be more into their POI than they would've been otherwise and that just really messes with things. You'll spend too much time on one guy and have a much harder time finding the right one. So that's just my advice. You'll find out soon enough on your own whether they'll work out or not. Like I said, dating sites are a fast game. But I wish you well on this endeavor :)
maroonlight:
Eharmony is a lot more expensive than match unless you get a good deal like I did. I'm on both websites right now since I bought an eharmony subscription for $80 for 6 months and then a match subscription for 3 months.
So we'll see what happens. I actually never call about people that I just started seeing. I only call when something bad happens or looks like is going to happen. I've only called about 3 men total in the past year 1/2 and one of them was actually an ex to begin with. So yeah, as long as everything is going well, then I don't waste my money on psychics. I met my current POI on Eharmony back in fall of 2017 and he basically dumped me saying that it had nothing to do with me, but that it was a very stressful time in his life and that he needed a break from dating altogether. We're still in touch and I know he does still think about me, but nothing has happened yet as far as dating each other again...
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