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My Story
Jmc1986:
--- Quote from: psychicaddict1 on May 15, 2018, 01:08:32 PM ---I hope I don’t come off as harsh, but it seems like no one here is giving you a dose of reality.
I see two possible scenarios here that have happened to me in the past that can maybe help you in the future.
1. Just like guys, girls get impatient too. A couple of years ago, I had finally hooked up with this guy at a party I went to and we exchanged our phone numbers. He and I spoke daily for weeks at a time, and every time I felt as if he’d ask me out, he wouldn’t. Everyday, it grew more and more frustrating and after 2 months of going back and forth, I just looked at my phone, and told myself he wasn’t worth my time anymore. He didn’t seem brave enough to me to ask me out. Talking on the phone does nothing. After that, I ghosted him and found someone new.
2. Maybe she simply just wanted to be your friend. Honestly, as simple as that. Maybe she wasn’t into you, maybe she just didn’t want to be in something romantically with you. If a girl says “I don’t want anything serious” it typically means she doesn’t see herself with you. I could be wrong, but that’s what I would say to guys.
But, you have to understand something. I personally DO believe in soul mates/twin flames. However, I don’t think it 95% of the time is even romantic. For me, I believe my sister and one of my best friends are my soul mates. You don’t need to be with someone romantically to be a soul mate. You can have past lives together and feel a connection that’s indescribable.
I also believe you hardly knew her enough to feel this way. I once was like this for a guy I was seeing for a month, and I truthfully thought I knew him well enough to justify what he did to me. But it turns out, I didn’t know him at all!! Many psychics told me we were destined to reunite, be together, etc etc. he and I were super close and he vanished. But he moved on, and I was heartbroken and never thought I’d feel the same for someone else. Thankfully one day you’ll just wake up and realize you don’t know why you liked that person anyways.
You also need to stop saying your “negative energies” made her get into a relationship. Like I said, you were either just too late in the game or she just wasn’t into you. You WILL move on, and you WILL feel this way for someone else.
Sorry if I came off like a bitch, but you really needed some sort of slap in the face other than sympathy.
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I truly did want to ask her out, but one of her close friends had suggested building a friendship with her first because anybody who had tried dating her before hadn't done that and it didn't work out. Things in my previous relationship had moved too fast and didn't work out well in the end, so I didn't want to move too fast this time.
Plus she herself said she didn't hangout with guys on her own and her friend said the same thing, so her friend suggested getting to know her better at mutual events, so I only get to see her a few times per year.
Maybe I was too late or maybe she wasn't into me, I don't know. I've never been brave when it comes to asking women out, so I guess I shouldn't be surprised. But I still feel a connection to her and I can't seem to shake it
psychicaddict1:
--- Quote from: Jmc1986 on May 15, 2018, 05:10:29 PM ---
--- Quote from: psychicaddict1 on May 15, 2018, 01:08:32 PM ---I hope I don’t come off as harsh, but it seems like no one here is giving you a dose of reality.
I see two possible scenarios here that have happened to me in the past that can maybe help you in the future.
1. Just like guys, girls get impatient too. A couple of years ago, I had finally hooked up with this guy at a party I went to and we exchanged our phone numbers. He and I spoke daily for weeks at a time, and every time I felt as if he’d ask me out, he wouldn’t. Everyday, it grew more and more frustrating and after 2 months of going back and forth, I just looked at my phone, and told myself he wasn’t worth my time anymore. He didn’t seem brave enough to me to ask me out. Talking on the phone does nothing. After that, I ghosted him and found someone new.
2. Maybe she simply just wanted to be your friend. Honestly, as simple as that. Maybe she wasn’t into you, maybe she just didn’t want to be in something romantically with you. If a girl says “I don’t want anything serious” it typically means she doesn’t see herself with you. I could be wrong, but that’s what I would say to guys.
But, you have to understand something. I personally DO believe in soul mates/twin flames. However, I don’t think it 95% of the time is even romantic. For me, I believe my sister and one of my best friends are my soul mates. You don’t need to be with someone romantically to be a soul mate. You can have past lives together and feel a connection that’s indescribable.
I also believe you hardly knew her enough to feel this way. I once was like this for a guy I was seeing for a month, and I truthfully thought I knew him well enough to justify what he did to me. But it turns out, I didn’t know him at all!! Many psychics told me we were destined to reunite, be together, etc etc. he and I were super close and he vanished. But he moved on, and I was heartbroken and never thought I’d feel the same for someone else. Thankfully one day you’ll just wake up and realize you don’t know why you liked that person anyways.
You also need to stop saying your “negative energies” made her get into a relationship. Like I said, you were either just too late in the game or she just wasn’t into you. You WILL move on, and you WILL feel this way for someone else.
Sorry if I came off like a bitch, but you really needed some sort of slap in the face other than sympathy.
--- End quote ---
I truly did want to ask her out, but one of her close friends had suggested building a friendship with her first because anybody who had tried dating her before hadn't done that and it didn't work out. Things in my previous relationship had moved too fast and didn't work out well in the end, so I didn't want to move too fast this time.
Plus she herself said she didn't hangout with guys on her own and her friend said the same thing, so her friend suggested getting to know her better at mutual events, so I only get to see her a few times per year.
Maybe I was too late or maybe she wasn't into me, I don't know. I've never been brave when it comes to asking women out, so I guess I shouldn't be surprised. But I still feel a connection to her and I can't seem to shake it
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Sounds like an excuse on her behalf, considering she’s dating someone right now. They would have to hang out alone to date!
I’m just being honest and real. In some ways, trying to open your eyes to help move on. She just seems super shady and untruthful.
Jmc1986:
--- Quote from: psychicaddict1 on May 16, 2018, 12:17:39 AM ---
--- Quote from: Jmc1986 on May 15, 2018, 05:10:29 PM ---
--- Quote from: psychicaddict1 on May 15, 2018, 01:08:32 PM ---I hope I don’t come off as harsh, but it seems like no one here is giving you a dose of reality.
I see two possible scenarios here that have happened to me in the past that can maybe help you in the future.
1. Just like guys, girls get impatient too. A couple of years ago, I had finally hooked up with this guy at a party I went to and we exchanged our phone numbers. He and I spoke daily for weeks at a time, and every time I felt as if he’d ask me out, he wouldn’t. Everyday, it grew more and more frustrating and after 2 months of going back and forth, I just looked at my phone, and told myself he wasn’t worth my time anymore. He didn’t seem brave enough to me to ask me out. Talking on the phone does nothing. After that, I ghosted him and found someone new.
2. Maybe she simply just wanted to be your friend. Honestly, as simple as that. Maybe she wasn’t into you, maybe she just didn’t want to be in something romantically with you. If a girl says “I don’t want anything serious” it typically means she doesn’t see herself with you. I could be wrong, but that’s what I would say to guys.
But, you have to understand something. I personally DO believe in soul mates/twin flames. However, I don’t think it 95% of the time is even romantic. For me, I believe my sister and one of my best friends are my soul mates. You don’t need to be with someone romantically to be a soul mate. You can have past lives together and feel a connection that’s indescribable.
I also believe you hardly knew her enough to feel this way. I once was like this for a guy I was seeing for a month, and I truthfully thought I knew him well enough to justify what he did to me. But it turns out, I didn’t know him at all!! Many psychics told me we were destined to reunite, be together, etc etc. he and I were super close and he vanished. But he moved on, and I was heartbroken and never thought I’d feel the same for someone else. Thankfully one day you’ll just wake up and realize you don’t know why you liked that person anyways.
You also need to stop saying your “negative energies” made her get into a relationship. Like I said, you were either just too late in the game or she just wasn’t into you. You WILL move on, and you WILL feel this way for someone else.
Sorry if I came off like a bitch, but you really needed some sort of slap in the face other than sympathy.
--- End quote ---
I truly did want to ask her out, but one of her close friends had suggested building a friendship with her first because anybody who had tried dating her before hadn't done that and it didn't work out. Things in my previous relationship had moved too fast and didn't work out well in the end, so I didn't want to move too fast this time.
Plus she herself said she didn't hangout with guys on her own and her friend said the same thing, so her friend suggested getting to know her better at mutual events, so I only get to see her a few times per year.
Maybe I was too late or maybe she wasn't into me, I don't know. I've never been brave when it comes to asking women out, so I guess I shouldn't be surprised. But I still feel a connection to her and I can't seem to shake it
--- End quote ---
Sounds like an excuse on her behalf, considering she’s dating someone right now. They would have to hang out alone to date!
I’m just being honest and real. In some ways, trying to open your eyes to help move on. She just seems super shady and untruthful.
--- End quote ---
Maybe it was just an excuse, I don't know. Maybe she sensed that I didn't feel very good about myself so she didn't either. Those are things that I guess will remain unanswered.
The few times I did get the chance to be around her, she struck me as anything other than shady and untruthful. She always did seem to be nervous around me, though I'm not sure if it was a good or bad nervous. But I think it has everything to do with me. I've been told I have "poker face" because people have a hard time reading me. I don't smile much and I always seem mad even if I'm not.
I appreciate your truthfulness.
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