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HornetKick:
Part of the issue with soulmates/twinflames is that people put too much weight on titles. All this basically means is that you're supposed to learn something from this person, who you have a really deep connection with. I read a magazine article once and this woman talked about finding her soulmate. They immediately clicked when they first met, the things they liked together were similar, and they laughed at similar things together, etc. Well, after so many years, he was in some kind of accident and died and she wrote, so now what? What she ended up doing (making the story short) is to go out and find another soulmate. Soulmates don't have to mean intimidate relationships either. Here again, too much weight. Soulmates/Twinflames is the connection two people have with each other at some particular time. Psychics have went to town over those terms and made a mint.

maroonlight:

--- Quote from: HornetKick on April 07, 2018, 11:06:09 PM ---Part of the issue with soulmates/twinflames is that people put too much weight on titles. All this basically means is that you're supposed to learn something from this person, who you have a really deep connection with. I read a magazine article once and this woman talked about finding her soulmate. They immediately clicked when they first met, the things they liked together were similar, and they laughed at similar things together, etc. Well, after so many years, he was in some kind of accident and died and she wrote, so now what? What she ended up doing (making the story short) is to go out and find another soulmate. Soulmates don't have to mean intimidate relationships either. Here again, too much weight. Soulmates/Twinflames is the connection two people have with each other at some particular time. Psychics have went to town over those terms and made a mint.

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Yeah the only time I've experienced psychics using the soul mate term is when they are giving you a fairy tale reading. I've always felt that there are people who come into your life for a reason and have a drastic effect on it in one way or another, but I've just never really used the term soul mate to describe it.

Jmc1986:
This has definitely been a devastating situation for me to say the least. I've never experienced feelings like this for a girl before, and to be quite honest, I'm terrified of ever having such feelings again. It just feels like some cruel sick joke like "hah, you fell in love with this girl and she chose somebody else". I'm not 100% sure of the reason she came into my life, but I'm damn certain it was no accident or coincidence and I know there are lessons to be learned. It just hasn't been easy.

Keeping in touch with her is out of the question. She stopped reading and replying to messages months ago, but she did still talk to me at the event we both attended in March. I don't think I ever really stood a chance with her and I sure as hell don't now, and I don't know what the future holds, but I just want her to be happy

psychicaddict1:
I hope I don’t come off as harsh, but it seems like no one here is giving you a dose of reality.

I see two possible scenarios here that have happened to me in the past that can maybe help you in the future.

1. Just like guys, girls get impatient too. A couple of years ago, I had finally hooked up with this guy at a party I went to and we exchanged our phone numbers. He and I spoke daily for weeks at a time, and every time I felt as if he’d ask me out, he wouldn’t. Everyday, it grew more and more frustrating and after 2 months of going back and forth, I just looked at my phone, and told myself he wasn’t worth my time anymore. He didn’t seem brave enough to me to ask me out. Talking on the phone does nothing. After that, I ghosted him and found someone new.

2. Maybe she simply just wanted to be your friend. Honestly, as simple as that. Maybe she wasn’t into you, maybe she just didn’t want to be in something romantically with you. If a girl says “I don’t want anything serious” it typically means she doesn’t see herself with you. I could be wrong, but that’s what  I would say to guys.

But, you have to understand something. I personally DO believe in soul mates/twin flames. However, I don’t think it 95% of the time is even romantic. For me, I believe my sister and one of my best friends are my soul mates. You don’t need to be with someone romantically to be a soul mate. You can have past lives together and feel a connection that’s indescribable.

I also believe you hardly knew her enough to feel this way. I once was like this for a guy I was seeing for a month, and I truthfully thought I knew him well enough to justify what he did to me. But it turns out, I didn’t know him at all!!  Many psychics told me we were destined to reunite, be together, etc etc. he and I were super close and he vanished. But he moved on, and I was heartbroken and never thought I’d feel the same for someone else. Thankfully one day you’ll just wake up and realize you don’t know why you liked that person anyways.

You also need to stop saying your “negative energies” made her get into a relationship. Like I said, you were either just too late in the game or she just wasn’t into you. You WILL move on, and you WILL feel this way for someone else.

Sorry if I came off like a bitch, but you really needed some sort of slap in the face other than sympathy.

sawthelight:

--- Quote from: psychicaddict1 on May 15, 2018, 01:08:32 PM ---I hope I don’t come off as harsh, but it seems like no one here is giving you a dose of reality.

I see two possible scenarios here that have happened to me in the past that can maybe help you in the future.

1. Just like guys, girls get impatient too. A couple of years ago, I had finally hooked up with this guy at a party I went to and we exchanged our phone numbers. He and I spoke daily for weeks at a time, and every time I felt as if he’d ask me out, he wouldn’t. Everyday, it grew more and more frustrating and after 2 months of going back and forth, I just looked at my phone, and told myself he wasn’t worth my time anymore. He didn’t seem brave enough to me to ask me out. Talking on the phone does nothing. After that, I ghosted him and found someone new.

2. Maybe she simply just wanted to be your friend. Honestly, as simple as that. Maybe she wasn’t into you, maybe she just didn’t want to be in something romantically with you. If a girl says “I don’t want anything serious” it typically means she doesn’t see herself with you. I could be wrong, but that’s what  I would say to guys.

But, you have to understand something. I personally DO believe in soul mates/twin flames. However, I don’t think it 95% of the time is even romantic. For me, I believe my sister and one of my best friends are my soul mates. You don’t need to be with someone romantically to be a soul mate. You can have past lives together and feel a connection that’s indescribable.

I also believe you hardly knew her enough to feel this way. I once was like this for a guy I was seeing for a month, and I truthfully thought I knew him well enough to justify what he did to me. But it turns out, I didn’t know him at all!!  Many psychics told me we were destined to reunite, be together, etc etc. he and I were super close and he vanished. But he moved on, and I was heartbroken and never thought I’d feel the same for someone else. Thankfully one day you’ll just wake up and realize you don’t know why you liked that person anyways.

You also need to stop saying your “negative energies” made her get into a relationship. Like I said, you were either just too late in the game or she just wasn’t into you. You WILL move on, and you WILL feel this way for someone else.

Sorry if I came off like a bitch, but you really needed some sort of slap in the face other than sympathy.

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This is so friggen true.  I was just thinking that to myself this  morning, how I used to feel things so intently for guys in my past and now I look back at them with disgust, like why did I even like them again?? 

I'm praying for the day I feel like that about current POI. 

to OP:  my advice is, don't get anymore readings about her.  Hearing things like they are your twinflame/soulmate, they are afraid, just keeps you from moving on and leaves you with a glimmer of hope.  Try as best as you can to erase all hope from your mind/heart, and move ahead..meet new people.  If it's meant to be it will.

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