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Taking Readings with a Grain of Salt
FaithandTruth:
Yes! You are so absolutely right!
Lately, I feel like I’ve actually hurt outcomes by me calling and not just living and working on an outcome or moving on to better things for my life.
--- Quote from: maroonlight on February 20, 2018, 12:37:22 PM ---
--- Quote from: FaithandTruth on February 19, 2018, 09:33:50 PM ---
--- Quote from: maroonlight on February 19, 2018, 04:47:51 PM ---
--- Quote from: FaithandTruth on February 19, 2018, 03:13:13 PM ---Hey Maroonlight...are you staying strong? Have you called since this post?
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So far, yes. I actually deleted both my CP and keen account the other day so I'm not calling anyone at the moment.
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🙌 Good for you! I’m having a crave today so bad....not calling though. It’s been 2 weeks. I need to stay strong.
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In order to release my cravings lately, I've just kept reminding myself that all they're going to do is tell me what I want to hear and that may or may not be true, but it's not going to change the outcome of the situation.
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sawthelight:
--- Quote from: FaithandTruth on February 20, 2018, 01:20:54 PM ---Yes! You are so absolutely right!
Lately, I feel like I’ve actually hurt outcomes by me calling and not just living and working on an outcome or moving on to better things for my life.
--- Quote from: maroonlight on February 20, 2018, 12:37:22 PM ---
--- Quote from: FaithandTruth on February 19, 2018, 09:33:50 PM ---
--- Quote from: maroonlight on February 19, 2018, 04:47:51 PM ---
--- Quote from: FaithandTruth on February 19, 2018, 03:13:13 PM ---Hey Maroonlight...are you staying strong? Have you called since this post?
--- End quote ---
So far, yes. I actually deleted both my CP and keen account the other day so I'm not calling anyone at the moment.
--- End quote ---
🙌 Good for you! I’m having a crave today so bad....not calling though. It’s been 2 weeks. I need to stay strong.
--- End quote ---
In order to release my cravings lately, I've just kept reminding myself that all they're going to do is tell me what I want to hear and that may or may not be true, but it's not going to change the outcome of the situation.
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I've often felt like I hurt the outcome of the situation too, by getting too many readings. It's also affected by behavior towards POI, and not in a good way. Luckily, I've learned from my mistakes...took long enough though LOL.
maroonlight:
--- Quote from: sawthelight on February 20, 2018, 02:37:21 PM ---
--- Quote from: FaithandTruth on February 20, 2018, 01:20:54 PM ---Yes! You are so absolutely right!
Lately, I feel like I’ve actually hurt outcomes by me calling and not just living and working on an outcome or moving on to better things for my life.
--- Quote from: maroonlight on February 20, 2018, 12:37:22 PM ---
--- Quote from: FaithandTruth on February 19, 2018, 09:33:50 PM ---
--- Quote from: maroonlight on February 19, 2018, 04:47:51 PM ---
--- Quote from: FaithandTruth on February 19, 2018, 03:13:13 PM ---Hey Maroonlight...are you staying strong? Have you called since this post?
--- End quote ---
So far, yes. I actually deleted both my CP and keen account the other day so I'm not calling anyone at the moment.
--- End quote ---
🙌 Good for you! I’m having a crave today so bad....not calling though. It’s been 2 weeks. I need to stay strong.
--- End quote ---
In order to release my cravings lately, I've just kept reminding myself that all they're going to do is tell me what I want to hear and that may or may not be true, but it's not going to change the outcome of the situation.
--- End quote ---
--- End quote ---
I've often felt like I hurt the outcome of the situation too, by getting too many readings. It's also affected by behavior towards POI, and not in a good way. Luckily, I've learned from my mistakes...took long enough though LOL.
--- End quote ---
I honestly would not worry about it affecting the outcome, unless your behavior towards the person is influenced by the readers and you are doing what they tell you to, etc.
If the person really wants to be with you or give things another chance, it will happen in its time, regardless of how many readings you get. This is why readings are not worth it. I remember in the past one of the readers told me to contact someone I had not spoken to for months saying that it would speed up the reconciliation, meanwhile I did contact him later but he never responded at all.
njlady:
Why not start dating now? If this other guy comes back and you still want him you can always take him back. No need to put yourself on hold. Good men don't stay on the open market for long.
maroonlight:
I don't really feel quite ready to start something completely new yet, and especially since because we are still in contact and the situation has not completely closed yet. I don't want to get into a situation where I start dating someone but then this guy tries to come back in. I'm also pretty busy with college right now and am currently working on losing my holiday 10 lb weight gain. I definitely plan to start dating again within the next few weeks though.
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