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Your POI will return, but you won't want him by then
Angelina11:
Alright guys, does that sound familiar, "he/she will return, but by then you will be over him/won't be interested/won't want him back/will be with someone else, etc" ??
Well, in 4 years I was calling regarding 2 guys. I've spent about 2.5 years longing for a loving relationship with the first POI, in the end it didn't work and he dissapeared without explaining me anything; I've called him twice and then we exchanged a few texts in a course of 1 year after him dissapearing. I guess he didn't find stregth to say in plain english that things are not going to go anywhere between us, instead he first blamed work for keeping him busy, then dissapeared...eventually through social media Ifound out he started dating another girl (they are no longer together). Anyway, I was crushed, depressed, mad at myself for believing psychics who told me that he has strong feelings for me and will contact me in a 3,5,11...you get the idea. But then a lot of them started to say that he will be back, but I will not be interested in him anymore - that definitely seemed impossible, eventually for 2 reasons: 1- that he will be back as I stopped believing he would, 2- that i will not want him. I was daydreaming about him nonstop, I was crazy about him, I could not stop thinking about him, even when I started seeing second POI, there was a part in me that still believed that my first POI was ideal. (Although, of course I undertand how we ourself can trick our own mind to hell and back, for example by believing in a thought that someone is IDEAL. No such thing exsit of course. My head was turned off then, it was overfloaded with emotions).
A few week ago, guess who is reaching out, my 1st POI. My jaw dropped, I could not stop staring at my phone it seemed unreal. I've started answering his texts. And HERE IS the magic, at this time I truly deeply do not give a f*ck about him. Moreover, I do not even have any negative emotions towards him at all and actually I wish him well and be happy with someone else. I've opened his social media and looked at him again and there was not a trace of ANY emotion that i felt towards him - NONE! It was like I was staring at some nice looking guy, but that was about it.
I still do think that it was not correct of him to make romantic plans with me in words only to dissapear later without explanation, but at this time I am not even interested in trying to figure out why, let alone ask him what was the reason he behaved like that. So, anyway now i had a few light chats with him and I had no intention to make him feel hurt, and I definitely did not want him to feel rejected (because i know how hellishly painful it can be).
He asked me out and I was honest and strightforward and told him, "I don't think I'm still intereted even though I truly believe you are a great guy. I wish you to be happy". I meant those words. I had no interentions to leave him in obscurity, hoping for something... He did not answer anything for several days, so I assumed he got it and moved on, good for him...and here we go: today I get the whole email from him explaining himself, telling me how he had feelings towards me all this time and that now he is much more mature and wiser and capable of offering more than ever before...I am seating here and almost feel like it could be nice if I still felt something towards him, but now it is almost like, I was craving for vanilla ice-cream and thought only vanilla ice-cream could give me the biggest pleasure in the world....instead I end up having strawberry ice-cream and a lot of it...I am full of it and no longer hungry, let alone care about the flavors...
So ironic, I at that time when I was hurt and lost hope, I wished that one day he would regret that he did not put an effort to pursue me, but now I actually dont even feel any emotional satisfaction from him going after me. (Gosh, why when I was thursty there wasn't water there, and there is water when I no longer thursty?)
Anyway, I am writing this to anyone who feel like YOU WILL NEVER GET OVER YOUR POI, that you will be forever scarred, that you will never get attracted to any other man, you will never like anyone as deeply as you did poi, etc. Believe me, YOU WILL!!! Yes, it will likely take time, it may take therapy, a lot of self-nuturing, growing..., but you will get over that Mr. Twister. I went through depression, I dropped out of my on-line Master's degree program, because i could not concentrate on studies because of my ex poi, I actually know what it is like to cry from morning till night (I've spent many weekends and nights on that), I can even laugh thinking about it now: I would naturally get a few breaks from crying, because my head would start to hurt and I had no tears left, just a face that looked like crying, lol and the next day i was not able to open my eyes fully - it looked like a bee stung me in both eyes ;D ;D ;D ;D
YOU WILL GET OVER IT!!! I know it may seem impossible now, but you will. I am still getting over my 2nd POI, but it is definitely not as devestating as healing after the 1st POI, although it also hurt, I know one day he will be just another ice-cream flavor I've had enjoyed.
PrettyLittleLiz:
Great Post!!!!
--- Quote from: Angelina11 on November 29, 2017, 03:23:31 AM ---Alright guys, does that sound familiar, "he/she will return, but by then you will be over him/won't be interested/won't want him back/will be with someone else, etc" ??
Well, in 4 years I was calling regarding 2 guys. I've spent about 2.5 years longing for a loving relationship with the first POI, in the end it didn't work and he dissapeared without explaining me anything; I've called him twice and then we exchanged a few texts in a course of 1 year after him dissapearing. I guess he didn't find stregth to say in plain english that things are not going to go anywhere between us, instead he first blamed work for keeping him busy, then dissapeared...eventually through social media Ifound out he started dating another girl (they are no longer together). Anyway, I was crushed, depressed, mad at myself for believing psychics who told me that he has strong feelings for me and will contact me in a 3,5,11...you get the idea. But then a lot of them started to say that he will be back, but I will not be interested in him anymore - that definitely seemed impossible, eventually for 2 reasons: 1- that he will be back as I stopped believing he would, 2- that i will not want him. I was daydreaming about him nonstop, I was crazy about him, I could not stop thinking about him, even when I started seeing second POI, there was a part in me that still believed that my first POI was ideal. (Although, of course I undertand how we ourself can trick our own mind to hell and back, for example by believing in a thought that someone is IDEAL. No such thing exsit of course. My head was turned off then, it was overfloaded with emotions).
A few week ago, guess who is reaching out, my 1st POI. My jaw dropped, I could not stop staring at my phone it seemed unreal. I've started answering his texts. And HERE IS the magic, at this time I truly deeply do not give a f*ck about him. Moreover, I do not even have any negative emotions towards him at all and actually I wish him well and be happy with someone else. I've opened his social media and looked at him again and there was not a trace of ANY emotion that i felt towards him - NONE! It was like I was staring at some nice looking guy, but that was about it.
I still do think that it was not correct of him to make romantic plans with me in words only to dissapear later without explanation, but at this time I am not even interested in trying to figure out why, let alone ask him what was the reason he behaved like that. So, anyway now i had a few light chats with him and I had no intention to make him feel hurt, and I definitely did not want him to feel rejected (because i know how hellishly painful it can be).
He asked me out and I was honest and strightforward and told him, "I don't think I'm still intereted even though I truly believe you are a great guy. I wish you to be happy". I meant those words. I had no interentions to leave him in obscurity, hoping for something... He did not answer anything for several days, so I assumed he got it and moved on, good for him...and here we go: today I get the whole email from him explaining himself, telling me how he had feelings towards me all this time and that now he is much more mature and wiser and capable of offering more than ever before...I am seating here and almost feel like it could be nice if I still felt something towards him, but now it is almost like, I was craving for vanilla ice-cream and thought only vanilla ice-cream could give me the biggest pleasure in the world....instead I end up having strawberry ice-cream and a lot of it...I am full of it and no longer hungry, let alone care about the flavors...
So ironic, I at that time when I was hurt and lost hope, I wished that one day he would regret that he did not put an effort to pursue me, but now I actually dont even feel any emotional satisfaction from him going after me. (Gosh, why when I was thursty there wasn't water there, and there is water when I no longer thursty?)
Anyway, I am writing this to anyone who feel like YOU WILL NEVER GET OVER YOUR POI, that you will be forever scarred, that you will never get attracted to any other man, you will never like anyone as deeply as you did poi, etc. Believe me, YOU WILL!!! Yes, it will likely take time, it may take therapy, a lot of self-nuturing, growing..., but you will get over that Mr. Twister. I went through depression, I dropped out of my on-line Master's degree program, because i could not concentrate on studies because of my ex poi, I actually know what it is like to cry from morning till night (I've spent many weekends and nights on that), I can even laugh thinking about it now: I would naturally get a few breaks from crying, because my head would start to hurt and I had no tears left, just a face that looked like crying, lol and the next day i was not able to open my eyes fully - it looked like a bee stung me in both eyes ;D ;D ;D ;D
YOU WILL GET OVER IT!!! I know it may seem impossible now, but you will. I am still getting over my 2nd POI, but it is definitely not as devestating as healing after the 1st POI, although it also hurt, I know one day he will be just another ice-cream flavor I've had enjoyed.
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Angelina11:
--- Quote from: Still tired on November 29, 2017, 03:46:19 AM ---That's great! I am really glad for you.
Someone will ask so might as well be me, lol, did anyone predict this correctly?
Good for you not wanting to hurt him or leave him hanging because you easily could have given him the same turn he gave you before.
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OMG, right now I am COMPLETELY CONFUSED who to recommend. at the time when I was interested in first Poi, I didn't read with most psychics that were recommended here and I have read with like 30 psychics between keen and kasamba. Almost all of them said poi will be back and only a few said he won't, I have mentioned them in other post, so since poi wasn't back for soooo long, I assumed that those few psychics were the only trustworthy and left only them in my fav list, but now I can't recommend even them, because it turned out they were wrong.
Here is the funny part, a few years ago there was ONLY 1 reader And that was on kasamba, who said that I will have an opportunity to build up a relationship with poi in about 2 years. I literally laughed it off and thought she was crazy and of course, I immediately deleted her from my list. It turns out she was right, but now SWEAR I simply don't remember who that was.althoguh, who knows maybe it was a lucky guess.
To be honest, at this time I truly don't believe any psychic at all, including favorite by many QofCups, can predict my future with 100 certainty. Ihave a few major predictions pending and in my mind I give it, "who knows maybe it can possibly happen", but I'll be able to confirm only later this or next year.
I'm sorry if I was not helpful with recommendations; it's just at this time I'm so confused about them that I don't have even one psychic who I can say was the most accurate.
whskers:
Here are the wrong psychics I found from your previous post:
http://www.thepsychicreviews.com/forum/index.php/topic,2614.msg44734.html#msg44734
Here they are:
- "David James Psychic" on kasamba and he is also on keen as DavidJames (He was telling me that I was wasting my time waiting for the guy and that he moved on. Every reading with James cost me no more than $50 (he charges around $6/minute), there was no reason to have longer readings with him, because he was always straight to the point. He did not make even 1 mistake in any of his readings!!! Just keep one thing in mind, he can be kinda cold and feel insensetive or even rude when giving a reading, although it's not like we are looking for a therapist in him, so if you are not afraid to hear the truth and don't care how a psychic delivers a message, he is your guy)
- "Elizabeth" on kasamba $6.99. Everything she told me in her readings was true and came true (It was painful getting readings from her, because 90% of what she told was the opposite of what I wanted to hear. There was only 1 amazing prediction that she gave about my future and it did come true indeed, although i believe i also worked on making it happen, energetically speaking)
- "Fiona" from kasamba $6.99 also was not pleasant to get a reading from, but again, she turned out to be 100% correct.
whskers:
I had a similar situation. I obsessed over a guy and two psychics told me, he will come back but you two will never be in a relationship. He did show interest after I’m seeing someone new.. but I am not interested at him at all.
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