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advice/tips for someone who wants to stop calling!
peppie:
--- Quote from: Baypark1 on October 22, 2017, 02:19:50 AM ---One thing I did when I finally was ready to stop was not only work on cleaning the crap within but cleaning out my house. For 3 years I was focused on my ex who screwed my life royally and this POI I had been calling about for a YEAR! I called as well with the ex. Pretty much thats all I thought about. So I started with my bathroom drawers and then ended up painting. It felt good to focus on me and what would make ME feel good. Every part of my house was a mess (hidden behind the doors :)) I am one that loves organization and things neat and tidy. As I cleaned out my cabinets, drawers and closets, I started to feel stronger and more in control of my life and I felt good. I read somewhere that cleaning out is very good for putting the past behind you and it worked for me.
Maybe you can try it!. Im sure your sock drawer or closet can use an overhaul :) If you're.OCD and your house is perfect then paint a room :)
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I love this. I've gotten rid of all my stuff over the past couple of years, but I find I'm always behind in housekeeping because of the obsession... do you know how tiring obsession is? It's exhausting.
Thanks - I really do love these suggestions.
peppie:
--- Quote from: doubleoh8 on October 21, 2017, 08:57:26 PM ---
For me, I have slowed down calling dramatically after hitting my own rock bottom of sorts. Basically I ran out of money -- for real. And I went through a LOT. More than I am comfortable admitting and it really shocked and scared me when I got to a place where I was in real economic distress.
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I understand this all too well. I'm pretty much here.
No, it's not an abusive relationship but I don't want to say what it is.
I'm so glad there are other people on here who understand. This is a good place to vent and people understand...
mystery123:
For me it was realizing that I can’t do anything to change my situation so I just have to let it be.. I can’t cry enough, call psychics enough, plead enough or pray enough to change other person. I accepted that it’s over.. It was and is so painful still. Sometimes i feel crippled with fear of future but then I slowly tell myself in my head it’s going to be okay, it’s safe to let him go, it’s okay to let him go, i am okay.. just kind of baby talk myself..
When the desire of that other person will die or what happens next dies the willingness to call will also start fading.
I also used to get cravings to call or chat then I would go over old transcripts and just realizing that all the glorious Aprils and Junes and Augusts just came and passed by used to turn me off a little from getting readings.
I would applaud myself for getting just one reading in two days instead of calling 15 readers per day liek before.
Just think it’s a process— you are healing from your situation and also from calling psychics. Treat it like any other addiction. Accept it, sweettalk yourself because no one else will, don’t push yourself to quit, just treat yourself with love as you would treat a friend.
I had to see the addicted person in me as a thirs person and be nice to that person and help reduce the addiction.. because like you no one around me also knows that i call or believe in psychics. So had to do it myself
peppie:
--- Quote from: mystery123 on October 22, 2017, 01:48:23 PM ---For me it was realizing that I can’t do anything to change my situation so I just have to let it be.. I can’t cry enough, call psychics enough, plead enough or pray enough to change other person. I accepted that it’s over.. It was and is so painful still. Sometimes i feel crippled with fear of future but then I slowly tell myself in my head it’s going to be okay, it’s safe to let him go, it’s okay to let him go, i am okay.. just kind of baby talk myself..
When the desire of that other person will die or what happens next dies the willingness to call will also start fading.
I also used to get cravings to call or chat then I would go over old transcripts and just realizing that all the glorious Aprils and Junes and Augusts just came and passed by used to turn me off a little from getting readings.
I would applaud myself for getting just one reading in two days instead of calling 15 readers per day liek before.
Just think it’s a process— you are healing from your situation and also from calling psychics. Treat it like any other addiction. Accept it, sweettalk yourself because no one else will, don’t push yourself to quit, just treat yourself with love as you would treat a friend.
I had to see the addicted person in me as a thirs person and be nice to that person and help reduce the addiction.. because like you no one around me also knows that i call or believe in psychics. So had to do it myself
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thank you so much. i really like the tips you gave.
i also like you stating we need to be nice to that person... kind to ourselves... i need to work on that
HornetKick:
--- Quote from: peppie on October 22, 2017, 02:57:49 PM ---
--- Quote from: mystery123 on October 22, 2017, 01:48:23 PM ---For me it was realizing that I can’t do anything to change my situation so I just have to let it be.. I can’t cry enough, call psychics enough, plead enough or pray enough to change other person. I accepted that it’s over.. It was and is so painful still. Sometimes i feel crippled with fear of future but then I slowly tell myself in my head it’s going to be okay, it’s safe to let him go, it’s okay to let him go, i am okay.. just kind of baby talk myself..
When the desire of that other person will die or what happens next dies the willingness to call will also start fading.
I also used to get cravings to call or chat then I would go over old transcripts and just realizing that all the glorious Aprils and Junes and Augusts just came and passed by used to turn me off a little from getting readings.
I would applaud myself for getting just one reading in two days instead of calling 15 readers per day liek before.
Just think it’s a process— you are healing from your situation and also from calling psychics. Treat it like any other addiction. Accept it, sweettalk yourself because no one else will, don’t push yourself to quit, just treat yourself with love as you would treat a friend.
I had to see the addicted person in me as a thirs person and be nice to that person and help reduce the addiction.. because like you no one around me also knows that i call or believe in psychics. So had to do it myself
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thank you so much. i really like the tips you gave.
i also like you stating we need to be nice to that person... kind to ourselves... i need to work on that
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So true. Even the small victories are still victories. Give yourself pats on the backs when you aren't calling as much, in particular knowing and recognizing there is an addiction. That's the first and biggest step. We all do the best we can under the circumstances and beating yourself up only does more harm than good.
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