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Baypark1:
I feel like I've been in a drama for the last year! I met this man who is the father of my son's best friend June 2016 and we started talking and hanging out as friends and then got into benefits.  He had recently gotten out of a very bad 5 year relationship and didn't want to rush into anything and wanted friendship most of all. He was in no way ready for commitment.  But there was that strong physical attraction so it was pretty inevitable that the friendship went further.  We also connected strongly on an emotional and spiritual level.   After a few months, I started to develop feelings for him. I knew he was feeling something for me as well, but he was in no way moving forward. So, after researching how to get out of the friends with benefits and get a man to commit (of course I did!) I decided to tell him I couldn't do the benefits part anymore and wanted more. He was clearly upset but it didn't go as all of the articles said it would :)  He didn't fight for me and it didn't make him commit.  He moved on and found someone 3 weeks later.  I was shocked and hurt. It was then that I started calling psychics and boy did I.  I was obsessed and called so many readers I can't even tell you.  The money I spent was ridiculous. I was out of control.   I found this forum and weeded out the bad readers only focusing on a few of the good ones.  Over the last year, I ended up calling a handful of the ones I thought were good.  Diane731, Aries Intuition, Mystic Raven II, Yona, Friend Sue were all pretty consistent with their predictions and some minor ones actually happened.  When I say minor, I mean like seeing him at an event coming up, type of things.   He continued to see the woman he met after me but ALL the readers said their relationship was financially based, he had no deep feelings for her and she was pretty much a doormat that didn't require anything of him.  This all made total sense to me so I continued to believe the readers.  They all said they would break up and he would be back.  They did break up the end of July.  BUT, he didn't come back.  As  a matter of fact, he actually started seeing another woman who I'm pretty sure was a booty call, for a few weeks while continuing to spend time as friends with his ex.  I had stopped calling Mystic Raven and Friend Sue at this point and Yona I had only read with 3 times.  Diane and Keisha were my two that I contacted when I found out he was seeing someone else and didn't come back. As a matter of fact, he wasn't even making a tiny effort of reestablishing the friendship.   Diane never responded to my email about this and I never talked to her again because I didn't want to spend $110 to find out why she was wrong.  She had been right many times about minor things and definitely got the break up.  The rest of what she said and predicted was wrong. 

As for Keisha, back in April she nailed this guy and even described him.  I only asked her for a general reading.  She gave me numbers which basically ended up being September through January 2018 of things happening.  Again in June, she confirmed the same things.  Gave me numbers that were along the same time frames.  But come August, when I realized he was not coming back, at least not at that time, she started to give me hints that this guy wasn't necessarily the best option for me.  After a few more readings and finally asking her, she flat out said that this guy will never give me what I wanted as far as commitment because he just didn't have it in him.  Not that he's a bad guy, but he wanted what he wanted and didn't want commitment.  It was at this point that I finally let go.  The whole booty call woman thing totally turned me off in addition to continuing to see the ex, regardless if  they were just friends or not, he was possibly leading her on and/or using her which a few people said he was.  I think I was finally just sick of wanting this man.  It only took a year!!!!  OMG  I also started to cut WAY back on my readings which helped me let go.   I was so sick of putting all of my energy into readings, predictions and this guy, I wanted to desperately change.  I did find a tool that helped me look deep into why I couldn't let go of men that rejected me and I've gotten much stronger.    I haven't had a reading in about a month. I do sometimes reach for the phone but then think "why"?  NONE of these people were correct!  There is literally no point in calling.  I'm now just living my life, getting stronger and releasing the crap I've been holding on to, so that I will be ready for the right man to come along. 

As for Keisha's predictions, she said September/October there would be a small shift, then December into February things would be content.  However, as I said, she changed and said this guy would come forward and offer me a relationship but it wouldn't be a committed relationship and wouldn't fullfill me.  So, that may still happen. I don't know.  I don't care.  I don't want the guy anymore.  Although I am curious, probably only because it was such a huge habit for 12 months to constantly think about this guy, I really don't want him.  I feel sorry for him.  He's got a lot of damage and he can't commit to anyone.  That's sad.  He is a nice guy, just not the guy for me.

I read similar stories to mine when I first started calling about this guy.  In my screwed up mind, I convinced myself that it wouldn't happen like that for me.  LOL  well here I am, telling the same story as we've all read numerous times.  12 months wasted and  thousands of dollars wasted.  Do I believe these readers are gifted?  Yes. The ones I mentioned are but for minor things, present things possibly but as for future major predictions, no.  At least not for me. 

I believe 1000% that readings keep us attached and holding on.  They prevent us from moving on.  It was only when I stopped getting so many readings and eventually stopped, that I was finally able to let go completely. 

So many people have said "stop calling and live your life" and it's absolutely 100% true.  Unfortunately, nothing I say will prevent people from going down the same path that I did and so many others did.  I just hope people don't stay on this psychic path of hell for as long as I did.   I also believe that if someone walks away and out of your life, it is for a reason. Maybe the reason has nothing to do with you but for them.  I'm working on me now, to be strong enough that if someone wants to leave my life that I will let them and not stay attached.  It's a horrible feeling that I never want to feel again.

I keep popping in here on occasion and it helps validate that there's no reason to call.  Very few people have major outcomes happen.  VERY FEW.  I honestly don't know if I will ever call another psychic again.  I hope I am never with a man that makes me want to call.  :)

sawthelight:
Amazing!  Good for you baypark!  You are an inspiration

Illumin8:
I have followed your journey for quite some time Baypark, and I know that you tried many times to kick the psychic calling addiction but I think you needed to go through this process with this guy and this scenario to really hit home and begin to heal. I would also recommend taking a look at your attachment style. Google (attachment style in relationships) as from what you have said about the men you have yearned for in the past they may have  had an insecure-avoidant style which will never ever yield the results you need in a secure healthy relationship. But I I have no doubt that you are well onto your way to finding happiness because you have put YOU first. Best of luck in the future. x

mystery123:

--- Quote from: Baypark1 on October 18, 2017, 11:35:34 PM --- I hope I am never with a man that makes me want to call.  :)

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This.

You are a rockstar for sharing and helping others! I can relate to your post so much! I have had minor predictions come true which are very specific but nothing major, and like I mentioned in other post, some of them are for other people, so when I login to Keen out of addiction and go through the list, I think the same what you said and my will is dying too to call or chat.

I am sure your post will help so many!!
I know some people complain how it's the psychicreview board and that's what you should do, but I feel this forum has a more personal touch to it, as virtually we have become a part of each other's journey and this is a review too of our readings and experiences with psychics.

I wish to go as strong as you are for now! All the best to you with your journey!

Baypark1:

--- Quote from: Illumin8 on October 19, 2017, 02:14:01 AM ---I have followed your journey for quite some time Baypark, and I know that you tried many times to kick the psychic calling addiction but I think you needed to go through this process with this guy and this scenario to really hit home and begin to heal. I would also recommend taking a look at your attachment style. Google (attachment style in relationships) as from what you have said about the men you have yearned for in the past they may have  had an insecure-avoidant style which will never ever yield the results you need in a secure healthy relationship. But I I have no doubt that you are well onto your way to finding happiness because you have put YOU first. Best of luck in the future. x

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In my search to change, I found Susan Anderson, who has a program on how to overcome rejection and abandonment which hit home in the biggest way. YES, I attract men who will hurt and reject me because in a strange way, I'm comfortable with that.   When I find  a man that would give me anything in the world and is perfect for me, I shun away and lose interest because it's NOT comfortable!  When she said that in one of her interviews, I almost cried because that is exactly what I do.  And the men I'm pining over haven't even remotely been good for me :)  This is all a work in progress. Life is a constant lesson.  Sometimes we have to just go through these times to finally have our eyes opened. 

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