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Why I Became Obsessed
Sooshi:
--- Quote from: Bostongirl on May 06, 2017, 02:39:16 PM --- He got involved in a third party who got herself pregnant and in trapped him. [....] He is still with her. Its comfortable, she pays for everything. He is a bought man.
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Sounds more like he trapped her. ;D
HornetKick:
--- Quote from: Sooshi on May 14, 2017, 03:49:38 AM ---
--- Quote from: Bostongirl on May 06, 2017, 02:39:16 PM --- He got involved in a third party who got herself pregnant and in trapped him. [....] He is still with her. Its comfortable, she pays for everything. He is a bought man.
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Sounds more like he trapped her. ;D
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Oh please. He wanted to be trapped. This is a good example of saying you don't want kids, but then don't do anything to prevent kids from happening. I'm not psychic, but I betcha he didn't wear a condom. I had the same thing happen to a guy friend and I told him from the beginning she is going to trap you since you don't wear protection and she did, but....she miscarried and I can't tell you how happy he was. He said he knew it sounded bad, but it was just pure relief of joy. After that incident, he only wore condoms. Morons!
rosa0726:
I too was obsessed. I mostly called CP. I called for almost 3 years about my POI. 90% of the psychics said he was my soulmate and not to worry, the only person he would marry would be me. Forward 4 years later and he is married with 3 kids.
I was beyond devestated when he married this other girl. When I found out he was engaged, all the psychics changed their tune. Then it became "oh we saw this happening but he brought it upon himself because he was afraid of his feelings for you". I went on a bender after his engagement. I kept calling and calling and the psychics assured me even though he was engaged, they didn't see him getting married. I could go on and on but you get the point. The day he got married, I stayed in bed for 4 days with the lights off, that's how devestated I was.
Although the pain was horrible, it also allowed me to finally let him go. He was with someone else and even though I trusted the psychics blindly, I realized it was a business and having me call over and over again just filling their pockets with money. I felt like such a fool.
the only good part is that through my heartbreak, I met my husband. We were just friends but he was also there for me when I was on the floor in pain.
To be honest and I would never admit this to anyone, I don't feel for my husband what I feel for my ex. Maybe it was the longing and the drama of it all that kept it like a challenge for me. But with my husband comes security, happiness, no crying and I feel like I am home with him.
Do I still think about my ex once in a while and think about what could have been? Yes, once in a while. Am I over him? I can honestly say yes. Just give it time. I have been there. I know the sadness you feel and the longing. But one door closed for me and another opened, which was the better door.
My husband went through hoops to be with me. My ex never did and I realized I was with the better man. My husband isn't the most exciting person in the world but he is kind, devoted and loves me so much.
One thing I learned through the years is if someone wants to be with you, they will be with you. I relied on the psychics way too much and took their word as gospel. That in turn kept me in a viscious cycle of constantly calling to seek reassurance.
The worst part for me is even after my ex got married and had his 1st child, the psychics said oh his marriage isn't going to last. Even in my despair, they still led me on. But I am happy to say, I haven't called a psychic in 3 years and have no desire to.
I know it doesn't seem like it now but one day you will feel better and you will let go.
bluebelle:
--- Quote from: rosa0726 on May 30, 2017, 02:48:03 PM ---I too was obsessed. I mostly called CP. I called for almost 3 years about my POI. 90% of the psychics said he was my soulmate and not to worry, the only person he would marry would be me. Forward 4 years later and he is married with 3 kids.
I was beyond devestated when he married this other girl. When I found out he was engaged, all the psychics changed their tune. Then it became "oh we saw this happening but he brought it upon himself because he was afraid of his feelings for you". I went on a bender after his engagement. I kept calling and calling and the psychics assured me even though he was engaged, they didn't see him getting married. I could go on and on but you get the point. The day he got married, I stayed in bed for 4 days with the lights off, that's how devestated I was.
Although the pain was horrible, it also allowed me to finally let him go. He was with someone else and even though I trusted the psychics blindly, I realized it was a business and having me call over and over again just filling their pockets with money. I felt like such a fool.
the only good part is that through my heartbreak, I met my husband. We were just friends but he was also there for me when I was on the floor in pain.
To be honest and I would never admit this to anyone, I don't feel for my husband what I feel for my ex. Maybe it was the longing and the drama of it all that kept it like a challenge for me. But with my husband comes security, happiness, no crying and I feel like I am home with him.
Do I still think about my ex once in a while and think about what could have been? Yes, once in a while. Am I over him? I can honestly say yes. Just give it time. I have been there. I know the sadness you feel and the longing. But one door closed for me and another opened, which was the better door.
My husband went through hoops to be with me. My ex never did and I realized I was with the better man. My husband isn't the most exciting person in the world but he is kind, devoted and loves me so much.
One thing I learned through the years is if someone wants to be with you, they will be with you. I relied on the psychics way too much and took their word as gospel. That in turn kept me in a viscious cycle of constantly calling to seek reassurance.
The worst part for me is even after my ex got married and had his 1st child, the psychics said oh his marriage isn't going to last. Even in my despair, they still led me on. But I am happy to say, I haven't called a psychic in 3 years and have no desire to.
I know it doesn't seem like it now but one day you will feel better and you will let go.
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Great post. So many stories like yours on here..with the POI getting married and no one seeing it. Scary for sure. Glad you have moved on. I truly believe the challenge aspect of these men make it harder to let go, the psychological aspect of wanting what you can't have.
knel27:
--- Quote from: rosa0726 on May 30, 2017, 02:48:03 PM ---I too was obsessed. I mostly called CP. I called for almost 3 years about my POI. 90% of the psychics said he was my soulmate and not to worry, the only person he would marry would be me. Forward 4 years later and he is married with 3 kids.
I was beyond devestated when he married this other girl. When I found out he was engaged, all the psychics changed their tune. Then it became "oh we saw this happening but he brought it upon himself because he was afraid of his feelings for you". I went on a bender after his engagement. I kept calling and calling and the psychics assured me even though he was engaged, they didn't see him getting married. I could go on and on but you get the point. The day he got married, I stayed in bed for 4 days with the lights off, that's how devestated I was.
Although the pain was horrible, it also allowed me to finally let him go. He was with someone else and even though I trusted the psychics blindly, I realized it was a business and having me call over and over again just filling their pockets with money. I felt like such a fool.
the only good part is that through my heartbreak, I met my husband. We were just friends but he was also there for me when I was on the floor in pain.
To be honest and I would never admit this to anyone, I don't feel for my husband what I feel for my ex. Maybe it was the longing and the drama of it all that kept it like a challenge for me. But with my husband comes security, happiness, no crying and I feel like I am home with him.
Do I still think about my ex once in a while and think about what could have been? Yes, once in a while. Am I over him? I can honestly say yes. Just give it time. I have been there. I know the sadness you feel and the longing. But one door closed for me and another opened, which was the better door.
My husband went through hoops to be with me. My ex never did and I realized I was with the better man. My husband isn't the most exciting person in the world but he is kind, devoted and loves me so much.
One thing I learned through the years is if someone wants to be with you, they will be with you. I relied on the psychics way too much and took their word as gospel. That in turn kept me in a viscious cycle of constantly calling to seek reassurance.
The worst part for me is even after my ex got married and had his 1st child, the psychics said oh his marriage isn't going to last. Even in my despair, they still led me on. But I am happy to say, I haven't called a psychic in 3 years and have no desire to.
I know it doesn't seem like it now but one day you will feel better and you will let go.
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Wow what a great story. I'm sorry for what you went through and I'm going through that right now. Its been almost a year since I've spoken to my POI and had been calling keen multiple times per week until last week when I had an epiphany and cancelled my keen account. You are totally right....if a man wants to be with a woman, he will do whatever it takes to be with her. All I did this past year was delay my healing with false hope given to me by countless psychics and a big dent in my bank account and credit card. I'm trying to let go and live my life now...in the present. Not worrying about the past or future. It is hard and not a day goes by I don't think about this man, but not calling keen has helped. I'm so mad at myself for spending so much money the past year, I literally could've taken a nice European vacation, maybe even 2 with the amount I've spent. At this point he could be engaged or married, who knows. I just want to live my life and be happy. I've finally started to accept he may never come back and even if he did it may not be in the way I'd want. And I'm going to live my life as if he's not coming back. I truly believe everything happens for a reason and I very much believe something better is going to come along for me. I'm going to hold on to that, not what some random psychic tells me. We all have a choice in life, and I choose to move on from this no matter how long or how hard it is.
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