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Bella:
Hi,
First off, Decibel, your sharing throughout the last year has helped me tremendously. I kid you not. Your sharing of your psychic experiences helped me to come to terms with my own psychic addiction.
So for that I thank you. We are all here for a reason. To share. And I am grateful. Even though the sharing started with and unfortunately ended with heartbreak and empty pockets....lol.
But what you and Sunandmooon stated that previous breakups never had the same effect that these particular ones do....the ones that start us calling. I don't know, and I can only speak for myself, but in my case, I have been through marriage, kids, and after a really long time it ended. It sucked, it hurt, my dreams for my future and family life took a dramatic turn. One that I never wanted, but in the end, it was for the best. But I never looked back. As long as it took me to heal, I did it. And it took a while. So why is this one different?
I guess for *ME* it was while I was married I saw the demise...I lived it. This one? No, I didn't see it coming. AT ALL. Thinking back, I can only see maybe one or two things that maybe I missed. I WANTED this relationship. I LOVED this man. Totally and unconditionally. And the fact that he didn't feel the same while I was so in LOVE....I think that is what did it. For me anyway. I just couldn't handle it. And at this point it really doesn't matter what he wanted, did, said, or whatever. What matters is how I couldn't come to grips with it. I can go on forever on how good I thought it was, my love for him, The things OMG that he led me to believe...Cause for all intents and purposes, thing were hunk dory....But in the end.....HE was done. I COULDN'T face it. and that is all. No matter how cruelly he ended it, the fact is, is that he DID. And yes, he never told me, but come on....after a few months of nothing? I should have seen it.. I should have....but I held on to what he said, and what the psychics told me....
And that brings me to what you and Sunandmoon said....Why this guy? But I honestly don't think it's this particular guy so to speak. It's ME. MY ego, for whatever reason. I didn't, as in my marriage see the end coming. Or want the end for that matter. I don't know. Maybe after my failed marriage and my dreams for that coming to an end, I couldn't face that happening again? But All I do know is that I need to work on me. Why would I let someone who didn't see my worth, make me feel so worthless? So worthless that I needed to pay someone on the phone to tell me that he loves me? When he obviously does not? Time does heal. It really does. However, this time, it seems to be taking way longer than expected......lol. My love for him is still there, yeah I hate to say it but it is. That just doesn't go away. But I know I have to move on and maybe find someone who will love me .
sagitira:
my heart goes out to all of you hurting same way :( i wish i didn't know how you guys feel but sadly i know very well. this one guy...that got us to start calling... :( wish i knew how long it would take to heal and move on completely not just in my head but let go of him in my heart...that still doesn't seem to listen to my brain that he wasn't meant to be with me...
sagitira:
kth you're right this is why i stopped with readings. it's much better now but still hurts perhaps with time this will lessen for us. i think i'm in the accepting phase :) just needs time but at least i won't be spending money - well throwing it down the toilet really cause calling psychics got me nowhere lol just caused me to realise i was totally wasting my money...
wish i could take all the pain away from us :) now i only hope that whatever is happening will be best for me in the long run..
sunandmoon:
Bella, maybe you've hit on the common theme - the unexpected breakup? That is certainly what happened to me and because I was so upset about everything I had done to give him what he wanted only to find out he didn't seem to wanted it after all. And then kind of forgot to send me the memo.
Bella:
Hi all,
I wasn't sure of posting this or not....However, I found something out that the ex bf did, and was quite upsetting to me. It was something that was promised from him to me to do together. He NEEDED me to help him with this. Well it turns out he did it on his own, a year ago. When all the psychics were telling me how upset he was, depressed and so on, umm....from what he did, not so much.
You know, I do believe SOME have a gift in seeing things. I mean really, how could they know specifics? That raises the question on their ethics, alibilty, or who knows.
Let me give you an example....My ex husband and I have been apart for about 8 years now. For some stupid reason, he still pops up in my dreams...a lot. Now let's just say HE were calling a psychic...and let's say he called a gifted one....they might tell him that I "dream of him" umm. yeah unfortuantely I do. He was a significant part of my life, we have children together, we were together for a ton of years. But I wouln't trust him as far as I could throw him, and with the weight he's gained, it wouldn't be too far. HOWEVER, my point is, is that they would pick that fact up, that I dream of him...And they would more than likely misinpterpret it. Because believe me, I WOULD NEVER EVER GET BACK WITH HIM. But they would tell him how I dream of him, and sometimes think of him, (which I do, but not always in a positive way) Sometimes, because of our past, I do think of him to tell him something about a mutual friend or whatnot...or because on of our children..or because I get all melancholy at times....Maybe they would give him those words and look into it like I want him back???? Do I still love him? Yes, but not in THAT way. I love him because of the years we spent, I KNOW him. But in no way shape or form, in a romantic way. I do at times miss "My family" . But that does NOT mean I want him back. EVER. But I imagine me, calling about the ex b/f, and hearing that he dreams of me?????!!!????!!! OMG doesn't that sound great? It sounds like he wants me!!!! When in reality, he does not....
So that leads me to my current readings on the ex b/f who was such a coward. Does he feel bad? Probably, cause you would have to be less than human to think or feel how you DIDN'T end things was nice. Does he miss me? Maybe, I was good to him, and we had a lot of good times. Does that mean he wants me back or in his life now????? Ummm... NO. It does not. It doesn't mean anything.
The fact that, and I am going out on a limb here, He misses me, feels so bad about what he did, that means NOTHING for my future. Means nothing in so far as predictions. We all miss someone, we all realize something was good, but that doesn't mean THEY want to go back to that AT ALL!!!
So yeah, they might be gifted in the past or possibly the current....I mean really WTF are we all looking for, for them to be God? Isn't it enough that you can call a complete stranger on the phone and they can tell you about your past? I think that is amazing. To get SPECIFICS!?! WOW. I know I have been blown away with certain things a few times....
The unethical ones that are just so cruel and out for the money who string people along should really just burn in hell, if you ask me. To use their gift for money, no matter who they hurt. And yes, I have been strung along too. But I allowed myself to be. However, the people that they really rip off and cause irrefutable, irreparable damage to....my heart goes out to them.
The problem is is that for *ME* I honestly thought what they said was real..what they said would happen would, they knew so much... It's like a needle in your arm....Just as damaging. But that call, that band aid feels good when you're hurting...
I still honestly don't know how some people have had things happen for them.. I am just jealous I guess. lol.
Lesson for me, is never ever think it is more than "for entertainment purposes only". Never ever put stock in what they say. If they pick up on something, then wow, isn't that cool....I just wish it wasn't so costly, in an emotional and monetary way.
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