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sagitira:
being the other woman is terrible...i know as i'm in the same situation :( sadly...i never planned it and he is not married but he has a gf..:( . i've never been in this situation before but i tell you this, 2 years passed and i'm still stuck in the same situation...yes there were promises..did he keep them? no...why? i believe they are too comfortable to leave, if he has been with her longer it's habit, comfort, other obligations that make it hard for them to just up and leave...stupid me for not even thinking about it before i entered this relationship. if i could turn back time..i would run away as far as possible from him.
my advise to you is this - run...cut all contact if you can..with me i cannot even cut contact we work together i have to see him daily and it's extremely painful..if you can..cut contact, it will hurt, but you will heal...2 things can happen:
1. he will realise during the no contact that he does indeed miss you and he will want to be with you, if he says that do not let him in until he does what he promises.
2. he will let you go...it will hurt but eventually it will be best thing that could happen to you...you know why? because you will know he has no intentions to leave the other woman and if you continued with him you will be where i am now - stuck and always the other woman, one who he will not aknowledge in the public or never introduce to his family.
i know it hurts but believe me...i'm going through same now...only now i decided to cut contact, only now after 2 years of crap, back and forth, promises and lot of pain, i am saying enough is enough i cannot continue to hurt myself this way.

those men are players. i learn that much. they are missing something in their relationship and looking for it elsewhere but they are not prepared to leave what they have. i believed psychics for 2 years when they told me he is coming back, they are going to split - 2 years...like and idiot...i am ashamed to say i spent thousands on them. money i will never see again. to hear fairy tales...

someone somewhere posted a website which i am very thankful for i have been reading through people's experiences and guess what, it helped me a lot, and i also saw that usually the other woman are those who lose out :( i think it's called http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/  thank you who posted it it's great stuff and kept me from messaging him instead i was reading through people's experiences and saw that those men are reallu EUM (emotionally unavailable men).

i'm sorry its probably not what you want to hear but i'd hate to see someone going through what i did and currently am going through. please try to be strong and do not allow him into your life if he still considers you as the other woman. you are priority and deserve to be number one in any relationship.
i wish you all the best

sagitira:
also want to add..do not listen to what psychics predict. some members here helped me as well and yes some psychics are able to pick up past and current issues but so far predictions wise i don't know if there is any member here who had their full outcome come to pass. so if you do have  a reading maybe ask for current issues but always better to ask the person directly what he feels then base your decisions on that. you will save yourself thousands plus you will also save yourself a lot of grief waiting for predictions to happen only to find out months later that the psychics were wrong. it's a destructive feeling which sent me deep into depression earlier this year. please be wise when relying on predictions.

hope4love:
I think the others have said it very well so I won't add anything further other than life is complicated and you don't deserve to be judged. I agree that it's a good idea to stop calling readers because we've all been down that road where we get all these wonderful predictions and nothing happens.
Yes, have a good talk with this man and if he's serious, he'll make steps to end his marriage. Otherwise, it will be nothing but heartache and I agree with Somnus about the term soulmate. Soulmates come into our lives to teach us a lesson and we don't always end up with that soulmate. (often a good thing)
If you're unhappy in your marriage, it's important to take an honest look at it. Life is too short to be in a crappy relationship.

Calypso 13:
Point blank,  readings keep you holding on to something and keep your eyes closed from reality.

There is so much more power in owning the whole situation,  taking a good hard look at it,  and making a decision based on what you see.

Because when you come to the realization that psychics have failed you, it will hurt less.

In the end, I walked away from the guy I originally called about 2 years ago. Yes he came back, but not for a relationship. More like a casual, lets see where this goes, I'm not ready type deal.

uh no...I've grown way too much from that heartbreak to put myself in such a situation.
He wanted a casual relationship.

Zee:

--- Quote ---Point blank,  readings keep you holding on to something and keep your eyes closed from reality.
--- End quote ---

This is so true and it's in part due to TPReview site which has helped many ween themselves from readings. When you read what others have gone through, when you see that others have been in your place and your life is how you make it, not some reader, you tend to get readings less and less.  I can only speak for myself and that is what has helped me because truthfully readers aren't half of what they claim to be. My belief in them has dwindled soooooo much, I can't even tell you.

I still get the occasional read though.  I use readers to get other options, when I can't make a decision myself, but I am the one to make the final decision and if you find an ethical reader, they may also give suggestions as to a direction that may be more beneficial.

If nothing else from this site, you'll figure out much quicker who the fake and frauds are.

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