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My Story
chrys:
I am probably going to be hated after my story but I am the "other women". I didn't really mean to be or start out to be that way. To start off I will let you know that I am married. I have been with my husband for 8 years. Right before thanksgiving of last year we got into a huge fight and I left the house very upset. I went to a local casino where I met up with some friends that were there. A married couple and a married male friend. We were all drinking and talking and the male friend asked if anyone wanted to go play pool. The married couple baled but because I was not ready to go home I went with him. We shot pool and drank and talked then we went outside to leave and were talking and he called me pretty. I couldn't help myself so I kissed him and then went home with him to his apt. I had never done anything like this before. It just seemed that we were so connected. Our spouses are distant and not very caring. My husband has never told me that I was pretty. So it really freaked me out and I just chalked it up to being drunk. Well over the next few weeks we started hanging out once a week and talking and pretty soon it happened again. Now it is a full blown fling and I can't seem to stop seeing him. We have both tried. After it first happened I was so freaked out I started calling psychic source and talking to everyone on there trying to figure out what it all meant. Now I think I have fallen in love with him and I don't know how he feels about me. Now I am spending money that I really don't have to talk to other people about how he feels about me. I think I have read with pretty much everyone on PS and CP and some of them have been very accurate. Things have been a little harder to be able to see him because he lost his license for the next 5 months and I have been worried that he will use this as and excuse to stop seeing me so I have increased my calls to psychics just to find out when the next time I will see him will be. We never talk about feeling. He did say once that he loved many things about me. Once he said that when we divorced our spouses and married each other he would change my mind about my choice in football teams.
Recent Call Reviews
PS Amy* She told me that I would get to be with him again on Sunday and I was. She also told me that he was in love with me and would want to get out of his relationship and would start talking to me more in January. I told her if he hasn't expressed his feelings in a year I don't think he is going to start.
CP Abrielle* She told me also that I would see him in 5-8 days and we did get to connect. She also told me that he was in love with me and would start to show and tell it more come around the first of the year.
CP Jean* She freaked me out. She told me that I would be in a solid relationship with someone by Mar 10 and married by the end of next year. When I told her that I was already married, she just laughed and said we will see. I don't believe this one at all.
Now it feels like I am stuck calling psychics to try and figure out when I am going to see him again and see how he is feeling about me. I feel like a complete schmuck but I can't seem to stop seeing him. I have tried. Abrielle believes that this is a SM connection. :o :o
Synergy:
Welcome to the forum!! Don't worry about being "judged" or hated. Life is complicated. Thank you for sharing your story. I wish you the best and hope you can break the psychic cycle.
--- Quote from: chrysraihl on December 17, 2013, 03:49:55 PM ---I am probably going to be hated after my story but I am the "other women". I didn't really mean to be or start out to be that way. To start off I will let you know that I am married. I have been with my husband for 8 years. Right before thanksgiving of last year we got into a huge fight and I left the house very upset. I went to a local casino where I met up with some friends that were there. A married couple and a married male friend. We were all drinking and talking and the male friend asked if anyone wanted to go play pool. The married couple baled but because I was not ready to go home I went with him. We shot pool and drank and talked then we went outside to leave and were talking and he called me pretty. I couldn't help myself so I kissed him and then went home with him to his apt. I had never done anything like this before. It just seemed that we were so connected. Our spouses are distant and not very caring. My husband has never told me that I was pretty. So it really freaked me out and I just chalked it up to being drunk. Well over the next few weeks we started hanging out once a week and talking and pretty soon it happened again. Now it is a full blown fling and I can't seem to stop seeing him. We have both tried. After it first happened I was so freaked out I started calling psychic source and talking to everyone on there trying to figure out what it all meant. Now I think I have fallen in love with him and I don't know how he feels about me. Now I am spending money that I really don't have to talk to other people about how he feels about me. I think I have read with pretty much everyone on PS and CP and some of them have been very accurate. Things have been a little harder to be able to see him because he lost his license for the next 5 months and I have been worried that he will use this as and excuse to stop seeing me so I have increased my calls to psychics just to find out when the next time I will see him will be. We never talk about feeling. He did say once that he loved many things about me. Once he said that when we divorced our spouses and married each other he would change my mind about my choice in football teams.
Recent Call Reviews
PS Amy* She told me that I would get to be with him again on Sunday and I was. She also told me that he was in love with me and would want to get out of his relationship and would start talking to me more in January. I told her if he hasn't expressed his feelings in a year I don't think he is going to start.
CP Abrielle* She told me also that I would see him in 5-8 days and we did get to connect. She also told me that he was in love with me and would start to show and tell it more come around the first of the year.
CP Jean* She freaked me out. She told me that I would be in a solid relationship with someone by Mar 10 and married by the end of next year. When I told her that I was already married, she just laughed and said we will see. I don't believe this one at all.
Now it feels like I am stuck calling psychics to try and figure out when I am going to see him again and see how he is feeling about me. I feel like a complete schmuck but I can't seem to stop seeing him. I have tried. Abrielle believes that this is a SM connection. :o :o
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divine wishes:
hi. thank you for sharing your story. this is your life and your experience, don't sweat being judged.
melancholia:
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Here's the advice I would give to you - decide whether or not you can handle being in love with him and accepting that it's not going to go anywhere now, before it gets any more serious. The chances of him leaving are very small, and most psychics will either feed you a fairytale of him leaving his wife or, if they're feeling particularly judgmental, will tell you to leave because he's a lying cheating scummy person and you should be doing better.
And honestly, you should be doing better, but that doesn't make him (or you) a scummy person. But what I will tell you is that if he's going to leave his wife, the only way you'll know for sure is to sit down and have a serious conversation with him about feelings. And yes, that's terrifying. And yes, there's a very good chance you're going to hear something you don't want to hear. Do it anyway. But stop calling the psychics - the married man I was involved with? Abrielle called him my soulmate too. Now she's saying my current boyfriend is my soulmate. It's a meaningless term. A soulmate is simply someone who was dropped into your life to teach you a lesson and to be taught a lesson by you - that's all.
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Take stock of your current life, excluding him. Are you happy with your husband? Is your relationship with your husband salvageable? If so, start working on that and you will get over your current boyfriend. If not, then focus on getting out of that relationship and spending some time being single, or have fun with the current boyfriend and see where it goes. But don't put too many expectations on him, because married men are notoriously good at talking and notoriously bad at following through.
I'm not judging you, for the record - I'm just saying all the things I wish someone had said to me four years ago. The heart wants what the heart wants. Just make sure that you know what you want, and don't let a psychic string you along giving you false hope and influencing your decisions.
--- Quote from: chrysraihl on December 17, 2013, 03:49:55 PM ---I am probably going to be hated after my story but I am the "other women". I didn't really mean to be or start out to be that way. To start off I will let you know that I am married. I have been with my husband for 8 years. Right before thanksgiving of last year we got into a huge fight and I left the house very upset. I went to a local casino where I met up with some friends that were there. A married couple and a married male friend. We were all drinking and talking and the male friend asked if anyone wanted to go play pool. The married couple baled but because I was not ready to go home I went with him. We shot pool and drank and talked then we went outside to leave and were talking and he called me pretty. I couldn't help myself so I kissed him and then went home with him to his apt. I had never done anything like this before. It just seemed that we were so connected. Our spouses are distant and not very caring. My husband has never told me that I was pretty. So it really freaked me out and I just chalked it up to being drunk. Well over the next few weeks we started hanging out once a week and talking and pretty soon it happened again. Now it is a full blown fling and I can't seem to stop seeing him. We have both tried. After it first happened I was so freaked out I started calling psychic source and talking to everyone on there trying to figure out what it all meant. Now I think I have fallen in love with him and I don't know how he feels about me. Now I am spending money that I really don't have to talk to other people about how he feels about me. I think I have read with pretty much everyone on PS and CP and some of them have been very accurate. Things have been a little harder to be able to see him because he lost his license for the next 5 months and I have been worried that he will use this as and excuse to stop seeing me so I have increased my calls to psychics just to find out when the next time I will see him will be. We never talk about feeling. He did say once that he loved many things about me. Once he said that when we divorced our spouses and married each other he would change my mind about my choice in football teams.
Recent Call Reviews
PS Amy* She told me that I would get to be with him again on Sunday and I was. She also told me that he was in love with me and would want to get out of his relationship and would start talking to me more in January. I told her if he hasn't expressed his feelings in a year I don't think he is going to start.
CP Abrielle* She told me also that I would see him in 5-8 days and we did get to connect. She also told me that he was in love with me and would start to show and tell it more come around the first of the year.
CP Jean* She freaked me out. She told me that I would be in a solid relationship with someone by Mar 10 and married by the end of next year. When I told her that I was already married, she just laughed and said we will see. I don't believe this one at all.
Now it feels like I am stuck calling psychics to try and figure out when I am going to see him again and see how he is feeling about me. I feel like a complete schmuck but I can't seem to stop seeing him. I have tried. Abrielle believes that this is a SM connection. :o :o
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Calypso 13:
Well said Somnus!
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