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Is anyone else feeling shitty like me

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cj:
Im trying..all I want so badly is for me to be happy.

positivethoughts:
Cjean - Over the past 5 years I've been in your shoes 100 times. It totally sucks but it will get better. I know fri or sat PM can be hard. My old therapist told me to stop looking @ weekend nights as date nights. If I have a free weekend night - clean a closet, read a book, journal thoughts down on paper. I know it sounds simple and silly but after trying it a few times it really helped. That plus a big glass of wine does wonders. hang in there.
pt

cm12345:
cjean- I totally agree with pt...I have been working with  a metaphysical healer who works with helping you change your energy and he says everytime you look ahead or try to think when something will or won't happen, that is a prediction.  It's okay to have them but my problem (and I'm sure others too) are that I started acting on my predictions.  Like for instance, if I didn't hear from sm in a week i would think omg, he doesn't want to talk to me and be depressed(prediction) or if I was feeling sad and thought that I would never see sm or be happy again I would freak (predicition).  Predictions are okay if you don't act on them, instead be okay with "the moment", what is happening right now, not later, in a day, etc.  Trust me, it is not easy to begin to think like this but I can tell you I have been working on it....I have had scenarios and predictions in my mind for so long and have made myself nuts on things I "thought" but had no reality.  I used to call CP several times a week since the fall and I can honestly say, I have cut waaaaay back on calling because I am just trying to work on what I'm currently feeling or what is currently happening, not what will happen.    I figured I had to change my way of thinking because the way I used to be wasn't working for me and making me crazy.  I don't know if this is related to any of the work I've been doing on myself but sm and I haven't really talked much other than a "hey how are you doing" but the other night when i sent him a "hey, how are you doing" we began talking and he began to slowly open up about his feelings for me....NEVER EVER has this happened in the past!!  Usually, I would begin to plan when I'm going to talk to him or see him again and start thinking about the things that can happen between us but I will say that I am just happy that he is opening up and I am okay with that for now.  I'm not going to freak if I don't hear from him for a while because at least I know how he feels and for now, that is good enough for me!! :)

jb27:
PT and CM both very wise words!! I too have cut back on my calling. Just trying to let things unfold on there own still up and down at times but it takes time!!

positivethoughts:
cm12345 - that's good news about his feelings!! Fill us in...........

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