Hi tellmywhy:
Yes! I have actually read with Lynn Miller twice now and I wish I had listened to her. I called her because I was seriously infatuated with a man I had met when I went on vacation in 2012. We did eventually start dating but very soon into the relationship I saw negative (red flags) that I chose to ignore. I called Lynn right when this was starting to happen. Let me backup a little here. Part of the reason for his behavior was due to a legal issue he was going through and I thought that once that ordeal was over in his life things would be all rosy. Lynn made it very clear that his abusive behavior, which was verbal, would only not end but would escalate. Trust me - I did not want to believe her but I am sad to say she was right and after 14 months, as of this past July, our relationship is no longer. She predicted the end of the relationship also.
Looking back I really do wish I had listened more closely to her because healing from the hurt is and has been very difficult even though he was a mean jerk at times.....I guess what I am trying to say is that there is more hurt to heal from and there is a part of me that is disappointed in myself for staying as long as I did.
Bridgee