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« Last post by Mina on June 14, 2026, 06:03:20 AM »
I restarted therapy in May with someone I saw back in 2024 and I liked him a lot. We had about 12 sessions back then and It took until this May plus 2 yr break to really come clean with my psychic dependency.
He has me write out the heaviest feeling or thought I had for the day and explain why I came that feeling/thought. Then about two weeks ago he said he wanted me to practice being bored… and I think yesterday I finally did it! And it was extremely uncomfortable! But I woke up today so peaceful and it’s happening more often. I was working and the company Bluetooth car was not working! I couldn’t escape to my podcast while driving around, or listen to my favorite indie pop of music feels. Everyone else took care of what needed to be done… and I didn’t realize until I came home I was bored today. I scrolled my usual psychics but was also just over it, of course I thought of SP but after watching “worst ex” on Netflix and being late to my middle age tru crime era- yeah no I’m good. I got to my emotional HW assignment and realized yeah I was bored today.
Then I googled something, what about bored when gambling? (Since gambling is often compared totally this) And I found that there are studies of pathological gamblers in therapy to practice being bored; not just bored- bored tolerant!
Because with boredom becomes then comes peace.
And I am seeing it makes sense too. The chemical concoctions of chasing dopamine, oxytocin, norepinephrine, serotonin, cortisol- and the crash when they’re depleted… but when a new baseline is established- huh! Boredom. A healthy baseline for chaotic emotions is boredom. When you also think about every disclaimer “for entertainment purposes” huh maybe there is this inner boredom within that might be uncomfortable to touch and just sit with.
I use to be firm believer that to quit you have to make your habits more exciting than what drives you to call and now I’m seeing… that could be a bit of disservice. Sure in the beginning it could help, but for longstanding skills:
practice feeling bored
… and don’t do d 🍆 about it.
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