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maggs30:
To be clear he said that this is 100% to do with his daughter. In his words this was the second Christmas that he could not see her and there will not be a third. He said that he needs to be stable in his life to give his daughter something stable. He does not know how long he will be doing this for but from the sounds of it it will not be for a year. The situation his daughter is in is really far from ideal or stable at all. He told me in his words that it is selfish of him to even think about having a relationship and being happy when she's in that situation. He's afraid that either she may not want him in her life or that if she does she would want nobody else around him. In the state of Texas she cannot choose who she wants to live with until she is 12 currently she is eight. Will he choose to stay in contact with me? I don't know. Sure as hell hope so. As I was leaving I told him boo you're killing me. His response was to hug me tighter. He also told me that his daughter has repeatedly asked him lately to just quit his job so he can see her. It breaks my heart and it breaks his heart to.
Fidget1028:
--- Quote from: maggs30 on January 11, 2020, 08:31:56 AM ---To be clear he said that this is 100% to do with his daughter. In his words this was the second Christmas that he could not see her and there will not be a third. He said that he needs to be stable in his life to give his daughter something stable. He does not know how long he will be doing this for but from the sounds of it it will not be for a year. The situation his daughter is in is really far from ideal or stable at all. He told me in his words that it is selfish of him to even think about having a relationship and being happy when she's in that situation. He's afraid that either she may not want him in her life or that if she does she would want nobody else around him. In the state of Texas she cannot choose who she wants to live with until she is 12 currently she is eight. Will he choose to stay in contact with me? I don't know. Sure as hell hope so. As I was leaving I told him boo you're killing me. His response was to hug me tighter. He also told me that his daughter has repeatedly asked him lately to just quit his job so he can see her. It breaks my heart and it breaks his heart to.
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Maggs, if you want to talk, PM me. I was a stepparent for years before being a parent. What I can tell you is that he is doing the right thing, as painful as that sounds. I can also say that it is wrong to put the burden of choosing a parent on a child...whether they are 8, 12, or 17. You never want to go that route and a good family court will highly discourage that. It's complicated and painful and I've been down that road, so I do sees things through experience. Be kind to yourself and feel free to hit me up. I'm so sorry for your pain.
beachgal214:
Maggs I am SOO sorry about the pain you are in. That is devastating I can imagine hard to fathom, hard to breathe, the anxiety you feel. I wish you both the best outcome. life can be so hard. Everyone on their own journeys and sometimes the pieces have a hard time coming together. Feel free to PM me as well if you need a sounding board <3
sexyp:
did Barbara miss this?
maggs30:
Barbara said nothing about a move or job change. The only mention of a move was in June she said he wants to make a move. Most recently on Dec 30th she ask of we had an argument. No we didn't. She said it will balance out she sees us tied up together in a partnership. That he does care and sees 3 kids with is. His one and my two I assume. The person that got this the closest was Kate. As soon as I walked into his apartment Kate's words haunted me and I got the pit in my stomach when I saw no throw rugs no couch no kitchen appliances. She said she got around Valentines day for some sort of judgement in his favor freeing him up to be in a different location for better work. She assured me he wasn't moving far. Today he talked of starting in west Texas then Louisiana then on to Ohio. Ohio is fucking far from Texas!
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