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LadyPersephone
sawthelight:
That is interesting she told you that, since she seems to lean more toward the whole "back off and move on" approach....
I do agree that predictions don't really seem to be her strong point.
It's up to you to see if you feel comfortable to continue to communicate with him, maybe just keep it real light and casual with no talk of your relationship and where it is going, etc....
Nala208111:
I think its what your comfortable with and what your gut tells you....
I have had readers tell me both, not to contact or too contact.. or same thing... if i reach out then it will speed things up, if i dont i'll just have to wait it out.....
Always go with what u feel is right not friends or readers..... its hard not to let readers influence you but its so important to take it at surface value and use that they say with your own intuition.
No one knows better than you.....
me personally in my situation i had reached out few times...(3) .. which i feel is reasonable.. with responses 2 out of the three.. but that's not the kind of relationship i want or a norm for us in the past....remember you train people how to treat you. I know for my ex if he is into it... he'll be the one reaching out.. so for me i gave him my side of things... he knows where to find me.. and for me, for things to go forward i need him to step up and be the one to reach out without prompting..... this way it'll validate for me - he's in this again.... I'm prepared that if he doesn't than he's not worth it...
So go with your gut! regardless of who tells you what to do. :)
cappy:
Thank you for the advice.
It was interesting...lp made it seem like he was attached for validation and not really having any feelings for her..said he would most definitely be back around but if I started talking to him it would be faster than if I left him alone...
I guess I'm so used to people always telling you not to contact your poi... That I was a little bit surprised to hear someone say reach out and try to keep in touch that's why I asked this for him what it's like to follow her advice because it's definitely not the advice I'm used to hearing from friends or family or anyone in general
cappy:
Oops sorry it reposted my old Post..
Nala and Presence
Thank you for your message !
You are right this is not an ordinary situation actually for one the guy actually had the decency and the honesty to let me know how his feelings for his ex were inhibiting him to commit to me... I am sure that he gains something from this girl ... Especially since he cannot cut her out and my whole approach was until you get over her we really should not be speaking or seeing each other and I only did that for my own self worth and so that he knows that I will not play second fiddle but now I'm starting to feel like maybe lady Persephone may have a point and being in the background to him just being his friend he may start wanting to come closer as we tried this approach about a month ago and within one week of communicating he wanted to see me and I actually did see him but he then told me that it was a selfish move on his part because he's still not over his ex girlfriend.. Personally I think he has romanticized their relationship and has placed her on a pedestal that the girl does not deserve I think she's actually stringing him along a little bit and therefore he has a little bit of Hope even though rationally and pragmatically there is absolutely no way that they would get back together and he's actually even said that given the logistics and the fact that they don't want to do long distance relationships my assumption is that things were not perfect and that's what lady Persephone also implied eventually he will be ready to let her go I just have to figure out how long I'm willing to let things play out in the meantime I have tried going on other dates and trying to focus on myself it was just a very interesting reading in a very different perspective I really appreciate you guys being so empathetic and compassionate to me! 😊
marciamia:
--- Quote from: cappy on February 26, 2018, 01:32:48 PM ---Oops sorry it reposted my old Post..
Nala and Presence
Thank you for your message !
You are right this is not an ordinary situation actually for one the guy actually had the decency and the honesty to let me know how his feelings for his ex were inhibiting him to commit to me... I am sure that he gains something from this girl ... Especially since he cannot cut her out and my whole approach was until you get over her we really should not be speaking or seeing each other and I only did that for my own self worth and so that he knows that I will not play second fiddle but now I'm starting to feel like maybe lady Persephone may have a point and being in the background to him just being his friend he may start wanting to come closer as we tried this approach about a month ago and within one week of communicating he wanted to see me and I actually did see him but he then told me that it was a selfish move on his part because he's still not over his ex girlfriend.. Personally I think he has romanticized their relationship and has placed her on a pedestal that the girl does not deserve I think she's actually stringing him along a little bit and therefore he has a little bit of Hope even though rationally and pragmatically there is absolutely no way that they would get back together and he's actually even said that given the logistics and the fact that they don't want to do long distance relationships my assumption is that things were not perfect and that's what lady Persephone also implied eventually he will be ready to let her go I just have to figure out how long I'm willing to let things play out in the meantime I have tried going on other dates and trying to focus on myself it was just a very interesting reading in a very different perspective I really appreciate you guys being so empathetic and compassionate to me! 😊
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This guy sounds like someone I met over the summer!! :o If you don’t mind me asking, where do you live? You can PM me if you’d like but I’m really curious about this dude lol
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