Thanks @jag! I agree. I mean I know he cares, we have talked- we just have complicated present situation(s) which makes it impossible to be together - and I think we're both hurting. At least thats what he told me. Emotionally unavailable, unavailable etc - its all complicated and every situation is so different. I do think feelings are incredibly strong and scared him at first. I am also not denying the lack of action. but when I take a step back I think, what do I expect?? So moving on is really my option for now and the future can hold what it will hold
anyway thank you, jag, appreciated a males prospective
@NJlady - I know this is an open forum free for public comments but I was giving a review of a reader, not posting in an ask abby or something where I was soliciting advice. Your comment was not productive nor your opinion necessary. Hes not throwing me scraps, im not a hungry dog (but thanks for the rude comparison), Im not treating myself badly and that is not always true that a guy will do whatever it takes. Same could be true for the woman and he and I are both in the same boat, giving each other the same treatment. Love does not always win out - Often times extenuating circumstances can pose challenges. Again - I was posting a review. Not seeking advice or seeking someone to tell me no-one is going to stick up for me. Looks like Jag did and I appreciate that. Whatever happened to if you don't have anything nice don't say it all? I really don't know why you jumped on my post from November...
No one is going to stick up for you but you. It doesn't matter what anyone is telling you ... the facts are this guy is throwing you scraps and you're waiting at the door like a hungry dog. It doesn't matter if he is emotionally available or not. You and he are both treating you badly. If a man really wants a woman he will do whatever it takes to get her. Look at what he is doing. He is not the man for you. Cut him loose.
