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Wait for contact or make contact?
sawthelight:
For me, I never reached out to first poi after I stopped communicating with him. I was tempted to many times, but then I reminded myself that his silence was kind of my answer.....At this point, it’s been so long, but I’m not tempted to anymore.
Of course, everyone is different and it depends on your individual situation.
Girly1998:
--- Quote from: sawthelight on July 28, 2019, 12:39:14 PM ---For me, I never reached out to first poi after I stopped communicating with him. I was tempted to many times, but then I reminded myself that his silence was kind of my answer.....At this point, it’s been so long, but I’m not tempted to anymore.
Of course, everyone is different and it depends on your individual situation.
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I feel like this is the case for most. I just feel like a lot of the time, from experience and others stories, the other person doesn’t reach out for the same reason you don’t. They may also think that bridge is burned.
Good for you for not wanting to anymore though! It really is such a freeing feeling when you just no longer care about someone you once was stuck on.
Girly1998:
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--- Quote from: Still tired on July 28, 2019, 09:49:05 AM ---I tried to make contact and it backfired horribly. All of the male psychics I spoke with told me not to and they were right. Some female psychics suggested I contact him and even told me what to say and predicted how he would respond. They were dead wrong.
Every situation is different. You just have to go with your own instincts on what to do.
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Curious how did it backfire? I don’t understand. Are you meaning it didn’t go the way you expected?
Do think it would’ve been better not to reach out and never know anything? I guess (to me) I wouldn’t reach out if I moved on and wasn’t waiting on contact ..otherwise if I’m waiting I’d have to put myself out of misery no matter if it wasn’t something I didn’t want to hear
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Also, how did you reach out and how long were you out of contact? Was your gut telling you not to reach out? What female psychic told you to initiate the communication?
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I wrote to him and at that point it had been about 6 or 7 months. Angelica (Angelbaby) and Judi both suggested contacting him, and some other female psychics, I don't remember their names. Angelica's advice was what backfired the worst. He lashed out in a really nasty way. Yes my gut was telling me not to do it.
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Ouch :( I’m sorry. Was that out of character for him or did you expect that kind of response?
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It was totally in character and I prety much expected it, but it still took me by surprise how nasty it was.
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6-7 months and he was still nasty? I don’t know what your situation was with him or how it ended but if someone is still hateful that long after then that speaks volumes. I hope that provided some closure for you!
sawthelight:
Well I still care....i really had intense feelings for him, and they haven’t gone away believe it or not...I just don’t have the desire to reach out. I figure if he wanted to speak, he could make the effort....
Girly1998:
--- Quote from: sawthelight on July 28, 2019, 12:57:19 PM ---Well I still care....i really had intense feelings for him, and they haven’t gone away believe it or not...I just don’t have the desire to reach out. I figure if he wanted to speak, he could make the effort....
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It goes both ways too though! I agree with Sparkle on it being better to reach out and know than to not and be left wondering. If your gut tells you no then I’d say leave it but if you think there’s even a possibility then go for it. At the end of the day, you won’t lose anything.
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