I had a few readers (on my first POI) tell me "don't give up" and the like, even though it was causing me intense emotional pain to be in that situation. That's what made me believe that things would change with him and get better, and they would, very temporarily . But it was always back to square one, eventually.
It's hard to let go when you are in love with someone. You really don't want to give up on that hope and the person..but sometimes, you have to.
Yes! Most of the readers I talked to in the beginning said things like don't give up...you'll be glad you waited for him...you won't really be happy with someone else. They encouraged me to keep hanging on. I listened because they had psychic ability so I thought they were right. I thought they were "seeing" it you know not just giving their opinion or giving me scripted BS.
One knew exactly what all of this was doing to me and was sending me messages and free minutes to be helpful but even then...she kept extending timelines saying he's still coming back, don't give up, give it more time. I mean she actually pleaded with me not to give up on him! She knew how much it was making me suffer to keep hearing those predictions ...but she kept giving them to me anyway. Even a few years later when I contacted her one last time she still said he was coming back. By that time I realized she had some sort of mental problem if she was still telling me that.
I had that happen too..all Keen readers also. I think that's another reason why I hate Keen so much..not all readers told me that though, some actually told me to move ahead because it was causing me pain...but then it's like, well didn't you see it was going to cause me all this pain, why did you encourage me in the first place then?
I bet if I still called them today, about that guy, they would still tell me he's coming back LOL...
Oh I'm sure some would still tell me he is coming back! Some would always say it may take a long time but it will still happen! They would say all my predictions happen eventually don't get so hung up on timing. And even the people here on this forum want to be like, don't judge the reader until you allow time for predictions to pass. How many years have to go by before it's okay to decide the psychic was wrong. Uh, my ex is older than me (not to mention, I'm too old myself to waste time on this crap anymore)...are we finally gonna have the big reconciliat ion when he's in a nursing home?? Some of them really believe you should wait around for that!
But yeah...it was all Keen readers who said these things. No one outside of Keen. Readers outside of Keen weren't really any better...BU T there is a certain culture on Keen where they say similar things. They encourage people to hang on, then they either flip the predictions and tell you to move on, or they insist it's still going to happen, you just have to be patient. (Again, how many years need to go by before you qualify as patient? Lol)
Absolutely! I still can't believe how much time and energy I put into that first guy. I still get sad when I think about it! My first POI was considerabl y older than me too...and safe to say, set in his ways. I'm sure he's the same to this day.
I can only hope he feels somewhat remorseful about how he treated me sometimes. I'm not perfect, but I really tried to be understandi ng with him....but it got to the point where I was feeling like a doormat.
Look at that poor woman who calls Faerylady and others on Keen..she's been hanging onto false hope with a married man for ten years! She puts it all the feedback, I just cannot believe at some point she hasn't questioned what these readers are telling her!
It's so sad to see that happening to people. I figured out the worst readers would always have someone like that in their feedback! If they wanted to be taken seriously as a psychic, you'd think they would stop taking calls from those poor souls. I mean it's clear in those cases they have no scruples about what they are doing.
I know my ex felt remorse for the way he treated me, even before we broke up - which gave me reason to hope that things would change - but his remorse never stopped him or changed anything. Very set in his ways! I tried really hard to be understandi ng, because he has a mental illness. If I could do it over again I'd walk away because his problems were way bigger than what I could handle. It's not that I didn't care about him but I overestimat ed what I could cope with (aka, I was severely codependent .) And I underestima ted how bad his problems were, or how much he was hiding it from me, or how much he would attack me for addressing it.
I think some of these readers are codependent and they encourage people to wait and hang on and sacrifice their own happiness because that is how they live their own lives. It's what they know. And some really do have serious mental problems.
I'm sure you are right about this...and it's always easy to tell someone who is not "living through it" so to speak, to hold on to a devastating situation. They're not going through the daily heartache..
And if they are, you would think they would tell others to move on. that's why I don't encourage anyone here to hang on for a person who is not giving you what you are giving them...ther
e was a thread a few weeks ago about a girl whose POI told her he wants to date others or something, and I saw people telling her to hang on for her predictions
. I'm sorry, but if someone is TELLING YOU they want someone else, or other options, you need to have some self respect and move on. I say this because of what I went through. And my first guy never said any of that to me, but he did indicate he didn't see long term with me...but never mentioned anyone else...but still! And I still hung in there, and I don't want to see others go through the same.
I remember i had a bitwine reader basically tell me, he wants to be with you but remember you have a say in this too! and I appreciated that so much because I sometimes forgot I had a say in my own love life lol!
