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I'm in that place that I hate.

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mstiv:
Everyone reading this thread remember you are not alone :) most of us here are going through similar situations that are so painful and sometimes so hard to overcome! I totally agree with Miss Philospher that you have to reach that point where you feel fed up and drained from putting your all and not getting anything back. Not everyone might be there or even get to that point but if you do, try to see it as light shinning on you and guiding you towards a better, happier place where you come out stronger and wiser. Use your strength to pull you through... find what makes you happy again.. if you want to cry then cry, if you want to hide and not see anyone for some time then do so :) or if you feel like you would feel better talking to an advisor then do it too.. the key here is to not hold yourself back from venting or dealing with the situation in your own way. We are all different and handle things differently but I think one thing we all have in common is that we want to be us again.. be happy and joyful again. Even though we don’t know each other in person we are here for support, to empower each other to become better and overcome our situations whether it is through advisor tips or just lovely words of support and encouragement. I’m new here but I’ve been reading the comments and I feel so happy to see I am not alone and most importantly see that I have you’re  support. Sending everyone lots of love and a massive thank you for being so kind <3

sawthelight:

--- Quote from: Miss Philosopher on January 30, 2019, 03:38:05 PM ---I totally feel your pain and struggle with this. Something I began doing in the beginning of December that worked for me was that I just got completely frustrated and just had a real desire to be done with this whole situation as it's gone on for so long. I then started telling myself "It's done. It's over. I don't even care anymore. This is ridiculous. I don't have time for these games. I'm letting go of all hopes and expectations now. I'm tired of feeling this way. I want to let go of the situation now." I seriously repeated this to myself over and over each time I'd cry, or felt myself becoming angry about it all, or started thinking about him and the situation. It started to work for me a few days later. The hopes began to fade at a rapid pace. The emotional attachments did as well. It really does work but I think one has to get to that place where they are just so sick and tired of feeling the way they do and just waiting and waiting while the other person is just living their life NOT waiting for us.

It's like after I started doing that, a few weeks later this (expletive) begins communicating a lot more often, basically daily, asking me all kinds of questions like if I'm seeing someone etc. Then just last week asks me if we can mend things. And now, it's back to hardly any communication at all. Now I'M REALLY REALLY sick and tired of it and I will begin telling myself the same things as I did before and add in there "HE IS NOT EVER GOING TO CHANGE! NEVER!"..........and the next time the prick comes around filling me up with more empty words I won't even CONSIDER the words.

So yeah, repeating something to yourself sort of like trains your emotions and subconscious mind and honestly, it feels so freeing. If our predictions are to come to pass, they will either way, but at least you can be free from the emotional attachments to the situation that tend to slowly eat us up inside over time. Each time I feel like I need to get a reading or an update........I just ask myself "Is this dude REALLY worth all that? Not so much. I could be using this money on myself or saving it instead of squandering it on him." Essentially, that's what we are doing. We are spending money on these POIs and exes. Might as well just give them the money directly lol. It would be the same exact thing. I understand getting updates every 3 or 6 months, but I'm talkin about the binges and weekly and even monthly updates. We could be using that on ourselves instead of spending it on them. They don't appreciate it anyway LOL. They'd never appreciate the fact that we stressed so much over them that we called psychics. They'd just think we were lunatics. LOL.

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FREAKING LOVE THIS!!

poorprincess:
@Fidget, for what it is worth. I feel this way exactly. Thank you and everyone who has chimed in for being brave enough to share it and reminding someone like me that I am not alone. Hang in there, sending you all my positivity. There is this strange feeling of comfort in solidarity. <3 :)

jcanya:
I hope you get to "my place" one day where you stop with the readings and just live your life because things are going to happen whether a psychic tells you or not. all readings do is cause you anxiety over something that may or may not happen. remember how life was before you got hooked on readings? don't you miss that?

Fidget1028:
Thanks everyone for your kind responses. I know most people have been in "that place" and it's an ugly, ugly spot to be in. I'm good today. Sometimes it just sneaks up on you like a ton of bricks smacking you in the head. I don't want more readings. I really just want to be happy again. I was happy and alone after my divorce. It definitely is possible to be happy and alone. I have great friends, colleagues, kids, and extended family so I'm not "lonely". I actually fly pretty well solo, if I do say so myself. No answers, people who "ghost" you, unfinished business can really play with your head. I'm coming to the realization that moving ahead despite the "unfinished business" may just be the lesson that I have to learn. I need to not only forgive my POI for his running away and leaving me hanging, but I also have to forgive myself for my 2 year unhealthy reaction to it. I know I'm a good person with a good heart. I know that at some point this will be just a part of my history. I'm working very hard at letting go of the past as well as obsessing over the future. The here and now is what is important.

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