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Oh...Valentine
sawthelight:
--- Quote from: Fidget1028 on February 17, 2019, 06:23:29 PM ---Ok, I just had to jump online to say this. And please, take it with the love and concern I am sending it with.
It is not all because of her. IT IS BECAUSE OF HIM!! Men don't abuse verbally, physically, emotionally because an ex is holding a gun to their head and making them do it. He is a grown ass man who can make decisions for himself and you need to start putting the ownership where it belongs. On him! I'm sorry if this is harsh. Lord knows I had to let that whole idea sink into my thick skull a lot. Their actions are not the results of anyone else making them do it. Are some exes psychos? Sure. Can they meddle and cause a boatload of ****? Of course. But don't give him a free pass because of a bitter, nasty ex. He makes the decisions he makes. He needs to own it. And you need to hold him accountable for his own actions.
I hope you can find peace with it. I've thought heavily on it in my own situation. No relationshi p will ever work without personal accountabil ity...ours and theirs. We all need to just stop making excuses.
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Yes!!
Natashanyc:
Yesssss!!!!!!! And stop allowing these men to be with others and then come back to u like your door just is always open! Its PATHETIC and u are worth so much more !
sawthelight:
--- Quote from: Natashanyc on February 18, 2019, 05:16:06 AM ---Yesssss!!!!!!! And stop allowing these men to be with others and then come back to u like your door just is always open! Its PATHETIC and u are worth so much more !
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Exactly. Yes to this a thousand times over.
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