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HornetKick:
--- Quote from: Sparkle002 on January 26, 2020, 05:01:21 AM ---Right! But Im so not surprised because this has happened time and time again.
Ive heard that they go off of energy and if it isnt there they typically cant pick it up.
For example, when I first read about my first POI 1 (this original thread) - no one really predicted he was married or even saw the woman until time passed and I began to get to know him more....Cookie actually predicted this man into my life and saw that he was married before I even met him...I remember that reading I said "well I hope I wouldnt get involved with a married man!" well POI 1 wasnt technically married - had a wedding and all but didnt sign legal papers (this was confirmed)...but yeah it happens, unfortunately....at that time he was separating from here and didnt have feelings like that for her....but on the flipside, some readers didnt pick up the 3rd party even when the peoples POI was in love and engaged or got married to someone else! So Idk!
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I'm going to chime in here, but a couple of things seemed very unfortunate. Although he is married, be on the lookout if he starts saying negative things about his relationship and different ways it isn't working. If this doesn't happen his flirtations can be very, very fun and at times you'll forget his married. Honestly, many readers are going to spin a bigger fairytale of love, because that is probably the number 1 query they get as readers. Anytime it's the opposite sex, it's supposedly a relationship. Although someone mentioned on one of the threads that women line up their next relationship before they let go of an existing one, I've always heard that was a male trait. idk.
Now the energy thing kind of comes and goes with some readers too. They possibly read male energy as female or vice versa, so they can be wrong with that too. I had a reader to recently ask if I were male/female because she said she couldn't tell by my alias. Why should that matter? It felt as if she were trying to pick up on clues or something.
I took that personality test and I too am an architect, but some of the answers weren't as cut and dry as they made them out to be. I could take that test later and skew some of the percentages perhaps, but then I read the introduction and thought shit, yep that's me. I am a die-hard, card caring Scorpian!
It can be lonely at the top. Being one of the rarest personality types and being among the most capable people, Architects know this all too well. They make up just two percent of the population, and women with this personality type are especially rare, forming only 0.8%. It can be difficult for Architects to find people who can keep up with their non-stop analysis of things. People with this personality type are imaginative yet decisive... ambitious yet like their privacy... curious about everything but remain focused.
Sparkle002:
--- Quote from: HornetKick on January 26, 2020, 09:42:18 AM ---
--- Quote from: Sparkle002 on January 26, 2020, 05:01:21 AM ---Right! But Im so not surprised because this has happened time and time again.
Ive heard that they go off of energy and if it isnt there they typically cant pick it up.
For example, when I first read about my first POI 1 (this original thread) - no one really predicted he was married or even saw the woman until time passed and I began to get to know him more....Cookie actually predicted this man into my life and saw that he was married before I even met him...I remember that reading I said "well I hope I wouldnt get involved with a married man!" well POI 1 wasnt technically married - had a wedding and all but didnt sign legal papers (this was confirmed)...but yeah it happens, unfortunately....at that time he was separating from here and didnt have feelings like that for her....but on the flipside, some readers didnt pick up the 3rd party even when the peoples POI was in love and engaged or got married to someone else! So Idk!
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I'm going to chime in here, but a couple of things seemed very unfortunate. Although he is married, be on the lookout if he starts saying negative things about his relationship and different ways it isn't working. If this doesn't happen his flirtations can be very, very fun and at times you'll forget his married. Honestly, many readers are going to spin a bigger fairytale of love, because that is probably the number 1 query they get as readers. Anytime it's the opposite sex, it's supposedly a relationship. Although someone mentioned on one of the threads that women line up their next relationship before they let go of an existing one, I've always heard that was a male trait. idk.
Now the energy thing kind of comes and goes with some readers too. They possibly read male energy as female or vice versa, so they can be wrong with that too. I had a reader to recently ask if I were male/female because she said she couldn't tell by my alias. Why should that matter? It felt as if she were trying to pick up on clues or something.
I took that personality test and I too am an architect, but some of the answers weren't as cut and dry as they made them out to be. I could take that test later and skew some of the percentages perhaps, but then I read the introduction and thought shit, yep that's me. I am a die-hard, card caring Scorpian!
It can be lonely at the top. Being one of the rarest personality types and being among the most capable people, Architects know this all too well. They make up just two percent of the population, and women with this personality type are especially rare, forming only 0.8%. It can be difficult for Architects to find people who can keep up with their non-stop analysis of things. People with this personality type are imaginative yet decisive... ambitious yet like their privacy... curious about everything but remain focused.
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HEY FELLOW INTJ!!! WE ARE SO RARE! ;D
But I TOTALLY agree with you, being that Im almost 40 Ive seen and heard it all with the married men thing and their relationships being an issue.
Ive never dated a married man like ever it totally goes against my standards! For example, thats why it was SO important for my POI 1 (the original guy in this thread) to confirm that he was not married and the woman had moved out lol.
I totally get it though. HOWEVER Im super scared to be honest, like Chemistry is a MF'er. I dont know what to do with it because its strong and it will take willpower to control (I belive on both sides) - I hate this!! UGH. Yeah and even if he is going through a divorce it isnt the optimal time for "dating" anyway sheesh - I just wonder whhhhhyy Im always sent men (whom I have chemistry with) that are UNAVAILABLE UGH.
Sparkle002:
--- Quote from: Yaz88 on January 26, 2020, 07:59:16 AM ---LOL. I’m an INTJ too. Luckily, Gemini qualities allow me to “soften” my responses and comments, hell my overall demeanor, when needed. Sparkle, you’re a Gem too, right?
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YES I'm a GEM as well lol!!
I can super analyze my way out of a relationship its so sad...lol I literally have to go through check boxes in my head to determine if the person is "fit" for the long term, in the meanwhile Ill just play (even though I may have feelings with them, knowing it wont be long term).
It says we are "clueless in relationships" lol ....while that may not be everyone it definitely is ME HA!
tshine17:
I’m sorry about the disappointment, Sparkle. Guys like him are toxic and seem to have little respect for women OR marriage , in my opinion. He flirted with you over a period of time, he invited you on a one-on-one meal (sorry I forgot if it was lunch, HH or dinner), and when you asked him what was up it sounds like he put it on YOU! “You know I’m married, right?” Like, did he take any responsibility for his behavior and basically leading you on? Even if things didn’t go very far, that’s essentially what happened from your account.
I don’t care if his marriage is falling apart at the seams, on the verge of divorce. He was shady to both you and the wife. Ugh. If his marriage ever comes up, of course he’s going to say it’s terrible and on the verge of divorce. How could anyone trust anything about him?
Sorry, I don’t mean to rant. It’s just so disappointing. I was so excited that this was your fairytale and your readers were right! I’m personally disappointed as part of the peanut gallery lol!
Sparkle002:
UPDATES...
"FRIENDS"
Ok, Well I'd like to give another update as I was "luckily" able to talk to Cookie this morning and tell her "WHAT IN THE HELL?"
The guy you (and other readers) have been predicting is a MARRIED MAN!!!? GOOD GREIF....
OF course she got a bit defensive and reminded me that he was walking away from a relationship - I was like omg that's all you said tho!! Not that he is LEGALLY BINDED! OMG.
So First I got to give a shout out to my non-heavy hitters: DELORES (CP) and BARBARA4846 (Keen) - BOTH described the entire situation with this guy wayyyy better than Kisha, Matilda or Cookie did.
Basically they saw him walking away or getting a divorce and generally saw us as "FRIENDS" and that we would build a friendship. Literally Delores and Barabara's words (I didnt believe it because I was like he isnt even married, so I thought they were wrong). ALL of them saw "LOVE" and saw this guy like falling in love with me---...but Cookie said I will disappoint him. Sounds like I have the upper hand in this situation (which is fine because Im not trying to get caught up).
NOW, guess who is just now saying this Friendship thing? COOKIE. She was like you will be FRIENDS with a Romantic element to it (exact words as Delores)...She gave me details what she saw between us (I care not to comment here now, but it was pretty romantic and positive, even though he will be going through this "divorce") - which Ill actually confirm with him in REAL LIFE.
So this is the supposed "relationship" everyone saw. In the past, Cookie never described to me a man who was as attracted to me as he was, and really had nothing absolulty nothing negative to say about him other that he would get jealous - but no lies, cheating (even in his current marriage), etc. like she picked up with my last POI (at least at this point). The only bad thing is the damn MARRIAGE. So Apparently I caught him off guard with this chemistry/attraction (same with me).
She saw other guys (at my workplace) who will also be attracted to me - including a tall dark guy with bedroom eyes and another with grayish/hazel eyes - she said the IT DIRECTOR WILL GET JEALOUS.
Sounds like this year is gonna be just... FUN FUN FUN!!!
Look forward to more exciting EPISODES LOL
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