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Have most advisors told you not to reach out to your POI?

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Sweetsydney2000:
This is an old post but I stumbled across it somehow. I’ve always applied the no contact rule after a breakup (it feels like the normal thing to do) as well as from the advice of psychics and YouTube videos 😂 it’s always worked and POI always contacted again. But I’m just wondering if most psychics tell you not to contact?

astrogirl90tron:
I’ve had advisors tell me not reach out because the guy should be making the effort. He should be chasing me. I shouldn’t be chasing him because it makes me look desperate or needy. I’ve always been the type to reach out first or make the first move because I’m like, why not? Yet it always becomes me always making the effort for someone who clearly is not that interested in me. I once had an advisor tell me not to reach out because it would be bad. That weekend out of anxiety I reached out and he ended things me during the phone call. Another guy strung me along for 9 months because when he told me “I don’t want a girlfriend right now” I only listed to “right now” holding out hope he might change his mind. He never did. At least with me he didn’t and a month later was dating someone else (who he’s still dating a year later). I should have stopped looking out and move on the minute he said he didn’t want a girlfriend. It took me a while to get over him and honestly had I walked away sooner it probably would have hurt less.

When we really like someone we get excited at the idea of talking to them or getting to see them again. So we reach out to make it happen because we’re interested. The same goes for guys, if they like someone they’re going to get equally excited about talking or seeing each other. If a guy isn’t showing that kind of behavior, let it go. He’s simply not on the same wavelength of interest as you are. And that’s fine. Because you’ll eventually meet someone who will be.

We can call all these advisors and ask how the person feels about us and hold onto hope because we’re told there is feelings. But it’s about actions and unfortunately, sometimes people act the opposite of how they feel. You want to be with someone who smiles at the thought of you. Like how you smile and are  giddy at the thought them.

Personally I don’t think it’s a trick to keep us calling when they tell us to reach out. WE make the decision to continue to reach out and spend the money. Honestly if after a month, 6 months, a year someone hasn’t gotten back to you. Accept that this might not be your person. You don’t risk losing the things you cherish. I think if an advisor tells you “He will contact you in 6 weeks, 6 months” you should hold onto that. You have enough self respect to say to yourself “I’m not someone you walk away from for six weeks. I’m someone you hold onto now.”

Sorry if I went off topic. I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting recently and this post struck something inside of me.

sawthelight:

--- Quote from: astrogirl90tron on April 17, 2019, 07:29:34 AM ---I’ve had advisors tell me not reach out because the guy should be making the effort. He should be chasing me. I shouldn’t be chasing him because it makes me look desperate or needy. I’ve always been the type to reach out first or make the first move because I’m like, why not? Yet it always becomes me always making the effort for someone who clearly is not that interested in me. I once had an advisor tell me not to reach out because it would be bad. That weekend out of anxiety I reached out and he ended things me during the phone call. Another guy strung me along for 9 months because when he told me “I don’t want a girlfriend right now” I only listed to “right now” holding out hope he might change his mind. He never did. At least with me he didn’t and a month later was dating someone else (who he’s still dating a year later). I should have stopped looking out and move on the minute he said he didn’t want a girlfriend. It took me a while to get over him and honestly had I walked away sooner it probably would have hurt less.

When we really like someone we get excited at the idea of talking to them or getting to see them again. So we reach out to make it happen because we’re interested. The same goes for guys, if they like someone they’re going to get equally excited about talking or seeing each other. If a guy isn’t showing that kind of behavior, let it go. He’s simply not on the same wavelength of interest as you are. And that’s fine. Because you’ll eventually meet someone who will be.

We can call all these advisors and ask how the person feels about us and hold onto hope because we’re told there is feelings. But it’s about actions and unfortunately, sometimes people act the opposite of how they feel. You want to be with someone who smiles at the thought of you. Like how you smile and are  giddy at the thought them.

Personally I don’t think it’s a trick to keep us calling when they tell us to reach out. WE make the decision to continue to reach out and spend the money. Honestly if after a month, 6 months, a year someone hasn’t gotten back to you. Accept that this might not be your person. You don’t risk losing the things you cherish. I think if an advisor tells you “He will contact you in 6 weeks, 6 months” you should hold onto that. You have enough self respect to say to yourself “I’m not someone you walk away from for six weeks. I’m someone you hold onto now.”

Sorry if I went off topic. I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting recently and this post struck something inside of me.

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I so agree with this.  This was a really hard realization for me to make, with my first POI.  He would always resurface, until he stopped.  And then one month, two months, etc...would pass, and I would keep asking psychics if I would hear from him..and I didn't.  It hurt a lot to realize maybe I dind't mean as much to him as he meant to me, and that things were over...put me in a depression.  that's why i don't really deal with any kind of mixed signals/games anymore, because I NEVER want to go through that again.

astrogirl90tron:
I’ve been there so I know you feel. Sorry you went through that realization. This happened to me last summer. I was told by countless advisors he had feelings for me, it will take time for him to come back, there is something there. It’s been 10 months and hundreds of dollars on Keen and I never heard from him again. I didn’t go on a date for 9 months because I waited and held out hope. But that was my decision because I wanted to believe the fairytale when I should have accepted the reality of it. Don’t beat yourself up if this happens, just learn from it. And if you find yourself moving towards something similar remind yourself you deserve better and know if you’re heart when you walk away, you’re going to be just fine. If things don’t work out - you’re going to be fine. If he’s not interested, you’re still going to be fine.

Sparkle002:

--- Quote from: astrogirl90tron on April 17, 2019, 09:44:34 AM ---I’ve been there so I know you feel. Sorry you went through that realization. This happened to me last summer. I was told by countless advisors he had feelings for me, it will take time for him to come back, there is something there. It’s been 10 months and hundreds of dollars on Keen and I never heard from him again. I didn’t go on a date for 9 months because I waited and held out hope. But that was my decision because I wanted to believe the fairytale when I should have accepted the reality of it. Don’t beat yourself up if this happens, just learn from it. And if you find yourself moving towards something similar remind yourself you deserve better and know if you’re heart when you walk away, you’re going to be just fine. If things don’t work out - you’re going to be fine. If he’s not interested, you’re still going to be fine.

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I totally agree.

While I understand we (forum members) can provide support by saying things like “stay hopeful”.
I think its damaging in the end. Hope can be very damaging because it can make you hold on to things...its like a double edged sword....Hope can give you promise but also heartbreak. I too have waited for contact for a POI once - first time in my life ever back in 2016...held out for 4 months before contact. Just know usually when they come back, it is typically NEVER in the way that you would like!!

So I say stay Positive - meaning that in the end YOU will be ok, but not positive by meaning that the reader’s prediction will come true (especially if it is positive)

I also say stay SKEPTICAL (vs hopeful) for every reader you read with.
Just know things may or may not happen as they say.
For me the entertainment part comes in when they have a “hit”...then I get excited and amazed at how they were able to see such a prediction or situation...otherwise I stay skeptical so if something doesnt happen I’m not emotionally messed up or anything in the end.

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