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My Story

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mystery123:

--- Quote from: morland1 on August 19, 2017, 10:09:29 AM ---
This situation has been detrimental to my well being. Sounds dramatic but it has made me question myself in ways I never have before. I found myself comparing myself to a girl that is my little sister's age. I have worked so hard to become the woman I am so it just sucks to have to see this relationship developing on social media. A relationship I never saw coming. I thought he was not in the right head space to even be in one not just with me but anyone. So that's where I am at now.


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I have been there and I totally know it sucks! I almost made myself sick physically for someone who didn't even give a damn about me.

What personally helped me was to get off social media completely. I deactivated my all Social Media accounts, because I didn't want to delete him or anything, so deactivating accounts gave me a sense of relief, and like I am cut off from everything- out of sight, out of mind. I did give myself 4-5 months before I went back on, when I felt strong. It also helped me in other ways- I didn't have to see my friends' engagements, wedding, babies, travels, saved so much of my time I used to spend scrolling, and got me out of habit of checking my facebook regularly. I just open it now maybe once in two days.

But I know it feels awful comparing yourself to other people, I used to close my eyes and imagine him with new girl, her face, them having fun and tears would start rolling down. It just took lot of work, acceptance, and time..the only thing I stopped doing was forcing myself to not think or imagine or feel bad. One day I just told myself..yea let's think about them, lets picture them making out, let as sad as I can be...after all how long can it last. If it's supposed to last a lifetime then be it, I ain't gonna fight it anymore!

And psychics saw him in love with me, coming back to me-- even Diane731, and some other good ones, but I guess it was not meant to be or maybe he came back in some other way than I expected so I didn't even notice..who knows and I guess will never know what they saw and meant.

morland1:
Thanks everyone. I appreciate you reading my story and the comments. Life is crazy sometimes. I truly believe I was meant to meet him but don't know why yet. I can't say that I have felt this strongly towards someone's presence in my life ever. I guess time will tell.

ladya:
just because you love someone doesn't always mean you'll end up with them. i think that's one of the hardest things to learn and deal with. hindsight is indeed 20/20 and the reason always reveals itself in due time.

nancy:

--- Quote from: ladya on August 21, 2017, 09:26:05 AM ---just because you love someone doesn't always mean you'll end up with them. i think that's one of the hardest things to learn and deal with. hindsight is indeed 20/20 and the reason always reveals itself in due time.

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Agree with you 100%

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