I agree. What happens is, when anything negative in their behaviour happens initially, we are in for a shock, disbelief so a binge reading becomes likely inevitable. But with time, we accept this to be the fate, and move on (or they come back). Thankfully, I really tried hard to forget him altogether since 8 months of no contact, and I made huge strides there. But some events have recently triggered me to rethink about the past, so I am here, but this is a passing phase and everything should become back to normal again.
Yes, our feelings are very important if we have to spend our whole lives with them. Sadly, we all learn with our own time..