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Metaphysical, Spiritual and Psychic Discussions => Keen.com => Topic started by: elcaliente on September 01, 2012, 02:04:36 AM
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Hey everyone - I's appreciate your input.
I have a dilemma. I've read with some well-respected readers (in fact, I am only focusing on their advice at this point - and am disregarding any other readings that I had before).
As a little background, I have not made contact with my ex since he announced that we were done. That was about 2 1/2 months ago. He's made no contact with me, either. There is a third party >:( in the picture, we believe.
Anyway, several of my "dream team" readers have suggested that I could send a friendly text in the next couple of days. Nothing reminiscent of our relationship - just a quick "hello". Two of my "dream team" advisors have said it's best to hold tight and wait for him to make contact.
So I have a dilemma. Now, the "camp" that is promoting I say "hello" are empaths. The "camp" that suggest hold tight are predominantly Clairvoyants that use tarot for tools. What say you?
If it matters which readers said what, then I'd be happy to share in PM.
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Go with your gut.
I will say though, I don't rely on empaths for predictions or telling me what the outcome of action x may be.
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but empaths do have a handle on the state of emotions and mindset of the other party, don't they?
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What type of reader do you rely on for predictions and outcome?
Go with your gut.
I will say though, I don't rely on empaths for predictions or telling me what the outcome of action x may be.
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So, would it be correct to say that you could better rely on an empath that is also a clairvoyant/clairaudient/clairsentient? Of are you more inclined to rely on those that read cards?
but empaths do have a handle on the state of emotions and mindset of the other party, don't they?
yeah they do but for that moment so if you want to do that then you have to speak with them then call your sm right after as feelings change.
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I have been in this same dilemma with my ex several times. I wll say nothing good for me has come out of reaching out. Before this most recent breakup (or disappearance really), i sent a text and got a lackluster response the next day. I was pretty upset, so I never responded. Then i wrote back several days later and he never responded. (By the way, all the psychics told me he would respond and he didn't...and i used both empaths and claivoyants.)
If you can handle getting a lackluster or no response, then go ahead. But if not, don't do it. It will make you feel worse. I for one hate waiting, and in the past always reached out, but then ended up feeling worse about the situation. I guess, it also matters what the pattern in the relationship has been. If you really feel like reaching out, I would wait a bit longer and see if the feeling passed. During a break last year, I reached out. We still got back together, but my reaching out did nothing to expedite the process.
If your ultimate goal is to get back together, then I would wait, especially if there is a third party involved. If you want to move on, and you contact him, and he responds unfavorably it may help you move on as well.
Good luck, whatever you decide!!!
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So far there's been no contact in the 2.5 months. I haven't contacted him and he's not contacted me, but in the readings it indicates that he has interest and yet is apprehensive. There's good reason for his apprehension. He left aburptly, leaving the relatoinship and a professional arrangement at the same time. He knows it was wrong - he admitted it at the time.
My rationale to send a "holiday wish" for the weekend was just to show that there are no hard feelings to prevent him from reaching out. I am not sure I am expecting a response.... I guess one would be nice, but I was thinking of it as a gesture that I simply taking the high road in this situation, and leaving him to contemplate what he wishes to do. I have been in this same dilemma with my ex several times. I wll say nothing good for me has come out of reaching out. Before this most recent breakup (or disappearance really), i sent a text and got a lackluster response the next day. I was pretty upset, so I never responded. Then i wrote back several days later and he never responded. (By the way, all the psychics told me he would respond and he didn't...and i used both empaths and claivoyants.)
If you can handle getting a lackluster or no response, then go ahead. But if not, don't do it. It will make you feel worse. I for one hate waiting, and in the past always reached out, but then ended up feeling worse about the situation. I guess, it also matters what the pattern in the relationship has been. If you really feel like reaching out, I would wait a bit longer and see if the feeling passed. During a break last year, I reached out. We still got back together, but my reaching out did nothing to expedite the process.
If your ultimate goal is to get back together, then I would wait, especially if there is a third party involved. If you want to move on, and you contact him, and he responds unfavorably it may help you move on as well.
Good luck, whatever you decide!!!
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So you are doing it to "keep the door open", so to speak? Just make sure you are strong enough, in case you get no response. or do it with no expectations.
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@truelove - Yes, that is the reason it was suggested - to open the door. No expectations for a reply. Just an attempt to take away a perceived obstacle.
So you are doing it to "keep the door open", so to speak? Just make sure you are strong enough, in case you get no response. or do it with no expectations.
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Go with your gut. Seriously. I've been in that position several times and got a very rude awakening when the response I got was not what was "in the cards".
Especially if you're getting mixed messages from the readers.
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@smee2,
Did you end up contacting him?
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Yes, I sent a quick friendly text wishing him a happy holiday weekend- nothing more, but he didn't reply.
@smee2,
Did you end up contacting him?
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Question, if you don't mind sharing, which advisors told you to contact him and which didn't? And the ones who told you not to, did they say what their reasonings were?
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First, let me say that I didn't send the text expecting a particular reply. While it would have been nice and certainly I would have appreciated a polite reply like, "thanks, you too" I sent the text to open the doors to communication, because some advisors had told me that he was apprehensive and didn't know how to reach out to me. So, I was just breaking the ice, as it were. Let's see. The advisors that thought it would be a good idea were:
Midnight Magical Spirit said she thought it would be a good idea
Abundant Visions/Gaylene said it would help to let him know I have no hard feelings
Source Power said she thought it would be a good idea to open up communication
Mikki Reno said she thought it would be a good idea as a catalyst to communication
Sapphire21 said she thought it would be a good idea as a catalyst to communication
Your Message From Above/Aurora said it would be a good idea
Vallentina Rose said it would not be a bad idea
NorthstarJulie advised that while it wouldn't hurt to send a text, she wouldn't do it if she were me, because she would not want him to get what he wants
Matthea said he won't respond
Samantha Wild said he would respond but in a tight manner, not relaxed.
Question, if you don't mind sharing, which advisors told you to contact him and which didn't? And the ones who told you not to, did they say what their reasonings were?
Upon learning that I sent the text and received no reply, three advisors said it was because he is not ready. One advisor said he is contemplating what to say, to represent his feelings without them being construed by me as a lie. Two advisors said he is thinking about what to say, and an answer will come soon. One advisor said that the absence of a reply is telling in that it shows he still has feelings, because if he had no feelings, he wouldn't have had to think much about how to reply, and it would have been easy to just send a quick, "thank you, you too". I see that reasoning, I guess, but I also don't rule out the possibility that either he didn't believe it warranted a reply or that he was trying to show me that I am not important to him.
All of the advisors said he was thinking about me now.
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Well you took the high road and that's good. Now he knows you don't hate him and you can be satisfied that you made that clear.
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Exactly. When he left he said he cherished the friendship we had, and considered me his best friend and asked if we could continue the friendship. He said you can think about it, but I said I didn't need to, and I agreed. I also agreed in an email I sent 2 days later. Since then he has made no contact. It's been nearly 3 months now. I think the text showed him that I was honouring my word, and still acknowledging the friendship has had asked me to preserve. Now that I think about it, the fact that I am honouring my word and he has not, not once, but now twice, might make him feel badly.
Well you took the high road and that's good. Now he knows you don't hate him and you can be satisfied that you made that clear.
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Exactly. When he left he said he cherished the friendship we had, and considered me his best friend and asked if we could continue the friendship. He said you can think about it, but I said I didn't need to, and I agreed. I also agreed in an email I sent 2 days later. Since then he has made no contact. It's been nearly 3 months now. I think the text showed him that I was honouring my word, and still acknowledging the friendship has had asked me to preserve. Now that I think about it, the fact that I am honouring my word and he has not, not once, but now twice, might make him feel badly. Well you took the high road and that's good. Now he knows you don't hate him and you can be satisfied that you made that clear.
Truthfully ( and this will sound mean, sorry but I've been here) he just probably just didn't want to be the bad guy so he offered a "friendship". Irrespective of what a psychic says, the fact that he has not responded or made an effort should show you his true intention. Don't you deserve a better "friend" than that?
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Indeed. At this point he isn't my friend, as he's made that quite clear in his choice to completely cut me out of his life and others, I might add. However, I am his. I sense that he is going through more than just a change in love interest, at this time. And the readings do indicate that it's more like a life review - midlife crisis. All of his actions leading up to the break up suggest that this could be what is going on.
Exactly. When he left he said he cherished the friendship we had, and considered me his best friend and asked if we could continue the friendship. He said you can think about it, but I said I didn't need to, and I agreed. I also agreed in an email I sent 2 days later. Since then he has made no contact. It's been nearly 3 months now. I think the text showed him that I was honouring my word, and still acknowledging the friendship has had asked me to preserve. Now that I think about it, the fact that I am honouring my word and he has not, not once, but now twice, might make him feel badly. Well you took the high road and that's good. Now he knows you don't hate him and you can be satisfied that you made that clear.
Truthfully ( and this will sound mean, sorry but I've been here) he just probably just didn't want to be the bad guy so he offered a "friendship". Irrespective of what a psychic says, the fact that he has not responded or made an effort should show you his true intention. Don't you deserve a better "friend" than that?
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I'd just like to add to my last post. I've been told in all my readings that my ex and I share a deep connection regardless of the distance between us. I'm not sure if that something you all get in your readings, but it certainly has been in all of mine. I've also been told that one way psychics can tell if there is potential in a relationship is to measure the connection. If there is little energy in a connection, chances are it is not going to manifest in a good outcome. I've also been told (whether it is true or not, I cannot verify) that psychics can also tell if a relationship between two people is one that involves emotional feelings or not, and that is assessed through the energy of the connection. So, in the case of third parties, if a person shows up in a reading but there is little energy in the connection, the psychic indicates that it is not an attachment that involves emotion. It could be a purely physical interest, or a casual interest.
Of course, it is possible that two people can share love for each other as friends, and so a deep connection doesn't necessarily mean a romance. But, if it is true, and if I consider the absence of a response to my friendly text as a demonstration that my significant other has no interest in pursuing friendship with me, then what is the deep connection between us that is being seen in the readings?
If the above is true, a
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I don't always want to sound like I'm being tough on anyone so all I will say is if you read back on other people's posts (even mine from when I joined this board and wrote of the crazy psychic addiction I used to have a few years ago because I was heartbroken) you will see that everyone has been told they have a strong connection. Then look at how many people got the person back.
It's not an easy thing to work through and I think many psychic readings keep people tied to someone emotionally when the connection is long gone. I was in that position where I called for reassurance and even though the facts showed otherwise I believed in the stories I was fed.
Even now I will have a general reading about things, job, family etc and I will always be told that whoever I'm dating at the time is who I'm going to marry. I've been told the guy is in love with me even though we haven't known each other too long. So I look at how he treats me and not what a psychic says and what I cannot confirm. If they;d been right, I would have been married about 5 or 6 years ago.
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I completely agree with scorpiogirl. I heard all the same statements for multiple men. I don't want to diminish your pain or minimize the strength of your connection, but there comes a point when you have to accept reality and actions at face value.
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I have gotten the same as well, most have here. I am sure it's true for some and an outright lie for others, anything is possible.
But actions do speak louder and I think it's always best to feel like you are the rule and not the exception, because most of these psychics will try and make you feel like its the other way around. Sometimes it is, most often it isn't.
Good luck :)
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Upon learning that I sent the text and received no reply, three advisors said it was because he is not ready. One advisor said he is contemplating what to say, to represent his feelings without them being construed by me as a lie. Two advisors said he is thinking about what to say, and an answer will come soon. One advisor said that the absence of a reply is telling in that it shows he still has feelings, because if he had no feelings, he wouldn't have had to think much about how to reply, and it would have been easy to just send a quick, "thank you, you too". I see that reasoning, I guess, but I also don't rule out the possibility that either he didn't believe it warranted a reply or that he was trying to show me that I am not important to him.All of the advisors said he was thinking about me now.
Please let us know if he does reply. I would love to know. It always seems like psychics start making up things when they get something wrong, so it will be interesting if he replies to you at some point and those particular psychics were right.
When i was going through the situation with my "sm" a couple of years ago, i had sooooo many different psychics tell me why he was with the girl he was dating at the time and why he couldn't be with me. So many of them gave me timeframes of him returning which passed and then that lead to my dissapointment. Now i want to share a part of my story with you guys because i consider myself lucky in that my guy did in fact return.
The girl my sm was dating a couple of years ago lives in Canada and they dated while we were in college. Prior to entering the relationship with the girl we both felt a connection and i had talked to him about the future and i could tell he was getting scared (I think we were around 22). Well he kept telling me he wasn't ready to settle down and i don't think i listened and partly blame myself for him cutting off contact with me and dating that girl instead. Anyways, the story is too long to type here, but fast forward a few years later and he just ADMITTED to me that he wasn't ready for a "final committment" and that was part of the reason he ran. The problem i am having here is
1) Forgiveness (he hasn't really proven himself to me and i don't know if he would do that again) and
2) WHY should i wait for when HE is ready? (he goes back and forth with wanting to be in a relationship and not wanting to be) >>>>Uhh no.
So a few months ago when we were hanging out, he basically said he wants to be financially stable before getting serious. I told him i was seeing someone, and wanted to continue dating this guy if he didn't want an actual committment. So here we are again, i am currently dating someone else (and the guy is amazing), and the sm texts me almost every night.
BTW, the only psychics who have gotten this situation down correctly (or for the majority of the time) were:
Eden (CP)-specifically gave a personality description of the new guy in my life and told me i would have to make a choice by the end of summer
My two local readers- gave different details
Aries Intuition (Keen)-she specifically knew my ex would be around when i started dating this other guy, knew the new guy just started his own business, and also has predicted that i will have to make a choice
It should also be noted that while Jean off of CP only worked for me in some of her readings, she did say that the tables would turn (now i am dating someone and he is not).
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I am glad you posted that Luckystar. I have one year down waiting for him to be ready and probably another year or two. And I have decided I am done waiting. It's not fair for anyone to wait while another gets their life together. I know this man loves me, but I could be missing someone amazing in the meantime. We all could be.
U am actually going to be closing my Keen account shortly, and I will give a more final tally shortly.
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Upon learning that I sent the text and received no reply, three advisors said it was because he is not ready. One advisor said he is contemplating what to say, to represent his feelings without them being construed by me as a lie. Two advisors said he is thinking about what to say, and an answer will come soon. One advisor said that the absence of a reply is telling in that it shows he still has feelings, because if he had no feelings, he wouldn't have had to think much about how to reply, and it would have been easy to just send a quick, "thank you, you too". I see that reasoning, I guess, but I also don't rule out the possibility that either he didn't believe it warranted a reply or that he was trying to show me that I am not important to him.All of the advisors said he was thinking about me now.
Please let us know if he does reply. I would love to know. It always seems like psychics start making up things when they get something wrong, so it will be interesting if he replies to you at some point and those particular psychics were right.
When i was going through the situation with my "sm" a couple of years ago, i had sooooo many different psychics tell me why he was with the girl he was dating at the time and why he couldn't be with me. So many of them gave me timeframes of him returning which passed and then that lead to my dissapointment. Now i want to share a part of my story with you guys because i consider myself lucky in that my guy did in fact return.
The girl my sm was dating a couple of years ago lives in Canada and they dated while we were in college. Prior to entering the relationship with the girl we both felt a connection and i had talked to him about the future and i could tell he was getting scared (I think we were around 22). Well he kept telling me he wasn't ready to settle down and i don't think i listened and partly blame myself for him cutting off contact with me and dating that girl instead. Anyways, the story is too long to type here, but fast forward a few years later and he just ADMITTED to me that he wasn't ready for a "final committment" and that was part of the reason he ran. The problem i am having here is
1) Forgiveness (he hasn't really proven himself to me and i don't know if he would do that again) and
2) WHY should i wait for when HE is ready? (he goes back and forth with wanting to be in a relationship and not wanting to be) >>>>Uhh no.
So a few months ago when we were hanging out, he basically said he wants to be financially stable before getting serious. I told him i was seeing someone, and wanted to continue dating this guy if he didn't want an actual committment. So here we are again, i am currently dating someone else (and the guy is amazing), and the sm texts me almost every night.
BTW, the only psychics who have gotten this situation down correctly (or for the majority of the time) were:
Eden (CP)-specifically gave a personality description of the new guy in my life and told me i would have to make a choice by the end of summer
My two local readers- gave different details
Aries Intuition (Keen)-she specifically knew my ex would be around when i started dating this other guy, knew the new guy just started his own business, and also has predicted that i will have to make a choice
It should also be noted that while Jean off of CP only worked for me in some of her readings, she did say that the tables would turn (now i am dating someone and he is not).
Why do you have to make a choice so quickly? why not keep dating the guy to see if you actually want to be with him..or he with you? Will you automatically loose all your dating/romantic options forever?Keep your ex on the sidelines or out of your life where he always wanted to be anyway and make him prove his worth.
I dont always understand why readers say "You have to make a choice". I just think that this is an easy thing to say. The old guy never made a choice, and he is still sniffing around years later. Why not just see how things play out before committing to anyone or anything? Especially if you are just dating the new guy.
Just thinking out loud...
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Exactly SB. People stay sad if they keep waiting for someone to change or make a move.
and loops >> Why do you have to make a choice so quickly? why not keep dating the guy to see if you actually want to be with him..or he with you? Will you automatically loose all your dating/romantic options forever?Keep your ex on the sidelines or out of your life where he always wanted to be anyway and make him prove his worth.
That IS what i am doing. Notice how i said he hasn't proven his worth? And i am happy dating the current guy. I never make choices quickly especially not a choice like that. However, Kisha did say i would eventually have to.
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But what if you don't, is what I'm asking. Will both guys vanish forever?
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I have no idea what is going to happen. I will keep you posted.
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@Luckystar,
I am in a similar situation. Since October 2010 (the first break up), have been in a back and forth situation because the sm can't get his life in order (unemployed, not financially stable etc., not where he wanted to be at this point in his life...the list is endless.). The psychics were all correct regarding contact, and we would get back together for a few months, then break up cause he still couldn't figure his life out. He himself would talk about the future with me repeatedly, meeting my parents, marriage etc. So I kept going along with it, because it seemed that the psychics were all right, and they kept telling me i am impatient, which may be true, but this is ridiciliuous. I should have started dating someone else a long time ago.
It all started up again last August because Alison of CP convinced me to reach out and said that he would respond within 2 hours, which he did. I wonder what would have happened had I not done anything. Then even after what I thought was the closure conversation in February, he wouldn't leave me alone. One particular time I was having health issues, and he showed up to my house and wanted to take me to the hospital (this is after we hadn't seen each other in five months, alison predicted this as well, by the way.) So it was very confusing to say the least. I know he cares immensely but I can't wait for the rest of my life! Currently, we are not talking. I hope if he returns he is ready to move forward, otherwise this is a waste of my time.
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Hey guys!
Good to hear these stories - I think these stories personally help sometimes even more than the readings...because guess what - I can validate that the info provided is real, not what a reader says.
Anyway,
I created my own prediction. I know...I'm crazy!
Background. It has been 3 months since my ex broke up with me. For one month, i hung around as the "friend" - the next month, I cut contact - the following month I opened the door to friendship again. He immediately ran right through that door and contacted me then the following week, invited me out, then I did not hear from him in 2 weeks till this past weekend after I met up with his sis for drinks. After that meeting, he called a few hours later.
Note: Since opening the door to friendship, all communication and hanging out has been strictly platonic. No intimacy or talk of intimacy.
Anyway, many and I mean many readers have seen engagement and marriage with this guy. They all say he is coming back including:
Kisha
Sincerity
Abundant Visions (Gaylene)
Cookie
Venus (CP)
Sapphire21
Yvonne (CP)
Ciarra (CP)
Lady Persephone
I'm mentioning who I read with recently and the most popular. I of course read with more at CP, but learned most are not good.
Anyway, I'm learning to step back and see things for what they really are. From what I can see, yes, my ex responds to my messages if I text (rare), yes, he calls me (not all the time), I would like to think if he was done his sis wouldn't have met with me...etc...but still: I'm at the point that if I cannot validate something right now...then it is NOT valid.
I believe he has all the signs he needs to move forward if he wanted to:
1. I opened the door to friendship
2. I accept his calls
3. I went out with him
4. I met with his sis
My prediction: If I don't see any extra effort by mid Sep, I predict that I will slowly wean off of friendship with him... i.e. waiting a couple days to call back, etc...
I'm also going based off of what I was told too by:
LadyP
Kisha
That the contact initially will not be consistent at first, but will build up this month.
It's just that I have to step in and make decisions for myself too and not rely on readings solely which I feel like maybe I was doing.
I don't want to find myself in a cycle of calling and calling and things continuing to get pushed out further. I'm taking a stand to give him and myself a timeline and will then act based upon the progression or lack thereof - without calling readers.
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I do want to point out that I dated a guy from January to July and Ellen Hartwell, Kisha, and Sincerity all said he was "Mr Right Now" and Sincerity mentioned that it would end by July/August. I was disappointed to hear this as he was a great distraction but it was all true. He wasn't a keeper and it did end in July. So not EVERYONE says that we will get married and he is a soulmate. Keep in mind, during these calls, I never mentioned my ex so they weren't aware that he still had my heart.
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Sincerity mentioned out of the blue in June that I can get connected with this guy anytime then and that June was very important. She also mentioned that till end of September is important in terms of contact. I actually get connected with him in June when he accepted he wasn't able to move on and I again got connected in end of August. I had a call with Sincerity again and lets see how things pan out. Will keep you guys posted. Also another one to the point was Cookie, she gave me 3-6 months timeline in Feb and it happened as she said. And right at that time, Sapphire was exactly to the point and suggested me to do what was needed. It worked :).
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I completely agree with scorpiogirl. I heard all the same statements for multiple men. I don't want to diminish your pain or minimize the strength of your connection, but there comes a point when you have to accept reality and actions at face value.
Ditto, though I had only called on one. I bet if I called on my current guy I'd get the same lines. It was always interesting when I asked about both the guys.
Yes, mine also is/was going through what seemed to me a major life change, cut others out of his life (and still is) and has not let them back in. These are not even love interests, but true friends - at least they were. I listen to one tell me "at least he hasn't deleted my friend request on fb" (after he defriended her) and I think - honey, it's unlikely he'll refriend you. I mean, he never deleted me and still rarely communicates with me via fb.
I was told we had a deep connection, sm connection, spent other lives together. I've heard it all. Fact of the matter is he wants nothing to do with me, not even as a friend. A psychic would tell me he's embarrassed, he still has feelings for me and doesn't know what to do about them.... truth is he's the only one that really knows what he's thinking and he's not sharing.
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hey sunandmoon,
did you end up going through all of your notes and discovering which ones actually told you that he wouldn't come around? (if there were any)
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Yep we supposedly had many past lives together. I got so many fabulously spun past life tales. I hated when someone said THAT as a way for ME to confirm that we were "soulmates". Gag.
One was especially detailed. Apparently he was a king and I was in his court or a slave girl or something. He was cruel and punished me for something. I was on the ground begging and pleading for my life! He killed me. Poor me.
Another said I had been his mother in a past life.
The lengths they go to to establish a connection. That is what keeps you in the line. If a psychic says "I'm sorry. I don't see you together" how long would you continue the call? I got off ASAP. However the ones who said YES they get your money. You stay on to hear more of this amazing future.
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Wow...that's deep stuff from psychic's! ....They should just be honest and stop stringing people along!
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WOW! I wish i would have found this site earlier!!!! Would have saved so much money. Better late than never though.
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@Bug, yeah I was just telling she was right abt her predictions and Cookie as well.
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Sure are a lot of embarrassed men out there. :o
HAHA!!!!
Embarrassed, confused, not where they'd like to be financially.......
Please add on :)
Oh I have a good one. He loves me but he's not ready for a commitment. However if he WERE then I would be the one to settle down with. And that's why he can't be with me. He loves me too much and knows being with me would mean he would absolutely marry me. But he's not ready yet so he's messing around with women who he would never in a million years consider marrying.
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Oh I have a good one. He loves me but he's not ready for a commitment. However if he WERE then I would be the one to settle down with. And that's why he can't be with me. He loves me too much and knows being with me would mean he would absolutely marry me. But he's not ready yet so he's messing around with women who he would never in a million years consider marrying.
How about "he has a way of seeing me that’s not going to be shaken no matter what"
"he pushes me away because I'm the real deal and he’s not up to it"
The above was from Charlotte, she seemed to pick up people around him well.
She also said (Aug 2011) "may take some more time, beginning of october or far longer than i want"
So I'd have to say she was correct on the "far longer". OTOH she covered all her bases with that sentence didn't she? :P
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Oh here is a good one:
"He's scared"
That is a bunch of crap!
Like a good friend told me recently.
He would only be scared if you went after him with a butcher knife.
My reasoning:
How can a man be scared now? When he had me.
I can understand scared in the beginning when he had to work his a%$ off to pursue me, but ummm...now.
Nope...not buying it.
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I'm not sure I totally agree with you tjoy on this one. There are people who are afraid of commitment, and they can manage relationships in the beginning while feelings are still developing and when the conenction tends to be more on a physical plane. As relationships progress, there is a shift and its when the emotional connection develops that those individuals with fear of commitment find the emotions to hard to handle. So, although certainly not in all cases, there could be some cases where this would apply.
Oh here is a good one:
"He's scared"
That is a bunch of crap!
Like a good friend told me recently.
He would only be scared if you went after him with a butcher knife.
My reasoning:
How can a man be scared now? When he had me.
I can understand scared in the beginning when he had to work his a%$ off to pursue me, but ummm...now.
Nope...not buying it.
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Although some men panic and get scared...I think psychics exploit this scenario to the nth degree, and perhaps that was the point tjoy was making? (Grrrl, you tell me, I don't wanna put words in your mouth!) But yeah, the confused scared not ready blah blah blah reasons...oy vey! I am so happy I have finally found some solid readers that don't ever say any of that BS to me. When I think of all the years I was told that by sooooooo many different readers it makes me ill. Oh well, live and learn. :)
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Haha decibel - true!
Yep because fear of commitment is so easy to say and also hard to validate from the guy.
Its not like most come out and say they have a fear if commitment.
Its BS to me!
I think I'm at the place where I'm done making excuses for a man.
D - I'll pm you. Positive updates!! :)
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Ah smee, I've been at this point. You're letting psychic opinions rule your decisions and because they are not all in line with each other, you don't know what to do.
Here's what you do. Pretend you never got a reading. I know that's near impossible, but try. Then do whatever you would have done if you hadn't had a reading. You need to follow your instincts and your heart as that's the only way you will get to the right destination. No psychic can guide you on that, you just need to trust yourself.
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First, let me say that I didn't send the text expecting a particular reply. While it would have been nice and certainly I would have appreciated a polite reply like, "thanks, you too" I sent the text to open the doors to communication, because some advisors had told me that he was apprehensive and didn't know how to reach out to me. So, I was just breaking the ice, as it were. Let's see. The advisors that thought it would be a good idea were:
Midnight Magical Spirit said she thought it would be a good idea
Abundant Visions/Gaylene said it would help to let him know I have no hard feelings
Source Power said she thought it would be a good idea to open up communication
Mikki Reno said she thought it would be a good idea as a catalyst to communication
Sapphire21 said she thought it would be a good idea as a catalyst to communication
Your Message From Above/Aurora said it would be a good idea
Vallentina Rose said it would not be a bad idea
NorthstarJulie advised that while it wouldn't hurt to send a text, she wouldn't do it if she were me, because she would not want him to get what he wants
Matthea said he won't respond
Samantha Wild said he would respond but in a tight manner, not relaxed.
Question, if you don't mind sharing, which advisors told you to contact him and which didn't? And the ones who told you not to, did they say what their reasonings were?
Upon learning that I sent the text and received no reply, three advisors said it was because he is not ready. One advisor said he is contemplating what to say, to represent his feelings without them being construed by me as a lie. Two advisors said he is thinking about what to say, and an answer will come soon. One advisor said that the absence of a reply is telling in that it shows he still has feelings, because if he had no feelings, he wouldn't have had to think much about how to reply, and it would have been easy to just send a quick, "thank you, you too". I see that reasoning, I guess, but I also don't rule out the possibility that either he didn't believe it warranted a reply or that he was trying to show me that I am not important to him.
All of the advisors said he was thinking about me now.
Hi Smee
Did he respond? Were any of the psychics right?
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@jdd2003 - Couldn't have said it better myself. I write them all down, stick my notes in a *Do not touch dumbass* box and live my life.
You never know what life is going to through out at ya. I'm still talking to people from a whole bunch of different countries over Facebook that I met in Mexico a month ago. Didn't think too much was going to come of that and now there are about 12 of us that are chatting about going on vacation together next year. Who the heck would've thought that? LOL@!
And yes, I mean very different countries:
1-Chile, 3-Germany, 2-Holland, 2-Canada, 3-Italy, 2-Mexico
My Cancun trip was like a meeting of United Nations. The language barrier was HORRID and we all had a blast together. Never in my life did I ever think that I would use Google Translate as much as I have in the last 3 weeks or so. Crazy life I have, not gonna lie about it. lol
Ah smee, I've been at this point. You're letting psychic opinions rule your decisions and because they are not all in line with each other, you don't know what to do.
Here's what you do. Pretend you never got a reading. I know that's near impossible, but try. Then do whatever you would have done if you hadn't had a reading. You need to follow your instincts and your heart as that's the only way you will get to the right destination. No psychic can guide you on that, you just need to trust yourself.
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First, let me say that I didn't send the text expecting a particular reply. While it would have been nice and certainly I would have appreciated a polite reply like, "thanks, you too" I sent the text to open the doors to communication, because some advisors had told me that he was apprehensive and didn't know how to reach out to me. So, I was just breaking the ice, as it were. Let's see. The advisors that thought it would be a good idea were:
Midnight Magical Spirit said she thought it would be a good idea
Abundant Visions/Gaylene said it would help to let him know I have no hard feelings
Source Power said she thought it would be a good idea to open up communication
Mikki Reno said she thought it would be a good idea as a catalyst to communication
Sapphire21 said she thought it would be a good idea as a catalyst to communication
Your Message From Above/Aurora said it would be a good idea
Vallentina Rose said it would not be a bad idea
NorthstarJulie advised that while it wouldn't hurt to send a text, she wouldn't do it if she were me, because she would not want him to get what he wants
Matthea said he won't respond
Samantha Wild said he would respond but in a tight manner, not relaxed.
Question, if you don't mind sharing, which advisors told you to contact him and which didn't? And the ones who told you not to, did they say what their reasonings were?
Upon learning that I sent the text and received no reply, three advisors said it was because he is not ready. One advisor said he is contemplating what to say, to represent his feelings without them being construed by me as a lie. Two advisors said he is thinking about what to say, and an answer will come soon. One advisor said that the absence of a reply is telling in that it shows he still has feelings, because if he had no feelings, he wouldn't have had to think much about how to reply, and it would have been easy to just send a quick, "thank you, you too". I see that reasoning, I guess, but I also don't rule out the possibility that either he didn't believe it warranted a reply or that he was trying to show me that I am not important to him.
All of the advisors said he was thinking about me now.
Hi Smee
Did he respond? Were any of the psychics right?
I did not receive a response yet. It has been one month since I sent the text. The readings continue to show promise of reconciliation, but there is another woman involved, and the readers all seem to say that he will not reach out until that has run its course. Some indicate that the wheels on that casual relationship are beginning to fall off. I cannot comment on whether they are correct on that.
The psychics reasoning for him not reaching out while he is with someone else follows my sense too. I don't think my ex ever really wanted to lie to me. I sense he feels badly that he may not have been totally honest with me and in the break up call, he did not admit that there was someone that had caught his eye. I also believe that to speak with me while he is in another relationship would provide too much opportunity for a question to occur in a discussion that could lead him to have to deny it. My birthday is this week, Thursday, and many readers have indicated that he may use that as an opportunity to make some fort of communication. Many think it could be a simple Facebook post. Some think it would be more. I guess we will see.
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Happy birthday, smee! I was delighted to read your other post that your ex in fact did call you. That's great but I hope you still enjoyed YOUR day for YOU. I treated myself to a new dress, shoes, a facial, sushi dinner with friends, a rock show, followed by karaoke on my birthday (also our anniversary). Needless to say I kept myself very occupied that day and had a blast! Just know that I'm sending you a cosmic cocktail or cupcake (whatever your poison, teehee!) on your special day. Cheers!
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Thanks, decibel.diva
Happy birthday, smee! I was delighted to read your other post that your ex in fact did call you. That's great but I hope you still enjoyed YOUR day for YOU. I treated myself to a new dress, shoes, a facial, sushi dinner with friends, a rock show, followed by karaoke on my birthday (also our anniversary). Needless to say I kept myself very occupied that day and had a blast! Just know that I'm sending you a cosmic cocktail or cupcake (whatever your poison, teehee!) on your special day. Cheers!