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Relationship Psychology Discussions => The Vent => Topic started by: chrys1234 on February 18, 2020, 05:43:26 PM
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Hi I guess i feel extremely frustrated right now and i am looking for the avenue to vent really.
I have been seeing a guy for 10 months (since April)
We started as going out and dating, we felt intense sexual chemistry.
Single dad never married, 1 kid.
It seems like he wants to come to my house every so often for sex.
Has mentioned going out but it seems something always happens.
He has said to me he is really busy at work which i have verified and i understand.
Ive also verified he is single.
He said initially he is living with parents, he once invited me over when they werent there.
Now he moved in to his newly bought place.
Ive been having readings with the major psychics in trustedpsychics.co.uk, it seems they are telling me things will change, he has no other woman and he is trying to sort out his life
I did see some min or minor change but nothing other than that.
He hasnt contacted since last Saturday that he came to my house.
I have been trying to verify with them if what they see is correct as i explain i dont see any changes really.
They say i will see it very soon and he has absolutely strong feelings for me??
This comes from every psychic with prediction come to pass feedback, Ive also tried keen and bitwine.
At this point i dont know what to do, I am at the point of giving up as i dont see the changes i was told and i dont see him doing anything in the path of more serious dating.
I just dont understand if they are lying or reall see something i dont see now????
Please help!!!
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You know what just do you. He decided to go silent on you for a week for no reason? Well then when he does reach out make sure you don't response at the first moments notice.
I'm really sorry you are going thru this but if he's going to be playing with you its better you find out now then once you've invested years of your life.
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Heya,
All relationships have ups and downs but 10 months is a long time to be seeing someone and still have alot of emotional uncertainties about their intentions.
Have you tried to sit him down and have this conversation about how you feel with him rather than the psychics?
4 days without contact being in a 10 month relationship is for me a long time. Is he travelling for work or any reason he told you he wouldnt be available to at least check in?
My SO has a very busy work life so we only see each other once a week but we do talk everyday on whatsapp/call and I think when someone has feelings for you they automatically feel a pull to be in touch.
If I were you id have a open conversation with him and take it from there. It could just be that this is the level of communication hes used to and he isnt aware of your needs in a relationship.
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Well we have mentioned here and there we are exclusive sexually but it looks like our relationship is casual mostly.
I've been told I will see changes and I also was told to be happy when I see and hear from him but not over keen and he will want more and make more promises.
I dunno if I should follow this advice tbh, the fact is we did have a conversation back in October when he was decorating house and tried to move in etc and he explained to me the reasons why he doesn't have time for a gf at that moment.
On January it seemed a bit like something was changing and now square 1.
I don't know what I should do.
Play along and follow advice from psychics or just have a conversation with him.
I've been told not to pressure him but this can go on for another 10 months with me being frustrated
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I've been in this situation, my ex strung me along for almost 2 years in this same pattern. It caused me to stay in an unhealthy mental space for far too long, and made me question my self-worth.
There is someone out there who will treat you infinitely better!
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I don't wanna play along and follow psychic advice as I'm afraid I will spend another 10 months in this situation with no change.
I'm really confused and I wonder how do they get prediction come to pass feedback.
If they were this good, wouldn't I have seen change by now.????
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The thing is, right now there is nothing you can do and there is no decision to make. He made the decision to go quiet. I know how hard this is to do - but can you make plans and go away for the weekend or go for a day trip somewhere? Try and distract yourself and focus on you. Save the psychic money and get a massage. Put your energy into you. Maybe when he calls you’ll be busy this time. Good luck and feel free to vent on here - we’ve all been there XO
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Hey there, have you tried to call him or don't you know where he lives? When a man refused to tell you a lot of things about him in details, he wouldn't be so serious about the relationship (yet).
I will apply the same attitude as him if i were you. Don't invest too much in it, unless he does the same.
Good luck!! ;)
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Well my point is why don't I see any changes as psychics predicted.
I won't call.
I'm thinking if he contacts to answer who's this sorry I changed device.
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I think a guy saying he's "busy with work" (even if it's true) or that he "doesn't have time for a gf" is basically telling you that he doesn't want anything serious or that's going to make him put in much effort.
I think you could give having one last conversation with him about how you feel and what your needs are would be fine just to see what he says. It sounds to me like you'll probably have to move on and try to find someone who is ready to give you a deeper relationship and that this one of those situations were psychics keep clients hanging on to a situation for possibly unethical reasons.
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dump him
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I dunno the psychics that told me things will change were many and I'm not a repeat customer of one.
Why would they lie.
Apart from that what do you think of if he contacts to answer who's this
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I dunno the psychics that told me things will change were many and I'm not a repeat customer of one.
Why would they lie.
Apart from that what do you think of if he contacts to answer who's this
If a Man wants you he’ll show you.
I’d go on your gut not theirs. If you pull back and start dating you’ll soon know if he’s right for you.
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you mean start dating others? i think then things will become more complicated plus my heart lets be honest will still be there.
I think i should tell him next time he contacts me that he knows how much i want him but im not really up for a f@ck at my house because i want to enjoy him more. If he wants to hang out and be intimate id be up for that and that he knows my number. In a non confrontational tone.
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He doesn't contact me since the 8th Feb now.
I have had readings in the meantime mainly with the psychics that I read before, the most popular ones and some others.
They seem to tell me about changes soon.
Last time was my contact so I wouldn't wanna contact him again ..
I don't know what to do and believe anymore.....
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I’m sorry you’re going through this but you have to believe what’s actually happening and not what the psychics told you. They can be wrong. They have been wrong and they have all given us false hope at one point or another. Please try to move on and just stay busy with family and friends. It sucks that he ghosted you but unfortunately that seems to be the norm now when it comes to dating. Hang in there.
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Well we are seeing each other since April....
And last time we met we had passionate sex at my house...
They all seem to be adamant things will change??
I mean.. he has told me he was busy lately a lot at work and that Saturday he came with his uniform as he was working
But the things that see for me are far from what is happening???
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forget what the psychics told you; forget allll of them
this guy does not respect you and obviously you cannot get what you wanted from him (a consistent and sincere relationship)
i really hate seeing girls torturing themselves over jerks.
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When they say things will change, do you know what type of change it is? Do they elaborate on it? The term change can be applied to anything that is going on in his life. I’ve found that many psychics say things like this which allows you to misinterpret things. They need to elaborate exactly what kind of change it is.
Also, he might have just thought it was a sexual relationship since it seems to have started that way. I speak to mostly male psychics to get their perspectives of why men do certain things and was told that once you have sex with a guy, you in their mind, you go to the bottom of the list of potential partners. And the fact that he only wants to come over to your house or vice versa instead of going out shows his intentions. Sounds selfish but that’s the way their minds may or may not be wired.
I’m not going to tell you to go out and date other people, but truly get to know yourself; your likes and dislikes, etc, because at the end of the day whether we realize it or not, we attract what we are and not what we want. Peace.
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Male and female psychics have told me time and time again about changes specifically between me and him towards a commitment.
I've also had detailed readings regarding the reasons he is behaving like this and why it's taking so long.
Well we started as dating I knew he had some problems and psychics told me things would change so I stayed
Sex has nothing to do why he doesn't have a relationship with me lol.
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Hi Chrys
I only read with independent readers with long reputation history, and I don't really trust psychic hot lines..
How about making a reservation of a well trusted one that you can find from this thread?
I myself read with one in Bitwine and that lady was so wrong!
I won't say the psychics red for you were wrong, but I think there are better ones.
Btw I also reccomend dating coach like Matthew Hussey, Attract great guys, on youtube.
They talk about situations we can say' limbo'
I wish you'll feel better and I believe you deserve a great relationship.
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Well I'm not getting anywhere with readings so no more readings for me
I will just wait to see if I will have contact, if not I think I should just move on
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Well I'm not getting anywhere with readings so no more readings for me
I will just wait to see if I will have contact, if not I think I should just move on
Yeah that's even better! Best wishes for you!
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Well I'm not getting anywhere with readings so no more readings for me
I will just wait to see if I will have contact, if not I think I should just move on
You don’t want to pay more people to tell you the same thing.
You’ve been with this guy for 10 months. Have you met any of his friends? His family? Has he met any of the people in your life?
If the answer is no to those questions that means he’s not looking for anything serious with you.
Talk to your girlfriends instead of calling psychics. They’ll probably tell you just that!
There’s more fish in the sea. Don’t waste your time with this one!
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Well... Logically of course it's safe to assume he doesn't want anything serious.
However we have had a good and passionate connection from the start which he does acknowledge plus he has asked me multiple times if I have slept with others or sleeping and of course my answer is no.
He also says he is only aroused for me.
As I said I know so far he had some challenges so I didn't push him plus I enjoy sex.
However, I just want something more.
The readers I tried have all prediction come to pass feedback. I dunno I believe at least they would give me an accurate assessment of the now...
What he is feeling and thinking if not necessarily the future.
I think that's totally doable.
I do have a plan for when he contacts next as to what I would say.
But anyway it's disappointing for things not to match how they are describing them