The Psychic Reviews
Relationship Psychology Discussions => My Story => Topic started by: Girly1998 on August 04, 2019, 10:48:46 PM
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How long have you guys called about a specific person?
At what point do you decide to stop trusting that they will or even wanting them to come back?
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Last year it took 3-4 months until anything happened. But it did happen and worked out in my favor
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Last year it took 3-4 months until anything happened. But it did happen and worked out in my favor
3-4 out of contact or 3-4 months of just getting readings?
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How long have you guys called about a specific person?
At what point do you decide to stop trusting that they will or even wanting them to come back?
Interesting question. I stopped asking about my POI specifically at about 4 months out of contact. The problem that I have is that he keeps coming up when I don't ask about him. Occasionally it does make me spiral, I'm not gonna lie. I'm working through that. Limiting my readings has helped as well as getting out with friends and family.
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For me, today was the breaking point. It’s been 3 months since last point of contact. All the readings started about 2 months ago. Up until last Thursday, all the readers (except for Aerie Rivers) indicated that he’d make contact. Aerie Rivers said I’d need to initiate contact. Since the majority said he’d make contact, I waited. Some of the predicted timelines came and went. Some other readers said it wouldn’t be until August 12, August 28, September, October, or beginning of November. Last week, a monkey wrench got thrown into my waiting game when Matilda said I’d need to make contact. I was thrown through a loop. Matilda said that this guy was worth the effort and he’d be open to communication. Of course, I then called Tara. She also said I should make contact, and said he’d find hearing from me to be good news. I waited a few days and then called Psychic Readings by Gail. Now this is when I was seriously confused. She said his back was to her, which meant I should not wait around for this guy (which is what happens when there’s no closure, whether you intend to wait around or not). She said he wouldn’t be back around until February. Well, today another part of Matilda’s reading seemed to have a mini hit. So this gave me enough of a push to text him. No response yet. Who knows whether he’ll respond or not. I’m glad I texted him. No more wondering and no more being confused. If he responds, cool. If not, oh well. What’s meant to be will be. The universe is so much more powerful than my text screwing up any divine plan. If he and I are meant to be in each other’s life, even if he doesn’t respond, the universe will put us in each other’s path (two readers said this would happen. We’d run into each other). If not, then I’m glad I put an end to this madness. Much love! <3
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I think today was my breaking point. I had a reading this morning with someone I read with recently and it was pretty pointless. This is my fault, I feel it was too soon in between readings now that I think about it.
Listening to it again, the reading seemed phoned in, some of the predictions changed (not vastly but details and predicting situations that I know for a FACT would never happen) the overall tone of the reading was just...off. I think this reader is highly talented, and the first reading was great. This one wasn’t. It was regurgitated.
Also, this reader mentioned at least 4 things that I have felt/thought of in the past 24-48 hours. Which makes me wonder if the changes in the reading were also due to this person reading current energy or confusing energies. Literally things I had just thought about, or felt, were said. So it makes me wonder how much is them reading us and the lenses we view things through and our thoughts vs reading the other energies and the actual future.
Anyway, this has led me to just tell myself to stop. What will happen, will and however it’s supposed to.
I am going to have a final reading with Cookie, a broad general one because to be perfectly honest, Cookie has been the most accurate for me. Things she has seen, randomly saw have happened. I have had the experiences this summer so far that she described. She has been on point with so much.
But I’m tired and weary now. If this situation I’ve been waiting on while telling myself I wasn’t, lol, happens then it does. Right now, I just don’t have it in me to go through and think, “Well Cookie said this and Yona mentioned that and...”
🤷🏻♀️
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I think today was my breaking point. I had a reading this morning with someone I read with recently and it was pretty pointless. This is my fault, I feel it was too soon in between readings now that I think about it.
Listening to it again, the reading seemed phoned in, some of the predictions changed (not vastly but details and predicting situations that I know for a FACT would never happen) the overall tone of the reading was just...off. I think this reader is highly talented, and the first reading was great. This one wasn’t. It was regurgitated.
Also, this reader mentioned at least 4 things that I have felt/thought of in the past 24-48 hours. Which makes me wonder if the changes in the reading were also due to this person reading current energy or confusing energies. Literally things I had just thought about, or felt, were said. So it makes me wonder how much is them reading us and the lenses we view things through and our thoughts vs reading the other energies and the actual future.
Anyway, this has led me to just tell myself to stop. What will happen, will and however it’s supposed to.
I am going to have a final reading with Cookie, a broad general one because to be perfectly honest, Cookie has been the most accurate for me. Things she has seen, randomly saw have happened. I have had the experiences this summer so far that she described. She has been on point with so much.
But I’m tired and weary now. If this situation I’ve been waiting on while telling myself I wasn’t, lol, happens then it does. Right now, I just don’t have it in me to go through and think, “Well Cookie said this and Yona mentioned that and...”
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I feel this. Even if the reading is positive I just leave it feeling emotionally drained and worse than I felt before. We’ve been out of contact for 3 months but I haven’t even made any effort on my end. These psychics just leave me feeling discouraged with the “he’s missing you but you won’t get a response back. He still has his guard up, let him come to you.” Even going as far as saying I’m blocked (can’t confirm or deny.)
At this point I feel like just laying out the message to him, getting everything of my chest and stop listening to these people who put me back into the same negative mind space when I think I’m getting better.
He’s the first person I’ve ever gotten a reading on. I honestly don’t even remember how I stumbled upon them but I definitely wish I never did.
Sorry for the rant, today just sucks.
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I think today was my breaking point. I had a reading this morning with someone I read with recently and it was pretty pointless. This is my fault, I feel it was too soon in between readings now that I think about it.
Listening to it again, the reading seemed phoned in, some of the predictions changed (not vastly but details and predicting situations that I know for a FACT would never happen) the overall tone of the reading was just...off. I think this reader is highly talented, and the first reading was great. This one wasn’t. It was regurgitated.
Also, this reader mentioned at least 4 things that I have felt/thought of in the past 24-48 hours. Which makes me wonder if the changes in the reading were also due to this person reading current energy or confusing energies. Literally things I had just thought about, or felt, were said. So it makes me wonder how much is them reading us and the lenses we view things through and our thoughts vs reading the other energies and the actual future.
Anyway, this has led me to just tell myself to stop. What will happen, will and however it’s supposed to.
I am going to have a final reading with Cookie, a broad general one because to be perfectly honest, Cookie has been the most accurate for me. Things she has seen, randomly saw have happened. I have had the experiences this summer so far that she described. She has been on point with so much.
But I’m tired and weary now. If this situation I’ve been waiting on while telling myself I wasn’t, lol, happens then it does. Right now, I just don’t have it in me to go through and think, “Well Cookie said this and Yona mentioned that and...”
🤷🏻♀️
It's exhausting, I know. I'm taking a break too. I have my annual Kisha general email (which always works for me), then a sabbatical. I've got too much other stuff that needs my attention.
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My situation is a little different. Over the years, I have always been the one sucking up and reaching out. So even though I feel to reach out many times, I cant because I need to know if this person could ever care enough to chase after me for a change. My first and only reading with Yona is coming up this month (waiting a month per reading is too much for me), and it is my intent to pack it in after reading with her. Im very prepared. I even bought myself a $9 voice recorder off amazon for my 1 hour read. This person is the sole reason I got into psychic readings searching for hope that this person will come back. My soul really is tired and hurting and I look forward to a day when I wake up and this person no longer dominates my thoughts.
1 year and 3 months without anything? Is this the longest you’ve been out of contact?
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I think today was my breaking point. I had a reading this morning with someone I read with recently and it was pretty pointless. This is my fault, I feel it was too soon in between readings now that I think about it.
Listening to it again, the reading seemed phoned in, some of the predictions changed (not vastly but details and predicting situations that I know for a FACT would never happen) the overall tone of the reading was just...off. I think this reader is highly talented, and the first reading was great. This one wasn’t. It was regurgitated.
Also, this reader mentioned at least 4 things that I have felt/thought of in the past 24-48 hours. Which makes me wonder if the changes in the reading were also due to this person reading current energy or confusing energies. Literally things I had just thought about, or felt, were said. So it makes me wonder how much is them reading us and the lenses we view things through and our thoughts vs reading the other energies and the actual future.
Anyway, this has led me to just tell myself to stop. What will happen, will and however it’s supposed to.
I am going to have a final reading with Cookie, a broad general one because to be perfectly honest, Cookie has been the most accurate for me. Things she has seen, randomly saw have happened. I have had the experiences this summer so far that she described. She has been on point with so much.
But I’m tired and weary now. If this situation I’ve been waiting on while telling myself I wasn’t, lol, happens then it does. Right now, I just don’t have it in me to go through and think, “Well Cookie said this and Yona mentioned that and...”
🤷🏻♀️
It's exhausting, I know. I'm taking a break too. I have my annual Kisha general email (which always works for me), then a sabbatical. I've got too much other stuff that needs my attention.
Fidget, Girly, I’m in the same boat with y’all. Exhausted.
We can rant about it, lol, I think at this point ranting and sabbaticals and just laying things out on the table are the healthiest things we can probably do.
I have had a raging on and off migraine for days, my feelings go from zero to 60 within hours, I’m not sleeping (shout out to Cookie), and even things that should be easier to see (work situations) I’m getting conflicting answers about.
Time to get off the merry go round. When I was first on, 10 years ago, I called about someone for a year and a half. Didn’t hear from him at all, everyone telling me he’d reach out. While I was calling he was getting engaged. A year and a half (and more cause it took a long time to get over) of my young life wasted. Only to do the same thing another year later with a different guy. I’m not letting this one take years if my life. If I’m quite honest, the situation I was in was not ideal at all and it doesn’t matter. There’s no going back. (Sorry, Yona).
Like I said, Cookie so far has been the most accurate. It probably also helps that it takes a long while to contact her again. Maybe Yona is right but it’s too soon to tell and she could be speaking about someone I haven’t even met yet. 🙄
But yeah, Cookie. I know she’s not everyone’s cup of tea but for me she’s been working, she’s not selling me a dream, she’s actually quite realistic with me and helpful, and yeah...
Again, tired.
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Everyone’s situation is so different. There is no one answer to this question. I just tried to explain my own situation and it’s impossible. No one knows your journey and why you do what you do but you. And no one should stand in judgement or comparison about how long is too long for someone else.
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For me, today was the breaking point. It’s been 3 months since last point of contact. All the readings started about 2 months ago. Up until last Thursday, all the readers (except for Aerie Rivers) indicated that he’d make contact. Aerie Rivers said I’d need to initiate contact. Since the majority said he’d make contact, I waited. Some of the predicted timelines came and went. Some other readers said it wouldn’t be until August 12, August 28, September, October, or beginning of November. Last week, a monkey wrench got thrown into my waiting game when Matilda said I’d need to make contact. I was thrown through a loop. Matilda said that this guy was worth the effort and he’d be open to communication. Of course, I then called Tara. She also said I should make contact, and said he’d find hearing from me to be good news. I waited a few days and then called Psychic Readings by Gail. Now this is when I was seriously confused. She said his back was to her, which meant I should not wait around for this guy (which is what happens when there’s no closure, whether you intend to wait around or not). She said he wouldn’t be back around until February. Well, today another part of Matilda’s reading seemed to have a mini hit. So this gave me enough of a push to text him. No response yet. Who knows whether he’ll respond or not. I’m glad I texted him. No more wondering and no more being confused. If he responds, cool. If not, oh well. What’s meant to be will be. The universe is so much more powerful than my text screwing up any divine plan. If he and I are meant to be in each other’s life, even if he doesn’t respond, the universe will put us in each other’s path (two readers said this would happen. We’d run into each other). If not, then I’m glad I put an end to this madness. Much love! <3
To show how much of a skeptic I’ve become I look at this post and how many posts you’ve posted see that you’re pretty new and have to wonder if this reply is a set up and completely made up story to foreshadow that one of the advisors you mention were right and isn’t that fabulous that so and so was right? I’m sorry if this hurts your feelings as I don’t know you and it’s probably just my own skepticism but this is how much I believe that this industry is based in greed. That someone may just in fact go so far as to make up a fake account not to pretend to be the reader but to make up stories that then glorify a particular reader.
In the event this is not the case - wish you all the best and good for you for reaching out and setting your mind at ease.
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I think today was my breaking point. I had a reading this morning with someone I read with recently and it was pretty pointless. This is my fault, I feel it was too soon in between readings now that I think about it.
Listening to it again, the reading seemed phoned in, some of the predictions changed (not vastly but details and predicting situations that I know for a FACT would never happen) the overall tone of the reading was just...off. I think this reader is highly talented, and the first reading was great. This one wasn’t. It was regurgitated.
Also, this reader mentioned at least 4 things that I have felt/thought of in the past 24-48 hours. Which makes me wonder if the changes in the reading were also due to this person reading current energy or confusing energies. Literally things I had just thought about, or felt, were said. So it makes me wonder how much is them reading us and the lenses we view things through and our thoughts vs reading the other energies and the actual future.
Anyway, this has led me to just tell myself to stop. What will happen, will and however it’s supposed to.
I am going to have a final reading with Cookie, a broad general one because to be perfectly honest, Cookie has been the most accurate for me. Things she has seen, randomly saw have happened. I have had the experiences this summer so far that she described. She has been on point with so much.
But I’m tired and weary now. If this situation I’ve been waiting on while telling myself I wasn’t, lol, happens then it does. Right now, I just don’t have it in me to go through and think, “Well Cookie said this and Yona mentioned that and...”
🤷🏻♀️
It's exhausting, I know. I'm taking a break too. I have my annual Kisha general email (which always works for me), then a sabbatical. I've got too much other stuff that needs my attention.
Fidget, Girly, I’m in the same boat with y’all. Exhausted.
We can rant about it, lol, I think at this point ranting and sabbaticals and just laying things out on the table are the healthiest things we can probably do.
I have had a raging on and off migraine for days, my feelings go from zero to 60 within hours, I’m not sleeping (shout out to Cookie), and even things that should be easier to see (work situations) I’m getting conflicting answers about.
Time to get off the merry go round. If I’m quite honest, the situation I was in was not ideal at all and it doesn’t matter. There’s no going back. (Sorry, Yona).
Like I said, Cookie so far has been the most accurate. It probably also helps that it takes a long while to contact her again. Maybe Yona is right but it’s too soon to tell and she could be speaking about someone I haven’t even met yet. 🙄
But yeah, Cookie. I know she’s not everyone’s cup of tea but for me she’s been working, she’s not selling me a dream, she’s actually quite realistic with me and helpful, and yeah...
Again, tired.
I’m not quite sold on Yona for that reason, most things do happen with other people and isn’t as big as it seems. I honestly think getting opinions from people on here helps more than getting readings. We’re all in the same boat here and nobody is gonna shove a fairytale down your throat.
Everything happened so fast with my guy, it was really unexpected and most of it is definitely my fault. I think that’s why this one is so different than other separations I’ve been through. “Love made me crazy” is definitely and accurate description of what went down. So many outside influences too, unfortunately.
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Everyone’s situation is so different. There is no one answer to this question. I just tried to explain my own situation and it’s impossible. No one knows your journey and why you do what you do but you. And no one should stand in judgement or comparison about how long is too long for someone else.
Absolutely, no judgement whether you stop after a month or it takes 5 years. I think we all know how it is when you’re in a situation where you just need someone else to tell you it’ll be okay.
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I think today was my breaking point. I had a reading this morning with someone I read with recently and it was pretty pointless. This is my fault, I feel it was too soon in between readings now that I think about it.
Listening to it again, the reading seemed phoned in, some of the predictions changed (not vastly but details and predicting situations that I know for a FACT would never happen) the overall tone of the reading was just...off. I think this reader is highly talented, and the first reading was great. This one wasn’t. It was regurgitated.
Also, this reader mentioned at least 4 things that I have felt/thought of in the past 24-48 hours. Which makes me wonder if the changes in the reading were also due to this person reading current energy or confusing energies. Literally things I had just thought about, or felt, were said. So it makes me wonder how much is them reading us and the lenses we view things through and our thoughts vs reading the other energies and the actual future.
Anyway, this has led me to just tell myself to stop. What will happen, will and however it’s supposed to.
I am going to have a final reading with Cookie, a broad general one because to be perfectly honest, Cookie has been the most accurate for me. Things she has seen, randomly saw have happened. I have had the experiences this summer so far that she described. She has been on point with so much.
But I’m tired and weary now. If this situation I’ve been waiting on while telling myself I wasn’t, lol, happens then it does. Right now, I just don’t have it in me to go through and think, “Well Cookie said this and Yona mentioned that and...”
🤷🏻♀️
It's exhausting, I know. I'm taking a break too. I have my annual Kisha general email (which always works for me), then a sabbatical. I've got too much other stuff that needs my attention.
Fidget, Girly, I’m in the same boat with y’all. Exhausted.
We can rant about it, lol, I think at this point ranting and sabbaticals and just laying things out on the table are the healthiest things we can probably do.
I have had a raging on and off migraine for days, my feelings go from zero to 60 within hours, I’m not sleeping (shout out to Cookie), and even things that should be easier to see (work situations) I’m getting conflicting answers about.
Time to get off the merry go round. If I’m quite honest, the situation I was in was not ideal at all and it doesn’t matter. There’s no going back. (Sorry, Yona).
Like I said, Cookie so far has been the most accurate. It probably also helps that it takes a long while to contact her again. Maybe Yona is right but it’s too soon to tell and she could be speaking about someone I haven’t even met yet. 🙄
But yeah, Cookie. I know she’s not everyone’s cup of tea but for me she’s been working, she’s not selling me a dream, she’s actually quite realistic with me and helpful, and yeah...
Again, tired.
I’m not quite sold on Yona for that reason, most things do happen with other people and isn’t as big as it seems. I honestly think getting opinions from people on here helps more than getting readings. We’re all in the same boat here and nobody is gonna shove a fairytale down your throat.
Everything happened so fast with my guy, it was really unexpected and most of it is definitely my fault. I think that’s why this one is so different than other separations I’ve been through. “Love made me crazy” is definitely and accurate description of what went down. So many outside influences too, unfortunately.
I totally understand the “love made me crazy” part. It’s one of the reasons I think one situation in my life is over and done with, because I see no turning back or trust after this.
I agree about Yona. I like her. A lot. But I’ve only had a couple of tiny predictions pass, I barely had any in my reading compared to others I know. And I am very convinced that whatever she saw is in the future with someone else. Which is sad, because if that’s true that means I’m going to go through another cycle of crap with a different person.
I’ve made a few friends on this board and it’s honestly better when I chit chat with them and talk out what I’m thinking and feeling vs a reading.
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For me, today was the breaking point. It’s been 3 months since last point of contact. All the readings started about 2 months ago. Up until last Thursday, all the readers (except for Aerie Rivers) indicated that he’d make contact. Aerie Rivers said I’d need to initiate contact. Since the majority said he’d make contact, I waited. Some of the predicted timelines came and went. Some other readers said it wouldn’t be until August 12, August 28, September, October, or beginning of November. Last week, a monkey wrench got thrown into my waiting game when Matilda said I’d need to make contact. I was thrown through a loop. Matilda said that this guy was worth the effort and he’d be open to communication. Of course, I then called Tara. She also said I should make contact, and said he’d find hearing from me to be good news. I waited a few days and then called Psychic Readings by Gail. Now this is when I was seriously confused. She said his back was to her, which meant I should not wait around for this guy (which is what happens when there’s no closure, whether you intend to wait around or not). She said he wouldn’t be back around until February. Well, today another part of Matilda’s reading seemed to have a mini hit. So this gave me enough of a push to text him. No response yet. Who knows whether he’ll respond or not. I’m glad I texted him. No more wondering and no more being confused. If he responds, cool. If not, oh well. What’s meant to be will be. The universe is so much more powerful than my text screwing up any divine plan. If he and I are meant to be in each other’s life, even if he doesn’t respond, the universe will put us in each other’s path (two readers said this would happen. We’d run into each other). If not, then I’m glad I put an end to this madness. Much love! <3
To show how much of a skeptic I’ve become I look at this post and how many posts you’ve posted see that you’re pretty new and have to wonder if this reply is a set up and completely made up story to foreshadow that one of the advisors you mention were right and isn’t that fabulous that so and so was right? I’m sorry if this hurts your feelings as I don’t know you and it’s probably just my own skepticism but this is how much I believe that this industry is based in greed. That someone may just in fact go so far as to make up a fake account not to pretend to be the reader but to make up stories that then glorify a particular reader.
In the event this is not the case - wish you all the best and good for you for reaching out and setting your mind at ease.
I’m not entirely sure how my post can glorify any one specific reader, no matter which way my situation goes. At this point, I’m truly beginning to think that they were all wrong about my situation OR my own freewill completely messed up the outcome. Yes, I’m relatively new on the forum. Lurkers who don’t contribute are frowned upon. Yet, you react with premature skepticism when someone new attempts to share their experience. If I were to have just “poof” appeared on this forum saying that so and so was 100% right and everyone needs to try her, well that’s another story. It’s always good to be somewhat skeptical, but keep in mind that taking a swat at someone’s authenticity as a preemptive measure will surely result in others not wanting to share their experiences with various advisors. Isn’t that one of the main reasons why this forum exists? To share our experiences and offer support? Hell, it’s not like most of us can talk to our friends and family about this without them being all judgey. So here we are :-)
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For me, today was the breaking point. It’s been 3 months since last point of contact. All the readings started about 2 months ago. Up until last Thursday, all the readers (except for Aerie Rivers) indicated that he’d make contact. Aerie Rivers said I’d need to initiate contact. Since the majority said he’d make contact, I waited. Some of the predicted timelines came and went. Some other readers said it wouldn’t be until August 12, August 28, September, October, or beginning of November. Last week, a monkey wrench got thrown into my waiting game when Matilda said I’d need to make contact. I was thrown through a loop. Matilda said that this guy was worth the effort and he’d be open to communication. Of course, I then called Tara. She also said I should make contact, and said he’d find hearing from me to be good news. I waited a few days and then called Psychic Readings by Gail. Now this is when I was seriously confused. She said his back was to her, which meant I should not wait around for this guy (which is what happens when there’s no closure, whether you intend to wait around or not). She said he wouldn’t be back around until February. Well, today another part of Matilda’s reading seemed to have a mini hit. So this gave me enough of a push to text him. No response yet. Who knows whether he’ll respond or not. I’m glad I texted him. No more wondering and no more being confused. If he responds, cool. If not, oh well. What’s meant to be will be. The universe is so much more powerful than my text screwing up any divine plan. If he and I are meant to be in each other’s life, even if he doesn’t respond, the universe will put us in each other’s path (two readers said this would happen. We’d run into each other). If not, then I’m glad I put an end to this madness. Much love! <3
To show how much of a skeptic I’ve become I look at this post and how many posts you’ve posted see that you’re pretty new and have to wonder if this reply is a set up and completely made up story to foreshadow that one of the advisors you mention were right and isn’t that fabulous that so and so was right? I’m sorry if this hurts your feelings as I don’t know you and it’s probably just my own skepticism but this is how much I believe that this industry is based in greed. That someone may just in fact go so far as to make up a fake account not to pretend to be the reader but to make up stories that then glorify a particular reader.
In the event this is not the case - wish you all the best and good for you for reaching out and setting your mind at ease.
I’m not entirely sure how my post can glorify any one specific reader, no matter which way my situation goes. At this point, I’m truly beginning to think that they were all wrong about my situation OR my own freewill completely messed up the outcome. Yes, I’m relatively new on the forum. Lurkers who don’t contribute are frowned upon. Yet, you react with premature skepticism when someone new attempts to share their experience. If I were to have just “poof” appeared on this forum saying that so and so was 100% right and everyone needs to try her, well that’s another story. It’s always good to be somewhat skeptical, but keep in mind that taking a swat at someone’s authenticity as a preemptive measure will surely result in others not wanting to share their experiences with various advisors. Isn’t that one of the main reasons why this forum exists? To share our experiences and offer support? Hell, it’s not like most of us can talk to our friends and family about this without them being all judgey. So here we are :-)
Agreed Yaz. Everybody was new here at some point. Your whole post was pretty much pointing out how none of them were really right.
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I started calling to Psychics from the first week after our falling out. Now, over one year and a half passed, we've been out of contact during all this time. I got so many time frames that never came to pass. Still I keep calling, and don't really know when I will stop. But it seems that point should not be far off :(
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I feel like this is happening a lot on here and making the forum turn toxic. One or two continually marking newcomers feel unwelcome and I’ve seen some very passive aggressive postings and threads.
Everyone is entitled to input. We are all entitled to either take that input or ignore it
I for one love listening to new people’s views. Otherwise it becomes dogmatic and we all know
A forum that became like that.
Agree, even if they are a fake then ignore it and move on. Unless they’re going on every thread and promoting this new reader that nobody has heard of, there’s not need for skepticism.
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I started calling to Psychics from the first week after our falling out. Now, over one year and a half passed, we've been out of contact during all this time. I got so many time frames that never came to pass. Still I keep calling, and don't really know when I will stop. But it seems that point should not be far off :(
Im glad to know im not the only one holding out hope even after the 1 year mark. May i ask, why is it you find it hard to let this person go? Caz i struggle with wondering if im being crazy or whether its my intuition telling me to hold on and it will be worth the wait.
haha ... I don't really know Prof. I ask this question from myself everyday, and I get no answer.
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I started calling to Psychics from the first week after our falling out. Now, over one year and a half passed, we've been out of contact during all this time. I got so many time frames that never came to pass. Still I keep calling, and don't really know when I will stop. But it seems that point should not be far off :(
Im glad to know im not the only one holding out hope even after the 1 year mark. May i ask, why is it you find it hard to let this person go? Caz i struggle with wondering if im being crazy or whether its my intuition telling me to hold on and it will be worth the wait.
This must be tough for the both of you! Wow the longest Ive waited was 4 months no contact - the longest in my life. I’m so curious - have any of you reached out to the POI within this time at all?
I ask because Ive seen it too often on this board where folks have waited this long only to find the POI is engaged or married to someone else. I’d just hate that all this time has passed and there is no contact or closure. I hope you both get what you want (or need) soon ♥️
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I started calling to Psychics from the first week after our falling out. Now, over one year and a half passed, we've been out of contact during all this time. I got so many time frames that never came to pass. Still I keep calling, and don't really know when I will stop. But it seems that point should not be far off :(
Im glad to know im not the only one holding out hope even after the 1 year mark. May i ask, why is it you find it hard to let this person go? Caz i struggle with wondering if im being crazy or whether its my intuition telling me to hold on and it will be worth the wait.
This must be tough for the both of you! Wow the longest Ive waited was 4 months no contact - the longest in my life. I’m so curious - have any of you reached out to the POI within this time at all?
I ask because Ive seen it too often on this board where folks have waited this long only to find the POI is engaged or married to someone else. I’d just hate that all this time has passed and there is no contact or closure. I hope you both get what you want (or need) soon ♥️
Sparkle, I did, several times. And thank you for your kind wishes :)
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I started calling to Psychics from the first week after our falling out. Now, over one year and a half passed, we've been out of contact during all this time. I got so many time frames that never came to pass. Still I keep calling, and don't really know when I will stop. But it seems that point should not be far off :(
Im glad to know im not the only one holding out hope even after the 1 year mark. May i ask, why is it you find it hard to let this person go? Caz i struggle with wondering if im being crazy or whether its my intuition telling me to hold on and it will be worth the wait.
haha ... I don't really know Prof. I ask this question from myself everyday, and I get no answer.
Well for me the answer is easy. Ive never been in love with anyone else! The connection is deep and the memories are one of a kind. On and off for 14 yrs but the feelings never died. Hoping they feel the same way. But the longer the silence is the more my hope wanes. My dream is that one day I get to start a new thread on this forum overjoyed to share the fact that my poi came back and lauding the psychics who got it right. What joy!
Prof! thanks for sharing your feelings, this is great! Hope you guys get back to each other very soon :)
And regarding making a new thread ... this is something that I always dream about :)
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I started calling to Psychics from the first week after our falling out. Now, over one year and a half passed, we've been out of contact during all this time. I got so many time frames that never came to pass. Still I keep calling, and don't really know when I will stop. But it seems that point should not be far off :(
Makes sense😊 hope it works out for you
I havent reached out this time caz ive always reached out in the past. This time, it has to go the other way for me to be convinced that what we share is mutual.
Im glad to know im not the only one holding out hope even after the 1 year mark. May i ask, why is it you find it hard to let this person go? Caz i struggle with wondering if im being crazy or whether its my intuition telling me to hold on and it will be worth the wait.
This must be tough for the both of you! Wow the longest Ive waited was 4 months no contact - the longest in my life. I’m so curious - have any of you reached out to the POI within this time at all?
I ask because Ive seen it too often on this board where folks have waited this long only to find the POI is engaged or married to someone else. I’d just hate that all this time has passed and there is no contact or closure. I hope you both get what you want (or need) soon ♥️
Sparkle, I did, several times. And thank you for your kind wishes :)
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For me, today was the breaking point. It’s been 3 months since last point of contact. All the readings started about 2 months ago. Up until last Thursday, all the readers (except for Aerie Rivers) indicated that he’d make contact. Aerie Rivers said I’d need to initiate contact. Since the majority said he’d make contact, I waited. Some of the predicted timelines came and went. Some other readers said it wouldn’t be until August 12, August 28, September, October, or beginning of November. Last week, a monkey wrench got thrown into my waiting game when Matilda said I’d need to make contact. I was thrown through a loop. Matilda said that this guy was worth the effort and he’d be open to communication. Of course, I then called Tara. She also said I should make contact, and said he’d find hearing from me to be good news. I waited a few days and then called Psychic Readings by Gail. Now this is when I was seriously confused. She said his back was to her, which meant I should not wait around for this guy (which is what happens when there’s no closure, whether you intend to wait around or not). She said he wouldn’t be back around until February. Well, today another part of Matilda’s reading seemed to have a mini hit. So this gave me enough of a push to text him. No response yet. Who knows whether he’ll respond or not. I’m glad I texted him. No more wondering and no more being confused. If he responds, cool. If not, oh well. What’s meant to be will be. The universe is so much more powerful than my text screwing up any divine plan. If he and I are meant to be in each other’s life, even if he doesn’t respond, the universe will put us in each other’s path (two readers said this would happen. We’d run into each other). If not, then I’m glad I put an end to this madness. Much love! <3
To show how much of a skeptic I’ve become I look at this post and how many posts you’ve posted see that you’re pretty new and have to wonder if this reply is a set up and completely made up story to foreshadow that one of the advisors you mention were right and isn’t that fabulous that so and so was right? I’m sorry if this hurts your feelings as I don’t know you and it’s probably just my own skepticism but this is how much I believe that this industry is based in greed. That someone may just in fact go so far as to make up a fake account not to pretend to be the reader but to make up stories that then glorify a particular reader.
In the event this is not the case - wish you all the best and good for you for reaching out and setting your mind at ease.
I’m not entirely sure how my post can glorify any one specific reader, no matter which way my situation goes. At this point, I’m truly beginning to think that they were all wrong about my situation OR my own freewill completely messed up the outcome. Yes, I’m relatively new on the forum. Lurkers who don’t contribute are frowned upon. Yet, you react with premature skepticism when someone new attempts to share their experience. If I were to have just “poof” appeared on this forum saying that so and so was 100% right and everyone needs to try her, well that’s another story. It’s always good to be somewhat skeptical, but keep in mind that taking a swat at someone’s authenticity as a preemptive measure will surely result in others not wanting to share their experiences with various advisors. Isn’t that one of the main reasons why this forum exists? To share our experiences and offer support? Hell, it’s not like most of us can talk to our friends and family about this without them being all judgey. So here we are :-)
You are right - this is not something that I think most people can discuss with other people - and I wish I wasn’t so skeptical of every single poet I read. In fact I admit I’m even skeptical of posts from long time members too. I think it’s just because of my personal experience on the forum that I won’t go into but - a couple things really - that were too complicated to explain but left me basically feeling unable to trust 100 percent really anything anyone posts.
Now obviously no I don’t think every person is making something up to promote or the opposite - negatively influence a readers reputation. So I do benefit from reading the threads and trying to see overall opinions - it is meant to be a board to help everyone ...
Anyway I am sorry if it came across as a swat I didn’t intend it that way. Thanks for your post and offering your experiences. One just never knows and there is no way to know really who is genuine and who isn’t. Add on top of it the truth that one reader may connect really well with one person and not another... and it makes it so difficult to sift through what is valuable information or not.
Thanks for replying and wish you all the best - again didn’t mean it as so personal but I hope you understand where I’m coming from.
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For me, today was the breaking point. It’s been 3 months since last point of contact. All the readings started about 2 months ago. Up until last Thursday, all the readers (except for Aerie Rivers) indicated that he’d make contact. Aerie Rivers said I’d need to initiate contact. Since the majority said he’d make contact, I waited. Some of the predicted timelines came and went. Some other readers said it wouldn’t be until August 12, August 28, September, October, or beginning of November. Last week, a monkey wrench got thrown into my waiting game when Matilda said I’d need to make contact. I was thrown through a loop. Matilda said that this guy was worth the effort and he’d be open to communication. Of course, I then called Tara. She also said I should make contact, and said he’d find hearing from me to be good news. I waited a few days and then called Psychic Readings by Gail. Now this is when I was seriously confused. She said his back was to her, which meant I should not wait around for this guy (which is what happens when there’s no closure, whether you intend to wait around or not). She said he wouldn’t be back around until February. Well, today another part of Matilda’s reading seemed to have a mini hit. So this gave me enough of a push to text him. No response yet. Who knows whether he’ll respond or not. I’m glad I texted him. No more wondering and no more being confused. If he responds, cool. If not, oh well. What’s meant to be will be. The universe is so much more powerful than my text screwing up any divine plan. If he and I are meant to be in each other’s life, even if he doesn’t respond, the universe will put us in each other’s path (two readers said this would happen. We’d run into each other). If not, then I’m glad I put an end to this madness. Much love! <3
To show how much of a skeptic I’ve become I look at this post and how many posts you’ve posted see that you’re pretty new and have to wonder if this reply is a set up and completely made up story to foreshadow that one of the advisors you mention were right and isn’t that fabulous that so and so was right? I’m sorry if this hurts your feelings as I don’t know you and it’s probably just my own skepticism but this is how much I believe that this industry is based in greed. That someone may just in fact go so far as to make up a fake account not to pretend to be the reader but to make up stories that then glorify a particular reader.
In the event this is not the case - wish you all the best and good for you for reaching out and setting your mind at ease.
I’m not entirely sure how my post can glorify any one specific reader, no matter which way my situation goes. At this point, I’m truly beginning to think that they were all wrong about my situation OR my own freewill completely messed up the outcome. Yes, I’m relatively new on the forum. Lurkers who don’t contribute are frowned upon. Yet, you react with premature skepticism when someone new attempts to share their experience. If I were to have just “poof” appeared on this forum saying that so and so was 100% right and everyone needs to try her, well that’s another story. It’s always good to be somewhat skeptical, but keep in mind that taking a swat at someone’s authenticity as a preemptive measure will surely result in others not wanting to share their experiences with various advisors. Isn’t that one of the main reasons why this forum exists? To share our experiences and offer support? Hell, it’s not like most of us can talk to our friends and family about this without them being all judgey. So here we are :-)
Agreed Yaz. Everybody was new here at some point. Your whole post was pretty much pointing out how none of them were really right.
Well to be fair I did say that I was suspicious of foreshadowing. Not sure if you know what that means but basically like a set up. I believe for sure it has been done by some on this board. Where someone literally makes up a story of a relationship and something not going right and then all of the sudden poof one of the readers is right! And none of it is actually true at all. I’ve been here a while and am almost completely sure that this has happened more than once.
So please understand I don’t mean my comment as unwelcoming or an attack although I know absolutely it came across that way and I am sorry for that. But there’s no way to voice this and get it out in the open without commenting on an example instance. So this was meant as an example of what could happen and what I think has happened in the past.
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I have to say firsthand when I have been on this forum the amount of people who get defensive over readers (and it's the same readers) highly suspect. I don't feel comfortable saying the reader's names and don't want to start up a whole debate on it when the topic is supposed to be about how long too long is, but there are certain readers who get away with lots on here. There was one who was caught out for shady behaviour yet everyone really got defensive of them, I know I have posted about them negatively saying simply that their predictions didn't come to pass and had really defensive comments made. They are just a reader! Just because they work for you and have been so accurate, that doesn't mean that they can't do unsavoury behaviour or are shady behind the scenes too, and for others they may not connect so well. But we all have to remember that these people are business people and readers, and we all are entitled to our say and it will always vary. I find it strange and have noticed how some readers get pulled up for advertising on here like the Shaman Kiri topic had alot of drama around it, yet other readers because they are so good and busy they get defended like some kind of monarch and seem to get away with lots. We have to remember that we all are allowed our say and not to make others feel uncomfortable on here. They really are just readers and 9 times out of 10 (not always through the reader's fault), they don't get the big hits for people, yet the small minority on here are lucky. I definitely think that there are readers on here in more recent times or they have their friends planted on here checking every bit of newsfeed going on, unfortunately.
But aside from that and back on topic as a general comment, only you can decide how long is too long. If you have a feeling inside of you that your ex is going to return, then trust that and live your life and do the things you enjoy, go out with friends party or have fun. Don't sit moping around counting the hours as how long is a piece of string? It could be months or a couple of years before his return. I think you can decide to let go but have that "if he comes back in, then great I'm open for it, but I'm gonna live my life" mentality.
I think we have to be honest with ourselves too, though, and if we have a strong sensation that this situation is done for and there isn't much possibility, then we should ideally move on and accept that at the present he isn't in contact, there probably is someone else or certainly is and he isn't making moves to come forth to us. Someone (can't remember who) said it perfectly the other day, that a reader said to them "focus on what your POI is doing at this moment and how far along things are right now", I think we sometimes have to use logic in our situations on the "now" at least and our situations at the present. And men do often come back but most of the time it isn't for genuine reasons, sometimes in rare cases it is actually because he misses you and needed time to realise that or needed to get his head straight. My friend has had all of her exes come back and it was all sweet talk until they wanted sex or money or whatever and then they disappeared again. I'm not saying all men are like that, but rarely does a guy come back with good intentions. You only have to look at this board to see that most of the time we don't get the desired ending.
But the amount of time wasted on psychics, looking back where I didn't live my life and waited around for phone calls or typing in tbe digits fast to be put through to a reader, money and effort wasted with nothing out of it is time I could have been spending on myself and moving on.
I'd really say if you believe someone will return then have faith in it and it doesn't mean you can't live your live like they definitely are doing, and it's upto you how long you wait. But I know according to readers that some women have waited over 20 years for a guy and refuse to give up.
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This is a great topic...I don't think there's a time limit for how long it takes to get over someone, and if you're still in love, then it makes sense that you will still keep getting readings.
For my first POI, it's been a year this month since we've spoken..and I still feel things for him. I feel I'm stupid to think there is any kind of future though, but I can't just turn off what I felt for him for so long.
We were involved for years, and he always came back after a few weeks, I think the longest we went was a bit over a month, but this time, he hasn't returned and I have had to face reality that its officially over, and that's the hardest part.
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This is a great topic...I don't think there's a time limit for how long it takes to get over someone, and if you're still in love, then it makes sense that you will still keep getting readings.
For my first POI, it's been a year this month since we've spoken..and I still feel things for him. I feel I'm stupid to think there is any kind of future though, but I can't just turn off what I felt for him for so long.
We were involved for years, and he always came back after a few weeks, I think the longest we went was a bit over a month, but this time, he hasn't returned and I have had to face reality that its officially over, and that's the hardest part.
I'm in the same boat. It's a process for sure.
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This is a great topic...I don't think there's a time limit for how long it takes to get over someone, and if you're still in love, then it makes sense that you will still keep getting readings.
For my first POI, it's been a year this month since we've spoken..and I still feel things for him. I feel I'm stupid to think there is any kind of future though, but I can't just turn off what I felt for him for so long.
We were involved for years, and he always came back after a few weeks, I think the longest we went was a bit over a month, but this time, he hasn't returned and I have had to face reality that its officially over, and that's the hardest part.
I'm in the same boat. It's a process for sure.
Sorry to hear :( It sure is a process...I find myself wondering when I will be completely over him...some days it feels like I am, and others, not so much. Part of me wants complete closure, like for him to say I've completely lost interest in you and I'm with someone else, and the other part of me doesn't want to know lol. Either way, I would never reach out to him..just won't.
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This is a great topic...I don't think there's a time limit for how long it takes to get over someone, and if you're still in love, then it makes sense that you will still keep getting readings.
For my first POI, it's been a year this month since we've spoken..and I still feel things for him. I feel I'm stupid to think there is any kind of future though, but I can't just turn off what I felt for him for so long.
We were involved for years, and he always came back after a few weeks, I think the longest we went was a bit over a month, but this time, he hasn't returned and I have had to face reality that its officially over, and that's the hardest part.
I'm in the same boat. It's a process for sure.
Sorry to hear :( It sure is a process...I find myself wondering when I will be completely over him...some days it feels like I am, and others, not so much. Part of me wants complete closure, like for him to say I've completely lost interest in you and I'm with someone else, and the other part of me doesn't want to know lol. Either way, I would never reach out to him..just won't.
If you don’t mind me asking, why would you never reach out?
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This is a great topic...I don't think there's a time limit for how long it takes to get over someone, and if you're still in love, then it makes sense that you will still keep getting readings.
For my first POI, it's been a year this month since we've spoken..and I still feel things for him. I feel I'm stupid to think there is any kind of future though, but I can't just turn off what I felt for him for so long.
We were involved for years, and he always came back after a few weeks, I think the longest we went was a bit over a month, but this time, he hasn't returned and I have had to face reality that its officially over, and that's the hardest part.
I'm in the same boat. It's a process for sure.
Sorry to hear :( It sure is a process...I find myself wondering when I will be completely over him...some days it feels like I am, and others, not so much. Part of me wants complete closure, like for him to say I've completely lost interest in you and I'm with someone else, and the other part of me doesn't want to know lol. Either way, I would never reach out to him..just won't.
If you don’t mind me asking, why would you never reach out?
I don't mind :)...I don't know, I just have this strong inner feeling like I shouldn't..if he wanted to come back, he would. I feel like if I reached out, and even if he replied, I would always be wondering if he only was with me because of MY effort. I feel at this point (with our complicated past) that I need him to make the effort and show me something, not the other way around.
In the past, I did reach out a few times after we argued and I didn't regret it then, but looking back, maybe I shouldn't have, because maybe I would have healed faster if it didn't drag on as long as it did.
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This is a great topic...I don't think there's a time limit for how long it takes to get over someone, and if you're still in love, then it makes sense that you will still keep getting readings.
For my first POI, it's been a year this month since we've spoken..and I still feel things for him. I feel I'm stupid to think there is any kind of future though, but I can't just turn off what I felt for him for so long.
We were involved for years, and he always came back after a few weeks, I think the longest we went was a bit over a month, but this time, he hasn't returned and I have had to face reality that its officially over, and that's the hardest part.
I'm in the same boat. It's a process for sure.
Sorry to hear :( It sure is a process...I find myself wondering when I will be completely over him...some days it feels like I am, and others, not so much. Part of me wants complete closure, like for him to say I've completely lost interest in you and I'm with someone else, and the other part of me doesn't want to know lol. Either way, I would never reach out to him..just won't.
If you don’t mind me asking, why would you never reach out?
I don't mind :)...I don't know, I just have this strong inner feeling like I shouldn't..if he wanted to come back, he would. I feel like if I reached out, and even if he replied, I would always be wondering if he only was with me because of MY effort. I feel at this point (with our complicated past) that I need him to make the effort and show me something, not the other way around.
In the past, I did reach out a few times after we argued and I didn't regret it then, but looking back, maybe I shouldn't have, because maybe I would have healed faster if it didn't drag on as long as it did.
Understandable. I think it depends on the nature of the breakup and if things were left with the ball being in his court. My case is weird, we both have reasons to think reaching out would not warrant a response. But I totally get the whole thinking it’ll only be because of your effort. Men are weird.
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Ok I’m about to come with the sledgehammer but if I learned anything in my ripe old age of 29, if your poi (guy or gal) does not make any attempt of reach out to you within 3 months (and that’s being generous) MOVE ON. This person is not “suffering” they are living their life without you at this point. Move on, move on, move on. They are not pining after you or giving you the time of day like you are giving them. They are not. Stop filling your head and tricking yourself to think they are because as humans we shield ourselves from the bad to cope with a loss. You need to feel to heal. Feel for your loss and then move on! Time is the most valuable thing on this planet, you will never get it back. Invest it in things and people who will invest in you. Set boundaries early in your relationships, and the person willing to put in the time and effort will be the one who wins your heart. I will say it here but I got my poi, we share a home together and build on our love everyday. The ONLY psychic to get big outcome predictions of what’s actually happening in my life right now was a known scammer. What does that tell you? Move on with your life friends. You only get one.
I’m stepping off my soapbox. Thanks for coming to my Tedtalk.
well said! Even if they still think about you and misses you, why in the world would you want someone that doesnt make any effort? Actions speak louder than their "thoughts and feelings". Even if they have a lot of fear from the past and is scared to reach out etc...again, why would you want to be with someone who's not mature or healthy/balanced enough to go for what they want? Love is not supposed to be painful.
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Ok I’m about to come with the sledgehammer but if I learned anything in my ripe old age of 29, if your poi (guy or gal) does not make any attempt of reach out to you within 3 months (and that’s being generous) MOVE ON. This person is not “suffering” they are living their life without you at this point. Move on, move on, move on. They are not pining after you or giving you the time of day like you are giving them. They are not. Stop filling your head and tricking yourself to think they are because as humans we shield ourselves from the bad to cope with a loss. You need to feel to heal. Feel for your loss and then move on! Time is the most valuable thing on this planet, you will never get it back. Invest it in things and people who will invest in you. Set boundaries early in your relationships, and the person willing to put in the time and effort will be the one who wins your heart. I will say it here but I got my poi, we share a home together and build on our love everyday. The ONLY psychic to get big outcome predictions of what’s actually happening in my life right now was a known scammer. What does that tell you? Move on with your life friends. You only get one.
I’m stepping off my soapbox. Thanks for coming to my Tedtalk.
I completely agree and that's when you have to use logic in your situation and be realistic. If a guy comes back after 2, 3 months in the rare circumstance yes he does care and needed time or needed to fix himself or whatever. But if someone really cared about you, they couldn't go a day without talking to you.
I know I've spent many nights not sleeping thinking about my POI's in the past and crying, the most recent one I reached out on a number of occasions and he didn't want to know. I specifically asked could we stay in touch or do you not want contact at all anymore, I asked fairly and politely and the dick ignored my texts on purpose. If he had any ounce of human, he could have said something. I have been in some toxic relationships, but they were man enough to tell me good luck with my life and to take care. And we both ended things like adults.
And the sad thing is, like you say, they aren't crying over us or calling readers or waiting on us. They are having the last laugh because they can go window shopping knowing we are there hanging about for them. Men have told me themselves that if they truly like you they will reach out because they are scared to lose you, none of this well I needed to sleep wi- see other women to realise it was you I needed or I wanted a bit of single time and now I'm ready for you.
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Ok I’m about to come with the sledgehammer but if I learned anything in my ripe old age of 29, if your poi (guy or gal) does not make any attempt of reach out to you within 3 months (and that’s being generous) MOVE ON. This person is not “suffering” they are living their life without you at this point. Move on, move on, move on. They are not pining after you or giving you the time of day like you are giving them. They are not. Stop filling your head and tricking yourself to think they are because as humans we shield ourselves from the bad to cope with a loss. You need to feel to heal. Feel for your loss and then move on! Time is the most valuable thing on this planet, you will never get it back. Invest it in things and people who will invest in you. Set boundaries early in your relationships, and the person willing to put in the time and effort will be the one who wins your heart. I will say it here but I got my poi, we share a home together and build on our love everyday. The ONLY psychic to get big outcome predictions of what’s actually happening in my life right now was a known scammer. What does that tell you? Move on with your life friends. You only get one.
I’m stepping off my soapbox. Thanks for coming to my Tedtalk.
Not sure I agree. Yes, don’t sit there and sulk over them and prevent yourself from being able to move on but I don’t agree with the 3 months. Of course if you weren’t really in a relationship to begin with and they ghosted you months ago, yeah they probably aren’t gonna come back. Or if you’ve reached out several times with no response. But dependent of the nature of why you ended, which only you know know, a guy might be hesitant to come back even if he does want to. Maybe y’all ended on bad terms and he also thinks you want nothing to do with him? Maybe he realizes he did stuff that he may see as being unforgivable? They have egos and are prideful too, if they come back they’ll have to admit their faults and nobody wants to do that.
An example: my brother, yes a male, still thinks about a girl he was with 9 years ago. He dreams about her, he misses her, he has regrets but has he tried getting her back? No. He also has been in love with a friend for over a year and has not taken any steps to get her. I think some people put a little bit too much pressure on males to be the one to always make the move as if they are immune to fears.
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I 100% agree that moving on is the best course of action..get out there, and try to meet new people, don't hole yourself up and be depressed, etc... (which I never did, just hadn't met anyone else that I felt the same way about).
But getting over someone (for me at least) isn't that easy, but if you look at logically, then yes, waiting for someone for an extended period of time is unhealthy.
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I think in rare circumstances a man can love and miss you or he can take you for granted and be an ass and then years later when his relationships are failing and when he reminisces on life he may think back to you and regret how much he took you for granted and hurt you.
But to say alot of men are missing us and not doing anything about it, come on. Some people on here have attempted to reach out to their POI's and got nothing back or no further progress than some texts.
I posted earlier this, but my friend has had all of her exes return and only 1 seems to really miss her but even he messes her about and lets her down when she plans to meet him. All of what he did 4/5 years before. He is a leopard that seemingly hasn't changed his spots thus far. Another was a married man who wasn't getting any sex and thought she could help him. They all have wanted something out of her at some point, it all starts with sweet talking and they're off again. It does seem to be a predominantly male thing, not to be sexist but men seem to think that the clocks stop for us and they can go off and do whatnot and return with us being here like angels who have waited on them and been faithful to them all this time when they have done god knows what.
I've heard it all from readers before with the commitment phobias and busy with work blah blah you name it. I do definitely think we need to use logic in our situations, when it has been a long time and the guy is with another woman or you've heard from people that he has been seen out with various women.
Men also tend to look back and do the "I miss her but that situation wasn't healthy", whereas alot of women don't care about healthy or unhealthy the situation was - they miss the guy and would do anything to get him back. Do you know how many readers I've spoken to who told me that they have to listen or see through their gift really unhealthy abusive relationships and they try to advise and give guidance and the customer does not listen?
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Ok I’m about to come with the sledgehammer but if I learned anything in my ripe old age of 29, if your poi (guy or gal) does not make any attempt of reach out to you within 3 months (and that’s being generous) MOVE ON. This person is not “suffering” they are living their life without you at this point. Move on, move on, move on. They are not pining after you or giving you the time of day like you are giving them. They are not. Stop filling your head and tricking yourself to think they are because as humans we shield ourselves from the bad to cope with a loss. You need to feel to heal. Feel for your loss and then move on! Time is the most valuable thing on this planet, you will never get it back. Invest it in things and people who will invest in you. Set boundaries early in your relationships, and the person willing to put in the time and effort will be the one who wins your heart. I will say it here but I got my poi, we share a home together and build on our love everyday. The ONLY psychic to get big outcome predictions of what’s actually happening in my life right now was a known scammer. What does that tell you? Move on with your life friends. You only get one.
I’m stepping off my soapbox. Thanks for coming to my Tedtalk.
Applause! I totally agree. I have waited and waited before, no judgement on those who are waiting, but for me personally you have a window to make something happen. But if you don’t, I’m going to try and move on. I wont contact you and I am going to do what I need to do to heal.
I’m done wasting time.
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Ok I’m about to come with the sledgehammer but if I learned anything in my ripe old age of 29, if your poi (guy or gal) does not make any attempt of reach out to you within 3 months (and that’s being generous) MOVE ON. This person is not “suffering” they are living their life without you at this point. Move on, move on, move on. They are not pining after you or giving you the time of day like you are giving them. They are not. Stop filling your head and tricking yourself to think they are because as humans we shield ourselves from the bad to cope with a loss. You need to feel to heal. Feel for your loss and then move on! Time is the most valuable thing on this planet, you will never get it back. Invest it in things and people who will invest in you. Set boundaries early in your relationships, and the person willing to put in the time and effort will be the one who wins your heart. I will say it here but I got my poi, we share a home together and build on our love everyday. The ONLY psychic to get big outcome predictions of what’s actually happening in my life right now was a known scammer. What does that tell you? Move on with your life friends. You only get one.
I’m stepping off my soapbox. Thanks for coming to my Tedtalk.
In principal, I have to agree with everything you have to say. However in practice, sometimes we just can’t seem to get over someone, can’t forget them, because we aren’t supposed to just yet. Before my current POI, there was another POI that I didn’t think I’d ever get over. Anytime I tried, his name (which is not common) would randomly appear or I’d hear a parent calling to their child who had that name. Other times, he’d resurface and the toxic wheel would once again start spinning. It took me 22 months to finally get over him. Eleven months from the last time I saw him, and 5 months from our last point of contact. Luckily, back then I had no idea about Keen or any of the other similar platforms. I would have bankrupted myself. Instead I’d go to a few local readers (who were all correct in hindsight) or spend hours listening to YouTube Tarot readers. Here’s the thing. My first POI served a purpose. Once I was able to understand that purpose, I was at peace. I also met my current POI, which helped me realize that there are other people who you can come to care about and be attracted to. Strangely enough, I recently reached out to my first POI, and he did respond. I have no desire to rekindle anything with him, but since he was such a huge influence in my spiritual journey and growth, my soul is content knowing that the energy between us has neutralized (it was the type of relationship with mountain peak highs and crying in a heap on the shower floor lows).
So sometimes, it’s not over because it isn’t supposed to be. I will say that for my second POI, I’m more inclined to move on because the life lessons I learned from POI #1 don’t need to be relearned. It’s time for balance, an equal give and take.
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Ok I’m about to come with the sledgehammer but if I learned anything in my ripe old age of 29, if your poi (guy or gal) does not make any attempt of reach out to you within 3 months (and that’s being generous) MOVE ON. This person is not “suffering” they are living their life without you at this point. Move on, move on, move on. They are not pining after you or giving you the time of day like you are giving them. They are not. Stop filling your head and tricking yourself to think they are because as humans we shield ourselves from the bad to cope with a loss. You need to feel to heal. Feel for your loss and then move on! Time is the most valuable thing on this planet, you will never get it back. Invest it in things and people who will invest in you. Set boundaries early in your relationships, and the person willing to put in the time and effort will be the one who wins your heart. I will say it here but I got my poi, we share a home together and build on our love everyday. The ONLY psychic to get big outcome predictions of what’s actually happening in my life right now was a known scammer. What does that tell you? Move on with your life friends. You only get one.
I’m stepping off my soapbox. Thanks for coming to my Tedtalk.
In principal, I have to agree with everything you have to say. However in practice, sometimes we just can’t seem to get over someone, can’t forget them, because we aren’t supposed to just yet. Before my current POI, there was another POI that I didn’t think I’d ever get over. Anytime I tried, his name (which is not common) would randomly appear or I’d hear a parent calling to their child who had that name. Other times, he’d resurface and the toxic wheel would once again start spinning. It took me 22 months to finally get over him. Eleven months from the last time I saw him, and 5 months from our last point of contact. Luckily, back then I had no idea about Keen or any of the other similar platforms. I would have bankrupted myself. Instead I’d go to a few local readers (who were all correct in hindsight) or spend hours listening to YouTube Tarot readers. Here’s the thing. My first POI served a purpose. Once I was able to understand that purpose, I was at peace. I also met my current POI, which helped me realize that there are other people who you can come to care about and be attracted to. Strangely enough, I recently reached out to my first POI, and he did respond. I have no desire to rekindle anything with him, but since he was such a huge influence in my spiritual journey and growth, my soul is content knowing that the energy between us has neutralized (it was the type of relationship with mountain peak highs and crying in a heap on the shower floor lows).
So sometimes, it’s not over because it isn’t supposed to be. I will say that for my second POI, I’m more inclined to move on because the life lessons I learned from POI #1 don’t need to be relearned. It’s time for balance, an equal give and take.
I know what you mean. One of my relationships was very toxic, I was being violently abused and verbally, aswell as being used. The ex would message me all sweet and lovely and I'd fall for it. Then it would be could I borrow some money or could you help me with something... Then I helped him and he started arguments or made excuses to go off again blocking me, making me look bad and return again unblocking me in the same cycle. I didn't get readings on him but I knew deep down that he did not care like everyone was saying too, but they were telling me to get rid and only I could do that when I had had enough. And 2 years on, one day I snapped and had had enough and blocked him for good. I felt like I needed to learn lessons and realise for myself.
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Ok I’m about to come with the sledgehammer but if I learned anything in my ripe old age of 29, if your poi (guy or gal) does not make any attempt of reach out to you within 3 months (and that’s being generous) MOVE ON. This person is not “suffering” they are living their life without you at this point. Move on, move on, move on. They are not pining after you or giving you the time of day like you are giving them. They are not. Stop filling your head and tricking yourself to think they are because as humans we shield ourselves from the bad to cope with a loss. You need to feel to heal. Feel for your loss and then move on! Time is the most valuable thing on this planet, you will never get it back. Invest it in things and people who will invest in you. Set boundaries early in your relationships, and the person willing to put in the time and effort will be the one who wins your heart. I will say it here but I got my poi, we share a home together and build on our love everyday. The ONLY psychic to get big outcome predictions of what’s actually happening in my life right now was a known scammer. What does that tell you? Move on with your life friends. You only get one.
I’m stepping off my soapbox. Thanks for coming to my Tedtalk.
In principal, I have to agree with everything you have to say. However in practice, sometimes we just can’t seem to get over someone, can’t forget them, because we aren’t supposed to just yet. Before my current POI, there was another POI that I didn’t think I’d ever get over. Anytime I tried, his name (which is not common) would randomly appear or I’d hear a parent calling to their child who had that name. Other times, he’d resurface and the toxic wheel would once again start spinning. It took me 22 months to finally get over him. Eleven months from the last time I saw him, and 5 months from our last point of contact. Luckily, back then I had no idea about Keen or any of the other similar platforms. I would have bankrupted myself. Instead I’d go to a few local readers (who were all correct in hindsight) or spend hours listening to YouTube Tarot readers. Here’s the thing. My first POI served a purpose. Once I was able to understand that purpose, I was at peace. I also met my current POI, which helped me realize that there are other people who you can come to care about and be attracted to. Strangely enough, I recently reached out to my first POI, and he did respond. I have no desire to rekindle anything with him, but since he was such a huge influence in my spiritual journey and growth, my soul is content knowing that the energy between us has neutralized (it was the type of relationship with mountain peak highs and crying in a heap on the shower floor lows).
So sometimes, it’s not over because it isn’t supposed to be. I will say that for my second POI, I’m more inclined to move on because the life lessons I learned from POI #1 don’t need to be relearned. It’s time for balance, an equal give and take.
I know what you mean. One of my relationships was very toxic, I was being violently abused and verbally, aswell as being used. The ex would message me all sweet and lovely and I'd fall for it. Then it would be could I borrow some money or could you help me with something... Then I helped him and he started arguments or made excuses to go off again blocking me, making me look bad and return again unblocking me in the same cycle. I didn't get readings on him but I knew deep down that he did not care like everyone was saying too, but they were telling me to get rid and only I could do that when I had had enough. And 2 years on, one day I snapped and had had enough and blocked him for good. I felt like I needed to learn lessons and realise for myself.
I get it too. It's not a cut high and dry and you're brand new the next day. It is a process and we all experience it a little differently. But it's the acceptance of needing the healing process to begin that a lot of people avoid. And we see stories of how people are in a cycle with their POI for years on this board. If you are having to ask yourself how long is too much time then it's already been too long.
I think we can all agree that at the time we are sad and desperate, and when we are out of it we can look back and think "pfft why didn't you get out of this situation sooner?". We all get told "oh just leave him", but it's easy for the person not in the situation and with all the feelings to say. I knew for a long time that the situation was toxic and unhappy but unhealthily, I stayed out of love and needing someone for the sake of it.
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I also should say..you can say something like if the person hasn't reached out in whatever amount of time, they don't care, etc....but I look at myself here, and I DO still care for my first POI, (even though I wish I didn't) and I haven't reached out...and won't. So, if you go by that theory, it's not a one size fits all type of scenario.
But I do get what you mean, it's just better to move on as best as possible and let life play out the way it's meant to....
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Ok I’m about to come with the sledgehammer but if I learned anything in my ripe old age of 29, if your poi (guy or gal) does not make any attempt of reach out to you within 3 months (and that’s being generous) MOVE ON. This person is not “suffering” they are living their life without you at this point. Move on, move on, move on. They are not pining after you or giving you the time of day like you are giving them. They are not. Stop filling your head and tricking yourself to think they are because as humans we shield ourselves from the bad to cope with a loss. You need to feel to heal. Feel for your loss and then move on! Time is the most valuable thing on this planet, you will never get it back. Invest it in things and people who will invest in you. Set boundaries early in your relationships, and the person willing to put in the time and effort will be the one who wins your heart. I will say it here but I got my poi, we share a home together and build on our love everyday. The ONLY psychic to get big outcome predictions of what’s actually happening in my life right now was a known scammer. What does that tell you? Move on with your life friends. You only get one.
I’m stepping off my soapbox. Thanks for coming to my Tedtalk.
In principal, I have to agree with everything you have to say. However in practice, sometimes we just can’t seem to get over someone, can’t forget them, because we aren’t supposed to just yet. Before my current POI, there was another POI that I didn’t think I’d ever get over. Anytime I tried, his name (which is not common) would randomly appear or I’d hear a parent calling to their child who had that name. Other times, he’d resurface and the toxic wheel would once again start spinning. It took me 22 months to finally get over him. Eleven months from the last time I saw him, and 5 months from our last point of contact. Luckily, back then I had no idea about Keen or any of the other similar platforms. I would have bankrupted myself. Instead I’d go to a few local readers (who were all correct in hindsight) or spend hours listening to YouTube Tarot readers. Here’s the thing. My first POI served a purpose. Once I was able to understand that purpose, I was at peace. I also met my current POI, which helped me realize that there are other people who you can come to care about and be attracted to. Strangely enough, I recently reached out to my first POI, and he did respond. I have no desire to rekindle anything with him, but since he was such a huge influence in my spiritual journey and growth, my soul is content knowing that the energy between us has neutralized (it was the type of relationship with mountain peak highs and crying in a heap on the shower floor lows).
So sometimes, it’s not over because it isn’t supposed to be. I will say that for my second POI, I’m more inclined to move on because the life lessons I learned from POI #1 don’t need to be relearned. It’s time for balance, an equal give and take.
I know what you mean. One of my relationships was very toxic, I was being violently abused and verbally, aswell as being used. The ex would message me all sweet and lovely and I'd fall for it. Then it would be could I borrow some money or could you help me with something... Then I helped him and he started arguments or made excuses to go off again blocking me, making me look bad and return again unblocking me in the same cycle. I didn't get readings on him but I knew deep down that he did not care like everyone was saying too, but they were telling me to get rid and only I could do that when I had had enough. And 2 years on, one day I snapped and had had enough and blocked him for good. I felt like I needed to learn lessons and realise for myself.
That’s terrible, Star. Even if you did get readings on him, the likelihood of them telling you he’ll be back and you’ll be happy would be insane. I can’t imagine telling someone to stay with an abusive person. But, a person won’t leave until they’re ready. I’m glad you were able to walk away.
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Ok I’m about to come with the sledgehammer but if I learned anything in my ripe old age of 29, if your poi (guy or gal) does not make any attempt of reach out to you within 3 months (and that’s being generous) MOVE ON. This person is not “suffering” they are living their life without you at this point. Move on, move on, move on. They are not pining after you or giving you the time of day like you are giving them. They are not. Stop filling your head and tricking yourself to think they are because as humans we shield ourselves from the bad to cope with a loss. You need to feel to heal. Feel for your loss and then move on! Time is the most valuable thing on this planet, you will never get it back. Invest it in things and people who will invest in you. Set boundaries early in your relationships, and the person willing to put in the time and effort will be the one who wins your heart. I will say it here but I got my poi, we share a home together and build on our love everyday. The ONLY psychic to get big outcome predictions of what’s actually happening in my life right now was a known scammer. What does that tell you? Move on with your life friends. You only get one.
I’m stepping off my soapbox. Thanks for coming to my Tedtalk.
In principal, I have to agree with everything you have to say. However in practice, sometimes we just can’t seem to get over someone, can’t forget them, because we aren’t supposed to just yet. Before my current POI, there was another POI that I didn’t think I’d ever get over. Anytime I tried, his name (which is not common) would randomly appear or I’d hear a parent calling to their child who had that name. Other times, he’d resurface and the toxic wheel would once again start spinning. It took me 22 months to finally get over him. Eleven months from the last time I saw him, and 5 months from our last point of contact. Luckily, back then I had no idea about Keen or any of the other similar platforms. I would have bankrupted myself. Instead I’d go to a few local readers (who were all correct in hindsight) or spend hours listening to YouTube Tarot readers. Here’s the thing. My first POI served a purpose. Once I was able to understand that purpose, I was at peace. I also met my current POI, which helped me realize that there are other people who you can come to care about and be attracted to. Strangely enough, I recently reached out to my first POI, and he did respond. I have no desire to rekindle anything with him, but since he was such a huge influence in my spiritual journey and growth, my soul is content knowing that the energy between us has neutralized (it was the type of relationship with mountain peak highs and crying in a heap on the shower floor lows).
So sometimes, it’s not over because it isn’t supposed to be. I will say that for my second POI, I’m more inclined to move on because the life lessons I learned from POI #1 don’t need to be relearned. It’s time for balance, an equal give and take.
I know what you mean. One of my relationships was very toxic, I was being violently abused and verbally, aswell as being used. The ex would message me all sweet and lovely and I'd fall for it. Then it would be could I borrow some money or could you help me with something... Then I helped him and he started arguments or made excuses to go off again blocking me, making me look bad and return again unblocking me in the same cycle. I didn't get readings on him but I knew deep down that he did not care like everyone was saying too, but they were telling me to get rid and only I could do that when I had had enough. And 2 years on, one day I snapped and had had enough and blocked him for good. I felt like I needed to learn lessons and realise for myself.
That’s terrible, Star. Even if you did get readings on him, the likelihood of them telling you he’ll be back and you’ll be happy would be insane. I can’t imagine telling someone to stay with an abusive person. But, a person won’t leave until they’re ready. I’m glad you were able to walk away.
Thank you so much, Girly1998. I did lose a couple of close friends over chosing him first but I don't regret it because I learned alot of lessons and at the time thought I deserved to be attacked and treated badly, it took me lots to look at how much low self esteem I had and how his behaviour was unacceptable. If anyone here has been physically hurt and is reading this, I strongly urge you to walk away because it does get worse and they are very clever at making you the person who "deserved it". You did nothing to deserve it even if you did wrong in the relationship he should walk away if he is unhappy, not push you about. I hope to God that nobody on here suffers with that. 💟
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Omg I was in the same situation with my first love! It took me 5 years from start to finish for our soul contract to be finished. Once I moved on I was gone for good. The first time I saw him before we even met was at the mall where I worked. I had just turned 18 and I worked at Abercrombie kids. I saw him walk by and something told me he was going to have a huge impact on my life. I was too shy to say anything. He was my friend on Facebook and I started to take notice of him more and more. I finally decided to send a message and he replied. We talked for hours and traded numbers. We texted for every single day nonstop. Then we met up. Long story short that first year was okay. It wasn’t spectacular because we were young and dumb. I had deep feelings for him from the get go. He went back and forth between me and someone else for 5 months. He was mostly with me though so I didn’t care. At times he pulled back and that’s when I did the no contact rule and it always worked. The first time was for 5 weeks. He contacted on the fifth week. After awhile we started living together and that’s when it became quite abusive. I was super insecure and would start arguments over any little thing. We would fight and it was bad. He would break my phone and take my money. Then one day we stopped talking to for like 6 months. I was so depressed the whole 6 months as I was still attached! He came back the 6th month and things were going good . Things were so much better we didn’t fight as much & I found my confidence. I was going out more with friends. To be honest I was dating around. I met new men and communicated with them. During that time I met my son’s father POI 2. We weren’t dating though just communicating on a daily basis. Texting only. By early 2017 my first love (POI 1) said he was moving out of the state to North Carolina. I was sad but happy for him and honestly it really didn’t bother me. We spent Valentine’s Day together so that was lovely. By this time my POI 2 and I started seeing each other but I didn’t really care for him during this time it was just casual. So my first love left to another state and I was seeing poi 2 every week maybe once a week. I FORGOT TO ADD THAT I WAS GETTING READINGS DAMN NEAR EVERY WEEK, 3 TIMES A WEEK.
Anywho, I started falling for my poi2. Then I got pregnant by him. Two months later my POI 1 said he was moving back. I told him about the situation and he was hurt but he said he’ll be there for me. He moved back in with me but I didn’t ask him to! I was still seeing my child’s father . Every time I would try to tell him about my POI 2 he’ll shut me down and get mad. Then he would take my phone and call my poi 2 and curse him out. He controlled me my whole pregnancy. Then one day I was otp with my poi 2 he was so angry he hit me so I got in my car and left. He took my bank card and left. Eventually he gave it back. We stopped talking for like a week. Then he showed up at my house starting a fight . That’s when I knew we were done for good. I didn’t talk to him anymore after. However he’s still around because he pops back up every other month even to this day apologizing and trying to make things right. So sometimes it doesn’t matter how long it’s been if the soul contract isn’t over it’ll keep coming back. You’ll know in your heart when it’s done and over. It won’t even take that long to heal. Now I’m in a whole other situation with my POI 2 (son’s father) . Both men played a huge role in my life.
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So in other words it took my first love 6 months to reach out before. My feelings were still so strong I still didn’t move on. Not saying everyone should wait because every situation is different. But sometimes things really have to play out and if you feel so strongly pulled to a person or situation it might not be over. During that time psychic were saying it’s not over he’ll come back around but just couldn’t get a timeline . I’m not gonna lie sir cheo was probably the only one to say November . I don’t remember the ones I talked to just him because he was right lol.
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Wow! Thanks for sharing your story and I’m sorry to hear about all that you’ve been through. For those of you who have gotten that sense of “knowing” that someone will play a significant part in your life at first meeting, or love at first sight, or that feeling that you’ve known someone for a long time the first few moments you two meet...what do you make of it?? How can you explain it? And is it usually correct that that person will play a significant role in your life?
I had a situation like that recently — where I met someone completely unexpectedly at a business function — and I could not explain this intense pull, a connection that I have no idea what to make of. Anyhow, he has been on my mind, and it’s complicated due to long distance and professional boundaries that I would prefer not to cross. Anyhow, it’s tough because I have no idea how he truly feels l, but it’s also a connection that I can’t deny.
Omg I was in the same situation with my first love! It took me 5 years from start to finish for our soul contract to be finished. Once I moved on I was gone for good. The first time I saw him before we even met was at the mall where I worked. I had just turned 18 and I worked at Abercrombie kids. I saw him walk by and something told me he was going to have a huge impact on my life. I was too shy to say anything. He was my friend on Facebook and I started to take notice of him more and more. I finally decided to send a message and he replied. We talked for hours and traded numbers. We texted for every single day nonstop. Then we met up. Long story short that first year was okay. It wasn’t spectacular because we were young and dumb. I had deep feelings for him from the get go. He went back and forth between me and someone else for 5 months. He was mostly with me though so I didn’t care. At times he pulled back and that’s when I did the no contact rule and it always worked. The first time was for 5 weeks. He contacted on the fifth week. After awhile we started living together and that’s when it became quite abusive. I was super insecure and would start arguments over any little thing. We would fight and it was bad. He would break my phone and take my money. Then one day we stopped talking to for like 6 months. I was so depressed the whole 6 months as I was still attached! He came back the 6th month and things were going good . Things were so much better we didn’t fight as much & I found my confidence. I was going out more with friends. To be honest I was dating around. I met new men and communicated with them. During that time I met my son’s father POI 2. We weren’t dating though just communicating on a daily basis. Texting only. By early 2017 my first love (POI 1) said he was moving out of the state to North Carolina. I was sad but happy for him and honestly it really didn’t bother me. We spent Valentine’s Day together so that was lovely. By this time my POI 2 and I started seeing each other but I didn’t really care for him during this time it was just casual. So my first love left to another state and I was seeing poi 2 every week maybe once a week. I FORGOT TO ADD THAT I WAS GETTING READINGS DAMN NEAR EVERY WEEK, 3 TIMES A WEEK.
Anywho, I started falling for my poi2. Then I got pregnant by him. Two months later my POI 1 said he was moving back. I told him about the situation and he was hurt but he said he’ll be there for me. He moved back in with me but I didn’t ask him to! I was still seeing my child’s father . Every time I would try to tell him about my POI 2 he’ll shut me down and get mad. Then he would take my phone and call my poi 2 and curse him out. He controlled me my whole pregnancy. Then one day I was otp with my poi 2 he was so angry he hit me so I got in my car and left. He took my bank card and left. Eventually he gave it back. We stopped talking for like a week. Then he showed up at my house starting a fight . That’s when I knew we were done for good. I didn’t talk to him anymore after. However he’s still around because he pops back up every other month even to this day apologizing and trying to make things right. So sometimes it doesn’t matter how long it’s been if the soul contract isn’t over it’ll keep coming back. You’ll know in your heart when it’s done and over. It won’t even take that long to heal. Now I’m in a whole other situation with my POI 2 (son’s father) . Both men played a huge role in my life.
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Ok I’m about to come with the sledgehammer but if I learned anything in my ripe old age of 29, if your poi (guy or gal) does not make any attempt of reach out to you within 3 months (and that’s being generous) MOVE ON. This person is not “suffering” they are living their life without you at this point. Move on, move on, move on. They are not pining after you or giving you the time of day like you are giving them. They are not. Stop filling your head and tricking yourself to think they are because as humans we shield ourselves from the bad to cope with a loss. You need to feel to heal. Feel for your loss and then move on! Time is the most valuable thing on this planet, you will never get it back. Invest it in things and people who will invest in you. Set boundaries early in your relationships, and the person willing to put in the time and effort will be the one who wins your heart. I will say it here but I got my poi, we share a home together and build on our love everyday. The ONLY psychic to get big outcome predictions of what’s actually happening in my life right now was a known scammer. What does that tell you? Move on with your life friends. You only get one.
I’m stepping off my soapbox. Thanks for coming to my Tedtalk.
In principal, I have to agree with everything you have to say. However in practice, sometimes we just can’t seem to get over someone, can’t forget them, because we aren’t supposed to just yet. Before my current POI, there was another POI that I didn’t think I’d ever get over. Anytime I tried, his name (which is not common) would randomly appear or I’d hear a parent calling to their child who had that name. Other times, he’d resurface and the toxic wheel would once again start spinning. It took me 22 months to finally get over him. Eleven months from the last time I saw him, and 5 months from our last point of contact. Luckily, back then I had no idea about Keen or any of the other similar platforms. I would have bankrupted myself. Instead I’d go to a few local readers (who were all correct in hindsight) or spend hours listening to YouTube Tarot readers. Here’s the thing. My first POI served a purpose. Once I was able to understand that purpose, I was at peace. I also met my current POI, which helped me realize that there are other people who you can come to care about and be attracted to. Strangely enough, I recently reached out to my first POI, and he did respond. I have no desire to rekindle anything with him, but since he was such a huge influence in my spiritual journey and growth, my soul is content knowing that the energy between us has neutralized (it was the type of relationship with mountain peak highs and crying in a heap on the shower floor lows).
So sometimes, it’s not over because it isn’t supposed to be. I will say that for my second POI, I’m more inclined to move on because the life lessons I learned from POI #1 don’t need to be relearned. It’s time for balance, an equal give and take.
I know what you mean. One of my relationships was very toxic, I was being violently abused and verbally, aswell as being used. The ex would message me all sweet and lovely and I'd fall for it. Then it would be could I borrow some money or could you help me with something... Then I helped him and he started arguments or made excuses to go off again blocking me, making me look bad and return again unblocking me in the same cycle. I didn't get readings on him but I knew deep down that he did not care like everyone was saying too, but they were telling me to get rid and only I could do that when I had had enough. And 2 years on, one day I snapped and had had enough and blocked him for good. I felt like I needed to learn lessons and realise for myself.
I am so sorry that you had to go through that, Star. But you made it! You walked away. With pain, comes growth, and the ability to have compassion for others. What some of these POI’s manage to teach us? Yes, we deserve to be loved. Yes, we deserve a relationship where we are validated and made a priority. If you are willing to do all that for someone, they need to be willing to do it for you.
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Yeah I had that “feeling” that there’s more to this story. A reader that I still read with now said he was a pastlife soul mate which makes sense to me. She said he was my son in a past life. That clicked to me because he always run to me for help even now like I’m his mom or something. In readings with my POI 2 various readers would get past life cards with him too where we were a family. I’ve only had 1 past life reading but I forgot most of it lol.
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Ok I’m about to come with the sledgehammer but if I learned anything in my ripe old age of 29, if your poi (guy or gal) does not make any attempt of reach out to you within 3 months (and that’s being generous) MOVE ON. This person is not “suffering” they are living their life without you at this point. Move on, move on, move on. They are not pining after you or giving you the time of day like you are giving them. They are not. Stop filling your head and tricking yourself to think they are because as humans we shield ourselves from the bad to cope with a loss. You need to feel to heal. Feel for your loss and then move on! Time is the most valuable thing on this planet, you will never get it back. Invest it in things and people who will invest in you. Set boundaries early in your relationships, and the person willing to put in the time and effort will be the one who wins your heart. I will say it here but I got my poi, we share a home together and build on our love everyday. The ONLY psychic to get big outcome predictions of what’s actually happening in my life right now was a known scammer. What does that tell you? Move on with your life friends. You only get one.
I’m stepping off my soapbox. Thanks for coming to my Tedtalk.
In principal, I have to agree with everything you have to say. However in practice, sometimes we just can’t seem to get over someone, can’t forget them, because we aren’t supposed to just yet. Before my current POI, there was another POI that I didn’t think I’d ever get over. Anytime I tried, his name (which is not common) would randomly appear or I’d hear a parent calling to their child who had that name. Other times, he’d resurface and the toxic wheel would once again start spinning. It took me 22 months to finally get over him. Eleven months from the last time I saw him, and 5 months from our last point of contact. Luckily, back then I had no idea about Keen or any of the other similar platforms. I would have bankrupted myself. Instead I’d go to a few local readers (who were all correct in hindsight) or spend hours listening to YouTube Tarot readers. Here’s the thing. My first POI served a purpose. Once I was able to understand that purpose, I was at peace. I also met my current POI, which helped me realize that there are other people who you can come to care about and be attracted to. Strangely enough, I recently reached out to my first POI, and he did respond. I have no desire to rekindle anything with him, but since he was such a huge influence in my spiritual journey and growth, my soul is content knowing that the energy between us has neutralized (it was the type of relationship with mountain peak highs and crying in a heap on the shower floor lows).
So sometimes, it’s not over because it isn’t supposed to be. I will say that for my second POI, I’m more inclined to move on because the life lessons I learned from POI #1 don’t need to be relearned. It’s time for balance, an equal give and take.
I know what you mean. One of my relationships was very toxic, I was being violently abused and verbally, aswell as being used. The ex would message me all sweet and lovely and I'd fall for it. Then it would be could I borrow some money or could you help me with something... Then I helped him and he started arguments or made excuses to go off again blocking me, making me look bad and return again unblocking me in the same cycle. I didn't get readings on him but I knew deep down that he did not care like everyone was saying too, but they were telling me to get rid and only I could do that when I had had enough. And 2 years on, one day I snapped and had had enough and blocked him for good. I felt like I needed to learn lessons and realise for myself.
I am so sorry that you had to go through that, Star. But you made it! You walked away. With pain, comes growth, and the ability to have compassion for others. What some of these POI’s manage to teach us? Yes, we deserve to be loved. Yes, we deserve a relationship where we are validated and made a priority. If you are willing to do all that for someone, they need to be willing to do it for you.
Thanks so much, it did make me stronger have a little more respect for myself. I do think I had to end things when I was ready, but I still think Silverlight is right and just because a situation isn't over that doesn't mean that it is right or healthy. We may feel in our guts that someone will keep coming back to us, but that doesn't mean that they will be returning because they genuinely care or miss us. It could be a "you'll do" kinda thing. Each situation is unique but many relationships unfortunately are not healthy and there are many lessons and experiences to be learnt.
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Ok I’m about to come with the sledgehammer but if I learned anything in my ripe old age of 29, if your poi (guy or gal) does not make any attempt of reach out to you within 3 months (and that’s being generous) MOVE ON. This person is not “suffering” they are living their life without you at this point. Move on, move on, move on. They are not pining after you or giving you the time of day like you are giving them. They are not. Stop filling your head and tricking yourself to think they are because as humans we shield ourselves from the bad to cope with a loss. You need to feel to heal. Feel for your loss and then move on! Time is the most valuable thing on this planet, you will never get it back. Invest it in things and people who will invest in you. Set boundaries early in your relationships, and the person willing to put in the time and effort will be the one who wins your heart. I will say it here but I got my poi, we share a home together and build on our love everyday. The ONLY psychic to get big outcome predictions of what’s actually happening in my life right now was a known scammer. What does that tell you? Move on with your life friends. You only get one.
I’m stepping off my soapbox. Thanks for coming to my Tedtalk.
Not sure I agree. Yes, don’t sit there and sulk over them and prevent yourself from being able to move on but I don’t agree with the 3 months. Of course if you weren’t really in a relationship to begin with and they ghosted you months ago, yeah they probably aren’t gonna come back. Or if you’ve reached out several times with no response. But dependent of the nature of why you ended, which only you know know, a guy might be hesitant to come back even if he does want to. Maybe y’all ended on bad terms and he also thinks you want nothing to do with him? Maybe he realizes he did stuff that he may see as being unforgivable? They have egos and are prideful too, if they come back they’ll have to admit their faults and nobody wants to do that.
An example: my brother, yes a male, still thinks about a girl he was with 9 years ago. He dreams about her, he misses her, he has regrets but has he tried getting her back? No. He also has been in love with a friend for over a year and has not taken any steps to get her. I think some people put a little bit too much pressure on males to be the one to always make the move as if they are immune to fears.
i agree girly. theres men who came back years after and still continue to. some 10 years. i had one confess his love to me drunk 10 years after when we became good friends. time is an illusion. I still think about majority of my exes from time to time and I think for men, they never get over women they truly love and will actually think about her longer than the woman will. I know my ex still thinks about me because I can feel it and we haven't been in touch in years and when we didnt speak he said he thought about me all the time and he came back almost a year later. One thing I've truly learned is you can only run away for so long because the feelings suffocate you so much. sometimes men need that to actually take any action. just because they dont contact you doesnt mean they dont care and i think on some level we know if they do or don't. should you stop your life? No. but 1 month, 2 months, 1 year its all just an illusion. I tend to believe that the longer the person is away, the more the love grows almost like an obsession for the other person because at that point all the bad memories are gone and all you can think about is all the good. At least it has been the case in my life over and over again with men i've been involved with. even men ive just briefly dated.
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That’s true and I think that’s what I’m learning with my POI 2.
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Ok I’m about to come with the sledgehammer but if I learned anything in my ripe old age of 29, if your poi (guy or gal) does not make any attempt of reach out to you within 3 months (and that’s being generous) MOVE ON. This person is not “suffering” they are living their life without you at this point. Move on, move on, move on. They are not pining after you or giving you the time of day like you are giving them. They are not. Stop filling your head and tricking yourself to think they are because as humans we shield ourselves from the bad to cope with a loss. You need to feel to heal. Feel for your loss and then move on! Time is the most valuable thing on this planet, you will never get it back. Invest it in things and people who will invest in you. Set boundaries early in your relationships, and the person willing to put in the time and effort will be the one who wins your heart. I will say it here but I got my poi, we share a home together and build on our love everyday. The ONLY psychic to get big outcome predictions of what’s actually happening in my life right now was a known scammer. What does that tell you? Move on with your life friends. You only get one.
I’m stepping off my soapbox. Thanks for coming to my Tedtalk.
Not sure I agree. Yes, don’t sit there and sulk over them and prevent yourself from being able to move on but I don’t agree with the 3 months. Of course if you weren’t really in a relationship to begin with and they ghosted you months ago, yeah they probably aren’t gonna come back. Or if you’ve reached out several times with no response. But dependent of the nature of why you ended, which only you know know, a guy might be hesitant to come back even if he does want to. Maybe y’all ended on bad terms and he also thinks you want nothing to do with him? Maybe he realizes he did stuff that he may see as being unforgivable? They have egos and are prideful too, if they come back they’ll have to admit their faults and nobody wants to do that.
An example: my brother, yes a male, still thinks about a girl he was with 9 years ago. He dreams about her, he misses her, he has regrets but has he tried getting her back? No. He also has been in love with a friend for over a year and has not taken any steps to get her. I think some people put a little bit too much pressure on males to be the one to always make the move as if they are immune to fears.
i agree girly. theres men who came back years after and still continue to. some 10 years. i had one confess his love to me drunk 10 years after when we became good friends. time is an illusion. I still think about majority of my exes from time to time and I think for men, they never get over women they truly love and will actually think about her longer than the woman will. I know my ex still thinks about me because I can feel it and we haven't been in touch in years and when we didnt speak he said he thought about me all the time and he came back almost a year later. One thing I've truly learned is you can only run away for so long because the feelings suffocate you so much. sometimes men need that to actually take any action. just because they dont contact you doesnt mean they dont care and i think on some level we know if they do or don't. should you stop your life? No. but 1 month, 2 months, 1 year its all just an illusion. I tend to believe that the longer the person is away, the more the love grows almost like an obsession for the other person because at that point all the bad memories are gone and all you can think about is all the good. At least it has been the case in my life over and over again with men i've been involved with. even men ive just briefly dated.
Ugh thank you for agreeing lol. I’ve been around so many men (non romantic way) to know they just don’t make sense sometimes. I feel like they deal with breakups at a later time than the female. Like at first they feel the freedom but months later when that wears off they get in their heads. Maybe that’s why they come back after you’ve moved on?
Love never dies, I think if a person truly loved you once then they always will just maybe not in the same way. I really like the quote “I still love the people I’ve loved even if I cross the street to avoid them.”
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Wow! Thanks for sharing your story and I’m sorry to hear about all that you’ve been through. For those of you who have gotten that sense of “knowing” that someone will play a significant part in your life at first meeting, or love at first sight, or that feeling that you’ve known someone for a long time the first few moments you two meet...what do you make of it?? How can you explain it? And is it usually correct that that person will play a significant role in your life?
I had a situation like that recently — where I met someone completely unexpectedly at a business function — and I could not explain this intense pull, a connection that I have no idea what to make of. Anyhow, he has been on my mind, and it’s complicated due to long distance and professional boundaries that I would prefer not to cross. Anyhow, it’s tough because I have no idea how he truly feels l, but it’s also a connection that I can’t deny.
Omg I was in the same situation with my first love! It took me 5 years from start to finish for our soul contract to be finished. Once I moved on I was gone for good. The first time I saw him before we even met was at the mall where I worked. I had just turned 18 and I worked at Abercrombie kids. I saw him walk by and something told me he was going to have a huge impact on my life. I was too shy to say anything. He was my friend on Facebook and I started to take notice of him more and more. I finally decided to send a message and he replied. We talked for hours and traded numbers. We texted for every single day nonstop. Then we met up. Long story short that first year was okay. It wasn’t spectacular because we were young and dumb. I had deep feelings for him from the get go. He went back and forth between me and someone else for 5 months. He was mostly with me though so I didn’t care. At times he pulled back and that’s when I did the no contact rule and it always worked. The first time was for 5 weeks. He contacted on the fifth week. After awhile we started living together and that’s when it became quite abusive. I was super insecure and would start arguments over any little thing. We would fight and it was bad. He would break my phone and take my money. Then one day we stopped talking to for like 6 months. I was so depressed the whole 6 months as I was still attached! He came back the 6th month and things were going good . Things were so much better we didn’t fight as much & I found my confidence. I was going out more with friends. To be honest I was dating around. I met new men and communicated with them. During that time I met my son’s father POI 2. We weren’t dating though just communicating on a daily basis. Texting only. By early 2017 my first love (POI 1) said he was moving out of the state to North Carolina. I was sad but happy for him and honestly it really didn’t bother me. We spent Valentine’s Day together so that was lovely. By this time my POI 2 and I started seeing each other but I didn’t really care for him during this time it was just casual. So my first love left to another state and I was seeing poi 2 every week maybe once a week. I FORGOT TO ADD THAT I WAS GETTING READINGS DAMN NEAR EVERY WEEK, 3 TIMES A WEEK.
Anywho, I started falling for my poi2. Then I got pregnant by him. Two months later my POI 1 said he was moving back. I told him about the situation and he was hurt but he said he’ll be there for me. He moved back in with me but I didn’t ask him to! I was still seeing my child’s father . Every time I would try to tell him about my POI 2 he’ll shut me down and get mad. Then he would take my phone and call my poi 2 and curse him out. He controlled me my whole pregnancy. Then one day I was otp with my poi 2 he was so angry he hit me so I got in my car and left. He took my bank card and left. Eventually he gave it back. We stopped talking for like a week. Then he showed up at my house starting a fight . That’s when I knew we were done for good. I didn’t talk to him anymore after. However he’s still around because he pops back up every other month even to this day apologizing and trying to make things right. So sometimes it doesn’t matter how long it’s been if the soul contract isn’t over it’ll keep coming back. You’ll know in your heart when it’s done and over. It won’t even take that long to heal. Now I’m in a whole other situation with my POI 2 (son’s father) . Both men played a huge role in my life.
I have that when I meet every significant person in my life. I just need eye contact and I know they'll be around for a while. You never really know what the outcome will be until youre there but I always have that knowing. I also always know when someones coming back or if they will and ill get dreams or whatever else. I love it but sometimes I wish i didnt have it because Id be a normal person living a normal life not knowing what the ending will be like. Its funny cause for me it's normal but for the other person its usually not and theyre like wth is this.
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Ok I’m about to come with the sledgehammer but if I learned anything in my ripe old age of 29, if your poi (guy or gal) does not make any attempt of reach out to you within 3 months (and that’s being generous) MOVE ON. This person is not “suffering” they are living their life without you at this point. Move on, move on, move on. They are not pining after you or giving you the time of day like you are giving them. They are not. Stop filling your head and tricking yourself to think they are because as humans we shield ourselves from the bad to cope with a loss. You need to feel to heal. Feel for your loss and then move on! Time is the most valuable thing on this planet, you will never get it back. Invest it in things and people who will invest in you. Set boundaries early in your relationships, and the person willing to put in the time and effort will be the one who wins your heart. I will say it here but I got my poi, we share a home together and build on our love everyday. The ONLY psychic to get big outcome predictions of what’s actually happening in my life right now was a known scammer. What does that tell you? Move on with your life friends. You only get one.
I’m stepping off my soapbox. Thanks for coming to my Tedtalk.
Not sure I agree. Yes, don’t sit there and sulk over them and prevent yourself from being able to move on but I don’t agree with the 3 months. Of course if you weren’t really in a relationship to begin with and they ghosted you months ago, yeah they probably aren’t gonna come back. Or if you’ve reached out several times with no response. But dependent of the nature of why you ended, which only you know know, a guy might be hesitant to come back even if he does want to. Maybe y’all ended on bad terms and he also thinks you want nothing to do with him? Maybe he realizes he did stuff that he may see as being unforgivable? They have egos and are prideful too, if they come back they’ll have to admit their faults and nobody wants to do that.
An example: my brother, yes a male, still thinks about a girl he was with 9 years ago. He dreams about her, he misses her, he has regrets but has he tried getting her back? No. He also has been in love with a friend for over a year and has not taken any steps to get her. I think some people put a little bit too much pressure on males to be the one to always make the move as if they are immune to fears.
i agree girly. theres men who came back years after and still continue to. some 10 years. i had one confess his love to me drunk 10 years after when we became good friends. time is an illusion. I still think about majority of my exes from time to time and I think for men, they never get over women they truly love and will actually think about her longer than the woman will. I know my ex still thinks about me because I can feel it and we haven't been in touch in years and when we didnt speak he said he thought about me all the time and he came back almost a year later. One thing I've truly learned is you can only run away for so long because the feelings suffocate you so much. sometimes men need that to actually take any action. just because they dont contact you doesnt mean they dont care and i think on some level we know if they do or don't. should you stop your life? No. but 1 month, 2 months, 1 year its all just an illusion. I tend to believe that the longer the person is away, the more the love grows almost like an obsession for the other person because at that point all the bad memories are gone and all you can think about is all the good. At least it has been the case in my life over and over again with men i've been involved with. even men ive just briefly dated.
Ugh thank you for agreeing lol. I’ve been around so many men (non romantic way) to know they just don’t make sense sometimes. I feel like they deal with breakups at a later time than the female. Like at first they feel the freedom but months later when that wears off they get in their heads. Maybe that’s why they come back after you’ve moved on?
Love never dies, I think if a person truly loved you once then they always will just maybe not in the same way. I really like the quote “I still love the people I’ve loved even if I cross the street to avoid them.”
Ye im friends with mostly men so I know their minds very well by now. Hahah thats a funny quote and I agree. Once I love them, I love them for life but thats few and far between lol. I don't love many people. Ive only truly loved 2 men in my life and one was an ex and one is current and if my ex called me 20 years later needing help I would be there in a heart beat cause I know he'd do the same.
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Ok I’m about to come with the sledgehammer but if I learned anything in my ripe old age of 29, if your poi (guy or gal) does not make any attempt of reach out to you within 3 months (and that’s being generous) MOVE ON. This person is not “suffering” they are living their life without you at this point. Move on, move on, move on. They are not pining after you or giving you the time of day like you are giving them. They are not. Stop filling your head and tricking yourself to think they are because as humans we shield ourselves from the bad to cope with a loss. You need to feel to heal. Feel for your loss and then move on! Time is the most valuable thing on this planet, you will never get it back. Invest it in things and people who will invest in you. Set boundaries early in your relationships, and the person willing to put in the time and effort will be the one who wins your heart. I will say it here but I got my poi, we share a home together and build on our love everyday. The ONLY psychic to get big outcome predictions of what’s actually happening in my life right now was a known scammer. What does that tell you? Move on with your life friends. You only get one.
I’m stepping off my soapbox. Thanks for coming to my Tedtalk.
Not sure I agree. Yes, don’t sit there and sulk over them and prevent yourself from being able to move on but I don’t agree with the 3 months. Of course if you weren’t really in a relationship to begin with and they ghosted you months ago, yeah they probably aren’t gonna come back. Or if you’ve reached out several times with no response. But dependent of the nature of why you ended, which only you know know, a guy might be hesitant to come back even if he does want to. Maybe y’all ended on bad terms and he also thinks you want nothing to do with him? Maybe he realizes he did stuff that he may see as being unforgivable? They have egos and are prideful too, if they come back they’ll have to admit their faults and nobody wants to do that.
An example: my brother, yes a male, still thinks about a girl he was with 9 years ago. He dreams about her, he misses her, he has regrets but has he tried getting her back? No. He also has been in love with a friend for over a year and has not taken any steps to get her. I think some people put a little bit too much pressure on males to be the one to always make the move as if they are immune to fears.
i agree girly. theres men who came back years after and still continue to. some 10 years. i had one confess his love to me drunk 10 years after when we became good friends. time is an illusion. I still think about majority of my exes from time to time and I think for men, they never get over women they truly love and will actually think about her longer than the woman will. I know my ex still thinks about me because I can feel it and we haven't been in touch in years and when we didnt speak he said he thought about me all the time and he came back almost a year later. One thing I've truly learned is you can only run away for so long because the feelings suffocate you so much. sometimes men need that to actually take any action. just because they dont contact you doesnt mean they dont care and i think on some level we know if they do or don't. should you stop your life? No. but 1 month, 2 months, 1 year its all just an illusion. I tend to believe that the longer the person is away, the more the love grows almost like an obsession for the other person because at that point all the bad memories are gone and all you can think about is all the good. At least it has been the case in my life over and over again with men i've been involved with. even men ive just briefly dated.
That's true, but that's with some men. Most men do come back at least in my experience and friends I know for not genuine purposes. Maybe I seem to meet the abusive men who don't care as none of them have ever shown any true feelings and all used me and been very abusive. I haven't had one normal healthy relationship where a guy came back and said yeah I still love you all this time onwards and I wish things worked out. The most I got was a FWB situation where we were both rebounding each other because of heartache and we had a huge row and he blocked and ignored me. A month later I got a text apologising and he said it was getting too serious for him and he couldn't handle it but best of luck etc. Every so often he pops up to see how I am, but I know it's mainly he wants sexual things again as it's flirting and innuendos and I am way past that. You seem to be the lucky lady who has all these men swooning at you and this isn't meant sarcy or rude btw.
I think some behaviours can be passed off as caring and missing someone. I used to believe that men cared about me because they got jealous, but I now know that just because a man is controlling and jealous about other men around you that doesn't mean he wants or cares for you.
I'm not very good with my words and maybe I didn't write this out well but some women have better luck with exes loving them years onwards and other women have men abuse them and not give them a second look or care.
I know a situation with a woman who was in a very very toxic situation with a guy and when she tries to leave he does his he is going to kill himself he loves her he waits outside her house for her when she goes to work in the mornings and tries grabbing her and giving her flowers. And then she forgives him 1000x and he abuses her, cheats, hits her talks down to her uses her and has substance abuses. To some people they actually fell for that he loved her deep down because of what happens when she walks away, but if you were in the situation you could see it wasn't true love.
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Ok I’m about to come with the sledgehammer but if I learned anything in my ripe old age of 29, if your poi (guy or gal) does not make any attempt of reach out to you within 3 months (and that’s being generous) MOVE ON. This person is not “suffering” they are living their life without you at this point. Move on, move on, move on. They are not pining after you or giving you the time of day like you are giving them. They are not. Stop filling your head and tricking yourself to think they are because as humans we shield ourselves from the bad to cope with a loss. You need to feel to heal. Feel for your loss and then move on! Time is the most valuable thing on this planet, you will never get it back. Invest it in things and people who will invest in you. Set boundaries early in your relationships, and the person willing to put in the time and effort will be the one who wins your heart. I will say it here but I got my poi, we share a home together and build on our love everyday. The ONLY psychic to get big outcome predictions of what’s actually happening in my life right now was a known scammer. What does that tell you? Move on with your life friends. You only get one.
I’m stepping off my soapbox. Thanks for coming to my Tedtalk.
Not sure I agree. Yes, don’t sit there and sulk over them and prevent yourself from being able to move on but I don’t agree with the 3 months. Of course if you weren’t really in a relationship to begin with and they ghosted you months ago, yeah they probably aren’t gonna come back. Or if you’ve reached out several times with no response. But dependent of the nature of why you ended, which only you know know, a guy might be hesitant to come back even if he does want to. Maybe y’all ended on bad terms and he also thinks you want nothing to do with him? Maybe he realizes he did stuff that he may see as being unforgivable? They have egos and are prideful too, if they come back they’ll have to admit their faults and nobody wants to do that.
An example: my brother, yes a male, still thinks about a girl he was with 9 years ago. He dreams about her, he misses her, he has regrets but has he tried getting her back? No. He also has been in love with a friend for over a year and has not taken any steps to get her. I think some people put a little bit too much pressure on males to be the one to always make the move as if they are immune to fears.
i agree girly. theres men who came back years after and still continue to. some 10 years. i had one confess his love to me drunk 10 years after when we became good friends. time is an illusion. I still think about majority of my exes from time to time and I think for men, they never get over women they truly love and will actually think about her longer than the woman will. I know my ex still thinks about me because I can feel it and we haven't been in touch in years and when we didnt speak he said he thought about me all the time and he came back almost a year later. One thing I've truly learned is you can only run away for so long because the feelings suffocate you so much. sometimes men need that to actually take any action. just because they dont contact you doesnt mean they dont care and i think on some level we know if they do or don't. should you stop your life? No. but 1 month, 2 months, 1 year its all just an illusion. I tend to believe that the longer the person is away, the more the love grows almost like an obsession for the other person because at that point all the bad memories are gone and all you can think about is all the good. At least it has been the case in my life over and over again with men i've been involved with. even men ive just briefly dated.
That's true, but that's with some men. Most men do come back at least in my experience and friends I know for not genuine purposes. Maybe I seem to meet the abusive men who don't care as none of them have ever shown any true feelings and all used me and been very abusive. I haven't had one normal healthy relationship where a guy came back and said yeah I still love you all this time onwards and I wish things worked out. The most I got was a FWB situation where we were both rebounding each other because of heartache and we had a huge row and he blocked and ignored me. A month later I got a text apologising and he said it was getting too serious for him and he couldn't handle it but best of luck etc. Every so often he pops up to see how I am, but I know it's mainly he wants sexual things again as it's flirting and innuendos and I am way past that. You seem to be the lucky lady who has all these men swooning at you and this isn't meant sarcy or rude btw.
I think some behaviours can be passed off as caring and missing someone. I used to believe that men cared about me because they got jealous, but I now know that just because a man is controlling and jealous about other men around you that doesn't mean he wants or cares for you.
I'm not very good with my words and maybe I didn't write this out well but some women have better luck with exes loving them years onwards and other women have men abuse them and not give them a second look or care.
I know a situation with a woman who was in a very very toxic situation with a guy and when she tries to leave he does his he is going to kill himself he loves her he waits outside her house for her when she goes to work in the mornings and tries grabbing her and giving her flowers. And then she forgives him 1000x and he abuses her, cheats, hits her talks down to her uses her and has substance abuses. To some people they actually fell for that he loved her deep down because of what happens when she walks away, but if you were in the situation you could see it wasn't true love.
Absolutely, some men are just disgusting. I think no matter how much you want them you should definite make them jump through some hoops before letting them come back in if they’re the ones who left in the first place.
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Ok I’m about to come with the sledgehammer but if I learned anything in my ripe old age of 29, if your poi (guy or gal) does not make any attempt of reach out to you within 3 months (and that’s being generous) MOVE ON. This person is not “suffering” they are living their life without you at this point. Move on, move on, move on. They are not pining after you or giving you the time of day like you are giving them. They are not. Stop filling your head and tricking yourself to think they are because as humans we shield ourselves from the bad to cope with a loss. You need to feel to heal. Feel for your loss and then move on! Time is the most valuable thing on this planet, you will never get it back. Invest it in things and people who will invest in you. Set boundaries early in your relationships, and the person willing to put in the time and effort will be the one who wins your heart. I will say it here but I got my poi, we share a home together and build on our love everyday. The ONLY psychic to get big outcome predictions of what’s actually happening in my life right now was a known scammer. What does that tell you? Move on with your life friends. You only get one.
I’m stepping off my soapbox. Thanks for coming to my Tedtalk.
Not sure I agree. Yes, don’t sit there and sulk over them and prevent yourself from being able to move on but I don’t agree with the 3 months. Of course if you weren’t really in a relationship to begin with and they ghosted you months ago, yeah they probably aren’t gonna come back. Or if you’ve reached out several times with no response. But dependent of the nature of why you ended, which only you know know, a guy might be hesitant to come back even if he does want to. Maybe y’all ended on bad terms and he also thinks you want nothing to do with him? Maybe he realizes he did stuff that he may see as being unforgivable? They have egos and are prideful too, if they come back they’ll have to admit their faults and nobody wants to do that.
An example: my brother, yes a male, still thinks about a girl he was with 9 years ago. He dreams about her, he misses her, he has regrets but has he tried getting her back? No. He also has been in love with a friend for over a year and has not taken any steps to get her. I think some people put a little bit too much pressure on males to be the one to always make the move as if they are immune to fears.
i agree girly. theres men who came back years after and still continue to. some 10 years. i had one confess his love to me drunk 10 years after when we became good friends. time is an illusion. I still think about majority of my exes from time to time and I think for men, they never get over women they truly love and will actually think about her longer than the woman will. I know my ex still thinks about me because I can feel it and we haven't been in touch in years and when we didnt speak he said he thought about me all the time and he came back almost a year later. One thing I've truly learned is you can only run away for so long because the feelings suffocate you so much. sometimes men need that to actually take any action. just because they dont contact you doesnt mean they dont care and i think on some level we know if they do or don't. should you stop your life? No. but 1 month, 2 months, 1 year its all just an illusion. I tend to believe that the longer the person is away, the more the love grows almost like an obsession for the other person because at that point all the bad memories are gone and all you can think about is all the good. At least it has been the case in my life over and over again with men i've been involved with. even men ive just briefly dated.
That's true, but that's with some men. Most men do come back at least in my experience and friends I know for not genuine purposes. Maybe I seem to meet the abusive men who don't care as none of them have ever shown any true feelings and all used me and been very abusive. I haven't had one normal healthy relationship where a guy came back and said yeah I still love you all this time onwards and I wish things worked out. The most I got was a FWB situation where we were both rebounding each other because of heartache and we had a huge row and he blocked and ignored me. A month later I got a text apologising and he said it was getting too serious for him and he couldn't handle it but best of luck etc. Every so often he pops up to see how I am, but I know it's mainly he wants sexual things again as it's flirting and innuendos and I am way past that. You seem to be the lucky lady who has all these men swooning at you and this isn't meant sarcy or rude btw.
I think some behaviours can be passed off as caring and missing someone. I used to believe that men cared about me because they got jealous, but I now know that just because a man is controlling and jealous about other men around you that doesn't mean he wants or cares for you.
I'm not very good with my words and maybe I didn't write this out well but some women have better luck with exes loving them years onwards and other women have men abuse them and not give them a second look or care.
I know a situation with a woman who was in a very very toxic situation with a guy and when she tries to leave he does his he is going to kill himself he loves her he waits outside her house for her when she goes to work in the mornings and tries grabbing her and giving her flowers. And then she forgives him 1000x and he abuses her, cheats, hits her talks down to her uses her and has substance abuses. To some people they actually fell for that he loved her deep down because of what happens when she walks away, but if you were in the situation you could see it wasn't true love.
Absolutely, some men are just disgusting. I think no matter how much you want them you should definite make them jump through some hoops before letting them come back in if they’re the ones who left in the first place.
Exactly! I guess what I'm trying to say is I do believe that men are strange souls and can sometimes come back later and generally miss you, but that's a rarity. I think lots of men like the one I described above have feelings when it suits them or like a child with his mother wanting things off of their mother being all friendly and sweet and getting what they want and then disappearing and hiding upstairs gaming for the rest of the day kind of thing. Lots of people may have the experience for an ex to come back but only the person can judge if their situation is unhealthy or not. And women tend to care more with their heart and let men in with open arms necessarily when they maybe don't deserve to be let in so quick, even at all. Any man can come in later and profess his feelings and be masters at making up good excuses. But again, it's up to the woman to judge with her instincts if she can accept and if she deems it reasonable. I've seen women wait for exes on these forums, the guy returned and the woman was like "meh".
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Ok I’m about to come with the sledgehammer but if I learned anything in my ripe old age of 29, if your poi (guy or gal) does not make any attempt of reach out to you within 3 months (and that’s being generous) MOVE ON. This person is not “suffering” they are living their life without you at this point. Move on, move on, move on. They are not pining after you or giving you the time of day like you are giving them. They are not. Stop filling your head and tricking yourself to think they are because as humans we shield ourselves from the bad to cope with a loss. You need to feel to heal. Feel for your loss and then move on! Time is the most valuable thing on this planet, you will never get it back. Invest it in things and people who will invest in you. Set boundaries early in your relationships, and the person willing to put in the time and effort will be the one who wins your heart. I will say it here but I got my poi, we share a home together and build on our love everyday. The ONLY psychic to get big outcome predictions of what’s actually happening in my life right now was a known scammer. What does that tell you? Move on with your life friends. You only get one.
I’m stepping off my soapbox. Thanks for coming to my Tedtalk.
Not sure I agree. Yes, don’t sit there and sulk over them and prevent yourself from being able to move on but I don’t agree with the 3 months. Of course if you weren’t really in a relationship to begin with and they ghosted you months ago, yeah they probably aren’t gonna come back. Or if you’ve reached out several times with no response. But dependent of the nature of why you ended, which only you know know, a guy might be hesitant to come back even if he does want to. Maybe y’all ended on bad terms and he also thinks you want nothing to do with him? Maybe he realizes he did stuff that he may see as being unforgivable? They have egos and are prideful too, if they come back they’ll have to admit their faults and nobody wants to do that.
An example: my brother, yes a male, still thinks about a girl he was with 9 years ago. He dreams about her, he misses her, he has regrets but has he tried getting her back? No. He also has been in love with a friend for over a year and has not taken any steps to get her. I think some people put a little bit too much pressure on males to be the one to always make the move as if they are immune to fears.
i agree girly. theres men who came back years after and still continue to. some 10 years. i had one confess his love to me drunk 10 years after when we became good friends. time is an illusion. I still think about majority of my exes from time to time and I think for men, they never get over women they truly love and will actually think about her longer than the woman will. I know my ex still thinks about me because I can feel it and we haven't been in touch in years and when we didnt speak he said he thought about me all the time and he came back almost a year later. One thing I've truly learned is you can only run away for so long because the feelings suffocate you so much. sometimes men need that to actually take any action. just because they dont contact you doesnt mean they dont care and i think on some level we know if they do or don't. should you stop your life? No. but 1 month, 2 months, 1 year its all just an illusion. I tend to believe that the longer the person is away, the more the love grows almost like an obsession for the other person because at that point all the bad memories are gone and all you can think about is all the good. At least it has been the case in my life over and over again with men i've been involved with. even men ive just briefly dated.
That's true, but that's with some men. Most men do come back at least in my experience and friends I know for not genuine purposes. Maybe I seem to meet the abusive men who don't care as none of them have ever shown any true feelings and all used me and been very abusive. I haven't had one normal healthy relationship where a guy came back and said yeah I still love you all this time onwards and I wish things worked out. The most I got was a FWB situation where we were both rebounding each other because of heartache and we had a huge row and he blocked and ignored me. A month later I got a text apologising and he said it was getting too serious for him and he couldn't handle it but best of luck etc. Every so often he pops up to see how I am, but I know it's mainly he wants sexual things again as it's flirting and innuendos and I am way past that. You seem to be the lucky lady who has all these men swooning at you and this isn't meant sarcy or rude btw.
I think some behaviours can be passed off as caring and missing someone. I used to believe that men cared about me because they got jealous, but I now know that just because a man is controlling and jealous about other men around you that doesn't mean he wants or cares for you.
I'm not very good with my words and maybe I didn't write this out well but some women have better luck with exes loving them years onwards and other women have men abuse them and not give them a second look or care.
I know a situation with a woman who was in a very very toxic situation with a guy and when she tries to leave he does his he is going to kill himself he loves her he waits outside her house for her when she goes to work in the mornings and tries grabbing her and giving her flowers. And then she forgives him 1000x and he abuses her, cheats, hits her talks down to her uses her and has substance abuses. To some people they actually fell for that he loved her deep down because of what happens when she walks away, but if you were in the situation you could see it wasn't true love.
Absolutely, some men are just disgusting. I think no matter how much you want them you should definite make them jump through some hoops before letting them come back in if they’re the ones who left in the first place.
Exactly! I guess what I'm trying to say is I do believe that men are strange souls and can sometimes come back later and generally miss you, but that's a rarity. I think lots of men like the one I described above have feelings when it suits them or like a child with his mother wanting things off of their mother being all friendly and sweet and getting what they want and then disappearing and hiding upstairs gaming for the rest of the day kind of thing. Lots of people may have the experience for an ex to come back but only the person can judge if their situation is unhealthy or not. And women tend to care more with their heart and let men in with open arms necessarily when they maybe don't deserve to be let in so quick, even at all. Any man can come in later and profess his feelings and be masters at making up good excuses. But again, it's up to the woman to judge with her instincts if she can accept and if she deems it reasonable. I've seen women wait for exes on these forums, the guy returned and the woman was like "meh".
The “meh” lol yes. That’s how I felt when my first guy came back after 6 months. Which surprised me because I was still checking his social media and that whole thing. Should’ve followed that feeling as well because nothing changed at all. But it did make me realize I didn’t want a 3rd try with him :)
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Ok I’m about to come with the sledgehammer but if I learned anything in my ripe old age of 29, if your poi (guy or gal) does not make any attempt of reach out to you within 3 months (and that’s being generous) MOVE ON. This person is not “suffering” they are living their life without you at this point. Move on, move on, move on. They are not pining after you or giving you the time of day like you are giving them. They are not. Stop filling your head and tricking yourself to think they are because as humans we shield ourselves from the bad to cope with a loss. You need to feel to heal. Feel for your loss and then move on! Time is the most valuable thing on this planet, you will never get it back. Invest it in things and people who will invest in you. Set boundaries early in your relationships, and the person willing to put in the time and effort will be the one who wins your heart. I will say it here but I got my poi, we share a home together and build on our love everyday. The ONLY psychic to get big outcome predictions of what’s actually happening in my life right now was a known scammer. What does that tell you? Move on with your life friends. You only get one.
I’m stepping off my soapbox. Thanks for coming to my Tedtalk.
Not sure I agree. Yes, don’t sit there and sulk over them and prevent yourself from being able to move on but I don’t agree with the 3 months. Of course if you weren’t really in a relationship to begin with and they ghosted you months ago, yeah they probably aren’t gonna come back. Or if you’ve reached out several times with no response. But dependent of the nature of why you ended, which only you know know, a guy might be hesitant to come back even if he does want to. Maybe y’all ended on bad terms and he also thinks you want nothing to do with him? Maybe he realizes he did stuff that he may see as being unforgivable? They have egos and are prideful too, if they come back they’ll have to admit their faults and nobody wants to do that.
An example: my brother, yes a male, still thinks about a girl he was with 9 years ago. He dreams about her, he misses her, he has regrets but has he tried getting her back? No. He also has been in love with a friend for over a year and has not taken any steps to get her. I think some people put a little bit too much pressure on males to be the one to always make the move as if they are immune to fears.
i agree girly. theres men who came back years after and still continue to. some 10 years. i had one confess his love to me drunk 10 years after when we became good friends. time is an illusion. I still think about majority of my exes from time to time and I think for men, they never get over women they truly love and will actually think about her longer than the woman will. I know my ex still thinks about me because I can feel it and we haven't been in touch in years and when we didnt speak he said he thought about me all the time and he came back almost a year later. One thing I've truly learned is you can only run away for so long because the feelings suffocate you so much. sometimes men need that to actually take any action. just because they dont contact you doesnt mean they dont care and i think on some level we know if they do or don't. should you stop your life? No. but 1 month, 2 months, 1 year its all just an illusion. I tend to believe that the longer the person is away, the more the love grows almost like an obsession for the other person because at that point all the bad memories are gone and all you can think about is all the good. At least it has been the case in my life over and over again with men i've been involved with. even men ive just briefly dated.
That's true, but that's with some men. Most men do come back at least in my experience and friends I know for not genuine purposes. Maybe I seem to meet the abusive men who don't care as none of them have ever shown any true feelings and all used me and been very abusive. I haven't had one normal healthy relationship where a guy came back and said yeah I still love you all this time onwards and I wish things worked out. The most I got was a FWB situation where we were both rebounding each other because of heartache and we had a huge row and he blocked and ignored me. A month later I got a text apologising and he said it was getting too serious for him and he couldn't handle it but best of luck etc. Every so often he pops up to see how I am, but I know it's mainly he wants sexual things again as it's flirting and innuendos and I am way past that. You seem to be the lucky lady who has all these men swooning at you and this isn't meant sarcy or rude btw.
I think some behaviours can be passed off as caring and missing someone. I used to believe that men cared about me because they got jealous, but I now know that just because a man is controlling and jealous about other men around you that doesn't mean he wants or cares for you.
I'm not very good with my words and maybe I didn't write this out well but some women have better luck with exes loving them years onwards and other women have men abuse them and not give them a second look or care.
I know a situation with a woman who was in a very very toxic situation with a guy and when she tries to leave he does his he is going to kill himself he loves her he waits outside her house for her when she goes to work in the mornings and tries grabbing her and giving her flowers. And then she forgives him 1000x and he abuses her, cheats, hits her talks down to her uses her and has substance abuses. To some people they actually fell for that he loved her deep down because of what happens when she walks away, but if you were in the situation you could see it wasn't true love.
I’m sorry you had to go through that star. My relationship with my ex was very toxic. I didn’t get abused or anything but the dynamic and what we brought out in each other. I was somebody I didn’t recognize and never wanna be there again. While I was in it I was so in love I accepted everything but he still did more for me than most people ever did in my life. I know it’s crazy to think about but he treated me well as a person but was a bad bf and I accepted the shit cause I was so in love and cause when I really needed something he was there. It was a crazy dynamic but I grew from it and thankful for it. i think back and sometimes wonder if it was a dream because it felt like some sh*t you would see in a movie. He still comes to me in my dreams and I think he stopped contacting me for me not for himself cause if I allowed he would’ve still been in my life. I still love him but not in love and didn’t trust him after all that occurred plus I moved on and met my current bf. Our relationship hasn’t been easy either but day and night compared to my last. All the relationships I attract always have an intensity and weird duality to them and a lot of shit comes out but I guess that’s where we grow the most. I can’t really say anything has ever been normal in my life lol
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Girly1998: yeah I guess in a sense it's frustating when they come back but you're like "really?!". That's what I mean in that exes may return but we may have changed our mind or they may not be genuine. The spark gets lost at some point, sadly.
LadyA: thanks so much, I'm also sorry to hear that you have been in an unhealthy situation. It's strange to hear he treated you well as a person yet the relationship wasn't so healthy, that is rare to happen and generally when people decide to stay as friends as it works better that way. I too seem to be attracting the same types of relationships and guys, it sucks. But at least the other guy did you a favour I guess and left the situation so that you could move on and he didn't wanna keep letting you down and hurting you. That's a respectful thing of him to do.
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Girly1998: yeah I guess in a sense it's frustating when they come back but you're like "really?!". That's what I mean in that exes may return but we may have changed our mind or they may not be genuine. The spark gets lost at some point, sadly.
LadyA: thanks so much, I'm also sorry to hear that you have been in an unhealthy situation. It's strange to hear he treated you well as a person yet the relationship wasn't so healthy, that is rare to happen and generally when people decide to stay as friends as it works better that way. I too seem to be attracting the same types of relationships and guys, it sucks. But at least the other guy did you a favour I guess and left the situation so that you could move on and he didn't wanna keep letting you down and hurting you. That's a respectful thing of him to do.
Ye it's strange lol but welcome to my life. I could write a book on the weird dynamics ive encountered in life. We tried being friends as I was fine with it since I was no longer in love but he couldn't stand the thought of me with someone else and was in still deeply in love. we ended so badly and it got ressurrected as if nothing had happened so there is always a chance no matter what happened in the past. i used to think very black or white but throughout this journey of life, i realized how many shades of gray there are. no 2 people are the same and each relationship is so different. i truly believe in love though and i think its stronger than anything in this world. i think its the only thing in this world that can change a person. if the love's not gone theres still hope for the relationship in this lifetime. and im not even a hopeless romantic lol
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Girly1998: yeah I guess in a sense it's frustating when they come back but you're like "really?!". That's what I mean in that exes may return but we may have changed our mind or they may not be genuine. The spark gets lost at some point, sadly.
LadyA: thanks so much, I'm also sorry to hear that you have been in an unhealthy situation. It's strange to hear he treated you well as a person yet the relationship wasn't so healthy, that is rare to happen and generally when people decide to stay as friends as it works better that way. I too seem to be attracting the same types of relationships and guys, it sucks. But at least the other guy did you a favour I guess and left the situation so that you could move on and he didn't wanna keep letting you down and hurting you. That's a respectful thing of him to do.
Ye it's strange lol but welcome to my life. I could write a book on the weird dynamics ive encountered in life. We tried being friends as I was fine with it since I was no longer in love but he couldn't stand the thought of me with someone else and was in still deeply in love. we ended so badly and it got ressurrected as if nothing had happened so there is always a chance no matter what happened in the past. i used to think very black or white but throughout this journey of life, i realized how many shades of gray there are. no 2 people are the same and each relationship is so different. i truly believe in love though and i think its stronger than anything in this world. i think its the only thing in this world that can change a person. if the love's not gone theres still hope for the relationship in this lifetime. and im not even a hopeless romantic lol
My God, will you be my therapist? 😂
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Girly1998: yeah I guess in a sense it's frustating when they come back but you're like "really?!". That's what I mean in that exes may return but we may have changed our mind or they may not be genuine. The spark gets lost at some point, sadly.
LadyA: thanks so much, I'm also sorry to hear that you have been in an unhealthy situation. It's strange to hear he treated you well as a person yet the relationship wasn't so healthy, that is rare to happen and generally when people decide to stay as friends as it works better that way. I too seem to be attracting the same types of relationships and guys, it sucks. But at least the other guy did you a favour I guess and left the situation so that you could move on and he didn't wanna keep letting you down and hurting you. That's a respectful thing of him to do.
Ye it's strange lol but welcome to my life. I could write a book on the weird dynamics ive encountered in life. We tried being friends as I was fine with it since I was no longer in love but he couldn't stand the thought of me with someone else and was in still deeply in love. we ended so badly and it got ressurrected as if nothing had happened so there is always a chance no matter what happened in the past. i used to think very black or white but throughout this journey of life, i realized how many shades of gray there are. no 2 people are the same and each relationship is so different. i truly believe in love though and i think its stronger than anything in this world. i think its the only thing in this world that can change a person. if the love's not gone theres still hope for the relationship in this lifetime. and im not even a hopeless romantic lol
I'm not disputing that you're wrong, you know your situations better than others but certainly with me there was no love from my partners. One I'm sure had love for me but in the end it died from both our sides as it was so toxic. I think everybody's story is different and nobody knows anyone's situation on here better than the person themselves so if they think truly inside that a guy will be back then good for them as that's what their intution and number one (them) is feeling. Sometimes people can come back changed but I think it's very important to keep living your life too and be realistic. Like you said about your situation the person had feelings and was a good friend to you but realistically in a relationship sense he wasn't able to give you what you wanted which is really sad as both people are feeling the same but the actions are different. So it's a good job you carried on with life and didn't waste time on false hope.
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Girly1998: yeah I guess in a sense it's frustating when they come back but you're like "really?!". That's what I mean in that exes may return but we may have changed our mind or they may not be genuine. The spark gets lost at some point, sadly.
LadyA: thanks so much, I'm also sorry to hear that you have been in an unhealthy situation. It's strange to hear he treated you well as a person yet the relationship wasn't so healthy, that is rare to happen and generally when people decide to stay as friends as it works better that way. I too seem to be attracting the same types of relationships and guys, it sucks. But at least the other guy did you a favour I guess and left the situation so that you could move on and he didn't wanna keep letting you down and hurting you. That's a respectful thing of him to do.
Ye it's strange lol but welcome to my life. I could write a book on the weird dynamics ive encountered in life. We tried being friends as I was fine with it since I was no longer in love but he couldn't stand the thought of me with someone else and was in still deeply in love. we ended so badly and it got ressurrected as if nothing had happened so there is always a chance no matter what happened in the past. i used to think very black or white but throughout this journey of life, i realized how many shades of gray there are. no 2 people are the same and each relationship is so different. i truly believe in love though and i think its stronger than anything in this world. i think its the only thing in this world that can change a person. if the love's not gone theres still hope for the relationship in this lifetime. and im not even a hopeless romantic lol
I'm not disputing that you're wrong, you know your situations better than others but certainly with me there was no love from my partners. One I'm sure had love for me but in the end it died from both our sides as it was so toxic. I think everybody's story is different and nobody knows anyone's situation on here better than the person themselves so if they think truly inside that a guy will be back then good for them as that's what their intution and number one (them) is feeling. Sometimes people can come back changed but I think it's very important to keep living your life too and be realistic. Like you said about your situation the person had feelings and was a good friend to you but realistically in a relationship sense he wasn't able to give you what you wanted which is really sad as both people are feeling the same but the actions are different. So it's a good job you carried on with life and didn't waste time on false hope.
Agree! Most important person in your life is you and always have to do what is best for you.
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Wow! Thanks for sharing your story and I’m sorry to hear about all that you’ve been through. For those of you who have gotten that sense of “knowing” that someone will play a significant part in your life at first meeting, or love at first sight, or that feeling that you’ve known someone for a long time the first few moments you two meet...what do you make of it?? How can you explain it? And is it usually correct that that person will play a significant role in your life?
I had a situation like that recently — where I met someone completely unexpectedly at a business function — and I could not explain this intense pull, a connection that I have no idea what to make of. Anyhow, he has been on my mind, and it’s complicated due to long distance and professional boundaries that I would prefer not to cross. Anyhow, it’s tough because I have no idea how he truly feels l, but it’s also a connection that I can’t deny.
I have that when I meet every significant person in my life. I just need eye contact and I know they'll be around for a while. You never really know what the outcome will be until youre there but I always have that knowing. I also always know when someones coming back or if they will and ill get dreams or whatever else. I love it but sometimes I wish i didnt have it because Id be a normal person living a normal life not knowing what the ending will be like. Its funny cause for me it's normal but for the other person its usually not and theyre like wth is this.
Ladya, so the other party doesn’t reciprocate the feelings or simply don’t have the same sense of “knowing” about the future? When you sense that the person will play a significant role in your life, is it a general feeling of “this person will be a part of my life — good or bad” or is it specific like, “Oh, this is the guy I’m going to have babies with?” When you have a premonition about something, does it often come true?
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Wow! Thanks for sharing your story and I’m sorry to hear about all that you’ve been through. For those of you who have gotten that sense of “knowing” that someone will play a significant part in your life at first meeting, or love at first sight, or that feeling that you’ve known someone for a long time the first few moments you two meet...what do you make of it?? How can you explain it? And is it usually correct that that person will play a significant role in your life?
I had a situation like that recently — where I met someone completely unexpectedly at a business function — and I could not explain this intense pull, a connection that I have no idea what to make of. Anyhow, he has been on my mind, and it’s complicated due to long distance and professional boundaries that I would prefer not to cross. Anyhow, it’s tough because I have no idea how he truly feels l, but it’s also a connection that I can’t deny.
I have that when I meet every significant person in my life. I just need eye contact and I know they'll be around for a while. You never really know what the outcome will be until youre there but I always have that knowing. I also always know when someones coming back or if they will and ill get dreams or whatever else. I love it but sometimes I wish i didnt have it because Id be a normal person living a normal life not knowing what the ending will be like. Its funny cause for me it's normal but for the other person its usually not and theyre like wth is this.
Ladya, so the other party doesn’t reciprocate the feelings or simply don’t have the same sense of “knowing” about the future? When you sense that the person will play a significant role in your life, is it a general feeling of “this person will be a part of my life — good or bad” or is it specific like, “Oh, this is the guy I’m going to have babies with?” When you have a premonition about something, does it often come true?
So for me it's normal to have these sort of fated feelings but typically when I meet let's say a man they never did before right so for them its strange cause they get the same feeling but don't know what to make of it. It's always been reciprocated but its more so why they can't control it and why do they feel the way they feel. I used to go through life thinking everyone had this and was normal till i met a lot of people that looked at me like I was crazy LOL. until i came on this board I didnt know many people to experience what I did or even put it into words how i just knew. I would go on dates with guys and tell my friends how i knew its not it and i would get shit and be like you cant know give them a chance theyre a good guy. Im like no, I know within first glance. there's plenty of good men out there, but simply being good doesnt suffice, sorry. if i dont feel it, it's not happening and I will not waste anyones time or my own. i know if a person is good or bad right away (a good or bad soul i mean) but i sense this with everyone. its hard with romantic relationships cause ive had it with every guy ive been with but I haven't ended up with them long term but I will say it gets stronger with every encounter. My premonitions do usually come true but I dont really get them that often and can't control when I do. To add most of these encounters, yes they usually do play an important role and usually they don’t leave my life completely. They always circle in and out throughout the years in some fashion.
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Wow! Thanks for sharing your story and I’m sorry to hear about all that you’ve been through. For those of you who have gotten that sense of “knowing” that someone will play a significant part in your life at first meeting, or love at first sight, or that feeling that you’ve known someone for a long time the first few moments you two meet...what do you make of it?? How can you explain it? And is it usually correct that that person will play a significant role in your life?
I had a situation like that recently — where I met someone completely unexpectedly at a business function — and I could not explain this intense pull, a connection that I have no idea what to make of. Anyhow, he has been on my mind, and it’s complicated due to long distance and professional boundaries that I would prefer not to cross. Anyhow, it’s tough because I have no idea how he truly feels l, but it’s also a connection that I can’t deny.
I have that when I meet every significant person in my life. I just need eye contact and I know they'll be around for a while. You never really know what the outcome will be until youre there but I always have that knowing. I also always know when someones coming back or if they will and ill get dreams or whatever else. I love it but sometimes I wish i didnt have it because Id be a normal person living a normal life not knowing what the ending will be like. Its funny cause for me it's normal but for the other person its usually not and theyre like wth is this.
Ladya, so the other party doesn’t reciprocate the feelings or simply don’t have the same sense of “knowing” about the future? When you sense that the person will play a significant role in your life, is it a general feeling of “this person will be a part of my life — good or bad” or is it specific like, “Oh, this is the guy I’m going to have babies with?” When you have a premonition about something, does it often come true?
So for me it's normal to have these sort of fated feelings but typically when I meet let's say a man they never did before right so for them its strange cause they get the same feeling but don't know what to make of it. It's always been reciprocated but its more so why they can't control it and why do they feel the way they feel. I used to go through life thinking everyone had this and was normal till i met a lot of people that looked at me like I was crazy LOL. until i came on this board I didnt know many people to experience what I did or even put it into words how i just knew. I would go on dates with guys and tell my friends how i knew its not it and i would get shit and be like you cant know give them a chance theyre a good guy. Im like no, I know within first glance. there's plenty of good men out there, but simply being good doesnt suffice, sorry. if i dont feel it, it's not happening and I will not waste anyones time or my own. i know if a person is good or bad right away (a good or bad soul i mean) but i sense this with everyone. its hard with romantic relationships cause ive had it with every guy ive been with but I haven't ended up with them long term but I will say it gets stronger with every encounter. My premonitions do usually come true but I dont really get them that often and can't control when I do. To add most of these encounters, yes they usually do play an important role and usually they don’t leave my life completely. They always circle in and out throughout the years in some fashion.
Very interesting. I am the same way, but I am also very rational by nature and don’t always trust my own intuition, so I still doubt myself when I get that sense of “knowing” about people. Have you ever met someone and immediate think, “This is the man I am going to marry?” So strange that I recently had an encounter like that and of course I think I’m a little crazy — how can I possibly know the future at first glance??
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Wow! Thanks for sharing your story and I’m sorry to hear about all that you’ve been through. For those of you who have gotten that sense of “knowing” that someone will play a significant part in your life at first meeting, or love at first sight, or that feeling that you’ve known someone for a long time the first few moments you two meet...what do you make of it?? How can you explain it? And is it usually correct that that person will play a significant role in your life?
I had a situation like that recently — where I met someone completely unexpectedly at a business function — and I could not explain this intense pull, a connection that I have no idea what to make of. Anyhow, he has been on my mind, and it’s complicated due to long distance and professional boundaries that I would prefer not to cross. Anyhow, it’s tough because I have no idea how he truly feels l, but it’s also a connection that I can’t deny.
I have that when I meet every significant person in my life. I just need eye contact and I know they'll be around for a while. You never really know what the outcome will be until youre there but I always have that knowing. I also always know when someones coming back or if they will and ill get dreams or whatever else. I love it but sometimes I wish i didnt have it because Id be a normal person living a normal life not knowing what the ending will be like. Its funny cause for me it's normal but for the other person its usually not and theyre like wth is this.
Ladya, so the other party doesn’t reciprocate the feelings or simply don’t have the same sense of “knowing” about the future? When you sense that the person will play a significant role in your life, is it a general feeling of “this person will be a part of my life — good or bad” or is it specific like, “Oh, this is the guy I’m going to have babies with?” When you have a premonition about something, does it often come true?
So for me it's normal to have these sort of fated feelings but typically when I meet let's say a man they never did before right so for them its strange cause they get the same feeling but don't know what to make of it. It's always been reciprocated but its more so why they can't control it and why do they feel the way they feel. I used to go through life thinking everyone had this and was normal till i met a lot of people that looked at me like I was crazy LOL. until i came on this board I didnt know many people to experience what I did or even put it into words how i just knew. I would go on dates with guys and tell my friends how i knew its not it and i would get shit and be like you cant know give them a chance theyre a good guy. Im like no, I know within first glance. there's plenty of good men out there, but simply being good doesnt suffice, sorry. if i dont feel it, it's not happening and I will not waste anyones time or my own. i know if a person is good or bad right away (a good or bad soul i mean) but i sense this with everyone. its hard with romantic relationships cause ive had it with every guy ive been with but I haven't ended up with them long term but I will say it gets stronger with every encounter. My premonitions do usually come true but I dont really get them that often and can't control when I do. To add most of these encounters, yes they usually do play an important role and usually they don’t leave my life completely. They always circle in and out throughout the years in some fashion.
Very interesting. I am the same way, but I am also very rational by nature and don’t always trust my own intuition, so I still doubt myself when I get that sense of “knowing” about people. Have you ever met someone and immediate think, “This is the man I am going to marry?” So strange that I recently had an encounter like that and of course I think I’m a little crazy — how can I possibly know the future at first glance??
Ye I’m very rational too lol and I used to doubt myself until I stopped because I was right too many times. I still battle it because I like facts and concrete evidence and this goes far beyond it. I have had that feeling but I’ll tell you further down the line when it happens lol.
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LOL, yes! Please let me know how that sense of knowing works out. I’m just now accepting it but still struggle with it. I often wonder if the energies and feelings I picked up from someone are the same for him, how much of it is my own projection, and if the outcome will come true. Like, if I feel this is the person for me, what does it really mean? Often, I know we’ll have some kind of relationship. But what will the relationship be — a fling? Marriage? I’ve had past situations where I get a strong sense upon meeting someone and they never leave completely but also never commit fully. So it’s a lot of frustration and heartbreak in the end. I’m trying to avoid that so not willing to make too much of an emotional investment early on.
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LOL, yes! Please let me know how that sense of knowing works out. I’m just now accepting it but still struggle with it. I often wonder if the energies and feelings I picked up from someone are the same for him, how much of it is my own projection, and if the outcome will come true. Like, if I feel this is the person for me, what does it really mean? Often, I know we’ll have some kind of relationship. But what will the relationship be — a fling? Marriage? I’ve had past situations where I get a strong sense upon meeting someone and they never leave completely but also never commit fully. So it’s a lot of frustration and heartbreak in the end. I’m trying to avoid that so not willing to make too much of an emotional investment early on.
Try to stay in the present and take things slow! You can always inbox me if you have any questions or wanna talk
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Random question, can psychics actually see up to a decade ahead? I've had some psychics actually predict things that far ahead.. is that really possible?
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This thread is a great read. I wonder how much of our calling and what we put up with stems from the idea that these POIs are the only people in the world for us?
I am happy that I have a chance to see where things go with the POI I spent thousands of dollars binging on last fall and winter. I understand probably only a minority of people on here get a positive outcome and don't want to seem ungrateful. But I will say that I think the calling cycle builds up these men in our heads to the point where we think that there can never be another man for us. When I'm with POI now, I see him more for who he is... someone I want a relationship with... but he's not otherworldly, or the only man in the world with whom I'm compatible.
I totally respect the idea of soul contracts and the like -- but for me -- I feel like all of the calling and obsessing elevated my POI and our "connection" beyond what it actually is.
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Random question, can psychics actually see up to a decade ahead? I've had some psychics actually predict things that far ahead.. is that really possible?
I think yes. My local psychic medium told my coworker she will leave my company before April 2020 because the structure of my company will change after that. The prediction was made 10 years ago back in 2010. What happened was my coworker was unexpectedly reassigned to work for a new team in another office location late March 2020 and then COVID-19 lockdown happened forcing her and the company to work from home. My coworker thinks it’s a hit because of the other circumstances and description of the her new boss. He had told her new boss would be short and her current boss is 4’10”.
My coworkers think our psychic medium has a 85-90% accuracy rate but some predictions take a long time to pan out and some happen within days or weeks.
Does this psychic have a website? I'm interested :)
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Same here!!
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Trues. Really dope!
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It has been 1 year and 4 months waiting for mine... but we have had multiple times of off and on contact!
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I have been waiting for contact since January and out of nowhere he sent me a super sweet mothers day text message.
Nice!