The Psychic Reviews
Relationship Psychology Discussions => The Vent => Topic started by: Synergy on January 18, 2012, 04:34:44 PM
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Many of you have allowed me to share my ongoing story with you. Not many readers were accurate for me because the majority of them saw me reuniting with my ex, but that, of course, never happened.
Well, for the past 2 months I have been in a relationship with the most wonderful man. Chance (even his name seemed like fate was intervening) made me realize that there are good men out there. My trusted, most accurate advisors all saw wonderful things for the two of us. I believed it because it really has been the most amazing wirlwind romance.
Yesterday we broke up. Now I don't know what to believe. I've really had faith in psychics, especially those who have been accurate for me in the past, but now I just think that no one really knows what will happen. No one saw this break up coming, not even me. Now I'm devastated. Maybe I'm just supposed to be alone.
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Oh Gosh Synergy I am so sorry. I hope you are ok. I am really really sorry that this happened. Please take it easy. Is there a chance you & your man can sort things out
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I'm sorry to hear that Synergy. It's only been one day. It's possible for you guys to get back together.
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:( so sorry to hear that syengery!
Well if it makes you feel any better the guy I met who I thought was a good match wasn't...so we're both in a crappy situation...hope it works out for you :)
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Synergy - I'm so sorry. It has only been 1 day. Did you call any of your psychics to see what happened?
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Hi everyone.
Thanks for the kind words. The only person I called today was Kisha, and that was a heart wrenching call. I've been speaking to psychics for so long and when things were really bad with my ex, but this was actually the first time I burst into tears while talking to a reader. It was a very depressing and discouraging conversation.
All the feelings are there and we're wonderful together, but I can't pay for the damage his ex caused him. Kisha basically told me that he has deep feelings for me, but he's not ready to trust another woman. She said it's not going to work now because I can't put up with his insecurities. I'm thinking about calling someone else, but I don't know if I should. I don't know if I want to spend the money considering how they were mostly wrong about my ex.
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Hi Synergy,
I'm just throwing this out there. Let me tell you who keeps it REALLY real, Richard on Certified Psychics. He would tell me that my ex is coming back, but that we would just break up again. I used to hate calling him, but I had to because he was always right. I never listened to his advice, but that man was always right. He'll tell you the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. He gives you a man's perspective. He's the only one that saw reconciliation AND break-ups after that. He sees further out. He'll tell you that things are good now and will sour later or vice versa. I still hate calling him because he's so rough, but he's honest... Just my 2 cents.
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Im so sorry Synergy. I had such high hopes for you and Chance. But my advice to you would be to NOT call any psychics asking about it. Its only going to give you expectations and then let you down when things dont happen like they said. Pick yourself up and dust yourself off. Take a day to cry or scream or pray or whatever makes you feel like youre getting rid of the stress. Then go for a new haircut or manicure or massage. Go buy yourself something pretty to wear. Just anything that picks you up and makes you feel good. I finally realized that I did so much better before I called the psychics. Sometimes they get things right and sometimes they dont. Its fun to get a reading but when we become dependent on what they tell us, it just isnt healthy and we tend to stop making decisions on our own. You never know, he just may start missing you and contact you very soon, and you also have to decide if you can have a relationship with him having a broken heart over someone in his past. Maybe you both need time, just let this breakup be time apart and dont let it become a bitter breakup. Sometimes they do come back, but please dont obsess over it. There are a lot of us that are alone and lonely. Taking better care of ourselves is the key to feeling better. So spend your money on you and not more psychic readings. Good luck girl.
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Hi Synergy... I'm so sorry to hear this. :( You're right, you can't and shouldn't pay for what his ex did to him. None of us should have to (and trust me, I was with my ex too. I found out after the fact that his last gf had walked out on him and told him she wasn't ready for a committed r/s - pretty much exactly what I told him right after my divorce. I really must've triggered some issue with him when I did that!).
I'm with 4ever - don't call anymore. I didn't get you anywhere with your ex and it's not going to get you anywhere with Chance. I've read that most r/s that rekindle will do so within 6 weeks. See how that goes. Talk to him if you can and want to. But don't get lost in the psychic world again, it didn't help you that much last time. :(
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Guess who: does this Richard guy give advice or readings?
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Hi everyone.
Thanks for the kind words. The only person I called today was Kisha, and that was a heart wrenching call. I've been speaking to psychics for so long and when things were really bad with my ex, but this was actually the first time I burst into tears while talking to a reader. It was a very depressing and discouraging conversation.
All the feelings are there and we're wonderful together, but I can't pay for the damage his ex caused him. Kisha basically told me that he has deep feelings for me, but he's not ready to trust another woman. She said it's not going to work NOW because I can't put up with his insecurities. I'm thinking about calling someone else, but I don't know if I should. I don't know if I want to spend the money considering how they were mostly wrong about my ex.
Synergy,
First off I am sorry that you are hurting :(. Please don't feel like you're suppose to be alone, I don't believe that is true for anyone. It has only been a day and you may be able to work things out with Chance, but if not, just like you thought you would never meet anyone again after your ex someone will come after Chance too. From the outside looking in, I am going to be real with you, you were only talking to Chance for a couple of months and you had already gotten into a couple big arguments when the beginning is suppose to be the "honeymoon" stage. Not saying that you are, but I have dated guys (nice, charming, great guys) and made them to be more than they were and looking back they were not the right person for me at all, I was just lonely and my ex had moved on with someone else and I wanted to do the same.
I agree with everyone else who says not to make anymore calls to psychics. If whatever they say may or may not happen we or our family/friends are more likely to predict our futures than they are. They say it is based on free will, changing energy, etc. but they should be able to see past all of that or else not offer a "service" because essentially they are just giving advice based off of the information we have given them, hence the "I only answer very detailed questions". If I recall Kisha told you she not only could see it working out but possibly even marriage with this guy but NOW she is saying that it will not work out after all and of all things because you won't be able to handle his insecurities yet she did not see from the beginning that he was insecure when that is a big enough issue that it would cause a breakup.
Even with psychics getting numbers right, i.e. "he'll call in a 2", well there is 2 hours, 2 days, 2 weeks, the 2nd, 12th, 22nd, the 20th-29th, Tuesday the 2nd day of the week, 2 am, 2 pm, any time on the clock with a 2 on it, etc. where they are likely to nail one of those and if you really like a reader it is very easily possible to give them credit for this when it is just a coincidence. Similarly, there are some studies on relationships like sunandmoon noted that the relationship has a better chance if the ex comes back in 6 weeks or that rebound relationships usually don't last long that we have all heard a thousand times but somehow it sounds more believeable coming from a psychic even though it has a high probability of happening anyway whether they said so or not.
After getting readings for several years I finally closed my account Jan 1st. There are some readers who were amazing for me with names and highly specific details but I have left them behind too. I think the purpose of psychics are to step in and guide you in a time of need and should not allow callers to call so often. I do not believe they should allow people to get daily/weekly check-ins and the scoop on every new guy I meet, after every date and contact with him and where its going to go because that may (and has) change how I behave based on what they are saying. It gives so many expectations and even if the psychic is right, we are not meant to know everything. So many people are in happy loving relationships and they got there without a psychic's insight because they took a chance. Not every relationship is going to work out, but at least when the non psychic callers have things not go their way, they don't have the added pain of looking back at how much money they have spent on psychics like I have.
I know you are hurting but you will get through this! *hugs*
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Kindred: GREAT statement about the whole free will thing. A lot I psychic in my opinion use that as their shield so if someone calls and says hey! You said this and this was going to happen they can just say well free will or the energy changed. If they were truly gifted I too believe they should see past all of that...
A lot of times it is a coincidence because I have YET to hear from my ex without me initiating the convo since the time I started calling these people. And when I did reach out to him he ignored me or told me he moved on but ALL these psychics said oh no it's because of this and that. Could it be? Sure! But if he was going to contact me like they all say then why hasn't he? He didn't even respond to my merry Xmas text..not even a thanks but he loves and care about me like they all say! Last time I checked you don't ignore someone you love and care about.
I will give credit to the very FEW who say another woman in the picture and who have told me details with me just saying "I want to know what is going to happen with J in regards to me" I no longer give info other than that..nothing about him being my ex or anything. And when they speak I just listen I don't chime in and give them info just because they made a comment that sounds like my situation. I let them tell me what they know and go from there...that has helped me know who's real and who's faking the funk. I'm still weary of the ones who do get all the info without a word from me because again I've had so many readings and nothing has happened.
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Thanks again everyone! You all made some valid and interesting points. I don't want to go into too much detail about what happened (even though I don't ever plan on calling anyone on Contact Psychics again and I think they're the ones with spies here), but I actually really understand where my guy is coming from and his concerns. At least he's open with me and tells me what troubles and scares him.
So, I got an email from Kisha telling me not to call her about him anymore. She says her final prediction is that we will be on and off but he will not give me what I want because of his issues with the ex and I will walk away. I HATE that she gives such set predictions. When I spoke with her yesterday before I sent the email, she told me that this MAY work if he were to take counseling or if he realizes he needs to give into his feelings for me, but she's not hopeful. I honestly feel mad at her!!!
I can't help it, so heres the story. Chance and I work for a company that makes a product for the government, and he has to go out into the field and repair our radars. Before we met he had just come back from his last deployment and he would not have to go away again for awhile. Well, he found out on Monday that he has to go for 6 months. I KNOW that he and I have only been together for a couple months, but I am a very open and honest person. I told him that I see a lot of potential here, and that he would be worth me waiting for. I'm a single mom, so I'm busy. I'm applying to grad school, so if I get in for the spring, I'll be even busier. I don't need him here in order for us to continue building and emotional connection. He'll have access to Skype and email, and we'll be able to communicate every day. He says that of course he wants to communicate with me while he's gone, but he does not want me to wait for him. His ex moved another man into their home when he was on his last deployment. I get it. But I don't understand why he wants to continue seeing me until he leaves then! he shouldn't have started this with me, if he wasn't ready. I know two months isn't a long time, but we see each other EVERY DAY. Not just in passing either. We spend quality time with each other daily and talk daily on the very few days we haven't seen each other. We established an emotional connection really quickly. I accused him of making me the rebound girl and I got very upset. He told me that he doesn't see me that way, but I can't help how it feels.
I keep telling him that I'm not his ex and he keeps saying that he doesn't want to end things, but he can't let me wait. It's so contradictory! So, I broke up with him. He was texting me all day yesterday telling me he doesn't understand, but I can't put myself in a position to get hurt by him.
guesswho,
I called Richard this morning. He only asked for my name and DOB. No other questions. When he started talking, he brought up my ex (the father of my children). He went on and on about him, so I was a little bit irritated (I shouldn't have been bc he was accurate, but I don't care about my ex). Finally, he got into things with my new guy. He gave me a percentage for the likelihood of this working. He gave me advice of what I should do, and he picked up on Chance's terrible ex on his own. I'm not sure what will happen, but he certainly was accurate in his descriptions of people. He even knew I'd been looking into grad school and also read into something that's important about me that NO OTHER reader has ever picked up on. It was interesting. I didn't get as much of a prediction about Chance as I wanted because I wasn't really looking for a percentage, but this guy convinced me that he is psychic.
I also called MsLisaM on Keen last night, and I liked her a lot, not just because she made a super positive prediction, but because she picked up on a lot about Chance on her own. She's expensive, but she didn't keep me on the phone. She actually answered my question and then tried to get me off the phone. haha. She did give me a solid prediction and also gave me advice. I don't know if I can take her advice though (and it was the opposite of what Richard said! haha). I really need to stop calling psychics. I end up more confused.
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Hey Synergy I went on the certified psychics website and was looking at the payment options but the cheapest is $60? I want to request and amount on my own but it won't let me. Did you choose from one of their packages to get in contact with Richard?
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Hi bp1990,
I purchased that package. Even though it is a lot, it was the least expensive. I did talk to him for the full 20 minutes. They give you a 2 minute warning. I really shouldn't have spent that much money, but I really wanted to talk to him after the recommendation.
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I spoke with Richard..he was cool. He was saying stuff about my ex which didn't sound correct. Like him being dishonest and him putting up a front and that he made me think he liked me but basically didn't. Honestly I didnt agree with any of that for MANY reasons and it kinda sounded as if he was talking about someone else I was dealing with.
He also noted some other things that were kinda right like me really wanting to take a class that deals with being creative which isn't true. I looked at a class but that it lol.
He's cool but I probably woulda saved my money if I had known it would has been a okay reading.
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And let me say this I'm not saying that he was okay because he didn't tell me what I want to hear regarding my ex-boyfriend I'm saying he was okay because I know that my ex was absolutely smitten with me and if he wasn't he was really good at pretending and this is coming from somebody who was a player all throughout college lol. so either he was a really good con artist or Richard is incorrect and I'm leaning more towards incorrect because more than one person told me he was probably in love with me based on what they knew about our relationship. as far as being dishonest I never really caught him in a lie,we were pretty truthfully with each other there were a few white lies told probably on both sides but nothing where it would be devastating to just cheating or lying about something like major. ( unless its something i dont know about) so I don't agree with that as well. and lastly when it comes to putting up the front he wasn't really like that that's why I thought that is possibly somebody else I was dealing with because he was more a dishonest person and was the person who wasn't necessarily trueful and put up a fromt about his real feelings for me and as far as things are going on in his life that were affecting me and our potential relationship.
Richard did pick up that somebody knew was coming into my life. I asked if it somebody already in my life and he said no but it could be that I just not in a relationship with that person. he also said that my ex will probably try to contact me when things are moving along with this guy but he doesn't see that any communication in the near future as far as like you know January like I've been getting predictions about
FYI: sorry for my sentence structure and punctuation lol. I'm using a talk to text feature on my phone so some sentences are like run ons lol
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Yeah, Richard can be on the negative side. He's more pessimistic that any other reader you'll talk to, but he's usually right. I've been reading with him for three years. He's definitely not good at seeing the "good" in people, but he's honest. I just call him when I want to hear the worst-case scenario. He'll tell you what's bad about the person you're dealing with when you're too in love to see it.
For example, he told me my ex was immature, unstable, not worth it, etc., but at the end of the conversation he said "He'd even marry you, but would you want to be married to a guy like that?" So he'll tell you what you want to know after giving you a good dose of what he wants you to hear. He's very similar to Uli on CP. Both very honest and direct readers.
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guesswho,
It's interesting that you said he picks up the negative because he started the reading by telling me about the most negative man I've ever had in my life... the father of my children. He spoke about him and how terrible he is for awhile. Interestingly, he had great things to say about Chance. Ultimately, he said Chance just needs to be able to trust me instead of focusing on the negative things his ex did. We'll see.
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That's great Synergy! It's a BIG DEAL if he has something positive to say about someone. Chance must really be a good guy.
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I don't mind negative if it's true but whn I can't relate to most of what is being said is what makes me not take anything said seriously.
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I get what you're saying LLL. Maybe you didn't connect with him. Nothing Richard tells me when I'm actually on a call with him resonates with me. It's just that all the predictions come true after the calls time after time for years now. That's why I go back to him. I don't usually enjoy the calls though. He's just proven himself to me over time.
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Yea I see what your saying!
Well he did make prediction about my job and he did pick up a new person (think its the guy I just met) so well see if any of that comes about!
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Richard gave me a negative reading as well. he seemed to try to get me on the phone longer than i wanted so i'm kinda ehhhh about him. he told me to check the tire pressure on my car and the fluids. will see how his predictions turn out
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Lmao he told me the same thing about my tires and fluid haha
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Synergy, I just wanted to say that I'm sorry to hear about the break up, but I feel that the ball is in your court if you want to get back together with Chance. I wish you all the best and I hope that everything works out for both of you.
For those of you who have read with Richard, I decided to try him out. I felt that he was very honest, and even though it wasn't really positive, I think he's probably right. He said that my guy has a huge ego and believes that if he came into my life a year from now and I was in a happy relationship, he would be able to get me back and get me to leave the person who I'm with. He told me that he is very good at manipulation in order to get what he wants and also said that he tries to hurt me because it makes him happy when I am miserable (which is what Healings by Rob also told me).
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Tango,
wow he told me the EXACT same thing... i'm really starting to doubt the authenticity of this advisor. he certainly got me thinking negatively though. i managed to get angry at my guy after i got off the phone with him!
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Really?! Now I am doubting the reading too! It's just frustrating because good or bad, I just want the truth. My ex wasn't one to be honest and he definitely did manipulate me. It's hard because I cannot verify anything psychics have told me so I am just not sure what to believe! He also told me my ex doesn't have a conscience, but I thought that could be true because considering how much he hurt me and how little he seems to care about my feelings, he could be right about that.
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i'm sure whatever he told u is true for many men out there. he's a guy so i'm sure he knows how they think lol.
he told me that even if i was with someone 2 years down the line, he could always come back and steal me away. my guy isn't manipulative at all and i'm almost positive that he would never do something like that because he would think it was wrong.
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Word of advice about Richard - don't take all the negative things he says to heart. They are based on his opinion from what he sees the guy is doing or has done in the past. He is seeing purely objectively without all of the emotions that we feel for the guys. He can see if there is a lot of attraction and chemistry, but the loving feelings,etc he's not to into. He can see all the hurt the guy has caused you in the past. He's reading off of that.
DO listen to what he say will happen in the future as far as if he's going to come back and break up with you again, if he will commit to you, if he has potential, if there is someone else, health issues, job stuff, etc.
Wipe out all of his negative opinion because they will make you want to hunt your guy down!! That's just how his delivery is.
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Lmao he told me the same thing about my tires and fluid haha
That's funny - cuz you're women and stereotypically women do NOT do these things on a regular basis.
I had a psychic scam me once, I had sent her $70 for crystals and all that stuff (never got them of course). Well on the last call I had, she was trying to do the cleanse the money scam on me. When I told her she was full of it, she insisted if I did not do that, one of us would be in a terrible accident that night. She knew where I lived as I had sent her the $$ and it was easy for her to see we had bad rainstorms that night. Then she asked if either of us had a white, black or red car. Again, how common are those colors????? My ex and I both went out that night (different places) and no accidents or near misses on my end, no accidents on his end.
It's the law of averages I'm afraid.
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Tango,
Thank you for the wake up call... you were right! The ball WAS in my court with regards to Chance. In fact, I feel like I was being selfish and insensitive to him and all he's been through with the way I reacted to his upcoming deployment. We talked for a while yesterday, and we both really do want the same thing. We're still together and when he leaves, I'll Skype and email him daily. He's afraid of leaving me behind and doesn't want to get hurt if I decide that I can't wait for him while he's gone, but I can and the only way I can make him believe that is by showing him while he's gone.
Btw, Richard told me something about transportation too. Now I doubt what he had to say in the reading. Oh well. If he's a fake, it wouldn't be the first time I've wasted money on a false reading.
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Good synergy!! I hope everything works out well;)
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yes Synergy, I hope everything works out well for you and Chance. Just take things one day at a time. Dont call anymore psychics. Just go with the flow and give him and you the time you need. these damn psychics have screwed us all up. Ive had so many readings and none of them have panned out with any of the men Ive been involved with or even met. Follow your own instincts and know that when you meet the one youre meant to be with it will work out. Why do we even need to know on the first date or meeting anyway? Are we that desperate? Are we that stupid? Sorry , but I am at a point of hating the fact that I ever called for psychic advice. I am beginning to think they are all frauds. One person read for me and told that this man I had dated wanted to reconnect with me and all. he has since bought a house and is with someone else. Really wanted to reconnect with me didnt he? And by the way, she is among us so be careful what you say here. Im sure she will will delete me as a friend at the social site that we connected with but I dont care cause if she is giving readings that are so off then she shouldnt be giving readings. And hers are way off. He didnt want to reconnect with me or he wouldnt be buying a house to share with this other woman. Its ridiculous. Ive had dreams that came true and Ive had premonitions that came true but I would never ask anyone to pay me to tell them their future. A few premonitions dont make you a psychic.
Good luck Synergy, go with your gut and dont pressure. Let things happen naturally. Thats the best advice you can get.
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I am so happy for you Synergy! I'm glad that you and Chance have decided to stay together. I really think that even though long distance is hard, both of you will be able to do it because you communicate with each other well and you're both on the same page, which I have learned is REALLY important. I'm just beyond glad to hear good news about relationships for once!
4everhopeful, you are exactly right. When we call a psychic, we have a 50% chance of them being correct and a 50% chance of them being wrong. Regardless of what a psychic says, whatever is supposed to happen will happen. I have realized that calling psychics kept me hanging on because I wanted to believe that I could reconnect with my ex. I actually wanted to hang on to him for "just in case" he did decide to come back. I wanted to be available for him. Looking back, I think of how absolutely crazy that was to do. Most new years, I feel exactly the same as I did the previous year. This year, however, was different. I actually woke up and felt like things needed to change. I finally wanted change.
I'm now interested in someone new and I've been calling psychics a lot less. This new guy is sweet and caring. Things are going pretty slowly, but I'm just happy that I am starting to open up to other men! Regardless of what happens with the guy I'm interested in, I barely think about my ex at all. Thinking of him used to make me feel nervous and anxious, but now if he pops into my head, I don't feel a thing. I guess it really is true that time heals all wounds, it just took a really long time for me.
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I agree Tango! (on your opinion in the last paragraph). I too met someone new and it's going well an be makes me not think about my ex anymore really. I too use to feel anxious and nervous when my ex came to mind but that's changed. And I too believe time heals all wounds even though it took a while for it to happen to me too.
4ever: definitely understand you! I think our gut does tell us what's going on. Sometimes my mind would tell me he's not coming back and I'd tell myself that but for some reason I could never fully believe it....I don't know if that's my intuition talking or what. But nevertheless I'm no longer worried about it.
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I think the psychics bank on us not needing them as much if we get into a new r/s, which is why they will often tell us that the ex will still come back even if we are in a new r/s. That way they keep us hooked, and hey the law of averages does say that as well. Honestly, almost every guy I dated "long term" has popped up in my life again in some way. One was actually married and somehow found my new phone number and called to tell me how he was doing, maybe 15 years after we broke up. Hadn't thought of him in years!
I have not called any since early September when I started dating my new guy, and it was more of a curiosity to see if they'd tell me different things about him. I'd call and say the same thing about my ex, that I was looking to see where a r/s was going. Or that I was torn between two men. The answers I got were interesting, but again not earth shattering. Any predictions of my ex coming back last fall obviously didn't happen. One told me (and she is highly rated but I'd have to look through my notes to see who she was again) that my ex would come back within two weeks when he got wind of the new guy. I didn't hear from him for about 6 weeks at that point!
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I don't even know where to put this, so I'm putting it in my vent post.
I've shared that Chance and I are dealing with a problem out of each of our control, so I've decided not to see him anymore. I was crying at my desk this morning, and my ex came by (yes, we all work together; what a mess).
My ex grabbed my shoulder and told me that whatever it is, it will be ok. And if this is related to the new man I'm seeing, then it's his loss. He left, and then came back, and said "grab your coat, let's go". He told me yesterday that he bought a car this weekend (his motorcycle was a big issue between us). Well, he wanted to show me his new car, but then when we were outside, he told me to get in, and that we were going for a short drive because I needed to clear my head.
It was the best 10 minutes we've spent together in a very long time. This in no way means I want him back. I don't. BUT the reason I'm sharing this here is because Kisha told me about a week ago that my ex would do something nice for me. She said he still cares. Of course, she also told me we won't be together again, but I can verify that he did do something kind for me.
BTW, I don't think I'll be calling Kisha anymore. I love her, and she's been accurate, but she changed her story about Chance, and it really troubled me because I became really excited about what was to come with him. It's my responsibility, not hers, but it has highlighted how dangerous this psychic addiction is. This all sucks.
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Awwwww synergy!!!!! I'm sorry to hear about the break up but it's nice that your ex shows compassion towards you during this times
Hope it all works it's self out:))