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Relationship Psychology Discussions => The Vent => Topic started by: SomethingBetter on June 17, 2019, 09:38:47 PM
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Every guy I meet is a dick or looking for a hookup. Some are out and out rude.
Cookie told me, “stop obsessing, let go, date blah blah blah.”
I don’t want to date anymore assholes and I can do bad all by myself.
I can also stop obsessing by myself and whatever happens happens and whatever doesn’t doesn’t.
But I’m done with these sites.
Sorry, rant over. I needed to get that out.
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I did too because Cookie said I won’t have success with online dating and the guy I’m meant to be with i meet in person. I’ll believe the oracle. The guys online are POS anyway!
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It seems like it's a trend for these men these days to not to commit. I wonder what they want to accomplish in life. I see men in their 40s not wanting to commit like wtf are you actually looking for? I'm done with online dating and so now looks like I'm gonna die alone too.
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It seems like it's a trend for these men these days to not to commit. I wonder what they want to accomplish in life. I see men in their 40s not wanting to commit like wtf are you actually looking for? I'm done with online dating and so now looks like I'm gonna die alone too.
Let’s die alone together as I feel the same and I’m 30 lol
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It seems like it's a trend for these men these days to not to commit. I wonder what they want to accomplish in life. I see men in their 40s not wanting to commit like wtf are you actually looking for? I'm done with online dating and so now looks like I'm gonna die alone too.
Let’s die alone together as I feel the same and I’m 30 lol
I actually got attacked by a guy online, in broad daylight. Never again.
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Online dating is THE WORST. Let go, focus on yourself and allow something to come about naturally.
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It seems like it's a trend for these men these days to not to commit. I wonder what they want to accomplish in life. I see men in their 40s not wanting to commit like wtf are you actually looking for? I'm done with online dating and so now looks like I'm gonna die alone too.
Let’s die alone together as I feel the same and I’m 30 lol
I actually got attacked by a guy online, in broad daylight. Never again.
Oh god !! That’s awful I’m so sorry . I’ve had some bad experiences too that have put me off for life
I just want to find the one , settle down, marry and have kids .
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I met my second husband on a dating app and he was a good man.
He just was boring and we didn't have much in common over the longterm and that's why we didn't work out but he was a good guy from the start and not used to the dating apps either. There are some guys like that out there, you just gotta trust your gut.
Not all people on dating apps are bad but the trick I've found is to give yourself a small window of time to do it. I was giving myself 4 months online to try it and I met him 2 months in. If he hadn't shown up, I would have cut out of there. Online dating numbs people and it becomes a numbers game to them especially the males unfortunately. They become very nasty and fancy themselves players so douchebaggery becomes commonplace.
Trust your instincts.
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I met my second husband on a dating app and he was a good man.
He just was boring and we didn't have much in common over the longterm and that's why we didn't work out but he was a good guy from the start and not used to the dating apps either. There are some guys like that out there, you just gotta trust your gut.
Not all people on dating apps are bad but the trick I've found is to give yourself a small window of time to do it. I was giving myself 4 months online to try it and I met him 2 months in. If he hadn't shown up, I would have cut out of there. Online dating numbs people and it becomes a numbers game to them especially the males unfortunately. They become very nasty and fancy themselves players so douchebaggery becomes commonplace.
Trust your instincts.
You’re absolutely right and I shouldn’t paint everyone with a broad brush. I guess I was just disappointed cause 1 I met my last loser online and 2 I feel like everyone just wants to have sex with me. I am a whole person, not just a vagina lol.
Maybe I need to try quality sites.
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It seems like it's a trend for these men these days to not to commit. I wonder what they want to accomplish in life. I see men in their 40s not wanting to commit like wtf are you actually looking for? I'm done with online dating and so now looks like I'm gonna die alone too.
Let’s die alone together as I feel the same and I’m 30 lol
I actually got attacked by a guy online, in broad daylight. Never again.
Omg, Fidget!!!!!
That is awful. I’m sorry that happened and am beyond thrilled you’re safe.
I hope mentally you were able to heal, I was attacked before myself and that was the worst part for me.
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It seems like it's a trend for these men these days to not to commit. I wonder what they want to accomplish in life. I see men in their 40s not wanting to commit like wtf are you actually looking for? I'm done with online dating and so now looks like I'm gonna die alone too.
Let’s die alone together as I feel the same and I’m 30 lol
The 40 year olds want the 20 year olds. So do the 30 year olds. We should all join a club and knit and collect cats together.
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Online dating is THE WORST. Let go, focus on yourself and allow something to come about naturally.
Thank you! That’s excellent advice.
Hopefully the next guy I meet is at work, or in a class or something meaningful.
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It seems like it's a trend for these men these days to not to commit. I wonder what they want to accomplish in life. I see men in their 40s not wanting to commit like wtf are you actually looking for? I'm done with online dating and so now looks like I'm gonna die alone too.
Let’s die alone together as I feel the same and I’m 30 lol
I actually got attacked by a guy online, in broad daylight. Never again.
Omg, Fidget!!!!!
That is awful. I’m sorry that happened and am beyond thrilled you’re safe.
I hope mentally you were able to heal, I was attacked before myself and that was the worst part for me.
Don't worry, I wasn't raped or anything. He just grabbed me inappropriately and attempted to restrain me. All in a public place in broad daylight. I got him off me and he attempted to follow me home, but I pulled behind a cop so he turned around and left. Creepiest experience.
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It seems like it's a trend for these men these days to not to commit. I wonder what they want to accomplish in life. I see men in their 40s not wanting to commit like wtf are you actually looking for? I'm done with online dating and so now looks like I'm gonna die alone too.
Let’s die alone together as I feel the same and I’m 30 lol
I actually got attacked by a guy online, in broad daylight. Never again.
Omg, Fidget!!!!!
That is awful. I’m sorry that happened and am beyond thrilled you’re safe.
I hope mentally you were able to heal, I was attacked before myself and that was the worst part for me.
Don't worry, I wasn't raped or anything. He just grabbed me inappropriately and attempted to restrain me. All in a public place in broad daylight. I got him off me and he attempted to follow me home, but I pulled behind a cop so he turned around and left. Creepiest experience.
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I’m glad you were able to get away and that cop was there.
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So in the past few days I’ve had to delete/block like 5 guys.
One was mad that I didn’t text him all day, (during the day), he said communication was a two way street and I was a little girl.
Ummmm fool, I have a J.O.B. I couldn’t text your trifling ass.
I blocked him. I have a career to attend to and can’t be effing around. And I don’t want to deal with control freaks.
Ugh
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Sorry, Fidget. It's so hard these days. I'm glad you were in a public place, I hope you called the cops on that guy? I was once dumped by a guy, he left with another guy while on a date with me lol...fml actually.
Excellent idea! Let's knit and collect cats and die alone. I just turned 32 and I'm freaking the f out. Both my last POI, I met online, no more. Yona and Color even told me this won't be online. Effie, Shawn, Cookie also hinted meeting someone in person. Mattie said I might look into a marriage bureau, I did and poked my eyes out...it could cost seeing 5k lol. Anyways, girls I'm here and down to start knitting.
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Its so sad because I know many ppl who have gotten married from online dating - including my sister and my other sister was engaged....
But from my end its like these guys have a disease called INCONSISTANOPATHY
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https://youtu.be/Yh7-ylESSOg
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https://youtu.be/Yh7-ylESSOg
I don’t like him.
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https://youtu.be/Yh7-ylESSOg
I don’t like him.
I'm a sucker for him.
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As a guy, the online dating scene sucks and I wonder why I am even trying it. Most of the girls are very hesitant for very valid reasons. I wouldn't want to be getting a bunch of dick pics all the time if I was in your shoes either. I think the main thing is that chivalry is dying off and online dating has showed how bad it is going away. The worst of it is the guys that actually want to date and meet someone get lost with all the dicks out there. So it gets nerve racking and makes them want to quit as well. Just making the problem worse.
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As a guy, the online dating scene sucks and I wonder why I am even trying it. Most of the girls are very hesitant for very valid reasons. I wouldn't want to be getting a bunch of dick pics all the time if I was in your shoes either. I think the main thing is that chivalry is dying off and online dating has showed how bad it is going away. The worst of it is the guys that actually want to date and meet someone get lost with all the dicks out there. So it gets nerve racking and makes them want to quit as well. Just making the problem worse.
So glad to see a guy's perspective on this! I just question all the time why are guys suck dicks on these apps? Its just insane. It messes it up for everyone and clearly has a ripple affect on decent guys like you
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I was never into dating apps and the like...I would rather meet someone in person, as old fashioned as that sounds. Although, I have heard some success stories, so I guess it's luck of the draw..but overall, not really for me.
So many skeeveballs on those sites, married men looking for flings, disgusting.
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The problem with dating apps/online dating is that people don't stay with it long enough. With this option of dating, you really have to go through 100 or more frogs until a good one comes along. And eventually you do meet face to face. Dating online is no different than meeting someone in person because that person can be lying to you just like an online person. I've heard some horror stories and some success stories. There are a lot more people online in this day and age, so it stands to reason you'll meet more people than you would the traditional face2face way. You just have to give it time to see what transpires, plus keep an open mind and date....a lot.
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The problem with dating apps/online dating is that people don't stay with it long enough. With this option of dating, you really have to go through 100 or more frogs until a good one comes along. And eventually you do meet face to face. Dating online is no different than meeting someone in person because that person can be lying to you just like an online person. I've heard some horror stories and some success stories. There are a lot more people online in this day and age, so it stands to reason you'll meet more people than you would the traditional face2face way. You just have to give it time to see what transpires, plus keep an open mind and date....a lot.
Hornet does have a point as a lot of people do give it up quick but I don't blame them for doing so with how crappy it can be. At least with meeting some one the old fashion way in person has a the potential to weed out a lot of the people you have no common interests in. Where as in the online dating world it can be a free for all.
One thing I heard and would like to see more stats on it is that I believe online dating isn't a long term solution. Yes they can get married but I don't think it is the 50 years like you hear about like my grandparents or my parents. Not sure if that is because the relationship started as more of a custom order sort of thing online compared to the old fashion way. Maybe morals have changed so much that really long term committed relationships are a thing of the past. I would really love to see how many of the online relationships that resulted in marriage get to 50 years. It will be quite awhile before a stat like that will ever be concluded since online dating is what 20 maybe 30 years old if you include that video dating back in the 80's and early 90's. I would though like to see that stat of how many online dating relationships actually resulted in a long marriage and not a divorce in a few years. You know those sites and apps will never tell you that info.
As a guy, the online dating scene sucks and I wonder why I am even trying it. Most of the girls are very hesitant for very valid reasons. I wouldn't want to be getting a bunch of dick pics all the time if I was in your shoes either. I think the main thing is that chivalry is dying off and online dating has showed how bad it is going away. The worst of it is the guys that actually want to date and meet someone get lost with all the dicks out there. So it gets nerve racking and makes them want to quit as well. Just making the problem worse.
So glad to see a guy's perspective on this! I just question all the time why are guys suck dicks on these apps? Its just insane. It messes it up for everyone and clearly has a ripple affect on decent guys like you
It's actually quite simple. It is because they know they can get away with it and have no repercussions of it. If they did that in public it would be jail time for indecent exposure or some other kind of law breaking. So they send it and the girl gets upset and never talked to them. They don't care and if a girl responds then great. They got the attention they wanted.
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I honestly believe when it comes to dating apps that I’m lazy and I also never really see guys that I find attractive so I downloaded it go on it for a couple of hours and then I deleted it for weeks and then re download it . A few years ago I actually met a guy on a dating app and we were together for like 6 months and I know a couple of people who have met their bf on the dating apps but at this point in my life I prefer to meet someone in person rather than on the apps
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I agree with Hornet as well.
@sparky - for the sentence in bold, I kinda thought it would be easier to weed out common interests online than in person lol...I use that filter feature lol!- but I do see what you are saying though...like in really life, if Im attending basketball games, most likely I can meet a guy with a common interest that likes basketball too...so I get it
The problem with dating apps/online dating is that people don't stay with it long enough. With this option of dating, you really have to go through 100 or more frogs until a good one comes along. And eventually you do meet face to face. Dating online is no different than meeting someone in person because that person can be lying to you just like an online person. I've heard some horror stories and some success stories. There are a lot more people online in this day and age, so it stands to reason you'll meet more people than you would the traditional face2face way. You just have to give it time to see what transpires, plus keep an open mind and date....a lot.
Hornet does have a point as a lot of people do give it up quick but I don't blame them for doing so with how crappy it can be. At least with meeting some one the old fashion way in person has a the potential to weed out a lot of the people you have no common interests in. Where as in the online dating world it can be a free for all.
One thing I heard and would like to see more stats on it is that I believe online dating isn't a long term solution. Yes they can get married but I don't think it is the 50 years like you hear about like my grandparents or my parents. Not sure if that is because the relationship started as more of a custom order sort of thing online compared to the old fashion way. Maybe morals have changed so much that really long term committed relationships are a thing of the past. I would really love to see how many of the online relationships that resulted in marriage get to 50 years. It will be quite awhile before a stat like that will ever be concluded since online dating is what 20 maybe 30 years old if you include that video dating back in the 80's and early 90's. I would though like to see that stat of how many online dating relationships actually resulted in a long marriage and not a divorce in a few years. You know those sites and apps will never tell you that info.
As a guy, the online dating scene sucks and I wonder why I am even trying it. Most of the girls are very hesitant for very valid reasons. I wouldn't want to be getting a bunch of dick pics all the time if I was in your shoes either. I think the main thing is that chivalry is dying off and online dating has showed how bad it is going away. The worst of it is the guys that actually want to date and meet someone get lost with all the dicks out there. So it gets nerve racking and makes them want to quit as well. Just making the problem worse.
So glad to see a guy's perspective on this! I just question all the time why are guys suck dicks on these apps? Its just insane. It messes it up for everyone and clearly has a ripple affect on decent guys like you
It's actually quite simple. It is because they know they can get away with it and have no repercussions of it. If they did that in public it would be jail time for indecent exposure or some other kind of law breaking. So they send it and the girl gets upset and never talked to them. They don't care and if a girl responds then great. They got the attention they wanted.
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I was never into dating apps and the like...I would rather meet someone in person, as old fashioned as that sounds. Although, I have heard some success stories, so I guess it's luck of the draw..but overall, not really for me.
So many skeeveballs on those sites, married men looking for flings, disgusting.
Yep but the same thing happens in real life too...its just a cluster of them together on the site rather than meeting a man randomly in person. Think about it, meeting someone in person (with no connections to anyone you know) is just the same
Its like the Personals section in a Newspaper from like 1992 LOL with no pic
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I was never into dating apps and the like...I would rather meet someone in person, as old fashioned as that sounds. Although, I have heard some success stories, so I guess it's luck of the draw..but overall, not really for me.
So many skeeveballs on those sites, married men looking for flings, disgusting.
Yep but the same thing happens in real life too...its just a cluster of them together on the site rather than meeting a man randomly in person. Think about it, meeting someone in person (with no connections to anyone you know) is just the same
Its like the Personals section in a Newspaper from like 1992 LOL with no pic
HAHA! True! I remember years ago, I was dating this guy, and we were hanging out with his friend, who was supposed to meet up with someone he met in the "personals" section and I remember thinking wow how weird lol.
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I was never into dating apps and the like...I would rather meet someone in person, as old fashioned as that sounds. Although, I have heard some success stories, so I guess it's luck of the draw..but overall, not really for me.
So many skeeveballs on those sites, married men looking for flings, disgusting.
Yep but the same thing happens in real life too...its just a cluster of them together on the site rather than meeting a man randomly in person. Think about it, meeting someone in person (with no connections to anyone you know) is just the same
Its like the Personals section in a Newspaper from like 1992 LOL with no pic
HAHA! True! I remember years ago, I was dating this guy, and we were hanging out with his friend, who was supposed to meet up with someone he met in the "personals" section and I remember thinking wow how weird lol.
Saw I think that is the first time I have heard of anyone actually witnessing someone use the "personals" section. Didn't craigslist become the "personals" section when the internet kicked off? Funny how things have transitioned. I know with my grandparents it was mostly church where everyone met. It just seems like the medium changes.
I just think the downside with online dating is that yes you can filter out the bad ones. But they might have you in their list and still message you. Where as the old fashion way you can at least have some what of a common interest. Because if you do go to a event. It is less likely someone that doesn't have that interest to go to that same event causing them to talk to you. Where online even if they are not interested in the same things they can still message you regardless of your filter. Not saying that can't be a bad thing. It also allows you to meet outside of your normal circle which can be good. I know some filters can block messages from getting to you but those filters are pretty basic from what I saw.
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I was never into dating apps and the like...I would rather meet someone in person, as old fashioned as that sounds. Although, I have heard some success stories, so I guess it's luck of the draw..but overall, not really for me.
So many skeeveballs on those sites, married men looking for flings, disgusting.
Yep but the same thing happens in real life too...its just a cluster of them together on the site rather than meeting a man randomly in person. Think about it, meeting someone in person (with no connections to anyone you know) is just the same
Its like the Personals section in a Newspaper from like 1992 LOL with no pic
HAHA! True! I remember years ago, I was dating this guy, and we were hanging out with his friend, who was supposed to meet up with someone he met in the "personals" section and I remember thinking wow how weird lol.
Saw I think that is the first time I have heard of anyone actually witnessing someone use the "personals" section. Didn't craigslist become the "personals" section when the internet kicked off? Funny how things have transitioned. I know with my grandparents it was mostly church where everyone met. It just seems like the medium changes.
I just think the downside with online dating is that yes you can filter out the bad ones. But they might have you in their list and still message you. Where as the old fashion way you can at least have some what of a common interest. Because if you do go to a event. It is less likely someone that doesn't have that interest to go to that same event causing them to talk to you. Where online even if they are not interested in the same things they can still message you regardless of your filter. Not saying that can't be a bad thing. It also allows you to meet outside of your normal circle which can be good. I know some filters can block messages from getting to you but those filters are pretty basic from what I saw.
LOL this was in the early 90s...and I think it was pretty common back then to do this, for some people anyway.... I remember the guy I was dating telling me "he's meeting someone from the personals" and kind of laughing, so it was kind of looked down upon, at least from what I remember... ;D ;D
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Thanks everyone for the advice!
Maybe I didn’t give it enough time but I’m not feeling it or up to being disappointed again.
I think I’d rather concentrate on work and other goals and heal thyself lol.
I need to love the hell out of me and practice self care.