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Relationship Psychology Discussions => My Story => Topic started by: LuckyInLove on October 26, 2011, 06:21:51 PM
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Hello Everyone:
I am a new member pretty much in the same boat as most of you here. My SM and I have broken up since Aug & ever since I have not heard from him. Like all of you here, I have been on a psychic rampage trying to find answers & hoping for some miracles.
I have called numerous pyshics from CP, Keen, Pyschic Power, Psychic Power Network (PPN) & Psychic Access. All except for one has told me the same thing - My SM & I will be together. As time goes by, I am starting to wonder if that will ever happen.
I will write a full review of my experiences in just a little while but for now I do need some advice from you guys please.
Its his birthday today. Should I send him birthday wishes or not say anything. I did try to call him a couple of weeks back but he did not answer the phone nor did he try returning my calls. He may have been busy at that time I called but him not calling back surprised me a bit. I was hoping he would at least call back. We did not fight when we broke up but did it amicably over the phone still his not returning my call did surprise me.
Well, what should I do? Should I or should I not send him birthday wishes? I am so confused. Please suggest dear fellow members.
I will share my experiences soon regarding the psychics I have called so far. I should mention here, I have seen a local psychic here that has completely wowed me. According to her I should wish him but I am still confused. Help me pls people.
Thank you so much.
UnluckyInLove
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hey unluckyinlove, welcome to the forum! im new here myself.
Since you clearly called him a couple of times and he didn't answer nor call back.. and its been weeks I don't think you should call to wish him at all. You guys made a mutual decision to break up. He shouldn't have been (ignoring is not the word) cold like that. If you don't call back one day or another he will definitely wonder why you didn't call today. This is just my opinion of course, others might think differently
how long were you guys together for if you don;t mind me asking?
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I agree you should not contact him give him time to miss you. Each situation is different.
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It's so easy to give advice when we're not the ones in a particular situation. I have made several errors in the past few weeks when it comes to my SM. I have contacted him when I told myself that I shouldn't and wouldn't. I think I made a big mistake by doing that. I agree with everyone else and think you should not contact him for his birthday. He will definitely wonder why you didn't do so, and this might drive him to contact you. Someone told me, "You can't lose something you don't have." In this case, you are no longer together, so you shouldn't think that you are driving him further away by not acknowledging his birthday.
I really hope he does call you, so that you guys can repair your relationship. Please keep us posted... and welcome to the forum!!
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Hey guys
Thanks for the welcome!
@Misty: We were seeing each other for 1.5years. A beautiful relationship we had till things fell apart.
The local psychic I have been seeing has been telling me he is really missing me but there are negative forces (energy)around him that is preventing him from making that call. Him & I were in a long distance relationship but from the time we met & have known each other there were sparks flying. Both of us are Scorpios. Extreme passion & deep feelings for each other.
The negative energy around him is in the form of two people (a couple) that are very close to him. This couple has been friends with my SM for a long time. The woman is the one that I have been exceptionally wary off from the start. From the time I have met her she gave me this eerie feeling of seeing right thru to me. She would comment on everything I did or wear right down to eyeing my (nicely manicured lol) hand nails & making a comment on them.
The local psychic picked up on this without me telling her anything. She knew about my back problem from an accident I had a while ago, and that I have been (not actively) looking for a job. She did tell me that once I actively start looking & presenting my resume I will find a job where I want.
She described my SM & mine relationship to the T. The times we spent together, what we said & waht we wanted from this relationship. She knows how him & I talked about starting a business together & working with each other. She has told me alot of things that did happen while we were together.
When I called her yesterday she did give me a specific time I should send him birthday wishes but I am just really upset with him for not calling me back the last time I tried to.
I know we are not together but it was not what we wanted. Because of an issue & I feel this negative force things fell apart btwn us. I did not want this at all & I want to be with him.
Zhevah from PPN is the only one that has told me that him & I will not be together & that there is another man coming in my life. Rest all have said that my SM & I will be together.
The real ones I feel were Seha from CP. Raven from PA, ISabella from PA & Rain from Pyschic power. Gosh Rain from Psychic power said the same things that my local psychic said of the people around him & how we broke up. She actually freaked me out. She said that I have a letter that I have written which I have not sent yet. She says if I do that will lead to opening the doors to communicate again. She picked up on the same two people that my local psychic told me about.
I also feel I should not contact him but I am scared of driving him further away but like Synergy said you cant lose something that you dont have.
Why is this so hard? :-[
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BTW guys; The call I did make two weeks ago was suggested by my local psychic. When i called her back to let her he did not respond she did tell me that he wanted to but he doesnt know what to say to me & that again this negative ppl around him influence him much.
She is using the meditation power to see thru to him. There are no spells involved but I beleive she is using the same "how to get the ex back package" method that some member had previously mentioned. I know for sure she is honest. I don't beleive she is doing any spell work. She has amazed me with so much of what she picked up thru her meditation powers. She also told me how his mother is sick & how she has been hoping things work out between us. I know for a fact his mother is ill & she genuinely loved me when I was with him.
Now that she is suggesting I wish him for his bday & send him a text. I am confused as hell about what to do. And the funny thing my birthday is exactly a week after him. LOL. I know if I don't wish him, he wont because he is a VERY STUBBORN Scorpio Male!!!!
SM relationships are never easy eh! LOL
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Oh wow unluckyinlove i went through the same situation with the birthdays
Me and my ex are both Taureans. My birthday was 2 weeks before his and he DID NOT text me or call me to wish me happy bday, I was okay for the first entire 24 hours + the day after. The next night (after midnight) I snapped and text him asking how come he didnt text me. He said he thought about texting me but then he forgot, needless to say I still regret doing what i did.
So then 2 weeks later when it was his bday, I didn't bother contacting him. Weeks later when he started calling me on his own, he kept asking how come I didn't text or call him on his bday. till now He still goes like "Oh cmon you owe me one I was expecting you to call"
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Unlucky - This is tough and really none of us know the story so I strongly believe you need to follow your gut and not listen to any of us because we are all in here for one reason or another............ But since you asked I would agree with the others about holding off. Especially since you just called him......
I know how much this hurts.........
hang in there
PT
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Yeah PT it is extremely hard. I know that if I do wish him he will respond with a thank you for sure but then I feel he will be only doing that out of politeness for wishing him not because he wants to. One way I feel if I do text him, he might realize I do still care for him & that might start some communication but on the other hand I feel it will show my desperation to continuously try to find a way to communicate with him even after what he did two weeks ago.
Its not easy for sure. I am extremely grateful to the psychic that has been helping me & dont want let her down by not following her guidance but I definitely dont want to look desperate for him. I love him but I have my dignity to hold too.
Maybe I will call my psychic & tell her how I feel at this point and she what she has to say as well. Couple more hours before that timeline passes!
Thanks guys! Will keep you'll posted!
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Hi Unlucky, I hope you will be lucky in Love. Change your name to you will be lucky in love (if you don't mind). Affirmation !!!
I also agree with synergy, PT and misty.
Who was the first person to call this relationship a quit.
My opinion (with disclaimers). If it was him then you have done your job of texting him to let him know that its not over from your side. According to psychics you should send him wishes and according to dating experts: make him miss you so that one day he will be come running in to you.
Yes true, that he needs to come out of his negativity, stubborn freak and realize that he is missing important thing from his life. Good thing about your relationship is that his mother is in your favor. For sure she would be conveying your feelings to him, so keep communicating with her if not him. This would be an indirect way. Wise communication is a key to success for any relationship, this I have learned lately, thankfully I did.
Rest follow your hunch to reach a decision. I hope you guides will help you. Good Luck !
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Hi Unlucky ( I agree with Loveblooms, you really should choose a fabulous positive name :-) )
I used to call psychics too (ALOT) and still do every now and then, but I read this board to kind of remind me where I used to be and how far I've come. I sometimes may sound like I'm "psychic-bashing" but I'm really not.
Anyway, in my first post on here I mentioned a website that I read instead of calling psychics like I used to and when I read your post I recalled an article that I saw on there a few weeks ago, dealing exactly with the birthday wishes issue. (BTW I'm a scorpio too :) )
It may help you figure out what you want to do. http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/dealing-with-happy-birthdays-and-big-occasions-to-send-a-card-or-text-or-not-to-send/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+BaggageReclaim-TheGuideToSingleLivingDatingRelationshipsAndOfCourseManTaming+%28Baggage+Reclaim+Relationship+Blog%29&utm_content=FaceBook (http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/dealing-with-happy-birthdays-and-big-occasions-to-send-a-card-or-text-or-not-to-send/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+BaggageReclaim-TheGuideToSingleLivingDatingRelationshipsAndOfCourseManTaming+%28Baggage+Reclaim+Relationship+Blog%29&utm_content=FaceBook)
By the way, it's over 2 years since we've been "off" and I still struggle with the birthday issue. I ignored his birthday and every other holiday until I felt it was "safe". I wished him in August this year, and that's when I realised I need to keep ignoring the special days. I'm not waiting for him at all but I'm not over what he did to me and this just brings up emotional issues. So now as my sister says, I put him in a bubble and blow him away.
I know the firsts after the break up is torture so I wish you a clear head and a peaceful soul :-)
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Thanks for that website scorpiogirl and welcome. My 2 exes were scorpios wow extreme energy!
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Good blog scorpio
And Libra how about Libra ?
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I agree with scorpiogirl. Its not just birthdays its all the holidays. They bring back memories of happier times. I expect the holidays coming up soon to be especially rough because at least for me it was three years of sharing them with him. But you have to pretend like its impossible to make contact. I feel that if he wronged you he should contact you. If he misses you as much as you do he will. I'm not psychic bashing I still call (a lot) but I'm starting to take them with a grain of salt. Their advice is not always solid. Follow your heart more than anything at the end of the day no one can know you SM more than you do. Make contact if you feel its right. I'm posting very late, if you don't mind me asking, did you wish him a happy birthday?
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Hey guys
Thanks for the welcome!
@Misty: We were seeing each other for 1.5years. A beautiful relationship we had till things fell apart.
The local psychic I have been seeing has been telling me he is really missing me but there are negative forces (energy)around him that is preventing him from making that call. Him & I were in a long distance relationship but from the time we met & have known each other there were sparks flying. Both of us are Scorpios. Extreme passion & deep feelings for each other.
The negative energy around him is in the form of two people (a couple) that are very close to him. This couple has been friends with my SM for a long time. The woman is the one that I have been exceptionally wary off from the start. From the time I have met her she gave me this eerie feeling of seeing right thru to me. She would comment on everything I did or wear right down to eyeing my (nicely manicured lol) hand nails & making a comment on them.
The local psychic picked up on this without me telling her anything. She knew about my back problem from an accident I had a while ago, and that I have been (not actively) looking for a job. She did tell me that once I actively start looking & presenting my resume I will find a job where I want.
She described my SM & mine relationship to the T. The times we spent together, what we said & waht we wanted from this relationship. She knows how him & I talked about starting a business together & working with each other. She has told me alot of things that did happen while we were together.
When I called her yesterday she did give me a specific time I should send him birthday wishes but I am just really upset with him for not calling me back the last time I tried to.
I know we are not together but it was not what we wanted. Because of an issue & I feel this negative force things fell apart btwn us. I did not want this at all & I want to be with him.
Zhevah from PPN is the only one that has told me that him & I will not be together & that there is another man coming in my life. Rest all have said that my SM & I will be together.
The real ones I feel were Seha from CP. Raven from PA, ISabella from PA & Rain from Pyschic power. Gosh Rain from Psychic power said the same things that my local psychic said of the people around him & how we broke up. She actually freaked me out. She said that I have a letter that I have written which I have not sent yet. She says if I do that will lead to opening the doors to communicate again. She picked up on the same two people that my local psychic told me about.
I also feel I should not contact him but I am scared of driving him further away but like Synergy said you cant lose something that you dont have.
Why is this so hard? :-[
Hi. It seems that your local psychic was accurate. Though there are a few real psychics out there if you compulsively call (like many of us did) it may bankrupt you. Please be careful.
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Jordie you make so much sense but still I am sure what my heart says cuz I am so darn confused.
I am in a dilemma right now. I have had two really good readings where both readers have picked up the feelings of my ex to the T.
One of the advisors on Keen read the real reason for our breakup perfectly well. She picked up everything really well. When I asked her if the letter is a good idea to write to him she said NO pls dont do it because he is going thru alot of thinking right now. Leave it and he will come around sometime in the New year which most of the advisors that I have felt good connection have said the same.
The other advisor I read with on PPN just this morning described my SM personality to the T again. How he blew the issue out or proportion & how he reacts to things. She picked up his energy really really well. When I asked her if the letter is a good idea she said YES cuz that will open a line of communication otherwise she doesnt see much happening between us.
I am so confused cuz both the readers were darn right about him. Should I or should I not write the letter is the question I am battling with for a few days now. I have not heard from him & not sure if I will anytime soon. Most of the psychics I connected with have given me a timeline of Feb 2012 being much better. Raven, Mikki, Aries Intuition, Roxies Gift, DianaLC, Seha each of these have all said next year when I read with them. All these pyschics right from the beginning have predicted Feb 2012 the month. I read with Raven in Sep and she told me btwn 4-5months which would be Feb & I just read with her again a day ago again (she didnt remember me) and she predicted the same timeframe so I am a little hopeful.
Problem is should I wait it out or just write the letter & see what happens. That is what I am battling with right now. Believe me this is not easy at all. Maybe the holidays will make him realize how much we should be together. Wishful thinking!
LIL
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just wanted to add something here. The reason I don't really take advice so well is because - what if they are wrong about everything? Are they truly psychic or just someone working a phone line. Do I really want to hand them control over my fate? So, that is why I decide in the end what I will do. And that is how it should be. If what they see is what truly will be, well it will happen because I made decisions on my own.
This and your previous post go hand in hand with what I said in another thread - we have the answers within US. We don't need psychics to tell us what to do.
I know we all want answers. My biggest thing was wanting to know what made him stop talking to me when he previously couldn't live without me. But I never got that answer either. And I spent thousands trying to do so.
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sunandmoon and jordie...
I agree with you both more than I can even express... especially with what's been going on in my life the past week!
I've been hoping and praying for my SM to become some he's not. He is a commitment phobic man. Yes, a lot of the readers have been accurate in their description of him, our situation, and his feelings, but that doesn't mean he is going to change. I can't keep waiting for timeframes to come and go. Also, do I really want someone that I have to change? No.
Ultimately, yes, I still love my SM. My heart still aches some days when he's a jerk or distant or when I just plain miss him, but something wonderful has happened. A new man who doesn't need to be changed, isn't afraid of commitment, and is interested in me is in the picture. It would be wonderful if things work out with this guy, BUT even if they don't, this has taught me something. There are GOOD men out there who are ready for what we want and need, ladies, and gentlemen the same is true for you guys. I have hope again... a different kind of hope. Not hope that my SM will come forward, but hope in men in general. Hope that I will one day be loved back that way I am supposed to be loved.
While all this has happened, my SM has obviously missed my attention. On Wednesday, he left a brownie on my desk. Instead of saying something romantic, or actually apologizing for all he has done, he said, "This is because you're cool and you deserve delicious treats." Huh? My new guy has revealed more to me in 2 weeks, then my SM has in an entire year!!!
I am a Libra woman who needs to be loved through actions. Show me you love me. The fact that I've had to call psychics to know that my SM loves me isn't fulfilling in any way.
Something interesting happened too... I called some of my favorite readers to ask about my new guy. No joke, you guys... One third of the readers told me that the new guy is the one for me, one third said that I need to tell the new guy that I'm not interested so that I can wait for my SM who is the man I'm going to be with, and the other third told me I wouldn't be with either of them. This is where I realized that you are all right... the answer IS within ME!!! I know who's right for me. I know who's worth the risk. I know who will be there for me AND my children.
This all doesn't mean I'm going to stop calling psychics. I do believe they have a gift, but it does mean that I'm going to start following my intuition. I have an amazing opportunity and I'm going to take it!!!
I really don't think it's a good idea to share names here, BUT I trust you guys and have to tell you that my new guy's name is CHANCE! How can I not take a chance on someone named Chance?! It's like the universe is telling me something, and I can't ignore it for hope that my SM will change.
This isn't meant to discourage anyone either. I hope will all my heart that you guys get to reunite with your loves. I just can't wait anymore.
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Synergy, I say go after that new man and keep him. I think his name being Chance is a sign also. Your Chance at a whole new life with someone that will appreciate you and love you like you deserve to be loved. I wish you all the luck in the world and I hope this works out for you. Congratulations, I am so happy for you.
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4everhopeful - love your post.
Synergy - Go for it. You never know. Maybe he is just a distraction, maybe it's more. You'll never know for sure unless you try.
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Thank you PT2. And Synergy, maybe this is what it takes for things to manifest with your SM. If you are having feelings for this new man, go for it, let the SM miss you and wonder what is going on. The thrill of the chase is the most exciting thing Ive learned. So go on and have fun with this new man. You never know what will happen, NO MATTER WHAT THE PSYCHICS SAY. Follow your heart and your gut. We all have intuition and its time we use it. Search your heart, but always listen to that little voice that nags at you. I wish I had and I would probably be with my SM now. But I let my emotions take over instead of listening to that little voice telling me to be patient. I think I have learned that sometimes things have to happen in a certain order or sometimes things have to go bad before they can be good. Bottom line, if SM is not there to spend time with you, then spend time with the one that wants to be with you as long as you are enjoying yourself. Just go have fun and dont worry anymore. If its meant to be, then it will be. I dont know if you are still talking to the psychics or not, but if you are, then consult with the one that has always been able to pick up on feelings that you can validate. But still follow your own instincts. Thats why we have instincts, to listen to and to follow. I am keeping my fingers crossed for you and I will say a prayer for you tonite that the choices you make are the right ones.
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Synergy you are a libra just like me? Wow question how are you handling Saturn visiting our sign since 2010, all those things libras are experiencing because Saturn the strict planet and the teacher planet is in our sign, I sure did learn my lesson. Even look at Kim kardashian horrible experience she is also a Libra. Look up Saturn in libra 2010, 2011 That may be helpful. When is your bday? Mine is Oct. 10th so I am out of direct influence, I hope so.
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Syngery, I am so glad you are giving this new guy a chance. (loved the name BTW!). I had the same realizations when I spent the first day with the guy I am seeing now. He came over to help me with some stuff and we spent more time talking than working. I could already tell he was interested in me in past months, I already knew he didn't tell anyone about his personal life, yet sometimes I'd say something to him and he'd jump right in with a story about himself. He is intuitive as well and is still afraid of scaring me off. But that first day we "worked" for 14 hours (I bought him supper) and he asked for a hug before he left. The next week it was business as usual at work. The following weekend we had a very bad storm and I was just miserable. I felt completely abandoned by everyone, and then my ex's sister sent me a text to ask how I fared. I kept telling one of my friends I was NOT going to chase this new guy! Well the next day (Monday) I asked sent him a text asking if he had lost power (he had given me his phone number, and I assumed he had found mine online but I didn't specifically give it to him). We spent the day texting on and off and he asked me out to dinner that night. Another hug.... we went out to eat a couple of times that week and one night we stayed up all night talking. He finally told me that he really liked me and enjoyed my company and if I was interested in him it would be great, but otherwise he sure enjoyed spending time with me hanging out and would love to continue.
That was that for me. I decided I'd be an absolute fool to let that opportunity pass me by. Here was someone who not only enjoyed my company but made an effort to be with me. Did that feel good after all that time of the ex ignoring me! In the beginning it was hard to let the ex go but after a couple of weeks had passed, I found myself deleting his old texts from my phone to make room for the new guys texts and it didn't hurt at all (ok I did forward a few to email).
Yes, I still think of my ex from time to time. He was a good man when he wasn't flipped out on insecurities. But a new great man came into my life who has the ability to let me live my day without freaking out that I am doing something I shouldn't be. He not only tells me how he feels about me, but he shows it in his actions. He wants nothing more than to spend time with me when we are able. We have some issues to work out for sure but it's nothing that can't be handled. I remember asking him why was he placed in my path? We had been interested in each other for months and why was that? I think we both have things we need to learn from each other. He makes me laugh and smile and it feels oh so good to see him walk in my back door and hug each other - it's like all our troubles just melt away.
And yes I too called a few psychics when this first happened. I had asked them randomly over the summer as I was sensing something between us as well. I also got varied answers and my favorite psychic told me he had anger issues which I have not seen yet. A couple of them (William was one) accurately descried both men and said I'd be happy with either of them. But like you, some actually told me that either my ex would find out about him and that would make him step up to the plate, or that I shouldn't date a new man. Ellen said I shouldn't date a new man till I felt I wouldn't drop him for the old one - but do you need a psychic to tell you that? That's kind of common sense.
Well I was tired of being unhappy and pining over someone who could care less about me. Taking a chance on this guy has been the most sensible decision I've made in almost 2 years and I did it all on my own.
I know I am still not 100%, I still stay in bed for too long and have really slacked off on working out (I've gained 10 lbs since we started dating - he is really enjoying my grill). Being happy with him has not changed that fully for me. But I am on the road to recovery for sure and I hope I can soon be the person I used to be.
I hope everyone here can get to this point in their lives, with their exs, someone new, or even alone. I thought I was on the alone path and was shocked that this happened to me. Don't shut people out because a psychic says you'll be together in 6 months with your ex, especially if it's been a while already! Putting yourself out there will make you stronger as well and that's a great thing. Oh and my ex is 6 years younger than me and I was getting really down about my age saying that I wish he'd step up to the plate before I hit a certain age and really looked it. Well guess what, the new guy is *8* years younger than me and could care less about my age. How cool is that. 8)
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Thank you everyone for the well wishes and prayers! I am finally realizing that I don't have to be miserable.
sunandmoon,
Thank you so much for sharing your story. It is actually very similar to what is happening with my new guy. He's 5 years younger than me!!! You all wouldn't believe how amazing these past two weeks have been. I did dream about my SM this weekend, but dreams can't take the place of reality.
I'm glad I've allowed myself to explore this new opportunity. This new man is kind, honest, caring... I mean, he's everything I could ask for and more! I haven't smiled and laughed this much in a long time. I don't have to call a psychic to tell me how he feels because he actually tells me himself.
Oh, and most importantly, he's not afraid of my children. It's not like I plan on having him meet them anytime soon, but he already spoke with me about it, and he said he wouldn't pursue me if he wasn't aware of the fact that if we get serious, I am a package deal. It doesn't freak him out the way it did my SM. What more can I ask for?!
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Hi Libra!
Yes, I am a fellow Libran! My birthday is 09/29. I can definitely feel the impact of Saturn in our sign. I've made significant changes and improvements dealing with my own personal maturity and goals this past year. I finally received my Bachelor's degree, I made a big career move, and I've also become more aware of my spiritual interests. It's been a phase of discovery for me. I also learned to shed my fear and step up to my ex (not my SM; I mean the father of my children) because I always wanted to keep the peace and would never really tell him what I think about the fact that he doesn't support our daughters. I've come into my own as a woman.
Unfortunately, there have been some rough spots too. I think since I've been trying to repair all of my current issues, I've also become more focused on what I want for the future. As a typical Libra, one of my biggest future goals is to find someone to share my life with. I think that's what has made the split from my "SM" even more difficult. I was convinced that he was the one I could have as a partner. To make matter worse, he's a Capricorn!!! So, I've been surrounded by Saturn's influence in more ways than one!!! He's own drive, motivation, and determination fueled my desires. I became determined to wait for him as long as it'd take and make this "relationship" work.
This all led to my lesson. You know what's funny, Libra!! When the news of Kim K's split came out, I told my mom that it's because she's a libra!! Haha. It's been a tough year, but it's all taken place so that we can grow and mature. It's been a big year for me anyways, since I turned 30. I really have been re-evaluating everything. I'm not where I want to be, but I know I can get there. In order to do that, I also need to learn how to be happy in my own skin, even if I am single. That's been the hardest thing to accept, as a Libra who just loves being in love.
What about you Libra? How has this period been for you?