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Relationship Psychology Discussions => My Story => Topic started by: Synergy on September 26, 2011, 04:27:04 PM
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Hello everyone!
I am so glad I found this forum. I have been reading your posts and stories for a few weeks before I decided to join. While some of you have been dealing with your SM's for years, my story is a bit different and odd because I only went out with my SM for a few months.
In June of last year, I transferred to another division of the company I work for. At that time, I was immediately drawn to a man who's office was in the same hall as mine. I soon found out that he had a girlfriend, so I came to realize we would only be friends. He seemed to be inexplicably drawn to me just as I was drawn to him because he started engaging in conversations with me and asking me to lunch. In October he suddenly broke up with his gf. Now, at this point I still didn't think we would be moving past a friendship because he is 16 years older than me, and I have two young children. He is 45 and has been married once, but he has never had kids and does not want to be a father.
Well, it was completely out of the blue, but in November he asked me out on a date!! I was over the moon. I couldn't believe he wanted to take me out! We had a great time, but that was it. He didn't ask me out again until the middle of December. That night we had our first kiss, and everything was perfect. We went on two dates after that, and it was just magical. There was nothing wrong. We connected with one another, he introduced me to two sets of friends, his sister, her husband, and his autistic nephew. I felt as if we were moving in the right direction because he was including me in these areas of his life.
These dates were sporatic, though, because my ex was inconsistent in taking our daughters, and this man I speak of is in law school. We were both busy, but somehow we made it work. One day he freaked out. He told me things were getting too "heavy". He said law school had to be his #1 priority and that he could not get into a serious relationship. I lied and told him that we could just casually date without any pressure. Of course I wanted a relationship, but I didn't want to lose him completely.
I started calling psychics in January. It is now the end of September, and I have spent more money than I care to think about. We have not been intimate since May, and we actually have not seen each other outside of work since that day. We see each other daily because of work. We go to lunch together, and we have even discussed "starting over", but he always ruins things by saying he can't give me what I want.
Almost every single psychic I've spoken with has referred to this man as a soulmate. I truly believe he is my SM, as I cannot get him out of my mind. This isn't just because I'm lonely. Since I stopped seeing him, other men have shown nterest and have asked me out. The thing is... I don't want to go out with those men! I'm just not interested in anyone else.
Timeframes come and go, but so many psychics see the same outcome. So many have said we will be married, he will love my children, everything will work out. I'm not sure how these things will happen if this man is so commitment-phobic. My faith remains, especially when psychics do pick up on some of his issues that I can confirm. I have had some readers who are spot on when it comes to his past (with his parents, ex wife, work, law school). It's so disappointing when predictions don't come to pass. Several empaths have confirmed my intuition when it comes to his feelings. I know that he cares about me, but he is just so scared.
I am no longer concerned with timeframes. I'd just like to see some change when it comes to this situation. I've primarily called readers on Keen, but I recently started calling California Psychics (CP). I also have an account with Psychic Source and LivePerson, but I didn't like either of these sites. There are so many frauds out there, but all of my most trusted psychics who have been accurate with small predictions and with past and present readings say that we will be together.
This entire situation has been more difficult than leaving my cheating ex! I can't explain it, and all my friends think I'm crazy. They don't understand why I am stuck on this man. I can't say I understand it either, but I know we have a soul connection. I just don't understand why he can't take a chance on us.
Oh well, now I'm just happy I can come here and discuss this with all of you! Thank you for allowing me to join the forum. I look forward to chatting with all of you!
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Synergy,
I feel your pain. I have had psychics tell me once and again that this guy and i are soul mates that he'll change and we'll be together. I have spoken to psychics on keen and psychic source and everyone has said the same thing. Now I no longer want this man. I still love him but I'm so disillusioned. I feel like all the psychics are frauds now but I still continue to call them. I called Abby on psychic source today and told her the new stuff happening right now in my relationship, and for the first time in 6 months she said this other guy that I used to work with is my soul mate. I think they are making predictions based on information that I am giving them. You know what at some point you need to give one of these other men a chance because if not you will be waiting for something that might not happen. If SM decides to come back you can make a choice then whether you want to be with him or stay where you are. Its only fair for you to do what is right for you and I think that getting back out there is always a good thing whether it works out or not. My SM was my world but i find myself very excited about a date I'm about to go on with my former co worker. Some stuff has come true for me, communication wise but the big prediction hasn't I feel like i have become my SM's shoulder and his friend and that everyday things get further and further from where i want them to be.
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so happy to see so many newbies today! i used to join a couple of relationship forums but the people there are not as nice as this forum. sometimes we may sound a bit down and discouraged here but the overall friendliness of this forum is amazing! i am only sticking to this forum now and love it!
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You are right Lightme this forum is tons of support. Back in January it was super intense here, but overall thanks to the Healer for setting this up.
On the other hand dear Lightme I must disagree and back it up with psychology and spiritual source, they will tell you that, yes we can be enough by ourselves, we are conditioned to be with someone, since that is what we see in our society. But spiritually we are WHOLE, you can find the source of infinite Love in yourself, as we are made to the image of God, Divine, Spirit whatever you want to call it. But the only Love there really is, is within ourselves. The most important relationship in our lives is the relationship with ourselves. From that stem all the other relationships in our lives.
Trust me this was so abstract to me years ago that I didn't attempt to think much of it, but I gave it a chance and I awaken that is the only way to call it. Just giving this thought a chance and asking for a healing is a perfect way to address it and in this way spend/invest the money in yourself. CP is only feeding the fear, notice the feelings when you are about to call most likely the main feeling is fear. It doesn't have to be that way. I'm not bashing psychics I think it is OK to call once in a while to get guidance, but not to get in the psychic craziness. Blessings!
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Hi Libra, i know what you mean, i wish i can reach this stage, but i really can't at the moment, is too "high level". maybe at the age of 60 i may be able to. i don't think i was conditioned to think this way. since a teenager i felt life was just going thru motion unless i am in love. i do well in all areas, i have my hobbies and i love my work and i look nice, i mean i am not a bum who does nothing. i do all that i could in life but i just feel empty without love. in another forum people call this love addict, and they actually bash me up calling me unhealthy. i was so hurt.
i am not trying to be right here, i had been thinking about what you wrote a long time. talking about God, even God needs love, He commands us to love him as the first commandment, and He is sad too if we don't love him. so how could a person be totally happy just by himself? i am not saying a person will be sad when he is alone, i am sure there will be some joy and at peace etc. i can function alone too, but i want to to be at that level of joy which is only possible when i am with my SM.
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Hi
Libra: you said "The most important relationship in our lives is the relationship with ourselves. From that stem all the other relationships in our lives." I agree with this statement. We are the most important being...we need to put ourselves first and take care of ourselves first and foremost...so we can stand strong and be able to take care of others they way we want and need to.
But I do disagree with "But the only Love there really is, is within ourselves." I don't think the only love that is real is within ourselves...I think there are a lot of real love around all of us...but if we cannot love ourselves...it makes it hard for us to recognize the all the other different kinds of love that we are surrounded by.
I just don't think we are enough for ourselves. We are not meant to survive on our inner love alone and we are not meant to be alone...we are meant to be touched. There are different forms of touch and we need that along with other things in order to survive...without touch we are just different beings. Touch is a huge huge part of what I do for a living and it is such an important part of healing. We need to be touched...we need our hand held...we need to be hugged...we need a hand on our shoulder...I don't have that in my life and I can tell you that I am in desperate need of it...it is a natural need that we desire...and it doesn't have to be in a sexual kind of way. We are not enough for ourselves...look at the movie Castaway...the creation of Wilson is the perfect example...without Wilson...he may not have survived.
Lightme: I understand what you mea about "feeling empty without love" It just feels like something is always missing...I felt that way for the longest longest time...the only time I didn't feel empty was when I was with my current ex. I felt like the magic garden was blossoming inside of me lol But I felt like all the pieces were all coming together and it felt so wonderful...I just felt like there was this light shining so brightly from inside my soul and it just felt amazing...I never had that feeling before....I hate not feeling that...not everyone can make you feel this way.
No worries... it is not about being right or wrong...it is about stating opinions. This forum has made me chuckle and it has made me cry. It is nice to be able to learn new things and there is someone out there who just saw something in a different light...and that is what is so nice about stating our thoughts and opinions...it is not about being right or wrong :D
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I think I can see both sides of the coin here. I agree that we can love ourselves and be very happy if we are not in a relationship. And yes, we are WHOLE even by ourselves. I dont believe in another person completing us. We are complete within ourselves. But we can love our children, our friends, our co workers and many other people that enter our lives. But the love we feel for a partner or soulmate or whatever you want to call it, is a different feeling altogether. I know that when I was with my ex, I was happier than I had ever been in my life. I had a feeling of contentment that I had never felt. I was excited to see him or just talk to him. There was a warm feeling that washed over me when he walked into the room or called me on the phone. It always made me smile. I truly miss that feeling. But lately I have finally realized that I can be happy again without him in my life. I wont be waiting for the reconnection, but I do feel in my heart that one of these days it will happen. I guess I will make a decision then if it does come to that point. But I will no longer have expectations.
Im talking to others now and opening myself up differently than I had been while waiting for the contact that the psychics told me would come. I am happy with my life but I too feel the loneliness and want someone in my life to spend time with and to touch, hold hands, gaze into his eyes, all that romantic stuff, lol. And its coming, in its own time. But Im truly feeling happy again. And I am soooooo glad. ;D
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i cannot be whole by myself, neither can my SM. is not just about gazing into each others eyes and holding hands. is about survival. life is literally meaningless without him, i feel so empty i have no more emotions to give to other people, not even my parents or my friends. flowers and mountains and rivers or the most beautiful song or the most exciting movie mean nothing to me. i am still holding up everyday because we still have hope. this is how deeply i love him. people can call this unhealthy, but to me this is true love. if i were in the titanic situation there is one more space in the life boat for me, i will choose to jump back to the titanic to die with him than to live without him.
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Lightme, I totally understand what youre saying about the way you feel. But I want you to realize that you have to love yourself also. It is somewhat unhealthy to think you cant live without this man. We all lose our partners at some point in our lives through the natural process, if you know what I mean. You must find happiness and enjoyment in your family and friends. Find the beauty that surrounds you everyday. I want you to think of just one thing daily that you appreciate and are thankful for. It does help to ease the pain that youre going through.
I talked to a wonderful lady the other day, yes she is a psychic. Was the best reading I think I ever got. She is not affiliated with CP at all or any of the "hotlines". She was very honest with me. She did tell me that she felt there would still be contact from my ex but she also encouraged me to be careful as she didnt think it would last if we got back together. But she told me to know in my heart that he would be showing up again but to let it go. I told her how hard that is and she put it to me this way. She said "I want you to know that he will turn up again and know this just like you know the sun will rise in the morning." Sounds simple I know. But as I thought about it, this is what they have been trying to get me to do all along. And I have felt better the last few days since practicing this. I do feel that he will show up again, even with circumstances what they are right now. But Im not obsessing anymore. I swear it was like a weight had been lifted after that reading. I guess because I knew she didnt have notes on me or know any information at all. She just took the names and gave me the reading. If anyone is interested I will be glad to provide her name for you. 15 minutes was 50 dollars but she didnt cut me off, she gave me almost 30 minutes and said she wasnt going to charge me anything else, she just knew I needed that little extra time. I thought that was really nice.
But please Lightme, love yourself and know that you CAN be happy until he comes back. If you feel in your heart that he will, then he probably will. But you want to be that happy person that he comes back to, not someone down in the dumps that cant enjoy life. Please dont wait and then look back to see that you have wasted time on being miserable. Life is to be lived and enjoyed and this is what I want for you. Its ok to still love him, I think we all go through that, but you still have to live your life. I hope this makes sense to you. And remember you can PM me anytime you want. I will be as supportive as I can be.
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4ever, thank you for your kind words. I am happy for you that you had found some
form of closure from the last reading you had, and had found peace. I will keep your
recommendation in mind.
starrlite, thanks for your advice. I won't be calling new psychics for a while, they
really couldn't read the present situation and they ask leading questions. let alone
trust their prediction.
my SM is really reaching out, but they keep reading him as stepping back or shut down.
it seems like they are just saying the problem of the 90% callers. I feel I need
to report this finding here.
so far Nina is the better one, I will call her back after more things unfold and I will report back.
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lightme, do you think the psychics are reading the energy that your sm has for this woman who won't let him go. It is possible, in my opinion.
What I am surprised why they do not pick it up as Fear, because that is what it should be if he is not emotionally invested in the other woman. I think you need to probe this fully, honestly. Unless he has sort of surrendered emotionally albeit at a unconscious level you should be on a path to extricate from this bizarre, and complex and must say unfortunate situation for you.
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I'm going to step in on this one and share my psychic strategy. Not everyone is going to agree with this - But -
When we call psychics, it is for information. I don't care what it takes (or what tool they use) to get the information. If we need to give them a 2 minute overview of our situation to get the most accurate information/predictions, why not just do that? I just called William and repeated an entire email conversation to get his take on it. I could have wasted 10 minutes of him trying to figure it out who said what but with my 2 minute info he was able to give me a bunch of insight that I really needed. I use the psychics as a tool to help me see what I can't see. I never call and try and see if they can figure something out. I don't need to waste my minutes on them figuring out something I already know. Plus I always correct them if they start going down a wrong path and if the entire reading is going in that direction I literally hang up. I try to help them because in the end, it helps me.
Now, if I am trying a new unknown psychic I might say, I've recently reconnected with SM, can you take a look and see what's coming up (or whatever). That is all I'll say and see what they get. If they "get-it" and they get a prediction right, from then on I tell them as much as they need and want to know.
Just my 2 cents.
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I'm like you positivethoughts
Different Psychics have different gifts and varying degrees into which they can use these gifts. I've talked to psychics who I've only told them my name and they have told me a whole story. I've given my Date of Birth.
I can say that in all of my life's up's and down I've come tp depend on a few who are accurate with me no matter what I throw at them whether its a simple "yes" or "no" answer or whether I'm trying to deal with a stalker who is looking for me and trying to find a place to hide or whether the feelings that I feel in regard to a situation is accurate. I've had help.
I don't expect them to know everything, I'm thrilled when I give them the situation and they make accurate predictions based off what I shared and what they have picked up!!!
:D
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From my experience and from learning from spiritual teachers I have spoken to, predictions can change. Especially when you have 2 people with their own free will, things change so nothing is set in stone.
Also goal of CP and other psychic websites is to keep customers coming back, the psychics won't educate you and give you tips on self help they will only satisfy your curiosity for the time being, and hope you call again. I'm not saying it is wrong to consult psychics and get readings every now and then, but if you call out of fear and hoping to hear the answer you wish to hear then it will only be a dissapointment.
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Here is a FREE listen to a spiritual teacher Jennifer Hoffman on creating, love, and relationships. Stuff that psychics will never tell you. Really interesting. Paste this link in your browser.
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/jennifer-hoffman/2011/07/07/enlightening-life-with-jennifer-hoffman--your-mastery-guide
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lightme, do you think the psychics are reading the energy that your sm has for this woman who won't let him go. It is possible, in my opinion.
What I am surprised why they do not pick it up as Fear, because that is what it should be if he is not emotionally invested in the other woman. I think you need to probe this fully, honestly. Unless he has sort of surrendered emotionally albeit at a unconscious level you should be on a path to extricate from this bizarre, and complex and must say unfortunate situation for you.
Therese supposed to be v good didn't even pick up onthe woman.
they always have good reason, she said it was becos he no longer love her.
nobody picked up on anything factual.
I won't be calling for the next few months. my confidence inpsychics is near zero.
if I have to tell the whole story to get prediction, I can do the job of a psychic.
didn't they claim they can tell the past and future?
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Last week, just when I was starting to seriously consider my new guy, I came back from lunch one day to find a brownie on my desk.
My SM came by and said it was from him because I'm "cool and I deserve delicious treats." Today, an Engineer that I had been working on a big project with came by to see me and asked me if I received the brownie he left me last week. My jaw dropped.
I don't know why I am sitting at my desk in tears right now over a stupid lie about a stupid brownie, but my point in telling you all this is because I called Avalon, Raven, and Aries Intuition after this happened. None of them told me that the brownie wasn't from him/that he lied about it, and Raven actually specifically said that this was his way of apologizing for the rude manner in which he had treated me just a couple days before. While Avalon and Kisha did not address the brownie, they also didn't tell me that it wasn't from him.
If he lies about something stupid like a brownie, I can imagine all the other stuff he has lied about! I wish that I wasn't as upset as I am right now, but at least I know that someone who is open and honest is interested in me now. Thank GOD I didn't sit around waiting for more timeframes!!!!
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I understand you perfectly Synergy I am a 100% Libran I love Love, romance, roses and all the sweet romantic pink lining of being in a relationship. I live in a world of unicorns and rainbows when it comes to relationships. But boy having Saturn visiting was a tough tough lesson, I divorced, the next relationship did not pan out either. That was so painful! But also so much accomplished in career dept. I got a job I love and started my own business too! That's been going great. This Saturn transit is a bittersweet experience. But still I'm glad, I think I am finally who I really am! You better get all your learning now so next one in another 12 yrs won't be that hard.
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I am wondering if any of you Libra's are have a tough time finding jobs or problems with jobs? I have not worked in about 2 years and SE said ii will hear something sometime this month and start in January. Avolon also said i should hear something back from a company i once spoke to this month ,I really want to work but this year has been very rough for me and i would say i have been blessed to go and a few job interview but i always end up being the 2nd choice which is not cool. I hope that this new year would change everything. SE also said that in the worst case scenario, i would get a job in March and that's why i wanted to talk to Mary Occhino.
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Right, sunandmoon. I wouldn't be upset if I hadn't specifically asked about the whole thing. Raven explained his actions and everything. She said the brownie was his way of apologizing without having to verbalize it. :(
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Wakeup call I am Libra and last 3 yeas was nothing but abundance and wealth (I spent some of it on psychics ;D) I also went to school, opened my own business etc. On the other had it was disastrous in the love department. I hears Saturn is reaching last days of Libra sign so it might be you and that is why the stagnation with jobs, any way you could do some training or get more skills to have better chances? Saturn is usually helpful with that.
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Yeah I agree about the brownie thing not being too much of a big deal but I see where both sides are coming from. I don't want to give the benefit of the doubt but I feel that psychics can pick up on a certain amount of things and if we build these high expectations and have this mentality that psychics should know everything and every detail then we are in for a big disappointment. I noticed that sometimes(though we don't want to) giving them a hint or a quick background can help them pick up on more details instead of them randomly picking it up and it doesn't mean you have to give your whole life story. Remember you are only speaking to this people for a certain amount of time so you can not know everything and some things are better left to figure out and learn on your own.
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There was a psychic I called for over a year. I spoke to her multiple times a week. She recognized my voice after a couple of months so she was certainly connected to me and knew the situation well. I think she is wonderful to talk to. But she never picked up on the girl he actually had a r/s with (an affair at that) until *I* found out it was a fact. I had seen an xmas card in his apartment NYD and she said it was from someone that wanted to be with hm but the feelings weren't reciprocated. Fact is he was SLEEPING with her at that time. Now the other girl that was interested in him, I do believe that nothing ever happened between them physically but this girl that left a card - no doubt about it and for months. Yet only one or two random psychics ever picked up that he was with someone during that time and they were so off base on everything else that I discounted them.
This particular psychic has told me her predictions are within 2 years and she had predicted marriage for me etc. But she did always say my ex would come back and we'd be together. I do love talking to her as a great friend but I also am a little more skeptical these days on true psychic abilities.
I am believing more and more that we often get what we WANT to hear from them. Honestly if you look at many of our threads there is a definite pattern to what we are being told - down to timelines. I was already seeing that as I spent a year calling. As a set of timelines would pass, they would move out again to spring, fall etc. Didn't matter who I called. I'd love to talk to someone who used to work the lines and hear what they have to say as I'd bet they are coached about what to say generally. I'd bet 99% of us could do the same on a psychic line and there was someone on here who said recently they did just that. His mom would call me about her r/s and 9 times out of 10 I could tell her what would happen in the next week based on my dealings with my ex and the months of talking to her about HER r/s. It wasn't rocket science.
I have spent THOUSANDS to find out answers and got nothing but a credit card that will take years to pay off now when I can least afford it. I have no idea how I am going to get through winter since my health insurance has increased over $200/mo in the past year on top of all that - I barely survived last winter and I'm not sure I can work any more than I do now.
Oh and did anyone see the video from CA a few days ago about real and fake psychics? Thought that was a little funny.
I am not trying to burst anyones bubble but this forum has been a lifesaver for me because it speaks the truth and understands both sides of the equation. If you want to wait for someone because a psychic says to, then do so. But waiting years when you see what is happening in front of your face isn't healthy - and I did just that (18 months).
Oh and Synergy - I have to comment again on the brownie. First I'm glad someone actually admitted to leaving it - that was a great gesture! :)
But I know how you feel about the lie..... summer 2010 I had suggested my ex and I go rollerblading at a trail we both like. He replied "sorry can't, sold them!". Which I fully believed because he was thinking of moving and had gotten rid of a ton of stuff - some of which I helped him with.
Imagine my shock when I was in his place NYD and the damn skates were sitting right there in his closet. That was a complete slap in the face.
Of course I didn't care because he had just told me he loved me, missed me and wanted to make things better so I was on cloud 9 (in addition to him calling me to spend the day with me) but as the months went on I certainly thought about it. He could have just said he was tired or sore or anything that he normally did but nope, he sold them.
So yes it's a silly brownie but OTOH it's so much more.
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Sunandmoon, I did see the video at CP and she stated that if you have to tell your psychic the scenario, then they arent psychic. Then you can read other blogs from some of the other psychics and they say that a little information helps them to tune in. Who knows? I really prefer the ones that dont need any input from me and Nina is one of the only ones that could ever tell me anything without info from me. I remember a few years ago, I called her so upset and by the time she got on the line all I could say was "I dont even know what to ask you". She started in and told me exactly what had been going on and how I was feeling and hit on some very specific stuff. But to date, none of her predictions have happened. Maybe its like some of us are thinking now, that I was so focused on everything that my energy caused a complete shift in how things were supposed to work out. Last time I talked to Nina was in August and she still stuck to her guns and was very confident of things coming together no matter how long it has been since any contact. Im really trying to just move on, but still think of him daily, just not with the same focus as before. Trying to open myself up to others but still at a point of just not wanting anyone else and dont feel that I can have the emotions for anyone else that I had for him. I still feel so stupid sometimes but then I tell myself that he was and is the stupid one for throwing us away like he did. How can any woman still love someone that walks away like that??????? But here I am doing that very thing. Beginning to think Im a lost cause, lol. But at least Im not calling psychics now. Its been a couple of months now. And the one that gave me several free email readings had to have the scenario before the reading then I emailed her a few nights ago about a completely different thing but didnt tell her anything except I had a falling out with a friend and could she tell me what it was about or if it would be smoothed over. She couldnt tell me what the fight was about or anything concerning that problem. So much for her psychic ability, lol. So I was right, she is simply a counselor. So Im back to not believing her predictions for me and SM. I so wish I had never tried psychics for love/relationship issues. But once you do, you seem to go back from time to time when you have had little things happen.
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First off, you're not a lost cause - NONE of us are! I was where you are as well, for so long. And if I hadn't decided to take a chance on this new guy - which was HUGE as we work together - I'd still be there. I also still think of my ex even though I am very happy in my current r/s and couldn't imagine leaving the new guy for my ex. I have no idea how he managed to get under my skin the way he did.
I read an email from a r/s expert who also works with others (not psychics) and they said the highest chance of an ex coming back was in something like 6 weeks! I held on for 18 months when he drew further and further away in the last 9. I used every little excuse in the book for him - and while they were probably right (the excuses), it doesn't excuse the fact that this man believed in US enough to insert himself in my marriage and then over a year after my divorce decided we were done and forgot to tell me about it. How could a man who could be so bold as to cause public scenes and get upset when I wouldn't be affectionate in public be such a wimp when it mattered? There is really no excuse for that. I read into every nuance, every time he gave me something, called me, emailed me, liked a pic on facebook. That all meant he cared. Did he? If he really did he would have made more effort I think.
I think so much of what the psychics give us is common sense. A high percentage of callers are calling about a r/s and a failed one at that. And I know when I first started to call I was so upset I wouldn't even be able to speak, and I'm sure I'm not the only one. Then we start calling for an "update in our situation". I even learned how to word things so it didn't sound as if we had just broken up, I was looking for info on a man I am interested in. 9 times out of 10 they saw us a soul mates, he thinks about me, he cares about me, he has money worries, people are influencing him. All true. But how true is all that for everyone else when you really think about it? :(
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4everhopeful,
Just as sunandmoon said... we've all been there, and you are not a lost cause!!
I was with my SM for 7 months (on and off, he was never consistent), and I've been waiting for him for 6 months. It embarasses me that I've been living this way. I'd be waiting for payday just so I could go on psychic rampages and get all the false hope I could take.
There are two readers on Keen who I kept calling because they kept feeding me a fairytale. Both of them claimed my guy was my Twin Flame and that we were going to get back together because so many twin flames are uniting in this lifetime. They made all these promises. It was ridiculous.
This man isn't my Twin Flame. He isn't anything. Do I believe that I had a soul connection with him? Yes. Does that mean he's going to come back? No.
sunandmoon,
I relate to your story so much. The thing with the skates is classic! It almost sounds like we're talking about the same guy because he would always lie about little things. Even though I knew he wasn't honest, I still kept running back.
I understand that these readers can't see every little detail, but if they're only reading my energy or picking up on my desires, then why call??? I know what I think, want, and feel. I don't need to pay someone to tell me that! It makes me question everything I've been told by them.
ALL of these CP readers said I'd be in a long term committed relationship with my guy (timeframes are shown if they have not passed): Nina (2012 timeframe, but previous prediction did not pass), Jaqueline (nothing has happened), Jean (saw marriage, no short term prediction given), Vicki Joy (2012 timeframe), Lucrecia (didn't happen), William (Dec. 2011, did get a professional prediction correct), Meryl (Oct. prediction did not happen), Venus (2012 timeframe), Yvonne (2012 timeframe), Ginger (very sweet woman, but it hasn't happened), Angel, Heidi (got a prediction wrong), Alison, and Leah. Those are just the ones I remember! I wouldn't even be able to list all of the Keen readers!!
None of them have been right! I would really be surprised if all of a sudden in February (which so many readers have called out as our reconciliation month) he would just waltz right back in to tell me he's ready. He's an emotionally stunted 45 (almost 46) year old man who got himself a motorcycle, lives in a bachelor pad, and focuses solely on himself! He'd have to have a lobotomy to change so drastically! I can't say I have no hope because deep down I do still have some hope, but I can't live a lie anymore! He's not coming back. Not today, not tomorrow, and not in February. AND if somehow a miracle happens and he does come back, I don't think I even want him.
Please know that this doesn't mean I don't think any of your ex's are not coming back. I hope and pray for everyone here that these readers are accurate. I'm just saying that I am angry and frustrated with myself because I've been spending money on false hope.
I have a wonderful man in my life who respects me. He treats me the way I deserve to be treated. He doesn't lie about stupid brownies. He isn't "busy" if I need help with something or if I want him to join me at an event. I didn't have to call psychics to know how he feels about me... he actually tells me. I can't settle for the meaningless attention my SM gives me. That's nothing in comparison.
I wish I could say that I'm never calling a reader again, but that's not true. I haven't called in a few days, and I'm starting to get the itch, especially with my SM's brownie lie, BUT my new guy is keeping me busy and I think I can hold on just a bit more. He's the one who deserves my attention. :)
4everhopeful,
If your ex doesn't come back, please don't lose hope because there are good people out there who are willing to give us love, affection, and attention. It will happen.
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I have a wonderful man in my life who respects me. He treats me the way I deserve to be treated. He doesn't lie about stupid brownies. He isn't "busy" if I need help with something or if I want him to join me at an event. I didn't have to call psychics to know how he feels about me... he actually tells me. I can't settle for the meaningless attention my SM gives me. That's nothing in comparison.
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If your ex doesn't come back, please don't lose hope because there are good people out there who are willing to give us love, affection, and attention. It will happen.
YES!!!! First paragraph - absolutely - this is exactly where I ended up. Someone who WANTS to spend time with me, who absolutely adores me, has actually put things to do at MY house on HIS todo list and asks for nothing in return. Yes, I used to get this same treatment from my ex but something happened to change him. (I had to laugh at the age - mine turned 40 this past spring so I'm thinking midlife crisis for both? ;) ). The best part about the new guy is that he's actually secure about my feelings towards him and he doesn't text bomb me or HAVE to be with me. It's a much healthier r/s and maybe I needed to go through what I did to see that. I was able to show him a picture of me and another male friend at an event where we were holding our hands raised about our heads for the cameras and got nothing but a simple "who was that again?" as he hasn't met too many of my friends.
There ARE good people out there. Not long ago I didn't believe that either but it's true. :)
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LIBRA, thank you for your responses. well i want a go get my MBA but i don't want to accrue more debt. i want the company i work for to pay for it. well i hope things change since i am on tier 4 of unemployment.
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I didn't know where to post this because it's just something I want to share and get off my chest, so I'm adding it to this thread.
Anyways, today is my work holiday party. I am attending with Chance, and my ex will see us together. I am really nervous. Not because I'm afraid of ruining things with my ex... I honestly don't want him back, but because I know he can be a real jerk, and I'm worried he'll say something off color or will just try to make me feel bad (even though I have nothing to feel bad about, he's the one who dropped me like a hot potato).
I am really excited to attend this event with Chance, and I know he'll make me feel like a princess, but I don't want it to be ruined by the idiot. I'm not going to call any readers today, so I wanted to let it all out here. Haha. I should be so happy with this new man, and really I am, but there's always some way that my ex creeps in and causes me some form of anxiety.
You all have been so supportive and helpful during this whole personal crisis, so thank you for just letting me vent right now! My friends don't want to hear about my ex anymore because they think I should be over it, and sometimes I don't know who to talk to because I just feel crazy.
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Hi Synergy! I hope that you have fun at the party today!
I wouldn't worry too much about the ex, because it's your night to enjoy and have fun. He can be miserable if he chooses to, and if he does say something rude or try to make you feel bad, then it's just going to make him look like a fool in front of everyone attending. People will look at him like this lol :o
Maybe just give Chance the heads up if he doesn't know about the ex already? He seems like a really good guy who would be understanding about the entire situation no matter what.
Don't feel crazy; I don't talk to my friends about my ex either because they don't want to hear it. They also think I should have moved on long ago. I just wish it were that easy!
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I didn't know where to post this because it's just something I want to share and get off my chest, so I'm adding it to this thread.
Anyways, today is my work holiday party. I am attending with Chance, and my ex will see us together. I am really nervous. Not because I'm afraid of ruining things with my ex... I honestly don't want him back, but because I know he can be a real jerk, and I'm worried he'll say something off color or will just try to make me feel bad (even though I have nothing to feel bad about, he's the one who dropped me like a hot potato).
I am really excited to attend this event with Chance, and I know he'll make me feel like a princess, but I don't want it to be ruined by the idiot. I'm not going to call any readers today, so I wanted to let it all out here. Haha. I should be so happy with this new man, and really I am, but there's always some way that my ex creeps in and causes me some form of anxiety.
You all have been so supportive and helpful during this whole personal crisis, so thank you for just letting me vent right now! My friends don't want to hear about my ex anymore because they think I should be over it, and sometimes I don't know who to talk to because I just feel crazy.
Synergy,
Don't feel bad. He should see what he gave up and realize that you are happy. I know how you feel about not having anyone to talk to. My friends are sick of me too talking about this man. Have a good time and be cordial to your ex. Have you told Chance about your ex?
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Hey Synergy:
Dont worry everything will go well. Dress your best & hand in hand walk in with Chance at the party! You deserve to be happy! Smile, laugh & have a wonderful time with the man that has brought this happiness for you.
All the best at the party & dont let anyone or anything ruin it for you. Even if your ex says something, smile & walk ahead!
Have fun!
LIL
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Thanks you guys!!!
Yes, I was completely honest with Chance about the ex, and he's been completely understanding. I'm feeling a lot better!! My ex stopped by to see me a little bit and made small talk. I almost told him not to be surprised that I'd be at the party with someone, but I don't owe him anything, so I guess he'll just see tonight.
Thank you all for letting me share this with you! I can't wait to tell you how it went!!! ;)
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I hope you have a great time! I totally understand how you feel. I am always worried my ex will see me with my new guy, and I shouldn't be. He hasn't done anything to encourage me to feel like he even considers me a friend anymore. So glad you told Chance of everything. I know all the r/s experts say you should never talk of the past with a new person but it's part of what makes us who we are and we are all in kind of bizarre situations, especially those of us who are still physically near our ex's!
Can't wait to hear about it! :)
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Good luck Synergy, I hope the party goes well and I agree that it is good that you told Chance about the ex. He knows you have a past just as Im sure he does also. If he understands then he is worth hanging onto. I hope you have a wonderful time and Im so happy that things are working out for you. You go girl. WOOHOO!!!! I think you are on the road to real recovery.
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Hey Synergie! I'm so happy for you!! I read about the Cabo part too. Like wow there actually are good and thoughtful men out there. Who knew?
Hope you're enjoying your the party!
(btw I'm so sorry I haven't replied back to your email yet.. I've been under the weather and I just came back home from my last final of the year)
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Update!
Last night was AMAZING!!! Chance and I had a wonderful time. I am so glad I've allowed myself to explore this and give up on my ex. The ex, by the way, is a total douchebag!!!!! He was staring at us at the party with an angry look on his face. I don't get it! He could've had me, but he just let me go. I have every right to move on.
The worst part is that my ex won't leave me alone today!! He came over here this morning to ask me if I had "recovered" from last night. Then he came over again just to smile and wave. Now he came over to ask me if I needed something from the store because we have a potluck today. I'm not going to let myself get excited about this because he's only talking to me because someone else is interested in me, not because he wants to get back together. He's an idiot, and I'm tired of settling!!! Whatever you do, friends, DON'T SETTLE! If your guys come back, please make them work for it so they can earn your trust and love!
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Hey Synergy:
I am so glad to hear you had a wonderful time last night! Thats great! Too bad fo the ex missing out on having you as a partner! You deserve to be happy. So happy for you dear!
I just wanted to ask you about Healings by Rob on PPN. I know you read with him a little while ago & just wondering if he had anything to say about Chance to you? I know you said he read both the guys amazingly well & didnt give you a prediction or so but just wondering if he told you if things with Chance would make your ex realize what he may be losing out on.
I did read with Rob as well & OMG he is phenomenal in reading the feelings of the person in question. He was so freaking accurate about my guy he totally blew me away. He did not give me any predictions about contact or being together but he did describe my ex's personality to the T. He was really really fantastic. He told me exactly what my guy is like, his personality & the health issues my ex is going thru which I can confirm for sure. He did tell me at the moment things are not looking too well but to call within two weeks to see if things changed. He accurately picked up on those two people again influencing my ex & he also knew that the two people are a married couple.
I was really really amazed with the reading. It didnt give me hope with getting back but atleast I know the feelings of my ex. Rob did say the love is there & that my ex is missing me much but until my ex doenst realize it things will be on hold sort of. I am going to call him in a few days again to see if any change has come about but I was thoroughly impressed with his emphatic abilities.
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LIL,
I am so happy you liked Rob! He blew me away with his descriptions of my guys. Interestingly, Rob told me to forget about my ex. He said that even though my ex has deep feelings for me and would like to be with me, he will not do what it takes to make it happen. He's too focused on success and on himself to take the necessary steps to get me back.
Rob told me that Chance has fallen fast and hard for me, and that he would be the one who could offer me what I want. This is really obvious, but I didn't lead off with any information. I just told Rob that I had two guys and I wanted him to read them. He accurately described them both without asking me any questions. It was awesome!
I think I said it in a previous post, but if you're looking for straightforward predictions and timeframes, this isn't the right reader for that. Rob is an excellent empath, and I've been calling him just to know what Chance (and the ex) are feeling.
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I'm happy that you had a good time at the party Synergy! It's so nice to hear a positive story on this forum! :)