The Psychic Reviews
Relationship Psychology Discussions => The Vent => Topic started by: Kkbich2014 on April 05, 2018, 01:40:05 PM
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I had a reading with Mondez Durden on bitwine that really opened my eyes about myself and how I function. The reading was mostly about my POI and where things are between us. He used the term, love-advoidant to describe my POI. After the reading I decided to look up what the phrase means, and in the process stumbled across the phrase love addict. Which I dont think I'd heard before really, but I started reading more into it and it really resonated with me. I listed the symptoms below, and most of them describe me very well. I really think that I am addicted to love and I've been struggling with psychic readings because of it. I'd really like to leave readings behind, and focus on fixing this issue. I put all of this up because maybe some of you might be struggling with the same issue and could possibly relate. Needless to say, the reading, which didnt really feel like a reading, with Mondez was really helpful. I really want to focus on fixing myself and getting help. I've been on antidepressants for a while, and I'm not in the same space I was, but I'm definitely not in the space where I need to be. And if any of you are in the same space and can relate, maybe it might spur you into getting the help you might need.
I've tried everything I could to rid myself of the psychic readings, as I've been reading for more than a 10 decade with psychics. But nothing has helped. Now that I understand the problem, I can work towards fixing it.
https://www.projectknow.com/research/love-addiction/
https://www.loveaddictiontreatment.com/loveaddiction/
Mistaking intense sexual experiences and new romantic excitement for love
Constantly craving and searching for a romantic relationship
When in a relationship, being desperate to please and fearful of the other’s unhappiness
When not in a relationship, feeling desperate and alone
Inability to maintain an intimate relationship once the newness and excitement have worn off
Finding it unbearable or emotionally difficult to be alone
When not in a relationship, compulsively using sex and fantasy to fill the loneliness
Choosing partners who are emotionally unavailable and/or verbally or physically abusive
Choosing partners who demand a great deal of attention and caretaking but who do not meet, or even try to meet, your emotional or physical needs
Participating in activities that don’t interest you or go against your personal values in order to keep or please a partner
Giving up important interests, beliefs, or friendships to maximize time in the relationship or to please a romantic partner
Using sex, seduction, and manipulation (guilt/shame) to “hook” or hold on to a partner
Using sex or romantic intensity to tolerate difficult experiences or emotions
Missing out on important family, career, or social experiences to search for a romantic or sexual relationship
Using anonymous sex, porn, or compulsive masturbation to avoid “needing” someone, thereby avoiding all relationships
Finding it difficult or impossible to leave unhealthy or abusive relationships despite repeated promises to oneself or others to do so
Repeatedly returning to previously unmanageable or painful relationships despite promises to oneself or others to not do so
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I had a reading with Mondez Durden on bitwine that really opened my eyes about myself and how I function. The reading was mostly about my POI and where things are between us. He used the term, love-advoidant to describe my POI. After the reading I decided to look up what the phrase means, and in the process stumbled across the phrase love addict. Which I dont think I'd heard before really, but I started reading more into it and it really resonated with me. I listed the symptoms below, and most of them describe me very well. I really think that I am addicted to love and I've been struggling with psychic readings because of it. I'd really like to leave readings behind, and focus on fixing this issue. I put all of this up because maybe some of you might be struggling with the same issue and could possibly relate. Needless to say, the reading, which didnt really feel like a reading, with Mondez was really helpful. I really want to focus on fixing myself and getting help. I've been on antidepressants for a while, and I'm not in the same space I was, but I'm definitely not in the space where I need to be. And if any of you are in the same space and can relate, maybe it might spur you into getting the help you might need.
I've tried everything I could to rid myself of the psychic readings, as I've been reading for more than a 10 decade with psychics. But nothing has helped. Now that I understand the problem, I can work towards fixing it.
https://www.projectknow.com/research/love-addiction/
https://www.loveaddictiontreatment.com/loveaddiction/
Mistaking intense sexual experiences and new romantic excitement for love
Constantly craving and searching for a romantic relationship
When in a relationship, being desperate to please and fearful of the other’s unhappiness
When not in a relationship, feeling desperate and alone
Inability to maintain an intimate relationship once the newness and excitement have worn off
Finding it unbearable or emotionally difficult to be alone
When not in a relationship, compulsively using sex and fantasy to fill the loneliness
Choosing partners who are emotionally unavailable and/or verbally or physically abusive
Choosing partners who demand a great deal of attention and caretaking but who do not meet, or even try to meet, your emotional or physical needs
Participating in activities that don’t interest you or go against your personal values in order to keep or please a partner
Giving up important interests, beliefs, or friendships to maximize time in the relationship or to please a romantic partner
Using sex, seduction, and manipulation (guilt/shame) to “hook” or hold on to a partner
Using sex or romantic intensity to tolerate difficult experiences or emotions
Missing out on important family, career, or social experiences to search for a romantic or sexual relationship
Using anonymous sex, porn, or compulsive masturbation to avoid “needing” someone, thereby avoiding all relationships
Finding it difficult or impossible to leave unhealthy or abusive relationships despite repeated promises to oneself or others to do so
Repeatedly returning to previously unmanageable or painful relationships despite promises to oneself or others to not do so
Interesting post. I like Mondez Durden and I agree, his "reading" doesn't feel like a reading. I find his readings therapeutic because he gets into the crux of the situation and helps explain why someone is behaving a certain way. He told me that my ex will not reach out and apologize. He was accurate. He is a lot like Lady P but more detailed.
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Sigh... I am love addict. I have mentioned this term before and actually it was mentioned to me on another forum trying to quit psychics.
There is SLAA (sex and addicts anonymous)
Pía Melody books plus her website are out there for help... but it’s not concept even some therapist yet are aware of much like psychic addiction.
Ugh... yep... love addict here.
Ah! I can see that, just by how little information is out there about the subject. I really think its a compulsion, based on what I've read today. I saw Pia Mellody's book, I'm about to pick it up after work today hopefully. Im a big time love addict and it sucks! But I'd never heard the term before until after my session with Mondez! So happy I talked to him and that he doesnt make predictions. I'm over them at this point! I want to say that is the last reading I'll ever have and actually mean it.
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I'm probably a bit of a love addict myself. But I mean feelings of craving physical intimacy, a partner, etc. are normal to have, especially for someone as young as I am. Definitely an interesting post. After all, 95% of people are calling for love/relationship predictions. The question is, are you needy, or just being human?