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Metaphysical, Spiritual and Psychic Discussions => Keen.com => Topic started by: Rediska on March 04, 2017, 03:05:19 AM
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In all honestly despite the psychics saying he or she will? This is where we use our own intuition. I don't think my poi will re-connect of if he does it could be months or years-who knows. 50/50. I don't want to sound pessimistic but the reason being is that very few psychics read our situation correctly-maybe 1 or 2%. But that's because I gave them more info. They should've figured it out without input from me. The reasons for him re-connecting were so bogus that I know at the top of my head it won't happen. I told one that we hadn't spoken in 7 months and she said, "April 7th he will re-connect. Just to talk." Uh, no. No man doesn't ignore you for that long and then call "just to talk." Lol! It's usually because the man wants something-sex, companionship, rebound, etc. Another said: "He will contact you in April/May/June. He's going to ask you to be his mistress." Really?! Lady P and Jeremiah from CP.com read him the best but when it came to predictions/outcomes I stopped taking them seriously. But they were the only ones to nail him. Those two are good for clarity and insights-but not psychic predictions. O Valley was good. The most realistic was Keisha. I hope her numbers transpire.
She was the only one to say, "the person he is with is part of the problem but a lot of it is choice as well and I think this has a lot to do with the distance. He is making a choice." Ding, ding, ding! This is exactly the reason why as well IMO.
Judi's Inner Light-pretty realistic on his end. He never promised anything in that reading. Suecreate is good for channeling energy and personality insights but I think Judi can really channel words.
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There were many times I believed he wouldn't come back. After so many said he would and gave a time frame and it didn't happen, yes I started to doubt. This led to me finally where I am now, completely let go. I'm not calling anymore, I'm not thinking about him as much and just moving on. But heres the funny thing. Now that I've completely let go, I really feel he will be back...and soon. But if he doesn't, I know someone better will be coming. I don't care if he comes back or not at this point. If he does, I'm not sure I'll take him. He's the ass for treating me poorly, not even being a friend, seeing someone else and not appreciating the amazingness that I am. So why would I accept him back? I think the key is to truly let it go. Stop calling and staying attached. We all deserve better
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Great post ladies ..& gents are welcome too..My POI & I met at work didn't date till march -April 2016.&he got cold feet &lets just say dumped me..Now we work together in the biggest hospital here but still ran into each other..The hurt when I saw him I would run and cry in the bathroom meanwhile he appears to be going with his life happy flirting with other women..my heart was broken so badly I had to get another job that I start in Monday so I could move on by not seeing him..So suddenly out of the blue he text me last week.This man is very stubborn,fixed in his ways..Do I want him back?HELL EFFIN NO..no no no..why?
What man makes someone wait for a whole year??what happens if we have a true fight and argument he won't talk to me for two years?will he keep dumping me ..It also helps some that I run into him awhile back and he has added ALOT of weight and just downright looks miserable.it took me a while but am getting past him I never ever thought I would..
I had to delete him off fb any social media & even had to get a job which worked out well Cz I got a major pay raise
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Good for you for moving on
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Good for you for moving on
Thanks I honestly never thought I ever would looking back at those few months..the cancer in me was soo hurt but when we are done we are DONE ..no looking back..even if he took his heart outback of his chest for me I would take it and throw it in the trash lol ;D
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Thanks I honestly never thought I ever would looking back at those few months..the cancer in me was soo hurt but when we are done we are DONE ..no looking back..even if he took his heart outback of his chest for me I would take it and throw it in the trash lol ;D
makes me happy to read that :) I've been there, when I'm done I'm beyond done. The person is dead to me.
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Good for you for moving on
Best story ever. It actually lifted me because I'm where you were and I too work with him.
I'm SO happy for you.
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Good for you for moving on
Best story ever. It actually lifted me because I'm where you were and I too work with him.
I'm SO happy for you.
Thanks I am glad to inspire others..you can do it too.if you want to..So the good news is (based of some psychic predictions)with the new job I will have many admirers and get asked out on many dates.Yet to be seen and even though it doesn't happen I am content with more money and being happy and secure..The best is yet to come.
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makes me happy to read that :) I've been there, when I'm done I'm beyond done. The person is dead to me.
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Stargazer- how do you forget about someone and make them dead? That is what I need to do. I rather spend my money learning how to do that than hanging on to predictions that don't happen.
I guess we have to get rid of the emotion? Is that right?
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Stargazer- how do you forget about someone and make them dead? That is what I need to do. I rather spend my money learning how to do that than hanging on to predictions that don't happen.
I guess we have to get rid of the emotion? Is that right?
PM'd you. I wish it were as simple as getting rid of the emotion. That's the hardest part
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There were many times I believed he wouldn't come back. After so many said he would and gave a time frame and it didn't happen, yes I started to doubt. This led to me finally where I am now, completely let go. I'm not calling anymore, I'm not thinking about him as much and just moving on. But heres the funny thing. Now that I've completely let go, I really feel he will be back...and soon. But if he doesn't, I know someone better will be coming. I don't care if he comes back or not at this point. If he does, I'm not sure I'll take him. He's the ass for treating me poorly, not even being a friend, seeing someone else and not appreciating the amazingness that I am. So why would I accept him back? I think the key is to truly let it go. Stop calling and staying attached. We all deserve better
Although my timeframes have not come yet..most of them are predicted to be in April..but I can relate to what you say WORD BY WORD.. I think in the stages of grief/loss, I have reached a point where I don't care. I remember how paranoid I used to be- always wondering if he is dating someone, kinda stalking his social media, and all other good stuff ..but now I don't give a rat's ass!
Do I still have feelings for him? Yes, I do. I do get a little sad when I think about all the good times, but now I just wish him well and have let him go.. because somewhere inside I have this feeling that something amazing is on it's way for me and I deserve much better..and if Universe/God/Destiny or whatever thinks that he is not good for me then that must be for good.. and to be able to think this and be at this place is a HUGE success for me from last year, when I would just run to restrooms to cry if I saw him or just crawl into bed and think about him for hours..ughhh...now when I think about him, there is almost no pain and it feels so good!
I am so glad that I have started loving myself enough to realize that he treated me like crap and I don't give a damn for his attitude now..as opposed to before when I would go running on his one text or call..
Yay to all of us who got to a point of IDGAF and/or are in the process of getting there!
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Basically - I am in a bit of a different situation here, lol - but I'm loving this support system on this thread!
My ex and I have been broken up for about 4 months now, but when we broke up, it was for reasons of timing and needing to be on our own for a little. It was never about the love we shared for one another. This is kind of why I started getting more readings - b/c I just cannot see how the story can be over between us when nothing toxic or bad happened. My POI just started reaching out again after the time apart, and I DO feel confident she will return. However, I only started seeing results once I detached from the outcome. I trusted my confidence and my intuition and I focused more on myself. I became very in touch with the spiritual side of things as corny as that sounds - but I began to have a relationship with the Universe and watching it deliver small things to me day in and day out, which made me confident that things will be okay. All break ups are different, of course. In my situation, it's pretty typical of a long term couple to take time apart while still being in love, however - there are no guarantees in life. My predictions from trusted advisors say she will return and commit, but its very important still to take things 1 day at a time because attaching to much to an outcome and obsessing over it shows the universe you are not ready to receive!
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There were times when I honestly thought he wouldn't, and so far... our story keeps continuing. Just last week we probably had the biggest heart to heart we've had in ...a year? a year and a half? and he actually said he's ready to take things forward among a bunch of other stuff I'm still not really entirely sure I believe really happened, even though I partook in the conversation lol. It hasn't happened yet, it's still "talk" and he has "mancaved" since then, so who knows (eye roll).
But the kicker? The reason this heart to heart happened was because I got to a point where I gave no more fks. I just wanted a conclusion, even if it was that we were to be friends and nothing more. I was seriously okay with that but wanted my heart to be free so I could really give someone else a proper chance. I even told him that, that unless I know it's over between us for sure I can't properly give someone else a chance. So, all in all, I had "let go" and was ready for any outcome. And that's when it all started to come rushing in.
Now, I was the one who initiated this conversation. Mainly because something my therapist stuck with me - if you are meant to be together, nothing you say/do or don't say/don't do will change that.
not that I hadn't heard it before, but it was the first time I actually felt ready to face any outcome and push that conversation. And I approached it not by trying to get something out of him (e.g. commitment) but to get something for me (e.g. emotional freedom from our..thing-no matter what that meant)
Did any psychics predict this conversation? Not like this exactly. A few did actually say we'd talk about all the past things and go over all the things I ever had questions about, and that's exactly what happened, but most thought it would be a slow build up not a pop all at once type deal. I mostly talk to empaths, and they all nailed (and had been nailing) his feelings and intentions even though on the surface it looked completely opposite.
I tell you this to give you all hope, that even if the situation seems the opposite of what you're hearing it may not be. And yes, sometimes people do act on their emotions. But your job is really to be as happy as you can with your life the way it is now, and really to get your self confidence and worth to a place where you are ready to sacrifice the person who means the most to you if they are not capable of giving what you want, need and deserve.
This doesn't mean we got married or anything like that (yet!) ... but it looks like it us being in a legitimate relationship is actual a real possibility in the future. I haven't been able to say that in a very long time. And it may not happen, but if it doesn't I know I will be more than okay.
But here is the key I think that nobody has actually touched on in all of our conversations on this board. Perhaps the true key to manifesting the predictions we hear...perhaps the missing ingredient is really working on ourselves. Some kind of internal change or changes that have to occur before said prediction occurs. But like when you get a "hint" in a video game, it's not a complete walkthrough when we get a prediction just a peep of what's available (if X Y and Z also happen). The guy (or girl!) is always going to do what he or she is going to do. Live, grow, learn, change in whatever way is necessary to bring about them wanting to reconcile. But if we focus on reconciling, and we aren't living how we otherwise would - maybe THAT is what pushes things out, or prevents them from happening.
Maybe in that way - us focusing/gripping on to predictions actually causes us to slow down or avoid our own self growth, healing, etc, or whatever else that is entirely necessary before that reconciliation can occur - which is WHY it often happens when people give the "IDGAF" mode.
So perhaps getting readings does change the future, but only if you hold on to it and refuse to do your own natural inner work and moving on/healing that you would have otherwise done if you didn't get a reading.
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There were times when I honestly thought he wouldn't, and so far... our story keeps continuing. Just last week we probably had the biggest heart to heart we've had in ...a year? a year and a half? and he actually said he's ready to take things forward among a bunch of other stuff I'm still not really entirely sure I believe really happened, even though I partook in the conversation lol. It hasn't happened yet, it's still "talk" and he has "mancaved" since then, so who knows (eye roll).
Just wanted to say thank you for your post!
Think it finally gave me the push I needed to contact my POI
I was just so sick of waiting on all these contact predictions when I strongly felt as if I needed some answers to where we were and what was going on seeing as he disappeared for an entire month after telling me that he'd "speak very soon" with me.
And I'm so glad that I did. I called him up after a date I went on tonight (lol) and we chatted for over 2 hours.
While nothings changed - I did get some more answers and after waiting so long to hear it he finally said "I love you" to me.
What was his reason for disappearing?
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if it's more than two weeks, assume he's not coming back. only a handful of readers said nope not happening about a few relationships i asked about. the rest gave me a fairy tale.
if it's the right guy, it should be easy and we shouldn't be left guessing is my assertion. i still don't mind being deceived for a few days if i'm in a bad moment in life, though. but when i snap out of it, i hate being lied to and hate that readers give false hope.
exceptions:
he lost his job
he just started a job
a family member, including a dog died
he has a work or school deadline
he just got a divorce
other than that, no guy with his sh*t together is going to give up something very good and leave it hanging for weeks on end.
if he comes back, great, but if he leaves... time to move on.
-learned the hard way (and yes, every guy was "the one" according to some readers... not)
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There were times when I honestly thought he wouldn't, and so far... our story keeps continuing. Just last week we probably had the biggest heart to heart we've had in ...a year? a year and a half? and he actually said he's ready to take things forward among a bunch of other stuff I'm still not really entirely sure I believe really happened, even though I partook in the conversation lol. It hasn't happened yet, it's still "talk" and he has "mancaved" since then, so who knows (eye roll).
Just wanted to say thank you for your post!
Think it finally gave me the push I needed to contact my POI
I was just so sick of waiting on all these contact predictions when I strongly felt as if I needed some answers to where we were and what was going on seeing as he disappeared for an entire month after telling me that he'd "speak very soon" with me.
And I'm so glad that I did. I called him up after a date I went on tonight (lol) and we chatted for over 2 hours.
While nothings changed - I did get some more answers and after waiting so long to hear it he finally said "I love you" to me.
What was his reason for disappearing?
That he at first assumed that I would know that he needed more space/time to sort his mess out
But then that he saw my profile on dating apps combined with my social media posts he thought that I was just doing super fine and moving forward fast and didn't want to hear from him
Please tell me that some of these readers knew what the issues were regarding him when you called? did any of them get it right.
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if it's more than two weeks, assume he's not coming back. only a handful of readers said nope not happening about a few relationships i asked about. the rest gave me a fairy tale.
if it's the right guy, it should be easy and we shouldn't be left guessing is my assertion. i still don't mind being deceived for a few days if i'm in a bad moment in life, though. but when i snap out of it, i hate being lied to and hate that readers give false hope.
exceptions:
he lost his job
he just started a job
a family member, including a dog died
he has a work or school deadline
he just got a divorce
other than that, no guy with his sh*t together is going to give up something very good and leave it hanging for weeks on end.
if he comes back, great, but if he leaves... time to move on.
-learned the hard way (and yes, every guy was "the one" according to some readers... not)
I definitely agree with this. But I have also had men who kept me in "limbo" intentionally by "disappearing." They do this so they don't fully close the door on you "just in case." I found out its because in reality they are emotionally unavailable.
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I agree with the above comment. If you're not hearing from a guy for more than a week there's something wrong. A simple hello isn't that hard to send no matter what's going on unless it's something serious.
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if it's more than two weeks, assume he's not coming back. only a handful of readers said nope not happening about a few relationships i asked about. the rest gave me a fairy tale.
if it's the right guy, it should be easy and we shouldn't be left guessing is my assertion. i still don't mind being deceived for a few days if i'm in a bad moment in life, though. but when i snap out of it, i hate being lied to and hate that readers give false hope.
exceptions:
he lost his job
he just started a job
a family member, including a dog died
he has a work or school deadline
he just got a divorce
other than that, no guy with his sh*t together is going to give up something very good and leave it hanging for weeks on end.
if he comes back, great, but if he leaves... time to move on.
-learned the hard way (and yes, every guy was "the one" according to some readers... not)
Although I do agree, there are exceptions. One guy I went out with for 1 month until he told me there was someone else he had met around the same time as me. He chose her. A month isn't a long time at all to get attached, but I could not get this guy out of my heart. I started calling psychics and they said he would be back. It was 9 months later he came back. So it does happen. But I think detaching and trying to move on helps.
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if it's more than two weeks, assume he's not coming back. only a handful of readers said nope not happening about a few relationships i asked about. the rest gave me a fairy tale.
if it's the right guy, it should be easy and we shouldn't be left guessing is my assertion. i still don't mind being deceived for a few days if i'm in a bad moment in life, though. but when i snap out of it, i hate being lied to and hate that readers give false hope.
exceptions:
he lost his job
he just started a job
a family member, including a dog died
he has a work or school deadline
he just got a divorce
other than that, no guy with his sh*t together is going to give up something very good and leave it hanging for weeks on end.
if he comes back, great, but if he leaves... time to move on.
-learned the hard way (and yes, every guy was "the one" according to some readers... not)
Although I do agree, there are exceptions. One guy I went out with for 1 month until he told me there was someone else he had met around the same time as me. He chose her. A month isn't a long time at all to get attached, but I could not get this guy out of my heart. I started calling psychics and they said he would be back. It was 9 months later he came back. So it does happen. But I think detaching and trying to move on helps.
That gives me hope Baypark :) what made him come back to you is that "what if?" that was on the back of mind. And assuming he was no longer with the other woman.
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if it's more than two weeks, assume he's not coming back. only a handful of readers said nope not happening about a few relationships i asked about. the rest gave me a fairy tale.
if it's the right guy, it should be easy and we shouldn't be left guessing is my assertion. i still don't mind being deceived for a few days if i'm in a bad moment in life, though. but when i snap out of it, i hate being lied to and hate that readers give false hope.
exceptions:
he lost his job
he just started a job
a family member, including a dog died
he has a work or school deadline
he just got a divorce
other than that, no guy with his sh*t together is going to give up something very good and leave it hanging for weeks on end.
if he comes back, great, but if he leaves... time to move on.
-learned the hard way (and yes, every guy was "the one" according to some readers... not)
Although I do agree, there are exceptions. One guy I went out with for 1 month until he told me there was someone else he had met around the same time as me. He chose her. A month isn't a long time at all to get attached, but I could not get this guy out of my heart. I started calling psychics and they said he would be back. It was 9 months later he came back. So it does happen. But I think detaching and trying to move on helps.
That gives me hope Baypark :) what made him come back to you is that "what if?" that was on the back of mind. And assuming he was no longer with the other woman.
The truth is I always felt 2nd best, 2nd choice and I loved him far more than he loved me. We ended up being together for 2 years and he was the one that ruined me emotionlly, spiritually and financially. So maybe there is something to that Idea that if someone leaves your life, there's a reason and they don't need to come back.
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if it's more than two weeks, assume he's not coming back. only a handful of readers said nope not happening about a few relationships i asked about. the rest gave me a fairy tale.
if it's the right guy, it should be easy and we shouldn't be left guessing is my assertion. i still don't mind being deceived for a few days if i'm in a bad moment in life, though. but when i snap out of it, i hate being lied to and hate that readers give false hope.
exceptions:
he lost his job
he just started a job
a family member, including a dog died
he has a work or school deadline
he just got a divorce
other than that, no guy with his sh*t together is going to give up something very good and leave it hanging for weeks on end.
if he comes back, great, but if he leaves... time to move on.
-learned the hard way (and yes, every guy was "the one" according to some readers... not)
Although I do agree, there are exceptions. One guy I went out with for 1 month until he told me there was someone else he had met around the same time as me. He chose her. A month isn't a long time at all to get attached, but I could not get this guy out of my heart. I started calling psychics and they said he would be back. It was 9 months later he came back. So it does happen. But I think detaching and trying to move on helps.
That gives me hope Baypark :) what made him come back to you is that "what if?" that was on the back of mind. And assuming he was no longer with the other woman.
The truth is I always felt 2nd best, 2nd choice and I loved him far more than he loved me. We ended up being together for 2 years and he was the one that ruined me emotionlly, spiritually and financially. So maybe there is something to that Idea that if someone leaves your life, there's a reason and they don't need to come back.
Okay, screw him.
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if it's more than two weeks, assume he's not coming back. only a handful of readers said nope not happening about a few relationships i asked about. the rest gave me a fairy tale.
if it's the right guy, it should be easy and we shouldn't be left guessing is my assertion. i still don't mind being deceived for a few days if i'm in a bad moment in life, though. but when i snap out of it, i hate being lied to and hate that readers give false hope.
exceptions:
he lost his job
he just started a job
a family member, including a dog died
he has a work or school deadline
he just got a divorce
other than that, no guy with his sh*t together is going to give up something very good and leave it hanging for weeks on end.
if he comes back, great, but if he leaves... time to move on.
-learned the hard way (and yes, every guy was "the one" according to some readers... not)
Although I do agree, there are exceptions. One guy I went out with for 1 month until he told me there was someone else he had met around the same time as me. He chose her. A month isn't a long time at all to get attached, but I could not get this guy out of my heart. I started calling psychics and they said he would be back. It was 9 months later he came back. So it does happen. But I think detaching and trying to move on helps.
That gives me hope Baypark :) what made him come back to you is that "what if?" that was on the back of mind. And assuming he was no longer with the other woman.
The truth is I always felt 2nd best, 2nd choice and I loved him far more than he loved me. We ended up being together for 2 years and he was the one that ruined me emotionlly, spiritually and financially. So maybe there is something to that Idea that if someone leaves your life, there's a reason and they don't need to come back.
Okay, screw him.
I think we all deserve someone who puts a first, doesn't bail when things get tough or because they're not ready or emotionally unavailable. But we get sucked in with the wrong men. Ugh
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I agree. However, we also have to do some major soul searching work and ask ourselves why we are into crappy men in the first place and what does this say about our own characters. Is it desperation? a "challenge?" etc? I tend to go for ones who are emotionally unavailable because I myself am this way. Then I get attached...
Part of the reason why I am clinging on to this person is because he told me verbally there was a possibility he would call me once he moved to another state. He basically forced me into limbo. I should've hung up on him right then and there but I didn't and here I am..almost 7 months later wondering.I have ZERO control unlike most of the posters here. By the way, my situation is abnormally complicated because there is another person involved. He would basically at this point give everything up just to be with me-hence why he told me he may touch base with me. I have to appreciate his honesty but at the same time I loath it as well. That's why when O Vally said, "okay, he likes you but you're basically on the backburner. Are you in a relationship? I am not sensing you're in one at all with him." Jackpot.
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I agree. However, we also have to do some major soul searching work and ask ourselves why we are into crappy men in the first place and what does this say about our own characters. Is it desperation? a "challenge?" etc? I tend to go for ones who are emotionally unavailable because I myself am this way. Then I get attached...
Part of the reason why I am clinging on to this person is because he told me verbally there was a possibility he would call me once he moved to another state. He basically forced me into limbo. I should've hung up on him right then and there but I didn't and here I am..almost 7 months later wondering.I have ZERO control unlike most of the posters here. By the way, my situation is abnormally complicated because there is another person involved. He would basically at this point give everything up just to be with me-hence why he told me he may touch base with me. I have to appreciate his honesty but at the same time I loath it as well. That's why when O Vally said, "okay, he likes you but you're basically on the backburner. Are you in a relationship? I am not sensing you're in one at all with him." Jackpot.
WOWWWWWW - all i have to say. i completely agree. it took me a long time to realize why i attract the men i attract. It's definitely a mix between a challenge and because i myself am emotionally unavailable. i have a deep fear of commitment and will never be the first to admit my feelings i don't care what how much i'm in love with the person. We attract mirrors more than we think - sometimes we just don't like what stares back at us.
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if it's more than two weeks, assume he's not coming back. only a handful of readers said nope not happening about a few relationships i asked about. the rest gave me a fairy tale.
if it's the right guy, it should be easy and we shouldn't be left guessing is my assertion. i still don't mind being deceived for a few days if i'm in a bad moment in life, though. but when i snap out of it, i hate being lied to and hate that readers give false hope.
exceptions:
he lost his job
he just started a job
a family member, including a dog died
he has a work or school deadline
he just got a divorce
other than that, no guy with his sh*t together is going to give up something very good and leave it hanging for weeks on end.
if he comes back, great, but if he leaves... time to move on.
-learned the hard way (and yes, every guy was "the one" according to some readers... not)
I definitely agree with this. But I have also had men who kept me in "limbo" intentionally by "disappearing." They do this so they don't fully close the door on you "just in case." I found out its because in reality they are emotionally unavailable.
yes, and that is not the man you want. a man who does this is weak and furthermore doesn't really want you (not "you" you, but in general). we women need to rule this men out as not quality men (or at least not ready and not worth our time).
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Part of the reason why I am clinging on to this person is because he told me verbally there was a possibility he would call me once he moved to another state. He basically forced me into limbo. I should've hung up on him right then and there but I didn't and here I am..almost 7 months later wondering.
If a man tells me there is a possibility he would call me... I would say "ohhhhh great! great catching up" and dump his arse without telling him I've done so (just stop responding and certainly never contact him again). He either comes running back realizing what a dumba$$ he's been or i've saved myself a load of crap. This type of behavior is a favor. Thank you for showing me who you are and early on so I don't have to waste more time on you.
What a man says matters not. What he does speaks volumes.
-Learned again the hard way (and many $$ later)
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I read this posts and I just feel sad because women shouldn't have to chase ,communicate first simply put like the posts here if he wants you he will come after you ..very few of us very few will end up with happily ever after with the men we talk to about psychics because men who are into us it's simple we know..Looking back at my notes I have almost never asked about a man who I know is interested in me ..My mother told me if you have to question a mans love devotion for you then it probably isn't there !The money we spend on psychics would be spent with a shrink to help someone figure out why they date a certain type or why we are emotionally unavailable..I hate to say this we console each other say he isn't shit etc but given another woman your so called pain is the perfect man so he isn't the right one for you ..granted not everyone meets a man dates commit engaged wedded bliss this is the norm not the exception .Ladies lets see the situation as it is .
Blessings
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if it's more than two weeks, assume he's not coming back. only a handful of readers said nope not happening about a few relationships i asked about. the rest gave me a fairy tale.
if it's the right guy, it should be easy and we shouldn't be left guessing is my assertion. i still don't mind being deceived for a few days if i'm in a bad moment in life, though. but when i snap out of it, i hate being lied to and hate that readers give false hope.
exceptions:
he lost his job
he just started a job
a family member, including a dog died
he has a work or school deadline
he just got a divorce
other than that, no guy with his sh*t together is going to give up something very good and leave it hanging for weeks on end.
if he comes back, great, but if he leaves... time to move on.
-learned the hard way (and yes, every guy was "the one" according to some readers... not)
I definitely agree with this. But I have also had men who kept me in "limbo" intentionally by "disappearing." They do this so they don't fully close the door on you "just in case." I found out its because in reality they are emotionally unavailable.
Lol it means they aren't into you ..
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That's exactly what it means Transplant!! It's only our ego that says otherwise and keeps us hoping and waiting.
People - think of every person in your life that is in a long term, successful relationship ! Besides normal disagreements and maybe a
break up that lasts a few days, you'll notice that their man doesn't disappear. They don't stop calling or stop wanting to be around their
POI. To argue otherwise is just keeping yourself in a safe bubble, which will also keep you from moving on, letting go and living your life.
A MAN IN LOVE DOES NOT DISAPPEAR! It's a painful, brutal truth. Feel the pain - save your money - and move on knowing that he lost the best thing he'll ever know :)
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That's exactly what it means Transplant!! It's only our ego that says otherwise and keeps us hoping and waiting.
People - think of every person in your life that is in a long term, successful relationship ! Besides normal disagreements and maybe a
break up that lasts a few days, you'll notice that their man doesn't disappear. They don't stop calling or stop wanting to be around their
POI. To argue otherwise is just keeping yourself in a safe bubble, which will also keep you from moving on, letting go and living your life.
A MAN IN LOVE DOES NOT DISAPPEAR! It's a painful, brutal truth. Feel the pain - save your money - and move on knowing that he lost the best thing he'll ever know :)
Ding ding ding !!this here ^^^^
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That's the way some people learn things...the hard way. Sometimes it's the only thing that sticks and sometimes they never learn. You can't beat a dead horse because you aren't killing it even more - it's gone. It's sad, but you really can't change someone's genetic makeup, although the posts are on point.
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There were times when I honestly thought he wouldn't, and so far... our story keeps continuing. Just last week we probably had the biggest heart to heart we've had in ...a year? a year and a half? and he actually said he's ready to take things forward among a bunch of other stuff I'm still not really entirely sure I believe really happened, even though I partook in the conversation lol. It hasn't happened yet, it's still "talk" and he has "mancaved" since then, so who knows (eye roll).
Just wanted to say thank you for your post!
Think it finally gave me the push I needed to contact my POI
I was just so sick of waiting on all these contact predictions when I strongly felt as if I needed some answers to where we were and what was going on seeing as he disappeared for an entire month after telling me that he'd "speak very soon" with me.
And I'm so glad that I did. I called him up after a date I went on tonight (lol) and we chatted for over 2 hours.
While nothings changed - I did get some more answers and after waiting so long to hear it he finally said "I love you" to me.
Techno- this is amazing :) I love that you took your power back -- have to catch up on this thread BUT it showed you you DO have power in your own life :) No matter what the outcome - being stuck is the worst!
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Have to say I STILL don't think it's as black and white as some people put here.
if the man..lives in your area, you haven't known him long, don't have much of a history/nothing "serious" ish happened - then if he disappears, sure, it means he wasn't that into you/into the idea of a relationship/was more into someone else, whatever. And sometimes the sign that he comes back IS the proof he is in love, or maybe was more in love than he realized. I've had guys come back 3 months, 6 months, 2 years, and now 4 years later - (not talking about the one who i love) - and those guys weren't "in love" but they were "in like" enough to come back when they grew up some.
Trust in your connection if you had one. and YOU are the best judge of that. :)
I think a LOT of times men who are in more serious situations "disappear" because - honestly - they don't have the natural communication skills/words to explain what they are feeling/thinking in any way that makes "sense" enough for them to tell us that. They also instinctively know we will likely question and try to talk them out of it and will be upset and so all that together the easier thing is to avoid. And it's not always a definitive thing, from what I've seen it's more often because they don't know what they want to do, it's not a "no" but it's not a "yes" and instead of lead someone on they'd rather figure stuff out on their own and come back/hope it works out once that's all taken care of.
Is that right? No. My guy even said that. He's not saying what he did is right, but he did offer the best explanation he could. did he have concerns about us? Yes. So it's not like it was for absolutely no reason. But I also didn't know what the concerns were, and he didn't have the communication skills to tell me.
So I really think the best or most accurate "conclusion" would be - if a guy disappears for no reason you can guess it, it's because he lacks communication skills that would allow him another way of telling you he needs space. And no, they can't tell you for how long. They like you, but can't go forward at that time for whatever reason, and don't want to officially break it off because they know that you ARE someone they could see themselves with.
AND, when they don't hear from us, they also assume we didn't care much anyway. I've had more than one guy say that to me in the past.
Guys are dense, and not as good at picking up at nuance as we are in communication and sensing feelings and otherwise. Just thinking about flirting, half the time they don't realize you're flirting unless you're very direct!
BUT let's not brush over the most important part of this thread - in BOTH of our cases the impetus for moving things forward or at least opening the communication channel was on OUR sides, taking power in our own lives and saying screw the outcome at least I can try. EVEN when well-meaning readers said don't contact or wait for him, etc.
I WILL say it's true what they say, a LOT of a mans sense of worthiness comes from job/career, and until that piece is in place or if he doesn't know where his future is going, a good man won't really feel like he can position a woman there with him. so if you know there's something around that area going on in his life, you can guess - even if it won't make sense to us as women - because to us relationships are what define us - that you are a distant second, maybe even third.
So you could read this and say a smart woman wouldn't want a man like that anyway - well, sure. But falling in love or pining after someone is not a logical thing, it's an emotional thing. And if we could say "I only want to date someone with X emotional intelligence" -- how would you even find that out, before it's "too late"? Rhetorical question.
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I see there are lots of excuses in place to give the man a helping hand. I can assure you if this were his job we were discussing, he'd pull some communication out of his ass so fast, it'd stink. Why is the woman always expected to suffer and wait to see what the man figures out? This just isn't logic IMO. Guys don't just flake out on their male buddies, their families...they have enough words in their brains to say this or that to them, but the woman?? I'm not buying it.
But's it's very true, everyone has their own opinions.
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I see there are lots of excuses in place to give the man a helping hand. I can assure you if this were his job we were discussing, he'd pull some communication out of his ass so fast, it'd stink. Why is the woman always expected to suffer and wait to see what the man figures out? This just isn't logic IMO. Guys don't just flake out on their male buddies, their families...they have enough words in their brains to say this or that to them, but the woman?? I'm not buying it.
But's it's very true, everyone has their own opinions.
I agree with this sentiment. Relationships can be complicated, but some things should be pretty straight forward when it comes to male and female relationships. I don't believe that men are just humungous cave man that don't know what to think, say, feel.
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Yeah to just leave another person in their dust, without any explanation means they were never thinking about you that much to begin with. They would give more explanation to their dogs when they drop them off at the kennel.
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I see there are lots of excuses in place to give the man a helping hand. I can assure you if this were his job we were discussing, he'd pull some communication out of his ass so fast, it'd stink. Why is the woman always expected to suffer and wait to see what the man figures out? This just isn't logic IMO. Guys don't just flake out on their male buddies, their families...they have enough words in their brains to say this or that to them, but the woman?? I'm not buying it.
But's it's very true, everyone has their own opinions.
THANKYOU!!! You said it..post above has great points but still making excuses..women sometimes give each other bad advice lol like cookie telling me to contact the man first-girl bye..I have had a man have no phone and STILL BORROW HIS homies phone so he could talk to me anything else is an excuse..he ISNOT into you ..Yes I agree a most men will not want to start anything if their finances are not in order but every other thing is an excuse.
Why do men come back days months afterwards ?cz they know you will let them in..like a doormat they step in and out as they please cz the door is left open..There's always an exception but not for most..
I read this book:WHY MEN LOVE BITCHES -yes I know the title is deceiving ..but it's a great funny book a lot of women should read be it single married dating
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Have to say I STILL don't think it's as black and white as some people put here.
if the man..lives in your area, you haven't known him long, don't have much of a history/nothing "serious" ish happened - then if he disappears, sure, it means he wasn't that into you/into the idea of a relationship/was more into someone else, whatever. And sometimes the sign that he comes back IS the proof he is in love, or maybe was more in love than he realized. I've had guys come back 3 months, 6 months, 2 years, and now 4 years later - (not talking about the one who i love) - and those guys weren't "in love" but they were "in like" enough to come back when they grew up some.
Trust in your connection if you had one. and YOU are the best judge of that. :)
I think a LOT of times men who are in more serious situations "disappear" because - honestly - they don't have the natural communication skills/words to explain what they are feeling/thinking in any way that makes "sense" enough for them to tell us that. They also instinctively know we will likely question and try to talk them out of it and will be upset and so all that together the easier thing is to avoid. And it's not always a definitive thing, from what I've seen it's more often because they don't know what they want to do, it's not a "no" but it's not a "yes" and instead of lead someone on they'd rather figure stuff out on their own and come back/hope it works out once that's all taken care of.
Is that right? No. My guy even said that. He's not saying what he did is right, but he did offer the best explanation he could. did he have concerns about us? Yes. So it's not like it was for absolutely no reason. But I also didn't know what the concerns were, and he didn't have the communication skills to tell me.
So I really think the best or most accurate "conclusion" would be - if a guy disappears for no reason you can guess it, it's because he lacks communication skills that would allow him another way of telling you he needs space. And no, they can't tell you for how long. They like you, but can't go forward at that time for whatever reason, and don't want to officially break it off because they know that you ARE someone they could see themselves with.
AND, when they don't hear from us, they also assume we didn't care much anyway. I've had more than one guy say that to me in the past.
Guys are dense, and not as good at picking up at nuance as we are in communication and sensing feelings and otherwise. Just thinking about flirting, half the time they don't realize you're flirting unless you're very direct!
BUT let's not brush over the most important part of this thread - in BOTH of our cases the impetus for moving things forward or at least opening the communication channel was on OUR sides, taking power in our own lives and saying screw the outcome at least I can try. EVEN when well-meaning readers said don't contact or wait for him, etc.
I WILL say it's true what they say, a LOT of a mans sense of worthiness comes from job/career, and until that piece is in place or if he doesn't know where his future is going, a good man won't really feel like he can position a woman there with him. so if you know there's something around that area going on in his life, you can guess - even if it won't make sense to us as women - because to us relationships are what define us - that you are a distant second, maybe even third.
So you could read this and say a smart woman wouldn't want a man like that anyway - well, sure. But falling in love or pining after someone is not a logical thing, it's an emotional thing. And if we could say "I only want to date someone with X emotional intelligence" -- how would you even find that out, before it's "too late"? Rhetorical question.
YES! This EXACTLY describes my situation! You are the only person who see's the other side of situations like these.
Guys, let me say something because I had my POI disappear and there were two reasons for it. First, when I called him out on it via phone call (after he was gone for several months) he was still very much into me. Second, he revealed the reason WHY there was distance and thus gave me the " but I may call you...." line. If you guys want more details I encourage you to PM me as it'll make more sense. There is someone else in the picture and that has a lot to do with it. And I ain't talking about no girlfriend...
In MY situation, it has nothing to do with "he's not that into you.." and it has nothing to do with me making excuses for him. He knows this himself and even he didn't give me BS excuses. He told me the raw truth thorough and thorough. I got lucky because I think some men tend to feed women with BS just to keep them hooked. I am honest with myself and have no problem revealing if I think someone doesn't like me or doesn't find me attractive, etc. The reasons why I am hesitant of him re-connecting with me is because this man would have to sacrifice his job position and family just to be with me. Oh, and move back to my state. However, going into it he knew this beforehand and still took the risk. Maybe I am insecure or have low self-esteem and despite him being honest and hinting that there could be a future with us, my skeptic side thinks it may be too good to be true despite the words coming out of his month.
So it isn't always so black and white like sunshineluv states. Everyone has different experiences and we have to try not to lump it into one generalized statement and make a blanket of assumptions. The POI in my case rather keep it in limbo for everything sunshineluv stated (that I edited in bold).
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Oh yeah - my primary person even said he was protecting himself, every time he blanked out on me. So he definitely wasn't thinking about me first. But not everyone is 100% emotionally healthy 100% of the their life.
But it's all decisions we make as far as what we will accept. This guy I have known longer than most marriages last, so I know his character. While he may be screwy in this area of his life right now, for the most part the reason I hung in there is because I have years and years of him being an amazing person and friend to me. And when things are good, they are amazing. Nobody ever truly replaced him, though I did try for ... a long time, before we got romantic the second time. So now, I'm at a place in my life where my dating life is kind of quiet, and I had him working out his "stuff" in the background with some really great romantic rendezvous in the middle, intermittently. there's probably been 3-4 other men I've gone on a handful of dates with since our romantic side picked back up, but, nobody who i wanted to spend more time with. I've been focusing a lot on my career and really just killing it there.
Do I consider myself a doormat? Hell to the no. Did I get back with any guy who came back as I mentioned in that post? Nope. I'd hear them out, maybe go out for a date but usually my feelings were gone and one date is as far as I'd let it go.
Do I think there is a risk of people "making excuses"? Sure. Do I feel I am? I ask myself that sometimes, but at the end of the day I am okay with how I'm handling this - and that's all that matters to me - since at the end of the day it's my life. I still try/tried to keep my options open AND keep him open as an option, and I am fine with that decision. Even though I know it would have to be someone kind of amazing to really make me close the door on him.
So, if his "cave" now lasts ..a while again, I just go right back to what I was doing before.
People aren't perfect. They make mistakes. They do the best they can at the time. And sometimes that "best" is pretty $hitty. Heck, if you look at the way best friends and family members treat each other at times you'd wonder why anyone stays in each other's lives. The answer? Because if there really is love there, then you always forgive. Because that is what love does. It isn't based on what a person does or doesn't do, it's based on the fact that you love that person, and if they are sorry you forgive them -- and do what you can with boundaries to protect yourself as much as you deem necessary.
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Have to say I STILL don't think it's as black and white as some people put here.
if the man..lives in your area, you haven't known him long, don't have much of a history/nothing "serious" ish happened - then if he disappears, sure, it means he wasn't that into you/into the idea of a relationship/was more into someone else, whatever. And sometimes the sign that he comes back IS the proof he is in love, or maybe was more in love than he realized. I've had guys come back 3 months, 6 months, 2 years, and now 4 years later - (not talking about the one who i love) - and those guys weren't "in love" but they were "in like" enough to come back when they grew up some.
Trust in your connection if you had one. and YOU are the best judge of that. :)
I think a LOT of times men who are in more serious situations "disappear" because - honestly - they don't have the natural communication skills/words to explain what they are feeling/thinking in any way that makes "sense" enough for them to tell us that. They also instinctively know we will likely question and try to talk them out of it and will be upset and so all that together the easier thing is to avoid. And it's not always a definitive thing, from what I've seen it's more often because they don't know what they want to do, it's not a "no" but it's not a "yes" and instead of lead someone on they'd rather figure stuff out on their own and come back/hope it works out once that's all taken care of.
Is that right? No. My guy even said that. He's not saying what he did is right, but he did offer the best explanation he could. did he have concerns about us? Yes. So it's not like it was for absolutely no reason. But I also didn't know what the concerns were, and he didn't have the communication skills to tell me.
So I really think the best or most accurate "conclusion" would be - if a guy disappears for no reason you can guess it, it's because he lacks communication skills that would allow him another way of telling you he needs space. And no, they can't tell you for how long. They like you, but can't go forward at that time for whatever reason, and don't want to officially break it off because they know that you ARE someone they could see themselves with.
AND, when they don't hear from us, they also assume we didn't care much anyway. I've had more than one guy say that to me in the past.
Guys are dense, and not as good at picking up at nuance as we are in communication and sensing feelings and otherwise. Just thinking about flirting, half the time they don't realize you're flirting unless you're very direct!
BUT let's not brush over the most important part of this thread - in BOTH of our cases the impetus for moving things forward or at least opening the communication channel was on OUR sides, taking power in our own lives and saying screw the outcome at least I can try. EVEN when well-meaning readers said don't contact or wait for him, etc.
I WILL say it's true what they say, a LOT of a mans sense of worthiness comes from job/career, and until that piece is in place or if he doesn't know where his future is going, a good man won't really feel like he can position a woman there with him. so if you know there's something around that area going on in his life, you can guess - even if it won't make sense to us as women - because to us relationships are what define us - that you are a distant second, maybe even third.
So you could read this and say a smart woman wouldn't want a man like that anyway - well, sure. But falling in love or pining after someone is not a logical thing, it's an emotional thing. And if we could say "I only want to date someone with X emotional intelligence" -- how would you even find that out, before it's "too late"? Rhetorical question.
YES! This EXACTLY describes my situation! You are the only person who see's the other side of situations like these.
Guys, let me say something because I had my POI disappear and there were two reasons for it. First, when I called him out on it via phone call (after he was gone for several months) he was still very much into me. Second, he revealed the reason WHY there was distance and thus gave me the " but I may call you...." line. If you guys want more details I encourage you to PM me as it'll make more sense. There is someone else in the picture and that has a lot to do with it. And I ain't talking about no girlfriend...
In MY situation, it has nothing to do with "he's not that into you.." and it has nothing to do with me making excuses for him. He knows this himself and even he didn't give me BS excuses. He told me the raw truth thorough and thorough. I got lucky because I think some men tend to feed women with BS just to keep them hooked. I am honest with myself and have no problem revealing if I think someone doesn't like me or doesn't find me attractive, etc. The reasons why I am hesitant of him re-connecting with me is because this man would have to sacrifice his job position and family just to be with me. Oh, and move back to my state. However, going into it he knew this beforehand and still took the risk. Maybe I am insecure or have low self-esteem and despite him being honest and hinting that there could be a future with us, my skeptic side thinks it may be too good to be true despite the words coming out of his month.
So it isn't always so black and white like sunshineluv states. Everyone has different experiences and we have to try not to lump it into one generalized statement and make a blanket of assumptions. The POI in my case rather keep it in limbo for everything sunshineluv stated (that I edited in bold).
Honestly, you're not making any sense. He keeps you in limbo because he has a job/family/circumstances (whatever....fill in the blank) that is at risk so he can't be with you and knowing this, feels it is ok to keep you waiting in limbo on an impossibility because he can see himself with you some day, out in the distance, some place in time?
Did this guy you're referring to ever come back and you're both now in a committed relationship with each other?
Perhaps it's best if I don't understand this scenario.
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Oh yeah - my primary person even said he was protecting himself, every time he blanked out on me. So he definitely wasn't thinking about me first. But not everyone is 100% emotionally healthy 100% of the their life.
But it's all decisions we make as far as what we will accept. This guy I have known longer than most marriages last, so I know his character. While he may be screwy in this area of his life right now, for the most part the reason I hung in there is because I have years and years of him being an amazing person and friend to me. And when things are good, they are amazing. Nobody ever truly replaced him, though I did try for ... a long time, before we got romantic the second time. So now, I'm at a place in my life where my dating life is kind of quiet, and I had him working out his "stuff" in the background with some really great romantic rendezvous in the middle, intermittently. there's probably been 3-4 other men I've gone on a handful of dates with since our romantic side picked back up, but, nobody who i wanted to spend more time with. I've been focusing a lot on my career and really just killing it there.
Do I consider myself a doormat? Hell to the no. Did I get back with any guy who came back as I mentioned in that post? Nope. I'd hear them out, maybe go out for a date but usually my feelings were gone and one date is as far as I'd let it go.
Do I think there is a risk of people "making excuses"? Sure. Do I feel I am? I ask myself that sometimes, but at the end of the day I am okay with how I'm handling this - and that's all that matters to me - since at the end of the day it's my life. I still try/tried to keep my options open AND keep him open as an option, and I am fine with that decision. Even though I know it would have to be someone kind of amazing to really make me close the door on him.
So, if his "cave" now lasts ..a while again, I just go right back to what I was doing before.
People aren't perfect. They make mistakes. They do the best they can at the time. And sometimes that "best" is pretty $hitty. Heck, if you look at the way best friends and family members treat each other at times you'd wonder why anyone stays in each other's lives. The answer? Because if there really is love there, then you always forgive. Because that is what love does. It isn't based on what a person does or doesn't do, it's based on the fact that you love that person, and if they are sorry you forgive them -- and do what you can with boundaries to protect yourself as much as you deem necessary.
Seriously?? Do you know how many abused women return to abusive men with the claims that you've made? A man broke a woman's jaw, he said he was sorry, and she forgave him. A man shot a woman's face off and she was prepared to go back to him after his apology and when he gets out of jail, but her friends intervened, got her into therapy and she had an incredible face transplant to get her life back.
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Oh and yes, I own why men love bitches - she has another one, why men marry bitches - not as good - why men love bitches was a great help to me when I was like, early 20's. I was pretty clueless back then. :D
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...That's actually the entire foundation of Christianity - that definition of selfless love. It doesn't say forgive and rush back into their arms. It says forgive and set boundaries. And forgiveness is really just for ourselves, anyway.
And yes, sometimes that boundary can be "I don't answer the phone when you call".
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Oh yeah - my primary person even said he was protecting himself, every time he blanked out on me. So he definitely wasn't thinking about me first. But not everyone is 100% emotionally healthy 100% of the their life.
But it's all decisions we make as far as what we will accept. This guy I have known longer than most marriages last, so I know his character. While he may be screwy in this area of his life right now, for the most part the reason I hung in there is because I have years and years of him being an amazing person and friend to me. And when things are good, they are amazing. Nobody ever truly replaced him, though I did try for ... a long time, before we got romantic the second time. So now, I'm at a place in my life where my dating life is kind of quiet, and I had him working out his "stuff" in the background with some really great romantic rendezvous in the middle, intermittently. there's probably been 3-4 other men I've gone on a handful of dates with since our romantic side picked back up, but, nobody who i wanted to spend more time with. I've been focusing a lot on my career and really just killing it there.
Do I consider myself a doormat? Hell to the no. Did I get back with any guy who came back as I mentioned in that post? Nope. I'd hear them out, maybe go out for a date but usually my feelings were gone and one date is as far as I'd let it go.
Do I think there is a risk of people "making excuses"? Sure. Do I feel I am? I ask myself that sometimes, but at the end of the day I am okay with how I'm handling this - and that's all that matters to me - since at the end of the day it's my life. I still try/tried to keep my options open AND keep him open as an option, and I am fine with that decision. Even though I know it would have to be someone kind of amazing to really make me close the door on him.
So, if his "cave" now lasts ..a while again, I just go right back to what I was doing before.
People aren't perfect. They make mistakes. They do the best they can at the time. And sometimes that "best" is pretty $hitty. Heck, if you look at the way best friends and family members treat each other at times you'd wonder why anyone stays in each other's lives. The answer? Because if there really is love there, then you always forgive. Because that is what love does. It isn't based on what a person does or doesn't do, it's based on the fact that you love that person, and if they are sorry you forgive them -- and do what you can with boundaries to protect yourself as much as you deem necessary.
I have to agree with this. I feel like it's really hard to find someone that you genuinely click with and if you're going out dating other men while having one who has some things going on but you jive well with them everyone will say to go for the guys who are giving you the attention even if the connection isn't strong. I personally wouldn't. I think everyone's situation is different and things aren't as black and white as it may seem. i have been in situations where i swore i never put myself in but did end up in anyways. Just because someone is all about you and doing all the things a man should be doing doesn't automatically make him a better catch if you feel an ok connection with them. i think men are very complicated in that they run when they're scared no matter the age. They're not like females who express themselves more easily. If i find a deep connection with someone im more willing to deal with their shit even if i so called deserve a man who gives me all their attention and is ready. You just have to know the type of man youre dealing with and whether hes just playing you or he has things going on. You can call these excuses but if i have a man thats treating me like a queen and i'm not feeling a really strong connection with them i probably won't give them the time of day even though to everyone else he can be an amazing catch. Life isn't that simple and dating is definitely not that simple especially nowadays. Everyone's got issues - you just have to know what youre willing to put up with and don't be a doormat or compromise who you are and your needs/wants.
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Have to say I STILL don't think it's as black and white as some people put here.
if the man..lives in your area, you haven't known him long, don't have much of a history/nothing "serious" ish happened - then if he disappears, sure, it means he wasn't that into you/into the idea of a relationship/was more into someone else, whatever. And sometimes the sign that he comes back IS the proof he is in love, or maybe was more in love than he realized. I've had guys come back 3 months, 6 months, 2 years, and now 4 years later - (not talking about the one who i love) - and those guys weren't "in love" but they were "in like" enough to come back when they grew up some.
Trust in your connection if you had one. and YOU are the best judge of that. :)
I think a LOT of times men who are in more serious situations "disappear" because - honestly - they don't have the natural communication skills/words to explain what they are feeling/thinking in any way that makes "sense" enough for them to tell us that. They also instinctively know we will likely question and try to talk them out of it and will be upset and so all that together the easier thing is to avoid. And it's not always a definitive thing, from what I've seen it's more often because they don't know what they want to do, it's not a "no" but it's not a "yes" and instead of lead someone on they'd rather figure stuff out on their own and come back/hope it works out once that's all taken care of.
Is that right? No. My guy even said that. He's not saying what he did is right, but he did offer the best explanation he could. did he have concerns about us? Yes. So it's not like it was for absolutely no reason. But I also didn't know what the concerns were, and he didn't have the communication skills to tell me.
So I really think the best or most accurate "conclusion" would be - if a guy disappears for no reason you can guess it, it's because he lacks communication skills that would allow him another way of telling you he needs space. And no, they can't tell you for how long. They like you, but can't go forward at that time for whatever reason, and don't want to officially break it off because they know that you ARE someone they could see themselves with.
AND, when they don't hear from us, they also assume we didn't care much anyway. I've had more than one guy say that to me in the past.
Guys are dense, and not as good at picking up at nuance as we are in communication and sensing feelings and otherwise. Just thinking about flirting, half the time they don't realize you're flirting unless you're very direct!
BUT let's not brush over the most important part of this thread - in BOTH of our cases the impetus for moving things forward or at least opening the communication channel was on OUR sides, taking power in our own lives and saying screw the outcome at least I can try. EVEN when well-meaning readers said don't contact or wait for him, etc.
I WILL say it's true what they say, a LOT of a mans sense of worthiness comes from job/career, and until that piece is in place or if he doesn't know where his future is going, a good man won't really feel like he can position a woman there with him. so if you know there's something around that area going on in his life, you can guess - even if it won't make sense to us as women - because to us relationships are what define us - that you are a distant second, maybe even third.
So you could read this and say a smart woman wouldn't want a man like that anyway - well, sure. But falling in love or pining after someone is not a logical thing, it's an emotional thing. And if we could say "I only want to date someone with X emotional intelligence" -- how would you even find that out, before it's "too late"? Rhetorical question.
YES! This EXACTLY describes my situation! You are the only person who see's the other side of situations like these.
Guys, let me say something because I had my POI disappear and there were two reasons for it. First, when I called him out on it via phone call (after he was gone for several months) he was still very much into me. Second, he revealed the reason WHY there was distance and thus gave me the " but I may call you...." line. If you guys want more details I encourage you to PM me as it'll make more sense. There is someone else in the picture and that has a lot to do with it. And I ain't talking about no girlfriend...
In MY situation, it has nothing to do with "he's not that into you.." and it has nothing to do with me making excuses for him. He knows this himself and even he didn't give me BS excuses. He told me the raw truth thorough and thorough. I got lucky because I think some men tend to feed women with BS just to keep them hooked. I am honest with myself and have no problem revealing if I think someone doesn't like me or doesn't find me attractive, etc. The reasons why I am hesitant of him re-connecting with me is because this man would have to sacrifice his job position and family just to be with me. Oh, and move back to my state. However, going into it he knew this beforehand and still took the risk. Maybe I am insecure or have low self-esteem and despite him being honest and hinting that there could be a future with us, my skeptic side thinks it may be too good to be true despite the words coming out of his month.
So it isn't always so black and white like sunshineluv states. Everyone has different experiences and we have to try not to lump it into one generalized statement and make a blanket of assumptions. The POI in my case rather keep it in limbo for everything sunshineluv stated (that I edited in bold).
Honestly, you're not making any sense. He keeps you in limbo because he has a job/family/circumstances (whatever....fill in the blank) that is at risk so he can't be with you and knowing this, feels it is ok to keep you waiting in limbo on an impossibility because he can see himself with you some day, out in the distance, some place in time?
Did this guy you're referring to ever come back and you're both now in a committed relationship with each other?
Perhaps it's best if I don't understand this scenario.
I am not "making sense" because I specifically typed in the first paragraph for anyone to PM me as it would make MORE sense regarding my situation. I only put .1% of the situation on to my response post to sunshineluv.
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Oh yeah - my primary person even said he was protecting himself, every time he blanked out on me. So he definitely wasn't thinking about me first. But not everyone is 100% emotionally healthy 100% of the their life.
But it's all decisions we make as far as what we will accept. This guy I have known longer than most marriages last, so I know his character. While he may be screwy in this area of his life right now, for the most part the reason I hung in there is because I have years and years of him being an amazing person and friend to me. And when things are good, they are amazing. Nobody ever truly replaced him, though I did try for ... a long time, before we got romantic the second time. So now, I'm at a place in my life where my dating life is kind of quiet, and I had him working out his "stuff" in the background with some really great romantic rendezvous in the middle, intermittently. there's probably been 3-4 other men I've gone on a handful of dates with since our romantic side picked back up, but, nobody who i wanted to spend more time with. I've been focusing a lot on my career and really just killing it there.
Do I consider myself a doormat? Hell to the no. Did I get back with any guy who came back as I mentioned in that post? Nope. I'd hear them out, maybe go out for a date but usually my feelings were gone and one date is as far as I'd let it go.
Do I think there is a risk of people "making excuses"? Sure. Do I feel I am? I ask myself that sometimes, but at the end of the day I am okay with how I'm handling this - and that's all that matters to me - since at the end of the day it's my life. I still try/tried to keep my options open AND keep him open as an option, and I am fine with that decision. Even though I know it would have to be someone kind of amazing to really make me close the door on him.
So, if his "cave" now lasts ..a while again, I just go right back to what I was doing before.
People aren't perfect. They make mistakes. They do the best they can at the time. And sometimes that "best" is pretty $hitty. Heck, if you look at the way best friends and family members treat each other at times you'd wonder why anyone stays in each other's lives. The answer? Because if there really is love there, then you always forgive. Because that is what love does. It isn't based on what a person does or doesn't do, it's based on the fact that you love that person, and if they are sorry you forgive them -- and do what you can with boundaries to protect yourself as much as you deem necessary.
I have to agree with this. I feel like it's really hard to find someone that you genuinely click with and if you're going out dating other men while having one who has some things going on but you jive well with them everyone will say to go for the guys who are giving you the attention even if the connection isn't strong. I personally wouldn't. I think everyone's situation is different and things aren't as black and white as it may seem. i have been in situations where i swore i never put myself in but did end up in anyways. Just because someone is all about you and doing all the things a man should be doing doesn't automatically make him a better catch if you feel an ok connection with them. i think men are very complicated in that they run when they're scared no matter the age. They're not like females who express themselves more easily. If i find a deep connection with someone im more willing to deal with their shit even if i so called deserve a man who gives me all their attention and is ready. You just have to know the type of man youre dealing with and whether hes just playing you or he has things going on. You can call these excuses but if i have a man thats treating me like a queen and i'm not feeling a really strong connection with them i probably won't give them the time of day even though to everyone else he can be an amazing catch. Life isn't that simple and dating is definitely not that simple especially nowadays. Everyone's got issues - you just have to know what youre willing to put up with and don't be a doormat or compromise who you are and your needs/wants.
DITTO !! And now come the "well why do we not feel a connection with me that treat us well" comments. ;) BUT - that's the difference between a friend and a romantic interest. Hopefully our friends (of all sexes) treat us well. Do we want to date/marry them all? Nah, or they wouldn't be "friends".
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You get the love you think you deserve and the love that you allow.
I am guy and I have to say the above statement is soo true for anyone. I wasted too much time on a flaky girl who is so screwed up. She pretended to like me (To this day have no idea if she ever did like me or not).
Being psychic and hearing from friends I figured out that 1) She is narcistic - Feeds off of attention no matter how she gets it.
2)Everything is always about her and or what is in it for her
3) She dates men for the financial benefits
4) Flip flops on everything- Took an engagement ring and then strung him along
for 5 years before she admitted she used him for money and sparkly gifts
5) Lies about everything and or exagerates things.
I WASTED soo much time with psychics and listening to people who knew her telling me loved me etc. I asked her out for a coffee TWO Years ago and even when she said yes she NEVER met me. Anytime I gave a date she had an excuse.
If someone really loved you they would be there. NOTHING would stop them.
Please anyone on here obsessing over someone move on. It is not worth your self respect or time. I know because I wasted years on a woman who wouldn't even have crossed the street for me (Unless of course there was money involved).
I am so ashamed and angry at myself for being this foolish but I have learned the lesson that you what you allow will continue and that You get you allow or think you deserve.
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I am so sorry wildheart :(
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I've doubted for a while that the readings I've gotten were wrong and my gut was telling me different in addition to the current reality. So, I've been trying to move on, not getting readings and focusing on me. Tonight I was bored, a little anxious etc so I called someone I've never heard of. Her bio sounded awesome so I thought what the hell, I'll try her. Dawn001 is her name. She is the first person that told me the POI has closed the door and she doesn't see him coming back. Strangely enough, I've been wanting someone to just flat out tell me it done but no one has. My heart sank a little and I was little teary eyes but I knew what she was saying was right. I've known it but all the other readers kept me holding on. My experience is if one or two people say nothing will happen and 100 say it will, the 1 or 2 that said it's done, have been right. It confuses me as to why 100 readers predictions don't come to pass but it happens. Most all of them said I will have a choice when he does come back and I have been trying to give this new guy a chance. I keep pushing him away, I think because of fear, but he keeps popping into my mind at random, so I'm taking that as the universe, God, angels etc slapping me upside the head and saying "hey dumbass, here's a good one! Let go of the asshole" lol. Maybe that's why I found this reader tonight so I could hear that its done.
I think it's important we listen to our intuition. It's usually right where the psychics are not
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Oh God! At least 70-80 have told me that my POI will come back and I will have a choice with my POi now and there will be a new guy.. nothing has happened yet.. but you are so right, I think I should just focus on myself and not rely too much on waitiing for anyone to come in
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Oh yeah - my primary person even said he was protecting himself, every time he blanked out on me. So he definitely wasn't thinking about me first. But not everyone is 100% emotionally healthy 100% of the their life.
But it's all decisions we make as far as what we will accept. This guy I have known longer than most marriages last, so I know his character. While he may be screwy in this area of his life right now, for the most part the reason I hung in there is because I have years and years of him being an amazing person and friend to me. And when things are good, they are amazing. Nobody ever truly replaced him, though I did try for ... a long time, before we got romantic the second time. So now, I'm at a place in my life where my dating life is kind of quiet, and I had him working out his "stuff" in the background with some really great romantic rendezvous in the middle, intermittently. there's probably been 3-4 other men I've gone on a handful of dates with since our romantic side picked back up, but, nobody who i wanted to spend more time with. I've been focusing a lot on my career and really just killing it there.
Do I consider myself a doormat? Hell to the no. Did I get back with any guy who came back as I mentioned in that post? Nope. I'd hear them out, maybe go out for a date but usually my feelings were gone and one date is as far as I'd let it go.
Do I think there is a risk of people "making excuses"? Sure. Do I feel I am? I ask myself that sometimes, but at the end of the day I am okay with how I'm handling this - and that's all that matters to me - since at the end of the day it's my life. I still try/tried to keep my options open AND keep him open as an option, and I am fine with that decision. Even though I know it would have to be someone kind of amazing to really make me close the door on him.
So, if his "cave" now lasts ..a while again, I just go right back to what I was doing before.
People aren't perfect. They make mistakes. They do the best they can at the time. And sometimes that "best" is pretty $hitty. Heck, if you look at the way best friends and family members treat each other at times you'd wonder why anyone stays in each other's lives. The answer? Because if there really is love there, then you always forgive. Because that is what love does. It isn't based on what a person does or doesn't do, it's based on the fact that you love that person, and if they are sorry you forgive them -- and do what you can with boundaries to protect yourself as much as you deem necessary.
I have to agree with this. I feel like it's really hard to find someone that you genuinely click with and if you're going out dating other men while having one who has some things going on but you jive well with them everyone will say to go for the guys who are giving you the attention even if the connection isn't strong. I personally wouldn't. I think everyone's situation is different and things aren't as black and white as it may seem. i have been in situations where i swore i never put myself in but did end up in anyways. Just because someone is all about you and doing all the things a man should be doing doesn't automatically make him a better catch if you feel an ok connection with them. i think men are very complicated in that they run when they're scared no matter the age. They're not like females who express themselves more easily. If i find a deep connection with someone im more willing to deal with their shit even if i so called deserve a man who gives me all their attention and is ready. You just have to know the type of man youre dealing with and whether hes just playing you or he has things going on. You can call these excuses but if i have a man thats treating me like a queen and i'm not feeling a really strong connection with them i probably won't give them the time of day even though to everyone else he can be an amazing catch. Life isn't that simple and dating is definitely not that simple especially nowadays. Everyone's got issues - you just have to know what youre willing to put up with and don't be a doormat or compromise who you are and your needs/wants.
Agree x1000 with the above, and the older you get the more you realize how true are both statements.
My BFF is a therapist who says every day she sees men chickening out and being avoidant with women they love and want to be with. It's a bit too simplistic to say "If he this, then he this." They are very different creatures from us when it comes to love and relationships. For us it's a snap, a breeze, to say yes to, we'd crawl under barbed-wire over broken glass for intense love and a strong connection. For them, apparently (sigh), it can mean a lot of complicated and frightening emotions appear along with the good ones. My POI had no trouble with emotional intimacy, connection, and commitment when we were young; it was only after some traumatic life experiences, which include me emotionally checking out of the relationship first back in the day and him having developed "a wee too much fondness for the drink," ;) that his issues started. Heck, he was in love with me for months before we got together and I never knew it. It only happened because I got jealous over something and put out "feelers" to which he responded. He had never flirted nor given any sign *whatsoever* that he had a romantic interest in me. We ended up engaged.
I would also add, in strict keeping with the thread topic, that I was the one who moved on and left the relationship first, and I'm sure he thought I was never coming back. Years and years later, I reappeared and we took back up again. I so wish he had been getting readings when we were first separated! Lol. So yeah. Never say never.
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Damn Shayalay. We have the same story. "My POI had no trouble with emotional intimacy, connection, and commitment when we were young; it was only after some traumatic life experiences, which include me emotionally checking out of the relationship first back in the day and him having developed "a wee too much fondness for the drink," ;) that his issues started. Heck, he was in love with me for months before we got together and I never knew it. It only happened because I got jealous over something and put out "feelers" to which he responded. He had never flirted nor given any sign *whatsoever* that he had a romantic interest in me." (well, in my case he did some really nice things for me...but he was my "best friend" so... I took it as "just him")
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There was a time when I felt my POI and I were over for sure and surprisingly, a lot of readers were correct when they said things weren't over.
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My intuition has been telling me that my POI will def come back around due to the circumstances of how we left things off. It was very open ended and we left off on amazing, amicable terms. We kinda just need space right now. All the psychics I've talked who I trust have been so spot on with her behavior, relative points of contact, and the patterns we would go through month by month. I honestly think that I don't even need to continue reading b/c I knew that this would happen without needing a psychic lol.
But I do think its all circumstantial... up above someone wrote "if 100 people tell you he/she is coming back, and only a handful say he/she wont, the handful is prob right" - I can see the logic behind this, however, for example if Lotus and Zadalia and LadyP say he/she is coming back and is one of the 100, and some random new listing on Keen says he/she isnt coming back, how do you say that the 100 are incorrect when very talented, accurate advisors are in that mix?
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Here is what happened to me.
I met someone in 2002. We were co workers at a job. She was very flirty and always chatting up a storm around me and seemed to gravitate towards me whenever we had a shift together.
I am superfan of Stevie Nicks and got this POI interested in her as well and she really liked her music (she was not aware of this singer or her band though I have a feeling she knew Landslide)
Long story short I get passed up for a rich man and his money. They get engaged in 2008 but something happened and they split before marrying (If what I am told is correct)
In 2015 I found out that not only was she single but her ex was married and had a kid. I found this out purely by accident. I haven't been keeping tabs on them or anything.
I get a reading from Keen. I can't recall the reader but he was man with an accent and he has 2 accounts. He said without me asking about her (I swear she was not on my mind) that she has feelings for me still.
This was where I got carried away on various sites getting readings etc and I got all kinds of wild stories etc. She loves me , she doesn't , we will get together we won't etc
One reader from Keen really stuck with me though (I can't recall her name but her photo was a candle like flame. She said something that shocked me and I thought to myself some psychics are full of BS but what was said about this POI was too serious to be BS. I can't believe a psychic would say something like this for a buck.
I asked her out for a cofee that summer of 2015 and she said yes but then when I set dates I was free she always had an excuse.
I felt very foolish and made a decison last year to move on and look for someone better. The one thing I can say is that as of right now I have only what psychics have told me re the engagement that alledgedly never happened to go on. So that is why I have never stopped her in the street (she lives very close to me now and has for about 3 years if my intuition is right)
Well for my birthday this year A friend paid for a couple of readings on Psychic Encounters as a gift to me. I decided I owuld simply ask for a reading related to work and a possible move or career change.
I tried 3 people.
1. Asher- Not good. If I asked him for a look into my job situation his response was something like "Things look good I see no reason to worry". There was no reall detail or insight.
2. Wisdom- She was A++ She right away said to me things that resonated with me. Things like I don't follow the crowd , I am destined for greatness by following my own path.
Then she picked up on the POI and right away I thought more BS. She says to me she sees her and I in a relationship by June and that she has allot of explaining to do. Then it gets freaky. She says to me you have TWO secrets not many people know including her but did you know she has a secret too that she is hiding from everyone???
She was able to pick up on a song I had written for her and said she still has it and wonders if I would have kept my copy and woud ever play it for her.
I liked the reading but again a bit skeptical on the POI given it has been close to two years since my inital coffee invite.
Lastly we called Hawk and she was also VERY GOOD.
She said she is clarivoyant and sees things. She asked me if I was recording music as she saw me playing a piano and a very sexy girl with short blonde hair watching me sing to her in a studio. Said that this is someone you knew in the past and they have a story to tell. Also said she has a sister who has wondered about you and thought about tracking you down to see whether or not you still like her sister or not (or if you are even single). Claimed she also has lots to tell you about your girl.
Said that this year is about change and a move is going to take place. She seemed to not waste time and was quick to say things without me having to say much. Said by May June things will have begun and you will see changes in your life (money , job, love etc)
So I don't know. I figure I will live my life and try and meet new people and if the POI from my past resurfaces I can decide what to do.
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Said that this year is about change and a move is going to take place. She seemed to not waste time and was quick to say things without me having to say much. Said by May June things will have begun and you will see changes in your life (money , job, love etc)
Fingers crossed for you and me as well!
Almost all psychics I have talked to (which I think now is 100+) have said that this year is a 'year for change' career wise and love life wise..and I will see a lot of changes starting April End, May! So we shall see!
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Wow this topic is kicking my ass. I agree with a lot of what everyone had to say. I think logically it's true, if someone doesn't make an effort they're not into you or that into you. I do think healthy boundaries are excellent as someone said that means not taking their call. I did that with my guy. He ignored me from 12/21 until 1/20 (I remember I was watching the inauguration on my pc at work). I didn't reply. He texted me every morning and night. I finally replied on 2/1 (I almost waited until 2/20). Anyway I didn't agree to see him; although he kept asking. I finally saw him on March 2, he even wanted to bet over the Super Bowl (I won btw). His gift he got me was lame. He texted me that night and poof he's gone again. Go easy on my tough love girls. We all read her for a reason. I have to say thankfully I am kinda like why the eff am I going to read. 85% tell me things will get better, he really cares (the ones who say things will stay the same tell me he really cares so much for you - what good does that do me). I recognize his pattern and even though I won't reply right away I eventually do and I think he knows this. It's like a little dance we do. I went cookoo for cocoa puffs reading in january (spent almost 1k) what good did it do me? He contacted and it's the same darn thing. I do want to try Gaylene as I have heard she is so good.
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@Caroline-read her thread(s). She is 50/50 supposedly.
I guess my situation is tougher than most (it is why I started this thread) as the POI is married that is why the chances of him re-connecting are slim to none even though he did give me some hope in his own words. At least with most people here no one is married or engaged lol. And by the time he does re-connect I am not sure if any of the members here will still be active lol for me to update.
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@Caroline-read her thread(s). She is 50/50 supposedly.
I guess my situation is tougher than most (it is why I started this thread) as the POI is married that is why the chances of him re-connecting are slim to none even though he did give me some hope in his own words. At least with most people here no one is married or engaged lol. And by the time he does re-connect I am not sure if any of the members here will still be active lol for me to update.
Rediska why do you say supposedly?
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@Caroline-read her thread(s). She is 50/50 supposedly.
I guess my situation is tougher than most (it is why I started this thread) as the POI is married that is why the chances of him re-connecting are slim to none even though he did give me some hope in his own words. At least with most people here no one is married or engaged lol. And by the time he does re-connect I am not sure if any of the members here will still be active lol for me to update.
Rediska why do you say supposedly?
check out her threads-there are two of them. Some say she works well and others say she doesn't. It is 50/50.
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Oh okay I'm reading them now. Thanks
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2. Wisdom- She was A++ She right away said to me things that resonated with me. Things like I don't follow the crowd , I am destined for greatness by following my own path.
Then she picked up on the POI and right away I thought more BS. She says to me she sees her and I in a relationship by June and that she has allot of explaining to do. Then it gets freaky. She says to me you have TWO secrets not many people know including her but did you know she has a secret too that she is hiding from everyone???
She was able to pick up on a song I had written for her and said she still has it and wonders if I would have kept my copy and woud ever play it for her.
I liked the reading but again a bit skeptical on the POI given it has been close to two years since my inital coffee invite.
I have let my POI go as much as i possibly can and even went out with a new guy so I'm moving forward. I called this Wisdom lady on Psychic encounters just for the hell of it because it's only .99 per minute. I was just going to ask what she saw in the near future. She asked my name and then was off. I didn't even ask a question! She was 99% dead on with what she saw as far as what has been happening in my life, in my past, financially and at one point asked if it I knew a man named John. Yes, that was my ex husband who passed 6 years ago. She told me he loved me like no other man would love me. We did have a special bond and I miss him every day even though we couldn't make the marriage work. She did pick up the POI and said we would rekindle in 3 weeks which a lot of readers have said that timeline. I'm not going to put any thought into the POI stuff because I'm really trying to just move on and if he comes back, I'll make the decision then. She truly has a gift because she picked up on my children. I told her I had one and then she asked did I have an abortion or miscarriage at one point. I did have a daughter who was born still. She also said there was another guy coming in that would love me like I wanted to be loved and even though the POI would come back and rekindle and I would accept him back, I needed to remain open to this new guy.
I never told her anything upfront, never asked her a question and I only confirmed things when she brought something up or asked me a question about what she was seeing. The only thing she was wrong about was I could fly to Paris today if I wanted to because I have plenty of money. Ummm nope. lol
For .99 per minute, I tend to think maybe she's a cold reader and really good, but there's no way she could have known about my baby OR my ex. However, she did ask me my full name and date of birth literally 10 seconds before she asked me if I knew a John. I just googled my name and date of birth and nothing shows up immediately to give her info on me. I don't think there's a way could have searched me in 10 seconds. I guess we will see. If she's a cold reader, she is really really good. But I don't think so. I think she has a gift.
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You've let your POI go, which is good. But why bother getting more readings even if it is 99 cents a minute? Have you truly let him go?
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You've let your POI go, which is good. But why bother getting more readings even if it is 99 cents a minute? Have you truly let him go?
It wasn't about him I was calling for. I wanted to see if anyone else was coming into my life. As a matter of fact, one of the first things she said was there was someone in my life that I'm very fond of, could be a parent, friend etc but she felt it was a man, love interest. I said no, there's no one like that :) Then later on in the reading I mentioned him when she said something about rekindling with someone and she told me I should have mentioned him in the beginning because she thought her cards were wrong.
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It wasn't about him I was calling for. I wanted to see if anyone else was coming into my life. As a matter of fact, one of the first things she said was there was someone in my life that I'm very fond of, could be a parent, friend etc but she felt it was a man, love interest. I said no, there's no one like that :) Then later on in the reading I mentioned him when she said something about rekindling with someone and she told me I should have mentioned him in the beginning because she thought her cards were wrong.
Interesting! Well I'm glad there is someone accurate and cost-friendly :) ... pls update whether or not her prediction of rekindling in three weeks occurs !
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I have let my POI go as much as i possibly can and even went out with a new guy so I'm moving forward. I called this Wisdom lady on Psychic encounters just for the hell of it because it's only .99 per minute. I was just going to ask what she saw in the near future. She asked my name and then was off. I didn't even ask a question! She was 99% dead on with what she saw as far as what has been happening in my life, in my past, financially and at one point asked if it I knew a man named John. Yes, that was my ex husband who passed 6 years ago. She told me he loved me like no other man would love me. We did have a special bond and I miss him every day even though we couldn't make the marriage work. She did pick up the POI and said we would rekindle in 3 weeks which a lot of readers have said that timeline. I'm not going to put any thought into the POI stuff because I'm really trying to just move on and if he comes back, I'll make the decision then. She truly has a gift because she picked up on my children. I told her I had one and then she asked did I have an abortion or miscarriage at one point. I did have a daughter who was born still. She also said there was another guy coming in that would love me like I wanted to be loved and even though the POI would come back and rekindle and I would accept him back, I needed to remain open to this new guy.
I never told her anything upfront, never asked her a question and I only confirmed things when she brought something up or asked me a question about what she was seeing. The only thing she was wrong about was I could fly to Paris today if I wanted to because I have plenty of money. Ummm nope. lol
For .99 per minute, I tend to think maybe she's a cold reader and really good, but there's no way she could have known about my baby OR my ex. However, she did ask me my full name and date of birth literally 10 seconds before she asked me if I knew a John. I just googled my name and date of birth and nothing shows up immediately to give her info on me. I don't think there's a way could have searched me in 10 seconds. I guess we will see. If she's a cold reader, she is really really good. But I don't think so. I think she has a gift.
That is pretty cool! It's amazing when people can pick up stuff which is so specific..
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I have let my POI go as much as i possibly can and even went out with a new guy so I'm moving forward. I called this Wisdom lady on Psychic encounters just for the hell of it because it's only .99 per minute. I was just going to ask what she saw in the near future. She asked my name and then was off. I didn't even ask a question! She was 99% dead on with what she saw as far as what has been happening in my life, in my past, financially and at one point asked if it I knew a man named John. Yes, that was my ex husband who passed 6 years ago. She told me he loved me like no other man would love me. We did have a special bond and I miss him every day even though we couldn't make the marriage work. She did pick up the POI and said we would rekindle in 3 weeks which a lot of readers have said that timeline. I'm not going to put any thought into the POI stuff because I'm really trying to just move on and if he comes back, I'll make the decision then. She truly has a gift because she picked up on my children. I told her I had one and then she asked did I have an abortion or miscarriage at one point. I did have a daughter who was born still. She also said there was another guy coming in that would love me like I wanted to be loved and even though the POI would come back and rekindle and I would accept him back, I needed to remain open to this new guy.
I never told her anything upfront, never asked her a question and I only confirmed things when she brought something up or asked me a question about what she was seeing. The only thing she was wrong about was I could fly to Paris today if I wanted to because I have plenty of money. Ummm nope. lol
For .99 per minute, I tend to think maybe she's a cold reader and really good, but there's no way she could have known about my baby OR my ex. However, she did ask me my full name and date of birth literally 10 seconds before she asked me if I knew a John. I just googled my name and date of birth and nothing shows up immediately to give her info on me. I don't think there's a way could have searched me in 10 seconds. I guess we will see. If she's a cold reader, she is really really good. But I don't think so. I think she has a gift.
That is pretty cool! It's amazing when people can pick up stuff which is so specific..
It is pretty cool but many of us have had readers see the past accurately like her. It's the predictions for the future that suck :) I'll let you know if anything happens but I'm not planning on it.
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This is a pretty interesting old thread. Thoughts?
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I honestly don’t know I’m confused. I always feel like I never get things that I want so it makes me think that we won’t get back together but then my bff always has me thinking otherwise she is a possibility person. She believes that when he moves back to NY we will get back together and of course I’m like hmmm maybe not he may ask his gf to move with him. I honestly just don’t know what to believe I’m very confused . I never been a situation this this before. My other ex that caused me to read we got back together many times but during those times he never had a gf.
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I honestly don’t know I’m confused. I always feel like I never get things that I want so it makes me think that we won’t get back together but then my bff always has me thinking otherwise she is a possibility person. She believes that when he moves back to NY we will get back together and of course I’m like hmmm maybe not he may ask his gf to move with him. I honestly just don’t know what to believe I’m very confused . I never been a situation this this before. My other ex that caused me to read we got back together many times but during those times he never had a gf.
I wouldn’t let others persuade you into believing something. Block them out and listen to what you believe. You know your situation better than anyone.
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Mine is slowly coming back like everyone predicted . He actually called me and we saw eachother yesterday and he also gave me some money. Kinda shocked tbh
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Mine is slowly coming back like everyone predicted . He actually called me and we saw eachother yesterday and he also gave me some money. Kinda shocked tbh
That’s awesome! Very happy for you:) would you like to share who got it right?