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Relationship Psychology Discussions => The Vent => Topic started by: sunshineluv7 on May 16, 2018, 08:12:29 AM
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Hi all. I have some very sad, devastating news to report...
So, while Yonas readings have been really accurate for me, the end of the last reading was the tower. She asked her guides not to show her death. And it turns out I lost the baby about a month ago.
So it was right. The person she described at one part was a doctor...
Anyway
I had another reading with her as all the events happened. And everything I thought was supposed to happen with him... the move, wedding etc, all were there...
Then he broke up with me Sunday afternoon over text. Wedding, relationship, everything. Over something so silly.. it was obviously a cover up.
Of course I’m spiraling and overspending and string readings but I’m just trying to be okay and I don’t feel like I’m going to be.
I emailed Yona and she was shocked, said she’s off sometimes but never that much, to let things settle and see where it is in a few weeks and she’d redo my cards no charge and if it really is off and over she will refund me.
I talked to my go tos, who all say he will be back, but it’s so hard to believe. Because how could someone who supposedly wants to marry you end the entire thing on a whim in anger over random things on your social media from forever ago.
I talked to the people I sometimes talk to, and got one reading way out there where she didn’t see it back together so can’t predict it then I still had time and she had me with the type of guy I’d never go for at the end of the year.
I feel like he just killed my soul. And it was over text. When I pointed that out he offered to talk on the phone but I said no. Cause I was so mad.
How could life let this happen. How could God let this happen.
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Wow, I'm so, so sorry to read this. My deepest condolences, as well. :'( :'(
I echo other's advice, really try not to get readings, they tend to just make it worse...hearing he will come back/he won't...won't help you.
Maybe consider talking to someone, a therapist, a good trusted family member or friend. I agree about not isolating yourself, too, because that (in my experience anyway) can make things worse and make it more tempting to call.
Pets do help enormously, I always say mine helped me through the worst breakup and devastation I went through with a man. Literally saved me. But, of course, it's a big responsibility to take on and might be one you're not up for.
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So sorry for your losses. I would wait and read with Yona. Men aren't good with their emotions and tend to run and hide. So sorry this has happened to you. I definitely think getting reads are the worst. 98% will say he is coming back. 2% will say no. I hope things work out for you. xxxx
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I'm terribly sorry for your loss and the pain that you are experiencing. I've been there more than once so I know all too well how it feels.
I will tell you that anything is possible in this situation. He may come back soon, after awhile, or never. Unfortunately, readers don't know the real answer, and none of us do either. Even if a reader did psychically see something, we still have free will and nothing is set in stone in life. I've never read with Yona so I can't give feedback on her accuracy, but I've heard mixed reviews.
I wish you luck in this matter..
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Sad to read. I would take Yonas advice and just wait it out. sometimes there are twists and turns before certain predictions happen. Going on a reading binge
wont make anything better.
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I'm so sorry for what you are going through.
You do not want a man who breaks up with a woman who has just lost a baby by text back. I don't care what sorry excuse he comes up with for his behavior. There is no excuse. He is a piece of shit. He will only get worse as the years go by. I know it hurts a lot now, but it will hurt much more years down the road if you took him back. Thank God he showed his true colors now before it was too late.
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I'm so sorry for what you are going through.
You do not want a man who breaks up with a woman who has just lost a baby by text back. I don't care what sorry excuse he comes up with for his behavior. There is no excuse. He is a piece of shit. He will only get worse as the years go by. I know it hurts a lot now, but it will hurt much more years down the road if you took him back. Thank God he showed his true colors now before it was too late.
I completely agree.
Me too. 100%
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He lost the baby too. Men don't handle their emotions that well. Don't say never. Its hard to judge when we don't know the whole story.
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My current guy does handle his grief strangely, also. He tends to lash out at people (like me) who don't deserve it...
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He lost the baby too. Men don't handle their emotions that well. Don't say never. Its hard to judge when we don't know the whole story.
Honestly, exactly how badly does a man have to treat some of you before you stop making excuses for them and wanting them back?
His behavior was subhuman. Unless the rest of the story included her trying to stab him, he's a terrible person and that's all there is to it.
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He lost the baby too. Men don't handle their emotions that well. Don't say never. Its hard to judge when we don't know the whole story.
Honestly, exactly how badly does a man have to treat some of you before you stop making excuses for them and wanting them back?
His behavior was subhuman. Unless the rest of the story included her trying to stab him, he's a terrible person and that's all there is to it.
Agreed.
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I agree...we, as women, tend to make way too many excuses for some of these men.
Prob a driving force as to why we get readings on them too.
When I was in the depths of my reading addiction, I actually used to sort of excuse the POI's misbehavior based on what the psychic's told me (oh, he's stressed, going through family problems, has a difficult past)! Even though I didn't even know for sure if it was true! I could kick myself.
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Sorry feeling kind of political and "feminist" today lol.
Don't ever apologize for that.
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Honestly, exactly how badly does a man have to treat some of you before you stop making excuses for them and wanting them back?
His behavior was subhuman. Unless the rest of the story included her trying to stab him, he's a terrible person and that's all there is to it.
Exactly. If it were a female who treated us as badly as the men do, women are much more able to dropkick the female to the curb. But if it's someone who has history with a man, woman take all kinds of abuse and make excuses for the men, so they themselves then become the reason for the mistreatment. I don't get it.
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Honestly, exactly how badly does a man have to treat some of you before you stop making excuses for them and wanting them back?
His behavior was subhuman. Unless the rest of the story included her trying to stab him, he's a terrible person and that's all there is to it.
Exactly. If it were a female who treated us as badly as the men do, women are much more able to dropkick the female to the curb. But if it's someone who has history with a man, woman take all kinds of abuse and make excuses for the men, so they themselves then become the reason for the mistreatment. I don't get it.
So true.
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There are always two sides to every story. We only have one side and not all the details. They both went through a loss. Only Sunshineluv7 knows all those details. We can't sit here and judge and say he's an arsehole. They were engaged and planning a wedding. I hope they can talk and sort this out. Whether they move forward, postpone or separate lets hope its the right decision for both of them.
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Hi all.
I just read through everything, and I was so touched by how much caring was here. I haven't logged back in until today, it's just been a whirlwind. I obviously feel... well, I don't know the word for it. After spending a lot of money on readings in like, 2 days (you all know how easy it is to do that), I suddenly realized - without reading comments here - it didn't matter one cent what any of them said. When it's that serious, even if it is 2 weeks away before he "comes back" - a relatively short time - that feels like centuries away. And it dawned on me, if I can't talk to this person, we're absolutely f-ked, anyway.
And there's no "advice" out there for that level of relationship, either. And all the issues are amplified by it being long distance.
So, I texted him a short novel, to get it all out, and that opened a dialog.
We agreed we had several areas we need to work on, so maybe we don't get married right now. We stayed together. But of course, it doesn't feel the same at all.
And to be honest, I'm not seeing any effort from him. I'm supposed to move at the end of June like I was before. And that's the only way we're going to know if this is going to work out between us, or not. And it's really scary.
And part of me agrees with the comments here - that what kind of person, does that to someone.
But another part of me... well, one of my mains did say - to the grief point - that actually, this was all caused by him dealing with grief. He did really want the baby. And so she said, that in a way - without him realizing it - he blames me, for getting him excited about the baby, and then now having to feel loss, which he hasn't ever had to deal with before.
But, if a tree falls in the forest, and causes an earthquake in Japan (think butterfly effect) - does it matter?
Anyway, I've withdrawn from the relationship - I'm focusing on me and just trying to be as calm as possible (because I still feel shell shocked) - and I still don't know which way is up.
The good news is - I canceled Bitwine for good this time. But thank you so much for all the words of support. It means a lot to me.
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But another part of me... well, one of my mains did say - to the grief point - that actually, this was all caused by him dealing with grief. He did really want the baby. And so she said, that in a way - without him realizing it - he blames me, for getting him excited about the baby, and then now having to feel loss, which he hasn't ever had to deal with before.
When bad things happen you turn to each other and get through it together, not destroy the other person. Can you see how selfish and short-sighted his reaction was if that statement above was true? You didn't even enter into the equation. What happens if you get cancer? He dumps you by text and storms off because he was excited about being married and now he has to deal with being a widower, which he hasn't ever had to deal with before.
I prayed very hard that God and the Universe will give you the gift of discernment as far as this man is concerned so you can see things as they are and act accordingly. I really wish you the best.
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Everyone on this board is calling about some Arsehole. ... That includes you NJlady.... Most on here are calling over some man who is not stepping up because of what ever IE married, scared of a commitment or what ever. Yet your all judging this bloke.. SMH.
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Meh, njlady isnt being judgey. Some of us really just need to see facts for what it is. What that guy displayed was bad behavior and likely from bad character...which is difficult to change.
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Meh, njlady isnt being judgey. Some of us really just need to see facts for what it is. What that guy displayed was bad behavior and likely from bad character...which is difficult to change.
Sadly, I agree. but only OP knows the whole story and whether or not she could get past it, should the opportunity arise for her to be with him again.
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Your making a Judgment on a bloke you've never met....Why people handle things differently is to do with baggage. Which all of us have. But The Arsehole your calling about is ok...Keeping calling and waiting.
That's all I'm saying.I'm not saying there is a wrong or right just you don't know every single detail. Especially coming from people that are doing the same thing. LMFAO
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Boston: 100.
And yes, he is selfish. But not ALL selfish. I don't know what I want to do. I'm just backing off for now. If he comes forward, shows some effort, some caring, great. If not, this thing will fizzle out.
BTW, I'm also a Bostonion.
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Everyone on this board is calling about some Arsehole. ... That includes you NJlady.... Most on here are calling over some man who is not stepping up because of what ever IE married, scared of a commitment or what ever. Yet your all judging this bloke.. SMH.
Really? You have a tap on my phone? I have not made on single call, ever, about my boyfriend. I don't need to.
Have I ever called about a POI? Sure. I called several times before I walked on the last guy. He's not an asshole, just not for me right now. I'm not the type of woman who sits there and lets a guy shit on her. That will be the day when that happens. Trust me on that one.