The Psychic Reviews
Relationship Psychology Discussions => The Vent => Topic started by: Littl30ne on July 10, 2017, 09:03:50 PM
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Hello friends! I have been dumped since December 2016 and I have not recovered because this guy was literally the love of my life-- we were always there for each other and we talked about getting married, etc.. then one day (Dec 5, 2016 to be exact!) After taking me out to a lovely hiking trip he broke up with me in November and again in December claiming he doesn't love me anymore.
In a frantic panic attack I begged him not to leave but he insisted we go our separate ways. I cried and cried and it felt like it wasn't over... then I kept getting chills down my spine and I thought make it's a sign of affirmation that he's coming back (I know it sounds crazy but I only got the chills when I thought of him coming back and they were calming chills too I can't explain!)
So I Googled psychics and came across Keen, Kasamba, California Psychics... let's just say I've gone down the rabbit hole and long story short, he is NOT back. My time frames kept getting pushed from February, March, April, May, now I'm getting end of August/he's never coming back. I've gotten mixed readings saying he will be back and he won't be back... ultimately I want him back so I'm trying this LOA thing but it's been very difficult to see any manifestations (maybe the negative readers got to me?) Finally I got an email reading from a psychic medium who told me he doesn't see a reconnection until 2 years later but even then we both will reconnect as friends.. I can't accept this reading! I just don't know anymore!
I started watching manifestation meditation videos by Agnes Vivarelli on YouTube and I'm thinking of consulting with her as a life coach but I just don't know.. I know what I want and I don't want to stop until I get it (excuse my craziness). Has anyone not accepted a negative reading and really manifested the return of their ex?? He's blocked me on his phone and WhatsApp but not on Facebook so I'm beginning to feel hopless but I can't let it happen because I want to manifest our reconnection so bad ahhh! Thanks for reading this 💖
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Girl listen to me I feel your pain I know where you're coming from but do not keep going down that rabbit hole it's no good.
Every reading should be taken with a grain of salt good or bad but you cannot bet all your money on one whole reading even if they do get predictions correct they are humans but just with psychic abilities they are not perfect no one is all the way 100% And then there's so many things that factor into predictions just such as you know Free Will choosing a different path timing all this other stuff.
Even with my favorite psychic who sees long-term outcome predictions the fact that he doesn't give me timing makes me take things with a grain of salt because what he saying could happen 2 months from now to years from now five years from now 10 years from now even those he sees that being the greater outcome he has still said to me before you can always choose someone else but I don't see you choosing someone else on that time comes.... BUT I STILL HAVE TO MOVE ON AND LIVE LIFE!
Readings every few months are okay but don't bet everything on it that would be my advice.
Also LOA is an amazing thing, and I believe in most of it and I believe it's a greater way of life but the most important thing is having faith letting go and just seeing what God brings you
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How long did your relationship last?
Sorry you are going through this :-[ I feel your pain trust me. But instead of working on trying to get him back, work on moving on and meet new people, new men... and you will see once you have interest in another one you won't even think about your ex anymore!
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Unfortunately I would say you should take the predictions with a grain of salt. A few dozen CP readers told me my ex would return and he never did, and then I called keen psychics over 2 other guys and they also gave me favorable outcomes which never happened. Eventually I stopped obsessing and got over the fact that I could not have the men that I wanted at the time, and it was a total waste spending so much money because it's not like it did anything to change the outcome at all. Just live your life day by day and don't be too disappointed if nothing ever happens.
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I can absolutely relate to your post! Except for me it was past two years. I have tried everything from psychics, to affirmations, to trying LOA, to doing candle prayers, going to the holiest of places and praying for it, fasting, all manifestation and wish granting techniques available on internet, you name it and I have done it.. in the end I can say it didn't help. I was listening to this book once and the lady said if you want confirmation from universe then ask for a sign, I did, and got one!! But nothing happened, not sure what those signs were for.
Yes, at times I felt I saw some difference in the guy(or maybe it was just my perception), we hooked up again, on and off, so I thought maybe it's my Lanie Stevens or one of 1000 LOA things I try is working, but in the end the truth is it didn't last and that it was painful for me.
I wanted something meaningful which he couldn't provide. I have been hurt beyond my wildest imagination, and I have stopped seeing the light at the end of the tunnel (at least with him).
Last month, I actually have started working on myself, and trying to see why do I want someone who doesn't want me? Is rejection breeding my obsession? Or, is it some inner work I need to do? Do I really want to be with someone for whom I have to put in so much work?
It feels/felt like I am failing and my ego just doesn't wanna accept that it's over. Earlier, I would disregard negative readings and still keep reading, but I guess in the end the negative ones were right, at least for me. I am still trying to heal, can't focus on my work, have to take crying breaks (I feel stupid just writing that lol).. but I have to remind myself that if God/Universe/Higher Power doesn't want it, the guy doesn't want it, then I am the minority here. Life is unfair and I maybe have to accept it, learn my lesson and move on. Trust me I am trying to hard every single day, life seems hopeless, but I read about people here and how they moved on and maybe one day I will feel better too.
I exactly know how you feel, this was the first time I felt so passionately for someone, when I look back and even now too, I can't believe it can be over, I feel it was something super special and what not (and especially when psychics tell you-- what you guys have I don't see that often, I bet they throw this line to everyone) but now I stop myself and ask myself --why am I being so stubborn? Why can't I just let it go? I have wasted good 2 years, have been in so much pain, I don't think it's worth it!
I agree with above comments, try to move on, if he's to come back maybe he will, but don't pin your hope to something that might never happen.
For past two years, I have tried to make things happen so much that I feel exhausted now, almost like Universe/God didn't listen to me, and some days I am so mad and feel it's so unfair, but I am coming to accept that it is what it is, unfortunately life is not fair. I had learnt this lesson pretty good as a child, but I think I had forgotten so someone up there decided to give me a reminder...lol
I am trying to surrender, and let go, hence have started reading A course in Miracles, which says 'a miracle is change in your perception' and here is a quote from one of it's teachers-
“If a train doesn’t stop at your station, then it’s not your train.”
Sorry it's so long, but hope it helps!
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You are calling for the wrong reason, you want to hear that your ex will come back and at a certain date and time. This may in fact never happen, you want to hear that everything will
be ok and it is the worst way to use psychic readings.
This is JMO, but you can't use the LOA to make someone come back to you. Its a misleading use of LOA and it just has people thinking they can have whatever they want whenever...even if it
is someone that said they don't want to be with you. Most of it is BS.
Based on my years of experience getting readings, step back, stop the readings and deal with the heartbreak on a practical level. Get Mad even. You have to heal and psychics wont do it for you.
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Hello everyone thank you for your supportive comments. My ex and I have been together for 4 years we met in junior year of college, we were together through the good and bad times. I even applied to his first job out of college because he was so anxious about applying... as soon as he got the job BOOOOM the dynamics changed! We both went on a lot of adventures together like traveling to countries like Mexico, Dominican Republic, lots of hiking trips, we tried new restaurants etc... we had the same taste in music/movies/art/hobbies... he was literally my other half. I don't know what happened tbh.. I never got closure which makes it even more difficult. We were also on the same cellphone plan and he was paying for my phone even after we broke up... which gave me hope he would return.
Finally in May I couldn't take it anymore and I asked him if he was coming back but his stubborn self said he wasn't so I finally returned the phone to him and got my own phone. I gave him back my old phone Bc it was too expensive for me to keep and I thought I should buy my own iPhone to prove to him that I'm fine on my own. I even left my texts on there so he could see.. lo and behold he did see my texts and he gave me some hell for texting my guy friends and for the cute sexy selfies I had on my phone (which were obviously intended for him but he thought I sent those to someone else). He told me he was hurt I was texting other guys (but they were just guy friends I never hung out w them nor sent them anything sexy). He got so jealous and I was like "ok if you're jealous then come back!" He started ignoring me again.. anyway our biggest fight was on May 27 and since then I've been blocked. Every time I tried to be civil he was either mean or ignored me... but I knew him, he used to get mad and then get over it -_-
I am kind of dating a mutual friend at the moment.. he went to the same college as we did and even studied the same major as my ex, but this guy wants to take it slow 🙄 I do enjoy his company but he's not like my ex at all.. like my ex and I were 2 VERY similar people! This guy also told me he doesn't want a label right now and he wants to see where it goes... I'm like ok I still love my ex any way so take your time! Some psychics told me the current guy I'm seeing is just experimenting with me--sometimes I get that vibe sometimes I don't. Ahh it's confusing!
Last, I'm at a point now where if I hear a positive psychic reading I won't believe it just like I won't believe a negative reading lol!! Anyone been at this point yet? I just know what I want now and that's it--maybe I'll get sick of waiting or maybe I won't. Maybe he will show up, maybe he won't.. there are too many possibilities! I will take all of you up on being present and living life with trust that if something is meant for me it will be in my life.
I'm slowly getting out of this rabbit hole but smh I just don't know .
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Hi Maddie,
Oh my gosh it was a roller coaster in 2016.. let's just say we both hit a lot of bumps in the road along the way. Our arguments would get pretty bad sometimes and neither of us were mature when we fought. Sometimes he would say things like "you're fat" and totally messed with my head. I was insecure a lot at one point ( I did gain a lot of weight that year because I was super stressed from my work commute. Some people can commute far daily but I couldn't drive 80 miles round trip daily and I was getting desperate to find a new job). I'm in a much better place now as far as health and career go.. but it was hard to feel loved when I was insecure. These issues are totally fixable btw with communication and trust, he said it was too much work and baggage.
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Sounds like you two are young and he just wants to know if there is more out there. It happens unfortunately.
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I can absolutely relate to your post! Except for me it was past two years. I have tried everything from psychics, to affirmations, to trying LOA, to doing candle prayers, going to the holiest of places and praying for it, fasting, all manifestation and wish granting techniques available on internet, you name it and I have done it.. in the end I can say it didn't help. I was listening to this book once and the lady said if you want confirmation from universe then ask for a sign, I did, and got one!! But nothing happened, not sure what those signs were for.
Yes, at times I felt I saw some difference in the guy(or maybe it was just my perception), we hooked up again, on and off, so I thought maybe it's my Lanie Stevens or one of 1000 LOA things I try is working, but in the end the truth is it didn't last and that it was painful for me.
I wanted something meaningful which he couldn't provide. I have been hurt beyond my wildest imagination, and I have stopped seeing the light at the end of the tunnel (at least with him).
Last month, I actually have started working on myself, and trying to see why do I want someone who doesn't want me? Is rejection breeding my obsession? Or, is it some inner work I need to do? Do I really want to be with someone for whom I have to put in so much work?
It feels/felt like I am failing and my ego just doesn't wanna accept that it's over. Earlier, I would disregard negative readings and still keep reading, but I guess in the end the negative ones were right, at least for me. I am still trying to heal, can't focus on my work, have to take crying breaks (I feel stupid just writing that lol).. but I have to remind myself that if God/Universe/Higher Power doesn't want it, the guy doesn't want it, then I am the minority here. Life is unfair and I maybe have to accept it, learn my lesson and move on. Trust me I am trying to hard every single day, life seems hopeless, but I read about people here and how they moved on and maybe one day I will feel better too.
I exactly know how you feel, this was the first time I felt so passionately for someone, when I look back and even now too, I can't believe it can be over, I feel it was something super special and what not (and especially when psychics tell you-- what you guys have I don't see that often, I bet they throw this line to everyone) but now I stop myself and ask myself --why am I being so stubborn? Why can't I just let it go? I have wasted good 2 years, have been in so much pain, I don't think it's worth it!
I agree with above comments, try to move on, if he's to come back maybe he will, but don't pin your hope to something that might never happen.
For past two years, I have tried to make things happen so much that I feel exhausted now, almost like Universe/God didn't listen to me, and some days I am so mad and feel it's so unfair, but I am coming to accept that it is what it is, unfortunately life is not fair. I had learnt this lesson pretty good as a child, but I think I had forgotten so someone up there decided to give me a reminder...lol
I am trying to surrender, and let go, hence have started reading A course in Miracles, which says 'a miracle is change in your perception' and here is a quote from one of it's teachers-
“If a train doesn’t stop at your station, then it’s not your train.”
Sorry it's so long, but hope it helps!
Really nice post. I enjoyed reading it and getting something out of the quote. TY.
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Really nice post. I enjoyed reading it and getting something out of the quote. TY.
Thank you! I am glad and sometimes it just feels good to write it all out and take off yourself.
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Hi Mystery123! So what are you going to do now? How is your journey of falling back in love with yourself going? Thank you for sharing your story btw I'm sorry it took you 2 years but it seems like you got a good understanding of where you need to be now (which is very inspiring ☺️)
I ordered some self confidence boosting books because God knows how badly I need to fall back in love with myself again lol. I'm tempted to get readings still but hanging right for now. I'm thinking maybe the more self dependent I become the less I'll need someone for now and the less I'll be thinking about the ex ya know ;) this is such a terrible phase aghhh!!!
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Hi Mystery123! So what are you going to do now? How is your journey of falling back in love with yourself going? Thank you for sharing your story btw I'm sorry it took you 2 years but it seems like you got a good understanding of where you need to be now (which is very inspiring ☺️)
I ordered some self confidence boosting books because God knows how badly I need to fall back in love with myself again lol. I'm tempted to get readings still but hanging right for now. I'm thinking maybe the more self dependent I become the less I'll need someone for now and the less I'll be thinking about the ex ya know ;) this is such a terrible phase aghhh!!!
I am just trying to take it one day at a time. I am hoping when the guy moves away, he will be out of sight, out of mind, and it will help me heal somewhat quicker maybe. I have deactivated all my social media as I don't want to see what he or others are up to. Just want to focus on myself. My recovery process has been long. I have been working on myself for last one year and a half, because I was also a depression patient till last year, but I worked enough on myself to stop taking anti-depressants and now even though I have this heart wrenching pain sometimes, I can tell myself it will be okay. I still do have BAD days, but I know it gets better.
As far as this guy is concerned, I am at a point where I do get upset, cry a lot, and still wonder why can't he feel the same way, and why can't he be with me..and just feel heart broken, cheated and abandoned... but I almost instantly subconsciously give an answer to myself that maybe this is my lesson, maybe he came into my life to teach me a thing or two about being heartbroken.. become more authentic, compassionate, learn to love myself.. I still in my anger wish ill for him, but then take a step back and know that it's not his fault. I have also rejected people before, broken up with guys, and maybe it's my turn this time. I know it sounds all so preachy and book-ish, but that's truly how I feel.
Few things that has helped me are-
1. Subliminal Message/Affirmations Videos on youtube. Vortex Success and Rockstar Affirmations. I just played them in background when over music when I am at work.
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrIOuPmqRLVmHKNGldGf2Kw
I listened to so many of these and realized I needed to work so much on myself--self love, self esteem, give up need for attachment and neediness, inner child, need for approval and validation, forgiveness, acceptance, and what not.
2. Tapping Videos by Brad Yates - https://www.youtube.com/user/eftwizard
I went to a local EFT tapping group, and fell in love with the technique! I am not very good with meditation, so this form of release worked out very well for me. It helped me with my depression a lot!
3. Listened to Guided Meditations/Self Hypnosis while sleeping, the one which helped me was clearing subconscious negativity - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FiPDV9L5qpQ
4. I am an audible fan, so I prefer to listen books while driving, walking. So, if nothing then just listen to this book called Spirit Junkie, it's very easy to read, and she talks about her relationship, how she felt and how she overcame the whole thing, it gives some good insights. It's a little on spiritual side, but not too much.
5. Loved listening to Eat Pray Love, Return to Love by Marianne Williamson, Wayne Dyer, Esther Hicks, Hay House podcasts..these books diverted me and provided a lot of perspective. Pain is inevitable, we just need to find ways to work our way around it, and these books helped me understand that.
6. I also started journalling, maintaining a gratitude journal. Learnt energy healing technique.
And, if you don't want to do anything, then just read the book -- Love yourself like your life depends on it. It's a maybe 1 hour read and a simple technique which author tells. Seems stupid initially then it starts working.
It's funny I did all this because I was determined to stop taking anti-depressants, however, I was still crazy after this guy so I was doing everything LOA, wishing, praying, even some of my eft tapping was around how I wanted this guy, readings, psychics, and all small rituals there are on the internet to manifest your desires I was doing them. Cuz I thought we were super special and that we have this bond which no one has..it's different with me and him..lol.
Last month, when I realized that he is fine sleeping with me, and hanging out, but he can't reciprocate my feelings, likes someone else, and is moving.. my world fell apart! I cried straight for two days, but it was different this time, it was more like grieving, mourning because I could see it ending for good now. The little hope I had was taken away. But, I could hold myself together and talk about it, so all the work I did is not a waste. I did get some healing work done on myself through mendingenergy on Fiverr. It was only 5 bucks, and even if it worked as placebo, I didn't care, it did something at least.
I still feel sad, still get readings about him here and there, still mad that this happened to me, it's very hard right now.. but this time I love myself enough to not reach out if he is rejecting me, and I tell myself that it will get better and I believe that it WILL. In my gut I know it's for the best and whether I find someone or not, I will be fine. I can't fight what's God's will, so it's better to accept it and just be at peace. I am trying to Trust the process, it's very hard at times, and at those times, I really pray for a miracle, and at this point I know a miracle won't be that he falls in love with me, the miracle would be that my perception changes, and I feel relief, peace and I can heal.
Sorry for sounding preachy again..hahaha!
Hope you feel better soon!
I have had some readers who told me, if this guy was worth it, then you wouldn't be calling about him. LOL
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I can absolutely relate to your post! Except for me it was past two years. I have tried everything from psychics, to affirmations, to trying LOA, to doing candle prayers, going to the holiest of places and praying for it, fasting, all manifestation and wish granting techniques available on internet, you name it and I have done it.. in the end I can say it didn't help. I was listening to this book once and the lady said if you want confirmation from universe then ask for a sign, I did, and got one!! But nothing happened, not sure what those signs were for.
Yes, at times I felt I saw some difference in the guy(or maybe it was just my perception), we hooked up again, on and off, so I thought maybe it's my Lanie Stevens or one of 1000 LOA things I try is working, but in the end the truth is it didn't last and that it was painful for me.
I wanted something meaningful which he couldn't provide. I have been hurt beyond my wildest imagination, and I have stopped seeing the light at the end of the tunnel (at least with him).
Last month, I actually have started working on myself, and trying to see why do I want someone who doesn't want me? Is rejection breeding my obsession? Or, is it some inner work I need to do? Do I really want to be with someone for whom I have to put in so much work?
It feels/felt like I am failing and my ego just doesn't wanna accept that it's over. Earlier, I would disregard negative readings and still keep reading, but I guess in the end the negative ones were right, at least for me. I am still trying to heal, can't focus on my work, have to take crying breaks (I feel stupid just writing that lol).. but I have to remind myself that if God/Universe/Higher Power doesn't want it, the guy doesn't want it, then I am the minority here. Life is unfair and I maybe have to accept it, learn my lesson and move on. Trust me I am trying to hard every single day, life seems hopeless, but I read about people here and how they moved on and maybe one day I will feel better too.
I exactly know how you feel, this was the first time I felt so passionately for someone, when I look back and even now too, I can't believe it can be over, I feel it was something super special and what not (and especially when psychics tell you-- what you guys have I don't see that often, I bet they throw this line to everyone) but now I stop myself and ask myself --why am I being so stubborn? Why can't I just let it go? I have wasted good 2 years, have been in so much pain, I don't think it's worth it!
I agree with above comments, try to move on, if he's to come back maybe he will, but don't pin your hope to something that might never happen.
For past two years, I have tried to make things happen so much that I feel exhausted now, almost like Universe/God didn't listen to me, and some days I am so mad and feel it's so unfair, but I am coming to accept that it is what it is, unfortunately life is not fair. I had learnt this lesson pretty good as a child, but I think I had forgotten so someone up there decided to give me a reminder...lol
I am trying to surrender, and let go, hence have started reading A course in Miracles, which says 'a miracle is change in your perception' and here is a quote from one of it's teachers-
“If a train doesn’t stop at your station, then it’s not your train.”
Sorry it's so long, but hope it helps!
I've been through all the same. I've tried candle spells, prayer, LOA, went through the psychic addiction, and nothing has changed for me. The truth of the matter is we just can't have everything or everyone that we want in life, and loss of people/our relationships with them is normal. People come and go in our lives, and it's difficult and painful, but somehow we have to go on. I agree with your last line, if something is truly meant to happen or be yours then it will, if not, there is always something better behind a new door once the old door closes. Calling the readers does nothing but feed the obsession and gives false hope that something will change, making it even harder to let go of the person and move on.
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I can absolutely relate to your post! Except for me it was past two years. I have tried everything from psychics, to affirmations, to trying LOA, to doing candle prayers, going to the holiest of places and praying for it, fasting, all manifestation and wish granting techniques available on internet, you name it and I have done it.. in the end I can say it didn't help. I was listening to this book once and the lady said if you want confirmation from universe then ask for a sign, I did, and got one!! But nothing happened, not sure what those signs were for.
Yes, at times I felt I saw some difference in the guy(or maybe it was just my perception), we hooked up again, on and off, so I thought maybe it's my Lanie Stevens or one of 1000 LOA things I try is working, but in the end the truth is it didn't last and that it was painful for me.
I wanted something meaningful which he couldn't provide. I have been hurt beyond my wildest imagination, and I have stopped seeing the light at the end of the tunnel (at least with him).
Last month, I actually have started working on myself, and trying to see why do I want someone who doesn't want me? Is rejection breeding my obsession? Or, is it some inner work I need to do? Do I really want to be with someone for whom I have to put in so much work?
It feels/felt like I am failing and my ego just doesn't wanna accept that it's over. Earlier, I would disregard negative readings and still keep reading, but I guess in the end the negative ones were right, at least for me. I am still trying to heal, can't focus on my work, have to take crying breaks (I feel stupid just writing that lol).. but I have to remind myself that if God/Universe/Higher Power doesn't want it, the guy doesn't want it, then I am the minority here. Life is unfair and I maybe have to accept it, learn my lesson and move on. Trust me I am trying to hard every single day, life seems hopeless, but I read about people here and how they moved on and maybe one day I will feel better too.
I exactly know how you feel, this was the first time I felt so passionately for someone, when I look back and even now too, I can't believe it can be over, I feel it was something super special and what not (and especially when psychics tell you-- what you guys have I don't see that often, I bet they throw this line to everyone) but now I stop myself and ask myself --why am I being so stubborn? Why can't I just let it go? I have wasted good 2 years, have been in so much pain, I don't think it's worth it!
I agree with above comments, try to move on, if he's to come back maybe he will, but don't pin your hope to something that might never happen.
For past two years, I have tried to make things happen so much that I feel exhausted now, almost like Universe/God didn't listen to me, and some days I am so mad and feel it's so unfair, but I am coming to accept that it is what it is, unfortunately life is not fair. I had learnt this lesson pretty good as a child, but I think I had forgotten so someone up there decided to give me a reminder...lol
I am trying to surrender, and let go, hence have started reading A course in Miracles, which says 'a miracle is change in your perception' and here is a quote from one of it's teachers-
“If a train doesn’t stop at your station, then it’s not your train.”
Sorry it's so long, but hope it helps!
I've been through all the same. I've tried candle spells, prayer, LOA, went through the psychic addiction, and nothing has changed for me. The truth of the matter is we just can't have everything or everyone that we want in life, and loss of people/our relationships with them is normal. People come and go in our lives, and it's difficult and painful, but somehow we have to go on. I agree with your last line, if something is truly meant to happen or be yours then it will, if not, there is always something better behind a new door once the old door closes. Calling the readers does nothing but feed the obsession and gives false hope that something will change, making it even harder to let go of the person and move on.
Very well said, I agree 💯 %
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I've been through all the same. I've tried candle spells, prayer, LOA, went through the psychic addiction, and nothing has changed for me. The truth of the matter is we just can't have everything or everyone that we want in life, and loss of people/our relationships with them is normal. People come and go in our lives, and it's difficult and painful, but somehow we have to go on. I agree with your last line, if something is truly meant to happen or be yours then it will, if not, there is always something better behind a new door once the old door closes. Calling the readers does nothing but feed the obsession and gives false hope that something will change, making it even harder to let go of the person and move on.
Very well said, I agree 💯 %
So true!
I think I would have started the healing process much sooner if I didn't get into binge reading addiction. I like getting readings, and I still do, but now they are more asking general question, what you see for me in future kind of readings, and well spaced out in time..also, now I accept the answer, unlike before I would call one reader after another..and I won't believe neither positive reading nor negative reading..lol.
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It is within your ability to change your perception of this situation and embrace it ... as painful as it is, acceptance is step one, all else will show up when you can accept that for now, it is what it is.
This!
and so exciting that you too are student of ACIM! I love the teachings and the message, it has brought me so much peace. It was tricky initially because I am not a Christian, but then when I listened to Gabriel Bernstien and Marianne Williamson..their versions gave me more understanding and now I am following the book!
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Sisters don't waste another penny on a "psychic" .. everyone saw a reconnection and even said he was my "soulmate". I've been told since December he will be back. Guess what August was supposed to be the month but.. I was on Facebook and I saw him at a wedding with someone I've never seen before and they looked HAPPY!!! He's gone! Lol!!!!!
Soulmate connection what does that mean. I need a major refund from Keen & CA Psychicd. I'm pretty sure the readings that came to pass were just coincidences. It's so sad how I believed them.
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You definitely have to research your psychics. The majority if not over 95% of them are providing you with what you wanna hear. All of that soulmate/twinflame connection talk is garbage.. There are only about 3-4 psychics whom I trust. If you encounter a psychic who tells you that you have a twinflame connection or your POI is your soulmate, hang up. Also, I'm curious to know, did you ever call any of the raved about psychics on here like Aries Intution, Cookie, or Yona? I'm really sorry this happened to you. I guess it's better to know the truth though than to be strung along and waste even more of your time and money. Wish you the best!
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I did the research but I haven't read with Aries Intuition or Cookie or Yona. Soulmateadvisor2002 told me yesterday he's my soulmate and that it would take time and that he's not being authentic right now. But it doesn't make sense that he will be back. I'll actually try one of the 3 you recommended and that's it I'm done lol!!! I just want the truth -_- I always see my ex in my mind and get chills when I think of him I'm just delusional lolll f this crap! Thank you hun
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Ok ladies lol one LAST Reading about this ex with Aries Intuition.. I'm #8 wow and good thing today is Wednesday because I probably would've died out of anticipation. You know why I went to a psychic in the first place? Because every time I thought 'S will be back' I used to get warm tingly chills down my spine and I just had to know what that meant!! Lol! I know it sounds crazy but I had a hunch it was a confirmation or something because every time I thought about him those tingles would go down my spine ... or I'm just crazy and need to see a doctor smh! Love makes us do/think weird things. Will update you all later xoxo
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I can absolutely relate to your post! Except for me it was past two years. I have tried everything from psychics, to affirmations, to trying LOA, to doing candle prayers, going to the holiest of places and praying for it, fasting, all manifestation and wish granting techniques available on internet, you name it and I have done it.. in the end I can say it didn't help. I was listening to this book once and the lady said if you want confirmation from universe then ask for a sign, I did, and got one!! But nothing happened, not sure what those signs were for.
Yes, at times I felt I saw some difference in the guy(or maybe it was just my perception), we hooked up again, on and off, so I thought maybe it's my Lanie Stevens or one of 1000 LOA things I try is working, but in the end the truth is it didn't last and that it was painful for me.
I wanted something meaningful which he couldn't provide. I have been hurt beyond my wildest imagination, and I have stopped seeing the light at the end of the tunnel (at least with him).
Last month, I actually have started working on myself, and trying to see why do I want someone who doesn't want me? Is rejection breeding my obsession? Or, is it some inner work I need to do? Do I really want to be with someone for whom I have to put in so much work?
It feels/felt like I am failing and my ego just doesn't wanna accept that it's over. Earlier, I would disregard negative readings and still keep reading, but I guess in the end the negative ones were right, at least for me. I am still trying to heal, can't focus on my work, have to take crying breaks (I feel stupid just writing that lol).. but I have to remind myself that if God/Universe/Higher Power doesn't want it, the guy doesn't want it, then I am the minority here. Life is unfair and I maybe have to accept it, learn my lesson and move on. Trust me I am trying to hard every single day, life seems hopeless, but I read about people here and how they moved on and maybe one day I will feel better too.
I exactly know how you feel, this was the first time I felt so passionately for someone, when I look back and even now too, I can't believe it can be over, I feel it was something super special and what not (and especially when psychics tell you-- what you guys have I don't see that often, I bet they throw this line to everyone) but now I stop myself and ask myself --why am I being so stubborn? Why can't I just let it go? I have wasted good 2 years, have been in so much pain, I don't think it's worth it!
I agree with above comments, try to move on, if he's to come back maybe he will, but don't pin your hope to something that might never happen.
For past two years, I have tried to make things happen so much that I feel exhausted now, almost like Universe/God didn't listen to me, and some days I am so mad and feel it's so unfair, but I am coming to accept that it is what it is, unfortunately life is not fair. I had learnt this lesson pretty good as a child, but I think I had forgotten so someone up there decided to give me a reminder...lol
I am trying to surrender, and let go, hence have started reading A course in Miracles, which says 'a miracle is change in your perception' and here is a quote from one of it's teachers-
“If a train doesn’t stop at your station, then it’s not your train.”
Sorry it's so long, but hope it helps!
Very well said. I loved when you said that you didn't know if the rejection fueled an obsession. I absolutely think rejection fuels it because we are human beings when someone we love disappears, cuts us off, starts dating someone new, you name it --- we obsess over it because of rejection. Rejection is a tough pill to swallow for anyone. But in my experience in dating, I have always looked back at times of rejection and then thanked god because it was a blessing.
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I can absolutely relate to your post! Except for me it was past two years. I have tried everything from psychics, to affirmations, to trying LOA, to doing candle prayers, going to the holiest of places and praying for it, fasting, all manifestation and wish granting techniques available on internet, you name it and I have done it.. in the end I can say it didn't help. I was listening to this book once and the lady said if you want confirmation from universe then ask for a sign, I did, and got one!! But nothing happened, not sure what those signs were for.
Yes, at times I felt I saw some difference in the guy(or maybe it was just my perception), we hooked up again, on and off, so I thought maybe it's my Lanie Stevens or one of 1000 LOA things I try is working, but in the end the truth is it didn't last and that it was painful for me.
I wanted something meaningful which he couldn't provide. I have been hurt beyond my wildest imagination, and I have stopped seeing the light at the end of the tunnel (at least with him).
Last month, I actually have started working on myself, and trying to see why do I want someone who doesn't want me? Is rejection breeding my obsession? Or, is it some inner work I need to do? Do I really want to be with someone for whom I have to put in so much work?
It feels/felt like I am failing and my ego just doesn't wanna accept that it's over. Earlier, I would disregard negative readings and still keep reading, but I guess in the end the negative ones were right, at least for me. I am still trying to heal, can't focus on my work, have to take crying breaks (I feel stupid just writing that lol).. but I have to remind myself that if God/Universe/Higher Power doesn't want it, the guy doesn't want it, then I am the minority here. Life is unfair and I maybe have to accept it, learn my lesson and move on. Trust me I am trying to hard every single day, life seems hopeless, but I read about people here and how they moved on and maybe one day I will feel better too.
I exactly know how you feel, this was the first time I felt so passionately for someone, when I look back and even now too, I can't believe it can be over, I feel it was something super special and what not (and especially when psychics tell you-- what you guys have I don't see that often, I bet they throw this line to everyone) but now I stop myself and ask myself --why am I being so stubborn? Why can't I just let it go? I have wasted good 2 years, have been in so much pain, I don't think it's worth it!
I agree with above comments, try to move on, if he's to come back maybe he will, but don't pin your hope to something that might never happen.
For past two years, I have tried to make things happen so much that I feel exhausted now, almost like Universe/God didn't listen to me, and some days I am so mad and feel it's so unfair, but I am coming to accept that it is what it is, unfortunately life is not fair. I had learnt this lesson pretty good as a child, but I think I had forgotten so someone up there decided to give me a reminder...lol
I am trying to surrender, and let go, hence have started reading A course in Miracles, which says 'a miracle is change in your perception' and here is a quote from one of it's teachers-
“If a train doesn’t stop at your station, then it’s not your train.”
Sorry it's so long, but hope it helps!
Very well said. I loved when you said that you didn't know if the rejection fueled an obsession. I absolutely think rejection fuels it because we are human beings when someone we love disappears, cuts us off, starts dating someone new, you name it --- we obsess over it because of rejection. Rejection is a tough pill to swallow for anyone. But in my experience in dating, I have always looked back at times of rejection and then thanked god because it was a blessing.
I always think rejection is protection.
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Kisha speaks very slowly that when I wanted to add stuff or ask her about my chills I couldn't. She doesn't see a reconnection in the next 6 months nor does she see me in any serious relationship soon ... ugh it's so frustrating because I left the reading with no optimism.. I have nothing to look forward to -_- since December my life has been uneventful even if I tried dating other guys or making plans with friends.. it's like everything just stopped and now I'm waiting to get old and die. I really wish she gave me stuff to look forward to. Lady Fontaine told me she saw a reconnection even if it looks like there's a lot of distance now and by fall/winter time he would reach out but as a friend. I would have to trust our connection to really make it happen. I'm ready to rip my hair out aghhh
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Kisha speaks very slowly that when I wanted to add stuff or ask her about my chills I couldn't. She doesn't see a reconnection in the next 6 months nor does she see me in any serious relationship soon ... ugh it's so frustrating because I left the reading with no optimism.. I have nothing to look forward to -_- since December my life has been uneventful even if I tried dating other guys or making plans with friends.. it's like everything just stopped and now I'm waiting to get old and die. I really wish she gave me stuff to look forward to. Lady Fontaine told me she saw a reconnection even if it looks like there's a lot of distance now and by fall/winter time he would reach out but as a friend. I would have to trust our connection to really make it happen. I'm ready to rip my hair out aghhh
I'm sorry about the reading. You always have the freedom to go out and meet other people, readings don't dictate our lives, psychics only see a small portion. Unfortunately when Aries picks up negative outcomes it's usually accurate from what i've read from others on this board but who knows.. I'm sure your love life will move forward once you decide to let go of your POI. I know you don't want to hear that but for your own sanity and growth it's probably for the best. It might be scary and heartbreaking but a month from now you'll be so much better off. You can let life flow and always know that he's alive somewhere out there in the world but getting readings on him is only going to put him in your mind over and over again, therefore not allowing time to distance yourself and let go of him. It's a horrible addiction that is a never ending merry-go-round. The readings only add more stress and anxiety. They might be a quick fix to the present but for the longterm they are a disaster when things don't go the way we want them to. They can be so detrimental to emotional and mental health.
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Thanks yeah it's gonna work out somehow in the end right?
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My experience in life is that we always want someone and when it doesn't work out we are devastated but 5 years later we are thanking our lucky stars it didn't work out. There is not one guy I've dated and been sad about that I didn't thank god for the rejection years down the road. You will be happy in whatever path you take but I don't think stressing yourself out over him right now is healthy for you. I've been there. This time last year I had lost 15 pounds was doing psychic calls nonstop about my POI and when things didn't work out the way they ALL told me it would.... I had to finally let go.
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There is not one guy I've dated and been sad about that I didn't thank god for the rejection years down the road.
OMG yes, yes and YES.
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Thanks Morland1 I was devastated since Day 1. The readings gave me hope and I had all this energy that it could work out as they said etc. but now I feel doubtful and hopeless. My appetite has been gone for the past few days. I wish I could just see him one more time and say sorry that's it. I messaged him on social media and he didn't respond. My texts didn't go through because I'm blocked. I hope one day I can see him again and just say sorry and tell him everything that's happened to me this past year. I'll get over it eventually.
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There is not one guy I've dated and been sad about that I didn't thank god for the rejection years down the road.
OMG yes, yes and YES.
yes yes yes yes yes. the best thing to do is work on yourself and the relationship you have with yourself. if the person is meant to be in your life they will be and if not they won't be. i can relate to everything said in this thread. i've done everything in the past from candles to psychics and you can name it to get guys back. in the end none of it worked. i think its also a selfish way of looking at it when you take a step back. if a person doesn't want to be with you they don't want to be with you. its hard to accept but manipulating energy because YOU want them back isn't going to get them back. even if they do come back if its not meant to stick it won't. you get to a point where you just let go of all outcomes once you've exhausted everything but i think its hard when you're in it and think it will all work. just have faith and love yourself, do things you love, you enjoy. everything else falls into place.
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The only thing I was actually agreeing to was being relieved in hindsight that I'm no longer with a particular guy. Grateful times ten with a slew of them.
I don't believe in all that candle, smoke and mirrors, spells malarkey to manifest what I think I want, especially in something that supposedly bends another person's will.
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The only thing I was actually agreeing to was being relieved in hindsight that I'm no longer with a particular guy. Grateful times ten with a slew of them.
I don't believe in all that candle, smoke and mirrors, spells malarkey to manifest what I think I want, especially in something that supposedly bends another person's will.
I agree it's not working. This psychic told me to buy white candles and etch his name and name on the candle so he could come back faster. Well that it not the case and it never happen and i'm thanks god it didn't happen.
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You're right Ladya if someone doesn't want to be with you there's no point in forcing it and everyone has free will this is so true! At this point I'm respecting my ex's wishes to be apart and I haven't made contact since May when we last spoke. I reached out this week because I want to make peace and it would be nice to get a response but that's it I did my part. We both said nasty things to each other and I admitted to him that the anger was a mask for extreme sadness that went unaddressed since I didn't want the break up. As a human being I think I did the right thing apologizing and leaving things open on my end.. I don't even care at this point if he responds it feels so good to let him know I'm sorry and that I think about him everyday without thinking. I didn't ask him to come back I simply said sorry and that's it.. no psychic saw that coming lol!!
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Girl you got this.. you did your part. Let him be. I feel like giving people space in these particular situations is the best route to take. What will be will be and no one can change that.
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Love all of it! Needed to read this today. Thanks guys!
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Morland1 thank you so much hun, tonight I'm going to cry and let out all the emotions lol have a serious meditation and journaling night.
Mystery123 Aww so happy to hear! I love the positive energy on this thread you all are amazing !!
Tomorrow I'll be a brand new person ready to take on the world I'll update everyone with my progress and I hope you will all keep me updated too. I'm only going to read with one person from now on and I'll make my own list of pros and cons to avoid the rabbit hole. I wish there was a guide for psychic readings for beginners, I had to learn the hard/expensive way that a lot of readers either aren't real or just don't vibe with you and that can affect your thoughts. CP really messed it up for me omg! How can they advertise their readers are tested for accuracy when nothing anyone said came true? Lol!!
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Just had another thought and wanted to share.. another reason that made me think not to get specific readings but general readings maybe every 5-6 months is because if a psychic were to read me, then my intentions and actions would be totally different. I really want to and intend to lose weight, start exercising, finish some of my pending projects at work and I am thinking about all of it all the time. But I am seriously lacking action! So there you go! Same thing with POI..he can have all the thoughts, but action mean everything! LOL
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I really regretted losing my ex, based on who he was at the time we broke up, BUT seeing what he has become since then I am so glad it ended. He has regressed to the point where he seems almost mentally retarded. We don't know what a person will become or how they will change later on. They might have been right for you just for a particular time and that's it. Then you have to part ways because you are literally on a different path than they are. I was the one who broke it off, almost on impulse, then immediately after regretted it and drove myself crazy trying to fix it. My gut instinct was right all along. I still love him and always will but we are not compatible. I thought we could have stayed friends but that wouldn't work either. We still have a strong heart connection but mentally we are not on the same wavelength at all. If I had stayed with him, I would have had to dumb myself way down just to get along with him. It would have been suffocating.
OMG. I had to laugh at some of this just because I've seen examples of this in other people's lives. They stay with someone and they either have to be strong enough to bring the other person up to their level or the downside is that, that person is going to drag them down to where they are. It seems harsh, but I've seen it so many times.
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I completely agree here with everything you all have said. I think in the moment we think its the worst thing that could happen to us but down the road we see people morph into who they truly are and sometimes that just isn't who we want any more. My ex was my BEST FRIEND. I mean we could look at each other randomly and know what each other was thinking. He was truly a "soul-mate" for me. I was devastated when we broke up and struggled with him wanting to be in and out of my life for 6 years. I look back on that now and I'm so thankful things didn't work out the way I wanted them to. I would have missed out on so many opportunities and experiences I have had if we would've worked out. Who he is today isn't who I would want to be with anyway. I tell myself sometimes that there is no way I would want that life. I don't know him anymore.
I struggled with my POI because I want to be in that space with him as I am with my ex. I know one day I will get there but I am still in the "this is the worst thing that could happen" stage. But I know I will be thanking my lucky stars one day because thats how it always is.
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Yep, it's just really difficult when you're in it, but do know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. It's coming.
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I completely agree here with everything you all have said. I think in the moment we think its the worst thing that could happen to us but down the road we see people morph into who they truly are and sometimes that just isn't who we want any more. My ex was my BEST FRIEND. I mean we could look at each other randomly and know what each other was thinking. He was truly a "soul-mate" for me. I was devastated when we broke up and struggled with him wanting to be in and out of my life for 6 years. I look back on that now and I'm so thankful things didn't work out the way I wanted them to. I would have missed out on so many opportunities and experiences I have had if we would've worked out. Who he is today isn't who I would want to be with anyway. I tell myself sometimes that there is no way I would want that life. I don't know him anymore.
I struggled with my POI because I want to be in that space with him as I am with my ex. I know one day I will get there but I am still in the "this is the worst thing that could happen" stage. But I know I will be thanking my lucky stars one day because thats how it always is.
I can relate!! My ex was my only best friend too for 4 years and I made the mistake of making him a priority over making new friends... now all of my potential new friends are married and closer with their friends. They're busy and life is hectic so I understand but I should've kept the door open for other friendships outside of my relationship. I finally went out with a friend after a long time and my eyes just opened up to how valuable I am.
You don't have to get over your POI take your time, just focus on YOU and do things for yourself eat that ice cream have a lazy day or even an incredible spa day... take your time slowly you will see your worth and realize wow your POI really messed up by not being with someone as awesome as you are!
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Awe thank you I definitely needed to hear that.
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You got this girl! 💖
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So I made a tinder today.. 😂😂😭 no psychic foresaw that!!! It's fun.. slightly intimidating 😂