The Psychic Reviews
Relationship Psychology Discussions => My Story => Topic started by: XeroLove on July 15, 2018, 01:41:41 PM
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My ex and I broke up in February. It was one of the hardest things I’ve gone through in my entire life (or so I thought). I moved to a new state in hopes of a fresh start, but all it did was make me miss him more. One day I was reading my horoscope and I saw a listing for an online psychic at the bottom of the page. Early the next morning I decided to give it a try and I used 4-5 psychics within an hour. I was instantly hooked. From then on I would use my entire paycheck on Keen. I did this for about two months until I finally decided enough was enough and that I was going to contact my ex.
So I did it. I texted him. To my surprise he responded within ten minutes and I was not blocked. I couldn’t believe it. I had plans to visit my hometown a month after we started talking again and I told him. He told me he wanted to sleep with me when I came to visit. That should’ve been my first sign, but I was so excited to have that feeling again that I thought it was the best thing in the world.
I visited him a month later and we had an amazing time, or so I thought. I think I was so infatuated with the thought of having him again that any attention I received from him made me feel like he loved me and wanted me. Boy was I wrong. After our visit decided to move back to my hometown because I felt happy when I visited. I missed my home for so long and especially the person in it who made me feel so good.
I moved back up within a couple of weeks and we decided to hang out again. Long story short he didn’t want me how I thought he did and it made me go crazy and lose my sh*t. I hadn’t acted like that since the last time I had saw him. It wasn’t clear at the time, but it’s clear now that he truly brought out the worst in me.
If you don’t get anything from this, at least realize that someone who truly loves you will not make you wait and worry. They will not be out of contact for months if their true intention in the end is to be with you. They would be in your life. Why waste your time and money on them? I am not bashing psychics, because maybe they’re right about outcomes, but it may not be the fairytale you picture in your head. More psychics told me I would have him back then not. They were right, I had him back, but no where near how I wanted it to be and not for very long.
I promise you, it get better. Let go. Enjoy life. Someone will come along and make you feel that feeling again. It’s not gone forever. When you least expect it, someone will amaze you and you’ll be able to cherish them more than you’ve ever cherished anyone and they will feel it. I guarantee it :)
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If you don’t get anything from this, at least realize that someone who truly loves you will not make you wait and worry. They will not be out of contact for months if their true intention in the end is to be with you. They would be in your life. Why waste your time and money on them?
I promise you, it get better. Let go. Enjoy life. Someone will come along and make you feel that feeling again. It’s not gone forever. When you least expect it, someone will amaze you and you’ll be able to cherish them more than you’ve ever cherished anyone and they will feel it. I guarantee it :)
That is exactly right.
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So True I wish I really should I seen this forum sooner.
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If you don’t get anything from this, at least realize that someone who truly loves you will not make you wait and worry. They will not be out of contact for months if their true intention in the end is to be with you. They would be in your life. Why waste your time and money on them?
I promise you, it get better. Let go. Enjoy life. Someone will come along and make you feel that feeling again. It’s not gone forever. When you least expect it, someone will amaze you and you’ll be able to cherish them more than you’ve ever cherished anyone and they will feel it. I guarantee it :)
That is exactly right.
Second this, exactly right. I think the reason why i went though such a depression after the first POI I was calling about was the fact that aside from all the money I wasted on readings about him, I really realized that someone that TRULY cares and wants to be in your life, won't put you through all this BS. Won't leave you filled with anxiety and uncertainty. Won't disappear for long periods of time with no contact. Unless they have a really good reason on ghosting you, there is no excuse! anyone can take a few minutes out of their day to shoot a text and say hello, how are you, you still alive? LOL. Think about it, if they really wanted to be with you, would they disappear and take a chance that you might meet someone new? It doesn't make sense. I dated a guy in my 20s like this, total self centered jerk who would reappear and disappear at his leisure. I never got readings on him, but guaranteed if I did, they would have told me that he would come around and commit, etc....HUGE jerk and waste of my time.
Of course no relationship is perfect but anyone who puts you through the wringer will all those toxic emotions is not worth your time, and we all deserve better.
I think the life lesson I learned though him was to respect myself more.
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If you don’t get anything from this, at least realize that someone who truly loves you will not make you wait and worry. They will not be out of contact for months if their true intention in the end is to be with you. They would be in your life. Why waste your time and money on them?
I promise you, it get better. Let go. Enjoy life. Someone will come along and make you feel that feeling again. It’s not gone forever. When you least expect it, someone will amaze you and you’ll be able to cherish them more than you’ve ever cherished anyone and they will feel it. I guarantee it :)
That is exactly right.
Sound advice.
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That's why as I said in a recent post, this is never a guy issue, this is an ANXIETY problem.
Everyone knows no man is worth "this".
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That's why as I said in a recent post, this is never a guy issue, this is an ANXIETY problem.
Everyone knows no man is worth "this".
I agree
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That's why as I said in a recent post, this is never a guy issue, this is an ANXIETY problem.
Everyone knows no man is worth "this".
I can't agree with this more. Once I realized I had an ANXIETY issue, not a guy issue, I stopped calling so much. Of course the connection with this POI wasn't working out but my anxiety had me compulsively calling or hanging on to predictions - so I worked on the core anxiety issue and have been a lot better. I also let go of the person who obviously had no interest in being a partner.
I saw a good meme today: "I hope you understand in 2018 that your time is valuable and in the name of self love, stop associating with people who don't reciprocate your efforts".
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Agree with everything you said. Poi ghosting you, let it go you can find someone better. Instead we wasted so much money on psychics to see what will happen and how they felt about us which we can never validate that it true or not. Reading with psychics it truly a way to be in denial and to get you high and thinking how great it going to be, like the psychics said.
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Agree with everything you said. Poi ghosting you, let it go you can find someone better. Instead we wasted so much money on psychics to see what will happen and how they felt about us which we can never validate that it true or not. Reading with psychics it truly a way to be in denial and to get you high and thinking how great it going to be, like the psychics said.
I agree lol Readings can be detrimental to our "moving on" process. But....Was there any psychic that was ever right for you, @Psychic Girls ?? ever???
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Agree with everything you said. Poi ghosting you, let it go you can find someone better. Instead we wasted so much money on psychics to see what will happen and how they felt about us which we can never validate that it true or not. Reading with psychics it truly a way to be in denial and to get you high and thinking how great it going to be, like the psychics said.
I agree lol Readings can be detrimental to our "moving on" process. But....Was there any psychic that was ever right for you, @Psychic Girls ?? ever???
Nope I don’t think psychics ability eixists.
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I agree with a lot said here. I did want to add though that in some cases, the poi or ex will not ghost, but remain in somewhat consistent contact, maybe not daily, but weekly or something like that, after they've done you dirty and supposedly moved on to "start their new life". One has to ask themselves why that is. What's the motive. It can be because they really do want to remain friends and feel the two of you do better that way. However, more often than not, there is a self serving motive there and they will keep contact simply to keep you on a back burner as a fall back option without you really even realizing it.
This is just to say that, just because someone keeps in contact with you doesn't mean they really care and want to be a part of your life. I see a lot of people on here that say "If they really want to be with you then they wouldn't go without contact for long periods of time". Them remaining in constant contact can actually make it harder and be more of an emotional roller coaster and not be for the reason's one would hope for. In my opinion, contact doesn't even matter. It's what is their behavior toward you, what are they SHOWING you. Are they putting in any kind of efforts that are satisfactory for YOU.
And yeah, if you find yourself dealing with someone that makes you feel anxious and/or emotionally upset or traumatized.........most of want to figure out the reason why and that's why we call these psychics, when really we should probably be running for the hills and maybe someday we'll figure out the reason why and maybe we won't but at least we'll have our sanity and dignity in tact. lol
That's just my 2.5 cents.
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I agree with a lot said here. I did want to add though that in some cases, the poi or ex will not ghost, but remain in somewhat consistent contact, maybe not daily, but weekly or something like that, after they've done you dirty and supposedly moved on to "start their new life". One has to ask themselves why that is. What's the motive. It can be because they really do want to remain friends and feel the two of you do better that way. However, more often than not, there is a self serving motive there and they will keep contact simply to keep you on a back burner as a fall back option without you really even realizing it.
This is just to say that, just because someone keeps in contact with you doesn't mean they really care and want to be a part of your life. I see a lot of people on here that say "If they really want to be with you then they wouldn't go without contact for long periods of time". Them remaining in constant contact can actually make it harder and be more of an emotional roller coaster and not be for the reason's one would hope for. In my opinion, contact doesn't even matter. It's what is their behavior toward you, what are they SHOWING you. Are they putting in any kind of efforts that are satisfactory for YOU.
And yeah, if you find yourself dealing with someone that makes you feel anxious and/or emotionally upset or traumatized.........most of want to figure out the reason why and that's why we call these psychics, when really we should probably be running for the hills and maybe someday we'll figure out the reason why and maybe we won't but at least we'll have our sanity and dignity in tact. lol
That's just my 2.5 cents.
Great post. I can so relate...
I agree keeping even in limited contact with some of these POIs can really mess with you more. that's why I cut off all contact with first guy, hearing from him sporadically was just making it harder to move on. It would get my hopes up.
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I agree with a lot said here. I did want to add though that in some cases, the poi or ex will not ghost, but remain in somewhat consistent contact, maybe not daily, but weekly or something like that, after they've done you dirty and supposedly moved on to "start their new life". One has to ask themselves why that is. What's the motive. It can be because they really do want to remain friends and feel the two of you do better that way. However, more often than not, there is a self serving motive there and they will keep contact simply to keep you on a back burner as a fall back option without you really even realizing it.
This is just to say that, just because someone keeps in contact with you doesn't mean they really care and want to be a part of your life. I see a lot of people on here that say "If they really want to be with you then they wouldn't go without contact for long periods of time". Them remaining in constant contact can actually make it harder and be more of an emotional roller coaster and not be for the reason's one would hope for. In my opinion, contact doesn't even matter. It's what is their behavior toward you, what are they SHOWING you. Are they putting in any kind of efforts that are satisfactory for YOU.
And yeah, if you find yourself dealing with someone that makes you feel anxious and/or emotionally upset or traumatized.........most of want to figure out the reason why and that's why we call these psychics, when really we should probably be running for the hills and maybe someday we'll figure out the reason why and maybe we won't but at least we'll have our sanity and dignity in tact. lol
That's just my 2.5 cents.
Great post. I can so relate...
I agree keeping even in limited contact with some of these POIs can really mess with you more. that's why I cut off all contact with first guy, hearing from him sporadically was just making it harder to move on. It would get my hopes up.
Totally agree. Each contact we receive is like, ok have they come to their senses? Is one of these contacts going to eventually be them wanting to reconcile? Why are they contacting me? It MUST be because they still care. That's what it was doing to me. But, now, even though I still receive daily contact and yeah I'm getting the hints and sweet words and the wanting to half ass reconcile on his terms.........I put no thought into the contact being received. I just look at it like it's whatever and don't even expect to keep receiving it. It gets tiring and a lot of times I WISH he would have ghosted me and just didn't contact for an extended period of time. That way, that creates enough space for true healing to occur and then who cares if contact is made and when it is made.........again you're not really bothered by it and aren't interested anymore.
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I agree with a lot said here. I did want to add though that in some cases, the poi or ex will not ghost, but remain in somewhat consistent contact, maybe not daily, but weekly or something like that, after they've done you dirty and supposedly moved on to "start their new life". One has to ask themselves why that is. What's the motive. It can be because they really do want to remain friends and feel the two of you do better that way. However, more often than not, there is a self serving motive there and they will keep contact simply to keep you on a back burner as a fall back option without you really even realizing it.
This is just to say that, just because someone keeps in contact with you doesn't mean they really care and want to be a part of your life. I see a lot of people on here that say "If they really want to be with you then they wouldn't go without contact for long periods of time". Them remaining in constant contact can actually make it harder and be more of an emotional roller coaster and not be for the reason's one would hope for. In my opinion, contact doesn't even matter. It's what is their behavior toward you, what are they SHOWING you. Are they putting in any kind of efforts that are satisfactory for YOU.
And yeah, if you find yourself dealing with someone that makes you feel anxious and/or emotionally upset or traumatized.........most of want to figure out the reason why and that's why we call these psychics, when really we should probably be running for the hills and maybe someday we'll figure out the reason why and maybe we won't but at least we'll have our sanity and dignity in tact. lol
That's just my 2.5 cents.
Great post. I can so relate...
I agree keeping even in limited contact with some of these POIs can really mess with you more. that's why I cut off all contact with first guy, hearing from him sporadically was just making it harder to move on. It would get my hopes up.
Totally agree. Each contact we receive is like, ok have they come to their senses? Is one of these contacts going to eventually be them wanting to reconcile? Why are they contacting me? It MUST be because they still care. That's what it was doing to me. But, now, even though I still receive daily contact and yeah I'm getting the hints and sweet words and the wanting to half ass reconcile on his terms.........I put no thought into the contact being received. I just look at it like it's whatever and don't even expect to keep receiving it. It gets tiring and a lot of times I WISH he would have ghosted me and just didn't contact for an extended period of time. That way, that creates enough space for true healing to occur and then who cares if contact is made and when it is made.........again you're not really bothered by it and aren't interested anymore.
So true. that's why when some POIs come back, they are no longer POIs, because we are no longer interested.
I personally have no time or sympathy for inconsistent men. You want to come back, show me something, that you're serious, or GTFO of my life. Literally, have no patience for it. Such a turn off.
Never let someone be in your life on their terms. It's setting the whole pattern of the relationship to be on their terms..and you deserve more.
I would personally just ask the guy, listen, this is what I want, this is what I'm looking for. See how they reply. It sounds like this guy has been in your life long enough for you to set some boundaries. If it scares him away, F him.
Sorry, if that sounds harsh but I see so many great women sell themselves short for these guys. So not worth it.
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I agree with a lot said here. I did want to add though that in some cases, the poi or ex will not ghost, but remain in somewhat consistent contact, maybe not daily, but weekly or something like that, after they've done you dirty and supposedly moved on to "start their new life". One has to ask themselves why that is. What's the motive. It can be because they really do want to remain friends and feel the two of you do better that way. However, more often than not, there is a self serving motive there and they will keep contact simply to keep you on a back burner as a fall back option without you really even realizing it.
This is just to say that, just because someone keeps in contact with you doesn't mean they really care and want to be a part of your life. I see a lot of people on here that say "If they really want to be with you then they wouldn't go without contact for long periods of time". Them remaining in constant contact can actually make it harder and be more of an emotional roller coaster and not be for the reason's one would hope for. In my opinion, contact doesn't even matter. It's what is their behavior toward you, what are they SHOWING you. Are they putting in any kind of efforts that are satisfactory for YOU.
And yeah, if you find yourself dealing with someone that makes you feel anxious and/or emotionally upset or traumatized.........most of want to figure out the reason why and that's why we call these psychics, when really we should probably be running for the hills and maybe someday we'll figure out the reason why and maybe we won't but at least we'll have our sanity and dignity in tact. lol
That's just my 2.5 cents.
I totally agree with all of this! This was my situation and I should have cut ties with my ex LONG before I did. It keeps you constantly guessing as to what they want and why they are keeping it going.
A friend of my ex told me, right after we broke up...he holds people hostage emotionally. I was stunned and didn't believe it. Oh boy, now I do. Now I know exactly what that means.
You know what? That's a very enlightening way of putting it......holding people hostage emotionally. I wasn't really even aware of this type of thing until I began studying narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths, and just cluster B personality types in general. It was shocking to learn about but at the same time, it really helps the healing process along knowing that it isn't "just you". It's an issue within them that will not change unless help is sought out, which is highly unlikely. That friend of your ex was very wise and observant and it's a great thing that person shared that information with you. Very very good way of putting it.
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I agree with a lot said here. I did want to add though that in some cases, the poi or ex will not ghost, but remain in somewhat consistent contact, maybe not daily, but weekly or something like that, after they've done you dirty and supposedly moved on to "start their new life". One has to ask themselves why that is. What's the motive. It can be because they really do want to remain friends and feel the two of you do better that way. However, more often than not, there is a self serving motive there and they will keep contact simply to keep you on a back burner as a fall back option without you really even realizing it.
This is just to say that, just because someone keeps in contact with you doesn't mean they really care and want to be a part of your life. I see a lot of people on here that say "If they really want to be with you then they wouldn't go without contact for long periods of time". Them remaining in constant contact can actually make it harder and be more of an emotional roller coaster and not be for the reason's one would hope for. In my opinion, contact doesn't even matter. It's what is their behavior toward you, what are they SHOWING you. Are they putting in any kind of efforts that are satisfactory for YOU.
And yeah, if you find yourself dealing with someone that makes you feel anxious and/or emotionally upset or traumatized.........most of want to figure out the reason why and that's why we call these psychics, when really we should probably be running for the hills and maybe someday we'll figure out the reason why and maybe we won't but at least we'll have our sanity and dignity in tact. lol
That's just my 2.5 cents.
Great post. I can so relate...
I agree keeping even in limited contact with some of these POIs can really mess with you more. that's why I cut off all contact with first guy, hearing from him sporadically was just making it harder to move on. It would get my hopes up.
Totally agree. Each contact we receive is like, ok have they come to their senses? Is one of these contacts going to eventually be them wanting to reconcile? Why are they contacting me? It MUST be because they still care. That's what it was doing to me. But, now, even though I still receive daily contact and yeah I'm getting the hints and sweet words and the wanting to half ass reconcile on his terms.........I put no thought into the contact being received. I just look at it like it's whatever and don't even expect to keep receiving it. It gets tiring and a lot of times I WISH he would have ghosted me and just didn't contact for an extended period of time. That way, that creates enough space for true healing to occur and then who cares if contact is made and when it is made.........again you're not really bothered by it and aren't interested anymore.
So true. that's why when some POIs come back, they are no longer POIs, because we are no longer interested.
I personally have no time or sympathy for inconsistent men. You want to come back, show me something, that you're serious, or GTFO of my life. Literally, have no patience for it. Such a turn off.
Never let someone be in your life on their terms. It's setting the whole pattern of the relationship to be on their terms..and you deserve more.
I would personally just ask the guy, listen, this is what I want, this is what I'm looking for. See how they reply. It sounds like this guy has been in your life long enough for you to set some boundaries. If it scares him away, F him.
Sorry, if that sounds harsh but I see so many great women sell themselves short for these guys. So not worth it.
Yeah..........unfortunately I allowed him to set the whole pattern of the relationship from the beginning due to the situation with his kids and me feeling sorry for him. I didn't know how much of a lying snake he really was back then so I was just trying to compromise and be fair. After some time of repeated patterns, I began to lose all compassion for his situation and felt he shouldn't be around his kids anyway because of who he was and how he behaved. He presents himself to people as someone and something he's not. He even deceives his kids with that stuff. They don't even know who he really is. He's very good at playing roles. I have already told him time and time again what I wanted and that if he cannot provide that to me then to leave me alone. He just doesn't ever leave me alone. As stilltired mentioned, it appears that he likes to emotionally hold me hostage. He's part of the cluster B personality type.
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My first POI had tons of issues too, involving kids as well. Still no excuse as to why he treated me the way he did.
I had so much sympathy and empathy for him but he really did not deserve it
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My first POI had tons of issues too, involving kids as well. Still no excuse as to why he treated me the way he did.
I had so much sympathy and empathy for him but he really did not deserve it
Yep. I completely agree. Situations even with kids doesn't mean one has to be treated like utter shit.
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My first POI had tons of issues too, involving kids as well. Still no excuse as to why he treated me the way he did.
I had so much sympathy and empathy for him but he really did not deserve it
Yep. I completely agree. Situations even with kids doesn't mean one has to be treated like utter shit.
I know. there really is no excuse.
At the end of the day, we all have our issues and problems. It doesn't give us free reign though to mistreat others or ignore others who mean something to us.
My mistake with first guy was fooling myself into believing he could eventually offer me what I wanted and needed from a man. the readings egged this on (and that is why I am so against them for the most part now)....the constant "he will come around", "he will realize what he wants"; "he will come forward and make changes"...he never did.
He was pretty honest with me too about what he could or couldn't offer at the time. I chose to wait around and for that I will forever regret. But it taught me a lot that's for sure. that's why second guy got cut off with a quickness when I saw similar patterns.
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My first POI had tons of issues too, involving kids as well. Still no excuse as to why he treated me the way he did.
I had so much sympathy and empathy for him but he really did not deserve it
Yep. I completely agree. Situations even with kids doesn't mean one has to be treated like utter shit.
I know. there really is no excuse.
At the end of the day, we all have our issues and problems. It doesn't give us free reign though to mistreat others or ignore others who mean something to us.
My mistake with first guy was fooling myself into believing he could eventually offer me what I wanted and needed from a man. the readings egged this on (and that is why I am so against them for the most part now)....the constant "he will come around", "he will realize what he wants"; "he will come forward and make changes"...he never did.
He was pretty honest with me too about what he could or couldn't offer at the time. I chose to wait around and for that I will forever regret. But it taught me a lot that's for sure. that's why second guy got cut off with a quickness when I saw similar patterns.
did your intuition tell you he would come around or not?
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My first POI had tons of issues too, involving kids as well. Still no excuse as to why he treated me the way he did.
I had so much sympathy and empathy for him but he really did not deserve it
Yep. I completely agree. Situations even with kids doesn't mean one has to be treated like utter shit.
I know. there really is no excuse.
At the end of the day, we all have our issues and problems. It doesn't give us free reign though to mistreat others or ignore others who mean something to us.
My mistake with first guy was fooling myself into believing he could eventually offer me what I wanted and needed from a man. the readings egged this on (and that is why I am so against them for the most part now)....the constant "he will come around", "he will realize what he wants"; "he will come forward and make changes"...he never did.
He was pretty honest with me too about what he could or couldn't offer at the time. I chose to wait around and for that I will forever regret. But it taught me a lot that's for sure. that's why second guy got cut off with a quickness when I saw similar patterns.
did your intuition tell you he would come around or not?
yes my intuition told me he would come around, and he did always come around, but never offered me what I wanted or needed. So I had to break that pattern and stop wasting my time.
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My first POI had tons of issues too, involving kids as well. Still no excuse as to why he treated me the way he did.
I had so much sympathy and empathy for him but he really did not deserve it
Yep. I completely agree. Situations even with kids doesn't mean one has to be treated like utter shit.
I know. there really is no excuse.
At the end of the day, we all have our issues and problems. It doesn't give us free reign though to mistreat others or ignore others who mean something to us.
My mistake with first guy was fooling myself into believing he could eventually offer me what I wanted and needed from a man. the readings egged this on (and that is why I am so against them for the most part now)....the constant "he will come around", "he will realize what he wants"; "he will come forward and make changes"...he never did.
He was pretty honest with me too about what he could or couldn't offer at the time. I chose to wait around and for that I will forever regret. But it taught me a lot that's for sure. that's why second guy got cut off with a quickness when I saw similar patterns.
did your intuition tell you he would come around or not?
yes my intuition told me he would come around, and he did always come around, but never offered me what I wanted or needed. So I had to break that pattern and stop wasting my time.
i meant come around in the way you needed. not just check in.
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In the beginning, I held out a lot of hope that he would change..and the readers (some that you love in fact) told me the same. Yes I did believe we would be together for a long while. I would say only at the beginning of last year I really started to doubt. I pretty much gave up by spring time...But I started reading on Keen about him in 2014! and it took that long to get over him.
My intuition was skewed by readings, and I felt I cold no longer trust it after a while. I'm past that now and see clearer, thank God.
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My first POI had tons of issues too, involving kids as well. Still no excuse as to why he treated me the way he did.
I had so much sympathy and empathy for him but he really did not deserve it
Yep. I completely agree. Situations even with kids doesn't mean one has to be treated like utter shit.
I know. there really is no excuse.
At the end of the day, we all have our issues and problems. It doesn't give us free reign though to mistreat others or ignore others who mean something to us.
My mistake with first guy was fooling myself into believing he could eventually offer me what I wanted and needed from a man. the readings egged this on (and that is why I am so against them for the most part now)....the constant "he will come around", "he will realize what he wants"; "he will come forward and make changes"...he never did.
He was pretty honest with me too about what he could or couldn't offer at the time. I chose to wait around and for that I will forever regret. But it taught me a lot that's for sure. that's why second guy got cut off with a quickness when I saw similar patterns.
Yeah I totally get why you would shun readings. I used to have a ton of readings outside of who I read with now that would do that. "Oh yeah he'll get it together" blah blah. But, my go tos would tell me that he will not change for an extended period of time. The thing that kept me hanging on though was their comments about "He means well, but he's just not in the position to make changes right now". So the whole thing about him meaning well.......I decided ok well if he doesn't have horrid intentions maybe I can just stick around and wait it out and maybe it'll be worth it in a few more years cause maybe he just needs to be around someone that can teach him different things. But, nope. No changes, same patterns, and all the "meaning well" in the world doesn't change shitty behaviors. To add to this, how the hell does someone "mean well" when they are cheating and lying and doing self serving shit? I could NEVER understand that part of it. I think the times he would come back around, that perhaps he "meant well" for those 5 minutes, but he just has such terrible habits and he never sticks to anything so maybe that's what they meant be "mean well". Lol. Idk.
I would definitely cut off another with the quickness now if I saw anything even close to the same type of crap. So, there's definitely a reason for these experiences we have. I know this one taught me about boundaries, self love, and self respect, albeit a very painful lesson.
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A big part of the problem with my first guy was that I think he believed I would always be there, waiting for him..and why not? I showed him that I was always there for him when he decided to come around even after no contact for a while.
I know he loved and cared for me too..that was obvious. He was just dysfunctional AF tbh. I really pity anyone who got involved with him after me...or anyone who was involved with him before me. He's just not long term material.
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In the beginning, I held out a lot of hope that he would change..and the readers (some that you love in fact) told me the same. Yes I did believe we would be together for a long while. I would say only at the beginning of last year I really started to doubt. I pretty much gave up by spring time...But I started reading on Keen about him in 2014! and it took that long to get over him.
My intuition was skewed by readings, and I felt I cold no longer trust it after a while. I'm past that now and see clearer, thank God.
i believe our gut always knows the answer and intuition always comes first. its not good when it becomes the other way around and i see how that messed you up. It should only verify what you already know deep down and strengthen the intuition not mess with it more.
Eh I don't know. If that's the case, why call psychics at all, if you know? People call psychics (mostly) because they are confused by a person's behavior...and are looking for insight they can't see. We might feel an emotional connection to someone and feel it's going to turn into something and then when things take a turn for the worse, we seek out readings to see if we are still on the right path. I truly trusted the readings in the beginning.
Hell, if I was still talking to and getting readings on that guy, I'm sure most of these readers would be telling me we are "meant to be" still. I had to make my own destiny and decide not to put up with crap.
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Here's an example: I remember I had a date planned with first POI and I was so excited about it (this was in the beginning)...I even asked a few of my favorite psychics at the time how it would go and does this mean things are finally going to go in the right direction? they all said yes, reassured me. I was so happy..because he had been distant for a while and then he came back so strong.
He ended up canceling the date on me and being a total jerk about it too. I must have cried for two hours over that. I called all my readers like, what happened?? they all encouraged me to hang in there, he was scared...all kinds of BS that I believed!
I get so sick when I think about it.
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But, my go tos would tell me that he will not change for an extended period of time. The thing that kept me hanging on though was their comments about "He means well, but he's just not in the position to make changes right now".
That was what kept me hanging on too, the idea that he would change. That they saw some time in the future when he would have this big change of heart, and grow out of all the bad behaviors and come back to me as a brand new person. They literally said things like that and portrayed it as if he would go through some miraculuous transformation.
I would definitely cut off another with the quickness now if I saw anything even close to the same type of crap. So, there's definitely a reason for these experiences we have. I know this one taught me about boundaries, self love, and self respect, albeit a very painful lesson.
Same here. It was very painful but I'm not sure if I could have learned it any other way. I was just too caught up in my own idealism to really see it.
Yes exactly! Same here, like he was going to be come a whole new person. I even got the "you make him want to be better" lines.
People don't really change who they are, at the core. I can't believe I actually believed that stuff.
Even if he did change, he would have come with a whole crap load of baggage that would have sucked for me to put up with anyway, so it all worked out for the best.
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Well stated! Contact doesn’t matter, if there is nothing serious coming from it, unless you both want casual friendship and lets be real we dont call psychics about casual friends.
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Well stated! Contact doesn’t matter, if there is nothing serious coming from it, unless you both want casual friendship and lets be real we dont call psychics about casual friends.
thank you!! I have been saying that too..contact is meaningless unless there's real intent behind it...people read WAY too much into it.
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You spent your whole paycheck on Keen? Wow! I am a very positive person and I know God has a great plan for me. I know I will find my soulmate soon.