The Psychic Reviews
Metaphysical, Spiritual and Psychic Discussions => Keen.com => Topic started by: AustralieNs on January 12, 2018, 06:17:44 AM
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I've been hoping to hear from a guy I was seeing for almost three months now. At this point it feels like it's getting ridiculous. I'm always in pain because I'm not hearing from him and I think I want to take control and contact him. It would be MUCH better if HE were the one to reach out to ME but what if he never does? So many top readers see contact happening in January- so I'm thinking of waiting out January- but if I don't hear anything by February 1, just texting him something friendly/casual. But tonight I spoke to Tara from CP and she gave me a time of five weeks- putting me at Mid February. I hate when continuously getting readings keeps you shifting your focus to later and later timelines, so I think I might just cut it off at Feb 1 anyway. Now, I have been warned a million times this guy would much rather be the one to make contact and easily feels pushed and pressured- and I can attest to this. So reaching out is risky (hence psychics). What do you guys think I should do? Is Tara really that trustworthy? Have any of you defied the timelines and reached out on your own? Did you regret it? Should I contact him?
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Not gonna hurt to do it, at least you'll have your final answer :)
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sorry. if it were me, i wouldn't contact him. you have said yourself that he is the type of guy that likes to be in control and would want to be in the drivers seat. I have been in your position before and did reach out to a POI at the time and NEVER heard back. You may or may not get a response. He has ghosted you and when a man does this, there is ALWAYS a reason. If a man truly wants to see you, talk to you or be with you ... history time and time again says that they will reach out when they want to. I get it, it sucks. I know. If this Tara woman is correct, then get real busy and they will contact when their timing is right. But don't hang around and make peace with the situation.
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sorry. if it were me, i wouldn't contact him. you have said yourself that he is the type of guy that likes to be in control and would want to be in the drivers seat. I have been in your position before and did reach out to a POI at the time and NEVER heard back. You may or may not get a response. He has ghosted you and when a man does this, there is ALWAYS a reason. If a man truly wants to see you, talk to you or be with you ... history time and time again says that they will reach out when they want to. I get it, it sucks. I know. If this Tara woman is correct, then get real busy and they will contact when their timing is right. But don't hang around and make peace with the situation.
Agree 100%
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Don’t make the same mistake as I do. They will said the same thing to everyone. Just contact him and ask him out if he said no then he not into you.
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sorry. if it were me, i wouldn't contact him. you have said yourself that he is the type of guy that likes to be in control and would want to be in the drivers seat. I have been in your position before and did reach out to a POI at the time and NEVER heard back. You may or may not get a response. He has ghosted you and when a man does this, there is ALWAYS a reason. If a man truly wants to see you, talk to you or be with you ... history time and time again says that they will reach out when they want to. I get it, it sucks. I know. If this Tara woman is correct, then get real busy and they will contact when their timing is right. But don't hang around and make peace with the situation.
I tend to agree with this advice. I reached out to a POI too soon and it did not go well. I fully understand the emotions around it.. I know how terribly hard it can be to be in limbo - not hearing from someone you still feel and love.. but unless you have a strong strong sign to reach out, I would leave it.. BTW I KNOW how hard it is to be busy.. .. focusing on anything when you're in emotional pain is excessively. The worst pain is emotional pain.. it lingers and affects every area of your life.. I know..
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sorry. if it were me, i wouldn't contact him. you have said yourself that he is the type of guy that likes to be in control and would want to be in the drivers seat. I have been in your position before and did reach out to a POI at the time and NEVER heard back. You may or may not get a response. He has ghosted you and when a man does this, there is ALWAYS a reason. If a man truly wants to see you, talk to you or be with you ... history time and time again says that they will reach out when they want to. I get it, it sucks. I know. If this Tara woman is correct, then get real busy and they will contact when their timing is right. But don't hang around and make peace with the situation.
Agree 100%
Agree 200%
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I've been hoping to hear from a guy I was seeing for almost three months now. At this point it feels like it's getting ridiculous. I'm always in pain because I'm not hearing from him and I think I want to take control and contact him. It would be MUCH better if HE were the one to reach out to ME but what if he never does? So many top readers see contact happening in January- so I'm thinking of waiting out January- but if I don't hear anything by February 1, just texting him something friendly/casual. But tonight I spoke to Tara from CP and she gave me a time of five weeks- putting me at Mid February. I hate when continuously getting readings keeps you shifting your focus to later and later timelines, so I think I might just cut it off at Feb 1 anyway. Now, I have been warned a million times this guy would much rather be the one to make contact and easily feels pushed and pressured- and I can attest to this. So reaching out is risky (hence psychics). What do you guys think I should do? Is Tara really that trustworthy? Have any of you defied the timelines and reached out on your own? Did you regret it? Should I contact him?
I thought about this for a few minutes because initially I would have given the practical advice of "wait for him to reach out to you"
I think I need more information. What were the circumstances? Did you guys have a fight? Were things going well but then he just stopped responding? Were you moving too fast? Regardless, since you stated that you were dating for three months I think that warrants an explanation.
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Thank you so much for all your input, ladies! I feel like I agree with everyone agghh! I really like the idea that I'm only tempted to reach out to settle my own anxiety arising from waiting- which is true. I guess the absolute strongest thing to do is not reach out at all and make peace with the idea he may never text me. At the same time I like the idea of just finding out he's not "scared" or whatever- he's just a jerk- and letting go in a way I haven't been able to yet.
Luckystar- here's the breakdown. On the heels of our own traumatic breakups, he and I both joined a dating site and "met" that way. We texted for like nine months and continuously flaked on each other- when one was ready to be brave - the other would have second thoughts. When we finally met it was amazing. He lives far so he drove two hours to my house and spent the whole weekend with me- which neither of us expected. He was like immediately all about it. He would say things like "that's an us thing" and "I wanna drive across the whole country with you" and "I don't care what we do I just wanna be with you that's all I care about" and "well as long as you like my hair that's all that matters" etc. introduced me to everyone in his life, family friends boss. We spent weekends with each other. We started to have some tension surrounding him making plans to see me one weekend and then going to his friends cabin instead without telling me. Then he got flakey with texts and his mom went into the hospital with a heart issue- he started telling me he was getting stressed with life and it was hard having his weekends eaten up- which I got. I was never demanding of his time I just wanted a heads up if he wasnt coming up so I could make my own plans. One day after he ignored my text for like a whole day I said "can you tell me what's going on". He said "I don't feel committted to a relationship but I LOVE the time we spend together and I like you a lot" I wasn't sure if that meant he wanted a relationship eventually or not. I asked him to call me about it sometime soon. He said sure but I could tell in the routine texting of the following days he was shy about it and probably not going to call. What I said was scary, I'll admit. I said "well I need to decide if I want to keep seeing you" and he said "but I want to keep talking to you and seeing you!" And I said "well call me so I can figure out where your head is at and see if I want that too." A couple days later I was impatient and texted him "how about tonight" and when he didn't respond by that night, I blocked him on social media. He probably thinks I don't want to hear from him but he's all I think about
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hmmm after reading your story, I'm not sure now. I still lean towards waiting for him to reach out though...that way you know he really wanted to see/talk to you instead of just maybe trying to be polite by responding to you.
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Thank you so much for all your input, ladies! I feel like I agree with everyone agghh! I really like the idea that I'm only tempted to reach out to settle my own anxiety arising from waiting- which is true. I guess the absolute strongest thing to do is not reach out at all and make peace with the idea he may never text me. At the same time I like the idea of just finding out he's not "scared" or whatever- he's just a jerk- and letting go in a way I haven't been able to yet.
Luckystar- here's the breakdown. On the heels of our own traumatic breakups, he and I both joined a dating site and "met" that way. We texted for like nine months and continuously flaked on each other- when one was ready to be brave - the other would have second thoughts. When we finally met it was amazing. He lives far so he drove two hours to my house and spent the whole weekend with me- which neither of us expected. He was like immediately all about it. He would say things like "that's an us thing" and "I wanna drive across the whole country with you" and "I don't care what we do I just wanna be with you that's all I care about" and "well as long as you like my hair that's all that matters" etc. introduced me to everyone in his life, family friends boss. We spent weekends with each other. We started to have some tension surrounding him making plans to see me one weekend and then going to his friends cabin instead without telling me. Then he got flakey with texts and his mom went into the hospital with a heart issue- he started telling me he was getting stressed with life and it was hard having his weekends eaten up- which I got. I was never demanding of his time I just wanted a heads up if he wasnt coming up so I could make my own plans. One day after he ignored my text for like a whole day I said "can you tell me what's going on". He said "I don't feel committted to a relationship but I LOVE the time we spend together and I like you a lot" I wasn't sure if that meant he wanted a relationship eventually or not. I asked him to call me about it sometime soon. He said sure but I could tell in the routine texting of the following days he was shy about it and probably not going to call. What I said was scary, I'll admit. I said "well I need to decide if I want to keep seeing you" and he said "but I want to keep talking to you and seeing you!" And I said "well call me so I can figure out where your head is at and see if I want that too." A couple days later I was impatient and texted him "how about tonight" and when he didn't respond by that night, I blocked him on social media. He probably thinks I don't want to hear from him but he's all I think about
if you blocked him, i doubt he will reach out tbh. men are simple. they won't run through hoops to get in contact. he's prob like well she doesnt want to ever talk to me again. that kind of gave the answer to him before he got to respond. i'm just trying to look at it rationally not saying what you did was not right as you should do whatever is right for you. but men are rational and don't read between the lines so what they see is what they assume to be true.
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Ladya, I think you're right! So sometimes I'm like, he might really raise an eyebrow at a text from me and actually be relieved. But I would much rather he just jump through a goddamn hoop lol
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Maybe just unblock him. If he notices it, he might jump at the opportunity.
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Why did I not even consider this lol
Okay I'll try that
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Ladya, I think you're right! So sometimes I'm like, he might really raise an eyebrow at a text from me and actually be relieved. But I would much rather he just jump through a goddamn hoop lol
they have a lot of pride unfortunately. they're more ego-based than females.
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Maybe just unblock him. If he notices it, he might jump at the opportunity.
that's good! i agree.
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I absolutely think you should if it's been awhile and you haven't heard from him. I learned this lesson from my past two POI's. Nothing any of the dozens of psychics said ever happened, so I was waiting for their timelines and eventually when nothing happened I did try contacting both people and it turns out they both had new girlfriends.
At least if you contact him you can get an answer instead of waiting around for him to contact you, which might never happen especially if you blocked him. If he responds, then great, if not, then it's time to move on.
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Really good advice I got: do not break up with men if you are not sure. Because they have so much pride. And would likely not do the first move to get back together. But if I was in your situation, I’ll be 50-50 if I’ll reach out or not. I’ll probably make him because I want to make sure he commits. But again I had an ex that was similar to your Situation. I told him to not contact me anymore, after a month I reached out to him and he said he’s the happiest man alive. He said he was miserable when I wasn’t communicating with him.
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Really good advice I got: do not break up with men if you are not sure. Because they have so much pride. And would likely not do the first move to get back together. But if I was in your situation, I’ll be 50-50 if I’ll reach out or now. I’ll probably make him because I want to make sure he commits. But again I had an ex that was similar to your Situation. I told him to not contact me anymore, after a month I reached out to me and he said he’s the happiest man alive. He said he was miserable when I wasn’t communicating with him.
100 percent agree. i said same. it's unfortunate but its really true. way too much pride.
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Maroonlight that is my exact fear - can you tell me if either POI admitted that there was a time where they were seeing if they would hear from you and took it as a sign of your disinterest when they didn't? Like did you get the sense that if you hadn't waited so long to reach out things might have been different?
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Whskers that advice is gold.
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Maroonlight that is my exact fear - can you tell me if either POI admitted that there was a time where they were seeing if they would hear from you and took it as a sign of your disinterest when they didn't? Like did you get the sense that if you hadn't waited so long to reach out things might have been different?
Nope. One had just moved on with his life completely (he had moved away)
The other one knew that I liked him a lot and sort of lead me on. He just wasn’t into me.
I felt like such an idiot for waiting out the timeframes and spending all the money for a complete fantasy.
That’s why I think the best choice is to just take action regardless of what the psychics tell you. They were all wrong for me and I spent over 3k. The worst that can happen is he doesn’t respond and you get the same wake up call that I did and move on.
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At least if you contact him you can get an answer instead of waiting around for him to contact you, which might never happen especially if you blocked him. If he responds, then great, if not, then it's time to move on.
I agree
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As a side note, the one who moved away left me because he decided to move to pursue a career that he couldn’t pursue here. I really thought for awhile he would come back and all of the psychics said he would and I reached out to him after a year of no contact, he never responded, and now he has a new girlfriend. I’m thankfully over both guys but am dealing with another complicated situation with a new guy.
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At least if you contact him you can get an answer instead of waiting around for him to contact you, which might never happen especially if you blocked him. If he responds, then great, if not, then it's time to move on.
I agree
Yeah I know a lot of people are set on this no contact rule, but often times all that will happen with that is the person forgets about you completely and moves on with their life. Sure, sometimes it works, but I believe in taking action to remedy situations rather than sitting around. If the person likes you, they will regardless of whether you contact them first or not.
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At least if you contact him you can get an answer instead of waiting around for him to contact you, which might never happen especially if you blocked him. If he responds, then great, if not, then it's time to move on.
I agree
Yeah I know a lot of people are set on this no contact rule, but often times all that will happen with that is the person forgets about you completely and moves on with their life. Sure, sometimes it works, but I believe in taking action to remedy situations rather than sitting around. If the person likes you, they will regardless of whether you contact them first or not.
If i get pulled to contact someone i always do. i don't think one contact will change anything on a grand scale.
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At least if you contact him you can get an answer instead of waiting around for him to contact you, which might never happen especially if you blocked him. If he responds, then great, if not, then it's time to move on.
I agree
Yeah I know a lot of people are set on this no contact rule, but often times all that will happen with that is the person forgets about you completely and moves on with their life. Sure, sometimes it works, but I believe in taking action to remedy situations rather than sitting around. If the person likes you, they will regardless of whether you contact them first or not.
I agree. Don’t listen to those so call fake psychic. I have to learn the hard way. They will said the same thing to everyone. Don’t contact them if you do they will run away for good lol yea right they are not into you and you were wrong.
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If i get pulled to contact someone i always do. i don't think one contact will change anything on a grand scale.
I agree contact doesn't change anything.. if the person is not into me then he is just not and few text exchanges won't make him commit to me.. all the psychics who told me there will be contact were right because there was contact but it was so pointless..just cursory greetings and that's about it.. also I think it depends at which stage you are in your life, if you are young, want to wait around, try things around then it's a different story, but if your intention is to find a life partner then ask yourself do you really want this guy? Sorry to go off tangent but just a thought. Like for me I think if my guy is not coming with an engagement ring then I don't want to see his face LOL.. because I am not going to fool around anymore at this stage in my life. Five years back when I was 25 I was all about that not anymore.
Also, if I intuitively feel that I should contact a guy then I will, it's almost like if you are being guided then do it but if it's with a hidden agenda and ego based decision then I usually stop myself because then that's when you are trying to force things and your needy energy can push someone away..
You were with him for 3 months, you owe an explanation or at least one last message where you tell him how hurt you are by his behavior but if this is what he wants then you wish him well!
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I think you guys are right- maybe the next move is on me. But I do want to kind of clarify that my blocking him wasn't as aggressive as it may seem- I don't have a Facebook, we just mutually followed each other on Instagram and my account is private, so I removed him from my followers. Mostly I just felt stupid because I was falling in love with him and I felt like a fool. But yes, the end result is he goes to look at my Instagram but he sees he's been locked out of it. Same effect.
Thank you ladies for all your input and for sharing your experiences-
I will keep you guys updated! Cross your fingers for me !
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Please do let us know, good luck to you :)
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I think you guys are right- maybe the next move is on me. But I do want to kind of clarify that my blocking him wasn't as aggressive as it may seem- I don't have a Facebook, we just mutually followed each other on Instagram and my account is private, so I removed him from my followers. Mostly I just felt stupid because I was falling in love with him and I felt like a fool. But yes, the end result is he goes to look at my Instagram but he sees he's been locked out of it. Same effect.
Thank you ladies for all your input and for sharing your experiences-
I will keep you guys updated! Cross your fingers for me !
I really don't think it matters much that you blocked him on Instagram. Did you block him on your phone? He could always call/text you if he wanted to get in touch with you.