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Relationship Psychology Discussions => The Vent => Topic started by: flora0250 on December 28, 2018, 08:16:35 AM
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For those that have walked the road of spending too much money on too many readings over a long period... and have not had a reading in a long while.... how did you know you were done?
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I can’t said for everyone but for me I got over my old poi it because I met someone new I don’t care if this one work out or not I not gonna paid psychics again to heard them said that he my twin flame and he is a runner or he scared and afraid when they are ghosting you.
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I can’t said for everyone but for me I got over my old poi it because I met someone new I don’t care if this one work out or not I not gonna paid psychics again to heard them said that he my twin flame and he is a runner or he scared and afraid when they are ghosting you.
Thanks ... just to clarify - just asking what made people stop getting readings not what made people get over their exes. Thanks for your reply and perspective. Sorry you’re going through a tough time.
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For those that have walked the road of spending too much money on too many readings over a long period... and have not had a reading in a long while.... how did you know you were done?
When I realised none of the readings were accurate as none of the predictions came to pass.
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For those that have walked the road of spending too much money on too many readings over a long period... and have not had a reading in a long while.... how did you know you were done?
When I realised none of the readings were accurate as none of the predictions came to pass.
Yes this. And this forum has helped tremendously....I see so many people calling for years on dead end situations and it’s incredibly sad...I don’t want to live like that
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For those that have walked the road of spending too much money on too many readings over a long period... and have not had a reading in a long while.... how did you know you were done?
When I realised none of the readings were accurate as none of the predictions came to pass.
Yes this. And this forum has helped tremendously....I see so many people calling for years on dead end situations and it’s incredibly sad...I don’t want to live like that
Yes, thank god I came to realise after only a couple of months and not after a year or longer!
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What stopped me from getting readings was realising in my gut the likelihood of my ex recontacting me saying how sorry and silly he was and how he'd want to start again with me. He was the one last who upset me with his actions and he had a reason to contact me (I can't post here as it's private) and he didn't come forward at all to me with that or any reason. It was always me doing the chasing (which he was used to). My gut feeling always said that this situation between us was done and I chose to ignore it and be in denial and it was right. All of the readers said he loved me and cared and would be back, and I thought to myself "if someone really loves you, would they take this long to make contact with me?", I just highly doubt my ex still loves me like they said. Almost all didn't pick up on his narcy traits and possessive and controlling ways and something else important to my situation, so if they can't pick up that - how can they be right on his feelings and him coming back?
I began to think "why are you wasting your time, money and energy on someone who hasn't wasted a second of his time on me all year?", and realised I could move on and find someone who actually will love me and treat me with respect, rather than believe and take reader's words that he" loves" me.
I was having readings and in the end, all of them sounded the same. "he loves you but he got scared/he's busy with work/he has commitment issues/his last girlfriend hurt him so bad/he loved you too much that he was scared you'd hurt him", and there were many cases where I had an amazing reading with a reader, went and told someone what the reader had said and it turned out that they were word for word the same (like Eamon on CP). So I lost my faith in readers, I knew deep down that the situation with my ex was done and I thought to myself "why are you getting readings if you don't believe what they are telling you? Why are you basically throwing money down the drain?" and I began to get "turned off" off readings, I also knew that if I put myself to it, I could move on from my ex and begin to start looking elsewhere. I don't have that "I love him and can't and won't see anyone else again" feeling anymore.
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I haven't had a reading for awhile now and I knew I was done due to a combination of inaccurate predictions along with my feelings having changed. I also put myself in my exes shoes, I thought about ALLLLLLL that money I spend since early this year inquiring about him, he would NEVER in a million years pine after me the way I did, so I gradually stopped.
I've saved so much money now I don't have constant readings and I'm also comfort with clicking on a psychic website such as Bitwine and not feel the urge to purchase a reading.
It's difficult, I won't simplify the process but once you gain control over your own feelings and bank balance. It's like a weight is lifted from off your shoulder.
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I haven't had a reading for awhile now and I knew I was done due to a combination of inaccurate predictions along with my feelings having changed. I also put myself in my exes shoes, I thought about ALLLLLLL that money I spend since early this year inquiring about him, he would NEVER in a million years pine after me the way I did, so I gradually stopped.
I've saved so much money now I don't have constant readings and I'm also comfort with clicking on a psychic website such as Bitwine and not feel the urge to purchase a reading.
It's difficult, I won't simplify the process but once you gain control over your own feelings and bank balance. It's like a weight is lifted from off your shoulder.
Yess!
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What stopped me from getting readings was realising in my gut the likelihood of my ex recontacting me saying how sorry and silly he was and how he'd want to start again with me. He was the one last who upset me with his actions and he had a reason to contact me (I can't post here as it's private) and he didn't come forward at all to me with that or any reason. It was always me doing the chasing (which he was used to). My gut feeling always said that this situation between us was done and I chose to ignore it and be in denial and it was right. All of the readers said he loved me and cared and would be back, and I thought to myself "if someone really loves you, would they take this long to make contact with me?", I just highly doubt my ex still loves me like they said. Almost all didn't pick up on his narcy traits and possessive and controlling ways and something else important to my situation, so if they can't pick up that - how can they be right on his feelings and him coming back?
I began to think "why are you wasting your time, money and energy on someone who hasn't wasted a second of his time on me all year?", and realised I could move on and find someone who actually will love me and treat me with respect, rather than believe and take reader's words that he" loves" me.
I was having readings and in the end, all of them sounded the same. "he loves you but he got scared/he's busy with work/he has commitment issues/his last girlfriend hurt him so bad/he loved you too much that he was scared you'd hurt him", and there were many cases where I had an amazing reading with a reader, went and told someone what the reader had said and it turned out that they were word for word the same (like Eamon on CP). So I lost my faith in readers, I knew deep down that the situation with my ex was done and I thought to myself "why are you getting readings if you don't believe what they are telling you? Why are you basically throwing money down the drain?" and I began to get "turned off" off readings, I also knew that if I put myself to it, I could move on from my ex and begin to start looking elsewhere. I don't have that "I love him and can't and won't see anyone else again" feeling anymore.
I can totally relate to this. You literally wrote this on my behalf, very similar experience with my ex and my feelings are in tandem with yours.
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What stopped me from getting readings was realising in my gut the likelihood of my ex recontacting me saying how sorry and silly he was and how he'd want to start again with me. He was the one last who upset me with his actions and he had a reason to contact me (I can't post here as it's private) and he didn't come forward at all to me with that or any reason. It was always me doing the chasing (which he was used to). My gut feeling always said that this situation between us was done and I chose to ignore it and be in denial and it was right. All of the readers said he loved me and cared and would be back, and I thought to myself "if someone really loves you, would they take this long to make contact with me?", I just highly doubt my ex still loves me like they said. Almost all didn't pick up on his narcy traits and possessive and controlling ways and something else important to my situation, so if they can't pick up that - how can they be right on his feelings and him coming back?
I began to think "why are you wasting your time, money and energy on someone who hasn't wasted a second of his time on me all year?", and realised I could move on and find someone who actually will love me and treat me with respect, rather than believe and take reader's words that he" loves" me.
I was having readings and in the end, all of them sounded the same. "he loves you but he got scared/he's busy with work/he has commitment issues/his last girlfriend hurt him so bad/he loved you too much that he was scared you'd hurt him", and there were many cases where I had an amazing reading with a reader, went and told someone what the reader had said and it turned out that they were word for word the same (like Eamon on CP). So I lost my faith in readers, I knew deep down that the situation with my ex was done and I thought to myself "why are you getting readings if you don't believe what they are telling you? Why are you basically throwing money down the drain?" and I began to get "turned off" off readings, I also knew that if I put myself to it, I could move on from my ex and begin to start looking elsewhere. I don't have that "I love him and can't and won't see anyone else again" feeling anymore.
I can totally relate to this. You literally wrote this on my behalf, very similar experience with my ex and my feelings are in tandem with yours.
Yeah I'm glad you managed to move on in the end, you feel so much better and relieved :D
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@Flora - Mine is a fairly new decision (only the past few weeks) but so far I haven't felt the need anymore. Most of my predictions aren't for a while so I don't have a negative or positive experience per se with psychics. But to me, to keep calling different ones (or even the same one) about the same situation doesn't make sense anymore. I have no choice at this point but to move on with my life and focus on the things I have control over. If in the future it does manifest and he does come back then I am in control over whether I WANT HIM BACK!
I know LOA is a BIG controversy on here but it is 100% what has helped me. Zadalia actually led me to a board and some books. I have been reading Hicks and Lanie Stevens. What they have taught me is that I have control over my life, my future and what I choose to do with it:). Just doing the daily meditations has changed my entire outlook!
So I can honestly say that if NOTHING ever comes to fruition that 1 psychic has ever told me I am still grateful for this board and everything I have learned! Furthermore, I think I will try and let life happen and even if ALL of my predictions manifest I will try and NOT call again. Maybe we aren't supposed to know our future?
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For those that have walked the road of spending too much money on too many readings over a long period... and have not had a reading in a long while.... how did you know you were done?
When I realised none of the readings were accurate as none of the predictions came to pass.
Yes this. And this forum has helped tremendously....I see so many people calling for years on dead end situations and it’s incredibly sad...I don’t want to live like that
Yes, thank god I came to realise after only a couple of months and not after a year or longer!
you are lucky! I took a much longer time to realize it, and I still struggle with it, but other people here worded it much better than I could. It's sort of an "a-ha" moment when you say to yourself, hey this guy (or girl) isn't putting a shit of an effort in with me, hasn't even bothered to reach out etc, and I'm spending a ton of money trying to figure it out. It's very simple...and obvious when you put it in those terms.
Unless POI has some MAJOR life crisis going on, or died, there is no excuse for their behavior.
I began to fee like a fool, plain and simple. I would read stories on here and my heart breaks for people. It's so sad there are so many good hearted people pining after someone who probably at the end of the day, is living their life without a care in the world.
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Thank you all so much for sharing this part of your personal stories - I promise to reply more fully soon but for now just wanted to say thanks - I think it’s a really individual and personal experience of when a person hits that “last reading.” Like really the last one. Because some times it happens quickly and sometimes gradually and for all kinds of different reasons. But I think it’s a great thing to open up about.
I remember the last time for me - because this has been my 2nd go around :( - and I think this time ... it was fairly gradual. But certain things propelled me more to stop.
For me this time.... the idea of “well you’re just not open. You’re blocked. You’re negative.” - that really hit me. That it’s used by readers often as a way to cop out really of their reading and abilities. I just felt instinctively - you know what?!? No I’m not. I’m totally NOT actually lol. I’m like one of the most open people ever and am often told how open I am. I have never said oh no I don’t believe a reading because it doesn’t tell me the story I want it to tell me, which is also another shifting kind of tactic that so called readers use.
I think that’s sitting with me pretty hard right now. That - and it’s common not just a particular reader - people actually would go so far as to blame the customer for their shortcomings - worsening perhaps an already potentially depressed person’s state of mind.... just to keep up a facade that’s not real so they can make a buck off someone.
Well let me be the first to say. There’s nothing wrong with me or my “openness” for anyone to judge. And no one who reads this should feel that way either. Just a little food for thought as I make my way yet again to realizing how not good this pattern is and how detrimental it is to me - and potential relationships - new and old - in so many ways.
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I agree flora! I had a reader last year tell me (when POI at the time was acting like a fool) that it's because of my "negative energy"...SMH! I am glad I knew not to believe that BS.
I think this is a great end of year post btw...love it..even though it's hard to hear people's sad stories, it's healing in a way..makes you feel not so alone.
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I haven't had a reading for awhile now and I knew I was done due to a combination of inaccurate predictions along with my feelings having changed. I also put myself in my exes shoes, I thought about ALLLLLLL that money I spend since early this year inquiring about him, he would NEVER in a million years pine after me the way I did, so I gradually stopped.
I've saved so much money now I don't have constant readings and I'm also comfort with clicking on a psychic website such as Bitwine and not feel the urge to purchase a reading.
It's difficult, I won't simplify the process but once you gain control over your own feelings and bank balance. It's like a weight is lifted from off your shoulder.
I used to joke that if people spending $1000 looking into situations like this and just offered it to their poi in exchange for a few more dates they would never have to call a psychic and get the closure they need cause most of the readings are about people who ended not in the ‘what if’ phase and getting to know these guys just a little more would have made them realize he was stupid or scummy or broke or insecure and they could have left organically. Guy would undoubtedly take the money.
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For me this time.... the idea of “well you’re just not open. You’re blocked. You’re negative.” - that really hit me. That it’s used by readers often as a way to cop out really of their reading and abilities. I just felt instinctively - you know what?!? No I’m not. I’m totally NOT actually lol. I’m like one of the most open people ever and am often told how open I am. I have never said oh no I don’t believe a reading because it doesn’t tell me the story I want it to tell me, which is also another shifting kind of tactic that so called readers use.
I think that’s sitting with me pretty hard right now. That - and it’s common not just a particular reader - people actually would go so far as to blame the customer for their shortcomings - worsening perhaps an already potentially depressed person’s state of mind.... just to keep up a facade that’s not real so they can make a buck off someone.
Yes - exactly! The way they blame the client, or act like they know better...that was a big part of it for me too. It took me a long time to get out from under that though. I eventually noticed it just didn't affect me anymore, other than irritate me. It stopped making me doubt myself.
I quit once before a few years ago but I think a big part of why it didn't fully "take" then was because I still blamed myself and thought I was either hard to read or did something to change the predictions.
And I realized even the nicest readers use these tactics sometimes...it's just human nature and it's the nature of giving readings, because they are basically selling you something intangible. Of course they will say things to justify themselves and try to keep you calling. It's horrible though, when they do it to someone who is already confused or hurting.
Over time it just got more and more absurd when readers would get things wrong and then try to act like they were right after all and I just didn't know it. When it is something you can't verify it just plays with your head, but when it is something you know for a fact then it really shows how arrogant they are to insist that they know better.
Still Tired - thank you so much - I completely very very much related to your first post you shared in response. So much agree with what you said and your experience. I still am a little stuck on how some seem to have this actual true ability for empathy and remote viewing - things that I absolutely cannot explain other than they must have some natural or practiced ability I don’t understand. And so then it’s so tempting to think the prediction will happen. But I think I’m getting to the point where more and more that i thought had an ability don’t and are just good cold readers - but some do. Some must. Because there is just no way someone could know some of the things I was told without my saying one word. But .., even with that ... unless the predictions happen - which haven’t yet for me although still could... then... really what’s worse is getting mentally wrapped up in wanting and waiting for that prediction - or expecting it anyway. Because it then messed with your mind and decisions I think anyway. Or has for me. So I think I am better off without them for a million reasons.
Thank you so so much - definitely connected to much of what you wrote.
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I'm not showing off to people who are still in pain getting readings, but I was like, 5th in Cookie's queue and I dropped myself out of it because I just don't wanna waste another dollar on him. Knowing you can buy some makeup or new clothes with that money :D
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I was having readings and in the end, all of them sounded the same. "he loves you but he got scared/he's busy with work/he has commitment issues/his last girlfriend hurt him so bad/he loved you too much that he was scared you'd hurt him", and there were many cases where I had an amazing reading with a reader, went and told someone what the reader had said and it turned out that they were word for word the same (like Eamon on CP). So I lost my faith in readers, I knew deep down that the situation with my ex was done and I thought to myself "why are you getting readings if you don't believe what they are telling you? Why are you basically throwing money down the drain?" and I began to get "turned off" off readings, I also knew that if I put myself to it, I could move on from my ex and begin to start looking elsewhere. I don't have that "I love him and can't and won't see anyone else again" feeling anymore.
This is why I stop getting reading they tell everyone the same thing and nothing they said ever come to pass.
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I was having readings and in the end, all of them sounded the same. "he loves you but he got scared/he's busy with work/he has commitment issues/his last girlfriend hurt him so bad/he loved you too much that he was scared you'd hurt him", and there were many cases where I had an amazing reading with a reader, went and told someone what the reader had said and it turned out that they were word for word the same (like Eamon on CP). So I lost my faith in readers, I knew deep down that the situation with my ex was done and I thought to myself "why are you getting readings if you don't believe what they are telling you? Why are you basically throwing money down the drain?" and I began to get "turned off" off readings, I also knew that if I put myself to it, I could move on from my ex and begin to start looking elsewhere. I don't have that "I love him and can't and won't see anyone else again" feeling anymore.
This is why I stop getting reading they tell everyone the same thing and nothing they said ever come to pass.
Yeah they do, unfortunately.
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Well i need advice. Like many here ive spent alot of money on psychics because of the way i feel abt my poi. Its been 7 months and they wouldnt spend their money on psychics fretting over me. Im always the one chasing and being desperate. But i love this person. I think abt them all day everyday whether at work or at play. Ive never loved anyone like this!! How do I let go? Ive tried for so long. How do I let go??????
I'm going to PM you if ok.
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I would appreciate that star1. I just want to let go! This is y i became addicted to psychics!
I can relate..it's so hard to let go...I think when your heart and mind are ready, you will. Sometimes it just takes a lot longer than we would like, sadly. :(
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I would appreciate that star1. I just want to let go! This is y i became addicted to psychics!
I can relate..it's so hard to let go...I think when your heart and mind are ready, you will. Sometimes it just takes a lot longer than we would like, sadly. :(
I just pm'ed you, I understand how every single one of you feels and without feeling patronising, I do feel sorry for all of you because I know how it feels feeling so frustrated and stuck. :-\
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Well i need advice. Like many here ive spent alot of money on psychics because of the way i feel abt my poi. Its been 7 months and they wouldnt spend their money on psychics fretting over me. Im always the one chasing and being desperate. But i love this person. I think abt them all day everyday whether at work or at play. Ive never loved anyone like this!! How do I let go? Ive tried for so long. How do I let go??????
I used to have those feelings for my ex and it's been 10 months since we broke up. It's hard I won't deny it and I'm guessing you are probably seeking multiple reading which just causes confusion and only makes the situation worse. No one can tell you when you will get that "aha" moment because like someone else said, it's a personal experience.
For some they move on with another guy/girl, others simply loose interest with time especially if there's months without contact and some people keep themselves busy to the point that they forget about their ex. Whatever the case, you will move on eventually. Letting go is a difficult process but you can facilitate it by keeping yourself surrounded with friends/family anything that takes your mind off your POI. Most importantly, I would advise reducing the amount of psychic readings your getting to break the cycle.
If you have for example 8 readings a day reduce to half, then once a day, to every other day and so fourth. Do it gradually, which is what I did along with keeping myself busy.
Most of us use psychics as a coping mechanism. When we are hurt/vulnerable we turn to them for reassurance i.e that POI will return. It's much more comforting to live life in a fairytale world than to face reality. They tell us (in most incidence) what we want to hear which delays the healing process further. It's better to go through those raw emotions now then say in a years time. You will be in a much better place mentally emotionally by dealing with what's to come now.
I don;t know your circumstance and I don't know if your POI is destined to return, but by moving forward you will take control over the situation. You have the chance to call the shots should he return or find someone who is a better suitor. I know it's hard to image those things now but things can only get better, it starts with breaking the cycle.
Hang in there!!
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Well i need advice. Like many here ive spent alot of money on psychics because of the way i feel abt my poi. Its been 7 months and they wouldnt spend their money on psychics fretting over me. Im always the one chasing and being desperate. But i love this person. I think abt them all day everyday whether at work or at play. Ive never loved anyone like this!! How do I let go? Ive tried for so long. How do I let go??????
I used to have those feelings for my ex and it's been 10 months since we broke up. It's hard I won't deny it and I'm guessing you are probably seeking multiple reading which just causes confusion and only makes the situation worse. No one can tell you when you will get that "aha" moment because like someone else said, it's a personal experience.
For some they move on with another guy/girl, others simply loose interest with time especially if there's months without contact and some people keep themselves busy to the point that they forget about their ex. Whatever the case, you will move on eventually. Letting go is a difficult process but you can facilitate it by keeping yourself surrounded with friends/family anything that takes your mind off your POI. Most importantly, I would advise reducing the amount of psychic readings your getting to break the cycle.
If you have for example 8 readings a day reduce to half, then once a day, to every other day and so fourth. Do it gradually, which is what I did along with keeping myself busy.
Most of us use psychics as a coping mechanism. When we are hurt/vulnerable we turn to them for reassurance i.e that POI will return. It's much more comforting to live life in a fairytale world than to face reality. They tell us (in most incidence) what we want to hear which delays the healing process further. It's better to go through those raw emotions now then say in a years time. You will be in a much better place mentally emotionally by dealing with what's to come now.
I don;t know your circumstance and I don't know if your POI is destined to return, but by moving forward you will take control over the situation. You have the chance to call the shots should he return or find someone who is a better suitor. I know it's hard to image those things now but things can only get better, it starts with breaking the cycle.
Hang in there!!
Great post!
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I've been burned by psychics with 3 different guys over the past 2 years and I've just had enough. I decided that it's pointless to continue to go around in circles with these readers and wait for predictions that just don't happen. I guarantee I would've been able to move on from all of the POIs much faster if the predictions hadn't kept me waiting around for things to magically change.
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I’ve broken my addiction and then slipped (badly, totally hooked) multiple times. The first time I broke the habit was by deciding I would give my all to a guy I’d started dating as he was everything my ex (POI in all my readings at that time) was not. That new guy is now my sweet husband.
The second time I broke the addiction wasn’t really on purpose. The platform I was using stopped hosting readers.
And now... it’s a combination of trying some LOA, meditation, acknowledging uncertainty, telling myself I’m the only one in charge of my life and future, and reminding myself that I can’t afford it. For a while I would tell myself if I don’t do a reading for X more days, I’ll treat myself to Y. It got pricy fast but it worked two ways - I treated myself to like title gifts, and it was a solid reminder of dollars spent. I realize that last bit is a little twisted, a mix of glee and shame, but it worked for me!
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Star1 after u pm me I responded with a lovely little missive only to find out that i sent the reply to the wrong person. Loll!! Just know that im grateful for ur advice!!!!!
You're very welcome, take care ❤️
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For those that have walked the road of spending too much money on too many readings over a long period... and have not had a reading in a long while.... how did you know you were done?
Flora, we've talked before, but here are my reasons:
1) None of my relationship predictions came to pass. Not one prediction and certainly not one timeline. I have had random hits on career or unrelated things with maybe 5 readers out of hundreds, but as far as my POI, nothing unless I took action myself.
2) Money. I have spent obscene amounts of money and I'm so ashamed of that. My goal now is to get a second job, be a responsible adult and fix that.
3) It occurred to me that whatever happens with my POI, good or bad, isn't contingent on a reading. It will happen regardless.
4) Finally, if you're doing something in excess that you can't share with your friends and family, then it's wrong. I couldn't imagine sharing my psychic binging with anyone. It's embarrassing and I feel so foolish. Like a person catfished.
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I am trying to cut back on readings as my predictions aren’t until March-July. Any readings I get will likely be a repeat of what I’ve already heard. I made it to 4 days without calling! But then, I broke down and binged after a trigger (I mainly called empaths for insights on current situation). I haven’t called today so I am hoping to hold out another 4 days to make it to 5 days and beat my last record!
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I know I’m late to this thread, but...
I got tired of being fed fairytales. I’ve noticed that hearing how much any of the various men I called about over the years made me SO MUCH more invented in all of the mediocre relationships. Then, when things didn’t work out, I was way more heartbroken than I ever possibly should’ve been. Heartbroken because of the breakup but also heartbroken because of all of the money I’d spent on a man that really wasn’t anyone special. I could’ve had so much more to show for that money and yet it’d been wasted on readings. If I want to waste more money on a relationship, next time I’ll do something fun with it like VACATION.
It’s srill hard for me. I took a few breaks over this year for a month at a time and I believe it made it easier to stop now. Also, this forum has been so helpful in getting me to wake up and realize these reasons suck so much energy out of you. Jesus Christ it is disgusting how much I’ve been affected by them for six years now
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One of the huge reason I stopped getting reading too is that when I read this forum rarely you'll see a poi come back or a psychic was right on a big outcome they got little stuff right but always wrong on the big outcome.
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and also, the TF and soulmate thing is a huge money making scheme/hoax.
Twin flames do not exist, there is no logic or evidence for them.
Also, I have not seen one person on any of these online forums that had a POI come back. It simply is impossible I feel- its all our own wishful thinking.
Yep. It like a 1 percent chance that poi come back and they tell everyone that it will work out and he'll come back.
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I wanted to validate Star1 about Eamon. Yes he reads from scripts. I phoned him twice within 2 days. With the exact same simple, non-leading question and POI name. The reading was the EXACT same, WORD for WORD. I recorded both! I reported it and believe it or not, my review is posted on his profile. You know CP doesn’t post negative reviews, but mine slipped through and I’m glad it will help others avoid this fraud! Maybe that’s why Spirit let it slip through. :-)
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When my POI, who everyone said was my twin flame, soulmate and who would never be with anyone else because it wasn't in our destiny, married someone else. When I found out he was getting married, i was done. I had been strung along for years and heard all the usual excuses that he was scared, his feelings were too strong for me, he didn't know how to express himself. And it wasn't just one psychic. I am embarrassed to say it was many and I spent a fortune over the course of 3 years.I got myself into debt over it.
Even when I was suspicious that there was someone else, i heard the same stories. It would never work out between them. It was just a passing infatuation. Fast-forward to 6 months later and he married her. That was it. I was done with psychics and never called one since. This all took place in 2012.
That was a dark time for me. i would go to bed on a Friday night and just stay ion bed til Monday morning. To say I was devestated is putting it mildly. I think part of it was because I so desperately wanted to believe them. I didn't think people could be that cruel and lead people on but sadly, those I dealt with, did. It took me a couple of years to get better and I am happy to say I am happily married now.
What I have with my husband isn't exactly what I felt for my ex. But he never leaves me wondering or lets me wait for a phone call. He was always very present and made sure he let me knew how he felt about me. And more importantly, he never makes me cry.
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When my POI, who everyone said was my twin flame, soulmate and who would never be with anyone else because it wasn't in our destiny, married someone else. When I found out he was getting married, i was done. I had been strung along for years and heard all the usual excuses that he was scared, his feelings were too strong for me, he didn't know how to express himself. And it wasn't just one psychic. I am embarrassed to say it was many and I spent a fortune over the course of 3 years.I got myself into debt over it.
Even when I was suspicious that there was someone else, i heard the same stories. It would never work out between them. It was just a passing infatuation. Fast-forward to 6 months later and he married her. That was it. I was done with psychics and never called one since. This all took place in 2012.
That was a dark time for me. i would go to bed on a Friday night and just stay ion bed til Monday morning. To say I was devestated is putting it mildly. I think part of it was because I so desperately wanted to believe them. I didn't think people could be that cruel and lead people on but sadly, those I dealt with, did. It took me a couple of years to get better and I am happy to say I am happily married now.
What I have with my husband isn't exactly what I felt for my ex. But he never leaves me wondering or lets me wait for a phone call. He was always very present and made sure he let me knew how he felt about me. And more importantly, he never makes me cry.
Rosa, your story is heartbreaking. But I'm glad that you more have a wonderful husband. I hope the wounds from your past have now healed. Would you mind sharing what readers were right for you, if any of them were?
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Hi Happyk
Unfortunately, for me, none were right. I used mainly California Psychics. I used all of their so-called top psychics like Gine Rose, Uli, Seha, Nina. Nina at first I was very impressed by. The first time I spoke with her, she blew me away with the reading because I didn't say anything and she just went into it. And i just kept calling and calling to get reassurance.
But the end-result is he married someone else when some of them actually used words like they guaranteed we would end up together. Not one of them ever saw his wife in the picture and I called very frequently.
The funny part or should I say sad part is when i called a few of them saying he had gotten engaged to his wife, they changed their tune. And that's what put an end to it for me. If I call you a day earlier and you are telling me he is coming around and that we will reconcile any day and then i call you a day later and you tell me that you see this other woman around him but it wont last, then it finally hit me that it was fake.
I am not saying they aren't accurate for others but they weren't accurate for me. Not by a long shot. I called for 3 years about this person and not one predicted the final outcome.
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Hi Happyk
Unfortunately, for me, none were right. I used mainly California Psychics. I used all of their so-called top psychics like Gine Rose, Uli, Seha, Nina. Nina at first I was very impressed by. The first time I spoke with her, she blew me away with the reading because I didn't say anything and she just went into it. And i just kept calling and calling to get reassurance.
But the end-result is he married someone else when some of them actually used words like they guaranteed we would end up together. Not one of them ever saw his wife in the picture and I called very frequently.
The funny part or should I say sad part is when i called a few of them saying he had gotten engaged to his wife, they changed their tune. And that's what put an end to it for me. If I call you a day earlier and you are telling me he is coming around and that we will reconcile any day and then i call you a day later and you tell me that you see this other woman around him but it wont last, then it finally hit me that it was fake.
I am not saying they aren't accurate for others but they weren't accurate for me. Not by a long shot. I called for 3 years about this person and not one predicted the final outcome.
wow, I'm so sorry this happened to you :( Unfortunately, you aren't the first person to share a story like this....I'm glad you've moved on to a better place but what a rough lesson to learn.
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Hi Happyk
Unfortunately, for me, none were right. I used mainly California Psychics. I used all of their so-called top psychics like Gine Rose, Uli, Seha, Nina. Nina at first I was very impressed by. The first time I spoke with her, she blew me away with the reading because I didn't say anything and she just went into it. And i just kept calling and calling to get reassurance.
But the end-result is he married someone else when some of them actually used words like they guaranteed we would end up together. Not one of them ever saw his wife in the picture and I called very frequently.
The funny part or should I say sad part is when i called a few of them saying he had gotten engaged to his wife, they changed their tune. And that's what put an end to it for me. If I call you a day earlier and you are telling me he is coming around and that we will reconcile any day and then i call you a day later and you tell me that you see this other woman around him but it wont last, then it finally hit me that it was fake.
I am not saying they aren't accurate for others but they weren't accurate for me. Not by a long shot. I called for 3 years about this person and not one predicted the final outcome.
Dang :( that's rough! Take care and hope you find peace!!
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sawthelight yes. And I am to blame as well. I put so much into that they were telling me that even when the signs pointed elsewhere, I didn't want to believe it.
And I truly believe my husband was sent from the universe. I had given up hope and didn't think I would ever recover from the pain or ever have feelings for anyone ever again. I met my husband very randomly, without even looking and here we are married for almost 3 years and he still feels the same way about me as he did from day one.
So even though it wasn't the ending I thought I would have, it's still a happy ending. One thing this whole fiasco did teach me is when someone really wants you, they aren't afraid to express their feelings, they don't play games, they don't play hard to get, they don't leave you wondering and it shouldn't hurt so much.
Like i said, i am not saying there aren't people out there without gifts but none of the ones that I paid were correct for me.
The ironic part is, the only psychic who was ever right about me was a person my sister worked with. This psychic didn't do it for a living and never took money from anyone. She just knew things. She predicted my husband 15 years ago and was very specific about him. Details that at the time, made me cry because her description was nothing like what I thought I would wind up with. Very eerie and she was dead on and my sister didn't even ask her about me. She just went into it and my sister called me and told me what the woman said. Go forward 10 years after that prediction and my husband is exactly what she predicted.
So that's what makes me believe there are people out there who are gifted. I knew nothing about psychics at the time and she never did it for profit. But this woman nailed who I was going to marry, even though I didn't want to hear it at the time.
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sawthelight yes. And I am to blame as well. I put so much into that they were telling me that even when the signs pointed elsewhere, I didn't want to believe it.
And I truly believe my husband was sent from the universe. I had given up hope and didn't think I would ever recover from the pain or ever have feelings for anyone ever again. I met my husband very randomly, without even looking and here we are married for almost 3 years and he still feels the same way about me as he did from day one.
So even though it wasn't the ending I thought I would have, it's still a happy ending. One thing this whole fiasco did teach me is when someone really wants you, they aren't afraid to express their feelings, they don't play games, they don't play hard to get, they don't leave you wondering and it shouldn't hurt so much.
Like i said, i am not saying there aren't people out there without gifts but none of the ones that I paid were correct for me.
The ironic part is, the only psychic who was ever right about me was a person my sister worked with. This psychic didn't do it for a living and never took money from anyone. She just knew things. She predicted my husband 15 years ago and was very specific about him. Details that at the time, made me cry because her description was nothing like what I thought I would wind up with. Very eerie and she was dead on and my sister didn't even ask her about me. She just went into it and my sister called me and told me what the woman said. Go forward 10 years after that prediction and my husband is exactly what she predicted.
So that's what makes me believe there are people out there who are gifted. I knew nothing about psychics at the time and she never did it for profit. But this woman nailed who I was going to marry, even though I didn't want to hear it at the time.
why didnt you want to hear it at the time?
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she probably only wanted to hear she would end up with the guy she was calling about..BOY can I relate. I had a few tell me I would meet someone great that would make me so happy but I was too hung up on the guy who was making me miserable.
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I began tiring of readings when there was no progress and timelines continued to get pushed out. It became really exhausting holding on for such long periods of time only for no real progress to be experienced. Situations get really old after awhile. You'll have some psychics to tell you to hang in there or whatever, but for what? If something is meant to happen then it will happen regardless if you wait around or not. I also knew I was done for the most part when readings would take a 180 degree change. It went from "he's the one" in the beginning, to "he WAS the one but chose not to learn his life lessons". It went from "He'll be moving back 'home' to you as his relocation is not permanent" over to "It's probably time for you to let this go as I see someone new coming in for you and your POI won't be relocating anytime soon" and that was after a year. Lol. So yeah. I held on much longer than I should have based upon readings for the first 6 months only for them to take a complete 180 degree change. Felt so disappointed, angry, and like I completely wasted my time and money.
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Still Tired, that is correct. I got the prediction 10 years before I ever met him. And at the time, there was another guy that i really liked and i thought he was the guy i was going to marry. His name was Frank. I never called psychics about him. This was way before my POI in my original post.
This woman my sister worked with told my sister I wasn't going to marry Frank and that it would end in a few months. She was right about that. He broke up with me a few months later. Then she said they guy I would marry would be younger (at the time, I had never been with someone even a month younger than me), darker skin color, I would meet him at a time when I didn't want to meet anybody and that my family would have a hard time accepting him but then they would grow to love him. When my sister called and told me, I started crying because I loved Frank so much. Now I think back to what the heck did I see in Frank lol.
Fast forward to 2012 and I met my husband who is younger than me by a decade, is of Indian background, my family was very skeptical at first but now they love him. Those were very specific things. Prior to my husband, I had only been with men from my culture who were older. If you had told me back then I wasn't going to marry someone from my culture and who was younger, I would have thought you were crazy. But look at me now lol.
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ah I see! I was confused, thanks for clarifying :) either way it's great that you are happy, at the end of the day that's all that matters.
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When my POI, who everyone said was my twin flame, soulmate and who would never be with anyone else because it wasn't in our destiny, married someone else. When I found out he was getting married, i was done. I had been strung along for years and heard all the usual excuses that he was scared, his feelings were too strong for me, he didn't know how to express himself. And it wasn't just one psychic. I am embarrassed to say it was many and I spent a fortune over the course of 3 years.I got myself into debt over it.
Even when I was suspicious that there was someone else, i heard the same stories. It would never work out between them. It was just a passing infatuation. Fast-forward to 6 months later and he married her. That was it. I was done with psychics and never called one since. This all took place in 2012.
That was a dark time for me. i would go to bed on a Friday night and just stay ion bed til Monday morning. To say I was devestated is putting it mildly. I think part of it was because I so desperately wanted to believe them. I didn't think people could be that cruel and lead people on but sadly, those I dealt with, did. It took me a couple of years to get better and I am happy to say I am happily married now.
What I have with my husband isn't exactly what I felt for my ex. But he never leaves me wondering or lets me wait for a phone call. He was always very present and made sure he let me knew how he felt about me. And more importantly, he never makes me cry.
Wow - thanks for coming on and sharing your story Rosa. In a lot of ways, my story mirrors yours. Three+ years, one POI, ignoring the signs and instead believing the psychics, then finally waking up to reality when the fellow I called about moved in with someone else. Then some of the psychics I relied on -- some who had been right about enough things that I trusted them -- not only changed their tune but took a nasty tone with me and / or backtracked. One I recall saying "well we told you he was not ready and would need to have this other experience." She did say he was not ready, but did NOT tell me that he needed another 'experience'.
One thing that was confusing about my story is that during the year prior to meeting that POI, 2 different psychics I saw (the only 2, in person, I was not calling excessively then) predicted him, with fairly specific details (looks, personality, timeframe, how we would interact, hobbies and interests). He was presented as a twin flame by one and life partner by the other. That made me even more invested in the whole thing working out... I'd never even heard the term twin flame and hadn't asked her about that; I was actually asking about a house move.
These days, I do have the odd reading, and I'm not actually certain about whether or not I'll stop 100%. I don't ask about love. It's just too charged for me - both the positive and negative predictions get under my skin. I recently called Veruska on keen a few times and asked about a contract I was going for, and she was completely right about the whole thing. I called a few others as well and they were wrong; I almost did it just to see, because it was a short-term outcome that I could be certain about. It was so interesting to me to see how wrong most were.
At the start of this year, I called a few of the people who have the best reputations on here, or who are discussed most. I then pretty much stopped calling (except for that short round of calls with one question about work). I intend to do my report out once enough time has passed that I can say with some certainty who was right and to what degree.
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When my POI, who everyone said was my twin flame, soulmate and who would never be with anyone else because it wasn't in our destiny, married someone else. When I found out he was getting married, i was done. I had been strung along for years and heard all the usual excuses that he was scared, his feelings were too strong for me, he didn't know how to express himself. And it wasn't just one psychic. I am embarrassed to say it was many and I spent a fortune over the course of 3 years.I got myself into debt over it.
Even when I was suspicious that there was someone else, i heard the same stories. It would never work out between them. It was just a passing infatuation. Fast-forward to 6 months later and he married her. That was it. I was done with psychics and never called one since. This all took place in 2012.
That was a dark time for me. i would go to bed on a Friday night and just stay ion bed til Monday morning. To say I was devestated is putting it mildly. I think part of it was because I so desperately wanted to believe them. I didn't think people could be that cruel and lead people on but sadly, those I dealt with, did. It took me a couple of years to get better and I am happy to say I am happily married now.
What I have with my husband isn't exactly what I felt for my ex. But he never leaves me wondering or lets me wait for a phone call. He was always very present and made sure he let me knew how he felt about me. And more importantly, he never makes me cry.
Wow - thanks for coming on and sharing your story Rosa. In a lot of ways, my story mirrors yours. Three+ years, one POI, ignoring the signs and instead believing the psychics, then finally waking up to reality when the fellow I called about moved in with someone else. Then some of the psychics I relied on -- some who had been right about enough things that I trusted them -- not only changed their tune but took a nasty tone with me and / or backtracked. One I recall saying "well we told you he was not ready and would need to have this other experience." She did say he was not ready, but did NOT tell me that he needed another 'experience'.
One thing that was confusing about my story is that during the year prior to meeting that POI, 2 different psychics I saw (the only 2, in person, I was not calling excessively then) predicted him, with fairly specific details (looks, personality, timeframe, how we would interact, hobbies and interests). He was presented as a twin flame by one and life partner by the other. That made me even more invested in the whole thing working out... I'd never even heard the term twin flame and hadn't asked her about that; I was actually asking about a house move.
These days, I do have the odd reading, and I'm not actually certain about whether or not I'll stop 100%. I don't ask about love. It's just too charged for me - both the positive and negative predictions get under my skin. I recently called Veruska on keen a few times and asked about a contract I was going for, and she was completely right about the whole thing. I called a few others as well and they were wrong; I almost did it just to see, because it was a short-term outcome that I could be certain about. It was so interesting to me to see how wrong most were.
At the start of this year, I called a few of the people who have the best reputations on here, or who are discussed most. I then pretty much stopped calling (except for that short round of calls with one question about work). I intend to do my report out once enough time has passed that I can say with some certainty who was right and to what degree.
Ohmygosh yeah I can see how that would be confusing. When they do predict something correctly it makes it seem like it's meant to be but even more so if they talk it up like this is your twin flame or life partner.
Ravenredwoman predicted that I would meet a man and the amount of detail she gave me about who he was and how it would happen was downright spooky. It turned out to be a guy from my past who I was already over (and when I saw him, I tried to evade him lol but it still played out exactly like she said.) But if it had been someone new I might have been convinced this was the man for me, just because of how she predicted it! Like I might have been chasing him down instead of vice versa. So weird to think about that.
This is why I think readings screw with us, even if they correctly predict a lot of things. They can see so many things but maybe misinterpret or put meaning on it that isn't true. And what if that influences my decisions in a way that wouldn't have happened otherwise.
Yes, crazy confusing. On top of what I shared above, the woman who introduced the twin flame idea to me:
- was a very spiritual person who only charged me $25 and has since given me readings for free or very cheap; in other words is not in it for the $
- read my entire relationship history prior to my reading with her - describing the 3 major relationships I'd been in including the ages i was and why they didn't work out (or the lessons therein)... this was bang on
She also said, about the incoming POI, 'be careful, you may get a bit obsessive' LOL
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Hi all. Little update on me. I haven't bought any reading for a long time (a few weeks or so now) LOL. I decided no more readings. The predictions never came to pass. And now I'm saving so much money.
I actually have a crush on someone new. And am staying away from readings based on that situation. I know if I ask the 'psychics' will X and I be together they will tell me...oh he loves you, he's gonna be your boyfriend, blah blah blah just like with my 1st "target". So much time and money was wasted. Not looking to go back. I am proud of myself for being strong and not buying readings. And I have no intention to buy any for my past target or current target.
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Hi all. Little update on me. I haven't bought any reading for a long time (a few weeks or so now) LOL. I decided no more readings. The predictions never came to pass. And now I'm saving so much money.
I actually have a crush on someone new. And am staying away from readings based on that situation. I know if I ask the 'psychics' will X and I be together they will tell me...oh he loves you, he's gonna be your boyfriend, blah blah blah just like with my 1st "target". So much time and money was wasted. Not looking to go back. I am proud of myself for being strong and not buying readings. And I have no intention to buy any for my past target or current target.
Wow! Good for you @unicorn. Thanks for coming back to let us know. I think this is a success story -- although a different type of success story than we might be looking for from psychic readings.
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I won't say that I no longer read, I do. but going from multiple reads a day to once a month or so, I would call that a success:)) and now they are more for entertainment than Really setting my heart on predictions. I am bored, I get a reading:)) I think I knew I was done after reading about people's stories on this forum. I realized no one was able to predict what I wanted to know about, they could tell me the present, tell me the past but the future...... they were all guessing depending on what they read at that very minute. humans are complicated. we surprise ourselves all the time so why can't the other person involved do the same, act out of the norm, surprise us all:)) those actions of my POI the readers couldn't pick up on. Once I realized that, I was done. plus time heals all wounds. when my wound was healed, or almost - I didn't feel the need.
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I won't say that I no longer read, I do. but going from multiple reads a day to once a month or so, I would call that a success:)) and now they are more for entertainment than Really setting my heart on predictions. I am bored, I get a reading:)) I think I knew I was done after reading about people's stories on this forum. I realized no one was able to predict what I wanted to know about, they could tell me the present, tell me the past but the future...... they were all guessing depending on what they read at that very minute. humans are complicated. we surprise ourselves all the time so why can't the other person involved do the same, act out of the norm, surprise us all:)) those actions of my POI the readers couldn't pick up on. Once I realized that, I was done. plus time heals all wounds. when my wound was healed, or almost - I didn't feel the need.
This was pretty much what happened with me. I don’t get readings much not even once a month anymore and previously at times I was getting multiple reads a day. I Just woke up to myself, stopped listening to the BS as nothing really came to pass and with time I got over the POI.
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When my POI, who everyone said was my twin flame, soulmate and who would never be with anyone else because it wasn't in our destiny, married someone else. When I found out he was getting married, i was done. I had been strung along for years and heard all the usual excuses that he was scared, his feelings were too strong for me, he didn't know how to express himself. And it wasn't just one psychic. I am embarrassed to say it was many and I spent a fortune over the course of 3 years.I got myself into debt over it.
Even when I was suspicious that there was someone else, i heard the same stories. It would never work out between them. It was just a passing infatuation. Fast-forward to 6 months later and he married her. That was it. I was done with psychics and never called one since. This all took place in 2012.
That was a dark time for me. i would go to bed on a Friday night and just stay ion bed til Monday morning. To say I was devestated is putting it mildly. I think part of it was because I so desperately wanted to believe them. I didn't think people could be that cruel and lead people on but sadly, those I dealt with, did. It took me a couple of years to get better and I am happy to say I am happily married now.
What I have with my husband isn't exactly what I felt for my ex. But he never leaves me wondering or lets me wait for a phone call. He was always very present and made sure he let me knew how he felt about me. And more importantly, he never makes me cry.
Wow - thanks for coming on and sharing your story Rosa. In a lot of ways, my story mirrors yours. Three+ years, one POI, ignoring the signs and instead believing the psychics, then finally waking up to reality when the fellow I called about moved in with someone else. Then some of the psychics I relied on -- some who had been right about enough things that I trusted them -- not only changed their tune but took a nasty tone with me and / or backtracked. One I recall saying "well we told you he was not ready and would need to have this other experience." She did say he was not ready, but did NOT tell me that he needed another 'experience'.
One thing that was confusing about my story is that during the year prior to meeting that POI, 2 different psychics I saw (the only 2, in person, I was not calling excessively then) predicted him, with fairly specific details (looks, personality, timeframe, how we would interact, hobbies and interests). He was presented as a twin flame by one and life partner by the other. That made me even more invested in the whole thing working out... I'd never even heard the term twin flame and hadn't asked her about that; I was actually asking about a house move.
These days, I do have the odd reading, and I'm not actually certain about whether or not I'll stop 100%. I don't ask about love. It's just too charged for me - both the positive and negative predictions get under my skin. I recently called Veruska on keen a few times and asked about a contract I was going for, and she was completely right about the whole thing. I called a few others as well and they were wrong; I almost did it just to see, because it was a short-term outcome that I could be certain about. It was so interesting to me to see how wrong most were.
At the start of this year, I called a few of the people who have the best reputations on here, or who are discussed most. I then pretty much stopped calling (except for that short round of calls with one question about work). I intend to do my report out once enough time has passed that I can say with some certainty who was right and to what degree.
Ohmygosh yeah I can see how that would be confusing. When they do predict something correctly it makes it seem like it's meant to be but even more so if they talk it up like this is your twin flame or life partner.
Ravenredwoman predicted that I would meet a man and the amount of detail she gave me about who he was and how it would happen was downright spooky. It turned out to be a guy from my past who I was already over (and when I saw him, I tried to evade him lol but it still played out exactly like she said.) But if it had been someone new I might have been convinced this was the man for me, just because of how she predicted it! Like I might have been chasing him down instead of vice versa. So weird to think about that.
This is why I think readings screw with us, even if they correctly predict a lot of things. They can see so many things but maybe misinterpret or put meaning on it that isn't true. And what if that influences my decisions in a way that wouldn't have happened otherwise.
I can so resonate with what you said. That's exactly what happened to me with my current ex. His name was mentioned by a psychic before he even came into my life and at that time, I had no idea who they were talking about. 3 months later this person reentered my life. It was a friend from the past, not a past lover. But this friend was married and this friend was always on the internet chatting up different females because he was an attention whore. He also had a strong air of arrogance attached to him. However, because we had been friends for the previous 3 years, and he then told me his sob story about his marriage that was about to end (which I later found out was total bullshit), I went with it. And the main reason I went with it because of what some psychics were telling me. Yes, I know, how weak I was to do that, but I did it anyway. I had so many gut instinct hesitations that I totally ignored based upon what the psychics were saying. I am excluding Kisha from this because I wasn't talking to her about this person back at that time. But all the others, namely one who's name I will not mention here, kept telling me how he was the one and that he would learn xyz lesson and then things would improve blah blah blah. Long story short, it's been 5 years and one month and nothing changed but got even worse and now the readings also changed from same psychics. Now it's "Well he WAS the one but chose not to learn his life lessons". Lol. Yeah so anyway...............lesson is.........LISTEN to YOURSELF and YOUR OWN INTUITION!!!!!!!! Look at the BEHAVIOR of the other person. Pay attention to how they TREAT YOU! We don't need a psychic for these things do we? Meh. If I could slap myself, I would.
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What helped me stop getting readings was I bought a house and a puppy. The house prevents me from spending anymore money on readings and the puppy keeps me really busy. I know not everyone cannot do that but hey it has kept me from getting a reading for a good few months. So have to look a the bright side. ;)
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I havent been on here lately, but just wanted to reply to this thread I got a lot of readings in 2017 and early 2018. Slowed down a bunch and was getting about 1 or 2 a month until August 2018. I read with someone who saw my ex with his gf for the next 10 years. Something in me changed because I felt like this could be true. I decided to act as if it was true and I suddenly got over him. It was almost overnight. I'm now engaged to the guy I was seeing at the time I was getting these readings. I was letting the readings hold me back from really liking him and knowing him. Once I stopped, I was able to open up to him and realized what an amazing person he is. Every "great" psychic was wrong about my ex. Cookie, Tina, mattie, ladyp etc.
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I knew I was done when I was left with only with one trusted advisor (Yona) and I felt peace and content plus a ghost scare dream, this is when I knew I was completely over reading and happy with the way things are at the moment.
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Hi all. Little update on me. I haven't bought any reading for a long time (a few weeks or so now) LOL. I decided no more readings. The predictions never came to pass. And now I'm saving so much money.
I actually have a crush on someone new. And am staying away from readings based on that situation. I know if I ask the 'psychics' will X and I be together they will tell me...oh he loves you, he's gonna be your boyfriend, blah blah blah just like with my 1st "target". So much time and money was wasted. Not looking to go back. I am proud of myself for being strong and not buying readings. And I have no intention to buy any for my past target or current target.
Hi Unicorn... I don't think I have ever commented on your post before but I certainly have followed some of the convos you were in. I must say it used to freak me out a bit (and still does) how you call your POI your "target' lol I just keep getting images of someone dressed in camo - hunt to kill kind of stalker style hahaha I hope all is well and best of luck with the new guy :)
your target is a person you have spell work done on
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Hi all. Little update on me. I haven't bought any reading for a long time (a few weeks or so now) LOL. I decided no more readings. The predictions never came to pass. And now I'm saving so much money.
I actually have a crush on someone new. And am staying away from readings based on that situation. I know if I ask the 'psychics' will X and I be together they will tell me...oh he loves you, he's gonna be your boyfriend, blah blah blah just like with my 1st "target". So much time and money was wasted. Not looking to go back. I am proud of myself for being strong and not buying readings. And I have no intention to buy any for my past target or current target.
Best of luck unicorn.
thank you I still have not bought any
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I havent been on here lately, but just wanted to reply to this thread I got a lot of readings in 2017 and early 2018. Slowed down a bunch and was getting about 1 or 2 a month until August 2018. I read with someone who saw my ex with his gf for the next 10 years. Something in me changed because I felt like this could be true. I decided to act as if it was true and I suddenly got over him. It was almost overnight. I'm now engaged to the guy I was seeing at the time I was getting these readings. I was letting the readings hold me back from really liking him and knowing him. Once I stopped, I was able to open up to him and realized what an amazing person he is. Every "great" psychic was wrong about my ex. Cookie, Tina, mattie, ladyp etc.
I soooo agree!!! Once I allowed myself to except the failure of my last relationship and understand it wasn’t meant to be and I can’t fix it , I allowed myself to get to know another man who was always there but I wasn’t paying him any mind. Now I’m happy with him , he gets on my nerves sometimes but I notice that the difference is he doesn’t fuel me to read like my ex did. I depended on reading before so maybe prevent myself from being hurt if I knew things beforehand but that didn’t work. I was hurt anyway and money wasn’t worth it. But the karma of it all is that I didn’t take him back and he’s now miserable with who he cheated on me with lol and I know this for Fact lol ... I’m sitting back like why didn’t I been throw on a Mary J album and leave his broke azz lmao
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Hahah yes! Glad you're better off too natashanyc
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When I realized we create our own life and future.
LOA is there.
Sometimes psychic reading changes after I shift my energy.
The best way is to stay positive, bring up high vibe.
So what I'm doing is to create my own life and future.
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I am trying to get away from readings. I feel like I am done again after almost 3 weeks of no readings and then getting upset and going on a two day binge.
I dont want other men. I want this guy but he is showing me that he doesn't want me through his actions. What do you think?
He lives across the street from me and we work in the same building but we only see each other once or twice a week. We finally added each other on FB and it said in a relationship. I got upset and asked him what the hell is going on because we never said we were in a relationship so i assumed it was someone else. HE said that he didnt know that was there still on his page. He is asking me to wait for him and be patient because he is going through a really hard time in his life and he is depressed. Yet he can go 2 weeks without talking to me but when i message him he says how he misses me. One time we went a month without speaking and he said he was upset that i didnt message him. WHAT?
At work he sometimes run into me on purpose because i think he can see me walking up to the building at certain times. he did look really bad last time i saw him. We are not t alking for now because i accused him of cheating or talking to other girls. I just feel like he doesnt chase me or make plans with me. It is always me making plans.
I am just tired of the ups and downs i get from psychic readings. I just know things get worse when i call or when things get bad i call and then it gets even worse. GUys are coming out the woodworks to date or talk to me but i dont want them. I want him. I ruined things on my side when i took action based onwhat the psychics said and accused him of cheating but then again... he had in a relationship on his FB when we had not spoken for a couple of weeks.... i dont know what to think but he denies he is talking to other women even if we are not official.
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I am trying to get away from readings. I feel like I am done again after almost 3 weeks of no readings and then getting upset and going on a two day binge.
I dont want other men. I want this guy but he is showing me that he doesn't want me through his actions. What do you think?
He lives across the street from me and we work in the same building but we only see each other once or twice a week. We finally added each other on FB and it said in a relationship. I got upset and asked him what the hell is going on because we never said we were in a relationship so i assumed it was someone else. HE said that he didnt know that was there still on his page. He is asking me to wait for him and be patient because he is going through a really hard time in his life and he is depressed. Yet he can go 2 weeks without talking to me but when i message him he says how he misses me. One time we went a month without speaking and he said he was upset that i didnt message him. WHAT?
At work he sometimes run into me on purpose because i think he can see me walking up to the building at certain times. he did look really bad last time i saw him. We are not t alking for now because i accused him of cheating or talking to other girls. I just feel like he doesnt chase me or make plans with me. It is always me making plans.
I am just tired of the ups and downs i get from psychic readings. I just know things get worse when i call or when things get bad i call and then it gets even worse. GUys are coming out the woodworks to date or talk to me but i dont want them. I want him. I ruined things on my side when i took action based onwhat the psychics said and accused him of cheating but then again... he had in a relationship on his FB when we had not spoken for a couple of weeks.... i dont know what to think but he denies he is talking to other women even if we are not official.
I'm really sorry that you're going through such a hard time. Here's my opinion for what it's worth. Continue to not get readings. These psychics will cause more emotional turmoil and confusion for you. They will also have you holding on to something that may not be right for you for long periods of time, even years. My advise to you is to look at his behavior, how he treats you, how you FEEL, what your own intuition is saying (even if you don't like what your own intuition is saying) and just go with that. Behavior always tells the tale. If he really is in a depression, he has to come out of it on his own and in his own time and you have to give him that space to do so and not "wait" on him because that could take months or even years for him to do. Outside of his depression, if he really is going through that, you have to look at how he's treating you. Would you two be speaking if you never reached out to him first all the time? Would you two ever do anything if you weren't the one always asking? Relationships and even dating are two way streets. If you continue to do all the work then resentments within you will slowly build like a cancer and the outcome of that is never good. You can't change other people so if he's the kind that doesn't put forth efforts, do yourself a huge favor and don't wait around for him to change that about himself because chances are, it won't ever change and before you know it, you'll wake up one day realizing that you've just wasted so many YEARS waiting for this person to come around and change all in vain. Much love you to and good luck!
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Thank you so much. I am feeling better now by praying. I spent the night at his place to watch GOT and the day before he was sent to the hospital for fainting at work. He was so stressed and upset he paced around the room till 5 am in the morning. I cry thinking about what he is going through.... all what those psychics said ... some of them painted him as the bad person and said he was lying about depression etc. I am so done. I hate psychic readings because it does bring a lot of turmoil. Even the free minutes they offer is not worth it... there are some gifted ones there but whenever i get a reading, things that i feel should not happen, happen.
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Thank you so much. I am feeling better now by praying. I spent the night at his place to watch GOT and the day before he was sent to the hospital for fainting at work. He was so stressed and upset he paced around the room till 5 am in the morning. I cry thinking about what he is going through.... all what those psychics said ... some of them painted him as the bad person and said he was lying about depression etc. I am so done. I hate psychic readings because it does bring a lot of turmoil. Even the free minutes they offer is not worth it... there are some gifted ones there but whenever i get a reading, things that i feel should not happen, happen.
Yeah that's the other huge risk. You are asking a complete stranger about how someone else is feeling in general, or about you, and what they are up to etc. That's dangerous because it can cause you unnecessary heartbreak and even destroy what could have been or what could be because now you will be acting like and treating the other person as if they are doing something bad to you when, in reality, they may really be going through something terrible and just shut down and it would have nothing to do with you or another third party etc. I've had that happen so many times and while sometimes it was true, it was something my intuition already told me, and other times they would say it and it wouldn't "feel" right within me so I would dismiss it and go with what I felt and I ended up being right. YOU are the one that has the connection with this person and so I think it's best you just go with what YOUR gut is telling you and if you're confused about what it's telling you, then do nothing until it becomes clear. I feel like psychics ruin people's lives unintentionally. Yes, there are some that are gifted and can see certain things, but they can't see everything and we are humans, so our feelings will change from time to time. Sometimes our feelings change from hour to hour. It's just not a good way to determine what to do or make decisions based upon readings. When I first came on this forum I was raving about a couple of certain psychics and I took their word for gold. These psychics had a 99% accuracy rate. HOWEVER, the current situation I was calling about for the past year has unfolded completely opposite of what they said and that was a huge heartbreak and crushing disappointment for me. Had I just listened to my own intuition, seen the situation for what it was, not what it "might" change into or what it "could" change into, but for what it really was.......I would've spent more time letting go and healing rather than hanging on for the predictions to pass, which, none of the positive ones really ever did. Another year of my life wasted because I made decisions based upon readings. If you ever do decide to get more readings, take them with a grain of salt. That's my advice to you. I'm very glad you are feeling better. Much love and many blessings be to you. <3
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THank you and yes they do. I cracked today because even if i have mostly stopped readings, if i feel really stressed, i will go to one. Which is better than last month when i called for every little thing lol
One psychic who was very accurate said to tell him that i accept his good and his bad. I sent that and it didnt go well with him in messenger. It came off as too much and the opposite happened from what this psychic said would happen.
Another dangerous thing about psychics is that if you call a lot, they will make you feel like a relationship is something impossible because of a 3rd party or some weird barrier or energy... and you get stuck in a cycle of calling about every tom dick and harry.
I get frustrated and i feel isolated when i call them. I was in t-mobile shop today and saw this couple come in who were not really taking care of themselves and the girl wore clothes i wouldnt even wear in the privacy of my own home.. yet she had her guy and i doubt all these couples i meet are calling psychics. just about all of them say that it happened naturally or it was a surprise.
im guessing if you are expecting something really hard, it doesn't happen.
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I cracked today because even if i have mostly stopped readings, if i feel really stressed, i will go to one. Which is better than last month when i called for every little thing lol
Hey WinterElf - I get you on the stress-readings. It's a huge realization to have, that when you feel stressed, you get a psychic reading. Things I've tried when I realize this is coming on (the angsty anxious OH-MY-GOD-I-NEED-TO-KNOW feeling) is to try taking a break from whatever is happening in the moment. Like, to say to myself "oh, I'm about to do something stupid, what could I do instead?" and I'll go for a walk, or I'll come here and read other people's posts, or I'll set a timer on my phone and straighten up the house for 10 minutes (I'd love to be one of those people who stress cleans). Then I'll see if the feeling passes. If it hasn't, I'll try something else.
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thank you for those tips. i appreciate it. i think most of the people here have compulsive anxiety driven tendencies. i
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I stopped getting readings when I balanced up the logic of the situation and my gut was screaming at me. I was getting readings and not trusting in what they said, so I worked out that I was basically throwing money down the drain.
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Just wondering.... is this the star1 of old?????
Yes. I am. Why?
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I stopped getting readings when I balanced up the logic of the situation and my gut was screaming at me. I was getting readings and not trusting in what they said, so I worked out that I was basically throwing money down the drain.
Welcome back star...
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I stopped getting readings when I balanced up the logic of the situation and my gut was screaming at me. I was getting readings and not trusting in what they said, so I worked out that I was basically throwing money down the drain.
Welcome back star...
Ah thanks Kat, hope you're doing okay :)
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Just wondering.... is this the star1 of old?????
Yes. I am. Why?
Wow. Welcome back. You were one of my valued reviewers when I started lurking the board a while back. Then u vanished so abruptly. I recall just about all the top readers predicted you and your poi getting back together... but u felt this was impossible... did anything change if u dont mind my asking?
Thanks so much, I'll pm you.
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I stopped when every single one was wrong. Everything they told me to do made stuff worse. Nothing they said even current feelings were true. Huge waste of money and energy. I kick myself now thinking of how bad I have let it mess up my life.
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Well, I just received a letter from the IRS stating I owe over $3,000 on my 2017 return. I made sure to file my taxes with H&R Block and still this happens right at a time when im struggling financially, and none of the big guns saw this and I have had several general reads and 3 month outlooks. Isnt the point of getting readings to prepare you for things like this? Whats the point of all these readings then?
Ugh! You had the three month outlook with Micah? He brought up an issue I would have that wasn't near as significant money-wise... just someone making fraudulent charges on my card, so I had to cancel it and get a new one... you'd think something this big would be seen! :( I'm sorry!
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Yes what is the point when they miss the big stuff and barely get the small stuff. So sorry you are going through this Professor.
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For me, I havent stopped completely but do not call nearly as much as I did in the past. What made me tone it way down was not being so focused on the outcome because quite frankly, most psychics NEVER got that right anyway and now just using psychics to help clear up confusion for me. I also found a few psychics that I seem to connect well with and I trust so when I call them for a reading, I feel satisfied after and dont feel the need to keep calling others like I did in the past. I will probably always hang on to my few faves and call when I feel I need to but I've stopped calling like I used to. Mostly because I have a busy life and just dont care as much about "will he return or not" any more. It was that nonsense that kept me calling and when the predictions would not happen, I would call some more and listen to the timing get pushed out etc etc etc....it just creates a cycle of hanging on and then calling more when the timing passes and nothing happens. At some point, you just say enough. Like for every other area of my life I do not hang on to things like that so why am I doing it for some dumb guy ?? hahah I think in the past I became more obsessed with which psychics would be accurate than I actually even cared about the guy any more!!
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Hi all. I still dont do readings. I have a new man in my life :-*. My ex never came back. :-\
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I’m bawling reading this. Thank you for posting it so eloquently.
I began to see the pointlessness of readings, for me, about eighteen months ago. But even then I still couldn't stop completely because I was so enamoured of this poi. I desperately wanted to believe I still had a ghost of a chance with him. I was totally deluded. Hell, the man was already in a committed relationship and not even available. I'm embarrassed to admit it but I've been having readings about this same poi for literally years. I just couldn't let the matter rest, even though it was obvious he felt nothing for me, and I was wasting precious time, energy and money consulting these psychics. I read with one who was my main go-to for three years just because some small predictions had come true. I ignored my intuition, and allowed myself to be strung along like a fool, hoping the big, positive outcome would eventually unfold as she kept saying it would, although she could never give me a time frame. When the situation deteriorated out of the blue and the poi snubbed me, the psychic abruptly changed her tune. She blamed me for what happened by saying things would have come together if I'd taken her advice and 'worked on myself.' Then she flipped her prediction of three years by telling me the divine wanted to heal me in preparation for new love! She'd been telling me all along the poi was so attracted to me, had feelings, it was meant to be and we would be together etc. My fault of course for hanging on, denying reality and believing in all this rubbish. When it became glaringly obvious that he didn't want anything to do with me, she changed tack and said there wasn't enough between us for him to truly care if his behaviour was hurtful, or how he treated me. She became quite passive-aggressive, and then told me to google 'twin flame runner' because I'd 'understand more.' ::)
Even after that debacle, I STILL carried on reading with psychics to soothe my anxiety and escape reality. It was only recently when I had two negative card readings telling me nothing I hadn't already worked out for myself, that it dawned on me I was throwing my money away in pursuit of a dream, a fantasy, and it was a vain attempt to hold on to hope just a little bit longer. I was trying to avoid dealing with the pain of accepting that my poi wasn't interested in me romantically, and wouldn't ever see me in that way.
I've wasted years. I've finally seen sense and realised I can't let this crazy obsession go on past a certain number of years or it would be even more insane, so I've gone cold turkey. No more readings for me. Now the shame and regret has kicked in. I feel these readings mess with your emotions, and can cause you to lose touch with what reality is showing you. I was in denial for so long, and the years slip by all too quickly. I have remained stuck in the past while fixated on the poi. I also let important matters slide, and now I have to dig myself out of a financial hole, not for the first time, because I haven't been attending to important aspects of my life. It feels like I allowed everything to go to the dogs. I have to make a fresh start in life and move on from the poi, the painful memories and the whole ghastly experience with him.
I'm not blaming the psychics; I still think there are some genuine ones out there, and it was my choice to keep having readings about a hopeless situation. I just know that consulting with them is not healthy behaviour for me. I am better off using my intuition and common sense for guidance.
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@gemini30 mee too. 2 1/2 years. I was addicted. One time I blew my whole paycheck on just readings. I have spent probably hundreds if not thousands on readings. And most of them were fluff, even Angela, what I wanted to hear. My ex never came back. :-X They were all wrong. The only ones right were Denise and Yona, they both predicted a new man coming into my life. At the time I didn't want t o hear it or believe it. But Denise and Yona were both right. ;D
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I began to see the pointlessness of readings, for me, about eighteen months ago. But even then I still couldn't stop completely because I was so enamoured of this poi. I desperately wanted to believe I still had a ghost of a chance with him. I was totally deluded. Hell, the man was already in a committed relationship and not even available. I'm embarrassed to admit it but I've been having readings about this same poi for literally years. I just couldn't let the matter rest, even though it was obvious he felt nothing for me, and I was wasting precious time, energy and money consulting these psychics. I read with one who was my main go-to for three years just because some small predictions had come true. I ignored my intuition, and allowed myself to be strung along like a fool, hoping the big, positive outcome would eventually unfold as she kept saying it would, although she could never give me a time frame. When the situation deteriorated out of the blue and the poi snubbed me, the psychic abruptly changed her tune. She blamed me for what happened by saying things would have come together if I'd taken her advice and 'worked on myself.' Then she flipped her prediction of three years by telling me the divine wanted to heal me in preparation for new love! She'd been telling me all along the poi was so attracted to me, had feelings, it was meant to be and we would be together etc. My fault of course for hanging on, denying reality and believing in all this rubbish. When it became glaringly obvious that he didn't want anything to do with me, she changed tack and said there wasn't enough between us for him to truly care if his behaviour was hurtful, or how he treated me. She became quite passive-aggressive, and then told me to google 'twin flame runner' because I'd 'understand more.' ::)
Even after that debacle, I STILL carried on reading with psychics to soothe my anxiety and escape reality. It was only recently when I had two negative card readings telling me nothing I hadn't already worked out for myself, that it dawned on me I was throwing my money away in pursuit of a dream, a fantasy, and it was a vain attempt to hold on to hope just a little bit longer. I was trying to avoid dealing with the pain of accepting that my poi wasn't interested in me romantically, and wouldn't ever see me in that way.
I've wasted years. I've finally seen sense and realised I can't let this crazy obsession go on past a certain number of years or it would be even more insane, so I've gone cold turkey. No more readings for me. Now the shame and regret has kicked in. I feel these readings mess with your emotions, and can cause you to lose touch with what reality is showing you. I was in denial for so long, and the years slip by all too quickly. I have remained stuck in the past while fixated on the poi. I also let important matters slide, and now I have to dig myself out of a financial hole, not for the first time, because I haven't been attending to important aspects of my life. It feels like I allowed everything to go to the dogs. I have to make a fresh start in life and move on from the poi, the painful memories and the whole ghastly experience with him.
I'm not blaming the psychics; I still think there are some genuine ones out there, and it was my choice to keep having readings about a hopeless situation. I just know that consulting with them is not healthy behaviour for me. I am better off using my intuition and common sense for guidance.
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When you feel shame and regret just remind yourself of what you’ve learned from it and that you’re no longer in that position. I hope things start to look up for you, Gemini
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Hi all. I still dont do readings. I have a new man in my life :-*. My ex never came back. :-\
I am sorry to hear about your ex, but i hope you are happy now and that it works out for you with this new guy.
No one was right about my original POI except Kisha...who predicted (SEVERAL YEARS OUT BTW) that at some point i just would not care about having a relationship with the person in question. After about five years my feelings finally dissipated and he is now engaged to someone else.
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@gemini30 mee too. 2 1/2 years. I was addicted. One time I blew my whole paycheck on just readings. I have spent probably hundreds if not thousands on readings. And most of them were fluff, even Angela, what I wanted to hear. My ex never came back. :-X They were all wrong. The only ones right were Denise and Yona, they both predicted a new man coming into my life. At the time I didn't want t o hear it or believe it. But Denise and Yona were both right. ;D
Hi unicorn love! Happy for you for this new man in your life and for you staying away from going down the rabbit hole of readings :) I think I remember you way back when you said Angel Readings didn't charge you money but told you your ex wasn't coming back too, so she was right too?
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This thread was a great read for me today.
I don't think I'm 100% done with readings forever and ever, but I am done with excessive and compulsive calling -- because:
- I finally came to the conclusion that POI does not deserve me unless he substantially changes his behavior. I surrender the outcome.
- Trying to find insight into POI's behavior is not worth my time, energy, or money anymore. I think sometimes we think that if we can just better understand someone, then we'll have the tools to fix the situation. That may be true in some situations, but not in mine.
- The readings were making it more difficult to mentally detach from the situation and live my life. I also wouldn't be surprised if they were affecting POI in some cosmic way.
- The readings were making me feel paralyzed with fear and like I needed to consult with a team of "experts" before I did anything.
- As a matter of principle, I refuse to spend more money on someone who has consistently put his own needs first.
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Great insights Russianred
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some of the points you made really resonated with me! I find it hard to "let go" of the situation/your POI when you are continuing to get readings. and i found that the more frequently i get readings the more i am hyper-focused on the situation/POI. to me at least, i have to cut back significantly to detach. I've mentioned in another thread on here, that one reader told me that the more readings i'm getting is actually effecting my own POI's energy and leaving him hanging. so in my experience, there is def truth to all this.
Yes, I like what you wrote about letting go. I wish it were something I could have forced more as I would have let go a long time ago to save myself a lot of frustration and money, but I think I had to arrive at my own conclusion. I was reading other threads on here and someone posted something about how a reader told her that being mentally "on hold" for someone (and I think many of us who call readers are in that boat) can feed into a "tense and frustrated space" that the POI then picks up on (I know mine has). Readings can further add to those emotions because they keep us in the emotional vortex of the situation. I also think that if I'm binging and a bunch of readers are trying to tap into POI's energy, that might just drain him further.
Letting go doesn't mean letting go of any hope. I'm still hopeful that things will work out. It means letting go of our need to control the situation and obtain a particular outcome. Letting go of my need to fully understand POI's actions. Letting go of trying to get the "magic insight" to help me "fix" him. For me, it also means being open to other possibilities and accepting that if POI can't prove himself deserving of me, then he is not the right one for me.
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I do think that in general, when men feel that you are genuinely (not pretending) slipping away, they will be more likely to respond and try to win you back. I believe I'm letting go for the right reasons -- for myself -- but of course a small part of me hopes that he will respond to this approach much better than the hovering and frustrated approach. :)
I also know exactly what you mean about how online dating is so draining and how the connection with POI feels pure and true compared to what you feel for others -- yet also not knowing whether a relationship would actually work given the limitations on what POI can offer to you due to his own circumstances.
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Thank you so much. I am feeling better now by praying. I spent the night at his place to watch GOT and the day before he was sent to the hospital for fainting at work. He was so stressed and upset he paced around the room till 5 am in the morning. I cry thinking about what he is going through.... all what those psychics said ... some of them painted him as the bad person and said he was lying about depression etc. I am so done. I hate psychic readings because it does bring a lot of turmoil. Even the free minutes they offer is not worth it... there are some gifted ones there but whenever i get a reading, things that i feel should not happen, happen.
Yeah that's the other huge risk. You are asking a complete stranger about how someone else is feeling in general, or about you, and what they are up to etc. That's dangerous because it can cause you unnecessary heartbreak and even destroy what could have been or what could be because now you will be acting like and treating the other person as if they are doing something bad to you when, in reality, they may really be going through something terrible and just shut down and it would have nothing to do with you or another third party etc. I've had that happen so many times and while sometimes it was true, it was something my intuition already told me, and other times they would say it and it wouldn't "feel" right within me so I would dismiss it and go with what I felt and I ended up being right. YOU are the one that has the connection with this person and so I think it's best you just go with what YOUR gut is telling you and if you're confused about what it's telling you, then do nothing until it becomes clear. I feel like psychics ruin people's lives unintentionally. Yes, there are some that are gifted and can see certain things, but they can't see everything and we are humans, so our feelings will change from time to time. Sometimes our feelings change from hour to hour. It's just not a good way to determine what to do or make decisions based upon readings. When I first came on this forum I was raving about a couple of certain psychics and I took their word for gold. These psychics had a 99% accuracy rate. HOWEVER, the current situation I was calling about for the past year has unfolded completely opposite of what they said and that was a huge heartbreak and crushing disappointment for me. Had I just listened to my own intuition, seen the situation for what it was, not what it "might" change into or what it "could" change into, but for what it really was.......I would've spent more time letting go and healing rather than hanging on for the predictions to pass, which, none of the positive ones really ever did. Another year of my life wasted because I made decisions based upon readings. If you ever do decide to get more readings, take them with a grain of salt. That's my advice to you. I'm very glad you are feeling better. Much love and many blessings be to you. <3
Miss Philospher you were so right. They ruined my life also unintentionally. I should have listened to myself. I wasted my life big time following psychics from 2018 2019... I am still recovering from the damage i caused by taking their word seriously. Please leave these psychics alone guys
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I've been addicted to readings on and off for 8 or so years, what helped me to realize and come to my senses was to look at the situation I'm being shown, and the actions of the person, cuz often times a reader can come out with lovely comments you'd like to hear, but it didn't match up with her actions for me, and I have this deep realization gut feeling going on inside of me which perhaps I chose not to accept or face cuz of the pain of it. There's been a couple of times where readers gave info that turned out to be accurate such as cheating or third parties, but, they quite often missed the bigger picture
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When I realized I m way happier when I m not expecting anything to happen.
When I realized happy present brings happy future.
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I would also now add when I realized that I can trust myself again to make decisions. When I realized I was making decisions that my gut wasn't comfortable with based on what I was being told. That I know myself better than the readers know me.
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It was my own stupidity that kept me going. I kept good notes and already knew that they said the same thing over and over. I'd pretty much stopped by the time I found this forum in 2011. I had a couple more readings after I met my current bf and they were so far off it wasn't funny. But that first year was HELL. They are well trained in taking advantage of people, I can say that much.
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What I'm working on right now is letting go of the need to understand why POI has acted the way he has AND have my POI understand my position.
If I'm being straight-up -- it bothers me that he doesn't seem to see what a selfish POS he's been. Like he really doesn't seem to get it. (I guess if he did, he probably wouldn't be acting like a selfish POS.) I've continued to seek out validation from him that my perspective is the sane and normal one to no avail.
I don't know if I've just mentally burned myself on it all (does that ever happen to you? where you just don't want to think about it anymore?), but today was truly day one for me of moving toward an acceptance that I probably just won't understand him and he won't understand me. And no amount of analysis, calling psychics or empaths, and whatever else will change that.
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For me, I know I used readings as a coping mechanism after the break up to help me understand what was POI thinking, what would happen next etc. Because of no contact it was a desperate attempt to feel some type of connection with him. Those dates and predictions kept me going and helped in not reaching out.
Had he not got in touch like he did within a few weeks of the break up, I would have continued doing readings for a maximum of another 2 months and moved on.
It actually astonishes me that some people here have been having readings on a POI for 1 year and above. Dont you think if there was interest the person would have made a move by now? I can only imagine how much money that is down the drain.
Not only that, for those of us who want to have families, kids etc, every year wasted on a man who cant man up is a year of fertility wasted. I'm in my mid 30's now... I aint got time for that. Maybe when I was younger the chase and all that was fun but not now.
Great points, but when a person is feeling desperate and low, they believe the psychic(s) and continue to waste time (although not to them) month after month because they are fed hope. All the psychic has to say is that person has feelings for them and they take that in their mind that their POI is going to return or reach out. Even though the POI probably wasn't good for them or to them from the beginning. Some people hardly ever see it through the rose colored glasses because they are in it.
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For me, I know I used readings as a coping mechanism after the break up to help me understand what was POI thinking, what would happen next etc. Because of no contact it was a desperate attempt to feel some type of connection with him. Those dates and predictions kept me going and helped in not reaching out.
Had he not got in touch like he did within a few weeks of the break up, I would have continued doing readings for a maximum of another 2 months and moved on.
It actually astonishes me that some people here have been having readings on a POI for 1 year and above. Dont you think if there was interest the person would have made a move by now? I can only imagine how much money that is down the drain.
Not only that, for those of us who want to have families, kids etc, every year wasted on a man who cant man up is a year of fertility wasted. I'm in my mid 30's now... I aint got time for that. Maybe when I was younger the chase and all that was fun but not now.
Great points, but when a person is feeling desperate and low, they believe the psychic(s) and continue to waste time (although not to them) month after month because they are fed hope. All the psychic has to say is that person has feelings for them and they take that in their mind that their POI is going to return or reach out. Even though the POI probably wasn't good for them or to them from the beginning. Some people hardly ever see it through the rose colored glasses because they are in it.
This is the biggest issue. You will have 20 psychics saying your poi is coming back and maybe 2 saying he won't. In my case in the past I believed the 20 who kept telling me he was coming back. I would still get readings with them after the time frames came and went. It was an expensive lesson to learn.
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I look back on the time when I was getting readings and it seems as if I was completely out of my mind. The thing is I knew better. I argued with the psychics myself and told them what I knew was the truth. It's like an addiction though. Knowing better doesn't make you stop.
Isn't it scary?! I'm not that far removed from the two months in which I poured thousands (literally) down the drain, one reading after the next via Keen. I never thought of myself as someone who might be susceptible to that. I ask myself WHO was that person who behaved like a total zombie? I do believe that some people have some abilities, but the idea that MysticPassionMorgana or whatever (just making up a silly name here) on Keen.com could bring me peace is laughable.
I think it's made even worse that I got nothing tangible out of the money spent. I've also dealt with an addiction to shopping, but at least I got something out of that and could recoup some of the money through resale. This is just like nope, the money is gone, and there's nothing I can do about that.
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Yes! Omg it's horrifying. I totally feel the same way about it. I can't believe I was calling all these people on Keen with silly names and chain smoker voices asking about my life. It's comical in a way but tragic in another. It feels like it was someone else, not me. Who was I, what was I thinking? I mean I understand and remember the state of mind I was in, I just can't believe it drove me to spend so much money.
Yes it's hard to accept that the money is gone and I don't have anything to show for it. I do feel like sometimes it helped me to talk to someone but it was way too expensive. And some of those psychics really made things worse for me.
I laughed at "chain smoker voices." Sometimes I would want to hang up immediately after hearing the person's voice and realizing what a joke s/he sounded like (the smarmy guys were the worst) but I almost always toughed it out for some reason. I similarly feel like talking to some people was helpful, but I didn't need to talk SO much.
I don't plan to swear off all readings and have ONE planned for next month. But the insane binges, just no. Never again. I have OCD and think that maybe the binge readings were a sort of compulsion, sort of like shopping with my shopping addiction.
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Yes! Omg it's horrifying. I totally feel the same way about it. I can't believe I was calling all these people on Keen with silly names and chain smoker voices asking about my life. It's comical in a way but tragic in another. It feels like it was someone else, not me. Who was I, what was I thinking? I mean I understand and remember the state of mind I was in, I just can't believe it drove me to spend so much money.
Yes it's hard to accept that the money is gone and I don't have anything to show for it. I do feel like sometimes it helped me to talk to someone but it was way too expensive. And some of those psychics really made things worse for me.
I laughed at "chain smoker voices." Sometimes I would want to hang up immediately after hearing the person's voice and realizing what a joke s/he sounded like (the smarmy guys were the worst) but I almost always toughed it out for some reason. I similarly feel like talking to some people was helpful, but I didn't need to talk SO much.
I don't plan to swear off all readings and have ONE planned for next month. But the insane binges, just no. Never again. I have OCD and think that maybe the binge readings were a sort of compulsion, sort of like shopping with my shopping addiction.
Totally made me chuckle because sometimes they do come across as gnarly and craggy. I also avoid silly names because it just never came across as if they were legitimate. Don't they know how it sounds? Candybar??
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I wanted to add one more thing.
I think that I finally started looking more at the FACTS of my situation rather than the EMOTIONS. And I realized that psychics keep you in the EMOTIONS mindset by often making excuses for FACTS.
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I wanted to add one more thing.
I think that I finally started looking more at the FACTS of my situation rather than the EMOTIONS. And I realized that psychics keep you in the EMOTIONS mindset by often making excuses for FACTS.
I 100% agree!
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I wanted to add one more thing.
I think that I finally started looking more at the FACTS of my situation rather than the EMOTIONS. And I realized that psychics keep you in the EMOTIONS mindset by often making excuses for FACTS.
This comment was absolutely brilliant. I completely agree. Right on!
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I wanted to add one more thing.
I think that I finally started looking more at the FACTS of my situation rather than the EMOTIONS. And I realized that psychics keep you in the EMOTIONS mindset by often making excuses for FACTS.
SO VERY TRUE. Accuracy of this comment is insane lol
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I agree too so well stated