The Psychic Reviews
Relationship Psychology Discussions => The Vent => Topic started by: star1 on November 18, 2018, 09:35:39 PM
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Okay so I might have asked this question a couple of times to people, but I want to ask what everyone's personal view is of this from their experience of readings, whether it's past or present..
Do you believe that a psychic/medium/empath can accurately pick up on feelings at the time of the call?
I ask because look at the success rate of people on this board.. About 1% have had the ex come back, managed to reconcile, and it be a happy ending.
Do you think it's possible that 99% of people's POI's/exes love and miss them, but they won't reach out because they're scared of commitment/insert other excuse here?
My personal experience: I have been given readers names to try on Keen or privately that are "honest" and "accurate" at current situations, and they all have said that my ex has feelings for me still, but either has the commitment issues or has stuff going on in his life like working hard and money issues, not having much time for anything else in his life blah blah is the root cause. But I haven't had contact in a very long time with my ex, and I find it hard to believe that these readers still say to this day that he cares and loves me, but you'd think that if somebody cared - they'd have reached out by now, or made some sort of movement? I don't understand why if my ex cared - would leave it this long to contact me, and that's why I posted that I'd like a few readings with some empaths and to then move on. I'm not going to be one of those ladies who waits for years and years on the ex, I don't believe my readings anymore or have faith in them, so I'm essentially wasting money for "gambles" on the future and what he could be feeling.. I have to believe more his actions than what these readers say, and it doesn't seem to look like he cares for lack of interaction with me in all of this time.. But I can't understand why they don't just say he really doesn't care. I mean, I specifically went to the readers who are supposed to be blunt and to the point about situations..
I don't know.. I just wanted to see what people believe in, if they (in their experience) believe that these readers have the abilities to sense somebody's current feelings for yourself in this present moment or not? Like I said at the beginning of the post, it's odd how 99% of us don't get the happily ever after story, yet the ex is supposed to "love us"..
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I don't even know anymore because we have so many fake psychics and even the real one give people false hope. No one Poi had come back when I look at the review in here they always used stock line like he scary, busy on his career ect.
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The fact that you have not seen someone does not mean they don't think about you, just look at everyone calling about their ex but not reaching out, maybe the ex is not calling on psychics but hoping that the other person will break the ice and reach out just like you expect them to reach out and this goes on forever and eventually fades.
I had a POI, not one, not two but three, One left for a year, the other for 8 months, when POI A reached out after a year, he confessed how he felt and couldn't stop thinking about me that I've stolen his heart. As a matter of fact, Aries has predicted to me that he was choked up with emotions so his confession was no surprise plus I use to be the one to reach out and I stopped hence why the long time.
POI B contacted after 8months but he was someone that I was not invested in so I let him do his thing, as a matter of fact, POI B had previously told me he never goes back to his ex....
POI C- after 2-3 years tried to contact but he was ignored on linkedin, email, and phone, this one.
Does it mean relationship will evlove when and if they contact , maybe not , the same problems will still be there. these are my thoughts.
Okay so I might have asked this question a couple of times to people, but I want to ask what everyone's personal view is of this from their experience of readings, whether it's past or present..
Do you believe that a psychic/medium/empath can accurately pick up on feelings at the time of the call?
I ask because look at the success rate of people on this board.. About 1% have had the ex come back, managed to reconcile, and it be a happy ending.
Do you think it's possible that 99% of people's POI's/exes love and miss them, but they won't reach out because they're scared of commitment/insert other excuse here?
My personal experience: I have been given readers names to try on Keen or privately that are "honest" and "accurate" at current situations, and they all have said that my ex has feelings for me still, but either has the commitment issues or has stuff going on in his life like working hard and money issues, not having much time for anything else in his life blah blah is the root cause. But I haven't had contact in a very long time with my ex, and I find it hard to believe that these readers still say to this day that he cares and loves me, but you'd think that if somebody cared - they'd have reached out by now, or made some sort of movement? I don't understand why if my ex cared - would leave it this long to contact me, and that's why I posted that I'd like a few readings with some empaths and to then move on. I'm not going to be one of those ladies who waits for years and years on the ex, I don't believe my readings anymore or have faith in them, so I'm essentially wasting money for "gambles" on the future and what he could be feeling.. I have to believe more his actions than what these readers say, and it doesn't seem to look like he cares for lack of interaction with me in all of this time.. But I can't understand why they don't just say he really doesn't care. I mean, I specifically went to the readers who are supposed to be blunt and to the point about situations..
I don't know.. I just wanted to see what people believe in, if they (in their experience) believe that these readers have the abilities to sense somebody's current feelings for yourself in this present moment or not? Like I said at the beginning of the post, it's odd how 99% of us don't get the happily ever after story, yet the ex is supposed to "love us"..
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I do believe they are capable of pinpoint the feelings/emotions in the present moment when you call. I've validated this maybe 3 times over thhe course of 10 years of readings. Ive also experienced them being wrong about a lot of things...or only partially correct.
I personally believe that the majority of them can see that someone may care about you or think fondly of you, but they dont see the nuances of it to the degree that you need to know to see the bigger picture. Most just dont have the skill.Just because someone cares about you does not mean they want you or want to be with you in a romantic way. Its part of why they may not reach out; other things are more important to them.
I believe only a small percentage of clients here are dealing with men that genuinely love and won't pursue a relationship because of emotional/commitment issues. I want to say about 20 percent. Now, of those 20 percent...they may have a happy ending....in time. There was a friend I had that was in this situation. They did not reconcile until years later...about 5. Life moved on in the mean time. They have a baby now and seem to be happy. She couldnt give anyone credit for predicting this tho. They all gave her confusing answers, even the gifted ones she trusted.
Now, the other 80 percent are calling about dead end situations. The reader may tell you he cares, but dont know if it will go anywhere. Another example of them being unreliable service providers.
Its not odd that most of us dont get the happy ending. It would make sense honestly because readers are not to be relied on. And even the gifted ones can indeed sugarcoat or may be motivated subconsciously to give you a favorable outcome.
The confusion stops when you take these readers as the entertainment that they are.
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Thanks everybody for your feedback, it's sometimes refreshing to vent and hear others experiences for a change :)
Psychic Girls - Yeah I have to be honest, that's where I can get a little suspicious sometimes, when they tell us all the same excuses. You can't help but wonder if the reader generally sees that the person can't commit or has this and that going on, or if they're telling it to others.
Tell Me Why - That's also a good point. They could also be waiting for us to reach out and having the same thoughts as us, wondering what we're upto and why we haven't reached out this time around. It's interesting to hear your experiences with your 3 POI's, thanks for sharing.
Still Tired - Yeah actually Zadalia told me similar, and that usually she tells people that the ex cares and loves them, but rarely much happens externally. I guess most of us have "the one that got away", and the ex we think about from time to time. Especially if there's not much closure. Still Tired, yes definitely some of these guys the way how they treat us is in their interests only and not because they care. Like ego boosting, seeing if the woman is there still like the carrot on the end of the stick, sadly.
BStalling - Yeah it's hard with readers because some can get the situation spot on and tell you that the ex genuinely cares, but doesn't mean to say he'd reach out or he's going to change his ways. Some women on here can sometimes be in denial and not realise that the relationship wasn't healthy and that the man doesn't care about them, is narcissistic and cares only when it's something he can get out ot them like sex, money or ego boosting. Sometimes on here it's true in the cases where a man buckles because he's scared or he has his other shit going on in his life like the right person at the wrong time.
Thanks all for your experiences/opinions/views :D.
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I think some more talented readers can pick up on feelings at the time of the call, for sure, but actions they can't seem to predict.
First POI I called about, I was able to verify his feelings for me, but he never acted or tried to make a real relationship happen with me, who knows why?
I can even say, for myself, I still have a lot of feelings about the recent POI, but I would NEVER act on them...I will never reach out to him again. So if he were to get a reading on me, they would probably tell him yes she still has feelings for you, and then maybe assume because of those strong feelings, I will take action on them..nope, never will happen :/
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I think some more talented readers can pick up on feelings at the time of the call, for sure, but actions they can't seem to predict.
First POI I called about, I was able to verify his feelings for me, but he never acted or tried to make a real relationship happen with me, who knows why?
I can even say, for myself, I still have a lot of feelings about the recent POI, but I would NEVER act on them...I will never reach out to him again. So if he were to get a reading on me, they would probably tell him yes she still has feelings for you, and then maybe assume because of those strong feelings, I will take action on them..nope, never will happen :/
That's a good point, I'm the same and I wouldn't reach out to my ex this time. Usually I would do, but not this time. The reason why I'm skeptical with my ex (and I didn't write this on the board because it's kinda personal to the situation) is that this ex owes me something, and I'd think that he'd make any excuse to give it back to me. When these readers all say he has feelings for me, I find it hard to believe when he could use what he owes me as an excuse to reach out to me.
But that is very true, lots of men are more insecure than we think and have more issues going on than we realise, and find it easier to disappear lol. Thanks for your insight :)
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I think some more talented readers can pick up on feelings at the time of the call, for sure, but actions they can't seem to predict.
First POI I called about, I was able to verify his feelings for me, but he never acted or tried to make a real relationship happen with me, who knows why?
I can even say, for myself, I still have a lot of feelings about the recent POI, but I would NEVER act on them...I will never reach out to him again. So if he were to get a reading on me, they would probably tell him yes she still has feelings for you, and then maybe assume because of those strong feelings, I will take action on them..nope, never will happen :/
That's a good point, I'm the same and I wouldn't reach out to my ex this time. Usually I would do, but not this time. The reason why I'm skeptical with my ex (and I didn't write this on the board because it's kinda personal to the situation) is that this ex owes me something, and I'd think that he'd make any excuse to give it back to me. When these readers all say he has feelings for me, I find it hard to believe when he could use what he owes me as an excuse to reach out to me.
But that is very true, lots of men are more insecure than we think and have more issues going on than we realise, and find it easier to disappear lol. Thanks for your insight :)
NP :) I had a guy years ago just disappear and reappear at random. I stupidly kept entertaining him because I really liked him and was young and stupid..one day, after he disappeared on me for a month or two, I came home to a message from him on my machine (yes that long ago-before voice mail lol)..and I laughed and deleted it. It was then I realized I was truly over him and had no desire to go back and forth anymore.
I never got readings on him and didn't get readings at all then, but I still hung on much longer than I shd have.
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I think some more talented readers can pick up on feelings at the time of the call, for sure, but actions they can't seem to predict.
First POI I called about, I was able to verify his feelings for me, but he never acted or tried to make a real relationship happen with me, who knows why?
I can even say, for myself, I still have a lot of feelings about the recent POI, but I would NEVER act on them...I will never reach out to him again. So if he were to get a reading on me, they would probably tell him yes she still has feelings for you, and then maybe assume because of those strong feelings, I will take action on them..nope, never will happen :/
That's a good point, I'm the same and I wouldn't reach out to my ex this time. Usually I would do, but not this time. The reason why I'm skeptical with my ex (and I didn't write this on the board because it's kinda personal to the situation) is that this ex owes me something, and I'd think that he'd make any excuse to give it back to me. When these readers all say he has feelings for me, I find it hard to believe when he could use what he owes me as an excuse to reach out to me.
But that is very true, lots of men are more insecure than we think and have more issues going on than we realise, and find it easier to disappear lol. Thanks for your insight :)
NP :) I had a guy years ago just disappear and reappear at random. I stupidly kept entertaining him because I really liked him and was young and stupid..one day, after he disappeared on me for a month or two, I came home to a message from him on my machine (yes that long ago-before voice mail lol)..and I laughed and deleted it. It was then I realized I was truly over him and had no desire to go back and forth anymore.
I never got readings on him and didn't get readings at all then, but I still hung on much longer than I shd have.
I think one day, I'll look back and laugh and this. I certainly will never ever ask about a guy again, even if I've met someone and want to ask if they're genuine. I'll only get the "yeah hun, he adores you, you're both meant to be forever with the picket fence" line, lol ;D now I understand your username ;D
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Yes. I've seen where Judi even picked up that a certain person was drunk at the time of the reading, and it was really unusual as it was 9 am. Turned out to be 100% true.
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Yes. I've seen where Judi even picked up that a certain person was drunk at the time of the reading, and it was really unusual as it was 9 am. Turned out to be 100% true.
Thanks. None of them have picked up that this guy owes me money, not one - I am surprised. But that's pretty cool that she picked up he was drunk.
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Yes. I've seen where Judi even picked up that a certain person was drunk at the time of the reading, and it was really unusual as it was 9 am. Turned out to be 100% true.
Thanks. None of them have picked up that this guy owes me money, not one - I am surprised. But that's pretty cool that she picked up he was drunk.
She. Wasn't a poi in this case, just someone else that was going through a bad break up.
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Yes. I've seen where Judi even picked up that a certain person was drunk at the time of the reading, and it was really unusual as it was 9 am. Turned out to be 100% true.
Thanks. None of them have picked up that this guy owes me money, not one - I am surprised. But that's pretty cool that she picked up he was drunk.
She. Wasn't a poi in this case, just someone else that was going through a bad break up.
Oh okay, that's still interesting, though. :)
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@Star1: I'm just going to regurgitate other things that have already been said here by other beautiful souls.
1. It's true that you can have feelings for someone but never act upon it, and/or, delay in acting upon it. There are many reasons for this. It could be that the person feels like an absolute asshole and is too much of a coward to step forward. It could be the person doesn't feel they are ready to give you what you seek and they know it. It could be that the person is wanting to focus on money and career during this phase of their lives and feels a serious relationship would be a distraction and they wouldn't achieve their goals. It could be way too much ego and pride. It could be sooooooooo many things.
2. I have loved a few people deeply but never reached out to them because I wanted them to reach out to me. Perhaps some POI's want the same from us. I think that part really depends on who ended the relationship and why. I definitely wouldn't contact my current one because of how he's treated me. I'd be a fool to do so. So I let him get on with his life and learn his lessons the hard way and if I'm around whenever he is ready, then maybe it'll happen. If not, well then that's just another harsh life lesson for him. However, with another POI I loved him very much and I know he loved me too but we both knew it wasn't going to work out due to cultural issues so we just never contacted one another again. He's now married and has a son and I'm happy for him. I actually still care about that guy but obviously not in the same way I used to.
3. As I've stated before in previous posts, we can also feel one way in this moment and maybe for a year, but then our feelings change. It's sort of like how all of us feel when calling about POIs. In the beginning, feelings are still raw and strong. Over time, with no action, no communication etc........our feelings begin to slowly dissipate and change. Sometimes we lose all feelings and sometimes we just lose the strength of those feelings but still have some lingering feelings. This is specifically why I get readings monthly from two people. If I could afford it, I'd add in Divine Love but she's too expensive lol.
4. There are a TON of fake readers out there. Many more fake than real. So, I'd say, if you have some of the realist that you've read with that typically will say "uh no it's done" and they are telling you something else, maybe consider it. However, it may not happen in YOUR timing. Divine timing is always in control and at play here. Sometimes people have to have other experiences outside of you in order to be able to appreciate you. That may take years. It may take months. No one really knows. I don't think psychics are always given accurate timing due to the fact that A. maybe we aren't supposed to know so that we don't avoid certain situations for the purpose of learning.....and/or B. "time" doesn't exist on the other side.
At the end of the day, you have to go with the here and now. You have to go with what your gut is telling you. You have said many times that your gut is telling you that it's over. However, I feel if you really really felt it was over permanently, you would not still be calling psychics about said person. I feel like you actually feel on a deeper level that there is more to come, but not right now. Ask yourself why you are still calling after all this time. Something in you knows that it isn't the last you've heard from said person. Also, you could very well be picking up his thoughts/emotions for you as well. Remember, everything is an energy. EVERYTHING. Thoughts, emotions, etc. and since we are all connected we will feel them from others whether we are aware of it or not.
Thanks 11JLady. I guess I am having the last of my readings because I'm confused as to why they all still see contact and that he has feelings for me, makes me think "how the hell?", lol. You admitted on here that your POI hasn't treated you well and some of the stuff he's said to you has been mean, your logic mind would be like, "how dare he? He can f. himself", but your heart tells you different on him and makes you stuck because of no closure I guess, that's why I'm stuck and we all are. When we love, we forgive any old behaviour, lol. I never got closure, usually you don't though, and I have to accept that. The more realistic readers said he'd contact and has feelings, but I'd never get consistency. Kisha said we need to work on our comm (you know the email I sent you she did for me) and stop overreacting with each other when he next comes back. She didn't pick up on his commitment issues, I am thinking of asking her another 1Q email and seeing if she picks up more this time. Thank you for your always awesome advice and detailed insight :)
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Yes I believe it because it happened to me. An EX did reach out after many years (he wasn’t just an ex more like the love of my life) did we reconcile? I tried but ultamitely no because he is still immature and indecisive.
I think these readings just make harder and harder to let go.
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@Star1: I'm just going to regurgitate other things that have already been said here by other beautiful souls.
1. It's true that you can have feelings for someone but never act upon it, and/or, delay in acting upon it. There are many reasons for this. It could be that the person feels like an absolute asshole and is too much of a coward to step forward. It could be the person doesn't feel they are ready to give you what you seek and they know it. It could be that the person is wanting to focus on money and career during this phase of their lives and feels a serious relationship would be a distraction and they wouldn't achieve their goals. It could be way too much ego and pride. It could be sooooooooo many things.
2. I have loved a few people deeply but never reached out to them because I wanted them to reach out to me. Perhaps some POI's want the same from us. I think that part really depends on who ended the relationship and why. I definitely wouldn't contact my current one because of how he's treated me. I'd be a fool to do so. So I let him get on with his life and learn his lessons the hard way and if I'm around whenever he is ready, then maybe it'll happen. If not, well then that's just another harsh life lesson for him. However, with another POI I loved him very much and I know he loved me too but we both knew it wasn't going to work out due to cultural issues so we just never contacted one another again. He's now married and has a son and I'm happy for him. I actually still care about that guy but obviously not in the same way I used to.
3. As I've stated before in previous posts, we can also feel one way in this moment and maybe for a year, but then our feelings change. It's sort of like how all of us feel when calling about POIs. In the beginning, feelings are still raw and strong. Over time, with no action, no communication etc........our feelings begin to slowly dissipate and change. Sometimes we lose all feelings and sometimes we just lose the strength of those feelings but still have some lingering feelings. This is specifically why I get readings monthly from two people. If I could afford it, I'd add in Divine Love but she's too expensive lol.
4. There are a TON of fake readers out there. Many more fake than real. So, I'd say, if you have some of the realist that you've read with that typically will say "uh no it's done" and they are telling you something else, maybe consider it. However, it may not happen in YOUR timing. Divine timing is always in control and at play here. Sometimes people have to have other experiences outside of you in order to be able to appreciate you. That may take years. It may take months. No one really knows. I don't think psychics are always given accurate timing due to the fact that A. maybe we aren't supposed to know so that we don't avoid certain situations for the purpose of learning.....and/or B. "time" doesn't exist on the other side.
At the end of the day, you have to go with the here and now. You have to go with what your gut is telling you. You have said many times that your gut is telling you that it's over. However, I feel if you really really felt it was over permanently, you would not still be calling psychics about said person. I feel like you actually feel on a deeper level that there is more to come, but not right now. Ask yourself why you are still calling after all this time. Something in you knows that it isn't the last you've heard from said person. Also, you could very well be picking up his thoughts/emotions for you as well. Remember, everything is an energy. EVERYTHING. Thoughts, emotions, etc. and since we are all connected we will feel them from others whether we are aware of it or not.
This is SO true. Eventually the lack of effort and the inconsistent behavior gets to us and you find it harder and harder to look past.
As much as I still have feelings for my most recent POI, the fact that he acted the way he did just tarnished it for me, and I would have a really hard time moving past it even if he did reach out....
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Yes I believe it because it happened to me. An EX did reach out after many years (he wasn’t just an ex more like the love of my life) did we reconcile? I tried but ultamitely no because he is still immature and indecisive.
I think these readings just make harder and harder to let go.
I'm enjoying hearing other's opinions/experiences on this thread.. That's the issue, with long term and deep relationships, sometimes there's too much damage to turn back and things can't ever be the same. Even with really good friends, it's hard to repair the friendship - let alone a relationship, sadly.
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I want to add to this. I think that there is also outside factors like family and friends that can play a role. They could be thinking about you and asking them for advice. They might all be saying don't go back to that person because of x number of reasons. But to your POI their heart and mind are not agreeing with each other. They hear what their friends and family say but their heart is telling them different. So they get conflicted and scared which makes them not want to reach out.
For my current POI I think that is playing a big role. I talked to a few more psychics and I got all the same thing that she would be coming back and that she is thinking of me. That she is actually thinking of me quite often. Not sure how much I believe any of it. As my own gut can say yes that is true but I also think it is over. The only thing giving me the most conflict is my own gut feeling is saying yes she will reach out. Right now it is very deep in the gut but enough there to be noticed.
One more thing I like to mention is that I talked to Effie. She gave a timeline that was drastically different than the rest. Effie said that we wouldn't reconcile until around Sept 2019 compared to the rest of basically early spring. She also mentioned my POI will end her current relationship around Feb/March and then see one more guy before she contacts me. But the second guy will be really short like a month long. She also mentioned that we were not life partners but more of a learning lesson. No one else said that either.
So is she right or the others? Well my own gut feeling is saying that she will reach out. As to if we will reconcile. A lot of that depends on my ex. I can see her working on it but at the same time it is a big mountain to climb and I could see her just giving up and running away. That is something that she needs to learn is to stick through the hardships. I think that as time goes on I will no longer want to be with my ex. I feel like I am pretty much there now but I won't know what I will do when she contacts me until then. I could do a complete 180 and take her back. So I have to ask all of you. Do you think what the psychic tells you is more of a way to just comfort your heart and mind no matter the outcome?
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I want to add to this. I think that there is also outside factors like family and friends that can play a role. They could be thinking about you and asking them for advice. They might all be saying don't go back to that person because of x number of reasons. But to your POI their heart and mind are not agreeing with each other. They hear what their friends and family say but their heart is telling them different. So they get conflicted and scared which makes them not want to reach out.
For my current POI I think that is playing a big role. I talked to a few more psychics and I got all the same thing that she would be coming back and that she is thinking of me. That she is actually thinking of me quite often. Not sure how much I believe any of it. As my own gut can say yes that is true but I also think it is over. The only thing giving me the most conflict is my own gut feeling is saying yes she will reach out. Right now it is very deep in the gut but enough there to be noticed.
One more thing I like to mention is that I talked to Effie. She gave a timeline that was drastically different than the rest. Effie said that we wouldn't reconcile until around Sept 2019 compared to the rest of basically early spring. She also mentioned my POI will end her current relationship around Feb/March and then see one more guy before she contacts me. But the second guy will be really short like a month long. She also mentioned that we were not life partners but more of a learning lesson. No one else said that either.
So is she right or the others? Well my own gut feeling is saying that she will reach out. As to if we will reconcile. A lot of that depends on my ex. I can see her working on it but at the same time it is a big mountain to climb and I could see her just giving up and running away. That is something that she needs to learn is to stick through the hardships. I think that as time goes on I will no longer want to be with my ex. I feel like I am pretty much there now but I won't know what I will do when she contacts me until then. I could do a complete 180 and take her back. So I have to ask all of you. Do you think what the psychic tells you is more of a way to just comfort your heart and mind no matter the outcome?
If that was the case, that would be misleading and so damaging in the long run...kind of like just telling us what we want to hear. I would prefer brutal honesty.
I had a reading over the summer about the recent POI, and she basically said he's totally avoidant of you and he will be back, but don't wait..she ended up being right (well about the avoidant part). I still don't know what made him turn cold on me...but when he did finally reach out, I ignored. It made me feel kind of like I took the power back and wasn't going to only settle for his crumbs of time.
If your ex is with someone else, I would do your best to move on..jmo...even though I know it's easier said than done :(
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I want to add to this. I think that there is also outside factors like family and friends that can play a role. They could be thinking about you and asking them for advice. They might all be saying don't go back to that person because of x number of reasons. But to your POI their heart and mind are not agreeing with each other. They hear what their friends and family say but their heart is telling them different. So they get conflicted and scared which makes them not want to reach out.
For my current POI I think that is playing a big role. I talked to a few more psychics and I got all the same thing that she would be coming back and that she is thinking of me. That she is actually thinking of me quite often. Not sure how much I believe any of it. As my own gut can say yes that is true but I also think it is over. The only thing giving me the most conflict is my own gut feeling is saying yes she will reach out. Right now it is very deep in the gut but enough there to be noticed.
One more thing I like to mention is that I talked to Effie. She gave a timeline that was drastically different than the rest. Effie said that we wouldn't reconcile until around Sept 2019 compared to the rest of basically early spring. She also mentioned my POI will end her current relationship around Feb/March and then see one more guy before she contacts me. But the second guy will be really short like a month long. She also mentioned that we were not life partners but more of a learning lesson. No one else said that either.
So is she right or the others? Well my own gut feeling is saying that she will reach out. As to if we will reconcile. A lot of that depends on my ex. I can see her working on it but at the same time it is a big mountain to climb and I could see her just giving up and running away. That is something that she needs to learn is to stick through the hardships. I think that as time goes on I will no longer want to be with my ex. I feel like I am pretty much there now but I won't know what I will do when she contacts me until then. I could do a complete 180 and take her back. So I have to ask all of you. Do you think what the psychic tells you is more of a way to just comfort your heart and mind no matter the outcome?
It's weird, cos my gut feeling is similar to yours. I don't think that I feel strongly my gut's saying I completely won't hear from this man again online, but I strongly don't believe it logically, if that makes sense? But I know physically I won't ever see him again, in person - For certain. Also, I agree about third parties. His family really liked me, but unless he's bitched about me to them and his friends, making out I'm a bad person and making up stuff about me and the relationship, then obviously they're going to advise him from what they've heard to keep away from me. It depends what he's been telling them (which ofc I'll never find out). But I was close to his parents, so they should know how much I loved him and the issue was never on my end.
And yes - we never really know what we're going to really do once reality hits and the ex does contact us - some of us might actually change our mind on wanting them back, some of us might be beginning to move on and suddenly decide to give things a chance with the ex again or at least be friends.
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That does make sense on it being damaging in the long run. I want to hear the brutal honest truth. I think that is why I am so confused on why out of all the psychics I have talked to have all said the same thing. That my ex is coming back because I just don't see it besides having my gut feelings. Some psychics that are mentioned on this forum that are quite regularly accurate even said she is coming back with similiar timelines.
I wished I was moved on at this point because I am sick of the hold my ex has on me.
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That does make sense on it being damaging in the long run. I want to hear the brutal honest truth. I think that is why I am so confused on why out of all the psychics I have talked to have all said the same thing. That my ex is coming back because I just don't see it besides having my gut feelings. Some psychics that are mentioned on this forum that are quite regularly accurate even said she is coming back with similiar timelines.
I wished I was moved on at this point because I am sick of the hold my ex has on me.
I understand, believe me... I am embarrassed to admit I had a few readings on the most recent POI and they all say he will be back too. But as of yet, nothing...and I just want to be over him already. I don't know why it's taking me so long to move on. I wish there was a switch I could just flip and not feel anything anymore.
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I went to all of the readers who are meant to be blunt because I kept being given positive answers and couldn't believe it.. The blunt ones all still are telling me he has feelings and there will be contact, some were realistic and said that there wouldn't be consistency though, and I'm best off without him or he'll basically drag me down and stop me from achieving my highest potentials in life. They never said it's done and he doesn't care, just he won't be consistent for me. That's why it's a headf- when the "blunt" readers still see positivity, lol.
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I went to all of the readers who are meant to be blunt because I kept being given positive answers and couldn't believe it.. The blunt ones all still are telling me he has feelings and there will be contact, some were realistic and said that there wouldn't be consistency though, and I'm best off without him or he'll basically drag me down and stop me from achieving my highest potentials in life. They never said it's done and he doesn't care, just he won't be consistent for me. That's why it's a headf- when the "blunt" readers still see positivity, lol.
I know, same here, plenty of the more negative ones saw all good things for me too..so damn confusing. even one i used on my last POI who was accurate and is usually not a sugarcoater.
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I went to all of the readers who are meant to be blunt because I kept being given positive answers and couldn't believe it.. The blunt ones all still are telling me he has feelings and there will be contact, some were realistic and said that there wouldn't be consistency though, and I'm best off without him or he'll basically drag me down and stop me from achieving my highest potentials in life. They never said it's done and he doesn't care, just he won't be consistent for me. That's why it's a headf- when the "blunt" readers still see positivity, lol.
I know, same here, plenty of the more negative ones saw all good things for me too..so damn confusing. even one i used on my last POI who was accurate and is usually not a sugarcoater.
Yeah, and then it gets confusing when the preds don't come to pass, lol.
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I went to all of the readers who are meant to be blunt because I kept being given positive answers and couldn't believe it.. The blunt ones all still are telling me he has feelings and there will be contact, some were realistic and said that there wouldn't be consistency though, and I'm best off without him or he'll basically drag me down and stop me from achieving my highest potentials in life. They never said it's done and he doesn't care, just he won't be consistent for me. That's why it's a headf- when the "blunt" readers still see positivity, lol.
I know, same here, plenty of the more negative ones saw all good things for me too..so damn confusing. even one i used on my last POI who was accurate and is usually not a sugarcoater.
Yeah, and then it gets confusing when the preds don't come to pass, lol.
The only blunt one I got that said she wasn't coming back was QoC but I really feel she is more present than future. She did nail my POI traits and it does line up with even some of the other readers about why she hasn't reached out yet. Which she is holding a grudge to me. The rest were all positive outcomes but I like how you mention your POI will not be consistant. None of them told me that so that actually improves my gut feeling. Because it isn't even close to what they told me. Why is that important? Because it matches your POI and affirms that they are reading what our POI is feeling. If it was scripted or cookie cutter you would see a lot of similar posts here about why they are not coming back.
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I went to all of the readers who are meant to be blunt because I kept being given positive answers and couldn't believe it.. The blunt ones all still are telling me he has feelings and there will be contact, some were realistic and said that there wouldn't be consistency though, and I'm best off without him or he'll basically drag me down and stop me from achieving my highest potentials in life. They never said it's done and he doesn't care, just he won't be consistent for me. That's why it's a headf- when the "blunt" readers still see positivity, lol.
I know, same here, plenty of the more negative ones saw all good things for me too..so damn confusing. even one i used on my last POI who was accurate and is usually not a sugarcoater.
Yeah, and then it gets confusing when the preds don't come to pass, lol.
The only blunt one I got that said she wasn't coming back was QoC but I really feel she is more present than future. She did nail my POI traits and it does line up with even some of the other readers about why she hasn't reached out yet. Which she is holding a grudge to me. The rest were all positive outcomes but I like how you mention your POI will not be consistant. None of them told me that so that actually improves my gut feeling. Because it isn't even close to what they told me. Why is that important? Because it matches your POI and affirms that they are reading what our POI is feeling. If it was scripted or cookie cutter you would see a lot of similar posts here about why they are not coming back.
QoC? What a surprise, lol.. And yes, that makes me feel better to hear that perhaps they don't all tell us the exact same things, but women seem to get the "he can't commit/be consistent" line often, with men they tend more to realise that men aren't.. Stupid? I've spoken to guys who had readings on girls and they said that the reader feels a little more unsettled when it's a guy and struggles more?
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I myself haven't gotten the impressing that the reader feels more unsettled or even struggled. In fact I have felt the complete opposite like how positive they are of their reading. The only ones that I want to exclude from that are the fairy tale readers. I had a few of those and they are easy to spot. Usually a lot of sugar coating around my POI and very confident that my POI will reach out within a short amount of time. I don't believe my POI will reach out by the end of the year.
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Even though I think QOC has a gift, I think she is very jaded in the love dept. and doesn't like to give positive news...jmo.
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Even though I think QOC has a gift, I think she is very jaded in the love dept. and doesn't like to give positive news...jmo.
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I myself haven't gotten the impressing that the reader feels more unsettled or even struggled. In fact I have felt the complete opposite like how positive they are of their reading. The only ones that I want to exclude from that are the fairy tale readers. I had a few of those and they are easy to spot. Usually a lot of sugar coating around my POI and very confident that my POI will reach out within a short amount of time. I don't believe my POI will reach out by the end of the year.
It's good that you've got your head screwed on.. I wasn't when I was new to readings, love blind ::)
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Even though I think QOC has a gift, I think she is very jaded in the love dept. and doesn't like to give positive news...jmo.
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I think that is a good assessment of QoC. I wonder why that is though? Is it possible that readers can pick up certain energy better? Maybe QoC ends up reading the more negative energy that a POI is giving off in the moment better. Which that would cause her to give out more negative predictions. Because that is really what she is seeing at that moment.
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Even though I think QOC has a gift, I think she is very jaded in the love dept. and doesn't like to give positive news...jmo.
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I think that is a good assessment of QoC. I wonder why that is though? Is it possible that readers can pick up certain energy better? Maybe QoC ends up reading the more negative energy that a POI is giving off in the moment better. Which that would cause her to give out more negative predictions. Because that is really what she is seeing at that moment.
It can be many different reasons. Some readers are bitter about love after their own personal experiences, some like being negative because usually - 99% of the time, a reader is going to end up being right if they're negative. Not many couples reconcile on a healthy level. Just because a reader is negative, doesn't mean they're amazing IMO. :-\
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I myself haven't gotten the impressing that the reader feels more unsettled or even struggled. In fact I have felt the complete opposite like how positive they are of their reading. The only ones that I want to exclude from that are the fairy tale readers. I had a few of those and they are easy to spot. Usually a lot of sugar coating around my POI and very confident that my POI will reach out within a short amount of time. I don't believe my POI will reach out by the end of the year.
It's good that you've got your head screwed on.. I wasn't when I was new to readings, love blind ::)
I was only that because I was really expecting them all to say my POI wasn't coming back. It wasn't until after the first one that I talked to that made me wonder how true any of it could be. In fact I still wished I would of had more say my POI wasn't coming back than all the positive ones. I think that is one thing that would help me truly move on but with all of them saying my POI coming back makes it tough. Even my therapist has said my POI will reach out. Though neither of us know when. That was something I knew long before I talked to any psychics. With the psychics it kind of helped affirm the timeframe of possibly when that could happen. Which is approximately when I have a gut feeling of it as well just because I know my POI well.
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I myself haven't gotten the impressing that the reader feels more unsettled or even struggled. In fact I have felt the complete opposite like how positive they are of their reading. The only ones that I want to exclude from that are the fairy tale readers. I had a few of those and they are easy to spot. Usually a lot of sugar coating around my POI and very confident that my POI will reach out within a short amount of time. I don't believe my POI will reach out by the end of the year.
It's good that you've got your head screwed on.. I wasn't when I was new to readings, love blind ::)
I was only that because I was really expecting them all to say my POI wasn't coming back. It wasn't until after the first one that I talked to that made me wonder how true any of it could be. In fact I still wished I would of had more say my POI wasn't coming back than all the positive ones. I think that is one thing that would help me truly move on but with all of them saying my POI coming back makes it tough. Even my therapist has said my POI will reach out. Though neither of us know when. That was something I knew long before I talked to any psychics. With the psychics it kind of helped affirm the timeframe of possibly when that could happen. Which is approximately when I have a gut feeling of it as well just because I know my POI well.
Wow, your therapist says stuff like that?! That's crazy, over here that'd be frowned upon and very anti Politically Correct, lol. We are a barmy nation, now ::) But I feel the same, I never say it because you have to be careful of what you wish for - but sometimes it's easier if they told me he didn't care and wasn't coming back, ha ha. I'm pretty sure she'll be thinking of you, especially where it's Thanksgiving coming up and Xmas..
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I myself haven't gotten the impressing that the reader feels more unsettled or even struggled. In fact I have felt the complete opposite like how positive they are of their reading. The only ones that I want to exclude from that are the fairy tale readers. I had a few of those and they are easy to spot. Usually a lot of sugar coating around my POI and very confident that my POI will reach out within a short amount of time. I don't believe my POI will reach out by the end of the year.
It's good that you've got your head screwed on.. I wasn't when I was new to readings, love blind ::)
I was only that because I was really expecting them all to say my POI wasn't coming back. It wasn't until after the first one that I talked to that made me wonder how true any of it could be. In fact I still wished I would of had more say my POI wasn't coming back than all the positive ones. I think that is one thing that would help me truly move on but with all of them saying my POI coming back makes it tough. Even my therapist has said my POI will reach out. Though neither of us know when. That was something I knew long before I talked to any psychics. With the psychics it kind of helped affirm the timeframe of possibly when that could happen. Which is approximately when I have a gut feeling of it as well just because I know my POI well.
Wow, your therapist says stuff like that?! That's crazy, over here that'd be frowned upon and very anti Politically Correct, lol. We are a barmy nation, now ::) But I feel the same, I never say it because you have to be careful of what you wish for - but sometimes it's easier if they told me he didn't care and wasn't coming back, ha ha. I'm pretty sure she'll be thinking of you, especially where it's Thanksgiving coming up and Xmas..
Yeah they did tell me that because we were trying to figure out my POI's actions. Very hot and cold. Will say one thing and do the opposite. Pretty sure being manipulated my friends that cause relationship drama. So really the actions of my POI generates a type of character profile and that would indicate a possible contact. So my therapist and I were trying to figure out what I would do at that point. To help me either move on or figure out what I needed to do in order to keep some of my own individuality and not be manipulated by my POI.
The only thing with Thanksgiving that she will be thinking of me on is the fact that I met her extended family last year. She told me that was a big deal for her to invite me. For christmas I really only see the gift I gave her as a big reminder. It was the meaning behind it and I am sure she still has it. But the big one is New Years Eve. That was the night we first met. I was her kiss that night and we immediately started dating. It was almost a fairy tale story. Which is what she wants in life. So I see that playing the biggest role in her contacting me and ending it with this guy. Especially considering she met this guy from a dating app. Not very fairy tale like of a story.
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I myself haven't gotten the impressing that the reader feels more unsettled or even struggled. In fact I have felt the complete opposite like how positive they are of their reading. The only ones that I want to exclude from that are the fairy tale readers. I had a few of those and they are easy to spot. Usually a lot of sugar coating around my POI and very confident that my POI will reach out within a short amount of time. I don't believe my POI will reach out by the end of the year.
It's good that you've got your head screwed on.. I wasn't when I was new to readings, love blind ::)
I was only that because I was really expecting them all to say my POI wasn't coming back. It wasn't until after the first one that I talked to that made me wonder how true any of it could be. In fact I still wished I would of had more say my POI wasn't coming back than all the positive ones. I think that is one thing that would help me truly move on but with all of them saying my POI coming back makes it tough. Even my therapist has said my POI will reach out. Though neither of us know when. That was something I knew long before I talked to any psychics. With the psychics it kind of helped affirm the timeframe of possibly when that could happen. Which is approximately when I have a gut feeling of it as well just because I know my POI well.
Wow, your therapist says stuff like that?! That's crazy, over here that'd be frowned upon and very anti Politically Correct, lol. We are a barmy nation, now ::) But I feel the same, I never say it because you have to be careful of what you wish for - but sometimes it's easier if they told me he didn't care and wasn't coming back, ha ha. I'm pretty sure she'll be thinking of you, especially where it's Thanksgiving coming up and Xmas..
Yeah they did tell me that because we were trying to figure out my POI's actions. Very hot and cold. Will say one thing and do the opposite. Pretty sure being manipulated my friends that cause relationship drama. So really the actions of my POI generates a type of character profile and that would indicate a possible contact. So my therapist and I were trying to figure out what I would do at that point. To help me either move on or figure out what I needed to do in order to keep some of my own individuality and not be manipulated by my POI.
The only thing with Thanksgiving that she will be thinking of me on is the fact that I met her extended family last year. She told me that was a big deal for her to invite me. For christmas I really only see the gift I gave her as a big reminder. It was the meaning behind it and I am sure she still has it. But the big one is New Years Eve. That was the night we first met. I was her kiss that night and we immediately started dating. It was almost a fairy tale story. Which is what she wants in life. So I see that playing the biggest role in her contacting me and ending it with this guy. Especially considering she met this guy from a dating app. Not very fairy tale like of a story.
I know exactly how you feel, my ex was hot and cold with me, too. Promised me the world, the guy who rushes in at 100mph and rushes out at 100mph lol. It's really frustrating, she more than likely has commitment issues of some kind.
She's definitely gonna be thinking of you at this time of year then, with those markers coming up pretty soon. Hopefully this prompts her to make some form of contact, and I'm sure she will. You never know what's going on behind closed doors I guess, and if she really is happy with this new guy.
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I believe she has some sort of commitment issue. I think she is scared of it failing instead of it giving it an honest try.
I honestly don't think she is happy with this new guy. But if you ask my ex that, she will cover it up saying she is. Need to look for the subtle clues that shows different which I have seen. From what I know about him he kind of just looks good on paper. I think he has some huge insecurity issues which causes him to be controlling. So if I had to guess she is happy for now. Still in the honeymoon phase at least for another month. When that fades she will start to fall away from him.
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I believe she has some sort of commitment issue. I think she is scared of it failing instead of it giving it an honest try.
I honestly don't think she is happy with this new guy. But if you ask my ex that, she will cover it up saying she is. Need to look for the subtle clues that shows different which I have seen. From what I know about him he kind of just looks good on paper. I think he has some huge insecurity issues which causes him to be controlling. So if I had to guess she is happy for now. Still in the honeymoon phase at least for another month. When that fades she will start to fall away from him.
That's exactly what I was thinking on your situation, wait til the honeymoon period ceases.. If they're both insecure and he's controlling, she's manipulative - that's a very very toxic relationship, I wouldn't worry about them riding off into the sunset tbh Sparky. (Btw, Sparky over here means electrician, haha). Its not gonna alst, and us women have this habit of making out we don't need you and could do better without you when really - we are missing you like hell.
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That's exactly what I was thinking on your situation, wait til the honeymoon period ceases.. If they're both insecure and he's controlling, she's manipulative - that's a very very toxic relationship, I wouldn't worry about them riding off into the sunset tbh Sparky. (Btw, Sparky over here means electrician, haha). Its not gonna alst, and us women have this habit of making out we don't need you and could do better without you when really - we are missing you like hell.
haha there was an electrician where I grew up who had a nickname of sparky.
Her honeymoon phase tends to go a bit longer than average. At the end of the year it will 5 1/2 months they will be together. I do have a feeling that they could get married but it would be not for the right reason which would be it would be very rushed and wouldn't last. I do think she is missing me and comparing me to this guy. I know I wasn't a bad bf but I was definitely willing to work out any issues we had. Not run like she did. I would say she needs to get rid of the grudge she has for me after the break up. Which I will say I was not the best person then. I apologized to her for what I did back in august and she did say she forgave me. But her actions again are not showing that. So all that bad stuff needs to get forgotten and that is when I think she will be back. Not to mention about the stuff coming up.