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Metaphysical, Spiritual and Psychic Discussions => Keen.com => Topic started by: Baypark1 on January 26, 2018, 06:47:19 PM
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A year and a half ago, I found this forum when I was obsessing about a guy. This was the 3rd guy over a 6 year period I had called about. The first guy, I had called about 7 psychics that were independent and all were right, he did come back after 9 months but he ended up being a sociopath and ruined me emotionally, spiritually and financially. After 3 years, I'm still hurting financially. I often think, had I not called psychics would I have moved on and ended up maybe meeting someone else? If I had, I would have never put myself with that man and ended up the way I did.
The 2nd guy I talked to for 2 weeks and he vanished. I was extremely damaged at the time and held on to this guy for whatever reason. Every reader was wrong, he never came back and I called for 6 months.
This 3rd guy. Again, still damaged emotionally, I got hung up on him big time. I called psychics for a year and a half!!!! I have no idea how much money I spent and never want to know. 99% of the readers said he had deep feelings for me, he wasn't ready for a commitment, which is why he was with someone else for 10 months, he cared deeply for me, blah blah blah. He has yet, to this day, come back. He is no longer with the woman he was with for 10 months but he still hangs out with her a lot. I see him occasionally, and there is NOTHING coming from him as far as any kind of interest towards me. 99% of the psychics were wrong. Some got a few minor details right, which kept me hanging on. Some got a few events correct, which kept me hanging on. Calling readers KEPT ME HANGING ON .
I occasionally still come on this forum, I guess out of curiosity. I've called a few readers in the last 4 months to see about any future men coming in and a few have said someone amazing is coming in January. Um, probably not at this point since we have 5 days left of the month. I don't even know why I called in the first place! When I come on here and read the posts, I literally get sick to my stomach. It pains me to see everyone pining over their POI, calling readers, getting excited when they get a minor thing right, believing them when they say he/she's coming back. If you read threads from the beginning of this forum, you will see that maybe 1% of the people here have gotten back with their ex and the psychics were right.
When I first came on here, someone posted this thread. http://www.thepsychicreviews.com/forum/index.php/topic,1829.0.html I read it and many others, thinking wow, that's a lot of money to spend. That won't happen to me. I'm different. My situation is different. MY POI really cares for me. We had a deep connection. You know, all that bullshit we tell ourselves because of all the readers validating what we feel and want. I dismissed every single thread where people pleaded for us to stop calling and move on with our lives. I ignored every single one of them. I kept seeing all of the posts where readers were getting things right for people and I just knew they must be right for me!!! Some readers were completely lying and so wrong. Some were legitimate and did get quite a few events right. Some got contact right. But in the end, their predictions were wrong. Every single one of them. It was only when I finally started to truly realize and believe that this guy wasn't coming back, that the readers would say he's not coming back. It's almost like they read how you are feeling and what you are wanting and their predictions are based on that, NOT the POI's feelings.
I will say, i probably spent at least $10000 from August 2016 to October 2017 and most likely more. One month I spent $4000 alone!!!! I probably spent another $5000 on the first guy after he left me in 8 months and then $2000 on the 2nd guy. PLEASE READ THAT AGAIN!!! Look how much money I spent! I probably actually spent a lot more that what I think I did overall. But I will never add it up. I just can't do it. Aside from the money, I spent hours and hours thinking about these men, focusing on them and putting all of my energy into THEM. I have been single for 3 years and most of that time was spent pining and obsessing over a damn man!!!! I have wasted 3 years of my life and tens of thousands of dollars over a MAN!!! I'm finally now, getting my life back and learning to be alone and comfortable with myself. I'm not spring chicken either!! I'm 53 years old. I don't have a lot of options out there and I wonder who I passed up because of these men I was pining over. Men that clearly did not want me.
I won't tell you who was right about minor things and I won't tell you who was wrong. I won't feed your desire/addiction to call and your obsession over the POI. I will tell you I have called at least 100 psychics over the last 5 years. I would read posts similar to mine and then ask questions about the readers they mentioned and then call them thinking I would be different. Guess what? I wasn't different. I'm in the same place they were in. I don't know the percentage of the people on here that got their POI back or major predictions were correct, but I'm going to say its probably not more than 1%. In the year and half of calling on this 3rd guy and being on this forum pretty constantly, I know ONE person that got his POI back. ONE. Most people have been devastated by different outcomes, like the POI has been married, got married, has been seeing someone else etc while the psychics have been telling them their POI loves them and is coming back.
If you are meant to be with your POI, you will be with him. No amount of calling psychics is going to make it happen any faster or at all. All it will do is drain your bank account, your energy, your hope, your joy and prevent you from living your life and becoming strong and heal. When you're in the depths of despair and hurting like hell because all you want is to be back with your POI, it sucks. Plain and simple. It hurts like hell and it sucks. But I will tell you that calling readers is only going to prolong that hurt and pain. Instead of you being in it for one month, you'll be in it for 6 months, a year or more until you stop calling and start healing.
I'm one of so many that have posted a thread like this, pleading for people to stop calling psychics. Even if it's for a job or money, no one has ever been right for me in that area as well. If you don't believe in God, find another higher power to go to instead of trusting psychics and making them your God. Go to a support group to talk to others if you have to. Stop wasting your money, your time and energy on these damn readings!!! Go back through this forum and look at all the people who are no longer here or have had readers string them along and predictions not happen. There's a forum for "predictions come true". How many stories are on there? How many stories are there where predictions have come true versus stories where they haven't. You are NOT different than any of them. If you are, then it will happen regardless if you call. STOP CALLING PLEASE!!!! Psychic readings suck you dry, emotionally, spiritually and financially. Please don't ignore this like I did. I'm not saying this because I'm bitter or angry my predictions didn't come true. I'm telling you this because I was addicted to psychic readings and obsessed with something I didn't have and wanted. I am not going to bash readers (although some deserve it) because I feel some do have a gift but most of them do not get a bigger outcome right. Just small things like you'll see your POI at an event. Big freaking deal!!! That just kept me calling for 3 more months. Most of the people that were here when I found this forum are no longer here and it's not because they got their POI's back. There's a whole new bunch of hurting people now that have gotten on the psychic carousel. Please get off now!
Do something good for YOU today. Take your life back, save your money, go get a message and put your money left over into a savings and take a trip. I predict you will be very happy if you do that and I'm not even psychic
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I agree Baypark, and you are 100% right. But I have to ask: since the psychics were SO wrong about that first guy who devastated you, what made you trust in readings after that? Was it just the old familiar well maybe I haven't found one that works for me thing?
I've only ever called about one guy (I mean seriously called and if I added it up, I would probably jump off a building) and after that, I just started questioning the whole prediction thing in general, and I certainly felt nothing like I did in the beginning about the readings. I think back and I truly believed all they told me and thought it would happen! And the real mindF*** part was he did keep coming back, even told me he cared and all that stuff but kept pulling the same hot and cold crap that made me call in the first place. I think I would have moved on a lot faster if he just stopped calling and expressing interest.
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Thank you so much for this...AMEN!!!! I agree with every single thing you said.
PS: Anyone remember the ex-member ats1rk that got banned? The one that apparently had predictions happen left and right and thinks anyone with a keen account is psychic, and the reason we didn't have prediction happen is because we have bad energy? Well the other day I was curious and searched her name on Keen (she has the same username and posts feedbacks frequently)...all her feedbacks were GONE, she deleted her account. I wonder why...is it because she got back with her POI and no longer needed readings? (I doubt it because she said she loves getting readings for fun even if she had predictions happen she still gets readings bc she asks about other things and she just enjoys readings) Or is it because her major prediction never happened, had a wake up call and fed up with it all?
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Thank you you’re awesome for sharing this
Hugs and more hugs to you
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Thank you so much for this...AMEN!!!! I agree with every single thing you said.
PS: Anyone remember the ex-member ats1rk that got banned? The one that apparently had predictions happen left and right and thinks anyone with a keen account is psychic, and the reason we didn't have prediction happen is because we have bad energy? Well the other day I was curious and searched her name on Keen (she has the same username and posts feedbacks frequently)...all her feedbacks were GONE, she deleted her account. I wonder why...is it because she got back with her POI and no longer needed readings? (I doubt it because she said she loves getting readings for fun even if she had predictions happen she still gets readings bc she asks about other things and she just enjoys readings) Or is it because her major prediction never happened, had a wake up call and fed up with it all?
My guess is this! I do remember reading that woman's posts and whewwwwww! she was one angry woman!
hmmm I just searched her and found this under Joanna's Gift:
ats1rk
phone
I call JG when ppl are confusing me and I need clear answers and also what’s to come/will it change. Today I called her to see what my ex is doing with me and she always remains consistent there, and also about two other guys I met in the meantime. She nailed exactly the two different guys and how they have been behaving, and gave me the brutal truth about what’s to come. After I hang up I always feel very clear about what happened and what will happen. Her numbers are always phenomenal, and as a tip I have noticed that they are very often the month or the date, not the amount of weeks or months.. though occasionally they have been that too. Hope this helps someone! Thanksagain JG, talksoon!
LOL!
I noticed the more I got readings, the more I felt like one of those lonely old ladies that calls shopping channels or those psychic hotlines back in the 80s...I felt pathetic.
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Thank you so much for this...AMEN!!!! I agree with every single thing you said.
PS: Anyone remember the ex-member ats1rk that got banned? The one that apparently had predictions happen left and right and thinks anyone with a keen account is psychic, and the reason we didn't have prediction happen is because we have bad energy? Well the other day I was curious and searched her name on Keen (she has the same username and posts feedbacks frequently)...all her feedbacks were GONE, she deleted her account. I wonder why...is it because she got back with her POI and no longer needed readings? (I doubt it because she said she loves getting readings for fun even if she had predictions happen she still gets readings bc she asks about other things and she just enjoys readings) Or is it because her major prediction never happened, had a wake up call and fed up with it all?
My guess is this! I do remember reading that woman's posts and whewwwwww! she was one angry woman!
hmmm I just searched her and found this under Joanna's Gift:
ats1rk
phone
I call JG when ppl are confusing me and I need clear answers and also what’s to come/will it change. Today I called her to see what my ex is doing with me and she always remains consistent there, and also about two other guys I met in the meantime. She nailed exactly the two different guys and how they have been behaving, and gave me the brutal truth about what’s to come. After I hang up I always feel very clear about what happened and what will happen. Her numbers are always phenomenal, and as a tip I have noticed that they are very often the month or the date, not the amount of weeks or months.. though occasionally they have been that too. Hope this helps someone! Thanksagain JG, talksoon!
Thats so weird! When I search "ats1rk keen" I get nothing...
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Thank you so much for this...AMEN!!!! I agree with every single thing you said.
PS: Anyone remember the ex-member ats1rk that got banned? The one that apparently had predictions happen left and right and thinks anyone with a keen account is psychic, and the reason we didn't have prediction happen is because we have bad energy? Well the other day I was curious and searched her name on Keen (she has the same username and posts feedbacks frequently)...all her feedbacks were GONE, she deleted her account. I wonder why...is it because she got back with her POI and no longer needed readings? (I doubt it because she said she loves getting readings for fun even if she had predictions happen she still gets readings bc she asks about other things and she just enjoys readings) Or is it because her major prediction never happened, had a wake up call and fed up with it all?
Or possibly because she was so horrible Keen removed her :) lol That is interesting though!
I was talking to a forum member for a few months over the summer. She was adamant this one reader was correct and put every ounce of faith in her. She asked about a job and actually scheduled her life around what the reader told her. She was going to move to another country because of what this reader told her! The reader was wrong and she found out before she moved her life, but she was very close to doing it. That is scary!
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Thank you so much for this...AMEN!!!! I agree with every single thing you said.
PS: Anyone remember the ex-member ats1rk that got banned? The one that apparently had predictions happen left and right and thinks anyone with a keen account is psychic, and the reason we didn't have prediction happen is because we have bad energy? Well the other day I was curious and searched her name on Keen (she has the same username and posts feedbacks frequently)...all her feedbacks were GONE, she deleted her account. I wonder why...is it because she got back with her POI and no longer needed readings? (I doubt it because she said she loves getting readings for fun even if she had predictions happen she still gets readings bc she asks about other things and she just enjoys readings) Or is it because her major prediction never happened, had a wake up call and fed up with it all?
Or possibly because she was so horrible Keen removed her :) lol That is interesting though!
I was talking to a forum member for a few months over the summer. She was adamant this one reader was correct and put every ounce of faith in her. She asked about a job and actually scheduled her life around what the reader told her. She was going to move to another country because of what this reader told her! The reader was wrong and she found out before she moved her life, but she was very close to doing it. That is scary!
OMG! that's awful!
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Thank you so much for this...AMEN!!!! I agree with every single thing you said.
PS: Anyone remember the ex-member ats1rk that got banned? The one that apparently had predictions happen left and right and thinks anyone with a keen account is psychic, and the reason we didn't have prediction happen is because we have bad energy? Well the other day I was curious and searched her name on Keen (she has the same username and posts feedbacks frequently)...all her feedbacks were GONE, she deleted her account. I wonder why...is it because she got back with her POI and no longer needed readings? (I doubt it because she said she loves getting readings for fun even if she had predictions happen she still gets readings bc she asks about other things and she just enjoys readings) Or is it because her major prediction never happened, had a wake up call and fed up with it all?
My guess is this! I do remember reading that woman's posts and whewwwwww! she was one angry woman!
hmmm I just searched her and found this under Joanna's Gift:
ats1rk
phone
I call JG when ppl are confusing me and I need clear answers and also what’s to come/will it change. Today I called her to see what my ex is doing with me and she always remains consistent there, and also about two other guys I met in the meantime. She nailed exactly the two different guys and how they have been behaving, and gave me the brutal truth about what’s to come. After I hang up I always feel very clear about what happened and what will happen. Her numbers are always phenomenal, and as a tip I have noticed that they are very often the month or the date, not the amount of weeks or months.. though occasionally they have been that too. Hope this helps someone! Thanksagain JG, talksoon!
Thats so weird! When I search "ats1rk keen" I get nothing...
I searched in google. I no longer have a Keen account but that came up in google.....
Either way, it appears she's not back with the POI she was calling about.
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Thank you so much for this...AMEN!!!! I agree with every single thing you said.
PS: Anyone remember the ex-member ats1rk that got banned? The one that apparently had predictions happen left and right and thinks anyone with a keen account is psychic, and the reason we didn't have prediction happen is because we have bad energy? Well the other day I was curious and searched her name on Keen (she has the same username and posts feedbacks frequently)...all her feedbacks were GONE, she deleted her account. I wonder why...is it because she got back with her POI and no longer needed readings? (I doubt it because she said she loves getting readings for fun even if she had predictions happen she still gets readings bc she asks about other things and she just enjoys readings) Or is it because her major prediction never happened, had a wake up call and fed up with it all?
She probably changed her screen name on there. Feedback usually dosent just vanish like that.
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Thank you so much for this...AMEN!!!! I agree with every single thing you said.
PS: Anyone remember the ex-member ats1rk that got banned? The one that apparently had predictions happen left and right and thinks anyone with a keen account is psychic, and the reason we didn't have prediction happen is because we have bad energy? Well the other day I was curious and searched her name on Keen (she has the same username and posts feedbacks frequently)...all her feedbacks were GONE, she deleted her account. I wonder why...is it because she got back with her POI and no longer needed readings? (I doubt it because she said she loves getting readings for fun even if she had predictions happen she still gets readings bc she asks about other things and she just enjoys readings) Or is it because her major prediction never happened, had a wake up call and fed up with it all?
Or possibly because she was so horrible Keen removed her :) lol That is interesting though!
I was talking to a forum member for a few months over the summer. She was adamant this one reader was correct and put every ounce of faith in her. She asked about a job and actually scheduled her life around what the reader told her. She was going to move to another country because of what this reader told her! The reader was wrong and she found out before she moved her life, but she was very close to doing it. That is scary!
Nah...she's gotta be keen's favourite customer. Calling everyday and leaving everyone positive feedback lol. Also dishing out her whole story on the feedback so any advisor can fish info from
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Thank you so much for this...AMEN!!!! I agree with every single thing you said.
PS: Anyone remember the ex-member ats1rk that got banned? The one that apparently had predictions happen left and right and thinks anyone with a keen account is psychic, and the reason we didn't have prediction happen is because we have bad energy? Well the other day I was curious and searched her name on Keen (she has the same username and posts feedbacks frequently)...all her feedbacks were GONE, she deleted her account. I wonder why...is it because she got back with her POI and no longer needed readings? (I doubt it because she said she loves getting readings for fun even if she had predictions happen she still gets readings bc she asks about other things and she just enjoys readings) Or is it because her major prediction never happened, had a wake up call and fed up with it all?
She probably changed her screen name on there. Feedback usually dosent just vanish like that.
Yeah, it's really hard to remove feedback, even if you tell Keen that you made a mistake or fat fingered or something. Good or bad. I changed my screen name a few years ago because I realized that it gave away too much personal information if I was leaving reviews and all my previous feedback just changed to my new name. If she was a mean person, she was probably not having any luck with getting advisors to answer her calls so she changed her name so they can't find her on their bashers lists. She probably did the same thing here. I've noticed someone who was banned a couple months ago has another account that was somewhat inactive up until a couple months ago. It's hard to hide your demeanor. But anyway, I'm not getting involved with it. As far as ats1rk, just look for feedback that's written in the same type of voice as she had. Or if you remember any of her feedback, google the words of the feedback and not her name and her new name might come up.
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I agree with the post. I have been in the few months trying to be really good with not reading. Because I agree.. it’s destructive and addictive to a certain extent. And in the future would really like to limit my reading periodically. I have been really good in December and January. I am tracking all my expenses now.. and doing part Time jobs to earn back the money I spent on psychics (which is a lot).
Also I have my fair share of disappointment over psychics. In the process I have learned to cut down the people I read with less than 5.. and who to trust. Sometimes I would try someone new, but I stick with a few.
But I’m limiting my reading not because I never had success with them but because I’m trying to be good with saving up money. Actually I have read about 3 PoI and career questions over 4 years.. and for most part, big outcomes manifest.
I feel really bad when I read post that big outcomes didn’t manifest for a lot of people.. but sometimes I wonder why do they manifest for a few.. but not for most. For myself, psychics have helped me get promoted, not get fired, get my ex back, make my relationships better. And again... I went through binges and have weed out who works and who have not. I had a lot of psychics that didn’t work for me... but the popular ones, predictions have manifested every single time.... so I don’t I don’t know. I really feel bad but I wonder why it doesn’t work for most.
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I agree with the post. I have been in the few months trying to be really good with not reading. Because I agree.. it’s destructive and addictive to a certain extent. And in the future would really like to limit my reading periodically. I have been really good in December and January. I am tracking all my expenses now.. and doing part Time jobs to earn back the money I spent on psychics (which is a lot).
Also I have my fair share of disappointment over psychics. In the process I have learned to cut down the people I read with less than 5.. and who to trust. Sometimes I would try someone new, but I stick with a few.
But I’m limiting my reading not because I never had success with them but because I’m trying to be good with saving up money. Actually I have read about 3 PoI and career questions over 4 years.. and for most part, big outcomes manifest.
I feel really bad when I read post that big outcomes didn’t manifest for a lot of people.. but sometimes I wonder why do they manifest for a few.. but not for most. For myself, psychics have helped me get promoted, not get fired, get my ex back, make my relationships better. And again... I went through binges and have weed out who works and who have not. I had a lot of psychics that didn’t work for me... but the popular ones, predictions have manifested every single time.... so I don’t I don’t know. I really feel bad but I wonder why it doesn’t work for most.
You're in the 1% that predictions to manifest and psychics are right. The problem is, the other 99% see your success and think it will happen with them but for the most part, it doesn't. That's what happened to me. I was in the 99% that everyone was wrong. And yeah, why things happen for some (a few) and not the majority. I wish it was the other way around :)
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I also think we have to hold some kind of personal responsibility too. Meaning, if you are getting readings that are saying one thing, and reality is showing you something COMPLETELY opposite, it seems a bit strange to only believe the readers and not your own common sense.
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@whskers - I'm just playing devils advocate here...out of all the predictions you had come true, how many of those are "guessable" like "will I get that job" in which they have 50% chance of getting it right or are they predictions that no one would've ever guessed unless they are real psychics?
Also, do you divulge a lot of information to psychics? Are your information googlable/searchable?
Just some things to think about....because I've also had predictions come true but looking back, they are just so insignificant and like yes/no questions that I really can't say they are psychics. For example, Britta from CP got one yes/no question right in regards to whether I'd pass an exam...then 4 other yes/no questions wrong. lol that's even worse than the probability of guesses. So do I even count that 1 "hit"?
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I agree with the post. I have been in the few months trying to be really good with not reading. Because I agree.. it’s destructive and addictive to a certain extent. And in the future would really like to limit my reading periodically. I have been really good in December and January. I am tracking all my expenses now.. and doing part Time jobs to earn back the money I spent on psychics (which is a lot).
Also I have my fair share of disappointment over psychics. In the process I have learned to cut down the people I read with less than 5.. and who to trust. Sometimes I would try someone new, but I stick with a few.
But I’m limiting my reading not because I never had success with them but because I’m trying to be good with saving up money. Actually I have read about 3 PoI and career questions over 4 years.. and for most part, big outcomes manifest.
I feel really bad when I read post that big outcomes didn’t manifest for a lot of people.. but sometimes I wonder why do they manifest for a few.. but not for most. For myself, psychics have helped me get promoted, not get fired, get my ex back, make my relationships better. And again... I went through binges and have weed out who works and who have not. I had a lot of psychics that didn’t work for me... but the popular ones, predictions have manifested every single time.... so I don’t I don’t know. I really feel bad but I wonder why it doesn’t work for most.
You're in the 1% that predictions to manifest and psychics are right. The problem is, the other 99% see your success and think it will happen with them but for the most part, it doesn't. That's what happened to me. I was in the 99% that everyone was wrong. And yeah, why things happen for some (a few) and not the majority. I wish it was the other way around :)
But I do agree though. Stop reading and get my life back!!! I need to earn back all those money I spent on psychics!!!
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Great post Baypark and I totally agree. Getting readings just doesn't really change anything. What will be, will be. I wish I had all the time back that I was hung upon these guys I called about. Wish I had not let my job get to me the way it did...it probably would have been better to just quit rather than spend money on readings so I could cope with it. Sometimes readings helped me BUT the thing is it helped me cope with things when it would have been much better to just walk away or let it go. I had to realize any person or situation that pushes me to call like that is not worth it, not worth the money and not worth stressing over.
Many of the readers do have real gifts and they get some things right, but those things are usually not even important or just don't matter anymore by the time they happen. They are almost always wrong on ultimate outcomes and they never even see the things that do happen, the things that really matter. It's all a crapshoot and you can't rely on anything they say to be the truth.
I was so stressed out for a few years there, I just couldn't calm down or soothe myself anymore. I was in that fight or flight state practically all the time. That was really why I kept calling and why it became so addictive. It would have been better for me to take care of my body and my health instead of calling. I would suggest to anyone who is trying to stop calling...maybe go get a massage, an acupuncture treatment, see an herbalist...try to find a way to correct the imbalance in your body that makes you crave the feeling you get from calling.
There really is a physical, chemical component to this. Don't allow yourself to stay stressed for too long or ride the emotional roller coaster of getting readings. I went through a routine where I get my hopes up that what a reader told me would happen, and then crash emotionally when it did not come to pass. Prolonged stress is hard enough on the body but getting readings makes it even worse because you get a temporary high which is not based in reality and will inevitably lead to a crash. I believe most who are calling probably need healing more than anything, not just emotional healing but physical healing.
Oh wow, you have some great points. I remember times being so upset and stressed out, I would call numerous psychics one after another just to get that "everything is going to be ok" feeling. A few hours later, I'd be right back to where I was. it's a horrible feeling! You're right about it being physical. I started going to a reiki energy healer (not to stop getting readings) and a few months into it, I felt stronger and that's when I started to finally see what I was doing and I slowly got my own power back. Slowly, stopped calling. Slowly started to let go of the dumbass that I was hanging on to. The best way to get a guy to come back is to move on emotionally and energetically. That means no calling psychics!!!! :)
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Great post Baypark and I totally agree. Getting readings just doesn't really change anything. What will be, will be. I wish I had all the time back that I was hung upon these guys I called about. Wish I had not let my job get to me the way it did...it probably would have been better to just quit rather than spend money on readings so I could cope with it. Sometimes readings helped me BUT the thing is it helped me cope with things when it would have been much better to just walk away or let it go. I had to realize any person or situation that pushes me to call like that is not worth it, not worth the money and not worth stressing over.
Many of the readers do have real gifts and they get some things right, but those things are usually not even important or just don't matter anymore by the time they happen. They are almost always wrong on ultimate outcomes and they never even see the things that do happen, the things that really matter. It's all a crapshoot and you can't rely on anything they say to be the truth.
I was so stressed out for a few years there, I just couldn't calm down or soothe myself anymore. I was in that fight or flight state practically all the time. That was really why I kept calling and why it became so addictive. It would have been better for me to take care of my body and my health instead of calling. I would suggest to anyone who is trying to stop calling...maybe go get a massage, an acupuncture treatment, see an herbalist...try to find a way to correct the imbalance in your body that makes you crave the feeling you get from calling.
There really is a physical, chemical component to this. Don't allow yourself to stay stressed for too long or ride the emotional roller coaster of getting readings. I went through a routine where I get my hopes up that what a reader told me would happen, and then crash emotionally when it did not come to pass. Prolonged stress is hard enough on the body but getting readings makes it even worse because you get a temporary high which is not based in reality and will inevitably lead to a crash. I believe most who are calling probably need healing more than anything, not just emotional healing but physical healing.
Oh wow, you have some great points. I remember times being so upset and stressed out, I would call numerous psychics one after another just to get that "everything is going to be ok" feeling. A few hours later, I'd be right back to where I was. it's a horrible feeling! You're right about it being physical. I started going to a reiki energy healer (not to stop getting readings) and a few months into it, I felt stronger and that's when I started to finally see what I was doing and I slowly got my own power back. Slowly, stopped calling. Slowly started to let go of the dumbass that I was hanging on to. The best way to get a guy to come back is to move on emotionally and energetically. That means no calling psychics!!!! :)
I think getting binge readings its like eating fast food. It feels good at the moment, then you feel disgusting after.
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I do not have facebook and my two social media accounts are private. Also - this has been an advise i tell a lot of people here — when you read, do not give any information. Ask it in a way “what do you see between us?” Or “what do you see happening here”. If the psychic dont pick up or connect in a minute, i hang up.
I have posted predictions coming to pass all over this board. Here are the most memorable ones on top of my head:
1) In 2014, reader said my ex boyfriend and i will get back together in October 5, 2014. — after breaking up and not speaking for 1.5 months, we got back together on that date with his iniation.
2) In 2014, a reader said my boyfriend will want to move in with me in a week. - i didn’t believe this because my boyfriend said multiple times that he doesnt want to move in for a while. After a week, he decided to move in together and it happened so fast. He found a place for us right away and he put in the deposit the next day.
3) In 2015, a reader said that to be promoted, i should talk to the lady boss. Not my immediate supervisor, the woman she is reporting to. — this was very accurate because my boss was a woman, as well as the person she reports to. But the big boss was a man. So the advisor was advising me to talk to the director, not the VP. I got promoted a month after. Not until after another advise from the psychic because my manager was holding up my promotion so i had to read again and follow their advise.
4) In 2015 - various readers said that i will receive a written warning. One reader explained the event very specific. She said, your blonde boss will come to your desk early morning, bring you to a man’s office and serve you a written warning. Whatever happens, do not fight it. They will terminate you. - I called a psychic a weekend before that probably asking about something else. I used to always ask before i put the phone down “do you have any warnings for me?”. Then that prediction came up. I went on a psychic binge and most of them saw it. I even questioned it, my boss is brunette. Monday came, and my boss had blonde highlight streaks. She said good morning and asked me to follow her. She brought me to the VP’s room. They served me a written policy violation because i went out of country for work, but i went on a side trip and my personal credit card didn’t have chip and i was stranded somewhere. So i used the corporate card and emailed her to let her know the situation and that i will pay her back when i get back. Thats how they wrote up the warning. If you know me personally, i would have fought it. But since adviser warned me, i said I’m sorry and ill never do it again. Warning went away.
5) in 2015, a psychic said, you will move out of state together with your boyfriend. - i wanted to break up with my BF and move to New York for a job opportunity. The work travels 75% so i know we wont work. THe next day after my job offer, my bf got into school out of state. We moved out 2 weeks after for him to get into school.
6) in 2015, a psychic said, a man in your life will never reach his full life. - my boyfriend died in 2016.
7) in 2017, various psychic said, you will increase communication with your poi. But you two will never be together. - i was obsessed with this man but something happened that turned me off. Starting august, he started initiating conversation and almost texted me everyday. But i know in my heart i dont want to do anything with him. Up to this day he texts/snaps/IG me everyday.
8) in 2017, various psychic said, you will get offered a job, but not for the position you applied for. - there was no opening for my expertise, so i applied for a different department, on the day of my interview, two people from the department of my expertise resigned, during my interview, they gave me a job offer right away but not for the department i applied for.
9) in 2017 two psychics said i will not have any communication with my POI for 3-4 months - I didn’t believe them. We were in a honeymoon stage. But something happened that ended our communication. We have not been talking for 3rd month now. And cookie saw the other day that he wants to reach and that we will try again.
10) In 2018, a psychic said there will be reorganization in my department and it will be very positive for me and i will go up the ladder very quickly. - 2 people resigned and i got all their jobs. I heard a rumor the other day that I’m up for promotion this June. Will be 8 months after i got hired. Very difficult in my industry. Mostly its 2 years before a promotion to that position, even more for some people. I have been assigned “career advisees (people you need to manage for career progress)” two weeks ago. I’m the only person in this position that have career advisees under me.
These are not including the small predictions that can easily be guessed or not easy guess but not too significant or the correct contact prediction or very accurate empaths. I have no luck with contact prediction either except for a few hits.
Although i have to mention - in 2017 i asked if i will get fired for something. Everyone said no. But i did get fired. But.. before that event happened, i was asking if my company will lay off people... various psychics said, they will be doing it in waves, but you will be long gone when they do that, earning more money and much happier. Which is true. I’m earning way more and working 30 hours less. And yes.. my ex company started laying off people in waves. Especially my position at that time.
There are big predictions for me for this year especially around summer. Predictions that even date back years ago. Supposedly 2018 is a big year for me. So if those things happen, then yeah psychics do work for me.
But a lot of psychics have told me I’m very intuitive and very easy to read. I seriously can feel the energy going around me when i do my reading especially after i say my question and the readers start to connect. When i go on a binge, i am very drained physically after and feel very exhausted sometimes to a point feel I’m very sleepy. I read with Tana Hoy last September 2017, and he mentioned to me that I’m very intuitive. He mentioned specific events in my past that showed how intuitive i am. Cookie and Yona said that once i met the right person, i will know right away and i dont have to confirm with any psychics.
But yeah, i have my fair share of disappointments with psychics too. And i have been trying new ones time to time from suggestions from this board. But i have disciplining my self to stop reading. I need to save money. I have accounted for the $ i spent on readings and its not ok. Im doing part time jobs every weekends and night to earn back those readings. But it will take a looooooooong time......
@whskers - I'm just playing devils advocate here...out of all the predictions you had come true, how many of those are "guessable" like "will I get that job" in which they have 50% chance of getting it right or are they predictions that no one would've ever guessed unless they are real psychics?
Also, do you divulge a lot of information to psychics? Are your information googlable/searchable?
Just some things to think about....because I've also had predictions come true but looking back, they are just so insignificant and like yes/no questions that I really can't say they are psychics. For example, Britta from CP got one yes/no question right in regards to whether I'd pass an exam...then 4 other yes/no questions wrong. lol that's even worse than the probability of guesses. So do I even count that 1 "hit"?
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What a great post, BayPark! I can totally resonate with it. If I could write as well as you then these would be my words too.
I started getting readings last year, and the small random predictions which happened only kept me hanging for another year on to this guy who doesn't even care if I exist or not. Some readers were maybe right, some were wrong, but getting readings is just an addiction. I didn't listen to any, I just wanted to get more readings. I am not sure even sure what was driving me at that point. I look back and can't believe that it was me who was calling in between work, spending all this money, I must have called 700+ readers just in last year, it's horrible. I feel sooooooooo much better now - not calling.
Not only any major prediction about POI didn't come true, but also nothing about the new guys I was supposed to meet all this while happened. I mean I met guys but nothing long term or no one I liked.
After a long time, I scheduled this reading with Yona, which she kept canceling and postponing, and it didn't even bother me which made me so happy.
Addictions are crazy, the way they sneak up to you without you even realizing-- just boggles my mind.. but I think in the process I learnt some good lessons. But it just is funny that how in 2016 I didn't even know anything about psychics, and how I discovered this whole world of readings and psychics in 2017 and got so involved.
I definitely know better now. and I love you all. You all have supported me when I needed it most.
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So awesome @whskrs! Loved reading your post as well. So cool when stuff must happen as predicted. I wish too that 2018 may be the best year for you <3 . Looks like you do controlled readings (and not binge) maybe that helps too apart from being intuitive and with open energy. Regardless, very cool!
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I agree Baypark, and you are 100% right. But I have to ask: since the psychics were SO wrong about that first guy who devastated you, what made you trust in readings after that? Was it just the old familiar well maybe I haven't found one that works for me thing?
I've only ever called about one guy (I mean seriously called and if I added it up, I would probably jump off a building) and after that, I just started questioning the whole prediction thing in general, and I certainly felt nothing like I did in the beginning about the readings. I think back and I truly believed all they told me and thought it would happen! And the real mindF*** part was he did keep coming back, even told me he cared and all that stuff but kept pulling the same hot and cold crap that made me call in the first place. I think I would have moved on a lot faster if he just stopped calling and expressing interest.
After the first guy left after being together 2 years,.I started calling constantly wanting him back. He had searched and met someone before he left so I was really messed up. Because psychics were right the first time about him coming back, I just knew they had to be right this time. During the 8 months of calling, I became addicted. I was also so damaged and my self esteem and self worth was in the toilet, I needed something to make me feel better and psychics did that for me. They gave me hope and made me feel good about myself but only for a little while and then I'd have to call again. And the cycle continued until I realized I had a problem!
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I agree Baypark, and you are 100% right. But I have to ask: since the psychics were SO wrong about that first guy who devastated you, what made you trust in readings after that? Was it just the old familiar well maybe I haven't found one that works for me thing?
I've only ever called about one guy (I mean seriously called and if I added it up, I would probably jump off a building) and after that, I just started questioning the whole prediction thing in general, and I certainly felt nothing like I did in the beginning about the readings. I think back and I truly believed all they told me and thought it would happen! And the real mindF*** part was he did keep coming back, even told me he cared and all that stuff but kept pulling the same hot and cold crap that made me call in the first place. I think I would have moved on a lot faster if he just stopped calling and expressing interest.
After the first guy left after being together 2 years,.I started calling constantly wanting him back. He had searched and met someone before he left so I was really messed up. Because psychics were right the first time about him coming back, I just knew they had to be right this time. During the 8 months of calling, I became addicted. I was also so damaged and my self esteem and self worth was in the toilet, I needed something to make me feel better and psychics did that for me. They gave me hope and made me feel good about myself but only for a little while and then I'd have to call again. And the cycle continued until I realized I had a problem!
I had the same experience. They made me feel good about myself for a little while. Last quarter of last year I finally recognize I have a problem and I need to stop. I guess it’s because I wanted to talk to someone who knows about the situations and I think they really know what’s going on with me and they really understand. I realized I have to stop and turn to friends more. I also got a part time job. Even on holidays I was working, it took my mind off reading. When I get home I’m so tired I just pass out and another day of no reading. I also unfavorited a lot of keen favorites. Makes it so hard to catch them and eventually deleted keen account.
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Unbelievable!!!! This is what someone left for a reader
2 days ago User317402 phone
I specifically asked MOT to be given bad news and yet she told me my husband was cheating on me. I hung up crying and feeling worse than when I called. This service is awful. I want a refund. I keep trying for readers who will PLEASE tell me something POSITIVE. ??
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IN all honesty, the only thing that has helped me not to call is the LoA. The difficulty I have is sustaining the momentum... if I crash, I can get caught into another cycle..
But when I get into it, it really is the one major thing that helps. Once you start seeing that you're in control of your future, the last thing you want to do is call a psychic and have them rain down on your parade...
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Unbelievable!!!! This is what someone left for a reader
2 days ago User317402 phone
I specifically asked MOT to be given bad news and yet she told me my husband was cheating on me. I hung up crying and feeling worse than when I called. This service is awful. I want a refund. I keep trying for readers who will PLEASE tell me something POSITIVE. ??
So basically she wants to get lied to?! Lol
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There is absolutely nothing that I hate more than when psychics talk about themselves, but the second thing is the fact they appear to miss this pertinent point since we do pay them. It's like really???!! go call your own psychic if you need a shoulder to cry on, or go talk to yourself in the mirror. There is one chatty reader I use to go to, what is her name....geez what use to get my goat about her is that she would watch the clock too and would be sure to stop it on a dime when the time was up. And afterwards I would be thinking, but we talked mostly about you, when she actually needed to add an additional 10-15 minutes onto the call time, so the caller could get a little snipit of information about themselves. Unbelievable really.
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Looking back I wish I would have never get a reading in the first place some of the thing they said it was true but most of the thing they said it was wrong. Now my poi is in complete denial of the thing she said to me what more can she be hiding. Best thing is to leave her alone and if she willing to come forward or not talking more to her will push her away.
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@whskers - I'm just playing devils advocate here...out of all the predictions you had come true, how many of those are "guessable" like "will I get that job" in which they have 50% chance of getting it right or are they predictions that no one would've ever guessed unless they are real psychics?
Also, do you divulge a lot of information to psychics? Are your information googlable/searchable?
Just some things to think about....because I've also had predictions come true but looking back, they are just so insignificant and like yes/no questions that I really can't say they are psychics. For example, Britta from CP got one yes/no question right in regards to whether I'd pass an exam...then 4 other yes/no questions wrong. lol that's even worse than the probability of guesses. So do I even count that 1 "hit"?
Yep, that's the thing. If it's a yes or no question there is a 50/50 chance of it happening, even though most readers just tell you what you want to hear.
Britta got a little bit of stuff right for me, but was completely wrong on 2 different POIs coming back, and she gave me the biggest fairy tale ever on both guys.
I have had some readers tell me no with the ex coming back (that is the most likely outcome afterall) but they got all of the surrounding details and situation completely wrong, so I wouldn't give them any credit either.
Also general, non-specific things that apply to a vast majority of the callers, such as when you start the call and the psychic says something like "You have someone on your mind" etc.
So yeah, even when the psychic does get the past or present right, a lot of the stuff could just be general guesses that would apply to a lot of people. I've found recently that a lot of psychics ask an awful lot of prompting questions too.
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Omg I hate Eli Casey! @presence he’s exactly how you describe him. Ughhhhhhh
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I've had quite a few be extremely accurate on past stuff and not things that could be applied to just anyone. Keisha was eerily correct down to the month. Diane731 was accurate on a few present things and got a few events correct. Some readers are gifted but not with the future except for handful of people. That's why we call right? To find out about the future NOT the past!!!
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If these psychic can really tell the future, how much will they really be charging?
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Thank you so much for this...AMEN!!!! I agree with every single thing you said.
PS: Anyone remember the ex-member ats1rk that got banned? The one that apparently had predictions happen left and right and thinks anyone with a keen account is psychic, and the reason we didn't have prediction happen is because we have bad energy? Well the other day I was curious and searched her name on Keen (she has the same username and posts feedbacks frequently)...all her feedbacks were GONE, she deleted her account. I wonder why...is it because she got back with her POI and no longer needed readings? (I doubt it because she said she loves getting readings for fun even if she had predictions happen she still gets readings bc she asks about other things and she just enjoys readings) Or is it because her major prediction never happened, had a wake up call and fed up with it all?
Ats1rk’s feedback hasn’t been deleted from keen, I just saw this feedback from her for christina474773 on 1 jan this year: “She has been accurate for me on timing and predictions, and she is so sweet and funny. I definitely recommend her!”
But it looks like Realist411 has disappeared completely from this forum. Although controversial, she did have some great insights.
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I stumbled across this video this morning and actually thought some of the messages helped.. hope it might help someone else to..
http://www.howtogettheguy.com/blog/beachallenge/
I skipped the first bit of the vid... and went straight to the seminar...
I've found a few of Hussey's vids useful at times when I've particularly needed to hear the message.....
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Ok looking back i WISH on most days i never ever got a reading but I have my few psychics that have turned into counselors/life coaches that are wayyy cheaper than shrinks let’s be honest..Mainly coz i would have moved on like regular pipo deal witht breakups by crying and gaining weightinstead of false hopes..BUT!!! One thing my psychic has pointed out (hence the lack of regrets) i deal with the same type of man over & over ..Same script different cast so really it boils down to ME!!& searching deep down what’s wrong with me..THis is my 2018 goal to break a pattern & i know I can do it ..So can the rest :)
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The thing that helped me the most was the realization that out of all the hundreds of available options there's really only two people who are real and have any sort of accuracy. Kisha's very ethical and WON'T let you read with her a lot and Cookie costs a small fortune to read with and there's usually a long wait for her. Anyone else is a waste of time, at least for me and my other friends who have gone through this.
Don't throw your money away on playing Russian Roulette on Keen or CP.
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The thing that helped me the most was the realization that out of all the hundreds of available options there's really only two people who are real and have any sort of accuracy. Kisha's very ethical and WON'T let you read with her a lot and Cookie costs a small fortune to read with and there's usually a long wait for her. Anyone else is a waste of time, at least for me and my other friends who have gone through this.
I came to the same realization about men, lol, out of the hundreds of available options there will only be maybe two who are for real, anyone else will be a waste of time, and there still may be a long wait.
Just kidding...but yeah I agree although I never read with either Cookie or Kisha. Most of us end up eventually finding 1 or 2 psychics who are somewhat accurate but the rest turn out to be a total waste of time and money.
Melody Marie and Sissie have been the most accurate for me long term, plus a few male readers who are no longer on Keen.
I agree about the man thing. God there are posters here who are calling about the same guy for years. It’s sad. Why do women get so held up on one guy. I’ve been guilty of it too.
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Yep...I was calling about the same man for 5 years. Truly no one is worth all that and like I said before...anyone who IS worth it will never leave you hanging or waiting or wondering for that long. But it was hard to let go because he gave me just enough to keep me holding on. I thought he was a good man with a lot of problems, but now I see it as a very calculated thing. I am very loyal and I would go to the ends of the earth for someone I love. He knew that and I believe he played on it. I think it was almost like a game to him to see how long he could get me to hold on.
Most people who get this hung up on someone, I seriously doubt it is all on one side. The other person does something that sends mixed signals or plays on your emotions. Then if you start getting readings, the readers play on those same emotions.
I absolutely agree. Excellent post
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Sounds like Tired and I were dating the same person...for the same amount of time....and felt the same way about him.....my guy to a tee. Exactly the same scenario.
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I just wish I had been able to see it sooner. People told me what he is like but it was so different from how I knew him to be (and different from what most readers were telling me). I just couldn't believe he could be that petty or selfish. Now I know beyond any doubt, but it just took a long time to fully see through his behavior. Even when I could see it, I didn't want to believe it. Then almost every reader was telling me oh he really he loves you, he is trying to work out his problems so he can come back. That might have been his intentions, but he never followed through or lived up to it.
There was one astrologer who told me the truth, that he would probably never be able to change, and she explained why (from an esoteric perspective, what kind of person he is spiritually.) My head was already so full of what psychics told me, I didn't know what to believe, but now I know she was right. This whole thing was such a mindfuck.
I can imagine..it's hard to realize that you were so wrong about a person....I've been there too, and I say to myself, it was right there in my face! And just because the person might have some sincere feelings does not mean that the situation is meant to turn into anything, especially the great, wonderful ending they try to convince is will happen.
My case, as well, I was getting just enough to keep me hanging on from the guy. And boy, did I hang on and on.
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Sounds like Tired and I were dating the same person...for the same amount of time....and felt the same way about him.....my guy to a tee. Exactly the same scenario.
We can probably all relate to the guy Tired was calling about....sad to say. If things were clear, and the relationship was healthy, we wouldn't be calling psychics. JMO...
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Yep...I was calling about the same man for 5 years. Truly no one is worth all that and like I said before...anyone who IS worth it will never leave you hanging or waiting or wondering for that long. But it was hard to let go because he gave me just enough to keep me holding on. I thought he was a good man with a lot of problems, but now I see it as a very calculated thing. I am very loyal and I would go to the ends of the earth for someone I love. He knew that and I believe he played on it. I think it was almost like a game to him to see how long he could get me to hold on.
Most people who get this hung up on someone, I seriously doubt it is all on one side. The other person does something that sends mixed signals or plays on your emotions. Then if you start getting readings, the readers play on those same emotions.
This is the same thing my poi did to me after that she denied about the stuff she did. They always said she care a lot about you well they made be right but she never show it and even lied to me I'm so damaged after what had happen It will take a while for me to fully heal I don't even known how long it gonna take. Maybe it a past life connection like the psychic said or it could be all the stuff that they put in my head and now I can't forget about her.
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Yep...I was calling about the same man for 5 years. Truly no one is worth all that and like I said before...anyone who IS worth it will never leave you hanging or waiting or wondering for that long. But it was hard to let go because he gave me just enough to keep me holding on. I thought he was a good man with a lot of problems, but now I see it as a very calculated thing. I am very loyal and I would go to the ends of the earth for someone I love. He knew that and I believe he played on it. I think it was almost like a game to him to see how long he could get me to hold on.
Most people who get this hung up on someone, I seriously doubt it is all on one side. The other person does something that sends mixed signals or plays on your emotions. Then if you start getting readings, the readers play on those same emotions.
This is the same thing my poi did to me after that she denied about the stuff she did. They always said she care a lot about you well they made be right but she never show it and even lied to me I'm so damaged after what had happen It will take a while for me to fully heal I don't even known how long it gonna take. Maybe it a past life connection like the psychic said or it could be all the stuff that they put in my head and now I can't forget about her.
It's hard...I have days where I feel almost like none of this ever happened, but then I start remembering all the crazy things these readers told me and I can't even think straight. Or I start thinking about how my ex treated me and I just feel sick. It does get better, I feel so much better about it than I used to. But it really damaged my self esteem a lot. What I have to remind myself is my ex and the readers who exploited my pain are the ones who deserve to feel bad about themselves.
for me I don’t think my poi feel bad at all she said she didn’t do any of those thing and she doesn’t care. Spiritual medium Ava said I seek help on my own free will when she knew that nothing going to happen.
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Just wanted to share an awesome book called "Outrageous Openness" by Tosha Silver. It really is amazing. To anyone that wants to truly start to free themselves from this addiction get this book. Download Kindle right to your phone and get reading. Beware this is not just some self help book to get you what you want. This can be a journey to freeing yourself. This psychic addiction can actually turn into a wonderful blessing.
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OMG whiskers can you match advisors' names with their number on your prediction list? ;D
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Sounds like Tired and I were dating the same person...for the same amount of time....and felt the same way about him.....my guy to a tee. Exactly the same scenario.
We can probably all relate to the guy Tired was calling about....sad to say. If things were clear, and the relationship was healthy, we wouldn't be calling psychics. JMO...
With my POI's, it hasn't been an unhealthy relationship, but rather people who have disappeared that I want to return to me.
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OMG whiskers can you match advisors' names with their number on your prediction list? ;D
I’ll mail you
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Just wanted to share an awesome book called "Outrageous Openness" by Tosha Silver. It really is amazing. To anyone that wants to truly start to free themselves from this addiction get this book. Download Kindle right to your phone and get reading. Beware this is not just some self help book to get you what you want. This can be a journey to freeing yourself. This psychic addiction can actually turn into a wonderful blessing.
@love, can you share what you found amazing in this book? And how you found that psychic addiction can turn into a blessing?
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This is my first time replying to one of your forums (besides my private email to one of the members). Just want to say that I’m relieved to have found you all and that you all found each other on here. I’m an addict since 2008.
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My addiction also started in 08' and is finally starting to let up a little bit.
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Hi Jas, nice to meet you...it been quit a journey hasn’t it? Mine is too although I still call, it’s just more controlled but I wish I had total control to say enough. I’m sure you feel the same when I say imagine all things we could have done better with our hard earned money. Like a down payment on my dream beach house.
My addiction also started in 08' and is finally starting to let up a little bit.
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Man oh man it's been a hot minute since I've been on this site! I popped on because I checked my old email address and saw I had a number of messages from a bunch of y'all!
I had stopped really binge reading before I stopped posting but hung around to answer questions and see how things worked out with a bunch of people on here then the page started feeling really toxic so I signed off for a while and stopped getting readings. But I decided to pop in for one more quick update and was so glad to find this topic!
At the risk of sounding braggish, can I just say how GREAT it feels to not have the burden of the addiction of getting readings?! I took my life into my own hands and stopped getting readings and it's been so freeing. I'm no longer worrying about every little thing, I'm no longer agonizing over what this one or that one said will happen. I stopped obsessing over it all. And then other changes started happening; obviously I had money again. I wasn't spending all of my money on readings. I wasn't worrying about a climbing credit card bill or my bank account being low because I was spending it on readings. I started feeling more positive about things! I felt like I was finally getting things under control. And the next best thing? I was once again making decisions for myself! I wasn't stopping myself because some so-and-so told me not to, or because they advised me to do something else. I started listening to myself and doing what I wanted. I gained the confidence to leave my crappy job and got a new one that I LOVE! I dropped crappy friends that made me feel bad about myself. I finally became my own woman again.
And... things started improving with my POI. Are we back together? No. But things are definitely feeling better between us. We talk more, it doesn't feel so tense when we talk, he's invited me out! Things just feel better. Finally. *knock on wood* I think what helped there too, besides my constant obsessed focusing on it, is that my confidence started going up. And THAT is the most important part. I started to remember WHO I was and who I am. I know what I want. Sure I know that I like my POI but I also know that I have a standard of how I want to be treated and deserve to be treated. I'm spunky and playful, I don't just timidly interact. BUT at the same time, I talk to him like a friend. I just create positive interactions, I no longer bring in that energy like all I want is to be together. NO. I focus on the communication, the conversation, the here and now. I no longer bring in that energy of only being after one goal. And you know what? It's really helped!
Stepping back and breaking the addiction has also allowed me to have a much more critical eye on the readings I had gotten. I realized that a lot of them (most of them) I was bending the prediction to fit the situation because I wanted it to be right. I was telling myself "well they were really off with timing but they said a 4 and it was the 14th so theres the 4!". Now sure, there has been the odd prediction from various others that have been correct, but some could have been lucky guesses or general enough that anyone could have guessed it. Now yes, there were one or two readers that I did have better luck with, but even if they did pick up good details or make accurate predictions, NO ONE has been 100% correct for me. Overall its important to remember readers (real readers) are not miracle workers. They are not going to see every detail and every tiny little possibility. To expect that of them is naive. When you are getting readings, especially if it concerns another person, there's so many other free wills to consider. Nothing is written in stone. You can change things, they can change things, anything can change anything. Also, the danger of online readings is how easy it is for anyone to pretend to be a reader just so they can make a quick buck.
Now I cannot say that I have not gotten a single reading since breaking my habit, because that would be a lie; there are only 2 people I have read with. Both local. The first one I have only read with once a year. He covers that entire year and I go on my merry way. I will read the notes he writes a couple of times and then lock them away to be forgotten. I've read over them a couple of times just to see how things have gone and then I locked them back up again (and honestly, as great as he is I don't think I am going to see him again this year). The 2nd local reader I met last year. She's a more of the here and now reader. I found her and thought what the heck, she was fair priced, it had been a while, and really there's nothing wrong with getting readings IN MODERATION. I have read with her twice now (once every six months) and I might stretch it out longer because I still don't feel the itch for getting a reading.
I've had a lot of messages asking about certain readers and if I would read with them again and the answer is No. To all of them. Keen, AskNow, Oranum, PsychicText, whatever pay-by-the-minute site you're looking at, NO. Looking back I wish I would have never started getting readings in the first place; but it's too late for regrets so I take it as a lesson. I'm in a good place now, getting better by the minute, and I feel a lot better than I did when I was at the height of my addiction. Not a single reading ever really brought me any joy, they just perpetuated the problem. I might have felt better for a day or two (some readings I felt so terrible I was going to someone else and then another and another), but I never had a reading that made me feel truly good or confident.
I sort of went all over the place with this post and it ended way differently than I first intended but I'm just glad to be able to share my own story. It is entirely possible to break the habit/addiction and take your life back in your own hands and I HIGHLY recommend it. :)
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@hopefulheart. BRAVO!!!! CONGRATS! it is an amazing feeling to no longer be addicted to readings. I too have stopped getting them. My last one was with Yona about 3 weeks ago and it was a non reading. She picked up nothing. She and I talked about the space I was in and the only reason I was reading with her was due the reading already being scheduled for weeks. This was the 3rd time I had tried to read with her in 3 months. Every time there was an issue where we never could talk. She said we were jinxed. I said it was because I was no longer suppose to get reading and was putting my faith in God instead of psychics.
Absolutely nothing has happened that any of the readers said would. Nothing with the POI, no new man, no huge income, nothing. The best part? I don't care. I'm living my life and enjoying ME. Instead of hating myself for calling all the time draining my bank account. I haven't been on here in a week or so either. It's just freeing. Glad you're doing so great!!!!
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I stumbled across this video this morning and actually thought some of the messages helped.. hope it might help someone else to..
http://www.howtogettheguy.com/blog/beachallenge/
I skipped the first bit of the vid... and went straight to the seminar...
I've found a few of Hussey's vids useful at times when I've particularly needed to hear the message.....
Great video Kate....you know it really strikes right at the heart where I seem to be struggling ( and why I've resorted to coming to psychics since my track record with men seems so dismal in the last 15 years).
The video talks about the crucial need for women to have, and live, their personal value through "standards". And filter the men they bring into their lives according to those standards.
In other words, the way many women USED to do (instead of the endless compromising of our standards--to get and keep a man, and ultimately we end up on the losing side).
Let's face it, we either telegraph our value through our actions, our words and our expectations that we VALUE ourselves as worthy unique humans-- or we give ourselves away like some discounted bargain merchandise. Its not hard to see where that usually leads.
I know I DO have standards...and I try hard to communicate and maintain them...but nowadays, men can behave any way they want to--they are not held accountable--frankly, women really trashed our advantage when the culture encouraged us to start 'acting like men" and thinking it was *modern*, hip and open minded to become intimate physically before we are truly intimate emotionally/spiritually (translated that as 'bonded") with a man.
Uh no.
All that has done is thrown open the door to the UNCONDITIONAL candystore for MEN--and too often the candy is free, no strings attached!
Bottom line: Men and women are fundamentally not wired the same way!
We are a complementary system, not a mirror-identical system. Those differences are what has powered our species survival for millions of years.
All this fashionable gender blending as if the sexes aren't that different is BALONEY and has really screwed things up.
Instead of flattening out the differences, we need to be in awe of them as precious halves of a miraculously designed system. What needs to occur is a valuing of those differences . Different but EQUALLY valuable. It starts with each of us. We women have been our own worse enemies.
Women need to insist their God-given preciousness is revered and respected...stop drinking the very self-damaging pop culture kool-aid that you should give yourself away so easily--outside your personal standards (you know you're not listening to those standards truthfully when your 'gut' keeps sending you that little uneasiness--it's fighting what that super cute (horny) dude is telling you, maybe even nagging to drop those standards, because he **LOVES** you).
Or maybe Mr Wonderful will disappear if you don't put out by date 1, 2 or 3.
Umm, newsflash, that's plain shitty and a form of emotional blackmail, way too common today.
Unfortunately it has been adopted by too many women, when in truth if we would not accept such 'disposable commodity' treatment and DO IT IN LEAGUE, men would begin to value us, as something precious they have to EARN.
Apologies for the lecture ladies...sometimes I just get going...lol.