The Psychic Reviews
Metaphysical, Spiritual and Psychic Discussions => Keen.com => Topic started by: Sassy843 on March 30, 2018, 12:05:54 PM
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I've been single for a couple of years just trying to figure out what I really want out of life and what I want and expect out of commited relationship. I've opened myself to be "relationship" ready, but most of the guys that I've attempted to build with were either complete a**holes, afraid to commit or just someone that I had no connection with. I was wondering if anyone had a recommendation for a keen advisor that gives relationship advice when there is no person of interest? :-\
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You really want some advice? DON'T go to advisors. You will only become hooked and keep calling one after another. They don't do any more than any other person does about dating. Go out and meet new people, get to know them, and that's how you'll learn what you really want. An advisor can't tell you what you want, and you shouldn't give them that kind of power over your life.
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You really want some advice? DON'T go to advisors. You will only become hooked and keep calling one after another. They don't do any more than any other person does about dating. Go out and meet new people, get to know them, and that's how you'll learn what you really want. An advisor can't tell you what you want, and you shouldn't give them that kind of power over your life.
Completely agree.
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I totally get what you're saying as far as going out and meeting new people because that's what I've been doing however, when the new people that you're meeting all seem to be "dead end" situations that's where the insight or advice of a psychic comes in to play for me. Not to tell me what I want because I know what I want, but to advise if that course I'm currently on is going to lead to the relationship that I want. To me getting the advice of a psychic is the same as using GPS. You know how to get from point a to point b without the GPS, but sometimes you need a little help to navigate you in the right direction because sometimes you run into road blocks, dead ends and detours
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Well, being that they are usually wrong, at least most of the time, especially with outcomes, I wouldn't rely on psychics to tell you which relationships are worthwhile and the like, go with your own gut and what the other person is showing you.
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@sassy,
I'm not sure if this is exactly what you are asking, but I personally believe there are advisors out there who can really help you pinpoint your issues and heal your OWN stuff so that you will attract -- and be attracted to -- better partners. In fact, better people and situations in general.
They may not exist on keen, or if they do, the nature of the pay-per-minute system makes it hard to get solid advice. Top this off with the fact that many will assume you want -- and try to feed you -- a dream scenario, and this can be highly addictive IMO.
I personally have gone through a couple of transitions in the way I get readings, and I believe there IS a healthy way. Before I found Keen or any other online platform I only read with people in person. I checked them out in advance, I had longer but less frequent readings (e.g. an hour every 6 months) and I asked about myself, not about another person. I did have good guidance and insight... and if I did my homework (and that's the key I think) then life around me would change.
As others have said on other board, you could also invest in therapy (not suggesting you need it, but if you are attracting losers and non-committal guys then there may be something to dig out) but I have found some intuitives that I met in person to be helpful at getting to the core of my issues, fears and obstacles so that I could do the work needed to release them. If you go down the psychic calling route and you really want your relationship scenario to shift, I say: find advisors with integrity, ask the right questions, be prepared to do the work.
AND, as others say -- get out there and experiment in "real" life.
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I would say Lady P because she will tell you straight up what you need to do to turn things around. Read through her site instead of Keen.
After my breakup last year was the first time I called a psychic. My aunt recommended this lady. She told me she saw someone new coming in to my life that would make me forget about my ex. (don't they all say that?) But she was actually right. Nailed his personality. But even she mixed things up. She did say he would work in security which was wrong. I actually dated someone who did and thought, wow this could be THE GUY. When he wasn't I was disappointed. So even if they pick up someone new coming into your life, they could things all jumbled up.
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A lot of good solid information from both Still tired and doubleoh8. There are a lot of variables to readers being more wrong than right, especially relying too heavily on a reader and what they say. Go into with either low expectations or for entertainment purposes only. Working on yourself in general is key, as opposed to trying to work on some guy - all that stuff should transpire naturally, not by what some reader says. They have only a snapshot and are never clear on the bigger picture.
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Thanks y'all...all of you have got me right together this morning and I appreciate it.
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What you are wanting cant easily be obtained by working with psychics. I mean, there is a chance, but it is highly unlikely. You are better off
just being patient with yourself about your dating journey while still having strong boundaries about what you wont fall for. In reality, 90 percent
of guys are NOT going to be your match anyway---so why get discouraged when like reflects that? Just wait it out until a worthy candidate comes
along. Its not always a case of something being "wrong" with you if you are not attracting the right guy.
After many years of using readers, I've come to the conclusion that you can't use them and expect them to be reliable and consistent in the ways
most clients want. Have low expectations about what they can do, use their insights as brain candy, and have fun if you choose to spend money on them.
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What you are wanting cant easily be obtained by working with psychics. I mean, there is a chance, but it is highly unlikely. You are better off
just being patient with yourself about your dating journey while still having strong boundaries about what you wont fall for. In reality, 90 percent
of guys are NOT going to be your match anyway---so why get discouraged when like reflects that? Just wait it out until a worthy candidate comes
along. Its not always a case of something being "wrong" with you if you are not attracting the right guy.
After many years of using readers, I've come to the conclusion that you can't use them and expect them to be reliable and consistent in the ways
most clients want. Have low expectations about what they can do, use their insights as brain candy, and have fun if you choose to spend money on them.
Yes and remember that mantra...you have to kiss 1000 frogs before you get one prince? It's like that for some. I still believe in love at first sight for others, just not for me. Basically just find what works for you.
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I totally get what you're saying as far as going out and meeting new people because that's what I've been doing however, when the new people that you're meeting all seem to be "dead end" situations that's where the insight or advice of a psychic comes in to play for me. Not to tell me what I want because I know what I want, but to advise if that course I'm currently on is going to lead to the relationship that I want. To me getting the advice of a psychic is the same as using GPS. You know how to get from point a to point b without the GPS, but sometimes you need a little help to navigate you in the right direction because sometimes you run into road blocks, dead ends and detours
EHarmony is the way to go.
I got a ex MLB player, lawyers, teachers, actors, all quality men. I'm in the NYC metro area and my specs were pretty high, but they delivered.
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I never thought about E-harmony. I might have to give them a shot
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Eharmony is pretty good, especially their character assessment of yourself, although that isn't what it's called. It takes a minute, but fill it out thoroughly so your matches are enjoyable. That was the best part of it for me at the end of the day.
Oh, be sure and google the net for coupon codes. Many of them still work, just try as many as you come across.
I had some great deals.
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I totally get what you're saying as far as going out and meeting new people because that's what I've been doing however, when the new people that you're meeting all seem to be "dead end" situations that's where the insight or advice of a psychic comes in to play for me. Not to tell me what I want because I know what I want, but to advise if that course I'm currently on is going to lead to the relationship that I want. To me getting the advice of a psychic is the same as using GPS. You know how to get from point a to point b without the GPS, but sometimes you need a little help to navigate you in the right direction because sometimes you run into road blocks, dead ends and detours
The thing is, getting advice from a psychic is not like using a GPS because they don't know anymore than any other person you see on the street. I read with dozens of these idiots and spent a few grand on them, and nothing they ever said happened, ever. If you want advice on dating, you're better off spending your money on a relationship counselor or something. Psychics are at home sitting on their asses collecting your money by the minute, and they sit there and tell you what you want to hear.
No one ever said dating is easy. I have struggled with the same situation, one disappointing date after another, until I finally meet someone that I connect with. A psychic is not going to make that happen any faster than it is.
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I never thought about E-harmony. I might have to give them a shot
Seriously, try it. You get up to 3 matches a day. Don't skip the process. It's in steps to get to know the person before you exchange contact info. Unless it was an absolute Oh My God No Way with one word answers and a no effort profile, I gave each guy a real shot because we were matched on compatibility. There was one guy I wasn't particularly attracted to at first, but his answers were so smart and funny I couldn't wait to meet him. There was one question I sent him, something like how do you feel about crow's feet on a woman and his answer to me was "Are they on your face or at the end of your legs?" and how the first was fine but the second might take some getting used to but he'd be willing to give it a shot. He phrased it a lot funnier than I just did. He was a lot of fun to date.
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I met my current POI on Eharmony. I got a great coupon deal, $80 for 6 months.
Recently I got back on there and I actually haven't liked any of my matches. Not to sound superficial, but most of them are well below average in appearance and have little to nothing written on their profile. I was surprised because first I thought so highly of Eharmony since I thought the first time I was on there that a lot of my matches were great, and the POI was the second person I met from the website within a week of being on there and I was instantly hooked on him.
I'm trying Match now again instead. Not sure what to say about Eharmony at this point because first I thought it was amazing and now it's like bleh.
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I met my current POI on Eharmony. I got a great coupon deal, $80 for 6 months.
Recently I got back on there and I actually haven't liked any of my matches. Not to sound superficial, but most of them are well below average in appearance and have little to nothing written on their profile. I was surprised because first I thought so highly of Eharmony since I thought the first time I was on there that a lot of my matches were great, and the POI was the second person I met from the website within a week of being on there and I was instantly hooked on him.
I'm trying Match now again instead. Not sure what to say about Eharmony at this point because first I thought it was amazing and now it's like bleh.
If you call E-Harmony and talk to them, they will help you with that. Sometimes fiddling with your settings for a couple of weeks will get you different men. Or they may ask you to retake the test. They want you to succeed and will help you out.
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I met my current POI on Eharmony. I got a great coupon deal, $80 for 6 months.
Recently I got back on there and I actually haven't liked any of my matches. Not to sound superficial, but most of them are well below average in appearance and have little to nothing written on their profile. I was surprised because first I thought so highly of Eharmony since I thought the first time I was on there that a lot of my matches were great, and the POI was the second person I met from the website within a week of being on there and I was instantly hooked on him.
I'm trying Match now again instead. Not sure what to say about Eharmony at this point because first I thought it was amazing and now it's like bleh.
If you call E-Harmony and talk to them, they will help you with that. Sometimes fiddling with your settings for a couple of weeks will get you different men. Or they may ask you to retake the test. They want you to succeed and will help you out.
The only settings I put high importance on were no kids, within 30 miles, and no large age difference.
I did call them and the only thing they said was that these aren’t the only match’s you’ll get. So yeah, I guess there’s kind of a downside to the few matches per day thing
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I met my current POI on Eharmony. I got a great coupon deal, $80 for 6 months.
Recently I got back on there and I actually haven't liked any of my matches. Not to sound superficial, but most of them are well below average in appearance and have little to nothing written on their profile. I was surprised because first I thought so highly of Eharmony since I thought the first time I was on there that a lot of my matches were great, and the POI was the second person I met from the website within a week of being on there and I was instantly hooked on him.
I'm trying Match now again instead. Not sure what to say about Eharmony at this point because first I thought it was amazing and now it's like bleh.
If you call E-Harmony and talk to them, they will help you with that. Sometimes fiddling with your settings for a couple of weeks will get you different men. Or they may ask you to retake the test. They want you to succeed and will help you out.
The only settings I put high importance on were no kids, within 30 miles, and no large age difference.
I did call them and the only thing they said was that these aren’t the only match’s you’ll get. So yeah, I guess there’s kind of a downside to the few matches per day thing
When I took the test I actually did place somewhat of a high importance on physical attraction and yeah surprisingly I’m getting matched up with obese men and one guy had a disfigured face and was 4 ft tall..
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I'm trying Match now again instead. Not sure what to say about Eharmony at this point because first I thought it was amazing and now it's like bleh.
I used match a few years ago and it was an utter nightmare. Since you don't have to pay, most of the men on there aren't interested in a relationship, in my personal experience. Anyone can make a profile, *say* they're looking for love so they get more women interested, then get a one night stand out of them or two, and move past it. If they're relatively attractive, it's easy for them. If they're not as attractive, I suppose they might try eharmony or one of the ones you pay for and do the same thing but it's probably a lot less common. They claim people get together on match but I've literally never known anyone who met on match and had a relationship longer than a month or two. I also found that a lot of the guys had baggage or weren't over their ex. It's again, easier to "try out" dating again if you don't have to pay for it. They typically wait until they know they want to date before paying money for it. So I found it worse than eharmony because there was still no one I really felt good about.. I just had to waste 6 months and 20 dates to figure it out first. Not to mention probably 20 calls to psychics as well lol. But since it's free, it won't hurt to try it out. Maybe that was just my experience. I might just have that kind of face that attracts that lol. I met someone a couple years ago just in regular life so thankfully, I don't have to deal with that stuff but good luck to everyone who is. Finding someone in regular life isn't always possible.
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I'm trying Match now again instead. Not sure what to say about Eharmony at this point because first I thought it was amazing and now it's like bleh.
I used match a few years ago and it was an utter nightmare. Since you don't have to pay, most of the men on there aren't interested in a relationship, in my personal experience. Anyone can make a profile, *say* they're looking for love so they get more women interested, then get a one night stand out of them or two, and move past it. If they're relatively attractive, it's easy for them. If they're not as attractive, I suppose they might try eharmony or one of the ones you pay for and do the same thing but it's probably a lot less common. They claim people get together on match but I've literally never known anyone who met on match and had a relationship longer than a month or two. I also found that a lot of the guys had baggage or weren't over their ex. It's again, easier to "try out" dating again if you don't have to pay for it. They typically wait until they know they want to date before paying money for it. So I found it worse than eharmony because there was still no one I really felt good about.. I just had to waste 6 months and 20 dates to figure it out first. Not to mention probably 20 calls to psychics as well lol. But since it's free, it won't hurt to try it out. Maybe that was just my experience. I might just have that kind of face that attracts that lol. I met someone a couple years ago just in regular life so thankfully, I don't have to deal with that stuff but good luck to everyone who is. Finding someone in regular life isn't always possible.
My half sister actually met her now husband on match.com. They've been married for over 5 years and have 2 children, and they're very happy together.
I've been on there before so I know there's a lot of junk, so obviously it will take time to weed through it and actually a someone I click with who is of quality. I've gotten plenty of hook up emails as well as emails from people who live in different states which drives me insane. I know it took my half sister at least several months to meet her husband on there. Eharmony probably draws less attractive people because they're looking for someone who will be accepting of them as a person despite the fact that they are unappealing. Again, not to sound superficial, I don't expect to meet a male model, but I can't date someone if there is 0 physical attraction, which is what most of my Eharmony matches have been like this time around.
I think meeting someone in real life is just a lot harder because unless you go to a bar or night club that is obviously also going to attract a lot of one night seekers, you basically have to meet them by accident and you also don't know anything about them. At least online you can get an idea of what the person is like before you meet them, and weed out deal breakers like single parents and smokers. (those are at least deal breakers for me)
I know it's free to look, but I'm pretty sure you can't email people unless you pay.
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There is also POF, plenty of fish. The same applies to this site too since it's free. There is also Christian Singles (I haven't been on that one) and some Jewish Dating site, but all are meat markets where you really have to be discerning.
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My half sister actually met her now husband on match.com. They've been married for over 5 years and have 2 children, and they're very happy together.
I've been on there before so I know there's a lot of junk, so obviously it will take time to weed through it and actually a someone I click with who is of quality. I've gotten plenty of hook up emails as well as emails from people who live in different states which drives me insane. I know it took my half sister at least several months to meet her husband on there. Eharmony probably draws less attractive people because they're looking for someone who will be accepting of them as a person despite the fact that they are unappealing. Again, not to sound superficial, I don't expect to meet a male model, but I can't date someone if there is 0 physical attraction, which is what most of my Eharmony matches have been like this time around.
I think meeting someone in real life is just a lot harder because unless you go to a bar or night club that is obviously also going to attract a lot of one night seekers, you basically have to meet them by accident and you also don't know anything about them. At least online you can get an idea of what the person is like before you meet them, and weed out deal breakers like single parents and smokers. (those are at least deal breakers for me)
I know it's free to look, but I'm pretty sure you can't email people unless you pay.
Yeah, I probably just didn't give it enough time. I spent about 6 months on it but I just didn't have the time to be going on a date then going back to the drawing board. And I forgot that I did have to pay but it was much less than eharmony. Which I think is why I remembered it that way. But yeah, meeting someone in real life is harder, I agree. It's more of a luck thing when it does happen. I met my guy through a work project and I work with 95% males so that's the only way I was able to meet someone and actually connect with him. That's completely not the norm though. And I work with different people every few months or so. For most people, they work with the same people all the time so if they don't find anyone at work, that's what it's going to be.
But more on topic, I obviously second (or third?) everyone who said to not call psychics about this. I won't tell you to not call psychics when you're in a real relationship because I currently do that. But what I can say is that psychics will screw you up terribly at the place that you are now. You'll meet a new guy every week and have a heartbreak every week. Dating sites are a fast game until you find one that fits. But if you call a psychic about each one, a percentage of them will tell you that he's the one you'll marry. Or at the very least that there's potential. So a week later when he stops talking to you, now you'll call the psychics and ask why. But if you hadn't gotten that little nugget of a seed planted in your head that it would work out or that he liked you, you wouldn't give a damn about him because you'd be onto the next one also. And I'm not saying that to be condescending.. I'm saying that because that happened to me literally every time. And it happens to a lot of the people on this board, also. There's something about calling them that causes people to be more into their POI than they would've been otherwise and that just really messes with things. You'll spend too much time on one guy and have a much harder time finding the right one. So that's just my advice. You'll find out soon enough on your own whether they'll work out or not. Like I said, dating sites are a fast game. But I wish you well on this endeavor :)
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Eharmony is a lot more expensive than match unless you get a good deal like I did. I'm on both websites right now since I bought an eharmony subscription for $80 for 6 months and then a match subscription for 3 months.
So we'll see what happens. I actually never call about people that I just started seeing. I only call when something bad happens or looks like is going to happen. I've only called about 3 men total in the past year 1/2 and one of them was actually an ex to begin with. So yeah, as long as everything is going well, then I don't waste my money on psychics. I met my current POI on Eharmony back in fall of 2017 and he basically dumped me saying that it had nothing to do with me, but that it was a very stressful time in his life and that he needed a break from dating altogether. We're still in touch and I know he does still think about me, but nothing has happened yet as far as dating each other again...
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Match.com is not free. It's free to have a profile but you can't communicate with anybody unless you subscribe. (unless you/they have found a way to sneak in your/their email address).
EHarmony: I tried it many years ago and definitely not for me. I want to make my own choice whom to contact. That they match me seems like patriarchal arranged marriage. :)
OK Cupid: free or paid membership. They recently changed the way you communicate with people, so no longer so easy to exchange messages (with the free option); however, it remains my favorite site, mostly because the questions that you can answer, in addition to what people write in their profile, give a quite good idea of who they are. I've met a lot interesting people through OKC. Many here openly say they're just looking for flings/sex, so you know. I've made friends here too. It has a lot of more variety than Match.
Plenty of Fish: free, tried it years ago, didn't like it.
I'm trying Match now again instead. Not sure what to say about Eharmony at this point because first I thought it was amazing and now it's like bleh.
I used match a few years ago and it was an utter nightmare. Since you don't have to pay, most of the men on there aren't interested in a relationship, in my personal experience. Anyone can make a profile, *say* they're looking for love so they get more women interested, then get a one night stand out of them or two, and move past it. If they're relatively attractive, it's easy for them. If they're not as attractive, I suppose they might try eharmony or one of the ones you pay for and do the same thing but it's probably a lot less common. They claim people get together on match but I've literally never known anyone who met on match and had a relationship longer than a month or two. I also found that a lot of the guys had baggage or weren't over their ex. It's again, easier to "try out" dating again if you don't have to pay for it. They typically wait until they know they want to date before paying money for it. So I found it worse than eharmony because there was still no one I really felt good about.. I just had to waste 6 months and 20 dates to figure it out first. Not to mention probably 20 calls to psychics as well lol. But since it's free, it won't hurt to try it out. Maybe that was just my experience. I might just have that kind of face that attracts that lol. I met someone a couple years ago just in regular life so thankfully, I don't have to deal with that stuff but good luck to everyone who is. Finding someone in regular life isn't always possible.
I used OKC for a long time but haven't been on there in almost 2 years. The biggest problem that I found with it was the fact that it was free, so 90% of messages were spam from people in other states and countries. I met a few decent people on there though. Never tried POF but haven't heard many good things about it.
I agree with Eharmony being too limited. I've only been on for probably 3 weeks again now but almost everyday I haven't liked any of the matches I get for that day so yeah its a bit frustrating. I think it's kind of the opposite problem with match though, the fact there are too many options probably makes people more indecisive.
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The biggest problem with eharmony is that it won't let you go outside of your personality protocols. Whatever comes up as your matches, that's all you get. If nothing comes up, you have to broaden your categories. Like if you hate smokers, you might have to include them to get any hits. You can't even search and just start a relationship based on something appealing in another person's profile which might peg your interest, outside of your criteria. This is the reason why that show (Married at First Sight), doesn't have a lot of successful relationships. It's based primarily on the person's standards on paper and what they value. The Dr's on that show continue to push the person into staying in the relationship even when they find out later, they really just don't like them. There has got to be more to it other than a person checking off all your boxes accurately.
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Yeah compatibility is better to be determined in person than through a checklist. There have been times when I wasn't that crazy about a profile that I saw online but I really liked them in person and then vice versa. You really just don't know until you meet them.
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The biggest problem with eharmony is that it won't let you go outside of your personality protocols. Whatever comes up as your matches, that's all you get. If nothing comes up, you have to broaden your categories. Like if you hate smokers, you might have to include them to get any hits. You can't even search and just start a relationship based on something appealing in another person's profile which might peg your interest, outside of your criteria. This is the reason why that show (Married at First Sight), doesn't have a lot of successful relationships. It's based primarily on the person's standards on paper and what they value. The Dr's on that show continue to push the person into staying in the relationship even when they find out later, they really just don't like them. There has got to be more to it other than a person checking off all your boxes accurately.
Then why do they have marriage after marriage? Something like 4% of all marriages in the states are from EHarmony couples. I had joined after repeatedly meeting or hearing about people who met on EHarmony and were now engaged or married. My friends son, people at parties, colleagues, etc. One year of serious EHarmony gets serious results.
I think that a lot of people who take the test aren't really honest about themselves or maybe they aren't actually ready for marriage. One of the test points actually is relationship skills. I also put a lot of thought into what I was going to say on my brief profile. You don't list everything about yourself. Their phone support was terrific. When I first started off, I wasn't getting the results I was looking for so I called and asked for their opinion and CS told me very nicely that I should switch out some of my profile photos. I work out a lot (I don't look like the Incredible Hulk or anything) but I did need to not be so physical. I changed my photos to softer ones and my responses increased immediately. I was open to constructive criticism.
Retake the test and take it like it really matters instead of just "checking the boxes" and call CS for some constructive criticism on your profile. They want their customers to get the most out of their service.
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I tried just for kicks (match.com) a while back, and the men they were sending me suggestions for were NOT my type at all, I mean nothing.
But I'm a little old fashioned, i like to meet people in person and connect that way. Not so easy to do though.
There's also a lot of married skeezeballs on those dating sites looking for flings and the like.
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I tried just for kicks (match.com) a while back, and the men they were sending me suggestions for were NOT my type at all, I mean nothing.
But I'm a little old fashioned, i like to meet people in person and connect that way. Not so easy to do though.
There's also a lot of married skeezeballs on those dating sites looking for flings and the like.
Part of the reason I also like meeting people online is because I can read their profile and know things about them before we meet. You meet someone in person and you don't know anything about them. People can lie both online and in person. If I meet them online and I see that they are separated, have kids, and smoke then I can just filter them out and not have anything to do with them.
I mean unless you work with the person or like some people I know, frequent bars every weekend, yeah meeting someone you click with in person actually would take a lot longer than online.
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In my experience with match, most people don't respond or even read your messages. I figure it's because there are too many options. Not trying to boast, but I am well above average in appearance and I have a very nicely written profile and hardly anyone is responding to me and many of them won't even read my message.
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I tried just for kicks (match.com) a while back, and the men they were sending me suggestions for were NOT my type at all, I mean nothing.
But I'm a little old fashioned, i like to meet people in person and connect that way. Not so easy to do though.
There's also a lot of married skeezeballs on those dating sites looking for flings and the like.
Part of the reason I also like meeting people online is because I can read their profile and know things about them before we meet. You meet someone in person and you don't know anything about them. People can lie both online and in person. If I meet them online and I see that they are separated, have kids, and smoke then I can just filter them out and not have anything to do with them.
I mean unless you work with the person or like some people I know, frequent bars every weekend, yeah meeting someone you click with in person actually would take a lot longer than online.
I agree, I can see the appeal of online dating for a lot of people.
I just personally don't care for it....I know someone who got burned badly by an online creep...it was one of those free dating sites and she hung out and started developing feelings for this guy, turns out he was married and sleeping with tons of other women. She was heartbroken...and of course, his profile didn't state any of this.
I wonder if the difference is the paid vs. non-paid sites. I forget which one she used..it was years ago.
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I tried just for kicks (match.com) a while back, and the men they were sending me suggestions for were NOT my type at all, I mean nothing.
But I'm a little old fashioned, i like to meet people in person and connect that way. Not so easy to do though.
There's also a lot of married skeezeballs on those dating sites looking for flings and the like.
Part of the reason I also like meeting people online is because I can read their profile and know things about them before we meet. You meet someone in person and you don't know anything about them. People can lie both online and in person. If I meet them online and I see that they are separated, have kids, and smoke then I can just filter them out and not have anything to do with them.
I mean unless you work with the person or like some people I know, frequent bars every weekend, yeah meeting someone you click with in person actually would take a lot longer than online.
I agree, I can see the appeal of online dating for a lot of people.
I just personally don't care for it....I know someone who got burned badly by an online creep...it was one of those free dating sites and she hung out and started developing feelings for this guy, turns out he was married and sleeping with tons of other women. She was heartbroken...and of course, his profile didn't state any of this.
I wonder if the difference is the paid vs. non-paid sites. I forget which one she used..it was years ago.
I used to use free dating sites and I've sworn off of them. It definitely makes a difference in the quality of people and what their intentions are. 90% of messages said something like "you wanna bone?" or "hey sexy bitch"
That's terrible that that happened to your friend. It's not an uncommon scenario though. I suppose she still could've met him in person though initially he still could've hid it from her. Anytime you meet anyone and start dating them, you're taking a chance that there will be a disaster in one way or another.
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I tried just for kicks (match.com) a while back, and the men they were sending me suggestions for were NOT my type at all, I mean nothing.
But I'm a little old fashioned, i like to meet people in person and connect that way. Not so easy to do though.
There's also a lot of married skeezeballs on those dating sites looking for flings and the like.
Part of the reason I also like meeting people online is because I can read their profile and know things about them before we meet. You meet someone in person and you don't know anything about them. People can lie both online and in person. If I meet them online and I see that they are separated, have kids, and smoke then I can just filter them out and not have anything to do with them.
I mean unless you work with the person or like some people I know, frequent bars every weekend, yeah meeting someone you click with in person actually would take a lot longer than online.
I agree, I can see the appeal of online dating for a lot of people.
I just personally don't care for it....I know someone who got burned badly by an online creep...it was one of those free dating sites and she hung out and started developing feelings for this guy, turns out he was married and sleeping with tons of other women. She was heartbroken...and of course, his profile didn't state any of this.
I wonder if the difference is the paid vs. non-paid sites. I forget which one she used..it was years ago.
I used to use free dating sites and I've sworn off of them. It definitely makes a difference in the quality of people and what their intentions are. 90% of messages said something like "you wanna bone?" or "hey sexy bitch"
That's terrible that that happened to your friend. It's not an uncommon scenario though. I suppose she still could've met him in person though initially he still could've hid it from her. Anytime you meet anyone and start dating them, you're taking a chance that there will be a disaster in one way or another.
Absolutely, risky either way! lol.
I remember she was super upset for a while about that, but then ended up meeting someone nice on the same site...it didn't last (the relationship) but he was a nice guy and I gave her props for even trying again! LOL
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There are married skeezeballs looking for flings whether in person or on a site.
I know many people like to distinguish between online or in person, but it's basically the same. I've known people who've gotten burned whether online or not. Lying to your face or via a profile ends up with the same results, dosn't it? The guy never said anything either way, so it's a coin toss either way. You just have to date a lot and enjoy it and be ready to get back out there after the first few fails. It became tiring for me and I was no longer having fun. I know some who still enjoy it and I always give them props for sticking with it.
It basically depends on the person and their intentions and what they want. Some want a fling, some a relationship. It doesn't really matter where you meet them.
I've known way more people to get stung from meeting someone at church, the wholier than thou place. Yeah sure.
I had a guy friend to meet an online person and when he met her, she was eight months pregnant. Never once mentioned this obvious issue on her profile. I laughed so hard. I couldn't understand why she was wanting to date so badly...why not wait until after the baby was born?
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There are married skeezeballs looking for flings whether in person or on a site.
I know many people like to distinguish between online or in person, but it's basically the same. I've known people who've gotten burned whether online or not. Lying to your face or via a profile ends up with the same results, dosn't it? The guy never said anything either way, so it's a coin toss either way. You just have to date a lot and enjoy it and be ready to get back out there after the first few fails. It became tiring for me and I was no longer having fun. I know some who still enjoy it and I always give them props for sticking with it.
It basically depends on the person and their intentions and what they want. Some want a fling, some a relationship. It doesn't really matter where you meet them.
I've known way more people to get stung from meeting someone at church, the wholier than thou place. Yeah sure.
I had a guy friend to meet an online person and when he met her, she was eight months pregnant. Never once mentioned this obvious issue on her profile. I laughed so hard. I couldn't understand why she was wanting to date so badly...why not wait until after the baby was born?
LMAO maybe she was looking for a person to take care of the kid...who knows?
A guy friend of mine told me once he met up with a girl (I don't think it was a dating site) that he met online and she ended up being about 100 lbs heavier than the pic she sent him...he was a gentlemen and spent the day with her but he said after that, when she asked him why they couldn't hang out again, he was honest and said "I really wish you sent me a recent pic, not one of you ten yrs ago" lol.
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There are married skeezeballs looking for flings whether in person or on a site.
I know many people like to distinguish between online or in person, but it's basically the same. I've known people who've gotten burned whether online or not. Lying to your face or via a profile ends up with the same results, dosn't it? The guy never said anything either way, so it's a coin toss either way. You just have to date a lot and enjoy it and be ready to get back out there after the first few fails. It became tiring for me and I was no longer having fun. I know some who still enjoy it and I always give them props for sticking with it.
It basically depends on the person and their intentions and what they want. Some want a fling, some a relationship. It doesn't really matter where you meet them.
I've known way more people to get stung from meeting someone at church, the wholier than thou place. Yeah sure.
I had a guy friend to meet an online person and when he met her, she was eight months pregnant. Never once mentioned this obvious issue on her profile. I laughed so hard. I couldn't understand why she was wanting to date so badly...why not wait until after the baby was born?
Exactly. Online dating has so many stereotypes but when it comes down to it, people are all the same regardless of where you meet them. Just like with your comment about people you know getting burned by people they met at church. Anyone can go to church, and often times it's people with issues seeking spiritual help.
That's insane, and it's also ridiculous because I don't know how she thought anyone would keep seeing her once they found out..not only is she about to be a single mother, but that is a huge lie to get caught in. I definitely wouldn't envy her. It does sound like desperation on her end though.
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Yeah women being heavier has been an issue. I've heard men say this, but women do have it harder. And men lie too. A man's main lie is how tall he is. A women's main lie is how old she is.
You get a few extras in there as well, either heavier (men or women) and using younger pictures: both men and women.
It's such an effing double standard tbh. Men often times are looking for younger, model type women and even if the woman doesn't look her age, she is considered old although she may be the same age as the guy. Men, I swear. OMG, some of the frogs on those sites. I can't even tell you.
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I’ve heard a lot of guys say they’ve met women from the internet who are way heavier than their pics or didn’t even look like the same person in the pics. I’ve actually met two people who lied and being smokers so that one is probably pretty common too.
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I’ve heard a lot of guys say they’ve met women from the internet who are way heavier than their pics or didn’t even look like the same person in the pics. I’ve actually met two people who lied and being smokers so that one is probably pretty common too.
You get more savvy about that by looking for a variety of shots and no filters.
I had a jumping shot (after running) pic, a Holiday family pic, a NYE evening gown pic, a workout pic, a horsing around with a child of a friend pic, an everyday pic, eating out with friends pic, outdoor pic, etc. Unobstructed full body shots from different angles, a good face close-up and at least one natural light/ natural face is essential.
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There is also POF, plenty of fish. The same applies to this site too since it's free. There is also Christian Singles (I haven't been on that one) and some Jewish Dating site, but all are meat markets where you really have to be discerning.
I was single for many many years and would attract low quality men and with issues. In the end I found out I was suffering from low self esteem and that’s I would “go” for the 2nd or even third best ... but as soon as I began to have more self worth I thought and believe I deserved best and I attracted what was indeed best for me. Indeed met my husband almost 4 years back at POF 😀❤️ You don’t really have to pay for dating :) we have a baby now 👶 .
But to answer the question of the person who started this thread. I would recommend a few psychics I trust:
1. Kisha is good. She is reliable and trust worthy.
2. Lisa Diane can be a hit or miss but she was extremely accurate in a few aspects.
3. Ok this third one is special. Her name is ambers light. She is on kasamba. Honestly speaking she is a FAIRYTALE READER and would/could steer you wrong but she did have one amazing quality that I tested for years. She would “feel” and “see” if you would meet a POI and how would he or she look like. She also correctly predicted “physical attributes of my husband” years ago. Try her if you like but I only recommend her for afore mentioned attributes otherwise waste of money.
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There is also POF, plenty of fish. The same applies to this site too since it's free. There is also Christian Singles (I haven't been on that one) and some Jewish Dating site, but all are meat markets where you really have to be discerning.
I was single for many many years and would attract low quality men and with issues. In the end I found out I was suffering from low self esteem and that’s I would “go” for the 2nd or even third best ... but as soon as I began to have more self worth I thought and believe I deserved best and I attracted what was indeed best for me. Indeed met my husband almost 4 years back at POF 😀❤️ You don’t really have to pay for dating :) we have a baby now 👶 .
But to answer the question of the person who started this thread. I would recommend a few psychics I trust:
1. Kisha is good. She is reliable and trust worthy.
2. Lisa Diane can be a hit or miss but she was extremely accurate in a few aspects.
3. Ok this third one is special. Her name is ambers light. She is on kasamba. Honestly speaking she is a FAIRYTALE READER and would/could steer you wrong but she did have one amazing quality that I tested for years. She would “feel” and “see” if you would meet a POI and how would he or she look like. She also correctly predicted “physical attributes of my husband” years ago. Try her if you like but I only recommend her for afore mentioned attributes otherwise waste of money.
Kisha and Lisa Diane both sold me a fairy tale that was 100% wrong so I can't say that I agree with you unfortunately.
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Lisa Dianne is only good as an empath, but she can pick up some uncanny things.