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Dilemma
Furah2fun:
I have been in this same dilemma with my ex several times. I wll say nothing good for me has come out of reaching out. Before this most recent breakup (or disappearance really), i sent a text and got a lackluster response the next day. I was pretty upset, so I never responded. Then i wrote back several days later and he never responded. (By the way, all the psychics told me he would respond and he didn't...and i used both empaths and claivoyants.)
If you can handle getting a lackluster or no response, then go ahead. But if not, don't do it. It will make you feel worse. I for one hate waiting, and in the past always reached out, but then ended up feeling worse about the situation. I guess, it also matters what the pattern in the relationship has been. If you really feel like reaching out, I would wait a bit longer and see if the feeling passed. During a break last year, I reached out. We still got back together, but my reaching out did nothing to expedite the process.
If your ultimate goal is to get back together, then I would wait, especially if there is a third party involved. If you want to move on, and you contact him, and he responds unfavorably it may help you move on as well.
Good luck, whatever you decide!!!
elcaliente:
So far there's been no contact in the 2.5 months. I haven't contacted him and he's not contacted me, but in the readings it indicates that he has interest and yet is apprehensive. There's good reason for his apprehension. He left aburptly, leaving the relatoinship and a professional arrangement at the same time. He knows it was wrong - he admitted it at the time.
My rationale to send a "holiday wish" for the weekend was just to show that there are no hard feelings to prevent him from reaching out. I am not sure I am expecting a response.... I guess one would be nice, but I was thinking of it as a gesture that I simply taking the high road in this situation, and leaving him to contemplate what he wishes to do.
--- Quote from: truelove on September 01, 2012, 03:26:48 AM ---I have been in this same dilemma with my ex several times. I wll say nothing good for me has come out of reaching out. Before this most recent breakup (or disappearance really), i sent a text and got a lackluster response the next day. I was pretty upset, so I never responded. Then i wrote back several days later and he never responded. (By the way, all the psychics told me he would respond and he didn't...and i used both empaths and claivoyants.)
If you can handle getting a lackluster or no response, then go ahead. But if not, don't do it. It will make you feel worse. I for one hate waiting, and in the past always reached out, but then ended up feeling worse about the situation. I guess, it also matters what the pattern in the relationship has been. If you really feel like reaching out, I would wait a bit longer and see if the feeling passed. During a break last year, I reached out. We still got back together, but my reaching out did nothing to expedite the process.
If your ultimate goal is to get back together, then I would wait, especially if there is a third party involved. If you want to move on, and you contact him, and he responds unfavorably it may help you move on as well.
Good luck, whatever you decide!!!
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Furah2fun:
So you are doing it to "keep the door open", so to speak? Just make sure you are strong enough, in case you get no response. or do it with no expectations.
elcaliente:
@truelove - Yes, that is the reason it was suggested - to open the door. No expectations for a reply. Just an attempt to take away a perceived obstacle.
--- Quote from: truelove on September 01, 2012, 04:42:39 AM ---So you are doing it to "keep the door open", so to speak? Just make sure you are strong enough, in case you get no response. or do it with no expectations.
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glinda:
Go with your gut. Seriously. I've been in that position several times and got a very rude awakening when the response I got was not what was "in the cards".
Especially if you're getting mixed messages from the readers.
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