First thing for me is, I hate when I get "advice" from a psychic. That totally puts me off, unless it's the cliche advice of focus on yourself and take care of yourself without inserting additional opinions as to what I should or shouldn't do in any situation. That isn't the point of getting a reading. If I wanted advice, I'd go to a counselor or coach or a friend. I'm calling to see what's coming up at a future time on my path and/or in whatever situation I'm inquiring about. I never listen to any advice given. I make my decisions based upon what's happening in the now and what's happened in the past. I look for historical patterns and act accordingly.
Men are humans too. They also need to feel loved and wanted. There are only certain scenarios to where one should not reach out, and not reaching out isn't for them, it's because it's the healthiest decision for YOU. Otherwise, it's just a game in an attempt to gain control over a person and/or situation. It's infantile.
In my opinion, the only time one should not reach out to another person, whether male or female is in the following scenarios.
1. If it's a new romantic interest: Each relationship/situationship should be mutual. In the beginning, sure the man should show some pursuit because it is true that humans only appreciate what they need to earn. That is a psychological fact. They don't value anything that comes far too easy and they have no respect for it either. It is also true that it's in a man's DNA to hunt and gather. That goes back to the dawn of man. However, we have to be careful with that. If the man has shown interest, put in the efforts, then the woman should equally reciprocate. However, the moment that man stops showing interest and stops putting in effort, then the woman should cease reaching out and never chase that man. Same thing with same sex unions. You have to have a level of self respect and self worth to know that you deserve someone that's going to reciprocate and put in that effort consistently. In a new situation, there's no future and no potential to build with someone that just stops all efforts. And if that person comes back around after weeks or months, chances are this will become a pattern of disappearing and resurfacing because that person blows hot and cold and most likely is an avoidant type of individual. One should cease communications and even interest in a person like that. The first time they do it should be the last. There's never an excuse for that type of behavior or treatment of another person.
2. In current relationship that's been established for some time: Only time no contact should occur is if the partner treated you poorly, then disappeared without apology etc. One should not reach out because that's enabling bad behavior and it will continue. That's making it too easy and creating a space for this behavior to repeat.
3. Break up scenario: If you were broken up with by another person, then hell no you should not reach out. Kick, scream, cry it out, and move forward, even if the psychics say they'll be back. Point is, they made that decision to end things, so they need to make that effort to fix things. If you broke up with said person for any reason and then change your mind later, then YOU need to reach out for reconciliation. Too often people play the break up game in an attempt to change the other person's behavior rather than doing it for themselves because they truly are ready to let go. I've broken up with my current several times due to certain behaviors and each time it's because I really felt fed up and ready to move on. While he's the one that returns each time after a day or two, longest was 10 days, I've still chosen to emotionally detach until such time a major behavior modification takes place and it's consistent. Only at that point will I consider emotionally investing again.
4. Lastly, when dealing with a narcissistic type of individual, a manipulative type of individual, a controlling type, no you shouldn't reach out to those types because that's part of the trauma bond and it will only keep it going. Those types rarely ever change. I don't like to say never, but it is rare. You shouldn't subject yourself to abuse of any kind and by reaching out, you're just asking for more abuse.
Every human on this planet, whether male or female, wants to feel loved. Part of showing that one cares is by mutual and reciprocal efforts in communication, actions, and behaviors. That's how we know someone cares and that's how the other person knows that YOU care. Enough with these silly recommended relationship games. Mature people don't have to play those. The cat and mouse game becomes tiresome and is truly draining.
