To an extent maggot husband stealing rainbow sl** has some points but not all of it per usual- and while she chooses to beat themselves up SO ITS ALL WRONG -instead of practicing compassionate mindfulness
It’s a hard to pill to swallow but stories we really like is a key feature in limerence and I admit they are kinda areas I fantasize about or make excuses. And yes sadly honest inquiry if I’m using psychics to feed that tale.
Like:
•Past lives “we had together” -can’t prove it but the story is very compelling (that this is some unresolved karma that we must suffer in this life)
•Cinderella stories- like the movie she’s all that: I’m this nerdy girl and he’s this popular jock; crazy rich Asian: I’m this poor smart girl and he’s this rich guy who stands up to his mom (I’m not saying they can’t happen but to an extent there is idealization “chick flick” film that has destitute beginning and a type of closure happy ending)
•Soul mates/twin flames- I’m sorry but you can’t prove this. And in my 20s most the psychic I did call where a hit to Hera that story of our past life
•Intense chemistry: so this one is tricky but gets easier to see with time and age. (At least my teenager self vs adult self.) These gimmicky get him back videos on YouTube like coach Lee- really helped me see that attraction does come with hormones. And they are a powerful cocktail combination of bonding. He even describes as a drug. But attraction fades and real connection is relationship byproduct- this is slow building. Most support relationship groups have tale sign of anything less than 3 months is a red flag.
So where does mindfulness compassion come in. It’s when we see our mistakes, shame, guilt and say “I see you.” You hold that pain and not it take personal. It is like talking to that child part of ourselves who is facing their parent saying their divorcing - but still having strength to love that part of ourselves anyways. Or any hard part from childhood or even recent wounds. To an extent psychic kinda try to fill that void; but it is a spiritual bypass- they seem to give us compassion with answers. Personally, I just got done with powerful inner child session with the myself and admitted how this relationship was suppose to be the why to that other relationship didn’t work out. And life is not like that. The hard lesson is facing not needing to be justified. That’s it. It isn’t personal. However, consoling my inner wound involves holding a strong boundary and love- and I think we all have a different way to approach ourselves. But how I say to myself buck up will look different for others.
Statements “if he wanted to he would” - is an answer for ppl who have cut themselves off. It not a black white and rule across every board. I remember in my friggin 30s the reason why a guy didn’t back to me was because his car got impounded for 3 months. I know how emotionally immature but things will still get a guy down: money, job, and car. He didn’t have the money he was depressed and he felt ashamed. And it wasn’t because a 3rd party.
The best thing you can do though is focus on you. Meaning don’t twist your focus on them if it loses your focus on your well being.
Also stay away from beautiful sunset IT is a hateful thing. She has told members here when family members passed away and ppl DV situation to bash their heads harder and that they deserved it. Even when the context was not psychics
Seems like they’re finally taking their meds to not respond in all caps