Relationship Psychology Discussions > My Story
MY ONGOING PROCESS - NOT YET OUTCOMES
Mina:
To an extent maggot husband stealing rainbow sl** has some points but not all of it per usual- and while she chooses to beat themselves up SO ITS ALL WRONG -instead of practicing compassionate mindfulness
It’s a hard to pill to swallow but stories we really like is a key feature in limerence and I admit they are kinda areas I fantasize about or make excuses. And yes sadly honest inquiry if I’m using psychics to feed that tale.
Like:
•Past lives “we had together” -can’t prove it but the story is very compelling (that this is some unresolved karma that we must suffer in this life)
•Cinderella stories- like the movie she’s all that: I’m this nerdy girl and he’s this popular jock; crazy rich Asian: I’m this poor smart girl and he’s this rich guy who stands up to his mom (I’m not saying they can’t happen but to an extent there is idealization “chick flick” film that has destitute beginning and a type of closure happy ending)
•Soul mates/twin flames- I’m sorry but you can’t prove this. And in my 20s most the psychic I did call where a hit to Hera that story of our past life
•Intense chemistry: so this one is tricky but gets easier to see with time and age. (At least my teenager self vs adult self.) These gimmicky get him back videos on YouTube like coach Lee- really helped me see that attraction does come with hormones. And they are a powerful cocktail combination of bonding. He even describes as a drug. But attraction fades and real connection is relationship byproduct- this is slow building. Most support relationship groups have tale sign of anything less than 3 months is a red flag.
So where does mindfulness compassion come in. It’s when we see our mistakes, shame, guilt and say “I see you.” You hold that pain and not it take personal. It is like talking to that child part of ourselves who is facing their parent saying their divorcing - but still having strength to love that part of ourselves anyways. Or any hard part from childhood or even recent wounds. To an extent psychic kinda try to fill that void; but it is a spiritual bypass- they seem to give us compassion with answers. Personally, I just got done with powerful inner child session with the myself and admitted how this relationship was suppose to be the why to that other relationship didn’t work out. And life is not like that. The hard lesson is facing not needing to be justified. That’s it. It isn’t personal. However, consoling my inner wound involves holding a strong boundary and love- and I think we all have a different way to approach ourselves. But how I say to myself buck up will look different for others.
Statements “if he wanted to he would” - is an answer for ppl who have cut themselves off. It not a black white and rule across every board. I remember in my friggin 30s the reason why a guy didn’t back to me was because his car got impounded for 3 months. I know how emotionally immature but things will still get a guy down: money, job, and car. He didn’t have the money he was depressed and he felt ashamed. And it wasn’t because a 3rd party.
The best thing you can do though is focus on you. Meaning don’t twist your focus on them if it loses your focus on your well being.
Also stay away from beautiful sunset IT is a hateful thing. She has told members here when family members passed away and ppl DV situation to bash their heads harder and that they deserved it. Even when the context was not psychics
Seems like they’re finally taking their meds to not respond in all caps
TA422:
--- Quote from: hopefulwife1 on November 04, 2025, 04:31:20 PM ---@beutifulsunset thank you for responding. I was thinking the something why no one was answering my question. I did ask more than once. I thought I was just imagining things.
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I can’t speak for everyone, but there’s a good chance people don’t respond to questions because they will likely get attacked. I’d say that’s why this forum is pretty much dead. I’ll drop you a message regarding what I’ve noticed with Yona.
mliva34:
I agree with you sometimes I hold back from responding and read what gets posted because I've been attacked because my experience was different from someone else.
I'll be honest I've had a fair share of disappointments from getting readings but also some things have panned out the way I was told, but just years later.
In my opinion, it's a personal decision and risk. And even if he/she took that risk and asked for assistance from people here, then we all should just be nice.
I've had numerous people message me about my experience and I've never told anyone exactly what made me slow down/stop with readings. But readers had told me that a certain job was for me.. and I stayed thinking that they were seeing something great out of me staying there. Well let's just say I ended up filing a harassment case with HR. If I can go back in time, I would've done things a lot different. However, I think that things that are meant to happen, will happen.
--- Quote from: TA422 on November 04, 2025, 06:16:40 PM ---
--- Quote from: hopefulwife1 on November 04, 2025, 04:31:20 PM ---@beutifulsunset thank you for responding. I was thinking the something why no one was answering my question. I did ask more than once. I thought I was just imagining things.
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I can’t speak for everyone, but there’s a good chance people don’t respond to questions because they will likely get attacked. I’d say that’s why this forum is pretty much dead. I’ll drop you a message regarding what I’ve noticed with Yona.
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jackY:
That's always been such an interesting topic that's come up on here through the years here-what is "meant to be" vs "we create our futures". In my experience, we have free will as sovereign beings. We are either aligned with what will lead to our meant to be's or we're not. So, ie-if you believe you're meant to have love in your life but always seek it with the wrong people because you haven't done your work in healing, self acceptance/forgiveness, forgiving others, etc., then you will always be out of reach with what is "meant for you" and your path morphs into something very different. Not bad-just different. I'd love to hear how others are thinking about this topic these days.
--- Quote from: mliva34 on November 04, 2025, 11:40:09 PM ---I agree with you sometimes I hold back from responding and read what gets posted because I've been attacked because my experience was different from someone else.
I'll be honest I've had a fair share of disappointments from getting readings but also some things have panned out the way I was told, but just years later.
In my opinion, it's a personal decision and risk. And even if he/she took that risk and asked for assistance from people here, then we all should just be nice.
I've had numerous people message me about my experience and I've never told anyone exactly what made me slow down/stop with readings. But readers had told me that a certain job was for me.. and I stayed thinking that they were seeing something great out of me staying there. Well let's just say I ended up filing a harassment case with HR. If I can go back in time, I would've done things a lot different. However, I think that things that are meant to happen, will happen.
--- Quote from: TA422 on November 04, 2025, 06:16:40 PM ---
--- Quote from: hopefulwife1 on November 04, 2025, 04:31:20 PM ---@beutifulsunset thank you for responding. I was thinking the something why no one was answering my question. I did ask more than once. I thought I was just imagining things.
--- End quote ---
I can’t speak for everyone, but there’s a good chance people don’t respond to questions because they will likely get attacked. I’d say that’s why this forum is pretty much dead. I’ll drop you a message regarding what I’ve noticed with Yona.
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gemmaasks:
This is abit off topic but it will explain why I have this belief now. Back in 2020, i got laid off due to the pandemic. I was super anxious about it. I called multiple readers to get an idea of when I will get the next full time job. One night, I had a dream that I was dating this guy Rob ( not the real name for privacy reason). In the dream, he was this cute Korean guy and that he and I work together . He was also abit standoffish too. This dream was something I remembered the next morning. I wrote it down in case maybe someone named Rob would help me get a job - a recruiter, a friend of a friend, etc. I also didnt know any Rob personally and professionally then. I got a job on my own in May 2020. Now, one of the leadership people named was Bobby so I thought it was him that i dreamt of. Rob, Bobby, Potato, potahto you know.
In 2023, I abruptly left that job due to bullying. No back up job and really, I should’ve been anxious then because this isn’t like me. On my last day of that job, a recruiter reached out to me for an intro call. i got the job offer after 2 weeks. The interview process was so smooth. It turns out the ceo of that company name is Rob! This ceo isn’t Korean but he’s cute- baby face but not in a creepy way lols. Maybe because he’s in the leadership, he’s standoffish. I had a great experience at this job even though I got laid off earlier this year. I think my angels / spirit guides wanted to tell me to chill the f out and that I was going to be ok lols
Ever since then, I’ve trusted that what’s meant for me will come around eventually. This job manifested not only years later but also in a different state! (Note: I didn’t move for this job — the relocation was a spontaneous decision I made for myself in late 2021). So, what are the odds?! Whenever I feel anxious or sad about things, I try to remember this incident (or dream). Some blessings come when you’re not chasing after them.
--- Quote from: mliva34 on November 04, 2025, 11:40:09 PM ---I agree with you sometimes I hold back from responding and read what gets posted because I've been attacked because my experience was different from someone else.
I'll be honest I've had a fair share of disappointments from getting readings but also some things have panned out the way I was told, but just years later.
In my opinion, it's a personal decision and risk. And even if he/she took that risk and asked for assistance from people here, then we all should just be nice.
I've had numerous people message me about my experience and I've never told anyone exactly what made me slow down/stop with readings. But readers had told me that a certain job was for me.. and I stayed thinking that they were seeing something great out of me staying there. Well let's just say I ended up filing a harassment case with HR. If I can go back in time, I would've done things a lot different. However, I think that things that are meant to happen, will happen.
--- Quote from: TA422 on November 04, 2025, 06:16:40 PM ---
--- Quote from: hopefulwife1 on November 04, 2025, 04:31:20 PM ---@beutifulsunset thank you for responding. I was thinking the something why no one was answering my question. I did ask more than once. I thought I was just imagining things.
--- End quote ---
I can’t speak for everyone, but there’s a good chance people don’t respond to questions because they will likely get attacked. I’d say that’s why this forum is pretty much dead. I’ll drop you a message regarding what I’ve noticed with Yona.
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