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Sincity2:
Believe the ones who said no. Honestly I heard alllll those things. All BS

Mina:

--- Quote from: Chitowngirl on July 12, 2023, 02:55:22 PM ---I've gone on binges on and off and am currently on one now. It's about a guy I have a connection with. (Tale as old as time). I go on here, see who's gotten a lot of positive feedback and see if I can catch them. Please no judgement on the binging. It's my disposable income so it is what it is, that being said, I realize it's not super healthy.

What I wanted to ask about is if any of you out there who are also asking about people you like, date, are interested in or whatever. Are you also getting this feedback?

-He likes you but it doing healing work due to past wounds/relationships
-He will come forward to you within (x) amount of time and be more consistent
-He finds you alluring and he has a magnetic attraction to you
-He guards his heart
-He's inconsistent and hot and cold with you
-He wasn't emotionally available in the past but he's working on that now

I'm seeing a LOT of the same themes and getting a lot of the same feedback and trust me when I say I've talked to a lot of these people, both men and women. I try to go to ones where I see that they'll tell you the "honest, brutal truth."

Anyway, either all of these people are correct and the man I like is easy to read OR they're telling to this to everyone who comes to them who is asking about someone that they're not necessarily in a relationship with but would like to be.

So please lmk if you've all heard the same from literally everyone out there. There have been maybe 2 people ever who were like, "Nahh, he's not interested."

Thanks!

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https://www.instagram.com/reel/CrGzhI5ABZT/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

Ugh I hate this video… the friend who sent me this were not currently talking, and that’s more then ok with me. But when she sent it I felt her judginess! So if i come off that way I’m sorry. But there’s bits of truth of it in here. (Also who vlogs on instagram account their pjs with sparkles filter trying be all spiritual … pfft lame! 🙄)

Side note: I don’t like buying into soul mates or twin flames. I was caught up in that “delusion”/overfantasying with previous a ex/SP, and made it just made it more painful and toxic.  I think the soul mate concept fantasizes the romance of unavailability which can be a form of limerence. I also don’t think all limerence is bad either. I really like  “coach lee” on YT who says limerence can be a good thing, because it drives that powerful cocktail of hormones and biology. Once limerence fades the benefited goal is a committed relationship hopefully based on values of respect, trust, etc. I know off tangent

I also don’t think manifesting someone from your ego is bad place, or cannot come in. (I’ve manifested from both ego and heart, or just, one and that’s ok too! It’s ok to manifest from your ego! And your wants and desires from your ego! Anyone who says it isn’t. Definitely check how they got to that logic) . BUT the ego is very good protecting you from feeling rejected.

And as look at all the reason of what you wrote, that you’re getting feedback as …

“He’s guarding his heart… he likes you but doing his own inner work…”

This can look like something my ego would say trying to placate my rejected feelings. … and for my wounded heart… and that’s ok too. But know the trying to placate just falls short, and I guess for me will get obsessive

My other criticism of this video is that this all just for now, and in the now… but again sneaky ego trying to help me wants to future focus me to avoid the pain. So for whatever reason the person is not calling or gave you a reason why they’re not with you now, is just in the now… doesn’t mean forever. But if you can accept the now with all the ickiness AND know you will be ok, no matter what… the said person you’re asking about will get curious.

That’s a tale as old as time too! 😉

“Be ok with yourself, be ok with what’s happening, as soon as you are ok with what’s happening, what is happening will change! “ -Bashar

Chitowngirl:
Yes, as much as I don’t want to, I agree with you.

Chitowngirl:
Thank you so much, I will definitely check out this video. I appreciate your thoughts and advice here. Love that quote too!

Frideswide:

--- Quote from: Chitowngirl on July 14, 2023, 06:06:26 AM ---Yes, as much as I don’t want to, I agree with you.

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I wouldn't believe the ones who say no either because in my experience, they have been wrong too. They are also ones who like to give tough love cliches like, "if he is not showing up for you now, it means he never will." bla bla bla

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