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Synergy:
Thank you everyone for your responses, PMs (many of which I owe responses to), and your support. 

I'd like to provide a list of the readers who said I would not be with C.  I know that many of you have said that I changed the outcome by reaching out or that this isn't over yet and he can still reconsider.  The reality is that he told me to move on.  This signifies the end.  So below are the readers who told me we would not be together.

MagicalSandra:  No romantic reconciliation; C does not want a relationship

Ness21: No romantic reconciliation

Maurine36: No romantic reconciliation; C does not want a relationship

Maureen the Messenger:  Added some nonsense about a candy bar, but she insisted that C does not want to be more than friends

carmencam: No romantic reconciliation

Life Makeover Party:  He does not want a relationship

Your Message From Above:  He is enjoying the single life and currently does not want a relationship (did see future possibility)

Esme Spenser:  The interest is still there, but he does not want to be with me

Hatter:  Said he would come forward for sex (didn't happen), BUT she did say he would not a committment

Wizardmask:  No romantic reconciliation

Shootingstar11: No romantic reconciliation

LadyAshley15: No romantic reconciliation

dianalc:  She did think we'd have an opportunity, BUT I must say that she told me back in January that C would go on our Cancun trip later in the year with a male friend.  I have confirmed that to be true. 



I am not necessarily endorsing any of these readers or claiming they're amazing.  I am saying that they were right about the fact that C does not and did not want to be with me.  I can make excuses day and night and I can try to convince myself that he will be back, but there's no point in doing that now that he has outright told me to move on.

I hope this list helps, since a few of you had asked me for it.

skyline:
I don't think it necessarily means that they were wrong for others. Though I think anyone reading Synergy's thread could see where it was headed - you didn't need to be psychic. She took the right step and faced up to things instead of calling people to tell her what she wanted to hear. And that's the take home lesson right there.

Synergy:
I don't think it was necessarily THAT obvious. Some people are waiting for men who are in other relationships or for men they haven't seen in years. C and I ended things only a few months ago and we have mutual friends who insist on the fact that he did truly have strong feelings for me. I won't judge anyone else's situations because I don't know the "ins and outs", and I would hope that no one else would think they know everything about mine. So I respectfully disagree. It wasn't clear where my situation was headed.

guesswho:
No situation in which you have to call a psychic is obvious.  So I don't think any of us can judge.  That's just my opinion.

SomethingBetter:
I concur...it wasn't obvious. Those familiar w/Synergy's story were aware they work together and had friends in common so it wasn't clear cut.

For all we know this could be a bump in the road. It's not the place of any of us to say what's "obvious" and what's not. If that were the case then most of us wouldn't be calling because our situations are "obvious" that someone walked away from us for one reason or another and should take it as such.

Sadly nothing about Syn's situation was textbook in any way. But I do commend her taking the bull by the horns and finding out what she needed to. :)

Of course this is JMHO.

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