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chrys1234:
Hi I guess i feel extremely frustrated right now and i am looking for the avenue to vent really.

I have been seeing a guy for 10 months (since April)

We started as going out and dating, we felt intense sexual chemistry.

Single dad never married, 1 kid.

It seems like he wants to come to my house every so often for sex.

Has mentioned going out but it seems something always happens.

He has said to me he is really busy at work which i have verified and i understand.

Ive also verified he is single.

He said initially he is living with parents, he once invited me over when they werent there.

Now he moved in to his newly bought place.

Ive been having readings with the major psychics in trustedpsychics.co.uk, it seems they are telling me things will change, he has no other woman and he is trying to sort out his life

I did see some min or minor change but nothing other than that.

He hasnt contacted since last Saturday that he came to my house.

I have been trying to verify with them if what they see is correct as i explain i dont see any changes really.

They say i will see it very soon and he has absolutely strong feelings for me??

This comes from every psychic with prediction come to pass feedback, Ive also tried keen and bitwine.

At this point i dont know what to do, I am at the point of giving up as i dont see the changes i was told and i dont see him doing anything in the path of more serious dating.

I just dont understand if they are lying or reall see something i dont see now????

Please help!!!

Love2lovenj:
You know what just do you.  He decided to go silent on you for a week for no reason? Well then when he does reach out make sure you don't response at the first moments notice. 

I'm really sorry you are going thru this but if he's going to be playing with you its better you find out now then once you've invested years of your life.

ferney456:
Heya,

All relationships have ups and downs but 10 months is a long time to be seeing someone and still have alot of emotional uncertainties about their intentions.

Have you tried to sit him down and have this conversation about how you feel with him rather than the psychics?

4 days without contact being in a 10 month relationship is for me a long time. Is he travelling for work or any reason he told you he wouldnt be available to at least check in?

My SO has a very busy work life so we only see each other once a week but we do talk everyday on whatsapp/call and I think when someone has feelings for you they automatically feel a pull to be in touch.

If I were you id have a open conversation with him and take it from there. It could just be that this is the level of communication hes used to and he isnt aware of your needs in a relationship.

chrys1234:
Well we have mentioned here and there we are exclusive sexually but it looks like our relationship is casual mostly.

I've been told I will see changes and I also was told to be happy when I see and hear from him but not over keen and he will want more and make more promises.

I dunno if I should follow this advice tbh, the fact is we did have a conversation back in October when he was decorating house and tried to move in etc and he explained to me the reasons why he doesn't have time for a gf at that moment.

On January it seemed a bit like something was changing and now square 1.

I don't know what I should do.

Play along and follow advice from psychics or just have a conversation with him.

I've been told not to pressure him but this can go on for another 10 months with me being frustrated

Arigirl:
I've been in this situation, my ex strung me along for almost 2 years in this same pattern. It caused me to stay in an unhealthy mental space for far too long, and made me question my self-worth.

There is someone out there who will treat you infinitely better!

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