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please help me
Sparkle002:
Hahah!
--- Quote from: Fidget1028 on December 29, 2019, 08:51:25 PM ---LOL...seriously. I have 3 (2 are adults now), and I love them all dearly, but if anyone wants a taste of being a parent, feel free to borrow mine. ;D
--- Quote from: Sparkle002 on December 29, 2019, 08:40:06 PM ---Why do ppl actually “want” kids again? Lol
--- Quote from: sexyp on December 29, 2019, 08:34:41 PM ---i agree too. having a baby is a lot of pressure for anyone let alone someone who has some other issues going on. i think it is unfair to bring a child into the mix if you are not in a good place financially and mentally.
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--- Quote from: annathechica on December 28, 2019, 05:37:07 PM ---There are strong opinions about single mothers by choce but i have dreamed of being a mom and my fertility window is closing.
i cant wait on guys any longer.
I am going to get approved for disability, also. the state offers help for babies, as well.
this REALLY is a personal choice and NOT anyone's business.
I have people in my life who will help
SERIOUSLY - I didnt ask anyones opinion on my choices of having a child. this isnt F-ing china
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Sorry but here's how it is. When you are relying on "the state" to help, you are relying on your fellow tax citizens to support your life decisions. "The state" doesn't do offer anything other than to redirect tax money from them to you.
So actually, it IS other people's business. Literally. It is money coming out of other people's pockets. This isn't a personal choice. It's a choice that impacts society at large.
China, for whatever it's worth, simply has better sense than to allow this kind of thing.
Also you say you are "going" to be approved for disability? How do you know? What if you are not approved, or you have to appeal and it takes years to get approved? What if you don't get disability unti your child is in kindergarten?
I have a disability also and a very limited income because of it. I'm still working. I am 41 and already going into menopause. I could do the same thing you are doing, but I choose not to. What kind of life would that be for a child?
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Agree with all of this. Sorry if it sounds judgmental, but you chose to put your business out there. If you can't afford to support the child yourself, maybe you shouldn't be budgeting psychic readings into the mix.
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jas:
I agree 100% with Still Tired - you took the words out of my mouth.
Here is what really irks me - I have great insurance through work but if I wanted to have fertility treatments it would be just this side of impossible to get approved. How does someone on $900 a month get approved for fertility treatments?? If I am not mistaken, the state is paying for the treatment that the rest of us would be unable to receive. So to sum it up.....the state (us) supports you, the state (us) pays for the fertility treatments AND the state (us) is going to pay not only for the birth of the child but cover all expenses for the next 18 years??
Oh, let me throw a stupid idea out.....how about getting approved to be a foster parent first and see how it goes - you actually will get paid as a foster parent.
Sparkle002:
--- Quote from: jas on December 29, 2019, 11:29:13 PM ---I agree 100% with Still Tired - you took the words out of my mouth.
Here is what really irks me - I have great insurance through work but if I wanted to have fertility treatments it would be just this side of impossible to get approved. How does someone on $900 a month get approved for fertility treatments?? If I am not mistaken, the state is paying for the treatment that the rest of us would be unable to receive. So to sum it up.....the state (us) supports you, the state (us) pays for the fertility treatments AND the state (us) is going to pay not only for the birth of the child but cover all expenses for the next 18 years??
Oh, let me throw a stupid idea out.....how about getting approved to be a foster parent first and see how it goes - you actually will get paid as a foster parent.
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WOW I thought the same thing (fostering)
Imnotsure:
--- Quote from: tshine17 on December 30, 2019, 01:56:20 AM ---This thread makes me sad. I’m a young widow with a toddler. My husband unexpectedly died before we could have more than one child. I’d LOVE to find love again and have more babies. But I know that having one by myself is really challenging at times. I don’t know if I could handle two by myself. And I have a good career and family support. I wish I could do fertility treatments but I know I’m not in a place emotionally or practically to do it. I don’t know what the point of my post is, but I think I just feel sorry for the OP’s future child. Being a single mom to an infant is really hard.
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See this thread makes me sad as well, but for opposite reasons. Instead of uplifting, supporting or putting light and love out for OP or members of this thread, I feel quite the opposite is happening on this thread.
ES1281:
--- Quote from: tshine17 on December 30, 2019, 01:56:20 AM ---This thread makes me sad. I’m a young widow with a toddler. My husband unexpectedly died before we could have more than one child. I’d LOVE to find love again and have more babies. But I know that having one by myself is really challenging at times. I don’t know if I could handle two by myself. And I have a good career and family support. I wish I could do fertility treatments but I know I’m not in a place emotionally or practically to do it. I don’t know what the point of my post is, but I think I just feel sorry for the OP’s future child. Being a single mom to an infant is really hard.
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Hug to you, I wish there will be something good comes into your life.
I feel if the single parent isn't emotionally and financially stable, it will be very challenging for both the parent and child.
In a long term.
I believe mental health comes first on a person's happiness.
So hope op will think twice to get ready for a kid.
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